When I try explain to people what it is like with a narc, people don't believe me, they just look at me and seem to say maybe it's me, but I know what you are saying is real. I now say the hell with these people and I can say I know things about narcissism that you will probably never know.
Wow! Great analogy/interpretation based on what I've observed in the actions, thoughts, feelings and outlook of the narcissist in my life!! Makes the puzzle that is this man come together in a clear picture... especially considering what his tragic early life must have been like.... life-long escapism? 😮.😢😮 Thank you.
This is my Golden Child older sister, who grew up in the competitive figure skating world. She acts as if she is the lead character on a daytime soap opera. She is exhausting and very dramatic. And, by God, you better never tell her, "No."
If the narcissists in my life believe they know everything about me, then that is all the more reason to escape from them. "Stay away from people who know everything about you."-Lao Tzu
You are really articulate and realky have depth of knowledge, you have a way of explaining complex things in a way that can be understood excellent thanks
The one thing i have been told about the narc is abandonment , it can be so destroying to them its a real fear that nobody will know or even remember them , in fact i remember some years ago there was a guy who set fire to a block of flats killing some people, it seems he did because he said the people were putting him down and stopped him becoming a famous DJ they ruined his chance of fame , so they had to pay, im not sure but he was sent to Broadmoor i think
Although they do live in fantasy they also live in reality and are well organised for overseas holidays, one is a solicitor and owns multiple apartments and also works as a solicitor, she seems to be able to make the impossible become real; the other one also works in a responsible job and is constantly visiting friends and going overseas and places in the country, they are both as mad as hatters but they are much more organised than i am, i'm always fighting depression and i do ok but i am all over the shop really but i am doing pretty ok, the depression is debilitating and i have add, i am scattered, they do not have these problems; they are obviously miserable buggers, they never laugh or smile much in my company, not that i am seeing them much, i have ghosted youngest and when she rings which is a few times a week i don't answer, i have had enough of her pulling me down at every opportunity, she is an enemy not a friend! At least I still smile and laugh, although losing my cat has cast a dark cloud around me!
Excellent video. You explain the truth of being w a narc very well. Their flying monkeys would be a video that I’d be interest in watching too. It’s shocking to me how the narcs friends follow the narc so blindly and are just as mean and unconscious.
They never take responsibility on their empaths. They are dumb on reciprocity. Their bonding is unstable and ambivalent. Instead to assess their real vis-a-vis they are habitually blind and substitute that blindness by exagerated phantasies either by overvaluing or by paraniod daemonisation. It faciltates instant discarding as well as hoovering.
My soon to be ex narc would get this weird dreamy look on his face, and with half-closed eyes would say, “do you love your husband?” (and towards the end when I would hold back my gag reflex), he would literally say “just pretend”. What a mental patient. I thought he was kidding, but now I realize he was serious. He would’ve been happy with me simply PRETENDING because it would’ve kept his crazy weird internal fantasy world going. If the women he worked with knew what was going on inside his head, they would run away screaming. 🤢
I told my narc “adult “ daughter I had to have a cancerous thymoma removed from behind my breast bone. She got angry!! And she never once called me after the recovery time when I also contracted Covid and severe bronchitis. In the winter. For 3 months. Not even a cheery phone call from her 3 young children. Nothing. No asking if I needed groceries or whatever, nothing. Actually, she gets mad when her own children or husband are sick. I’m 73 and live alone. If that isn’t evil, then nothing is.
His mere presence was a “gift” to others. He was either suspicious of others or was being admired from afar, even by people who didn’t know him. He felt people were available for his USE. ….why wouldn’t they want to be a minor player in his story.
I’m coming to realise I’m likely a “vulnerable” narcissist and all I can say is it’s a lonely and painful existence. I do care about others but if their happiness threatens mine or overtakes mine I can’t stand it. It’s exhausting and I’ll likely spend the rest of my life trying to recover/ become healthy. Much has already been lost.
Wow that's my ex husband your talking about. He even used to tell people he was probably the most important person that they were ever going to meet. He was so controlling too to the extreme. He wanted to change everything about me ,even my accent, my speech, my walk, my clothing, hair cut like a boy , ,nails cut short ,no high heels, no maycup.His excuse was he wanted me to look sophisticated and why should I cover up my beauty with maycup.
My ex was so loving. Attentive, kind. Like no one I've ever met. I was his soul mate. His life his world. He became part of my family, my young son called him dad, my ex pushed for this before it was even considered by us. Over time naturally they grew closer and my son did call him dad. That lasted a year. Then came my ex picking faults with the tiniest of things. Where I kept my furniture, or what food I had in my cupboards. To bigger things like wanting to discipline my son. Why son really is an angel, he's not a bit of bother. My ex discarded me brutally after pushing for us to get a home together, he sent me a voice note to say goodbye. He was going to open his own shop and didn't need myself or my son pulling him back. I'm floored. My son is also. Is this man a narc? I'm only just looking into this and realising what I thought was real might not have been after all. I'm very confused and have no closure. He said he will always care for me but hes moving up higher in life and wants to have a baby of his own with the right woman for him.
I live in a fantasy world too, but some of the things you mentioned about the narcissists don't apply to me. Does that make me a narcissist too? I think I'm a pretty reasonable mature person.
I think narcissism is a lot more complicated than each separate trait. We all have some narcissistic traits. It’s also very unlikely for an actual narcissist to wonder if they might be a narcissist.
This person I know always says they were with me in certain events that I was doing when they most definitely were not. Is this the same thing? They will even get mad if I say you weren't there when that was happening. Idk it just makes me think im the one going crazy.
Some people might actually have trouble remembering things correctly. I think the more troubling part of this is the fact that this person gets angry when you try to correct them instead of considering what you’re saying. Narcissist or not, I’ve personally had my fill of people like that. There are too many reasonable people I could be spending my energy on.
@Looking Behind the Mirror Thanks. Yes I guess what a kind of red flag was with me at least is that the situations they claim to have been in with me are work related and makes them appear as if they were helping me deal with certain things which made them look more involved than they actually are. Thanks for the response.
You nailed it , again!!!
When I try explain to people what it is like with a narc, people don't believe me, they just look at me and seem to say maybe it's me, but I know what you are saying is real. I now say the hell with these people and I can say I know things about narcissism that you will probably never know.
Let thoughs idiots who dont believe you find out the hard way! Live and learn from your experience that's all we can hope for
It all is The Twilight Zone 🧙♀️😳😜🥵
Don’t even try to explain
People don’t care and they will just blame it on you
You nailed it. I attract narcissists or used to, and you described them 110%.
This video was fantastic. Great insights and intelligently translayed
You deliver the cold truth
Wow! Great analogy/interpretation based on what I've observed in the actions, thoughts, feelings and outlook of the narcissist in my life!! Makes the puzzle that is this man come together in a clear picture... especially considering what his tragic early life must have been like.... life-long escapism?
😮.😢😮
Thank you.
On point! Thank you! You hit points I had not made the connection.
This is my Golden Child older sister, who grew up in the competitive figure skating world. She acts as if she is the lead character on a daytime soap opera. She is exhausting and very dramatic. And, by God, you better never tell her, "No."
If the narcissists in my life believe they know everything about me, then that is all the more reason to escape from them.
"Stay away from people who know everything about you."-Lao Tzu
You are really articulate and realky have depth of knowledge, you have a way of explaining complex things in a way that can be understood excellent thanks
Thank you! I appreciate that. 😊
Yeah, she is. I love this channel! I’m binge watching right now.😂
@@foxiefair123 I'm so glad you discovered this exceptional young women's (well, she looks really young to me!) channel. 😊
The one thing i have been told about the narc is abandonment , it can be so destroying to them its a real fear that nobody will know or even remember them , in fact i remember some years ago there was a guy who set fire to a block of flats killing some people, it seems he did because he said the people were putting him down and stopped him becoming a famous DJ they ruined his chance of fame , so they had to pay, im not sure but he was sent to Broadmoor i think
Although they do live in fantasy they also live in reality and are well organised for overseas holidays, one is a solicitor and owns multiple apartments and also works as a solicitor, she seems to be able to make the impossible become real; the other one also works in a responsible job and is constantly visiting friends and going overseas and places in the country, they are both as mad as hatters but they are much more organised than i am, i'm always fighting depression and i do ok but i am all over the shop really but i am doing pretty ok, the depression is debilitating and i have add, i am scattered, they do not have these problems; they are obviously miserable buggers, they never laugh or smile much in my company, not that i am seeing them much, i have ghosted youngest and when she rings which is a few times a week i don't answer, i have had enough of her pulling me down at every opportunity, she is an enemy not a friend! At least I still smile and laugh, although losing my cat has cast a dark cloud around me!
That’s how kids are.
If they can’t make the rules, they won’t play the game. They lead….we follow
you can't trust peasants w such responsibilities 🙉
You described my father-in-law perfectly
Amazing analysis 🤪
Excellent video. You explain the truth of being w a narc very well. Their flying monkeys would be a video that I’d be interest in watching too. It’s shocking to me how the narcs friends follow the narc so blindly and are just as mean and unconscious.
I love your videos
Thank you. 😊
I failed for her fantasy and ended up ruined and alone.
If you are not a professional then how is everything is spot on♥️♥️♥️👍👍👍
They never take responsibility on their empaths. They are dumb on reciprocity. Their bonding is unstable and ambivalent. Instead to assess their real vis-a-vis they are habitually blind and substitute that blindness by exagerated phantasies either by overvaluing or by paraniod daemonisation. It faciltates instant discarding as well as hoovering.
Perfectly worded!
They should be institutionalized, sorry but I honestly believe they should!
I have a feeling there would be a lot of violence in a place like that.😂
My soon to be ex narc would get this weird dreamy look on his face, and with half-closed eyes would say, “do you love your husband?” (and towards the end when I would hold back my gag reflex), he would literally say “just pretend”. What a mental patient. I thought he was kidding, but now I realize he was serious. He would’ve been happy with me simply PRETENDING because it would’ve kept his crazy weird internal fantasy world going. If the women he worked with knew what was going on inside his head, they would run away screaming. 🤢
I told my narc “adult “ daughter I had to have a cancerous thymoma removed from behind my breast bone. She got angry!! And she never once called me after the recovery time when I also contracted Covid and severe bronchitis. In the winter. For 3 months. Not even a cheery phone call from her 3 young children. Nothing. No asking if I needed groceries or whatever, nothing. Actually, she gets mad when her own children or husband are sick. I’m 73 and live alone. If that isn’t evil, then nothing is.
I wish I’d found you 28 years ago. What a bummer to waste half of my life on such a vacuous nothing zero.
His mere presence was a “gift” to others. He was either suspicious of others or was being admired from afar, even by people who didn’t know him. He felt people were available for his USE. ….why wouldn’t they want to be a minor player in his story.
I’m coming to realise I’m likely a “vulnerable” narcissist and all I can say is it’s a lonely and painful existence. I do care about others but if their happiness threatens mine or overtakes mine I can’t stand it. It’s exhausting and I’ll likely spend the rest of my life trying to recover/ become healthy. Much has already been lost.
Self improvement never ends, but every step is rewarding and empowering.
Refreshing ... A narcissist KNOWING that no one can fix their damage and they are destined to be alone.
100 percent correct I am a narcissist and they are sick😮.
This is my sister.. this is so sad. Omg 😞😞
Wow that's my ex husband your talking about. He even used to tell people he was probably the most important person that they were ever going to meet. He was so controlling too to the extreme. He wanted to change everything about me ,even my accent, my speech, my walk, my clothing, hair cut like a boy , ,nails cut short ,no high heels, no maycup.His excuse was he wanted me to look sophisticated and why should I cover up my beauty with maycup.
Strait jacket material....
My ex was so loving. Attentive, kind. Like no one I've ever met. I was his soul mate. His life his world. He became part of my family, my young son called him dad, my ex pushed for this before it was even considered by us. Over time naturally they grew closer and my son did call him dad. That lasted a year. Then came my ex picking faults with the tiniest of things. Where I kept my furniture, or what food I had in my cupboards. To bigger things like wanting to discipline my son. Why son really is an angel, he's not a bit of bother. My ex discarded me brutally after pushing for us to get a home together, he sent me a voice note to say goodbye. He was going to open his own shop and didn't need myself or my son pulling him back. I'm floored. My son is also. Is this man a narc? I'm only just looking into this and realising what I thought was real might not have been after all. I'm very confused and have no closure. He said he will always care for me but hes moving up higher in life and wants to have a baby of his own with the right woman for him.
This is my neighbor whos 43 and truly expects to be rich overnight through NFTs 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 this is good content
Paranoia overload........
I live in a fantasy world too, but some of the things you mentioned about the narcissists don't apply to me. Does that make me a narcissist too? I think I'm a pretty reasonable mature person.
I think narcissism is a lot more complicated than each separate trait. We all have some narcissistic traits. It’s also very unlikely for an actual narcissist to wonder if they might be a narcissist.
You are very articulate and I love your videos
Thank you!
You know the difference between reality and fantasy. Narcissist don’t.
Magical thinking can affect all of us. It’s terribly debilitating in the long term. It may be a trauma response.
This person I know always says they were with me in certain events that I was doing when they most definitely were not. Is this the same thing? They will even get mad if I say you weren't there when that was happening. Idk it just makes me think im the one going crazy.
Some people might actually have trouble remembering things correctly. I think the more troubling part of this is the fact that this person gets angry when you try to correct them instead of considering what you’re saying. Narcissist or not, I’ve personally had my fill of people like that. There are too many reasonable people I could be spending my energy on.
@Looking Behind the Mirror Thanks. Yes I guess what a kind of red flag was with me at least is that the situations they claim to have been in with me are work related and makes them appear as if they were helping me deal with certain things which made them look more involved than they actually are. Thanks for the response.
I like cats
Do you have one on triangulation?
Yes I do. “Don’t fall for triangulation”. I think I released it in late July of this year.
They have the "GOD" complex.....
Can you be more specific? This is a lot of generality that could be applied to anybody or everybody.
If you gotta ask…
Well, apparently, every single person you know is a narcissist. 😕