Yes totally! I def relate to this. I also felt embarrassed about it. I think my limerence was connected to a need for more emotional support that I felt I never really had enough of at home. Never thought about it being also connected to autism but now that I think about it, my partner has wondered if we may be both on the spectrum. Thanks for sharing Sadie❤
Thank you for this honest, vulnerable and insightful video. I am very likely autistic (not diagnosed) and I had a lot of strong limerence in my early to mid teens and probably still have some parasocial relationships, of which I feel they resemble a bit an imaginary friendship, although I was lucky and some of them actually turned into genuine two-sided connections. We genuinely seem to have a lot in common and they seem to like me back, which is such a surprising gift, as I was so used to getting rejected as a teen and not prepared for this to happen in my 30s. And what is the best about it with actual connections is that they can be so much better than the imagined version, as the person maybe even notices aspects of your inner gem-personality (love this analogy of yours!) of which you were not even so much aware yourself and you feel so much more seen than you would have ever believed to be possible. And ideally the other person feels the same about you seeing them for who they really are. I hope this has happened or will happen to you, everybody deserves to be seen.
I love this!! I’ve never had a parasocial relationship turn two sided not yet anyway.. but yes it’s so amazing to be truly seen by someone on the outside of yourself. I think people can go insane without that aspect of social connection.
12:00 im not capable of creating/having real life relationships like that either and also sometimes rely on imagined said relationship like that as well. i create short storys in place of such things. also, i too had a very strong limerence/platonic relationship with a 49 year old woman (im a woman too) when i was 23 years old. and being a lesbian, i wanted to be more than friends with her but she was straight and married to a man. i ruined the relationship which has been severed for over 10 years now. and yes, even though ive gotten over it, i still think of her from time to time. the connection that her and i had was so strong that it is borderline inexplicable to describe. thank you for this comprehensive insight on limerence and what it is. thank you.❤
I was the same. Very much like your experience but I am twice your age. Honestly I thought everyone did this. I had so many silent crushes but so so deep and alive. You expressed this so well, thank you.
Needed to hear this....I relate very much. I don't know if I am autistic or not, I go back and forth between thinking I might be or not, but regardless limerence has been a big and painful part of my life. I am learning slowly, day by day, to accept it as a part of myself. Growing up with social anxiety and in a traumatic family, I felt invisible so my imaginary relationships have been a refuge. I am learning to overcome it, though....all in good time
Sadie, off topic.. But just watched your perfume unboxing video.. I soooo wish you could have tried the old version of Body shop's satsuma, it was to die for.. Unfortunately they have reformulated it now.
Oh damn!! I think it might have been too sweet for my skin chemistry though, even the grapefruit one sweetened up so much on me! It’s really nice I like it a lot!
this is 100% me. i doubt i am autistic BUT it is a spectrum so maybe i am on there somehow. it's definitely true that limerence comes from an inner unfulfilled need in childhood. my most recent case (lol) actually did send mixed signals, which makes this one the most intense i've ever had and believe me, i had thought i had reached the top already in the past. now you say one should NEVER tell that someone, but i do feel having clarity would help come down from it faster.
I was the same. Very much like your experience but I am twice your age. Honestly I thought everyone did this. I had so many silent crushes but so so deep and alive.
I've never experienced that, but it is interesting to hear this part of your life. Yeah, I had teacher crush, but crushes are pretty regular things young girls and boys have. My first crush was a next-door neighbor my own age, and I was already aware I was a lesbian, but I wasn't sexual yet for a very long time. lol The process of being our true selves is probably the real meaning of life, at least it has to be a major part of it. We are all hidden gems but there are many kinds of hidden gems and we are all way more powerful than we know. P.S. I have a question. Is limerence only connected to Autism. I believe I have some autism but I've never been professionally diagnosed. I've never experienced limerence but I have had crushes but they weren't all consuming. However, the be completely honest, I'm not typical person nor have I had typical life, or at least what I think is typical life. I've isolated almost all of my life to a lesser or greater degree depending on many circumstances.
Hey Sadie! Idk if you'll see this or not, but I have a question a little unrelated to the video topic, but still on the subject of autism/masking. I was wondering if you still feel the need to mask around P, after being together for so long? Or do you feel like you can be completely yourself around her? I'm curious because I'm married (3 years this month to my best friend), and while I do feel like I can be completely myself around him, I also feel like sometimes I end up masking unconsciously because it's something I've done my whole life. Just wanted to know if you relate to this experience? 😄
Honestly she was one of the big reasons that I was able to unmask or feel safe enough to stop masking in the first place! So she was there with me through that whole process and helping by just being her awesome, non-judgemental self. I don’t think i’ve ever felt this comfortable to be myself with anyone else in my life (apart from childhood maybe?) hope that answers your question! 😊
Yes totally! I def relate to this. I also felt embarrassed about it. I think my limerence was connected to a need for more emotional support that I felt I never really had enough of at home. Never thought about it being also connected to autism but now that I think about it, my partner has wondered if we may be both on the spectrum. Thanks for sharing Sadie❤
Yes totally! I def relate to this. I also felt embarrassed about it. I think my limerence was connected to a need for more emotional support that I felt I never really had enough of at home. Never thought about it being also connected to autism but now that I think about it, my partner has wondered if we may be both on the spectrum. Thanks for sharing Sadie❤
Thank you for this honest, vulnerable and insightful video. I am very likely autistic (not diagnosed) and I had a lot of strong limerence in my early to mid teens and probably still have some parasocial relationships, of which I feel they resemble a bit an imaginary friendship, although I was lucky and some of them actually turned into genuine two-sided connections. We genuinely seem to have a lot in common and they seem to like me back, which is such a surprising gift, as I was so used to getting rejected as a teen and not prepared for this to happen in my 30s. And what is the best about it with actual connections is that they can be so much better than the imagined version, as the person maybe even notices aspects of your inner gem-personality (love this analogy of yours!) of which you were not even so much aware yourself and you feel so much more seen than you would have ever believed to be possible. And ideally the other person feels the same about you seeing them for who they really are. I hope this has happened or will happen to you, everybody deserves to be seen.
I love this!! I’ve never had a parasocial relationship turn two sided not yet anyway.. but yes it’s so amazing to be truly seen by someone on the outside of yourself. I think people can go insane without that aspect of social connection.
12:00 im not capable of creating/having real life relationships like that either and also sometimes rely on imagined said relationship like that as well. i create short storys in place of such things. also, i too had a very strong limerence/platonic relationship with a 49 year old woman (im a woman too) when i was 23 years old. and being a lesbian, i wanted to be more than friends with her but she was straight and married to a man. i ruined the relationship which has been severed for over 10 years now. and yes, even though ive gotten over it, i still think of her from time to time. the connection that her and i had was so strong that it is borderline inexplicable to describe. thank you for this comprehensive insight on limerence and what it is. thank you.❤
Wow it’s so crazy how similar we are!
You are precious Sadie ✨ We see you.
I was the same. Very much like your experience but I am twice your age. Honestly I thought everyone did this.
I had so many silent crushes but so so deep and alive.
You expressed this so well, thank you.
Needed to hear this....I relate very much. I don't know if I am autistic or not, I go back and forth between thinking I might be or not, but regardless limerence has been a big and painful part of my life. I am learning slowly, day by day, to accept it as a part of myself. Growing up with social anxiety and in a traumatic family, I felt invisible so my imaginary relationships have been a refuge. I am learning to overcome it, though....all in good time
You're amazing Sadie 💖
Sadie, off topic.. But just watched your perfume unboxing video.. I soooo wish you could have tried the old version of Body shop's satsuma, it was to die for.. Unfortunately they have reformulated it now.
Oh damn!! I think it might have been too sweet for my skin chemistry though, even the grapefruit one sweetened up so much on me! It’s really nice I like it a lot!
this is 100% me. i doubt i am autistic BUT it is a spectrum so maybe i am on there somehow. it's definitely true that limerence comes from an inner unfulfilled need in childhood. my most recent case (lol) actually did send mixed signals, which makes this one the most intense i've ever had and believe me, i had thought i had reached the top already in the past. now you say one should NEVER tell that someone, but i do feel having clarity would help come down from it faster.
I guess sometimes clarity is needed yes!
I was the same. Very much like your experience but I am twice your age. Honestly I thought everyone did this.
I had so many silent crushes but so so deep and alive.
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I've never experienced that, but it is interesting to hear this part of your life. Yeah, I had teacher crush, but crushes are pretty regular things young girls and boys have. My first crush was a next-door neighbor my own age, and I was already aware I was a lesbian, but I wasn't sexual yet for a very long time. lol The process of being our true selves is probably the real meaning of life, at least it has to be a major part of it. We are all hidden gems but there are many kinds of hidden gems and we are all way more powerful than we know. P.S. I have a question. Is limerence only connected to Autism. I believe I have some autism but I've never been professionally diagnosed. I've never experienced limerence but I have had crushes but they weren't all consuming. However, the be completely honest, I'm not typical person nor have I had typical life, or at least what I think is typical life. I've isolated almost all of my life to a lesser or greater degree depending on many circumstances.
No limerence is something anyone can experience. I just noticed a link between autism and wanted to share that angle.
limerence have me go so bad!!
Hey Sadie! Idk if you'll see this or not, but I have a question a little unrelated to the video topic, but still on the subject of autism/masking. I was wondering if you still feel the need to mask around P, after being together for so long? Or do you feel like you can be completely yourself around her? I'm curious because I'm married (3 years this month to my best friend), and while I do feel like I can be completely myself around him, I also feel like sometimes I end up masking unconsciously because it's something I've done my whole life. Just wanted to know if you relate to this experience? 😄
Honestly she was one of the big reasons that I was able to unmask or feel safe enough to stop masking in the first place! So she was there with me through that whole process and helping by just being her awesome, non-judgemental self. I don’t think i’ve ever felt this comfortable to be myself with anyone else in my life (apart from childhood maybe?) hope that answers your question! 😊
Yes totally! I def relate to this. I also felt embarrassed about it. I think my limerence was connected to a need for more emotional support that I felt I never really had enough of at home. Never thought about it being also connected to autism but now that I think about it, my partner has wondered if we may be both on the spectrum. Thanks for sharing Sadie❤