Holding Kids HOSTAGE To Spite The Dad. It Gets Worse....
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The fact she’s throwing around she’s the “custodial parent” as if that means he can’t take care of his own children is insane.
The same folks that say men need to do better are the first to claim men have zero say in their kids lives the second they don't get their fairy tale ending.
Being a custodial parent is not custody. That's a child support determination. Custody is a separate entity.
@@mustent5713 exactly. I’m a non custodial parent. Parenting time, decision making etc is 50/50. I wish my bm would try to pull some trash shit like this.
@Kitty Silverlake Going to the barbershop with my dad as a child is some of the fondest memories I had. Those haircuts look fresh.
If it was something like him getting their ears pierced or something permanent, I would be like okay, I can kinda see your point. But my mom never once told my dad that he had to consult with her over my damn hair.
Stuff like this is bizarre to me. My parents HATED each other even before they even got divorced, and my mom never did shit like this. If anything she encouraged me to fix my relationship with my dad when we had issues after I graduated high school. People need to GROW UP
I like how when their father tells the boys not to play with their trains on his car, the mother tells them "don't let him take your toys...you can do what you want". She'll continue that attitude throughout their life and when they hit puberty and become monsters, she'll then play victim; expecting their father to step in to discipline them. And this type of "toxicity"/abuse never gets discussed in the mainstream.
What goes around... comes around. Sad to see it.
They create toxic guys for the next women to deal with they don’t care
Straight facts right here. Single mothers are a poison to society and it will only continue to worsen
That line "don't let him take your toys... *you can do what you want* " right there is what leads to BM raised by mothers like that to be killed by cops.
You can tell she hates that man, and is making it a point to put him down. When my parents divorced, the first thing my Mom did the last few weeks in the house was only refer to my Dad as "derb"
She'd be all
"Hi, DRB! HOW you doin DRB?! Do you know what that stands for? DIRTY ROTTEN BASTARD! Because you're a dirty rotten bastard for leaving us. How does it feel to be a dirty rotten bastard"
And after the divorce, when my sis and I still spent time with him, she'd always go "WOW, and you still like spending time with him? You're ok with being abandoned? ok. Must be nice to abandon your family and still have your kids"
And stuff like that. So petty and spiteful. We weren't ever allowed to sleep over, even though he always had an apartment with a guest room and a bed. We were grilled everytime we came home from spending time with him. What did we say, what did he say, etc.
And the sad thing too was, after the divorce, it was actually the best time my sis and I had with my Dad. Because he was making time for us, taking us to the park, to movies, spending time just talking. And my Mom just pissed all over that everytime. Coming home was so demoralizing.
Its sad when parents make it all about themselves, it just ends up punishing the children.
She goes around telling everyone that he abandoned the children even though he's right there.
You can't make this Sh*t Up, until deal with it first hand or witness on video most people don't care about a mans struggle.
He had most likely just spent a day with them 😅
@@frostnova2144 Because that out of shape She Devil wants to keep them away...another BW terriorst ruining her children.
@@frostnova2144 All the court would allow certain amount of time most likely. Plus he doesn't live with the mother what else is he supposed to do? Pull a Kanye?
@@frostnova2144 Do you have evidence to prove this claim, because considering her said he would cut their hair next time if they needed it cut then he doesn't have the type of mentality where he would have only spent one day with them.
As a mother I'm repulsed. This father deserves full custody
I agree
Yessir
had me in the first half 🤣🤣 im relieved
@@taynitram the first half? Lol she was on the dad's side from the beginning
@@przvany7213he saw “as a woman” and instantly got defensive 💀
As a child of divorce, there’s nothing more vindictive than a parent who feels wronged. They can get petty as fuck real quick.
@SOUL SEEKER for real im talking from experience as well its just as toxic.
Yea my mom felt wronged made my life hell.
@@anjel130 for real saying your just like your father like if thats an insult LOL.
@@dr.phylisphical9294 on God. I'd rather be like my father.
That prepared me for the world though now i see manipulation from a mile away ive seen it from men and women and i see ego and evil in people as well so i stay away and keep myself protected from these emotional manipulators and haters.
My mother kidnapped me at 2 years old and didnt tell my dad she fled to the U.S, At 27 I met my father a decent kind wise man and yet even now at 32 years old my mom is so arrogant prideful and vindictive I dont have any communication with her plus I get anxiety and my hands sweat when I talk to her she is very manipulative but anyway yea this type of behaviour is super cringe thank god I came across Stoicism and its helped me a ton to change my perspective on life plus on how to handle difficult people one example being toxic people lol
This happened to this one guy I knew when I lived in Mexico. The mom took the kid and went to the US, and at the time, there was no extradition for women who kidnap their kids from their fathers. That kid is now 60 years old, living in Mexico, but does not speak a word of Spanish.
Sheeesh. That's unfortunate. sorry to hear that brotha.
You story is tragic but I'm happy that you found a philosophy that is helping you make it through. You're story is an encouragement to many here
I hope my daughter finds me someday. Was there till 2 years. Went to korea.
Im sorry you went thru that
Real talk tho
You should DDT her
It’s wild how willing she is to turn her children against their own father just to assert her dominance
That's hitting below the belt. No one gets to influence the relationship a kid has with their parent
That's called being a woman, and they shouldn't have the leverage or ability to hold anything over your head , cause they will .
My mom did the same thing to me but it backfired hard on her. She'll get hers one day when the kids get older an find out
Or how she put them behind the car bitch if you want to put yourself behind the car do it but putting your kids there shows where your priorities really are.
@@boodrowwilson1894 i get it, but talking like u r here is harmful...
The Mom is nuts, that's where the crazy daughter got it from. Insanity runs in that family.
Insanity IS that family.
I suppose it's time to add this to the list of things we refer to as generational curses...
Its called generational trauma. It only stops when somebody heals themselves from trauma before they make children. If you don't do that you are likely or often garuanteed to give your problems and shortcoming onto your child. You are unhealthy as a person? you are unhealthy as a parent. You have an unhealthy parent? you become a unhealthy person. Thats how it go's, over and over again, for hundreds of years, one generation to the next, until somebody recognizes they have trauma and fixes it.
I can say without any doubt these kids will be traumatized by their childhood. Literally the moment in the video itself is already one trauma.
What a terrible and poor excuse for a mother. I don’t care why she hates him this much. To be putting her kids through this unnecessary trauma is sick.
Dad knew this was going to be a thing. They have not one but two children together so he knew her for at least 18 months. He's a toxic b@$tard too
@@q.t.gamingfamily I'd like to see you keep that same energy for all the single mothers with 3 bastards, from the same deadbeat.
Yes it is unnecessary. I feel sorry for those kids
@@q.t.gamingfamily wrong
@@q.t.gamingfamily Why do you have to find a way to blame the man? I doubt she was behaving like this prior to the divorce. Her behaviour has nothing to do with him. She is a bitter woman that is willing to go to any lengths to hurt her ex, even if it destroys their children in the process.
As a dad that has LITERALLY gone through this and have his kid full time now I make it my business to help any dad win cases for custody no matter haw bad the situation
I'm so sorry you have to go through that. It's so sad it make good mothers angry when GIRLS like this act this way. Stay encouraged.
👏👏👏 Keep winning the fight!
I'm sorry you had to go through that BS.
This is why men end up hating women. Then we get called the crazy ones.
King shit
God Bless the OP
Her: when you abandoned them
Him: *I left you*
Fr I'm so tired of women like this trying to make it seem as though them and the child are a package deal. Traumatizing their kids just to spite their ex, as if having a father isn't an essential part of a child's life. It's actually heart breaking to watch.
As a woman who doesn't have children I'm embarrassed of that evil witch.🤦♀️
It's an emotional response. That's why children should be raised by both male and female energies to balance that.
@@harrisindustries314 I agree. I'm glad I was raised by both.
Totally heart breaking
There's a decent chance that the dude would have been happy to take custody as well, however most dudes when threatened with being dragged through the courts to fight a losing custody battle will just give in and save themselves the trouble and their kids the trauma.
This is the reason he left her. She is a shameless monster. Children aren’t bargaining chips for control or affection.
A Go fund me needs to be set up for this dude so he can rescue those kids.
“I cut their hair”
“Don’t give my children haircuts”
“I’ll do it again”
I support this father
Is that a threat🙈
Likewise
“Ill fucking do it again.”
Every child deserves a parent, not every parent deserves a child
Say it louder for the people in the back
FACTS!!!
EVERY CHILD DESERVES A PARENT, NOT EVERY PARENT DESERVES A CHILD!!!
No one deserves a child. Having children is selfish. I’m not necessarily saying it’s wrong,as a lot of people dream of being parents, however, you are essentially bringing someone to the world because YOU are lonely, YOU want to meet societies expectations, YOU forgot to use birth control, YOU don’t want your partner to leave you. The reasons go on.
@@seaofroses8888 ur actually off a bit there. There are people who have children because they wanted to have children as uve stated. There is a such thing as planned childhood. There are families that actively choose to bring the next of kin into this world. So not every human being is selfish just because They want to have kids. Now if ur talking about the selfish ones that use the court system, then yes they are. But that's not everyone. There are People that just want to raise and teach lineage. That's a real thing.
I knew the “he’s putting his hands on me” card was going to get played. This is right out of the “butt hurt ex” playbook. My ex tried to have me arrested for taking my kids camping.
Exactly. And she wonders why he was filming smh. The man has to protect himself
"HELP! HELP!!!" "Are you hurting me?"
- she's a complete lunatic. So is her mother.
Camping? Holy shit that's insane
@@BlankoOnTheBeat yeah, she claimed the camp fire put the kids in direct physical danger
@@drewhelean1752 that's just mental, sorry you had to go through that bs.
"EVER SINCE YOU ABANDONED THEM"
We know what she's telling these kids. Having had a mother like this, I know exactly what's happening here.
Sad part is the kids are going to take a lot of damage before they figure who their mother really is.
The mother is pure evil and she’s traumatising her children by using them as a weapon against their father. The kids are whining and crying, calling “daddy!”. It’s heartbreaking. She doesn’t care that he cut the little boys’ hair, she’s just using it against the father. The father needs to go to court and get his kids ASAP! I’m grateful this man filmed this to protect himself.
At that age the hair grows back in 3 weeks
Yes 🙏 thank you. I can't believe there are women taking up for her and her mom on this!!! This is disgusting behavior
@@imsonotnice7669 For real... The hair cut wasn't even an issue. LETS SAY DEVILS ADVOCATE HERE. It was a major issue... Health issue at that.... It'll regrow very soon...
The sentences she was using are sentences that are commonly used by people who have narcisstic personality disorder(that is a serious mental illness and about 20-30% of the human population has it).
Stay away from people like her.
These two broads here is why the courts should not just give women the rights of custodial parent just because she the woman. They are clearly hurt women and every man is like the enemy now the kids become weapons to use against the father clearlllllly a court should step in after this video and reward full custody to the father why shouldn't it? She displays a clear danger to her kids by not being in her right mlnd.
Shame on any parent that uses their children as leverage. This should be considered child abuse.
People like her shouldnt be allowed to have kids in the first place.
Hm.
@@MrSub132 I completely fucking agree. You should have to take a test and become certified to be allowed to have kids. We have too many people on this earth anyway and limited resources we don't need more people. GARBAGE people creating more garbage people. WE ARE WASTE
She just mad that they didn’t work out and just bitter smh 🤦🏾♂️ man watch you have these children by cause that sounds like a lifetime of hell on earth 🌍 not just one but 2 of them
@@mauricebolanos4024 It's scary to give someone the power to decide who can reproduce. But it would be nice if there was an objective standard that couldn't be corrupted by someone with selfish or genocidal intentions.
My daughter's mother was just like that. Did everything possible to alienate me from her. Had everybody, including her family, on our toes holding the kid as a token. Got whatever time I could with the kid and bit my tongue scared that she would do something crazy and end up not seeing my daughter at all. 18 years of tolerating this abuse and last week my daughter ran away from her... because of HER actions towards my baby. Have given the kid all support and love that wanted to give her all this time and found out the bi@tch spent the last 18 years speaking ill of me to the point my daughter thought I didn't wanted to take care of her. Now I'm the one she's talking to and not her mom. We have a stronger bond than ever expected and are helping each other heal the wounds and trauma her mother festered on both of us all of these years. If anyone is going thru the same right now, just keep loving your children, stay close, don't grow cold.... it will come a time when everything is known.
Like another comment stated correctly. Those insane women need to think this through. Your setting yourself up to get alienated by your child and you will die bitter and alone.
This is why im moving to Eastern Europe when all the war is over.
Police and society there know a womans tricks.
There are better quality women there as well I used to date an amazing Russian girl.
Sick of this dying western culture filled with entitled women and beta men.
@@saddamthebazaarcharlatan1183 They don't care. they care about the almost 20 years of money and power.
Respect for sticking it out.... A lot of people would have walked
Same thing happened to me but I was the kid my mom kept me from my dad for 7 years and always bad mouthed him now I resent her and mainly talk to my dad.i don't reach out to her anymore I'm not trying to get guilt tripped for living my life.
This whole interaction had my blood BOILING. Women like this make ALL of us look bad.
Agreed. And yet society demonize and blame men.
When a man chooses to walk away from this type of BS he’s called a dead beat. The only reason she can do what she does is because he cares. The reason more men aren’t in their kids lives is because it would include dealing with a woman like this.
if this ever happened to me id go unemotional and cold and explain that im not a dead beat or abandonment or giving up on the children
but the problem is the women that i have to deal with is why i gave up
they are too much to handle and too tedious to take care for
again if this ever happened to me its because the mother is this toxic
its because the mother is using the child as a wall
its because the mother is using the child in court as the reason to get me arrested
thus i do not ever want to deal with her annoying voice trying to break me down psychologically and emotionally
im cold
hard
emotionless
because of these women
and the more these women continue is the reason why i grow cold hard and emotionless
again its because of them i become COLD and unreasonable and unforgiving to these vindictive mothers
We don't know if she was always this way or if she is this way because of something he did...
@@r.walker7986 FOH theres 0 excusing her behaving like a disgruntled child. She's unfit.
@@r.walker7986 SHE has control over HER actions REGARDLESS of what was done to her. nothing but excuses. she is accountable for HER actions. no ONE can make YOU act like anything. YOU CHOOSE how you ACT everyday ALL DAY
@@r.walker7986 LOL would you tell this if a man doing this or would you call him hurt and out of line without giving him this kind of heartwarming support for his toxicity?!
The fact that the dad is recording this whole thing and they still feel comfortable not only acting like this but also screaming for help trying to get him arrested. I truly hope he uses this to get full custody.
Yea, that right there shows how little respect they have for him, and how much they feel the courts will back them.
He should have immediately call his lawyer and presented the video. I mean this whole situation was escalated by the mother and the grandmother.
It is unlikely that he or any man get full custody of children. The laws are designed to destroy families and men with the help of women. This woman knows that the police will not hesitate to kill this man on the spot, at her command and in front of her kids to make a point and play the victim. These are empowered women today.
I think he did called his lawyer.
I hope so to
This is why some men don't even try to get their kids and just give up because the government backs up jaded women like this.
And they continue to preach men are privileged I’m glad social media gets to expose them
The man is jaded. The women are insane.
They don't listen. Or men who go MGTOW. Women will never care about men's struggle that is a fact. He records this because he has to go to hell for the system to recognize a woman being wrong. And even after this video probably it's still hard.
@@UnitedPacci she’ll get the benefit of the doubt
@@UnitedPacci The video is not for the courts.... we know they don't give AF about men's issues. It's for his sons when they get older...
I’m just over 12 years without seeing my son. I went through two different lawyers and spent over $40,000 fighting for a year before she won. She also won her lawyers fees which was $60,000. My whole argument was she intended to alienate me from him by relocating and then denying access. From the stress and emotional damage I ended up losing my job.
Luckily after almost a decade of just avoiding relationship I’ve found someone and have started a family again. It’s been great being home and seeing my kid daily and being a parent helping them grow.
I hope you can reconnect with your son and develop something at some point, whenever it is
I hope this video would motivate the judge and jury to give the dad custody.
It won't. They will be on her side. Talking nonsense. Saying that he didn't ask for permission, and he kept taking the toys away from the kid making them cry. And the way he treated the grandmother. And ask questions about the car seat in the front and all the other stuff. They will do everything in their power to continue soaking the money out of the man's pockets
@@aguythatsrandom I agree 9/10 the judge rule in the mother favorite and that how many kids end up with bad mother and how many kids was killed by the bad mother or their bf cause the judge gave the mother full custody and I remember watch a video of a judge said he don't like send women to prison and would give them less time and it rare find a good equal judge
@@SoldierSpiderx Exactly how my little cousin was killed. They gave the mother full custody. She ended up killing my little cousin and putting her in the deep freezer for 2 years. Her and one of her brothers (I wasn’t related to him).
@@fuhk 2 YEARS oh fuck how horrible
@@fuhk What the actual hell? Is there is news story on this?
This Father has iron patience . I was really surprise at how calm he stayed and tried to even parent the kids while dealing with volleys of venom being spat at him by these horrible people. He did lose it at the end a bit, but it wasn't even that bad. That old bag earned those roasts.
Actually think of the damn kids when you has kids!
Diamond patience bro bro. That was wild.
He's raising 3 kids. Tolerating two more is no big deal.
@@DC... 😂😂. Dem some f@$^@^ up kids🤣🤦🏿♂️
He’s really calm. When the mother in law was walking over to him, I don’t know how he didn’t smack the shit out of her
That wasn't the first time something like that happened to him with these women
"I wish I I did, I wouldn't have married her ass"
This man has many regrets, but the way he handled it was pretty solid and not emotional. Most people wouldn't be thay calm
Yeah great restraint !! My that dude is made of steal!!
even while in a serious situation he still has a sense of comedy
Agreed. I was like dang this guy is patient. I'd give him custody in a minute.
Nigga shut up. I would've made her ugly for life and got locked up. I swear.
i really hope people start being careful who they have kids with one day
Same
I have. I had a physically abusive ex. She would physically assault me and almost got us killed on the highway punching me on the side of the head while I was driving. I broke everything off with her at the end of 2010. I shortly dated about 5 women in 2011, and then I just stopped dating. The movie called woman is not worth the price of admission.
This woman's behavior is very embarrassing to me as a woman. These are the kind of women who make us look stupid, manipulative, and crazy. Thanks a lot! 🙄🙄🙄
How does another woman represent you and or other black women? She doesn't represent me, that is her behavior not mine.
@@MegaSlimgoody1 I get what u saying but c'mon u know what she meant 😂
@@jeannettesneed ppl love to argue even when they are in agreement lol
@Ruffled Feathers You're the type of woman she talking about hahahaha nice
@@jeannettesneed I don't assume, her words were clear.
This is such a trigger for me. I was raised in a place where my dad was always in and out of the picture, but my mother NEVER STOOD IN THE MIDDLE OF MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAD. Instead she fought hard for my dad to be a part of my life and for us to always have a good relationship. She’s always told me “what ever happens between adults is only between the adults, never involve the children.” Seeing this abusive behavior is so disgusting and hurtful. These kids don’t deserve to witness nor to be apart of any of this.
This is exactly my situation! I only found out all of the bad things about my father in adulthood and I deeply appreciate my mother for letting me see those things on my own and to this day I have a better relationship that's with dad than I would otherwise even though I see thw flaws and bad
My mom tried the same thing however my father didn’t care about anything else but himself.
I cut that thing out of my life as soon as I could. Sometimes I just ask myself, she could have picked anyone to have a child with and not only she picked the worse out of the worse she also pushed hard for us to have a relationship resulting in me being fucked up by the man.
My mother got a really good job after college in a neighboring state but my dad didn’t want to move away from his family so they never got married. My mother NEVER said a bad word about me and my twin sister’s dad. She would drive for hours to take us to see him and she never took him to court. I grew up knowing that my dad is a very kind and patient person because our mom made sure of it.
So glad she did that. What’s with woman now not wanting the kids fathers to be apart of the kids lives??
@@TheNerdistheWord It's because some use them as a token to hold over the father, some are scared about or focused on them being a bad partner that they think they'll be a bad father and think that means they should lose their parental rights and some actually know the fathers are toxic and are trying to protect their kids but knowing the situation is important before judging the mom
I remember watching a TikTok video of a mother cutting off her daughters braids because the dad got it done by another woman without asking her. The little girl looked about 4 years old and she was sobbing . It broke my heart
Wtf
I seen that. She’s just another bitter baby momma. I get he should’ve asked. But her hair was nice and she should’ve left it the way it was. Be mad all you want but why do that to your daughter
@@nolimit4484 exactly
I seen that she lost custody
@@nolimit4484 because they care about their own feelings and getting revenge on the father more than their child’s feelings.
I feel so bad for those kids, being treated as nothing but pawns in an attempt to hurt your ex.
Women need to start doing time for this stuff. The mother-in-law threaten him and then went up to him, the wife letting the kids scratch up the car, and especially when the mother started yelling help when the man didn't actually do anything to her. If we want equality and justice in the court system then we need to start holding women accountable as much as society hold us men accountable.
I agree, these false allegations and goading men to do something to them so they can call the Police. Sinful of them.
As a mother I’m disgusted by her behavior. She is soooooo selfish, she mad cause he don’t want her. She cares more for herself than her children. She is disgusting. Glad he left her. Poor man having to deal with this woman. SMDH.
@@biblethumper8088 youre dumb if you think that, hes their father, if the kids need a haircut he can give them a haircut, he didnt cause anything, shes starting everything, and its not even about the haircut, shes crazy because shes mad at him, all this is outta spite
@@biblethumper8088 That's not what this is about. I actually agree, I think its bad form to not at least give the parent that has custody a heads up and be like, "hey I'm going to go get a haircut for the kids." But if she would have just said: "Hey, next time you get the kids' hair cut could you consult with me first or let me know?" No one would have had an issue. That request is perfectly reasonable. She escalated a situation and made a mountain out of a molehill. She created a fight where there absolutely did not need to be one and she wouldn't let the issue go. Thats what people have an issue with. Her handling of this is uncalled for and this isn't about the haircut, its about her anger and hatred toward him. She is not acting in the best interest of her children, she is being selfish and thats what people are taking issue with.
@@cultmecca o.k let's look at how this could've been deescalated. So we agree he should've discussed this with her before hand. Now replay the video and count how many times she asked him to tell her where he got the kids haircut at. So why didn't he just answer the question? He can obviously see that this is upsetting her, so why not calm things down by just answering her question? It's bc he wanted to trigger her, hence him recording to use this as justification for bm's lie of bw being combative and difficult.
Now let's flip this and see how you would react if this happened to you. You go to pick your kid up from their mother and you see your child in a cast. You ask the mother repeatedly what happened? She refuses to tell you. The child is too young to explain. So you're telling me as a parent, you don't have the right to be upset about what happened to your child and the mother refuses to tell you?.
So again, he caused this thing to be escalated bc
1. He didn't consult the mother on something that affects the child.
2. He refused to answer her legitimate question regarding the child.
So who is really the one escalating things? Who is the one showing hatred by not answering a simple question? Who is the one being bitter and spiteful here? I'll tell you, him.......
When I saw this a few years back I was so frustrated and hurt for him and his boys. But, what stood out the most was when he said, "I thought I left you!" because she's going to try to manipulate them into hating their father. Her mother showed EXACTLY where she learned this from.
Ok, so my 21-year-old coworker is dating a 38-year-old woman. I’ve been working there for a week. I found out he was dating her because I overheard him talking on the phone about it. My 19-year-old sister is dating a 21-year-old. Her boyfriend is emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive and I have seen him punch her for spending time with her female friends. I am going to help her but I have to help my co-worker first because his age gap is creepy. I went up to him to talk to him about it and he said: “I’m fine”.
After that, I went to talk to my sister and she asked me for help because she wanted to leave her abusive boyfriend but he threatened to kill her. I will help her after I help my co-worker because he takes top priority. I tried to talk to him again but he still said that he was fine and that his friends and family already know about the relationship. I have been following him around and I saw him and his girlfriend on a date and they were having fun and seemed happy. This is weird because when he’s around her he seems comfortable and happy but when my sister is around her boyfriend she is scared shitless.
My sister called me saying that her boyfriend beat her up pretty badly and broke her leg and then stabbed her because he caught her trying to leave. Our parents don’t know because she asked me not to. She is begging me for help. I need to help my co-worker first and then my sister. What should I do about my co-worker?
@@llawliet6262 is this a troll account? You co worker can date anyone he wants, no matter how old they are. Consenting adults can do anything they want.
Help your gut stabbed sister is what i say you should do first and only. Your co worker is fine and not your business.
@@llawliet6262 What's your point?! You've posted this under multiple comments. But, you can't help someone who doesn't want help or think they need it. At the end of the day, they're grown and knows what's good and bad for them. When it comes to domestic violence more often than not no matter how much you try to help, it won't work until they realize it for themselves. Their world has been warped over time, little by little until the abuser has full control and they've become a shell of the person they used to be.
@@KJ.85 What would you do if your 20-21-year-old son or daughter told you they wanted to date older people?
@@llawliet6262 The key point in your question is '20-21 yr. old', meaning they're grown. Who am I to choose who my adult child should be with and the age limit?! The more you give your opinion, the closer you'll push them to that person.
A father's love is invaluable. I lost my dad 3 years ago at the age of 22. And I still feel that void everyday. Just because he didn't carry me for 9 months doesn't discount the sacrifice, the love, wisdom and work ethic he instilled me. To this woman and every other woman who agrees with her actions: Men aren't second class citizen parents.🖕🏾 Women like this do more damage to their own kids than they'll ever realize.
Facts
Seriously, fatherly love is undervalued
As some comment pointed out: Women need to think this through. Your kids won't want to have anything to do with you when they get older and you will die bitter and alone.
I think that more women should realize this. Because guess what? the kids that are getting damaged are girls too
Facts
God bless this man, his level of restraint and patience is commendable. These are the bitter women people should stay away from. I feel so bad for these boys. Unbelievable.
My tip to dad's in custody disputes is to get to know your kid's teacher, especially if they're still in grade school. Admittedly, I've rarely been called for testimony but courts do take our opinion very seriously. If your kid has good attendance, looks well kept and has her homework done during your custody time, that helps you fight accusations of child neglect a lot.
Damn this really sounds like a gem
Thanks for the massive tip
This should be done regardless of separation/divorce, but I hear ya, this is especially important in custody battles
That's great advice.
Valid , I never thought about that !! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
The best line: "She says: Ever since you abandoned us. He says: I thought I just left you." That is what is wrong with some women. They think just because you leave them you are also leaving the kids. No b**ch. It is you I hate. I love the kids. It is the damn courts that don't have the side of the father so it is hard as fuck for the father to keep their kids so he has to deal with dumb b**ches like this.
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This is what "toxic feminism" looks like. Not only do they want to have all the rights and benifits, they want you to NOT have them.
Not toxic feminism toxic femininity.
So basically modern feminism? (Particaulry in the west)
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@@Loneadmin nope. Feminism. This is what women are taught, what girls are taught. Demand everything, give nothing in return, and bring men down.
@@queenseabee8113 Imma have to disagree with you on that
As a man who’s currently going through this I just wanna say to all the dads DONT CRASH AND BURN. I know it feels like you have know other out, but trust me things will get better
This is LITERALLY happening everyday everywhere around the world. Poor kids, so very hard to watch this 😢
Animal species fighting over carbon/melanated earth babies. The takeover of any species begins with trauma. Every tear they cry is currency. See how the Father has conditioned himself to not get emotional. This protects him but it gives the instigator a signal to continue with the foolishness to attempt to harvest more energy or forge a relationship. They create the issue to force an interaction and then use their deception and manipulation as a pseudo solution. She said she was going to call the police on him for cutting the children's hair?
This is soo SAD it's not about the Dad cutting His Kidss hair,but it's about hurt,I just can't believe she would expose her Children to this. And the Children crying during this whole trauma is just heartbreaking,and you could tell the Children Love their Dad. It's All about hurt.Its should be about the Children's well-being 😢
This comment deserves way more likes.
@@gerdavandersan2018 It's not about hurt. It's about control. She wants all the control.
A toxic mother is more dangerous than an absent father...
One piece of advice, PULL OUT to avoid this possible drama...
100% facts
More like dont put it in at all lol
@@michellerichardson3090 no accountability at all.
True
Better yet, don’t put your hands anywhere near these types of women. Children or not, these women WILL ruin your life. What’s the point in having them around just as a side piece when most of them are hellbent in making you miserable?
Interrogating another person's child without the parent is definitely out of line. That's a big No-No!
Yeah that drove me to the edge, even if it's his new woman's kid, WHO CARES they shoulda left that baby alone fckn weirdos
I was literally sick to my stomach watching this. Hearing those precious little boys crying, getting traumatized…breaks my heart.
That grandmother is complicit in evil. She will be held eternally accountable to the division she put forth in that family.
These blk women don't care what they do to us blk men. They have been set to a standard to think that most of us ain't shït
Amen!
Yep
And he praises God for not being a part of that crazy permanently
Father: "Imma give em a haircut next time"
Granny: oH Is ThAt A tHrEaT??
Also Granny 30 seconds later: *IMMA CRACK HIM ON HIS HEAD*
The she runs up on him her fists balled up...and the yells "Behave yourself!!!"
@@jshooper7819 old people forget that someday they gon meet someone that wont deal with their bs and punch the fuck outta them.
I was with a copy ot these 2 women as my gf and my to be mother in law. so lucky i got away in time
I haven't seen my son since he was a year old, he's six years old now. He's a beautiful little boy, and I don't get to have a role in his upbringing. It is by far the worst pain I've ever felt in my life. Hearing y'all talk about living through pics on social media had me in tears. I have two other children that I'm directly raising, so I have a lot of love in my life. But there's always a hole there. I could never imagine doing to his mother what she's done to me.
Take her trifflin butt to court-your child too...
I'm sorry luther
I'm so sorry 😔
That's rough man. I feel for you
Did you tell her you wanted to speak to him?
I grew up being a child watching this kind of BS with my half-sister’s mom and my dad. Parents who let their ego be more important than their child shouldn’t have been parents. These altercations between the parents stick with the kids and it messes with them for life. It’s heartbreaking.
That poor kid has to have these women in his life. Then they wonder why “toxic masculinity” is even possible.
Fr, likes its women’s fault, that’s a meme right but it’s facts sometimes 🤣
Yup its because of that new thang called toxic femininity.
@@dr.phylisphical9294 oh they not gonna like this, they finna call u a misogynist
@@tonybablony2041 i dont care what they gonna do talk about me on the internet LOL.
These women are batshit crazy BUT WE as men have to do better at not indulging these types in any capacity. That level of crazy just didn't happen. The breadcrumbs of it was always there
I'm just gonna leave this here:
A judge, a person who spent almost a decade educating themselves in matters of law, saw this woman and thought "This person seems like a normal parent who will take care of the children."!
Here's what it means: The judge was the perfect stooge/activist for the job. The family court system is designed in such a way that it selects for these people to carry out the agenda of political and social activists. These people are indoctrinated in the universities and law schools by marxists and feminists. By the time they get out into the real world, they cause all sort of damage to families. The judges break up the families and destroy men/patriarchy, marriage counselors and psychiatrists exacerbate the damage by manipulating the feelings of the women, the lawyers encourage false accusations of abuse in order to facilitate gorging themselves on the money and estate of the divorced family, and the state gets a stronger hold on the kids while popular culture indoctrinates them and weakens them with ideological and physical poison. All of this is connected.
sometimes people know how to act as if theyre a good person when the situation requires it or bust. the sad part about this, besides the obvious, is that this also means, that they know when theyre acting out of line and do it anyway. these people refuse to look at themselves introspectively and blame everyone/thing around them for their own faults. terrible humans
Um … did we watch the same video??
She is clearly a narcissist.
Narcissists are extremely charming, manipulative and convincing when they need to beee 😅
Or you think a judge needs to follow this women 24 / 7 so that they know how they act behind the scenes….. ?????
That’s why video evidence is so important. A few of these videos he can show a judge .. watch how quickly the tables turn
Just leaving this here …
@@barbarella.artist I believe he is saying, AT FIRST I saw her and Thought ....
There’s a family law judge in texas who’s doing this exact thing to her ex husband. Literal JUDGE
This hits way to fucking close to home for me, growing up every Christmas, thanksgiving, and birthday ended with my parents fighting. Not arguing but actual fights, half of the time the police would show up to end things 'calmly'.
As the oldest out of my siblings those fights eventually numb me to the situation to the point where it was background noises to me.
Honestly at this point I don't care if I rich or poor, all I care about is not repeating my parents mistakes and being good husband and father myself. If I do that then I finally be content with myself
Hope this gets the pin of agreement
Edit: This didn’t age well
facts
Same
Hm.
Preach
I haven't talked to my mom in a decade casie she was like this. I don't regret it. I've had my dad back in my life for about 9 years now. Couldn't be happier to have this time with him.
I’m glad he documented this so he can show it to a judge. This is insane. Get your custody king. And I’m a woman saying this
Unfortunately over 90-95% of custody, child welfare, and alimony go to the woman from the man. The laws are designed to favor women from a time where they were solely/ financially dependent on men over 60 years ago not 2022. He would need serious child neglect evidence, drug abuse, child protective services involved to get a chance at getting full or majority custody.
hahahah you are so naive to think that the judge gives a damn about this shi lmao the family court system is built to destroy families and destroy the role of the father with the intention of replacing the father with the governement
The judge won't do a damn thing! Dont be shouldnt be surprised if he is made to pay a penalty for showing how inept the court is at actually protecting children!
I'm just shocked at how willing she was to get the father of her kids shot in front of them. She threatens him with the cops, then fakes some bullshit to scare him with some white knight coming over to save her sorry ass.
Those boys may grow up to resent her bc of how she acts
I just got out of a 4 year relationship with a woman like this with an enabling mother just like these two and I will say I am beyond happy that we didn’t reach the point of kids and marriage 🤣🤣 I dodged a missile for sure
@BALZY DEALZ In facts and logic bruh you have no idea , I didn’t make it through without a scratch . The woman screaming you hit me evoked ptsd like a mf
@BALZY DEALZ In facts and logic ended that kill streak real quick
Missile? Sounds like you dodged Meteor.
You spent 4 years with someone like this? Do you have no self respect?
4 years?! That says a lot about the type of men who endure that!!!!
This hits so hard for me, my brother and I went through this with our parents divorce I know exactly how those babies are feeling. My mother messed us up for a long time and used us. She didn't want us she just wanted child support by having us and she didn't want my father but she wanted to make him suffer. She talked so horribly about him to us, played victim to us for sympathy and told us adult things we had no business even knowing. It messes a kid up. Freaking narcissists.
My boyfriend's baby mama is the same way. We had his daughter last weekend. She said to me that she feels scared all the time, and that she doesn't know why or what she's scare of. She just always feels scared. She's 5.
She's brought it up before, cause she constantly asks to sleep in the same room as my boyfriend and I, but I just dismissed it as typical children's fear of the dark or something. This time was different though because it was during the day, and she said when I was just trying to encourage her to color inside the lines of her coloring book.
leave your sons alone, get up and move to another state, or another country. best advice this young man will ever get. it will change his life for the better.
@@Gointothelight Huh? Are you suggesting the dad abandon his son?
@@Zarolea Start taking notes because what you're describing could be a call for help from the little girl. Something bad might be happening to her outside of yalls time with her. Don't freak out because it might not be as bad as I'm saying but I would start paying more attention to this.
@@Zarolea Just to add be careful if you probe her about this because you don't want to put ideas where they were not needed or not realised.
The "my single mother raised me" is shown more often than single fathers but, often times violence increases by over 60% when the person is from a single mother home. Mother's treat their kids as bullet proof vests often times, in order to get what they want from fathers that are just desperate for the safety of their children. My mother had chosen a wine addiction over my family and my father was the one working a 9-5, sometimes driving over 9 hours just to make sure We could see some football games. This was clearly not about her children, it was about her.
"Did you just hit me?"
Honestly, when moments like these are caught on camera and display a clear embellishment, or just flat-out blatant lie, it should prove for a case of the willingness to weaponize a False Accusation and hold women like that accountable then and there for the potential, and deliberate intent, to play so irredeemably foul.
Just a clear and cut case of playing themselves and demonstrating just a glimpse of their instability and psychological damage to their kids.
It should….BUT DONT SHIT HAPPEN TO WOMEN WHO LIE AND ITS ON CAMERA…THEY HAVE NO CONSEQUENCE
Believe all women my ass
Facts, it’s not a crime for women to act like this unfortunately, just protection against yourself for accusations
False accusations for women being held accountable? Who are you kidding. That will NEVER happen
An unfortunate case I am all too aware of. This God-forsaken skewed timeline we horrendously veered off into.
My dad shot himself to avoid going through this a second time with my mom. Wouldn't see his first kid for years at a time. My mom would threaten to take my brother and I away and try to get us dressed in the middle of the night to leave, or threaten to just kill us. Eventually she started hitting him as well and I think there was no going back after that. My mom still makes herself out to be the victim, the most accountability she's had was saying she should have said sorry more, because that fixes everything apparently. To this day she's still got everyone who wasn't there fooled into thinking she had no part in it, even my dad's friends. As far as I'm concerned, the wrong person got shot. Thanks for letting me get that off my chest, I don't get to say much very often, even if it is to strangers.
Ex your mom out of your life. She sounds like a terrible human
Thanks for sharing, we hear you and feel you. keep pushing forward
Does that make sense to you? I mean when you repeat the story to yourself, you think he shot himself because he couldn’t see his kids or because he had mental health issues exasperated by possible grief? Was he suicidal because he couldn’t see his children at the time not understanding that children become adults and opportunity will knock. Just asking because everyone gotta be real here. Too many young folks are about to assume and not take accountability.
Darling, although this story is very sad, no one can make someone shot themselves. Your Dad was suffering with mental health and unfortunately didnt find the right help. To think or say that someone or a situation can make someone suicidal or depressed is an insult to the seriousness of mental health.
@@wardiya3arbiya that’s an insult to his father because now you are assuming why he killed himself like you knew him.
Her calm demeanor in the beginning, throughout, didn't have me fooled for a second. She was manipulative!!!! The way these kids were being torn right in front of us...OMG!!!! You know, I was that age once and I remember things from that age that have stained me. My parents fighting was one. This brings back those feeling of confusion, humiliation and fear. I'm reliving through these kids. They may not forget this. Kids pay more attention than others may think.
I feel ya on that, I got memories of my parents fighting when I was young and it was traumatizing to a degree, but I just take it as a good example of a bad example ya know
That, is a perfect example of gaslighting.
This saddens me so much because I'm going through this exact thing right now. My boys are 10 and 5.
Ok, so my 21-year-old coworker is dating a 38-year-old woman. I’ve been working there for a week. I found out he was dating her because I overheard him talking on the phone about it. My 19-year-old sister is dating a 21-year-old. Her boyfriend is emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive and I have seen him punch her for spending time with her female friends. I am going to help her but I have to help my co-worker first because his age gap is creepy. I went up to him to talk to him about it and he said: “I’m fine”.
After that, I went to talk to my sister and she asked me for help because she wanted to leave her abusive boyfriend but he threatened to kill her. I will help her after I help my co-worker because he takes top priority. I tried to talk to him again but he still said that he was fine and that his friends and family already know about the relationship. I have been following him around and I saw him and his girlfriend on a date and they were having fun and seemed happy. This is weird because when he’s around her he seems comfortable and happy but when my sister is around her boyfriend she is scared shitless.
My sister called me saying that her boyfriend beat her up pretty badly and broke her leg and then stabbed her because he caught her trying to leave. Our parents don’t know because she asked me not to. She is begging me for help. I need to help my co-worker first and then my sister. What should I do about my co-worker?
@@llawliet6262 this is a joke right???
This father should use this video to get full custody from this insane woman.
This has happened to me. My ex wife would consistently use the kids as weapons against me. Telling me I had no rights whatsoever. Telling me that the kids didn't want to be around me over the phone when in fact they were crying constantly to see me. Telling me that the kids wanted to change their last names because they were ashamed to have my name because I was struggling to pay child support while I was unemployed and would sometimes refuse visitation because I didn't pay her enough money for the kids. The moment I raised my voice to her, she would refuse visitation rights.
If I took them anywhere, she would have to call them constantly to check up on them, in fear I would abuse my children.
It's more common than you think. Women use kids as a weapon to attack the ex because they know that in doing this, it hurts a man inside to see their children being used like this and they have LITTLE to NO recourse to address this and that if a man does take the issue to court, a judge will normally take the side of a woman over a man. A woman's pride, she would rather scar the children in order to get back at the man that left her because some women don't care about their kids, they care about their pride.
I have such little patience for this and may just end up taking a penitentiary chance voiding the mother from existence.
@@TruthxAR I feel the same way bro, but the kids will hurt more, effing shame with the law
This is a copy of my exes mother. she sabotaged my relationship with my ex boyfriend and turned him against his father, stepfather and his uncle. It was so crazy. I really feel for you. I told my ex multiple times to reach out to his father but in his mind his father was the center of all evil. If his father and his mother did the same thing the father would be deemed the evil one and the mother would be deemed as - oh its just my mom. Its a terrible terrible situation to be in
This woman needs a life. I can't imagine any person that has something better to do wouldn't waste time trying to pull a custody switch by lying and using their own kids as fodder to smite the dad. Some ladies are truly and utterly miserable
People like that woman in the video are evil, not just "miserable". Trying to spread their anger and hate in the world is fully evil and they pull everyone around them into that hole.
Tho the dude selecting her makes me wonder what sort of red flags he ignored from his side..
I agree. There's enough problems that naturally occur in life and here she is causing unnecessary major problems, about to call the cops and have her mother assault someone over a damn haircut 🤦.
You don't get it, what this woman deserves, can't be said in the YT comment seccion.
@@KoinzellGaming The same red flags that women ignore when the man is the asshole. Hormones screw up rational thinking
And this is the side that we don't see. We always the tales of all the deadbeats but we never see when women use their children as weapons to spite the father. Some withhold the children. Some poison them against their fathers. And this is absolutely despicable. Children are not pawns. And this only hurts the children. "You're none-custodial with visitation - you have no rights." I thought he was a parent. He has the responsibility of providing for the children but can't even take his children to get a haircut? This is ridiculous.
It’s a topic women refuse to address but what usually happens it’s told it’s the mans fault she hates the father to the degree not even her kids matter just her being right makes me glad I don’t have kids
We do see it. America just ignores it in favor of blaming men. Why? It makes more money.
@@trustme7660 this isn't a topic that women refuse to address... this is a topic that EVERYONE refuses to address
@@frikabg nah men talk about it all the time.
@@frikabg What we doing right now?
She learned this from her mother so you can't expect anything more.
That's why guys gotta take a good look at their gfs mom, that's what gf will be in the future
Sad to see those little boys have so many odds stacked against them in life
Hearing the mom and how she talked to him answered all the questions. She’s probably the reason they are not together.
She is undoubtedly!
Lack of personal boundaries.
Absolutely
Yup, people like these sorts always travel in packs.
He is broke and doesn't take care of his kids-likely underemployed. Meanwhile, she has her shit together and she is having to pick up his financial slack, he feels emasculated so he does trifling little things like getting the kid's haircuts when for all he knows the mom was trying to grow their hair out.
Sometimes having children with the wrong person can set you up for a world of hurt. Im sure he loves his children but I know he regrets the woman he had them with.
I tend to believe that people don't just suddenly become like this, the red flags were probably there constantly and Earl decided to ignored them.
@@theocjr.43 Agreed
@@theocjr.43 Maybe, maybe not. People wear masks all the time and switch up when you least expect. Once you get married, there's no point in hiding it now.
That is an absolute power play. She lost control of the relationship so she tries to gain it through torturing him. There had to have been signs that he ignored heavily.
Ok, so my 21-year-old coworker is dating a 38-year-old woman. I’ve been working there for a week. I found out he was dating her because I overheard him talking on the phone about it. My 19-year-old sister is dating a 21-year-old. Her boyfriend is emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive and I have seen him punch her for spending time with her female friends. I am going to help her but I have to help my co-worker first because his age gap is creepy. I went up to him to talk to him about it and he said: “I’m fine”.
After that, I went to talk to my sister and she asked me for help because she wanted to leave her abusive boyfriend but he threatened to kill her. I will help her after I help my co-worker because he takes top priority. I tried to talk to him again but he still said that he was fine and that his friends and family already know about the relationship. I have been following him around and I saw him and his girlfriend on a date and they were having fun and seemed happy. This is weird because when he’s around her he seems comfortable and happy but when my sister is around her boyfriend she is scared shitless.
My sister called me saying that her boyfriend beat her up pretty badly and broke her leg and then stabbed her because he caught her trying to leave. Our parents don’t know because she asked me not to. She is begging me for help. I need to help my co-worker first and then my sister. What should I do about my co-worker?
He's still ignoring the signs. He's not smart. A video is not enough. He needs to go on the offensive.
You mean he didn't give in to precious, more subtle attempts at manipulation and emotional coercion? So it's basically his fault for not doing what she wants?
@@llawliet6262 bro what ? why isn't your family the number one priority when you have full proof her life is in dangerous ?
@@sayhukwarren he can't be that dumb it had to be a troll.
A dad taking his boys to get hair cuts is a bonding thing for them. I know it is for my husband and oldest. Imagine being that angry that a man left you that you’ll traumatize your kids.
My husband already knows if we get a divorce he’s taking the kids every weekend. I’ll need to break.
I watched my mom do that to my brother. I actually had to fight her as a teen because she wouldn't stop and my brother was begging her to. Fast-forward to today and he doesn't want anything to do with her. Women need to think things through. The only reason those two females showed any restraint was because of the camera. Every child has the right to love both their parents, if one of the parents is no good, the child will figure it out in their own time.
This was literally my parents my entire childhood, to a higher level with consistent physicality involved. As a 26 year old, I’m living proof that this is scarring, to this day I still don’t have any idea of what a father/son relationship is and barely have a relationship with my mother, I will never put my children through this when I have them, it’s cancerous.
Just please for the love of god VET your significant other. Date them for a long time before having kids. Get to learn her faults and attributes because if she is a hard time when you date, she'll be harder when you get kids.
Too many men marry and stick with the wrong woman. Biggest red flag are women who are combative all the time.
@@Xarkom89 rs💯 🎯
The best thing you can do is try and make a relationship with one or both if its a possibility.
@@mattscott8512 tbh dating them for a long time doesn’t mean shit, don’t get married until you move in with your significant other. And don’t move in with them unless you’re already considering marrying them. You’re not in a real relationship until you’ve lived with a person lmao
@@deadarmd I’ve tried, it’s a hard ask. They were both terrible people and I tried my entire life to look past their faults until a few years ago, that’s when I finally saw them both for who they really were. In modern day I don’t keep the contact between them and I higher than a minimum for my own sanity, they always bring bad energy.
“Are you hitting me?”, while he’s recording them. Reminds me of that Central Park woman with the dog, telling the cops, “there’s a black man attacking me”, while he’s recording her.
What is additionally frustrating is I remember how exciting it was to get a haircut as a child. They may have loved it, had a wholesome time with him and then returned to these women who disrespect their father and make them feel like they did something wrong in the process. Small detail in the grand scheme, but still they’re the worst.
My stepsons mother was just like this. Vindictive and abusive and used her son as a pawn to manipulate his father. I came into the picture when my son was was 5 and after a year of dating I stepped up and helped my man fight for custody. I couldn't be manipulated like my husband and I kept to the facts, recorded every missed day of school, every missed therapy appointments and doctor appointments. I submitted it all to the judge and after 4 yrs we won full custody and we STILL offered the mom supervised visitation even though the courts denied her that. She then bailed on her visit (after I had my son dressed , ready and waiting for his mom to show up she never did) we stripped all visitation rights after that and she disappeared and had another baby and abandoned her son. We moved a state away and our soon is THRIVING, about to be 14 and he's the biggest blessing in my life and I couldn't be prouder to have had a hand in the person he is today. His mom pulled this shit for almost 9 years and in the end, she gained nothing and lost any relationship she could have had with her son. I will never understand mother's like this!
Same thing with one of my step moms.
That isn't a mother, that's an incubator.
Females like that aren't rally mothers. Just sick in their head people with no level of maturity or selflessness.
💯!! God on you! Put the babies first! I’m so happy everything worked out best for this kiddo and you guys.
This is why vetting the person you marry and inevitably have a kid with is so important. This behavior didn't just turn up, she probably was like that from the beginning. Moral of the story is, make sure you fully know the person before creating life.
It can be hard to pick out these things, especially when you don't know what to look out for. That's why it's important videos like this, the Kevin Samuels and the rest are important for younger guys growing up to be men.
It takes a few minutes--- a few yyyeeeaaarrrs, even, to get to know even the tip of the iceburg about somebody...
Here's a clue--- hold your legs, use a condom or whatever it is you use, and think everytime you lay down THIS could be time you get pregnant--- that thought ALONE would have me running for the medicine cabinet...
Can you *handle* a baby now?
Afford it mentally, physically, emotionally...?
This is serious shit you're playing with, not just your petty lil three minutes...
@@dotmanmide nah I find a lot of that content only adds to polarising one gender against the other, and externalising problems to the societal level creates an external locus of control which forms the foundation of weak and miserable individuals. Best advice I heard was actually from a Lewis rossman video he said something to the effect of ‘choose the partner your future kids would choose as a parent’...
You could vet the person. But someday she hit her hed hard and she does a 180. People change regardless of whether they are male of female. Vetting isn't the solution. Changing the laws is.
This goes both ways. I hate drama and irresponsible people so I'm afraid of having kids even in a marriage. I don't want to go through the stress of having to deal with a difficult father of my kids for the rest of my life.
I think most people in these situations didn't know beforehand then it's too late
Kudos to the man who was able to keep calm. Imagine somebodytrying to belittle you for giving your kid a haircut
he probably has a history and she was being courteous to avoid her exposing him. the haircut probably plays into it.
This is an old video. The message is still relevant though. It’s all about control based off from fear.
This is why men end up hating women
@@davemonster2 bro ong, when at 16 they become the supreme gentleman and shoot up a school or some shit🤣
Sad thing is he should of had the "right" to lose it
Sadly this is becoming the norm with separated couples. My children mother is on this level and it has done nothing but cause drama and issues for my children. She cares more about her image and whatever situations she can manufacture to tell her friends than what’s best for the children. And because I try to be the bigger person and refuse to badmouth her in front of my children I am constantly having to defuse situations she creates by whatever lies and manipulation she puts on them while they are with her. I have a pretty good custody schedule for a man and it took three years of fighting in court to get there and about $60,000 in lawyers and I’m still not done. Our system is beyond flawed and a bitter woman can make a man go through hell if he wants to be a part of his children’s life. Sad times indeed
I made it 2 minutes in and couldn't watch any more cause it reminds me to much of my ex wife.
My two boys are 17 and 14 and I have full custody now because her new husband can't stand having them around so she abandoned them on me. Now I get the child support. 👍
Your ex sounds like a real piece of work
Kids need their parents. Trying to hurt your children's other parent, especially like this in front of the children, is so damaging and is indicative of a scary need for control and domination. Fathers who want to be involved are so important
I raised my daughter without her father's involvement. It was a rule with my family that they were never to speak badly about him in front of her. It's like telling a child that half of who they are is trash. You're wrecking their very impressionable self esteem.
Edit: I unfortunately learned this because my parents behaved exactly like the people on the video.
damn this is hella true, feels like ur talking ab me lmao
@@wyapolar6661 I'm so sorry it was like that for you. It is hard enough to be looking for that missing parent in your life without having the people you look up to berating them. I hope it gets or has already gotten better! Just know you are worthy of life and respect. Good or bad, we are through our parents not of them.
'It's like telling a child that half of who they are is trash'..Yes!!,that's exactly right,why is this not apparent to so many,it's heartbreaking to see children being traumatised in such a manner.
most women think they know best to the point of judgment. good for u.
This is a CRAZY woman!! I hope she looks at this with shame. She's going to make it difficult for him to be their father and she's going to regret it.
I'm so happy I married a woman totally different from me, but we share the same way of processing anger and expressing rage. She - I'm going for a walk. Me - I I'm going to watch A&P. But we never disagree in front of the kids. Just a ninja look, "we will talk later". I remember watching this year's ago.
Exactly. Kids shouldn't see or know about whatever disagreements or anger that happens between the two
I agree mostly with you but I do think that it's beneficial to have children learn how to disagree and deal with conflict openly in a healthy way as much as it is to have it privately.
If you're only showing that conflict and disagreement can be handled privately then they internalize that and will eventually emulate it themselves in the future.
@@ScottyHeSavage bro what?
How was this comment made 12 days Ago ?
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This was one of the most maddening things when I was working for a family law attorney. Whoever wasn't the custodial parent had to ask for/about every little thing like haircuts or this kinda thing would happen and, by court of law, she's "in the right". Had so many mothers pull this card on the fathers and my state is a "mommy state" so mothers are "rarely in the wrong" in the eyes of the court. The biases are ultimately why I had to switch jobs, for the sake of my sanity.
Unfortunayely no matter where you live in the west, it’s like society is trying to get rid of fathers.
@@victorsjostedt4393 And society expects men to give their all, up to the ultimate sacrifice, while getting shit like this in return.
Not sure on the law for US (I think that’s where the clip was filmed), but what is meant by “custodial parent” and is the bar to loose your rights as a father really low there? Sorry asking as I know to loose your parental rights here you either have to actually abandon the child of assault them
@@lunar686 The bar is so low, because the laws are made against the men. They have to pay and abide by the rules in order to see their kids, and the fear of no longer being able to see them keeps them hostage in these situations. And if some of them try to act like fathers, and have fun with their kids outside the rules of "the box", they can get punished real hard. That's why some kids, after turning 18, flip the switch on their "custodial parent", which is usually the mother.
Imagine in this situation, that the father took his sons in for a fun day, and cut their hair himself, while joking and making them laugh, and genuinely having a good time, like I used to have with my father when he would cut my hair when I was a kid. Did that matter for the mother? Nope. She just found a perfect excuse to be shitty with the father of her kids, and will probably try to use this as leverage sometime in the future in order to try and get some shit from him.
SMH. Sad.
Hearing those kids crying made me cry, knowing what kind of problems they're gonna have all their lives. Too relatable. People are so selfish, it's sickening.
My first wife was like this and to make things worse she remarried the son of a local judge. It was an absolute nightmare and our son has issues to this day from years of bs. This is so sad.
Personally, i love this topic. Everyone whos seen as "crazy" or "has issues" can sometimes be traced back to his childhood. In that video we saw two generations and possibly three generations of bad parenting. Thank you for covering this stuff
It's subtle but notice this exchange
"Ever since you abandoned them"
"I thought I left *you* "
This tells you everything you need to know.
The reason why punishing men with their kids is some of the worst level of behaviour is because it only harms good men who WANT a relationship with their kids.
She had no words for that response, either. Looked like a deer in headlights.
It drives me nuts watching adults who treat kids as property. They aren't bargaining chips. They aren't your pets. They're tiny humans. They didn't choose to have you as a parent and they WILL choose to cut you out down the line when they realize how toxic of a person you are.
I believe most mothers think of their children as their property, Even if not like "Property Property" but to the extent that they'll want to make most of the decisions for the kid no matter their age, Obviously not everyone is like this but a lot of behaviour perpetrated by mothers is almost like "Look at me and/or My kid" behaviour. When we include Twitter, Facebook, UA-cam, and TikTok videos/posts that behaviour is really clear. Even to this day my mom posts crap on Facebook about me for her friends to see on Fb.
@@hailothgaming There's a line though between "you're my family member, fellow human, and I want you to take my opinion into consideration when you make your decisions" (or "I'm going to make what I think are the best decisions for you while you are still learning how to human") versus "you can't do anything without my say-so, not even change the tiniest thing about your appearance, and neither can anyone else, because you belong to me." I absolutely agree with you that a lot of parents don't know where to draw this line, and a lot of kids (even adult kids) don't know (because we never teach them) how to draw that boundary with their parents. Just because a huge swath of society does it doesn't make it right.
@@KateTaylor86 Agreed. It's an issue with self importance, Either they weren't important enough in the past and take advantage of their current situation in the wrong way because of it or they are overly important to themselves and just act arrogantly with things that they deem "Theirs" older generations seem to develop this arrogance where they are right and anyone else or even anyone younger is wrong.
I work in public safety and baaaaaby the custody issues, wheeew VERY deep! I don't have children yet and I'm constantly reminded to so carefully, intentionally, choose my partner. I really pity anyone who is going through these issues because the court is NOT set up to care! To anyone going through this please, please, make your police reports, document everything, stay cool, and stay the course! The kids will know the difference in the future!
Honestly the only reason I’m cool having the term “birthing person”, because sometimes mother does not apply. Absolutely disgusting manipulative behavior.
Well when you put it that way…😂
Big ups to Earl, he has shown me a lvl of patience I didn't know existed.
It's like he's dealing with an irrational cop..but its his fucking ex-wife.
Big facts. Woulda had to choke slam both of them haux
He should have immediately called the cops, showed them the video and get a report done, then immediately call his lawyer. Never put his self in a position to not have her recorded at the very least audio, preferably video again
You can tell she loves the power trip, this is a person who has never had control in their life. This is the only way they can exert any power, she absolutely loves it.
Saddest thing is that it seems that the dad is the best possible parents, not the mother. During the situation that they are harassing him for taking care of their kids it was clear that the father was more concerned with his children and trying to stay calm and de-escalate the situation.
It's almost like the law is so blatantly biased that people don't feel guilty doing this
It is 100% made so that men get fucked over in custody battles
What you mean almost?
Hmmmmmmmmm, i dont see it… just like the courts🤣
WOMEN. Be very specific. Women don't feel guilty doing this. It's not vaguely "people".
@@jshooper7819 no it's people because lawyers be rubbing their hands together maliciously anytime any sort of court case goes down, especially divorce. Divorce lawyers encourage and educate women to do this.
OK, she is so assertive with her desire to know "where" they got a haircut, but what does she really learn after he tells her?
This is the epitome of some women's need to be argumentative for no reason at all.
Imagine what she says to the kids as they get older.
She will constantly manipulate them against their father, continually saying that everything is HIS fault.
I guarantee it's because she wants to go to the shop and raise hell she's gonna go yell at the barbers about her they had no right to cut her kids hair.
@@noquartergiven1332 she would probably ask the barbers to do the exact same shit as the dad did, she just wanted the control over ordering somenone.
What a fucking lose lose situation
If the listen to mom the becaume self entitled
If the realize the mother is lying the aren't going to believe women ever again
In both cases they became shit people
@@Novvax312 so, I’m guessing you actually never experience this situation or seen hoe they end up, is up to them tho and the father to explain shit if this continues to be toxic and manipulating his kids too. There boys but if when they grown adults, he doesn’t try to explain his hardship of why she was trying to make it impossible for him to be in their life. Then he also failed at the end of the day even thought he is dealing with a crazy person. And he definitely found someone else, and since there boys he should teach them about these type of women. (Assuming that they are into the opposite gender). Grown adults would definitely come with a conclusion that makes sense to them and what they experience. For now unfortunately they have to go through unnecessary trauma from immature adult. Of course everybody has different outcomes but the thing that the father can have control over in this situation is to let his boys know that he loves them in any way possible. And whether his able to be there or not. But she’s wrong for having this type of hostility for a haircut that boys need every week and to not care that they crying for her stupid behavior.
My mother NEVER talked down about my father even though he did plenty wrong by her. Not ONCE did she slander him in front of my brother and I. She let us see him for what he was. I respect my mother so much for that. I know it was hard on her.
Look at you carrying the narrative that doesn’t apply to you
That’s often the difference between a good and bad single parent. Your mother is very wise.
No! She manipulated the situation so that you would be more inclined to make the same judgment she did. She didn't talk about your dad because she changed the scenario for him to be inclined to act a certain way.
Narcissists do this so that they can turn around and be like "See! See!"
@@KashifVGC so it's bad when the mother talk sh1t about the dad and it's ALSO bad when she doesn't say anything? 😂😂 then what she gotta do? LYING about it?? she gotta say "oh your father is a lovely kind man" when he's literally beating her in front of her kids and her kids see it themselves?
I was the same way as your mother. My daughter didnt need to hear negative things about her father. I always hoped that as she was growing he was too. They do now have a relationship that will hopefully become stronger over time. I hope the same will happen for you someday. Sounds like your mama raised you right.
Been divorced twice and one thing I never argued about was my kids. They didn’t do anything and they need BOTH parents. This woman is CRAZY - she’s bitter and she doesn’t care about her babies. Good luck to this man dealing with this psycho
The way this man handles this matter, let's me know that I need to grow a lot more. I applaud you brother!
I have three brothers from my mother and all three would have dropped her and her mother - once they started questioning that baby in the car 🥴
Definitely! I fly off the handle and had to learn to not get violent behind my child. I get my son whenever I want but her family had to understand I was ready to kill all of us to prove a point but my son would’ve suffered the most for my actions so we all use a 3rd party now because manipulation only sends me into a rage and I’m whole heartedly willing to risk my freedom to cause as much physical harm as they try emotional harm. Still maturing I’m only on my early 20’s
@@rainslay8835 they gonna use that against u though
Bro I’m in my late 20s and this would totally make me snap.
@@poopyjoe7435 and they'll breathe no longer.
This made me actually cry. Kids shouldn’t have to go through this. The greatest gift we can give them is the example of a good loving marriage. If we can’t give them that, the next best thing is mutual respect and desire for well being. This shit hurts kids more than we know.:.
Well said
The world is ruled by what is, not by what should be. Time to peel off the rose coloured glasses from your eyes.
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Not sure what you mean. I fully recognize how fucked up a lot of relationships are and am not in denial about it. It just breaks my heart. I have a great wife, a 4 year old with another one on the way and I can’t imagine ever putting them through this...
We need more sterilization.
@@ZachMaxonyou described the world as you wish to see it, not as to what it actually is and where it is headed to. Thus, it is better not to make statements of should or could, but accept reality and try to do your best within that context while seeking ways of changing it.
These type of people treat their kids like property. THEY'RE MY KIDS. No, they have another parent and family on the other side. They deserve the right to have access to both sides of their family. Just because you have personal issues with the other side doesn't make it right to prevent your child from being able to access a whole set of valuable resources and connections. I just can't stand to see this because it only harms the kids but then the parents want to play holier than thou like they're doing it for any other reason than that they just can't stand the other parent. The man is a parent when those child support payments are due, but when he wants to take them to get a haircut - "you're a non-custodial with visitation only - you have no rights." I swear she's talking about her kids like they're her car or something - "you can't go wash my car without getting my permission. I need to know where you got my car washed." Just bitter and petty.
This is the exact reason why I walked away from my kid. My ex wife did everything she could to disconnect me from my son. After a while, I quite jumping through hoops.
Yes! This is not merely hurt that man is being narcassistically abused and those children will suffer the most for it.
It be the same chicks that get mad when men use metaphors or anologies to talk about them ("dont objectify me/compare me to a car!1!1) that think of their kids as objects.