One of the wisest things I've done in my life is trying to learn English. I'm not fluent, but I can, with some difficulty, understand. And man, a world opened up to me! So many lectures, videos, classes, documentaries etc that I would not have access otherwise, because not everything has subtitles. This lesson is an example.
Truuee! If you have an internet connection and know basic english, the world's knowledge is available to you. I think, if information is free, wouldn't it multiply naturally? If every scientific paper and lecture would be required to be freely available online, wouldn't we see another golden age for scientific discoveries?
congratz brother, learning english seems to give allot of ppl trouble lol, glad you stuck with it. The good thing about not using subtitles, is that the context of what they are saying is not always accurately translated when put into subtitles or can't be translated correctly because their is no literal translation
@@MrRufusjax that sentence means that if you work to make your wife happy, then everything will be happy therefore... at least that's how it's used all the time
47:03 “Everyone’s outside looks better than my inside” - a perfect summation of social media, influencer culture and the pressures it causes people young and old. Many fantastic lessons in this lecture.
Feel like it was that way when the nuclear family was predominant as well. At least for the ones who had issues but didn’t know all the people around them were really going through the same issue.
@@mikedickson1070 You can be proud of your achievements! Yo may not be boastful about it! I think he has not crossed the limits of modesty. Self reference, self depreciation and 'Trump'ing are permitted in a lecture!
Listening to this guy I feel like I'm on a right path as a 29 year old. I have a lot of things I can be happy about now, and a will to go to a direction that is potentially good for me.
Good for you! Good to read that coming from a young person. Remember, never trust anyone under 30. 😁. Randy Pausch lectures might interest you. And I assume you already know who Jordan Peterson is. There are all kinds of talks and lectures online that are fabulous. Did you ever see the movie, "Catch Me If You Can"? I highly recommend it, and then watch the true, real life guys lecture on UA-cam. Take Care. 🙏 🌎
when you really have built a life where you're successful, you don't need to throw anybody under the bus, you don't need any external measurement, its being at the top of a mountain you've been climbing that doesn't exist for anybody else, but seeing that everybody else has their own mountains too
Juggle through life and catch the falling ball...#deep and also loved the way he ended his speech..." The time for this test is rest of your life...or lets say today is the first day of your rest of your life..." 👌
1. achievement (who are we comparing ourselves to? past, present, or future? positive drivers or negative drivers ? ) twins >>> envy, greed, and fear OR recognition, pride and mastery 2. significance (I want to help other people, but who to help, and what i want to do for it? an internal and external choice) twins >>> fairness, generosity, and caring [external] OR power and selfish 3. happiness (me and now) twins >>> contentment, fulfilment OR laziness gluttony 4. legacy (other people define our legacy, our impact in the future) are uncorrelated. twins >>> altruism and generative desire OR fear of death and need for control Paradox example: an increase in legacy means a decrease in achievement. > impact about me alone or others? > context: ski to where the puck will be not where it is now. > values: family influences. > juggling and not balance * Life has a timeline, as in we have different focus at different stage. (Why does it have to be that way? I will need to decide on my own.) * Part 3: What is enough? (what are your values? measure my way of giving away money) * Frank Batton (Landmark Communications): "Profit is constraint, not my goal. If I don't make enough money, I will be out of business. But it I make too much, that means I am not reinvesting enough into my people, community, and product." * Inflection point: Is this freeing me in making a change in my direction? * Culture matters: I might have failed in the wrong culture. * Do not try to change the past, learn from it, and move forward. * Get specific advice from specific people. * ripples > splash * Nothing is wrong with money, but the riches of your life won't be measure by it.
Thank you very much Professor Stevenson. I came across this lecture just to listen for a few minutes and I ended up listening to the whole lecture. I feel so enlightened by his lecture. I am one of those ripples from a stone that he threw.
My father died with his bride of 50+ years that he loved deeply and his 7 children and his 30+ grandchildren around him. Extremely loved. The world would not look at him as a success but when I walked away from the body, I realized he was a great success. His last act was to make the sign of the cross as his trusted his last to his God. Read Eccliastes and you will see the things that are vanity and the things are worth it.
I loved how he opened with the fact he died (and by all accounts should be dead) and you know in that moment he is going to give you the goods. This guy has nothing left to hold back or sugar coat. What an amazing video. How does this only have 700K views? The one I loved was the point about juggling. Every time you touch a ball you give it energy. Every time we "touch" something in our lives we need to give it energy.
Thank you for sharing your point of view. This was interesting and a great way to delve deep into the topic and hear a different perspective of some things. This was awesome!
Outstanding wisdom. Thank you for sharing this with the world. By those who came before us can we improve... imagine for half a second if we could improve our happiness generation by generation by learning from each other in the same way we improve our sciences and engineering? Why can't we? I certainly hope that I can retain half of his advice.
Obey Jesus Christ or you will go to hell, turn to the Lord before its too late, if you don’t REPENT OF YOUR SINS then you will likewise perish in hell. All liars, fornicators, adulterers, idolaters, blasphemers, whoremongers, thieves, murderers, homosexuals, effeminate, etc, will not inherit the kingdom of God. Once you turn to the Lord, read the new testament in the bible, the gospels, to develop a relationship with God. God bless you all. Turn to Jesus, repent or perish, turn or burn.
Man this is really good advice and depression at the same time. It makes everything in life seem so shallow. it's like knowing how the movie ends before watching it.
This was really well done. His casual manner of speaking and knowing humour add a wisdom and ease of absorption that make his talk educational and enjoyable.
You know someone's about to share some wisdom when they start off by saying they've already died! In all honesty, great talk, I am still amazed by the fact that we have so many valuable resources available to us... truly grateful!
I can't say one way or the other if that's true. For me being dirt poor did the trick for me, because while growing up I told myself God made a mistake this hellhole was NOT supposed to be my life. I made my money investing in rental property. For a high school graduate I do pretty good.
@@micaonyx5301 Reading your story and others like it is such an inspiration to me. After being a homemaker for almost a decade I’m now at a crossroad to begin building my own career and I desire a similar story to yours. I want so very much to build multiple businesses and solid tech skills alongside my writing. Thank you for making my day better ❤️
@@ShadaeMastersAstrology I wish you great success. I'm 61 and have been doing the landlord thing since I was 27. I'm looking into starting a new business. I can't imagine retiring and sitting in front of a TV, how boring is that.
@@2random628 I guess it's easier to believe every hedge fund is corrupt and selfish then to see people as ranging humans with different morals, wants and beliefs.
We need more lectures like this one. His emphasise that life is like juggling balls I.e. areas of your life is the most practical. This along with knowing what you want from all the balls you are juggling is essential.
👏 This has been a great spotlight to watch. Indeed, now thinking about it, old days mom depended so much on Reader’s Digest ( in the mail). In line with that, we are so fortunate to have leading Universities post their valuable knowledge (both in theory and action) so unconditionally! Equally, I find the comments here - those posted 10 years ago and even those posted so recently - so experienced & so hands on! 👏
This is my first time seeing this gentleman, not sure why he showed up in my suggestion but glad he did. To me one of the saddest thing in the world is measuring your success by other people and trying to keep up or even out do them even though it's NOT what you actually want. I compete with myself and only me, so when my friends achieve success I'm genuinely happy for them because their success doesn't diminish mines.
Great talk! Most talks on how to lead your life are targeted to people who are failing life, it’s nice to hear one that’s targeted to people who are succeeding in life. Even the top dogs need guidance.
1. strive for accomplishment and a legacy 2. happiness is a mixture of different things; juggling your goals according to set limits is a useful skill.
One of the wisest things I've done in my life is trying to learn English. I'm not fluent, but I can, with some difficulty, understand. And man, a world opened up to me! So many lectures, videos, classes, documentaries etc that I would not have access otherwise, because not everything has subtitles. This lesson is an example.
Truuee! If you have an internet connection and know basic english, the world's knowledge is available to you. I think, if information is free, wouldn't it multiply naturally? If every scientific paper and lecture would be required to be freely available online, wouldn't we see another golden age for scientific discoveries?
Your English writing is excellent and your effort is a great example for those of us who might want to learn another language. Nice work, Paolo.
Well done bro!! The world is your oyster!
congratz brother, learning english seems to give allot of ppl trouble lol, glad you stuck with it. The good thing about not using subtitles, is that the context of what they are saying is not always accurately translated when put into subtitles or can't be translated correctly because their is no literal translation
Congratulations on that decision. You're on the right track.
Success is sleeping in the night having peace of mind, free of burdens and worry free
yes
@Phát Thuận I know plenty of people who have plenty of money and you would not consider them a success in life
Hippie
Buddhist? XD
On a long road to gain this peace of mind
"Marry a happy person."
That's what the happy person would want as well...
That is some great advice. I did that by accident and it will make your life much easier. Happy wife, happy life.
@@MrRufusjax that sentence means that if you work to make your wife happy, then everything will be happy therefore...
at least that's how it's used all the time
Mistakenly did the same. Ha
Game changed.
Be the happy person someone would like to marry.
47:03 “Everyone’s outside looks better than my inside” - a perfect summation of social media, influencer culture and the pressures it causes people young and old. Many fantastic lessons in this lecture.
Lies again? Horny Heart
Feel like it was that way when the nuclear family was predominant as well. At least for the ones who had issues but didn’t know all the people around them were really going through the same issue.
Jesus loves you
my issue is everyone outside looks so so much worst then my inside.
@@davidmba6777 yyuy
My life began when I first saw this video, a year later I'm in a different financial world ❤🙏🙏
Take me with you
Yes you're right , I recently invested in both stock and crypt0 but currently I believe crypt0 is doing more better!!
I've heard so much bout cryptocurrencies but I'm scared because of the price fluctuation ... I wouldn't want to experiment with my money
though I'm willing to give it a shot if I can get a proper guide
Crypt0 is an incredibly speculative and volatile trade, that's why I work with Stephen H Brigg , his experience of the market is overwhelming .
Marry someone who is happy. Great advice.
Howard was one of my professors at HBS. He is a humble man, and a source of great wisdom. I'm honored to have studied with him.
Seems bitter to me, can't get over Trump and his successes.
Definitely not humble, he talks regularly about his books, accomplishments, and how he never made the Forbes list
@@mikedickson1070 You can be proud of your achievements! Yo may not be boastful about it! I think he has not crossed the limits of modesty. Self reference, self depreciation and 'Trump'ing are permitted in a lecture!
Really Good! Thank you for sharing. 🙌
Thank you, professor. Amazing talk.
A lifetime worth of wisdom unpacked in less than an hour. Thank you.
Hello
@@timmcgraw4574 Go away Tim. No one in this section likes your music. You’re washed up. GO. AWAY.
Gonna watch this periodically 🙏
Thank You for your gift Howard. Impactful.
success is getting what you want and happiness is wanting what you get!
So much wisdom packed into fewer than 60 min, wow. Thank you Professor Stevenson, HBS, and UA-cam!
Absolutely amazing content
I love stuff like this. This guy has wisdom and we all benefit from hearing it.
The wisdom in this man is truly astounding. Respect. 🙏🏻
Listening to this guy I feel like I'm on a right path as a 29 year old. I have a lot of things I can be happy about now, and a will to go to a direction that is potentially good for me.
Good for you! Good to read that coming from a young person. Remember, never trust anyone under 30. 😁.
Randy Pausch lectures might interest you. And I assume you already know who Jordan Peterson is.
There are all kinds of talks and lectures online that are fabulous.
Did you ever see the movie, "Catch Me If You Can"? I highly recommend it, and then watch the true, real life guys lecture on UA-cam. Take Care.
🙏 🌎
Being born again is the most important thing one can do in this life.
Lol Im 29 right now as well!
Really happy for you
😊
Amazing wisdom! Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, and helping change our perceptions of success.
This guy is a treasure. Very wise
Incredible talk!!! Very insightful informative and captivating!
Marry a happy person! So true. This man has lots of wisdom to share.
Glad to have found this. It’s wisdom. It’s beautiful.
when you really have built a life where you're successful, you don't need to throw anybody under the bus, you don't need any external measurement, its being at the top of a mountain you've been climbing that doesn't exist for anybody else, but seeing that everybody else has their own mountains too
Juggle through life and catch the falling ball...#deep and also loved the way he ended his speech..." The time for this test is rest of your life...or lets say today is the first day of your rest of your life..." 👌
Wisdoms worth sharing. Thanks
Superb speech! Thank you for sharing...
This lecture spoke to my soul
Wow, what a speaker. He brings calmness to the moment when listening after a long day.
Thank you for this gem !
8 YEARS LATER & HIS ADVICE LIVES ON, THANK YOU SIR!!!
Say it again
This type of advice will live on for 800+ years
1. achievement (who are we comparing ourselves to? past, present, or future? positive drivers or negative drivers ? )
twins >>> envy, greed, and fear OR recognition, pride and mastery
2. significance (I want to help other people, but who to help, and what i want to do for it? an internal and external choice)
twins >>> fairness, generosity, and caring [external] OR power and selfish
3. happiness (me and now)
twins >>> contentment, fulfilment OR laziness gluttony
4. legacy (other people define our legacy, our impact in the future) are uncorrelated.
twins >>> altruism and generative desire OR fear of death and need for control
Paradox example: an increase in legacy means a decrease in achievement.
> impact about me alone or others?
> context: ski to where the puck will be not where it is now.
> values: family influences.
> juggling and not balance
* Life has a timeline, as in we have different focus at different stage. (Why does it have to be that way? I will need to decide on my own.)
* Part 3: What is enough? (what are your values? measure my way of giving away money)
* Frank Batton (Landmark Communications): "Profit is constraint, not my goal. If I don't make enough money, I will be out of business. But it I make too much, that means I am not reinvesting enough into my people, community, and product."
* Inflection point: Is this freeing me in making a change in my direction?
* Culture matters: I might have failed in the wrong culture.
* Do not try to change the past, learn from it, and move forward.
* Get specific advice from specific people.
* ripples > splash
* Nothing is wrong with money, but the riches of your life won't be measure by it.
thanks
Thank you!
Thanks
its gibberish but thnx for the effort
One of the most entertaining and fulfilling lectures I've heard in a while
I didn't understand anything. My best theory is that, when he finishes with "who are you", it means "now go build YOUR life"
Incredible wisdom.
When you love what you do and it shows.
The Falling Ball. The pain in his voice says everything. Brilliant talk.
Thank you very much Professor Stevenson. I came across this lecture just to listen for a few minutes and I ended up listening to the whole lecture. I feel so enlightened by his lecture. I am one of those ripples from a stone that he threw.
Live and grew up in Amarillo. Too many times I’ve wondered how I got there! Great advice and helping shift my perspective on success and happiness.
My father died with his bride of 50+ years that he loved deeply and his 7 children and his 30+ grandchildren around him. Extremely loved. The world would not look at him as a success but when I walked away from the body, I realized he was a great success. His last act was to make the sign of the cross as his trusted his last to his God. Read Eccliastes and you will see the things that are vanity and the things are worth it.
Wow
That’s very beautiful.
I teared up reading your beautiful comment, god rest his soul 😇
What an engaging, inspiring speaker. I think watching this video was one of those positive inflection points for me.
These subtile subjects are what my community really need!
We are on the track, I enjoyed; thanks
Which community?
Thank you for sharing this with us. Alot of us dont have a parental figure with helpful answers on the trajectory of life. Thank you.
I'm so grateful, thank you so much for sharing! I got so many notes to apply!
“My wife leaving was an inflection point”. ..that hits hard.
Wouldnt have expected that kind parabola.
What are the chances that I would read your comment exactly when he said this sentence?
I loved how he opened with the fact he died (and by all accounts should be dead) and you know in that moment he is going to give you the goods. This guy has nothing left to hold back or sugar coat. What an amazing video. How does this only have 700K views? The one I loved was the point about juggling. Every time you touch a ball you give it energy. Every time we "touch" something in our lives we need to give it energy.
It now has 12 m views
yes
@@AMAANBG not quite, lol
@@FireyOG I think he meant 1.2 (now 1.5m) or i. Do not know :)
Now 1.7m, going up quick
Thank you!
So I just watched a fantastic presentation from Harvard that was held 8 years ago. What a time to be alive!
Exactly what a time!! I’m 35 years old and when I was 21 watching this lecture wouldn’t have even been a possibility for this small town girl ❤️
Listening to this was definitely one of the best hours I have ever spent.
I feel less smart after listening to this
@@drfrisker sorry to hear that
I am very happy to be less smart than people like this. It's incredibly unlikely that intelligence level correlates to happiness.
God bless you Professor.
feel like this is the talk i always wanted with my grandpa -come back to it always
"nothing wrong with money, but the riches of your life won’t be measured by it".
This is so wise!
Live life and create your own path
Thank you for sharing your point of view. This was interesting and a great way to delve deep into the topic and hear a different perspective of some things. This was awesome!
Great Video! Thank you for the advice
juggling analogy around 28:00 is incredible. he's so right
Outstanding wisdom.
Thank you for sharing this with the world.
By those who came before us can we improve...
imagine for half a second if we could improve our happiness generation by generation by learning from each other in the same way we improve our sciences and engineering?
Why can't we?
I certainly hope that I can retain half of his advice.
Obey Jesus Christ or you will go to hell, turn to the Lord before its too late, if you don’t REPENT OF YOUR SINS then you will likewise perish in hell. All liars, fornicators, adulterers, idolaters, blasphemers, whoremongers, thieves, murderers, homosexuals, effeminate, etc, will not inherit the kingdom of God. Once you turn to the Lord, read the new testament in the bible, the gospels, to develop a relationship with God. God bless you all. Turn to Jesus, repent or perish, turn or burn.
Hello
Very insightful lecture, thank you!
What a great lecture full of insights
Man this is really good advice and depression at the same time. It makes everything in life seem so shallow. it's like knowing how the movie ends before watching it.
This was really well done. His casual manner of speaking and knowing humour add a wisdom and ease of absorption that make his talk educational and enjoyable.
I just wanted to say that I'm super thankful 🙏🙏🙏
I love HBS lectures, hoping I get to sit in on one.
Some people are here just like: “alright let me attend Harvard for at least an hour”😂
I'm bitches
Lmao
That's me right now in the office 😅
I’m in the back seat 😂😂
I felt that
An excellent talk. I wish some of the slides were shown.
wow this is really good!...need more lectures from this guy's class!!
Needed this.
im a rutgers student and i inculcate this speech in my life. you're awesome sir
"You'll wait, the ice cream will melt, let's have the ice cream now".
unless you enjoy milkshakes
wow
I really enjoyed this
Very honest and useful thank you
This prof is awesome!
You know someone's about to share some wisdom when they start off by saying they've already died! In all honesty, great talk, I am still amazed by the fact that we have so many valuable resources available to us... truly grateful!
This man is above genius.
The way he analogizes he makes it clearer than the Nevadan sky.
Fantastic work! Glad I stumbled upon this.
this is one of the best videos I have just watched today... thanks for sharing ,,,,
Great talk! This professor makes me feel like he’s speaking to me.
me too
this professor is just amazing
yes your right
Just the lesson I needed to hear for the day. Anyone have similar talks they can recommend?
Great video.
Really appreciate the opportunity to watch this humble and great man.
Any MBA questions let me know. Here's a walking tour of Harvard yard. ua-cam.com/video/AkAeYVFKCjI/v-deo.html
Thanks for someone who uploaded this.
"Certain neurosis help you to achieve." That is spot on!
I can't say one way or the other if that's true. For me being dirt poor did the trick for me, because while growing up I told myself God made a mistake this hellhole was NOT supposed to be my life. I made my money investing in rental property. For a high school graduate I do pretty good.
@@micaonyx5301 Reading your story and others like it is such an inspiration to me. After being a homemaker for almost a decade I’m now at a crossroad to begin building my own career and I desire a similar story to yours. I want so very much to build multiple businesses and solid tech skills alongside my writing. Thank you for making my day better ❤️
@@ShadaeMastersAstrology I wish you great success. I'm 61 and have been doing the landlord thing since I was 27. I'm looking into starting a new business. I can't imagine retiring and sitting in front of a TV, how boring is that.
@@micaonyx5301 I wish you further success in all of your endeavors ❤️
Great session.
Im excited to watch this video. Thanks Harvard!
This is what I play when my niece comes over. I mean harvard lectures. Playing this for my niece right now.
Please post more lectures of this guy
he is pretty cool ;o
Seriously homie is the man. I wonder how much he charges as a life coach lol
No
Boy hedge fund guy can blab about how caring for others leads to happiness
@@2random628 I guess it's easier to believe every hedge fund is corrupt and selfish then to see people as ranging humans with different morals, wants and beliefs.
We need more lectures like this one. His emphasise that life is like juggling balls I.e. areas of your life is the most practical. This along with knowing what you want from all the balls you are juggling is essential.
👏 This has been a great spotlight to watch. Indeed, now thinking about it, old days mom depended so much on Reader’s Digest ( in the mail). In line with that, we are so fortunate to have leading Universities post their valuable knowledge (both in theory and action) so unconditionally!
Equally, I find the comments here - those posted 10 years ago and even those posted so recently - so experienced & so hands on! 👏
This is my first time seeing this gentleman, not sure why he showed up in my suggestion but glad he did. To me one of the saddest thing in the world is measuring your success by other people and trying to keep up or even out do them even though it's NOT what you actually want. I compete with myself and only me, so when my friends achieve success I'm genuinely happy for them because their success doesn't diminish mines.
I'm loving all the little snips at Trump from 2013.
trump must have fucked his wife....dude is more obsessed with trump than cnnn its weird
Wonderfully Insightful
"everybodys outside looks better than my inside" is especially true nowadays where social media plays such a big role in our society
Great talk! Most talks on how to lead your life are targeted to people who are failing life, it’s nice to hear one that’s targeted to people who are succeeding in life. Even the top dogs need guidance.
Your comment kinda suggests you missed the point of the lecture
@@ralphfraz and your comment suggest you missed the point of the video
1. strive for accomplishment and a legacy
2. happiness is a mixture of different things; juggling your goals according to set limits is a useful skill.
Thank you!!
Bro I definitely share the same feeling with you!!!!
very insightful man, great speaker
The only experience that necessarily happens with age is the aging process itself. Don't confuse "experiencing" and "aging" as complete synonyms.
True, but assuming you are moderately intelligent. You'll likely gain experience with aging.
I use this video when I have trouble sleeping
Great speech. Thank you Mr. Stevenson and Harvard.
Awesome speech!
The biggest mistake most people make is trusting others instead of themselves