Dude in story three was so proud of himself for being besties with a leopard, then was shocked to find out that leopard wanted to eat his fiance's face
Honestly, the whole story is PERFECT reddit food, so it kind of screams "fake story" to me. I'm not religious, but like 98% of my Christian (of any denomination) friends are genuinely good people. Also, I hate the label of "racism" in stories, because us as the listener are often not privy to enough information to make a judgement on that. Making a comment on how American Universitys' are bringing in more students from other countries than our own, and giving them government scholarships using American taxpayer money is a reasonable topic. It's not inherently racist. I'm not saying it wasn't said in a racist way, but how would I know? I've seen people called racist just because they want to have a honest discussion about how they and their children are expected to pay more and more taxes every year to support people from other countries, while our own education, Healthcare, and other systems continue to erode. I'm starting to honestly hate the word "racism", because it seems to just be a word that is used to control the speech of others. Honestly, im not excusing the people in this story, they sound horrible, but my younger sister calls my catholic relatives "racist monsters" so often that I've become extremely skeptical of people using all these buzzwords. Non-secular people just seem to have this huge need to prove they're so much more moral than religious folks, and i just don't see that reflected in real life. We're all human, meaning we all have great capacity for good or evil at almost any moment.
@@cricket5692 as a poc I think you just live on another planet, because I can assure you the amount of people who claim non-racist things as racist is a MASSIVE minority. Complaining about another race "invading" your spaces is nothing short of racist and its honestly baffling to me that you're trying to go through massive mental gymnastics to claim otherwise. I mean seriously.... That's the problem right there! You are taking something actually racist: white people disliking asians because they feel like they are being "invasive". And associating it with something completely different (aka non-racist): The U.S putting more resources towards non-citizens vs actual citizens... Just to act like it's usage is an issue. When it's not. I am not sure if you realize this, but those two are not the same in any way. I think you know that, though. Like the difference is pretty clear. So I will pass the same advice my therapist gave to me, and recommend you do some self reflection and think about why you feel the need to do that. Like I cannot name a SINGLE other poc who calls people "racist" over.... Complaining about taxes. Be so serious. They WILL call you racist if you start *ranting* about people from those countries and how inferiors or undeserving of decent lives they are, though. Which, again... Is not the same as "complaining about paying more taxes". "Also, I hate the label of "racism" in stories, because us as the listener are often not privy to enough information to make a judgement on that." Here's the thing... A person telling you a story knows more context than you ever will. You just have to work with that. Why in the world would you try to act like you know more than the person who was actually there?? Trying to dig into a story beyond the information you have been given is, quiet frankly, a complete and utter waste of time. And it makes you look like a know-it-all with a massive ego. When you enter middle school and you start learning about analysis and context clues, they teach you to make a conclusion *using what the author has given you*, you don't pull shit out of thin air just because you "don't have enough information". That's called making things up. When you read a story, your job is to work with that story. Not make shit up. That's not what you are supposed to do. Unless you want to write a fanfic I guess.
S2: As much as OP wants to skip the court date, which I completely understand why, but if he skips he could very easily lose custody of the kids completely. Also if he knows there's a friendly connection between MIL etc and the judge, Dad could file a complaint based on the judges preferential treatment towards that side of the family instead of what he should be basing decisions on which is what's best for the kids. But do NOT skip court otherwise you WILL lose your kids. I hope everything works out for the family and they remain safe with the dad and away from psycho grandma.
Last story: The 1 phrase that kept going through my mind: Guilty by association. I'm not so sure that OP doesn't hold some of the beliefs of his friends. OP Bragged about being able to be friends with people who have such disgusting beliefs and ideas. I was floored. He had no clue how that made him look stupid, pathetic and disgusting. I really don't understand why/how his gal accepted his proposal for marriage.
"They're hateful people who put other people down, but it hasn't affected me personally, so it's all fine." The friends were massive red flags, but this guy's almost as red of a flag. Just because he's not openly racist, he thinks he's a great guy and in no way allowing racism to go unchecked
3rd story, having friends who don’t share the same political/social beliefs is not the same as having friends who advocate against human rights. There are some things that simply cannot be separated no matter how much we would like to believe they can. If your friends are racist/homophobic/sexist & you stay silent to ‘keep the peace/friendships, your silence is an endorsement their beliefs. In the words of Angela Davis, ‘In a racist society it is not enough to be non-racist, we must be anti racist.’ It’s an uncomfortable truth, but when you accept a racist/bigot in your social circle & don’t call them out, you are condoning racism. People like OP are a major reason why we have so many problems in this world. They believe they are smart & mature because they can put their differences aside to get along with others, failing to see how incredibly ignorant they actually are. If everyone behaved this way, no social justice movement would ever succeed. They see turning a blind eye to injustice as simply ‘minding their own business.’ Worst of all, he only (finally!) called out his friends behavior when it personally affected him. There are many situations that people might feel apathetic about until they or someone close to them experiences it, but it should never take a person experiencing what his fiancé did to realize how disgusting his friends are. They weren’t shy about voicing their disdain for several marginalized groups, their ignorance & hate were on full display. OP just didn’t see those things as an issue until they were directed at the woman he loves. I’m honestly surprised his fiancé stayed with him. I’d be seriously rethinking my decision to spend my life with someone & would be significantly concerned when I learned BM was his closest friend. Not just because I’d be worried that he might be just as awful & possibly very stupid, but the thought of having to frequently socialize with such terrible people is almost unbearable. I can only hope that OP learned a huge lesson from this & will do much better from now on. Remember, you are the company you keep!
That whole poem about "They came for everyone and then no one was left to stand up for me..." that poem was made for people like the OP in the 3rd story. 3rd OP is all "They are only racist against Black people, so what's wrong? Their homophobia doesn’t affect me either, so meh 🤷🏼♂️" Then when it finally came close to him, then it was a problem. A gem of a dude.
St1 They’re still showing favouritism towards Sally, seems they won’t ever learn until Sally puts them into debt and they hit rock bottom, if that happens hopefully it’s after the youngest siblings move out.
Story 1 at last the consequences of their parents actions come back to bite them in the butt but even so they will never recognizes nor change their mind about her golden child. Story 2 i hope op can cancel the judge verdict before that crazy woman does harm to his kids. Story 3 at last op saw the true colors of his besr friend and wife.
Story 2: she just needs to show all the evidence that mil is the worst parent on earth and find another judge because you can change judges if you feel they are biased towards you.
Story 2 I looked up his profile on Reddit and he doesn't have any updates yet though he did have a post on legal advice and no one is giving him advice
I dropped nearly 2k back in college to help out my best friend get evidence his 304 wife was cheating so he could divorce her. I had a fairly decent sized nest egg due to all my earnings being put away from age 15. Also OP had 75k from a trust his grandparents set up.
Being religious person doesn't make you judgmental but being judgmental and blaming it on your religion makes you judgmental, and nobody is obligated to remain in contact with any group of people just because he is used to them, especially after showing that both have drifted apart or that one person's opinions/character doesn't align with each other
@@cameron765Well I personally believe that everybody is judgmental in their own way and to certain degrees however, you don't need to show and flaunt your judgments around everybody and you can just keep people from knowing about your bigoted opinions at every chance
That 3rd story was annoying af like bro was proud to say he is friends with someone who would willingly own a person if he could but hitting on his gf/wife was the line 🤣 dude needs some therapy and to take a class in discrimination and racism
Dude in story three was so proud of himself for being besties with a leopard, then was shocked to find out that leopard wanted to eat his fiance's face
Story 2: How the hell did she get access when she almost never had access to them, especially with bad past records?
OP had a lousy lawyer and evidently the lawyer for exMIL had an in with the judge.
He mentioned her lawyer being a friend of the judge
The judge and her lawyer
don't you just love small town corruption
If the lawyer and the judge are friends can't you force the court to get a new judge to do that? Idk law
The parents raised a monster and are crying now that its gone on a rampage.
Pretty sure that the OP in the 2nd story could petition for a new judge due to conflict of interest.
Guy, in the third story: "Yeah, my friend hates black people, but WE'RE not black. So, how can he be racist?"
Honestly, the whole story is PERFECT reddit food, so it kind of screams "fake story" to me. I'm not religious, but like 98% of my Christian (of any denomination) friends are genuinely good people. Also, I hate the label of "racism" in stories, because us as the listener are often not privy to enough information to make a judgement on that. Making a comment on how American Universitys' are bringing in more students from other countries than our own, and giving them government scholarships using American taxpayer money is a reasonable topic. It's not inherently racist. I'm not saying it wasn't said in a racist way, but how would I know? I've seen people called racist just because they want to have a honest discussion about how they and their children are expected to pay more and more taxes every year to support people from other countries, while our own education, Healthcare, and other systems continue to erode. I'm starting to honestly hate the word "racism", because it seems to just be a word that is used to control the speech of others.
Honestly, im not excusing the people in this story, they sound horrible, but my younger sister calls my catholic relatives "racist monsters" so often that I've become extremely skeptical of people using all these buzzwords. Non-secular people just seem to have this huge need to prove they're so much more moral than religious folks, and i just don't see that reflected in real life. We're all human, meaning we all have great capacity for good or evil at almost any moment.
@@cricket5692 as a poc I think you just live on another planet, because I can assure you the amount of people who claim non-racist things as racist is a MASSIVE minority. Complaining about another race "invading" your spaces is nothing short of racist and its honestly baffling to me that you're trying to go through massive mental gymnastics to claim otherwise.
I mean seriously.... That's the problem right there!
You are taking something actually racist: white people disliking asians because they feel like they are being "invasive".
And associating it with something completely different (aka non-racist): The U.S putting more resources towards non-citizens vs actual citizens...
Just to act like it's usage is an issue. When it's not.
I am not sure if you realize this, but those two are not the same in any way. I think you know that, though. Like the difference is pretty clear. So I will pass the same advice my therapist gave to me, and recommend you do some self reflection and think about why you feel the need to do that.
Like I cannot name a SINGLE other poc who calls people "racist" over.... Complaining about taxes. Be so serious. They WILL call you racist if you start *ranting* about people from those countries and how inferiors or undeserving of decent lives they are, though. Which, again... Is not the same as "complaining about paying more taxes".
"Also, I hate the label of "racism" in stories, because us as the listener are often not privy to enough information to make a judgement on that."
Here's the thing... A person telling you a story knows more context than you ever will. You just have to work with that. Why in the world would you try to act like you know more than the person who was actually there??
Trying to dig into a story beyond the information you have been given is, quiet frankly, a complete and utter waste of time. And it makes you look like a know-it-all with a massive ego. When you enter middle school and you start learning about analysis and context clues, they teach you to make a conclusion *using what the author has given you*, you don't pull shit out of thin air just because you "don't have enough information". That's called making things up.
When you read a story, your job is to work with that story. Not make shit up. That's not what you are supposed to do. Unless you want to write a fanfic I guess.
Soundest logic to ever be spoken....(not)
S2: As much as OP wants to skip the court date, which I completely understand why, but if he skips he could very easily lose custody of the kids completely. Also if he knows there's a friendly connection between MIL etc and the judge, Dad could file a complaint based on the judges preferential treatment towards that side of the family instead of what he should be basing decisions on which is what's best for the kids. But do NOT skip court otherwise you WILL lose your kids. I hope everything works out for the family and they remain safe with the dad and away from psycho grandma.
Last story: The 1 phrase that kept going through my mind: Guilty by association. I'm not so sure that OP doesn't hold some of the beliefs of his friends. OP Bragged about being able to be friends with people who have such disgusting beliefs and ideas. I was floored. He had no clue how that made him look stupid, pathetic and disgusting. I really don't understand why/how his gal accepted his proposal for marriage.
"They're hateful people who put other people down, but it hasn't affected me personally, so it's all fine." The friends were massive red flags, but this guy's almost as red of a flag. Just because he's not openly racist, he thinks he's a great guy and in no way allowing racism to go unchecked
Nah his friends is pretty based
@@cameron765”no hiths friendths are basthed”☝🏻🤓
@@dylancoykendall554
BRUH
@@cameron765 "pretty based" ?
The judge should be sued mental problems and other things
So in the last story, he says you can be a snake as long as you don't bite me. Damn, he's stupid and borderline agrees with them
3rd story, having friends who don’t share the same political/social beliefs is not the same as having friends who advocate against human rights. There are some things that simply cannot be separated no matter how much we would like to believe they can. If your friends are racist/homophobic/sexist & you stay silent to ‘keep the peace/friendships, your silence is an endorsement their beliefs.
In the words of Angela Davis, ‘In a racist society it is not enough to be non-racist, we must be anti racist.’ It’s an uncomfortable truth, but when you accept a racist/bigot in your social circle & don’t call them out, you are condoning racism.
People like OP are a major reason why we have so many problems in this world. They believe they are smart & mature because they can put their differences aside to get along with others, failing to see how incredibly ignorant they actually are. If everyone behaved this way, no social justice movement would ever succeed. They see turning a blind eye to injustice as simply ‘minding their own business.’ Worst of all, he only (finally!) called out his friends behavior when it personally affected him.
There are many situations that people might feel apathetic about until they or someone close to them experiences it, but it should never take a person experiencing what his fiancé did to realize how disgusting his friends are. They weren’t shy about voicing their disdain for several marginalized groups, their ignorance & hate were on full display. OP just didn’t see those things as an issue until they were directed at the woman he loves.
I’m honestly surprised his fiancé stayed with him. I’d be seriously rethinking my decision to spend my life with someone & would be significantly concerned when I learned BM was his closest friend. Not just because I’d be worried that he might be just as awful & possibly very stupid, but the thought of having to frequently socialize with such terrible people is almost unbearable.
I can only hope that OP learned a huge lesson from this & will do much better from now on. Remember, you are the company you keep!
That whole poem about "They came for everyone and then no one was left to stand up for me..." that poem was made for people like the OP in the 3rd story.
3rd OP is all "They are only racist against Black people, so what's wrong? Their homophobia doesn’t affect me either, so meh 🤷🏼♂️" Then when it finally came close to him, then it was a problem. A gem of a dude.
St1
They’re still showing favouritism towards Sally, seems they won’t ever learn until Sally puts them into debt and they hit rock bottom, if that happens hopefully it’s after the youngest siblings move out.
Story 1 at last the consequences of their parents actions come back to bite them in the butt but even so they will never recognizes nor change their mind about her golden child. Story 2 i hope op can cancel the judge verdict before that crazy woman does harm to his kids. Story 3 at last op saw the true colors of his besr friend and wife.
I don't like the last OP at all
He got better by the end
@@dylancoykendall554 Not really. He's still an idiot about many things.
Story 3
Silence or neutrality only ever serves the aggressor.
Story #1:
OP = NTA
The World's Smallest Violins 👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻 for Sally and bio - _-"parents"-_ Anna & Tonny
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Story 2: she just needs to show all the evidence that mil is the worst parent on earth and find another judge because you can change judges if you feel they are biased towards you.
Ah, sweet, sweet Karma.😊
Only 1.4k for a PI investigation? Not a bad price 🤔
Waste of money could have told Andrew to go through her phone for free lol
Story 2 I looked up his profile on Reddit and he doesn't have any updates yet though he did have a post on legal advice and no one is giving him advice
Damn
1. I dont get why these parents had more kids after sally, they obviously only wanted her
Your wife did tell you, you just didn't listen
Genuinely asking, did I miss the part where entitled sis got with baby sis's crush??
2nd story has me angry for op. The system does men so wrong when it comes to their children.
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Story 1 has to be fake no way a college kid is dropping 1.4k on a PI
I dropped nearly 2k back in college to help out my best friend get evidence his 304 wife was cheating so he could divorce her. I had a fairly decent sized nest egg due to all my earnings being put away from age 15. Also OP had 75k from a trust his grandparents set up.
Story 3 I like how the girlfriend thinks religious people are only judgmental like liberal people is even more judgmental
Are you the friend from the story
@@dylancoykendall554
Yeah how you know
Being religious person doesn't make you judgmental but being judgmental and blaming it on your religion makes you judgmental, and nobody is obligated to remain in contact with any group of people just because he is used to them, especially after showing that both have drifted apart or that one person's opinions/character doesn't align with each other
@@mohamedemad2051
It is impossible to be part of an idiology and not be judgemental
@@cameron765Well I personally believe that everybody is judgmental in their own way and to certain degrees however, you don't need to show and flaunt your judgments around everybody and you can just keep people from knowing about your bigoted opinions at every chance
That 3rd story was annoying af like bro was proud to say he is friends with someone who would willingly own a person if he could but hitting on his gf/wife was the line 🤣 dude needs some therapy and to take a class in discrimination and racism