Needed this pep talk. I’ve been feeling confident and at peace about my waiting season but my faith was shaken today- I had a conversation with a couple of “friends” who made me feel lame for not having someone, and made me feel like I’m doing something wrong or not doing enough, etc. They don’t understand that I’m just trying to focus on myself until God brings that man for me. At the end of the day, I’m not moving or acting unless God says so first 🤷🏾♀️
I'm so glad that it was timely and so sorry your friends made you feel that way! You are exactly where God wants you to be and trusting in Him is far from lame!
True. But even married people get lonely. Even people with many friends get lonely too. Loneliness will always be a part of life. But God is always there…and he provides. Trust trust trust Him. If anyone understands loneliness, it’s Jesus. He knows our hearts the best ❤️🙏🏻 Thanks for the message, sis.
Using your singleness season to prepare yourself is so important! I spent 2 years focusing on God and on building myself to be a better person, get rid of my bad habits and focus on God. It taught me so much about myself and my relationship with christ. Sadly a counterfit came along and the devil tried to trick me into thinking hes the one, and I ended up breaking up with him 5 months later due to many red flags he was showing me... I'm still hopeful and waiting on my godly husband and my kingdom marriage . I know God has an amazing husband for me and he will bring him when we are both ready
This deeply means more to me than you can imagine, I felt that way many times years ago and not like I do today, I feel lonely sometimes, but I've gotten to know myself better including accepting and embracing being single for now, especially with a good job and having my own apartment, my mind can mix with different emotions including pain from past relationships making me lose desire for a husband in the future or knowing what I can and cannot bring to the table, I'm still working on bettering myself, growing up with parents that were overstrict doing more harm than good and seeing my mom put up with my dad's abuse until she realized it was best to divorce him really caused me to attract the wrong guys and be attracted to toxic relationships when I hit my late teen years and 20s, I've learned over the years what type of men I no longer desire and recognize red flags. Here are questions for upcoming videos: Is it normal to have mixed emotions feeling desire and no desire for a spouse? What are some healthy steps to let go of hurts from past relationships? Lately more guys outside my race show interest, is that a sign of something? Do men today still tend to know more about yardwork and other house repairs than females? Thanks as always Heather 🙏
I'm not Heather, but I've never had any hang-ups on a guy's race. In fact, I grew up around predominantly white people and thus found myself liking white boys! (; I also feel God doesn't want us to get stuck on race either. Through the experiences that you've had, maybe it's showing you to be more open-minded.
Thank you so much for sharing Morgan, I think many of us can relate to your experience. My parents divorced when I was 11 and my husband's parents are also divorced, so just know there is always hope and you can be the CHANGE in your family's legacy. Thank you so much for your questions as well - I've noted them for an upcoming video 🥰
Thank you Heather for this video, always encouraging to listen to you!! I have one observation about Christian community, the Bible says that you shouldn’t be conform to this world but renew our mind in the word of God. But yet I hear often Christians saying how “ lonely “ they feel especially on Valentine’s Day, its not Biblical, why allow ourselves to be affected by that? Please share with me your thoughts. Xo
I'm so glad that it encouraged you! I think we all experience emotion, and that's completely normal, okay, and even healthy. Even Jesus wept when Lazarus died. He knew he was not gone forever, yet he wept with sympathy for Mary and Martha's sorrow. I believe He has deep compassion for us and the emotions that we feel. It's how we deal with those emotions that matters the most.
Heather you really encouraged me on the video on how you waited on your husband.I just wanna wait on God I don't want to get heartbroken anymore.My life is so sad right now am getting over my ex n I don't know if I'll ever be able to love another the way I loved him.It really sucks
I'm so sorry that you are going through that right now, Betty! I have been there and felt that exact same way. But I promise you, it will get better and your heart will heal. Although it may not feel like it right now, you can experience greater love and love that will last.
@@HeatherDanielleMitchell Thanks dear,Am happy to know that you felt that too and you were able to get over it, Just that my age is really catching up on me n my peers are already getting married, getting engaged.. Sometimes I feel like I'll never find a husband boyfriend like my ex,It really sucks on top of it He left me for someone he just met,am struggling with self esteem issues,I feel impatient,hurt, have lost direction.Just alot of negative emotions,I keep wondering why he didn't choose me,I did everything..Now all the good memories we shared are crushing me,It feels like I have a heart desease that has no cure
How long where you single before you met your husband it’s easy to talk when you already have a husband. Some us have been waiting for years? And are losing hope. Especially after many fail tries with the wrong people I’m not trying to be rude but I know their are many women who feel this way.
We all have to be single before we meet our husband and for me it felt very long. I married at 31 and there may be people who wait longer than that, but it doesn't diminish my experience. I'm sharing from a place of having experienced the struggle.
Needed this pep talk. I’ve been feeling confident and at peace about my waiting season but my faith was shaken today- I had a conversation with a couple of “friends” who made me feel lame for not having someone, and made me feel like I’m doing something wrong or not doing enough, etc. They don’t understand that I’m just trying to focus on myself until God brings that man for me. At the end of the day, I’m not moving or acting unless God says so first 🤷🏾♀️
I'm so glad that it was timely and so sorry your friends made you feel that way! You are exactly where God wants you to be and trusting in Him is far from lame!
Precious video . I’m french and christian and I can be frustrated because I would like to be entierely satisfy in God. I would like to offer Him that.
True. But even married people get lonely. Even people with many friends get lonely too. Loneliness will always be a part of life. But God is always there…and he provides. Trust trust trust Him. If anyone understands loneliness, it’s Jesus. He knows our hearts the best ❤️🙏🏻 Thanks for the message, sis.
Exactly, well said 💕
Using your singleness season to prepare yourself is so important! I spent 2 years focusing on God and on building myself to be a better person, get rid of my bad habits and focus on God. It taught me so much about myself and my relationship with christ. Sadly a counterfit came along and the devil tried to trick me into thinking hes the one, and I ended up breaking up with him 5 months later due to many red flags he was showing me... I'm still hopeful and waiting on my godly husband and my kingdom marriage . I know God has an amazing husband for me and he will bring him when we are both ready
3 minutes in, I just want to thank you for sharing. The Lord is faithful, and I’m super grateful I found your channel💖
You are the big sister I never had but always wanted 🥰 thanks a lot for the advise! God bless you and your family.
You are so sweet Sara 💕 thank you so much for say that. I am so glad it helped ☺️
Thank you my internet friend 💕
This deeply means more to me than you can imagine, I felt that way many times years ago and not like I do today, I feel lonely sometimes, but I've gotten to know myself better including accepting and embracing being single for now, especially with a good job and having my own apartment, my mind can mix with different emotions including pain from past relationships making me lose desire for a husband in the future or knowing what I can and cannot bring to the table, I'm still working on bettering myself, growing up with parents that were overstrict doing more harm than good and seeing my mom put up with my dad's abuse until she realized it was best to divorce him really caused me to attract the wrong guys and be attracted to toxic relationships when I hit my late teen years and 20s, I've learned over the years what type of men I no longer desire and recognize red flags. Here are questions for upcoming videos:
Is it normal to have mixed emotions feeling desire and no desire for a spouse?
What are some healthy steps to let go of hurts from past relationships?
Lately more guys outside my race show interest, is that a sign of something?
Do men today still tend to know more about yardwork and other house repairs than females?
Thanks as always Heather 🙏
I'm not Heather, but I've never had any hang-ups on a guy's race. In fact, I grew up around predominantly white people and thus found myself liking white boys! (;
I also feel God doesn't want us to get stuck on race either. Through the experiences that you've had, maybe it's showing you to be more open-minded.
Thank you so much for sharing Morgan, I think many of us can relate to your experience. My parents divorced when I was 11 and my husband's parents are also divorced, so just know there is always hope and you can be the CHANGE in your family's legacy. Thank you so much for your questions as well - I've noted them for an upcoming video 🥰
Thank you Heather 🙏🌹❤
You are so welcome Asel. So glad you enjoyed ❤️❤️
Thank you Heather for this video, always encouraging to listen to you!! I have one observation about Christian community, the Bible says that you shouldn’t be conform to this world but renew our mind in the word of God. But yet I hear often Christians saying how “ lonely “ they feel especially on Valentine’s Day, its not Biblical, why allow ourselves to be affected by that? Please share with me your thoughts. Xo
I'm so glad that it encouraged you! I think we all experience emotion, and that's completely normal, okay, and even healthy. Even Jesus wept when Lazarus died. He knew he was not gone forever, yet he wept with sympathy for Mary and Martha's sorrow. I believe He has deep compassion for us and the emotions that we feel. It's how we deal with those emotions that matters the most.
Great video, thank you!
Thank you Sofia 💕 so glad you liked it 😊
Heather you really encouraged me on the video on how you waited on your husband.I just wanna wait on God I don't want to get heartbroken anymore.My life is so sad right now am getting over my ex n I don't know if I'll ever be able to love another the way I loved him.It really sucks
I'm so sorry that you are going through that right now, Betty! I have been there and felt that exact same way. But I promise you, it will get better and your heart will heal. Although it may not feel like it right now, you can experience greater love and love that will last.
@@HeatherDanielleMitchell Thanks dear,Am happy to know that you felt that too and you were able to get over it, Just that my age is really catching up on me n my peers are already getting married, getting engaged.. Sometimes I feel like I'll never find a husband boyfriend like my ex,It really sucks on top of it He left me for someone he just met,am struggling with self esteem issues,I feel impatient,hurt, have lost direction.Just alot of negative emotions,I keep wondering why he didn't choose me,I did everything..Now all the good memories we shared are crushing me,It feels like I have a heart desease that has no cure
@@bettygikunda how do you feel now?
How long where you single before you met your husband it’s easy to talk when you already have a husband. Some us have been waiting for years? And are losing hope. Especially after many fail tries with the wrong people I’m not trying to be rude but I know their are many women who feel this way.
We all have to be single before we meet our husband and for me it felt very long. I married at 31 and there may be people who wait longer than that, but it doesn't diminish my experience. I'm sharing from a place of having experienced the struggle.
I don't have partner i tried a lot my luck is bad in this thing 🙃🥺