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Divesting from the "natural hair community" was GREAT for me tbh. | Ti Talks (and Detangles)
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- Опубліковано 10 вер 2020
- My last hair video EVER??? 😳
(Spoiler: nah. Maybe! But, nah, probz not.)
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"Colorism walks so texturism can run"
This statement is so powerful it's not even funny.
That part. and can you imagine if lighter skin was called grade "a" and darker skin was labeled grade "c". If pale skin was called #1, tan skin #2, medium brown skin #3, and dark brown skin #4?
Would people actually embrace such a skin-color-scale?
Would people actually say that Beyoncé has 2b skin and Kelly Rowland has 3c skin?
Right I had to steal that quote for Facebook lol
Yes!
Yesssssss!!!!!!
This woman is the truth!
"The vast majority of people are more interested in seeing the hair they wish they had rather than learning to care for the hair they actually have."
Yes!!!! Absolutely!!!!!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
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Facts😓 they desire to be seen as beautiful instead of embracing their natural hair type
Which is why Instagram "baddies" and fake fitness woketivists generally have more followers.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
OMG...the obsession with "baby hair" makes me insane! I do not understand it!
😂😂😂😂😂🌻🌞🌈🦄🤸🏽♀️🇿🇦
For reall😫 I see every single black girl in my school slapping pounds of gel on their edges, and I'm like "why, what's the point?"
I meen it looks nice ig, but idk why they gotta buy all this stuff just to fit in.
I personally do my hair and than use my satin scarf over night, and it lays my edges down just fine without no swoops and "baby-born" forehead curl😂😂😂😂
Whatever floats their boat ig, they ain't hurtin me w what they do, so ima just stay in my business 👀
It looks ridiculous
Baby hair looks sooo fake and ridiculous why why why
Yes, I hate the looks of it, definitely not for me
It was so disheartening when I came to my hbcu and noticed the only people who wore their natural hair out had lose textures. People would fawn over my afro because it was so rare to see someone with 4C hair. It’s hard to keep confidence when you see everyone with your hair is ashamed of it but I wanna be an example for younger black girls
Yes...if we wear natural kinky hair out.. People make comments like.... What's wrong with your hair
So happy you gave a shoutout to StarPuppy. Her hair is 4c, short, thin, and fine. She doesn’t have any of the "desirable" hair traits, but I’m 100% sure that in one way or another she represents the majority of black women’s hair. She’s not letting texturism control her.
She's amazing..I love her😫
And her skin is PERFECT!!! I'm so jealous.
her hair isn’t short😂
@@scortez99 She describes her hair as medium short length I think
Her eyes are huge, it looks good on her
Pertaining to the baby hair thing, when people started relaxing their edges so they could lay down when they style them, that’s when I was like okay, I’m out
Lawd -- I'd forgotten that was even a thing. Great point!
Damn, they did that!
I honestly couldn't believe what I was seeing when I watched those videos. Like why??? Why?
I have never been a fan of the baby hair laid down edges. It never looked natural to me.
Donna Middleton If you naturally have baby hair, it’s ok, but some women just have 3 inches of hair breakage that they try to slick down and make it look like baby hair! It usually looks so ridiculous!
Bingo! "People are more interested in seeing the type of hair they wished they had rather than caring for the hair they actually have." Can I steal that quote? You have just summed up the natural hair community with that statement.
And the (horrible) beauty of it is that it applies just as much to houses, rooms, faces, bodies ... could it be that 90% of instagram success is build on this concept?
But isn't that what people usually want to see, what they don't have but aspire to have.
Well said
Can we also talk about the obsession to grow our hair? Like short hair is beautiful too! If their hair isn't at least to their shoulders, some people call themselves 'bald headed'. Why? And people like to talk about shrinkage as if it's something unnatural, but really, there's no such thing as 'shrinkage'! Our hair is naturally curly, that's how it's supposed to be.
It kind of hurts that a perfectly natural process gets such a negative sounding label slapped onto it. I'm quite envious about the volume and texture of curly or even kinky (is that term still in use and okay?) hair. My own 'straight as chives' hair looks so thin in comparison, or just flat and boring.
I know, I know: Always greener on the other side ...
@@Julia-lk8jn I love my natural hair. Wouldn't trade it if I could.
THISS! In the fb natural hair groups I'm a part of, almost everyone is obsessed with hair length. They do the length checks and are always asking how to grow their hair longer. It's okay to want length, but when you hate your hair at the length it's currently at it becomes a problem. And some people's hair isn't meant to be super long.
@@Julia-lk8jn We’re trained by product sellers to want what we don’t have and obsess about minutia rather than appreciating our whole selves because that doesn’t scare us into buying stuff to “fix” our “problem” 😤
I’m so sick of those “stretching” photos and videos. It will be a nice style but they always have to stretch just so you know how long it is. So lame.
I volunteer at the kids department at my church and there are black girls there that look up to me. I always wear my natural hair to church, either in braids, out, or puffs. I want those girls to see that black hair is beautiful. I am only 13 but these girls are 8 years old and I need to engrave this in their spirit while they are young.😊
Jojo.*-* Thank you so much for doing that!! I’m 15 and I try to make sure that when I volunteer at church those little girls see me embracing my hair. It’s girls like you who are gonna help these girls be proud of who they are.
@@kimoralashawn3273 thanks😊
So awesome! Keep inspiring.
Amen
@yeet boii you can wrap your hair around its self. There are a couple videos on UA-cam that show how to do it.
Let's not forget the new "trend" is mislabeling your hair as 4c for clout.
who does that and why? what type of clout?
@@afroliciousTV basically they use the 4c hashtag to garner traffic even tho they know their hair isn't 4c
Facts
like Sakai Jackson love her but she is not 4C
@Jasmine Aurora ummm the ones ik off hand are halfrican beaute, naptural 85, amber ansah, efikzara and natural reign
I’m a white girl with the most 1a hair you can imagine so I know nothing about natural hair but I feel like (almost) every community based around a certain characteristic (hair, body image, body mods, certain mental health conditions ect) becomes so painfully gatekeep-y after a while. Because it attracts people who’s main insecurity is that trait and it becomes a cesspool of toxic, insecure circlejerkers who attack anyone who is actually happy with themselves out of jealousy or some equivalent. It happened to the body positivity community, the natural hair community, it’s just the natural progression of any community that focuses around loving a trait, because people’s insecurities make them toxic
You hit the nail on the head!
Amen. We gotta learn that with skin color too 😔😔
That’s so true. I came across a series of bullet journaling videos talking about how toxic that community is. Apparently people in the journaling community attack other people who journal a slightly different way like it’s “not the correct way to journal”. I guess most groups of people end up turning into groups of over policing jerks.
I agree. Why can’t people just be? It’s just sad that people feel there is a need for all kinds of communities in order to be connected.
Breastfeeding is another one I can think of. Great cause, toxic environment.
OMG!! Thank you for talking about finding weave that matches your hair. 4 years ago I ordered kinky curly hair had it installed and my feedback from family and some friends was surprising. They all did not understand WHY I chose to install hair that looked just like my own hair. UMMM!!! I love my hair, maybe that is why...
"Colorism walks so that texturism can run" please make that t-shirt! I would rock that!
YES.
Same!
Don't know whether to laugh or cry but it's true.
@@TorihappynessBoth.
Yes.
"This whole 1,2,3,type 4 hair functionally is a whole lot like the brown paper bag test" 😳 @11:50
This statement shook me; she was speaking facts.
What's the brown paper bag test?
@@Forevagabby okay I’m gonna explain it in a simple way so I don’t confuse you or my myself lol. But the brown paper bag test was just a test they used to do to see whose skin color was basically “better “ or “preferable .” So to my understanding basically the way you get treated is based on how much melanin you had . So if you were light skin since you’re seen as closer to the white side then you are treated a little better and would probably get more opportunities than your darker skin counterpart . Hope that made sense , and if I’m wrong anyone can feel free to correct me 😊. But if you want more details you should definitely Google it ❤️.
@@Gnabaj02 thx
@@Forevagabby even more simply put, you'd literally not be allowed entry into certain spaces/organizations/conversations if you were darker than the color of a brown paper bag.
This led to things like people leaving those areas they lived in for better communities that accepted their families, some people attempting to marry someone of lighter complexion so their children did not have the same problems, some lighter people attempting to disassociate from it all by having to leave their families altogether and live life "passing as white" or staying but telling their lighter children to leave move on from the family and do so for better jobs, or having their lightskin children grow up thinking they're actually white only for them to be in trouble with their spouse when the color their children came out as is inexplicably brown.. colorism runs deep in the world but especially in the black American community where these types of discrimination practices as the brown paper bag test were things legally in effect against our ancestors from the hateful oppressors to keep us down in every possible way they could scheme and think of.
Thankfully, people who fought against all of this for civil rights have not fought in vain if we live in a day where there are people who do not know about the common issues of the Jim crow era such as this, but it is also not good at all to not know this history so I'm glad you asked. It's important to know. Nobody is born knowing it - I didn't always know it - but it's important to know! May we continue to educate and to outlaw anything that imposes injustice and inflicts evil.
@@aspirehigher6368 Well said girl, well said.
"more interested in seeing the hair they wished they have rather than learning to love the hair they have" 💯
I was a you tube junkie watching all these natural hair videos, then going out buying all these natural hair products until i got tired of it all and went back to the basics. Water , pink oil moisturizer and sealing it with Blue magic, kept my routine simple. deep conditioning, protective styling then BAM i noticed in one yr my hair grew 10 inches. Now being 3 yrs natural and loving it my hair is past bra strap. Ladies go old school. It worked for all of us when we were kids . Our mamas just kept it simple . GO OLD SCHOOL
this part
"Not Nappy. Not Jojoba. You gotta say the whole thing. Its like A Pimp Named Slickback." Aaaaand I subscribed lol.
that was the line that got me also...(especially being from the 6 decades-back-in-da-day" crowd ;) )
Me toooo!!
Saaaaaaame
🤣🤣🤣
Hahahaaa Love herrrr
Finally, someone else who doesn’t care about ‘edges’. Was beginning to think there’s something wrong with me
Same!!
I tried it, failed, and gave up.
Fuck edges
Omg, you guys are sooo funny and sooo right!! Lol
Same sis
It’s not a community for 4c women we still on the outside and that’s ok. Most black ppl hair looks like yours look at black men but somehow ppl think black women should have 3c hair. It’s stupid not just self hate.
Naptural85
What people think you should have 3C? Like who said that to you ?
people should just let women alone to do what they want to do with their own hair....especially black women. Its hair...why do they care its not on their heads.
@@leas2477 My fosters mums when they were combing my hair, breaking combs, popping me with the broken comb because they were mad at me for doing something out of my control, getting pi$$ed because my hair took so long to do, cursing at me when I sweat and the pressed hair went back to its natural state, refusing to allow me to wear cornrolls saying it was ghetto, saying I look ghetto for getting braids like Janet Jackson in Poetic Justice--all while calling me nappy headed and saying my hair will never look good. Oh and not allowing me to have a perm as a child because that's being grown. I could go on all day! Worst comment I ever got was from a sorority that said I passed the brown paper bag test, but I wouldn't be one of them because my hair gave me away! I lie to you not!
@@fredrika27 sending you love right now, also dealt with hair targeted bs and us as black women don’t deserve it all❤️
Ever seen Disney's Brave? 😳 yep. My natural hair is Merida. Red, thick, wavy, textured crazy hair. After many years of wearing a bun someone said they love my hair color and asked why I never wear it down. I rolled my eyes and said, if you see this mess.. you would understand. She was African American btw. She just starred at me for a minute.. then said.. girl, let me at it. I am forever thankful that someone finally taught me how to properly care for this mess of hair I was given. I watch these channels now in case I can find anything new that might make it even easier. Ty for sharing your content. I'm finally in love with my hair.
Yea I know a few people that are Irish and other European cultures with kinky hair and they have to have black or multicultural hairdressers. A lot of white stylists can’t manage hair that isn’t more straight. One of my godmothers is Irish and her hair is super thick. She didn’t know how to manage hers either and it took a black woman to help her figure it out. She got a relaxer to straighten her hair.
I’m black (well mixed) and I still have a lot to learn! Good luck!!
I’m just overwhelmed with all the different oils and products they are claiming to do the trick. Some UA-camrs are using over 20 different products and claiming different ones to be the ultimate for hair growth depending on which one they want to make a video about that day.
Yess it stresses me out so much 😭😭
So many products
Jeremiah 29:13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart ❤️
Hi..I agree with you Passion fashions...there are so many products in the market.. honestly I don't even know my hair type/grade whatever they're calling it now a days..I just want a simple routine and haven't found one yet..so many different videos and products
I just use beef fat, olive oil, and some essential oils and a few ayurvedic ingredients. Works wonders.
I HATE laying down "edges"
I'm 63 years old, have been "natural" about 16 years...and LOVE my edges...let my hair DO what it wants.
My hair is VERY CONSCIOUS!
I'm 63 too with A LOT of gray and very fine hair. I've been natural since '96 and I've never "laid" an edge either 🤣👍🏽😷
That's what being natural is all about. Sometimes it's all over the place, but that's good, too!😉
@@dar6500 yeah it's not "a thing" in natural hair community, just girl with weaves, relaxed or natural hair, who love to do it !
@@shariontipler5542 lol. I’m 54 and i remember girls doing baby hair in the 70s and thought it was over and here it is back again! I’m like what?? Even my husband said women are doing that again ? 😂
I don’t lay my edges often either. I love my messy looking edges! Sometimes my people ask why I don’t fix my hair so much lol. I tell em it’s ok to be in my natural state 💕
“Sum of y’all aren’t ready to decolonize your lace fronts” ....that’s a whole word💯🖤
What black women with 4c hair dont realize is you can put so many curl enhancing products, curl activators and twists outs 4c hair can never be like other hair.. without texturing it, curly perming or relaxing. 4c hair can not behave the way you want it to. Love how your 4c hair is...or get a perm. Your choice 🤷♀️ ❤ love your hair and channel content.
"Y'all not ready to decolonize your lacefronts."
And I opp-
Whew chile!!!!!!! I bout threw my phone down when she said dat😂 she came with a word!!!!
Lol yepp. Honestly we need to stop wearing straight hair for elegant events as if our own hair cant be.
@@dawnrosewood7060 You can say that again Ms. Beasley!
Once I stopped caring about my hair it grew so much. The natural hair community taught me how to damage my hair and also how to care for it but honestly now that I do the bare minimum my hair is thriving soooo. Also, I did find following people with similar hair to mine helped me appreciate my texture 🤷🏾♀️
"Decolonize your lacefront" omg she goes in... y'all ain't ready. I wasn't ready. Loved it
I am Asian so I am commenting looking from the outside, so just want to say that your hair is so beautiful!
Thank you 🥺💖
She SHAKIN THE TABLE! Baby hair culture is ridiculous
Hate. It. 😅
It's weird how GROWN WOMAN are obsessing over "BABY" hair...
So weird.
There are “naturals” that are actually relaxing...their EDGES! Lawd ha’mercy...that’s when I knew the shark had been jumped!
Girl it’s the worst!!!
WitsNSass sure are!!!! I saw someone with locs do it for baby hairs too. A mess
The way the natural hair community started and went reminds me of how social media was/is... it started out with a different vibe and then all hell broke loose 😩
I'm white and non American, living in a medium sized city with not that many black people. I have very little knowledge of black hair but honestly - your hair looks absolutely beautiful to me.
True
" Colorism walks so texturism can run " so astute, so brilliant!
I don't have experience with the natural hair community (if it's not incredibly obvious) but I do find it fascinating and really twisted how the systems we fight to get away from often follow us because they're so ingrained in ourselves. So even when we think we're going against all those toxic influences, they're actually leading us right to the same behaviors of the past. Thanks for sharing, Ti. I always enjoy hearing your take on things because it activates my brain to think about a *lot* more than just what you directly speak on in your videos.
Thank you, my friend! It's so true, though. Once I saw people "going natural," I figured it was in for a penny, in for a pound. Turns out the embracing of of afro-textured hair was fair from being fully inclusive, and instead reflected an extremely incremental change. Huwight supremacy ruins everything.
That's capitalism for you 😂😂😂😂😂
Girl, You are invited to the barbecue!!!!
@@mommydrinkspolitics3115 no.
@@mommydrinkspolitics3115 ain't no more barbeque!
Ooh chile when I tell you I had to PAUSE TO COMMENT when you said “people care more about seeing the hair they WISH THEY HAD rather than learning to CARE for the hair they DO HAVE...”!!! This right here!
So much sense on this channel 👏 which is why I subbed years ago and am still here!
The tide will turn though. I’m believing in that. Because there are lots of us (myself included) popping up everywhere to talk about real hair and how to REALLY care for it and enjoy it, and trying to NORMALISE ALL our textures. Soon enough, as people grow out of their self-rejection and begin to want more for themselves and their kids (for those who have/want them), the “movement” will evolve and we’ll fetishise looser curls less and less.
We’ve just got to keep at it.
The “pimp named slick-back” reference made me follow you 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The idea that everything has to be a "community" is a problem.
people want community though, it helps newbies when there's a plethora of information as a resource and people available to get advice from. and then through different people comes different tips and skills that people can choose whether to adopt or not.
personally i think the issue is hiearchies forming when there didn't need to be one. when someone gets too big, and people treat them or they themselves act like they're the authority on a process, that is supposed to be tailored to each person, that's where the trouble comes in.
and a big part of why this community doesnt work is the antiblackness and colorism and texturism that was already present in the people creating and the people watching. instead of remembering to be empathetic toward's others situations, and checking their egos, people just carried on as they usually do and some of their scummy ideas bled through to their content, comments, and view count and it was further encouraged by the audience.
@dunkinhower Yes, that’s the exact problem.
I will never forget the day I was told by a hairstylist that my hair was too hard to straighten. That's when I started doing my 4C hair at home and gave up on going to salons.
Yep, happened to me last year. They didn’t want to wash or blow dry my hair. They snuck some perm in my hair (I believe because the smell..?) and I had to shave my whole head of hair after it had just gotten long again. I’m back to my length now.. and I’m doing my own hair every time!
@@chosentheempress OMG that's my worst fear (a stylist slipping relaxer into my hair during the wash process). I always had hair stylists suggesting a perm or texturizer so I quit going and do my own hair now.
Where do you live? I live in South Florida & there are a few good natural hair salons.
@@KM-rj6bu Heyyy, You will not believe this but I'm a Kenyan, living in Kenya. Yes an African, who was told by other Africans that my 4C African hair is unmanageable.
@@lynnkandie343 I went to get my hair braided at an African shop and when the lady started combing my hair, I said let me do it bc I’m natural (she was using a fine tooth comb) she said “ your hair is too nappy” I walked out of the shop. The actual audacity. Smh
So true! When I worked as a teller at a bank I would push my 4C hair into a nice neat puff. Almost on a daily basis the other black women would tell me my hair is nappy and needed a comb pulled through it. One girl even offered to do my hair 3 times before I finally went off on her (in a polite way). I like the hair that grows from my scalp. I don't need a perm, hot comb, weave or any other styling tool.
My niece has 4C hair and one day she said to me "I have nappy hair". I was shocked and sadden. A mother should NEVER tell their child their hair is nappy or use negative affirmations when referring to it. I told her it was beautiful and that we have the same hair and nothings wrong with it.
I love my hair the way it is. Just like a woman who has curly hair or straight hair should love theirs.
I worked at a school. There were only two natural women, myself being one of them. When my coworker and I went natural, a memo went out about acceptable hair styles and such. Of course all the styles didn't look like my natural hair. We both quit eventually, but its real out there in the corporate world.
@@try8042 That's horrible! I'm sorry you had to experience that.
Yup!!! I feel this, it is extremely embarrassing and sad that some(small minority) black women think like this! Like this is the hair that grows out of your scalp. Other women with different hair textures do not feel that way. They do not hide their natural hair texture as much under a wig hat. I can't deal with the self-hatred, I am wearing my nappy hair all day every day.
Nappy's gonna have to become the new n word for hair that we claim for ourselves cuz it's ridiculous. Imagine all the things that plague us and we have to be concerned about the shape of someone's hair follicles 😪
@@Ambi1021 Thank you. It was a learning experience.
So true! Even in the natural hair community, there's this idea of "good hair". It burns me up. Part of me being natural is embracing me, and being my most authentic self. For so many years, I bought into the idea of "taming" my kinky, coily hair and manipulating it into something else, others thought was more acceptable. Letting go of all of that and just being happy with what God gave me, was so freeing. When my hair was shorter, it wasn't looked at as "nice". Then when I grew it out, my hair attracted a lot of attention. Like how can hair like that grow. And (now that it's so long) why don't you straighten it. Whatever the case, I enjoy my hair, and my daughter who's my hair twin can see me and be proud of what she has.
Ouch 🤕 . This was so real. I hated my natural hair and always wear wigs but you know what. Y’all will see my hair on my next video. 💚 thanks for this
FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT. i hate the 1-4 system. i also find it interesting how black ppl/dark skinned/kinky hair are always at the bottom of these sort of rankings
Imagine being in your own country in Africa (nigerian) and they hate your hair if you do braids, only a few guys like it, wats more surprising is most of the ladies out here dont like it.
@@sage_comics in the Caribbean we are still facing this problem too
@@thetongueofangels1882 i can imagine, its why there's a protest going on, because they harass ppl especially if you with dreads and braids, etc as a guy, its ridiculous,
Ofc not everyone will look fit the style buh yunno, cause of the stereotypes, you seen as a bad person, i love my hair fam, majority of ppl like the style, when im out, so keep it glowing dont let em stop you, we live once.
@@thetongueofangels1882 not here on Jamaica lol. Braids are loved here. Speak for gour country only xd
What's wrong with knowing your hair type? I love being a 4c girl!
I don't know about anyone else, but I'm glad you eventually transitioned away from hair content. 1. The streets are wildin' and your voice is very much NEEDED. And 2. I don't know how many products and hair hats I've purchased based on your recommendations over the years, but my debit card is grateful for the break. I'm happy you've found your place out here💕
Oh girl -- I have purchased waaay less conditioner and hair hats, since 1.) getting out of the hair game as a creator, and 2.) getting out of the game (for the most part) as a viewer. Now, when it comes to fashuns and makeups? It's been a slower recovery. But, overall, these wildin' skreets are definitely on my mind way more than buying ish that I don't need. 😩
Agreed. Its getting crazy as hell in america.
Thank you I thought I was crazy. My hair is 4c and some of these suggestions do not work for my 4c hair. If i detangler with twist or Bantu knots my hair laughs at me. Ain't no curls in my kinky hair
😂😂😂😂 I felt this!
Lmaoo same
I am a 54 yr old white woman who loves to learn new things on youtube. Watching you prep your hair was mesmerizing. And good for you, knowing when to move on with other content. You are beautiful. And my favorite part? "The more you know..." People need to remember how to be kind or keep quiet.
I thought I was the only one who hates “laying my edges”. It is nice to see another 4C person who just love her hair the way it is. I love Starpuppy; her channel is the youtube hair content I watch. Your hair is beautiful period.
I use setting lotion/mousse on my edges and black men stare and compliment me 😍
Starpuppy is my favorite as I go thru similar experiences with her where it concerns my hair. I dont worry about my edges I like my edges to be curly 🤷🏾♀️
The obsession with edges is weird af. A friend pulled me to the side once and with concern in his voice told me his aunt wanted me to know that my edges were rough. I was appalled and simultaneously unconcerned. I have managed to maintain fine yet thick hair and a decent puff and your concerned about my edges. It was then I decided not to bother. Those people aren't offering to do my hair every morning or know this hair does what it wants and I just go along with it lol
Its exhausting try to lay edges.
@@jamilawilliams243 Whaaaat? How can a stranger be bothered about YOUR edges?
Love this subtle hair flex you're serving whilst reading the natural hair community like a book.
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I came because you said “whilst”. I stan.
For real though. She a beast
The ex had hair like yours and this video was a sort of bittersweet, relaxing echo of all those times watching her do her hair.
Thanks for that. :-)
"Decolonize your lace front" Oof.
That’s a whole movement
Well. I'm very late. But late or not, I still wanted to say that this video was a great watch 🙌🏿🙌🏿 Certain points made really stirred up some of my past experiences hair related or otherwise. I really appreciate the shout out, btw, I gasped lol! 🤩 I'm toying with the idea of making an "honest thoughts on the natural hair community" video, not sure yet but considering.
Do it!
Yes, do it StarPuppy! I love you and I’ll be watching ⭐️🍿
So glad you got to hear her shout out. You really are the only 4c low density Queen making content right now.
Hi starpuppy i love your videos
Starpuppyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!
I noticed this too. I'm a guy and when I started growing my hair out I had a lot to learn about how to properly look after it and it really grated on me to see the type 3 people who just put their hair in water to get a twist out (and make you feel like a wash and go is possible) with 1m subs and the ones with actual 4c hair giving great information and 200 videos with 3k subs ... Colourism walked so texturism could run! It all comes back to the same thing: proximity to wh.... let me not getting myself in trouble!
Exactly! Agree on all of your points. And, if it had been only me flailing-but-still-sinking, I would have thought it was just that _my_ content was trash. When I looked around and saw my 4c peers making great content and getting no shine, I realized this was... _a thing._ (And I'm cackling over the water-only twistout = 1M subs. 😆 Chillingly accurate.)
A wash and go is possible for 4c hair it's called a fro. Don't let the toxicity of the natural hair community tell you you CANT do something
The Laugh nah wash and go for my 4c hair is called shrinkage lol
This is exactly why I specifically seek out 4B/4C youtubers.
@@mzhector1 But even when you tried to search for 4B/4C youtubers. You realize that the type 3 and 4/A girlies are lying about their hair texture being 4c to get views. Like what is the point of lying about your own texture if it already gets views.
I just want to learn how to do my hair without fucking up tbh 💀
I wear wigs cause I'm lazy as f and this pandemic has made me even lazier. I also love that my hair gets two months of rest between getting new cornrows.
Or you could just wear cornrows. Maybe being “lazy” isn’t the only reason
@@frenchryah221 you ever see a woman who's hair gets dried out from wearing it out in the elements? It's tough to take down cornrows daily and remoisturize so a wig sometimes gives women a hair break while helping retain moisture and length
I hear you! Growing up I did not learn how to embrace my natural 4C hair because I feel like there is implicit [and in some cases explicit] hair shaming even amongst the natural hair community. I cringe at the fact that I used to wear ALL the wigs during my workout videos because I felt my natural hair wasn't "good enough" --- knowing full well I was burning up and bout to pass out. 😂 I'm definitely celebrating my natural hair and like you said --- doing my own thing with my hair now. Thanks for sharing, Ti.
Thank you for your videos. They have been so instrumental in my weight loss journey!!! You are a gift from God! And you’re beautiful!♥️
So great to see my fave on my fave's channel!
Great taste!
Also, we (my sister, her friend and I) zoom to your video's and seeing you workout with your natural hair inspired our friend to cut her dreads off. They were thinning but she was holding onto the length. Now she feels so beautiful with her short natural hair. So a big thank you for inspiring her! Xx
Love you Ashley
SingPray Luv love you beautiful!
EverTt aww that is so amazing! Sending love to you queens!
You're absolutely correct. I was hesitant to start creating hair videos because in the back of my mind I knew I did not have the stereotypical "desirable hair texture/good hair", even as a biracial/mixed woman. But I knew that someone out there could hopefully benefit from what I had to share and discover about my own type 4 hair and that's what continues to motivate me to this day. But I completely understand how overwhelming and discouraging it can be as a type 4 hair creator to be either compared to or not have as big of a platform as those with type 3 hair. Like others have said, I am glad that you have changed your content to diving into these topics and shining light on them in our community. Commentary such as this is priceless. Love your channel!
Thank you for saying this! I do my edges very rarely. The obsession with edges has always seemed ridiculous to me. I remember a guy approached me in my choir class and asked why i liked having "nappy hair" and why i didn't "do my edges." I never look to men for approval, but i will admit it made me very insecure about my hair. I wore headbands everyday after that point. I'm glad I grew out of that insecurity. I love my hair no matter what anyone says💖
"Not ready to decolonize y'alls lacefronts", I'm dead!
Completely unrelated but your Bitmoji looks hella bomb🔥🔥
"y'all aint ready to de-colonize y'alls lace fronts!" I LOVE IT! Yaaassssss!
@Tiffany exactly.
But you have videos of you doing weaves in your head lmao. And that looks like a weave on your head in your pfp too because that's not the hair you had in your videos. Lmfao the hypocrisy. Sorry but gonna call you out.
I don't even wear wigs or weaves but this was ridiculous.
@@epic7224 awwh...lol I just like this channel and the perspective. Didn't come to offend you with my weave or locs, or braids, etc. (lol) Lighten up a bit and thank you for visiting my channel to look at my hairs ;)
@@BcPrettyGirly I'm just saying you don't really have the right to be talking about others wearing weaves and wigs being colonized when you're doing it yourself. That's just hypocrisy. If you're going to call out ppl doing that, then at least don't do the same. I don't even wear them and I can smell the hypocrisy. Imagine someone who does and how they'd feel.
@@epic7224 Oh! THAT'S WHY YOU CREATED YOUR RESPONSE??? lol, I'm so sorry I should have done better to identify that I was only illuminating what TI said in her video (hence, the quotations). I wasn't calling out anyone (I have far to many flaws to point fingers at anyone in the known universe). Naw, you just misunderstood my post. Also, it is difficult to identify reasons why anyone would make claims about themselves or others based on this (the internet) virtual representation of communication. I don't take social media to seriously (and neither should anyone else). Instead, just enjoy the freedom of expression while we still have it. I support this channel because I can appreciate the work that is put into developing content. I would support your channel in the same way if you were to begin uploading videos and sharing your perspective with those who might find it interesting...or entertaining! Life is short, love is lasting :) enjoy the passion of true expression ignore suppression!
My whole life people put me on a pedestal because of my loose textured hair and features (both of my parents are still Black) and it always bothered me because I knew even back then as a child/teen that they saw me as "less Black=special". That's one reason why I find it hard to get with the Hair Community now because it just seems like the exact same thing, people only want to see hair like mine because it's "less Black". I love and support women like Star Puppy because they are unapologetic and share their beauty with the world even though society tries to stifle it. Your hair is beautiful and I hope one day you decide to make one or two last hair videos.
Thank you -- yes, it reminds me of when I was little and everyone was obsessed with Chilli from TLC's hair. Like...most BW ain't ever going to have hair like that (without heat and/or chemicals), and yet it seemed like people were always trying to find out how they could "get their hair like that." *le sigh*
AsiaPersuasia I had to comment because I have faced another form of this. My mom is Hispanic/Swedish and my father is Black. I did not get the “coveted” loose 3 textures. I don’t like referencing the hair typing chart but for lack of a better way I’m a slight 3/c, abundant 4a with a dose of 4b in my crown. With that said, I suppose my skin tone makes me “special” but my hair is perceived as a “disappointment”. Ti said it correctly when she linked Colorism and Texturism and I’m sick of the whole model. It divides us and also can create personal self doubt. Anyway, appreciated your thoughts.
BTW-Starpuppy has great content.
Channygirl Chantel G I completely agree with you! I’m Puerto Rican and Black and my hair is 4a-4c mixture and people either say I’m lying about my mixed race or that I must be upset that I didn’t get “good hair” 😕 I’ve learned to finally accept and love it.
I love Starpuppy❤️
This is the most real video on natural hair I've seen on here. this is so appreciated. I've been saying all this for a very long time. hope to hear more from you.
Your hair is gorgeous. I love how it naturally billows out like a halo to frame your face.
All I heard was truth in this entire video.
Siiis you watch NappyHeaded jojoba too??? 👀 I see you 😂😂😂
I liked this comment while the intro ads were still playing cause I knew no lies would be told ☺️
So real slash hilarious! Love this whole video! I have just started looking for clip-ins and wigs this last year & esp in quarantine bc it’s so dry always being inside & so true that THERE IS NEVER ANYTHING that matches my short 4c hair! So I usually just give up. Bc I don’t wanna rock hair that fundamentally isn’t mine. I want my own hair reflected at all times, like you mentioned. So thank you for saying all of this. Hope it’s heard. (Also your hair is BEYOND! 😍)
Amen 👏🏾
I agree and I'm not black but I see it, maybe she can start a new movement that will really make a difference and move forward not backwards.
I am african and I used to have my hair permed back home we don’t have that much hair drama. But living in the US I learned the power of natural hair from you African American women. You are naturally beautiful and you have very beautiful hair. You don’t need any one approval. Much love
Depends where you are, in nigeria no peace for a guy with long 4c hair, the looks youll get just doing braids, not even dreads,
@@sage_comics I am Nigerian and I only braids. I also keep my hair chemical free. It isn't religion for me,just got tired of all the chemicals. I don't get any looks.
@@shirleyvz11 yh same , fully natural, all dah relaxer shit aint for me, and they dont know the spiritual benefits about it atall, buh they be dying over religions, and they are ignorant to the truth.
African too, we also did not have any hair drama, the drama started when the internet arrived. Right now we have weekly twitter debates about hair and skin shade lol
@@sage_comics I’m Nigerian, American born and I agree on the way people view “dada” in the African community. Even when I went natural “uncles and aunties 🙄” would always have their business in stuff that doesn’t pay them, meaning ridiculing my hair until I commented on theirs.
A black woman could win a Nobel Peace Prize in Quantum Physics on UA-cam and not get as many views as a 3c loose natural doing a twist-out on waist length hair. Sad!
thats because black women value hair over anything else,
Needed this honest! The toxicity on certain platforms is crazy. You are truly a breath of fresh air. Everything you have mentions I have felt! There are still times I wish my 4z hair lol had coils. But in the end we all need to love/honor what we have, right. Your hair is gorgeous and there are tons of people that are aspiring to get to your point.
In the seventies when Afros were in style there was no natural hair products other than grease. Why do curls have to be poppin? Natural hair is beautiful just the way it is natural. Example Angela Davis, Kathleen Cleaver. Beautiful moisturized Afro.’s I remember, Dax, blue magic, Afro sheen. That’s what my mom used and my sister and I had long hair. Most of this so called natural hair products are not even made by black people.
I still use blue magic. I miss my tcb though
madree p What exactly is Blue magic!?
@@thedarkphoenix1640 hair grease lol
Truth
Hair food!!!
Beating edges into submission of straightness is violence.
Every time I style my baby girl’s glorious 4-C hair, I praise her thick naps, kinks and coils as I gently detangle, part, and style her hair. I don’t remember my mother doing this for me but as a grown woman, I remember getting my hair braided by a woman in Atlanta who praised my 4-A naps, kinks, and coils as she did my hair and I remember how good that felt to hear my hair described as beautiful.
In trying to break these generational curses, I’ll be damned if my daughter will grow up never hearing her own mother praise the beauty of her hair. And I know those chains are breaking because when I ask Baby Girl what she likes about her hair, she touches it gently and says, “It’s beautiful.”
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Thank you for ALWAYS keeping it realer than real deal Holyfield, Ti.
You are truly blessing your daughter. I'm so glad that some of us will come out strong and healed.
Ase. It is beautiful, and so is your comment.
This is a great point!!! Thank you for this. I've always had a love/hate relationship with my hair because my mom considered my hair a JOB. My hair was long and bushy as a kid. She'd wash it on Saturday, braid it up and straighten it out on Sunday. But she hated it! As I got older and looked back on that time, I wish that my mom would said just once that my hair was beautiful. Hugs to you sis!!
I love this! I do the same. I tell my daughter how beautiful her hair is while styling it and she is always blushing. Then she sings "i love my hair'. Our little ones are soo precious😍
Thank you, I really needed this reminder😀they are precious and they carry those judgements forever❤️
Agreed. As someone who went natural back in 2010, the UA-cam natural scene has changed dramatically. It used to feel like we were all helping and encouraging each other as we learned self acceptance. Now it's performative and pervasive with texturism. I haven't watched natural hair videos on a regular basis in about 5 years. It's not helpful. Great video!
Listening to you go in on the issues of black hair UA-cam was great, but watching you detangle and twist your hair was even more awesome. So relaxing! And your hair is beautiful! Always nice to watch someone who knows exactly how to do their hair FOR their hair and not based on trends or anything like that...and I think your edges are cute!!
“Colorism could walk so texturizism could run” that quote hit me, my goodness so true.
Quote for the Ages
Truth. We black women have to realize that part of the problem is us. Renew our minds with every level of revelation that reveals we don't love our hair.
Yeah. Self hate is R.E.A.L
Man thank God I love my hair 😍
Max Estrada .. ok
How when we cant even get the same respect and opportunities other people get because we cant even wear our fucking hair to an interview or a good school. It doesnt matter how clean or nice our afros look. It's not about not loving your hair tf
Linda B. Why don't we love our hair? Could it be the hundreds of years of colonization and indoctrination into believing that our hair is undesirable, that we have to adhere to the european standard of beauty in order to be accepted in this society. The problem is not us; the problem is what was done to us! 400+ years of enduring terrorism and no psychological treatment for PTSS Post Traumatic Slavery Syndrome.
This is real talk. After I stopped getting perms, and had my big chop, I felt so free. I let my hair grow, and it really grew. At my age, 68, it is hard for me to twist and I am not good at braiding with this length. I have seen that it will grow long, and now I think it is time to do a short cut, tapered and really short in the back. It will be easier. I have 3 different hair patterns, and nothing I have done has helped that that does not curl, that that is frizzy no matter what, and that that curls with some coaxing. Can't wait for the change.
Listen! I’m so glad you are here!! I miss all the OGs with kinky coily, light to medium density hair that no longer make content. I’m so glad you are still here for real! Natural hair UA-cam has become discouraging. Thank you for keeping your content up for us to reference!
I LOVE StarPuppy, her content is amazing and she has a shining personality.
I hate how movements that start as a way to get away from BS always seem to creep into some new BS. We all have our own paths to follow, some people need to realize their path is not the One Perfect Path. I love your hair.
@Josephine Bournes 😃😃😃
Josephine Bournes it does resemble that
Yeap because now ppl lile her feel they are so aboce everyone else and so woke lol.
I love your hair and I used to watch your channel all the time when I was learning how to take care of my hair. I only stopped because you did your job so well that I no longer need to watch videos to do it. You help me learn to detangle and find products and styles that worked for me. So thank you so much for teaching me how to take care of my 4b hair. You were definitely appreciated
I really appreciate this video 👸🏾. I had a rough time and still do with my daughter's mother for years regarding this video. Chasing a colonized way of caring and wearing our hair even on a natural level. And the part about edging touch my soul. ROI to social media weirdos. I knew sister's like you existed. Thank you for being beloved
I agree. For instance, NappyFu has BEEN in the game and drops QUALITYYYYYYY content. She should easilyyyy be in the top 5 biggest influencers in the natural hair community. I’m talking about over a million followers, endless marketing deals, etc. But I know that colorism, ageism, and texturism are all having an impact on her and many others. It’s incredibly sad. Yet, we will easily buy out an entire line made by someone who has clearly different hair from us and continuously watch as if our hair is akin to theirs. These isms are a huge hindrance to any real footprint we can make toward betterment.
Buying out entire lines.... even celebrities. Coming out w/ their own lines when black women started from the ground up making their own products and can’t buy any. But a white company with a black spokesperson or a black celebrity will sell out products half the size and twice as expensive. Make it make sense.
Dont know how that is.....and i dont even have interest in hair channels...but if she dark skin and got that thick hair lol i wanna see it. U saod millions of subs????
Yours Truly bingo! I really wish more people were aware of this!
JR R you would think, right?!!! But, sadly, that’s not always the case. Just a quick look at all the top natural hair “gurus” on UA-cam tells the story.
In my case, NappyFu helped a lot as I learned how to care for my natural hair but frankly, I'm very picky with who I devote my time to. I like Nappyheadedjojoba's other content and demeanor so I continue to subscribe. My decision to no longer follow most natural hair UA-camrs is quite simple: they taught me what I needed to know about hair and now I'm done. It has nothing to do with all the "-isms". I don't need the product pushing (and the goofiness is annoying) and I have other interests and things that are more important than my UA-cam notifications. After reading your comment, I may resubscribe to get her numbers up and show support but it's unlikely I'll watch the videos. ✌🏾❤️
The natural hair community on UA-cam made me take the jump away from relaxer. Growing up in Nigeria, where the colourism is tooo real, there was always a cycle. Get hair done for school, usually a prescribed braid pattern by the school, then relaxer, new hair, relaxer, etc. School's out or there's a party? weave or something "nice", relaxer afterwards and so on.
African hairdressers, at least the ones I've encountered so far didn't even know how or want to deal with our texture. They'd call it stubborn, too much work and would always damage it. Combing it dry, and angrily like it's my fault.
When I decided on my big chop at age 20, my mum didn't understand but she went along to the salon with me. Till today, she always has this strange look on her face when she sees my twa. I only do braids and protective styles now. Last week she helped me take out my braids and she asked if I needed relaxer even though she knows I don't use it anymore. It's her last resort. Luckily she isn't forcing it on me. I personally think she's also a victim of the whole make your hair look less black system in Nigeria.
Even in Nollywood movies located in the rural areas of the country, in an ambiguous timeline, the characters wear wigs, some long enough to sweep the floor. Anything to not show the actors actual hair
Absolutely -- I've had far too many experiences in braid shops where it legit felt like the braider just _hated_ my hair, and hated _me_ for having it. The rough handling was off the chain, and they'd suck their teeth once they saw my afro. It's happened to me with all different braiders coast to coast, with women who were from Senegal, Togo, Nigeria, etc. Anti-blackness really doesn't let us have anything nice, anywhere.
Unfortunately, the causcasians community purposely made it the norm that white and soft & "manageable" hair equals purity and success: this has created a self-fulfilling prophecy among the Africans...hence the immense growth of colourism, relaxers etc. Its sad!
Also, I did not know that school can enforce braiding patterns onto people...how ethical is this? What if one choose to wear their hair out.
@@genemechanic6773 the braid patterns thing was to enforce conformity and uniformity just like our uniforms.
All boys would wear low cuts as well or whatever the principal prescribed. Recently I learned a lot of school in Nigeria just tell the girls to have their hair shaven Not all parents can afford having their kids do their hair every week so that could be a compromise.
@tea marks colourism is prejudice or discrimination typically among people of the same ethnic or racial group. This could be discrimination against people with darker skin, different hair textures, etc. You should look into that.
@@jessislistless Thanks for the info - I genuinely had no idea! It's interesting that the uniformity has extended to hair...personally I think it is very forced.
So true. Sad to say but I hate my 4c hair and iv'e always idolized the naturally defined curls that I've seen because I never grew up feeling like my afro hair was beautiful. So I began wearing hair that I grew up always wanting and taking better care of that hair and neglecting mine. But here I am, 27 years old still trying to found the love in my hair and embarrassed to wear it out because it is not beautiful enough and I don't feel beautiful in it either :(
I could have been the one to write this comment. I wish I knew the answer but I can at least tell you you're not alone. And I'm 28, so I know what it is to be as old as you are still not have a clue when it comes to my own hair!
ooooh yes! “Looking at the hair we want rather than caring for the hair we have”👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
She’s in the wrong business!!! She needs her own show, night show, comedy spot, SOMETHING!!!!!
I love her sense of humor. I love her swag. I love her style!!! 😍
and i am in love with her voice
Agreed
Right!? Her personality is everthing!
Totally agree. Her personality is amazing. Kindred spirit. I would love to know her zodiac sign.
And a magnificent vocabulary
I think this is why there has been a rise in "relaxing my hair after ___ years of being natural" videos. I feel like these women went natural expecting some specific outcome and ended up disappointed. Sure, probably not all, but come on. I've been recommended so many of these videos this few months.
I never thought about that but that’s actually an excellent point. Seeing videos with amazing do’s and when executing it myself it’s like an atomic disaster is extremely discouraging. I don’t even attempt to do any fancy styles because
1) I’m not good at doing hair
2) I don’t want to spend too much time on a hair style that only last a few days
3) most of the style I see looks so stressful and my hair hates being tugged at too often
I’ve been natural for 18+ years and my hair just does not want to conform. I’ve contemplated relaxing it on and off. thankfully I was strong enough not to give in. Because while everyone is having nightmares about their hair frizzing, it’s actually the thing I love most about my hair. I love the loc’d look it gets when I leave the two strand twist in for too long.
Unfortunately I get the “girl you need to do your hair” or “it doesn’t look proper” talk from ppl especially family and it hurts a lot. Sometime just the look in their eyes make me feel ashamed. I have the kinkiest hair out of all the females in my family including cousins. But I love my hair just the same.
@@tee2716 i find the key to keeping type 4 hair tangle free is keeping it stretched and moisturize
@@jess9722 yes I find that too. Just simple misting and a protective style goes a long way into caring for 4c. We don't even need all those products to make it grow
This is a thing? I've worn my hair natural and relaxed over the course of my life. None of it changes the material outcomes in my life. Relaxed, weaved, braided, dreaded, bantu'ed, etc, capitalism and climate change are gon' kill all of us if we don't do something to stop it. But why do we seem to convince ourselves that changing our hair will change all the material outcomes in our lives? Our time could be better spent helping build actual political institutions that promote solidarity. Instead we keep thinking we'll find all this mystical power in our hair.
I was relaxed for so long I didn't even know my texture. I was actually happy to see it. It's just like hers
I love it when you said "people prefer seeing a video of the hair they wish they had rather then learning how to take care of the hair had they have."or something like that period so true love it love it!
Love the ‘people are interested in seeing the hair they wish they had’ #trueTalk. Thanks for sharing
Girl this video came right on time! I couldn’t agree more! I might do a response video to this on my channel! ❤️💯🙏🏾🔥
Please do!!
Please do!
GIRL! This video is A SERMON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "4C OVER HERE" and proud.
Please do!
Evani!
Ok, can we all just agree, this girl is a unicorn. And her intelligence is as beautiful as she is..
There I said it!
Exactly!!!!
Big facts!! 🤩🤩🤩
Jeremiah 29:13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart ❤️
@@decamc1435 Wow!!.. For you to assume that I don’t live in the Suburbs because of my opinion about the @Nappyheadedjojoba is “Yikes” ..
So yes, shade was thrown.
That being said:
Each persons view/s of what they may consider unique or different differs from person to person. Just because you may see her as average or common, I find her different and engaging. That does not mean she the ONLY black female that fits this narrative. Nor does it mean I live somewhere where, where intelligence and beauty is lacking. Not even close to what you’ve surmise .
@Nappyheadedjojoba has her own lane and she navigates it well. She speaks her truth and is unapologetic about her stances.
And yes.. she beautiful as well
@@decamc1435 You’re good luv. 😘. I appreciate you’re humbleness.
Queen lifts queens, so we should never judge a another Queen by her crown!
When her voice is why I stayed til the end only to be highly enlightened 🦄
Your hair looks good, healthy & springy. I see no clumping or breakage. You also have good length. Do you and what's best for you. Be unapologetic about it. Short, long, kinky, curly or coily healthy hair & scalp are what matter. I'm working on retaining & keeping my hair & scalp healthy while undergoing medical treatments. Everyone stay safe and God bless.
True true true! Listen, as a hairstylist this texture ignorance also negatively effects the expectations of a client that say they want to go natural. After a great consultation and clear understanding of the required process and commitment, thing can still be confusing. Client wants natural curls. Client has natural curls. Her curls are not like Sally's curls. Ummm, no. Your curl is your curl. Sally's curl is Sally's curl. My curl is my curl. And I swear, I'm tired of the phrase, "good hair". Do you really wanna know what "good hair" is? Healthy hair. 🤦🏽♀️
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Healthy hair!
YES!
Exactly! Took my teen for her first curly style. Stylist said the same thing. Your curls are yours. Accept how they look and what they can do and save yourself the stress and learn to love your hair
Yall not ready to decolonize your lacefronts ... I need that on a shirt.
😂 sis some of us like the break & the ability to change hair colour without damaging our own hair.
Plus personally for me like she said finding weave that looks like a certain kinky texture is hard & personally for me a wig is for convenience & should be easy to manage whilst I take a break & curly wigs make me put in the same amount of work I be trying to avoid sometimes with my natural hair
Me too!!1
Fact.
😂😂😂 Chile, I was done.
Damn leave us alone tf.
My adopted son has 4c hair and wanted to grow it out a couple years ago. I ran in to what you are saying on UA-cam, so many tutorials with textures and coils that were nothing like his. I feel like I’m just now finding the info I’m looking for, and thanks for the channel recommendation. Star Puppy was the first I heard encouragement to embrace the magic of shrinkage. This helps me as a mom find the language to celebrate the unique features of his hair. I would love help finding male content creators as I transition him to doing more of the care himself.
I am from Germany and have literally never known or watched any content on ethnic hair or natural hair. I don't even know why this video was recommended to me, but I wanted to say that I think you are very beautiful, your hair looks awesome, and I enjoyed listening to you.
I am a 4c girl and I am on my second year of going natural. I really needed to hear your words. I really thought for the first year that my hair texture was so ugly and I would envy girls that had what I considered “good hair textures.”
Now I am on my own journey...and I love my own path so much more than trying to get on everyone else’s path. Thank you!
Same... this came right on time for me cause I was debating on putting that white crack back in cuz my 5c 😋 is so hard to manage. I've always had perm until now so my natrual is new to me.... ugh
And the comments these black women leave on each other’s videos. The internalized racism chile
Agree. There is so much hate and negativity.
Naw Rudeness and Disrespect. We will never know if they have internalized racism or not 🤷🏿♀️
We've been subconsciously trained to believe that whit hair..white whatever...is the standard for all races but diversity is great.
Girl you are SO honest and that's refreshing. and you are so right we watch the hair we wish we had... I'm a 4C and wish I had your hair so that's why I watched but got captivated with your honesty and your vocabulary.... OFF THE CHAIN
Thank you so much for this video! It definitely confirmed a lot of the things I was already pondering . One mainly being allowing my hair to BE, & grow how it wants and not trying to aspire to a texture that isn’t mine. Also the fact that UA-cam is filled with hair types that people want but don’t have. Which is why I’ve stopped gravitating to the NHC on UA-cam . You’re gorgeous ! Continue to do you to the fullest !
I have never subscribed to other hair channels who didn't have hair that looked hair like mine. It just didn't make sense. Your hair videos is how I found you. Your tips along with your gorgeous hair helped a lot me when I decided to go natural. 🌼
I would subscribe to folks with other textures _sometimes_ (like Whitney/Nap85 -- but I think errybody watches Whitney 😅), but for the most part I've always been the same way. And there have been some great YTers with 4c hair who have come and gone, over the years! I just think that, like me, they realized that even though there's a lot of us who have this texture, most people would rather look elsewhere. Folks still out here wishing they had hair like Chilli, instead of loving on what they got. Oh well! 💜
same - it really doesnt make sense to me
I have many 4c channels I follow I have 3c 4a hair but still get great tips that work for me I fact I think the videos I love the most are 3 people with 4c hair..it’s not that deep people relax
Based on the title ALONE, I agree.
Hello!!
Yep when i first went natural 7 years ago i tried so much crap following the community and I just didn't like my hair amd I didn't like dealing with it. As soon as I divested from the natural hair community my hair started growing and I have a routine now that makes it easiest to manage. I try to stay away from most videos though unless their hair looks similar to mine
Thank you for this, my 14 year old daughter struggles with the issue of her edges or lack there of. She compares her hair/edges to others and I’m trying to help her see the beauty in what she has.
I clutched my imaginary pearls and gasped when you said "...decolonize y'all's lace frontal."