It’s not about teaching kids about rape it’s about creating a relationship with your sometimes annoying toddler that they will be listened to and not dismissed. Be patient with how they describe how their days was, ask questions, reprimand with love. You won’t be perfect but just work on being present one day at a time
Male cousins, uncles, other family males etc are danger to kids. I've always been cautious with my kids around these people. These is one the many reasons my kids don't go for sleepovers or if we visit somewhere we sleep with them in the same bedroom. I don't take any chances when it comes to my kids safety. I don't care if that person is a "respected" uncle, outstanding community member, pastor or whatever he's called. I always put my weans safety first & if anyone feels offended is their problem not mine. God Strength to you Mmathabo.
I love that you sleep with your kids in the same bedroom when visiting somewhere. I was raped by my mother’s step brother while visiting them with my parents because they let me sleep in another room without them. I only told my mom about it 3 years ago and this happened while I was about 8 years old.
@@keepingthefaith1368 I'm so sorry sesi. There are many relatives in a sheep clothing but as soon as the darkness come, they reveal their true identity. God Strength to you.
This is a life of many untold women's stories. Even as an adult one will opt for prostitution because she feels like she's a burden to the family. Not having family support can fuck you up in so many ways.
@@cinnamonrose4652 It would have made all the difference because what drove you to sex work is the expensive lifestyle at Varsity and by expensive I don't mean luxury. Moving away from home is costly, all of a sudden you need to worry about little to things like bread. I hope you find a stable job one day and won't have to continue with your current work. Wishing you all the best.❤️
Our fathers, brothers and uncles need to do better. There are too many people who have fallen victims of rape at the hands of their family members. This can’t be normal. It can’t be normal that we have to look at every man in our lives as possible perpetrators. South African men need to do better
I know exactly what this lady is been through. I wrote a book called Diary of a 16-Year-Old Prostitution which will be released in July this year. During the course of writing this book I spoke to a handful of sex workers just to get a sense of what they do. From my conversation with those ladies one thing stood out for me; they all a sad story to tell about their childhood, mostly of sexual abuse they suffered at the hands of those who were close to them. And what struck me the most was that those who had the courage to speak out abt the abuse were dismissed as liars some were met with hostility by the same people who should have protected them.
Yes there is also a story behind, rape is more spiritual than physical. Trauma, abuse, anger etc, are DOORS that are mostly used by this unclear spirits to enter people. The whole thing is actually a network, there is an INTELLIGENCE behind it. You can't separate prostitution from rape, PONOGRAPHY, drugs, alcohol, money, rituals... the list goes on.
I have always believed for a person to end up in prostitution, a door was opened somehow in their childhood. A door that was never supposed to be opened. It’s so heartbreaking. There’s now a “pandemic” of children prostituting themselves to truck drivers in the Karoo. Carte Blanche covered it. Check it out here.
@faith I agree with you. Human beings are not born with behavior, we learn behavior, whether good or bad. No one is born a prostitute, it's something u learn or pick up along the way.
Mmathabo’s story is so sad. I actually work in Lebowakgomo area and we’re implementing a GBV program where we provide support to survivors of sexual violence. It’s sad because till today, we still get clients whose parents will tell you that their children don’t need counseling because they “resolved the matter” as a family. How does one get in touch with aus Mmathabo?
Parents should normalise having bond with their kids,allowing kids to be comfortable around them first before going to the world out there,then teach them about sex,relationships,rape etc. at an early age ...Most of Relebogile guests who are victims of rape normally say the same thing ''i was never taught about sex'' or ''sex topics were prohibited at home hence didnt know it was wrong or right''.The world has turned cruel to all of us,so parents lets not fail our kids like that,i know we cant 100% protect them from rape but atleast lets teach them and raise awareness....LOVE AND LIGHT TO THAT LADY
As women we need to teach our kids about rape from young age , we need to create an environment that allows our kids to open up with us .My observations with lot of people such cases is that kids dont know how to tell us ,they fear telling us what happened .T
It’s quite sad because as professionals we’re also trying by all means to educate young children about matters of rape, HIV, GBV etc. however, we still get parents and school principals who tell us that we’re “corrupting” their children.
true.. I have 3 only gils...when i gave birth to the third one I cried not that I don't need a girl but the fear of what kind of world I'm bringing the girls to
Being a victim especially when you have no one to tell is the most traumatic thing that haunts the mind throughout the entire years. It builds a lot of anxiety and trampoline agitation. I really feel sorry for her and hope she had recovered from the trauma. I have been there and I know it's not an easy thing to recover from.
I taught my daughter at an early age to report if someone male or female touch her inappropriately... She was able to do that at the age of 7 when her friend step father tried to molest her... So yes I believe it is the responsibility of parents to teach their kids(boys and girls) about, molestation, rape etc
Ao shame. Hey so sorry to hear what happened to this lady. Life can be so tough waitse. To think some people would rather take to the streets than go home shows how toxic some homes can be. I hope this lady heals from her trauma.
Its not surprising, ive had to be in unwanted relationships just for bread for my family. I also know 6 other ladies. This survival trauma has made me not want a relationship when i feel that i am financially stable. I am currently seeking counseling so i can identify true love
Life can tough at times.I do not wish this on any women or men.I respect you for talking about it ,I do think it easy.May you heal and comfort others with your beautiful voice .You are a beautiful soul.
I really pray that God strengthens the relationship I have with my 8 year old that baby tells me everything that happens in her life il even go as far as telling her don't ever be embarrassed to ask anything, taught her about rape and u know ways ur never supposed to be touched she understands and promises that she will tel if something made her uncomfortable 🙏
It's surprising how rapists and pedophiles think they can rape children and they assume the children would not remember the moment or moments. 90 percent of our lives take place in our subconscious mind consequently everything that happens to us as human beings even as we are children we can recall when we adults. I pray God deals well with those who harm children, as this story is being shared and it had transpired many years ago, a child some where who is asked 7 is probably being molested. This show is so phenomenal as it brings awareness and more understanding to aspects to life.
I also ran away from home when i was about 13. Thank God the police were involved and i was found. I'm sure I would have done the same to survive as going back home never seemed as an option at that point. Although this episode triggered me, I'm really looking forward to Part 2
The pain in her voice you can just tell she is broken 💔💔💔. Sometimes when such happens to us our parents don't believe us am talking from experience its painful 💔💔💔💔💔💔😭 love and light mama❤️
I'm always hesitant to watch some of the episodes...then something just say "please watch" then when I do...I'd wish the episode was 2 hours long. These are absolute life lessons which we need to approach & treat with the seriousness they deserve. BIG UP to you Relebogile and your team...
I'm sorry to whoever has went through such, I pray God heals your pain and blesses you. I can't imagine going through such and the fact that this is common is so heartbreaking
It’s unbelievable how it’s being said that we need to talk about these things to our children while they’re still young. Which children? The English speaking children? Because penis & vagina were said loud & out during the conversation but when vagina was supposed to be said in Sepedi, the censors came through in a heartbeat. So where exactly are we going with this? I’m so sorry for what happened to you Mmathabo. I pray for your much needed healing.
This is very heartbreaking. A little girl was killed when her uncle raped her. For me it sounds like her life during the time she was being trafficked by old men she was like the walking dead. That’s why she had no fear of death. I pray she gets total healing from her experience. I believe the day she walked away from that life was the day she was reawakened. You have a greater purpose in this life my sister. That’s why you are here telling your story through your book and on this show.
So sorry what happened to her, parents are subjected to protect their children from danger, but sometimes it is difficult for them to protect us because they don't open room for us to talk. I remember a sister from next door used to finger us for almost a year, I didn't know how to tell my parents, I became Isolated, that became my coping machenism.
You are strong & beautiful. Jesus loves you siswam. You are so brave and so beautiful. Listening to your story makes me very sad and very angry. I am inspired to fight for you. Mark my words- I will.
Yoh , I’m so sad. We share a surname and I feel like she is family. Her story has me heartbroken. It’s crazy how rape is normalised in this country and how families just protect these victims. We need to start a conversation about sexuality, sexual abuse and rape young.
I'm raising a daughter and even if it's the only thing I give her on this earth I want her to know she can talk to me about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. A lot could've been prevented if this lady could open up to her mom.
Talk to your kids (boys/girls) about good & bad touches. It doesn’t matter who’s the perpetrator. If a child is uncomfortable, it’s enough to be a violation.
We need to teach kids very early on about predators. It’s not only lions and snakes that can prey on our children but men too. Eish I pray there is a special place in hell for rapists and child molesters. Very hot !!! Sies
her story!! My mother used to block me and my sister from visiting some homes,mostly neighbours or friends home.Little did she know such things can be done by your own family,what’s sad about a kid being raped is that the kid will think it’s normal because they know nothing about rape🥺😢’It’s my cousin maybe it’s normal’.Sometimes you find out the elder in the home of the cousin knows about what was happening,but inyani yokuma and correct or stop what was happening engenayo and still does not have it😢 Peace,healing,and the ability to forgive those who have wronged us and lead us through a dark hole of life that is filled with anger♥️💯
I always wonder what makes these boys feel it's okay to do that to little girls? I feel that in our black communities there's not enough teaching or parenting for both girls and boys. We've all heard these types of stories and some of us were just lucky it didn't happen to us but honestly it makes me angry how adult's treat children like they're not human. They don't communicate well, they ignore them because they're kids, they shout at them when they do wrong, say nothing when they do right. We need our generation to do better. This is really unfair on children to have to resort to running away from home.
These man who use women (sex workers) like this- whether this is consensual or not, I wanna know their perspective. Like a panel of men who occasionally pay for sex- whats going on in their lives and why do they do this. Or has that been done before?
Sec work ( for consenting adults) in itself wil always exist so unless we as a society can aid in it being unnecessary we cannot shame the women who find work in it but I am curious for the men, how can they enjoy knowing it’s transactional, what was their first experience like with a sex worker and why resort to that. You know?
I used to buy prostitutes now I reside overseas, there was a gap in my life. I hate rapists wholeheartedly, but man also go through stuff that drives to purchase prostitutes I knew it was wrong, but I still bought sex. Listening to this I regret what I did coz buying prostitutes affects you as well spiritually.
No love you wanting to play was not your weakness. You were a kid and at that point in our lives all that we want to do is to play. I refuse for you to take any responsibility in this issue as if you were somewhat responsible for what those beast did to you I'm sorry 😢😔
Cousin brother who was born by moms late sister tried with me while I was asleep, he was on top of me and in the room where there were two opposite beds wher I used to share with my brother but that day my brother was not there in the room slept in the dining room. I felt the heavy weight and coz I was asleep thought was my brother coz we were very playful but since there was not response and felt he is trying to put his thing on me as I could feel I fought hide as my sleeping position was faced down and he was on my back. I fought hard eventually I succeeded he tried to hide in between the two beds and I stood up and realised it was him I screamed and kept on kicking him hard until my parents came asking what happened and I was crying told them and my dad n mom decided that my mom takes me to the dr in the morning and dr said nothing happened yet but gave me ointments to clean myself and by the time we arrived home my dad already kicked him out of the house that he never returns to his house ever. This been traumatic as I had never said it to other relatives except my grandparents who were told about the incident and my grandpa never wanted him as part of the family ever. I went back to NPS as I was living with my grandmother he went to live there, it was hard for me to even be in the same space and trauma I still have coz this was never discussed by anyone even by my parents everyone went silent. I was silently traumatised my whole life and still hate even hearing his name from relatives who have no clue asking wondering what happened to him becoz we’ve never know his whereabouts but had heard rumours of where is living. I’m happy I never get to experience him as part of my family ever since that time I think I was about 13/14 yrs of age he tried raping me and I feel for all the victims who were actually raped that must be worse and devastating 😭💞
I was raped also when I was young but I didn't know it was rape and how to explain to my mom but now when I get all reflections I get angry and depressed asking myself why I didn't tell my mom or scream for help.
Early exposure to sex is a life long trauma. Parents please supervise children, see them when they play. No ndize, hide and seek. For adults who rape children you are cruel, you are monsters😢. Hope children exposed to sex early heal and when they become parents that they protect their children and keep them safe 🙏🏿
I also feel that the parents are not teaching their boy children that it is not ok to violate females whatever their age. It lays at the feet of the men in these communities.
What a question from Relebogile. Parents can't monitor every part of a child's life. You can't micromanage children. I'm never comfy with listening nuances of misandry. Great interview though 9/10.
Opposite attracts, female children should be protected from their male counterparts by their respective responsible people. Man and woman are like cotton and fire. Once the damage is sustained, that's the end of it. What is done cannot be undone.
The reason i don't judge prostitutes "you neva know why they ended up on the streets" life is tough and rough .. this story is heartbreaking 😢
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It’s not about teaching kids about rape it’s about creating a relationship with your sometimes annoying toddler that they will be listened to and not dismissed. Be patient with how they describe how their days was, ask questions, reprimand with love. You won’t be perfect but just work on being present one day at a time
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Well said!
So true
Male cousins, uncles, other family males etc are danger to kids. I've always been cautious with my kids around these people. These is one the many reasons my kids don't go for sleepovers or if we visit somewhere we sleep with them in the same bedroom. I don't take any chances when it comes to my kids safety. I don't care if that person is a "respected" uncle, outstanding community member, pastor or whatever he's called. I always put my weans safety first & if anyone feels offended is their problem not mine. God Strength to you Mmathabo.
My fear is that even women are dangerous. I feel like the only safe place is with you.
I love that you sleep with your kids in the same bedroom when visiting somewhere. I was raped by my mother’s step brother while visiting them with my parents because they let me sleep in another room without them. I only told my mom about it 3 years ago and this happened while I was about 8 years old.
@@keepingthefaith1368 I’m sorry. I hope she believed & supported you. Sending you love sis. I’m so sorry 💗💗
@@keepingthefaith1368 I'm so sorry sesi. There are many relatives in a sheep clothing but as soon as the darkness come, they reveal their true identity. God Strength to you.
I was touch by my uncle so I believe you.
I always pray for my son to be a good man 🥺 aziphathe kahle aphathe kahle nabanye.
Nabanye bamphathe kahle. Such a beautiful prayer. We should always pray that prayer.
The pain in her voice .... God heal her heart
Eish! Too many of us have had such identical childhoods 😢
So true🥺🥺
We’re very sorry for your suffering 💔🥺and hope that you can heal🤧❤️
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This is a life of many untold women's stories. Even as an adult one will opt for prostitution because she feels like she's a burden to the family. Not having family support can fuck you up in so many ways.
I’m a sex worker since varsity and I often wonder what difference a loving home would have made. I’m beyond repair
@@cinnamonrose4652 It would have made all the difference because what drove you to sex work is the expensive lifestyle at Varsity and by expensive I don't mean luxury. Moving away from home is costly, all of a sudden you need to worry about little to things like bread.
I hope you find a stable job one day and won't have to continue with your current work. Wishing you all the best.❤️
Our fathers, brothers and uncles need to do better. There are too many people who have fallen victims of rape at the hands of their family members. This can’t be normal. It can’t be normal that we have to look at every man in our lives as possible perpetrators.
South African men need to do better
I know exactly what this lady is been through. I wrote a book called Diary of a 16-Year-Old Prostitution which will be released in July this year. During the course of writing this book I spoke to a handful of sex workers just to get a sense of what they do. From my conversation with those ladies one thing stood out for me; they all a sad story to tell about their childhood, mostly of sexual abuse they suffered at the hands of those who were close to them. And what struck me the most was that those who had the courage to speak out abt the abuse were dismissed as liars some were met with hostility by the same people who should have protected them.
Yes there is also a story behind, rape is more spiritual than physical.
Trauma, abuse, anger etc, are DOORS that are mostly used by this unclear spirits to enter people.
The whole thing is actually a network, there is an INTELLIGENCE behind it. You can't separate prostitution from rape, PONOGRAPHY, drugs, alcohol, money, rituals... the list goes on.
I have always believed for a person to end up in prostitution, a door was opened somehow in their childhood. A door that was never supposed to be opened. It’s so heartbreaking. There’s now a “pandemic” of children prostituting themselves to truck drivers in the Karoo. Carte Blanche covered it. Check it out here.
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Very true, I will check that show.
Thanks 👍
@faith I agree with you. Human beings are not born with behavior, we learn behavior, whether good or bad. No one is born a prostitute, it's something u learn or pick up along the way.
Where can we get the book? After it’s released?
Mmathabo’s story is so sad. I actually work in Lebowakgomo area and we’re implementing a GBV program where we provide support to survivors of sexual violence. It’s sad because till today, we still get clients whose parents will tell you that their children don’t need counseling because they “resolved the matter” as a family. How does one get in touch with aus Mmathabo?
She has a book; y’all have to read it! “What other choice did I have?”
Where do we buy it?
Would love to have the book, how can I get one?
@@okuhlengubo9359 I actually saw a post from her on FB - I think she said we can DM her there
@@msm5887 thank you. You can reach me on FB.
Parents should normalise having bond with their kids,allowing kids to be comfortable around them first before going to the world out there,then teach them about sex,relationships,rape etc. at an early age ...Most of Relebogile guests who are victims of rape normally say the same thing ''i was never taught about sex'' or ''sex topics were prohibited at home hence didnt know it was wrong or right''.The world has turned cruel to all of us,so parents lets not fail our kids like that,i know we cant 100% protect them from rape but atleast lets teach them and raise awareness....LOVE AND LIGHT TO THAT LADY
As women we need to teach our kids about rape from young age , we need to create an environment that allows our kids to open up with us .My observations with lot of people such cases is that kids dont know how to tell us ,they fear telling us what happened .T
It’s quite sad because as professionals we’re also trying by all means to educate young children about matters of rape, HIV, GBV etc. however, we still get parents and school principals who tell us that we’re “corrupting” their children.
true.. I have 3 only gils...when i gave birth to the third one I cried not that I don't need a girl but the fear of what kind of world I'm bringing the girls to
@@tebogoqueen7318 I get you sis
Being a victim especially when you have no one to tell is the most traumatic thing that haunts the mind throughout the entire years. It builds a lot of anxiety and trampoline agitation. I really feel sorry for her and hope she had recovered from the trauma. I have been there and I know it's not an easy thing to recover from.
I taught my daughter at an early age to report if someone male or female touch her inappropriately... She was able to do that at the age of 7 when her friend step father tried to molest her... So yes I believe it is the responsibility of parents to teach their kids(boys and girls) about, molestation, rape etc
Kuddos to you
The only 7 year old that can be able to talk about such a sensetive matter, is a child that been exposed to sex and Private parts talks, she didn't!
She is well spoken. May the good Lord continues to bring light and healing over her life.
ANGER is very much loved by unclean spirits, is their play ground.
May God open our eyes to the power of FORGIVENESS.
Just want to mention that the translations are on point!
May you heal completely from your trauma and thank you for sharing your story
The pain in her voice
She is trying to be strong but still in pain
May God comfort you
Maybe that's just how she speaks.
Ao shame. Hey so sorry to hear what happened to this lady. Life can be so tough waitse. To think some people would rather take to the streets than go home shows how toxic some homes can be. I hope this lady heals from her trauma.
Its not surprising, ive had to be in unwanted relationships just for bread for my family. I also know 6 other ladies. This survival trauma has made me not want a relationship when i feel that i am financially stable. I am currently seeking counseling so i can identify true love
I know exactly what you talking about now I don't want a relationship at all
Being around your family and playing wasn’t a weakness. You were a child. These are things children do. May God protect and be gracious to you 💗
exactly. it broke me when she said this
Thank you for these words. 🤍🙏🏽🤍
Life can tough at times.I do not wish this on any women or men.I respect you for talking about it ,I do think it easy.May you heal and comfort others with your beautiful voice .You are a beautiful soul.
This woman is very articulate with her words. I wish life treated her better. ❤️
😭😭😭 she remembers every detail... rapists have no idea how this gets stuck in the victims mind for the rest of thir minds
I really pray that God strengthens the relationship I have with my 8 year old that baby tells me everything that happens in her life il even go as far as telling her don't ever be embarrassed to ask anything, taught her about rape and u know ways ur never supposed to be touched she understands and promises that she will tel if something made her uncomfortable 🙏
The pain in her voice 😢
It's surprising how rapists and pedophiles think they can rape children and they assume the children would not remember the moment or moments. 90 percent of our lives take place in our subconscious mind consequently everything that happens to us as human beings even as we are children we can recall when we adults. I pray God deals well with those who harm children, as this story is being shared and it had transpired many years ago, a child some where who is asked 7 is probably being molested. This show is so phenomenal as it brings awareness and more understanding to aspects to life.
I also ran away from home when i was about 13. Thank God the police were involved and i was found. I'm sure I would have done the same to survive as going back home never seemed as an option at that point. Although this episode triggered me, I'm really looking forward to Part 2
Looking forward to Part 2, thank you Lebo an eye opening platform to the social ills and dynamics that seem non existence within our societies.
Thank you for sharing. Some will relate, some will learn and some will do both. Your story will not be told for nothing 🙌🏿
The pain in her voice you can just tell she is broken 💔💔💔. Sometimes when such happens to us our parents don't believe us am talking from experience its painful 💔💔💔💔💔💔😭 love and light mama❤️
I'm always hesitant to watch some of the episodes...then something just say "please watch" then when I do...I'd wish the episode was 2 hours long. These are absolute life lessons which we need to approach & treat with the seriousness they deserve. BIG UP to you Relebogile and your team...
What a painful experience for a teen to go through. May you heal from this pain
This is so so sad💔😢😢. The males in our families are supposed to protect us not hurt us😭💔. LORD help us🙏🏽🙏🏽
Can we have guests who make/made use of sex workers' services? We want to just have an understanding of their perspective
Mathabo's openess and description level 👌🏾 Indeed silence is not always golden, This woman's worth ✊🏽 shine Mathabo shine 🕯️🕯️
I'm sorry to whoever has went through such, I pray God heals your pain and blesses you. I can't imagine going through such and the fact that this is common is so heartbreaking
It’s unbelievable how it’s being said that we need to talk about these things to our children while they’re still young. Which children? The English speaking children? Because penis & vagina were said loud & out during the conversation but when vagina was supposed to be said in Sepedi, the censors came through in a heartbeat. So where exactly are we going with this?
I’m so sorry for what happened to you Mmathabo. I pray for your much needed healing.
This is very heartbreaking. A little girl was killed when her uncle raped her. For me it sounds like her life during the time she was being trafficked by old men she was like the walking dead. That’s why she had no fear of death. I pray she gets total healing from her experience. I believe the day she walked away from that life was the day she was reawakened. You have a greater purpose in this life my sister. That’s why you are here telling your story through your book and on this show.
So sorry what happened to her, parents are subjected to protect their children from danger, but sometimes it is difficult for them to protect us because they don't open room for us to talk. I remember a sister from next door used to finger us for almost a year, I didn't know how to tell my parents, I became Isolated, that became my coping machenism.
You are strong & beautiful. Jesus loves you siswam. You are so brave and so beautiful. Listening to your story makes me very sad and very angry. I am inspired to fight for you. Mark my words- I will.
Yoh , I’m so sad.
We share a surname and I feel like she is family. Her story has me heartbroken.
It’s crazy how rape is normalised in this country and how families just protect these victims.
We need to start a conversation about sexuality, sexual abuse and rape young.
I'm raising a daughter and even if it's the only thing I give her on this earth I want her to know she can talk to me about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. A lot could've been prevented if this lady could open up to her mom.
We never left !!💮🍃💮🍃 # team unpacked. 💛💛 Today's episode is heavy . 😩😓😓
We never laugh in this channel.....not complaining
she is so beautiful....woman of God, God is more than ready to use u.
Iv become such a fan of this show...very authentic and original.
Talk to your kids (boys/girls) about good & bad touches. It doesn’t matter who’s the perpetrator. If a child is uncomfortable, it’s enough to be a violation.
We need to teach kids very early on about predators. It’s not only lions and snakes that can prey on our children but men too. Eish I pray there is a special place in hell for rapists and child molesters. Very hot !!! Sies
I know what you mean is sad
This so heartbreaking 💔
her story!! My mother used to block me and my sister from visiting some homes,mostly neighbours or friends home.Little did she know such things can be done by your own family,what’s sad about a kid being raped is that the kid will think it’s normal because they know nothing about rape🥺😢’It’s my cousin maybe it’s normal’.Sometimes you find out the elder in the home of the cousin knows about what was happening,but inyani yokuma and correct or stop what was happening engenayo and still does not have it😢
Peace,healing,and the ability to forgive those who have wronged us and lead us through a dark hole of life that is filled with anger♥️💯
I always wonder what makes these boys feel it's okay to do that to little girls? I feel that in our black communities there's not enough teaching or parenting for both girls and boys. We've all heard these types of stories and some of us were just lucky it didn't happen to us but honestly it makes me angry how adult's treat children like they're not human. They don't communicate well, they ignore them because they're kids, they shout at them when they do wrong, say nothing when they do right.
We need our generation to do better. This is really unfair on children to have to resort to running away from home.
... they shout at them when they do wrong, say nothing when they do right... This part hits hard. May we do better to our children
I am so looking forward to part two
Ma'am spiritual problems do exist. That's why we have spiritual churches to deal with all that.
These man who use women (sex workers) like this- whether this is consensual or not, I wanna know their perspective. Like a panel of men who occasionally pay for sex- whats going on in their lives and why do they do this. Or has that been done before?
Sec work ( for consenting adults) in itself wil always exist so unless we as a society can aid in it being unnecessary we cannot shame the women who find work in it but I am curious for the men, how can they enjoy knowing it’s transactional, what was their first experience like with a sex worker and why resort to that. You know?
I used to buy prostitutes now I reside overseas, there was a gap in my life. I hate rapists wholeheartedly, but man also go through stuff that drives to purchase prostitutes I knew it was wrong, but I still bought sex. Listening to this I regret what I did coz buying prostitutes affects you as well spiritually.
@@valentineisraelshabangu4069 thanks for your vulnerability we needed to hear this
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
No love you wanting to play was not your weakness. You were a kid and at that point in our lives all that we want to do is to play. I refuse for you to take any responsibility in this issue as if you were somewhat responsible for what those beast did to you
I'm sorry 😢😔
"My Virginia will get a break " shoooo I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
Neh
"My vg will finally get a break "😂... I'm sorry though about what you went through
You know what 😂 I also lost it a lil bit... But her story is heavy and i feel for her!
Parents, please look after your children, take that extra mile. There's a lot of wolves out there!
The pain in her voice.
Yoh 💔💔
I always get heart broken by this sad stories especially because I have a girl child may God continue to heal her
She's great storyteller, speaks well...
Cousin brother who was born by moms late sister tried with me while I was asleep, he was on top of me and in the room where there were two opposite beds wher I used to share with my brother but that day my brother was not there in the room slept in the dining room. I felt the heavy weight and coz I was asleep thought was my brother coz we were very playful but since there was not response and felt he is trying to put his thing on me as I could feel I fought hide as my sleeping position was faced down and he was on my back. I fought hard eventually I succeeded he tried to hide in between the two beds and I stood up and realised it was him I screamed and kept on kicking him hard until my parents came asking what happened and I was crying told them and my dad n mom decided that my mom takes me to the dr in the morning and dr said nothing happened yet but gave me ointments to clean myself and by the time we arrived home my dad already kicked him out of the house that he never returns to his house ever.
This been traumatic as I had never said it to other relatives except my grandparents who were told about the incident and my grandpa never wanted him as part of the family ever.
I went back to NPS as I was living with my grandmother he went to live there, it was hard for me to even be in the same space and trauma I still have coz this was never discussed by anyone even by my parents everyone went silent. I was silently traumatised my whole life and still hate even hearing his name from relatives who have no clue asking wondering what happened to him becoz we’ve never know his whereabouts but had heard rumours of where is living.
I’m happy I never get to experience him as part of my family ever since that time I think I was about 13/14 yrs of age he tried raping me and I feel for all the victims who were actually raped that must be worse and devastating
😭💞
Off topic- she's beautiful
I was raped also when I was young but I didn't know it was rape and how to explain to my mom but now when I get all reflections I get angry and depressed asking myself why I didn't tell my mom or scream for help.
I'm looking forward to part 2
Already up!
It’s great to be first ❤️ Ready to unpack .
Wow what an achievement!
@@InfoHubZA I know right🥁
@@ShuvaiAprilzw 😆
Yoh this is so heavy to watch😔💔
Heart breaking💔
Early exposure to sex is a life long trauma. Parents please supervise children, see them when they play. No ndize, hide and seek. For adults who rape children you are cruel, you are monsters😢. Hope children exposed to sex early heal and when they become parents that they protect their children and keep them safe 🙏🏿
Notification gang🙌❤ let's unpack....
Waiting for part 2
Everytime I speak to a man who has a daughter , I always make a point to tell them how important having a loving father is to a young girl😢.
This is heartbreaking serious it hit me inside🔥🔥
😭😭😭😭😭😭Love and light 💡 to you sisi 💔♥️🤗
💔I'm so sorry this happened to you
She looks like rihanna
This is pain....ful , especially when u have a girl child...surely this can be a common behaviour..
Oh gosh, I'm wondering did thy use protection, bathong man why cnt u see child is child 😢 ur expirece was painful nd she was fearless
Obviously they didn’t cause she said twice they left slimey things near me
How many parents who don't trust anyone around their children even family members 🤚
So sad to listen to them opening up ther life story unpacking 😢
Let's not skip ads.
I also feel that the parents are not teaching their boy children that it is not ok to violate females whatever their age. It lays at the feet of the men in these communities.
She was only 7 years old❗️
😢 I want to buy her book
Thank you. You can reach me on FB.
@@mmathabomooa5407 please share your FB page.
“Finally my vagina will get a break”😩💔😭
Notification gang
kkk finally my vagina will get a break. that killed me😆😅😃
What a question from Relebogile. Parents can't monitor every part of a child's life. You can't micromanage children. I'm never comfy with listening nuances of misandry. Great interview though 9/10.
I Like before I even watch I Promise you!🥰 BCOZ I KNOW!!🔥🔥
I’m so sorry 😭😭😭
Is unpacked no longer a daily show???
Oh nkosyami 🥺😭
Happy to be here..
Quote: " oh finally my vigina can have a break " woooow 😲😲😲😲
Why does rape keep repeating itself?? Is that a curse or what?
Sorry gal for what you went through
Opposite attracts, female children should be protected from their male counterparts by their respective responsible people. Man and woman are like cotton and fire. Once the damage is sustained, that's the end of it. What is done cannot be undone.