These times for Ed are hard. I have found it best when u are firm direct and to the point. He settles for awhile after this convo. Happy Wednesday. @dsalnorcal1434
They actually do things as a family and Dan seems to take him out to lunch quite often. Plus he spends days with Mark so I’m sure he does a lot more than watch tv all day.
Danielle seems to be the only one to mention dementia. DR Ed's look on his face when he heard the word dementia. Dan calls it memory loss and Ed seems to handle it better.
Yes maybe defeat but he’s fortunate to have family that here for him , I mean he obviously raised them wonderfully but still some are left and discarded
@robertcolacino7310 He left Dan's mom Joanne when Dan was 10 years old and Dan said that he barely saw his dad after that. When Ed married Janice (Danielle's mom) he and Danielle hated each other. It was so bad between Ed and Danielle that they shipped her across the country to Tennessee to live with her grandparents. Danielle said that Ed was extremely controlling and incredibly stubborn.
Poor grandpa just can’t believe that he has dementia 😢it’s so sad😔 he is such a wonderful person. You are doing a great job Danielle, Dan and family, thank you so much for that❣️God bless you all❤️
Grandpa's condition seems to be a daily acknowledgment of his reduced capacity. The moments are indeed hard. God bless Grandpa and his family as they help him adjust to his current reality.
I’m 32 years old . Taking care of my 94 year old grandfather with dementia. Understanding the ups and downs with taking care of someone with this disease. Seeing very similar issues and situations while comparing them to mine. Let me tell you the love , patience, and strength in both sides is at best.. ❤❤ Your during great ❤ Love from Clovis , CA. Yall take care and have a great day.
My husband is 67 and recently diagnosed with early on-set dementia. His license was taken away last October. He hates it and doesn't understand why they took his license. He had a driving evaluation and was devastated when they told him. Frankly its been hard on us both.
I am so sorry for the diagnosis and at 67 years of age. I think sometimes it’s harder for the caregiver because you live in reality and it’s difficult to watch the mental decline in your loved one. Everyone’s journey is different, but the heartbreak is the same. Prayers ongoing for you and your husband. 🙏
Danielle THANK YOU!!!!!! For showing REAL LIFE anyone that thinks this is easy has never walked one day in your shoes ....your amazing i for one see and understand ❤❤❤❤❤
Excellent! Good job, Danielle! You handled it well by being honest with him and telling him he has dementia. I noticed that’s when he started to understand why he can’t remember. I think Dan should start doing that and telling Ed that he has dementia.
These moment's are tough. Remember when I had to tell my Dad why he could no longer drive. Your right Danielle...you do the best you can and that's all you can do. ❤❤❤
People need to realize that every family might handle this situation differently!! There’s no need to be nasty or send hate comments to Danielle. They’re doing what works best for their family.
@@pamelasanchez481It only sounds mean because she has to shout for him to hear her. I have to do the same thing with my mom sometimes. It doesn't sound mean to him, because he doesn't hear it the same way. I often feel like I'm yelling at my mom, but she doesn't take it that way, because she doesn't hear it that way.
Remember, most elderly people are hard of hearing. She has to talk loud to him. I don’t see this as her being mean. Why does Danielle get criticized when her husband Dan talks with exactly the same tone?
The look on his face in the moment that he understands his diagnosis is heartbreaking. You are such a strong woman. Thank you for taking on this extremely difficult challenge.
This is the interaction ive been waiting almost a year for. Thank you for making it clear to him. For once i saw him acknowledge the fact that he has dementia.
It doesn’t matter what you say, because he won’t remember. Not that one way is better than the other, But giving him the straight up truth, does seem to settle him down a bit more quickly.
Poor Ed. He’s such a sweet man. It must be heartbreaking for him to hear every day that he has dementia and doesn’t own anything anymore. Telling him these things must be the only way that he will understand anything. Sad thing is it only last for several minutes and then you have to tell him all over again. It must be so hard on everyone. Dan and Danielle have the patience of a saint. I’m glad you get a little respite when Ed goes to Mark‘s house. It’s nice that his kids are taking good care of him. What a horrible disease. 🙁
Due to severe injury I had to stay in a nursing home for a few months, where there were also people with dementia. It was useless to tell them again and again that they were old and had dementia and could no longer do this and that. Some of the other old people would even enjoy saying hurtful things like, "no your husband will not come and pick you up because he ist dead." Instead I would say things like "you grandchild borrowed the car", or that they promised to help with little kitchen chores, or "no, your parents cannot come to pick you up before it stops raining". Most of the time it worked at least for a while. But they also needed to be occupied with something other than just TV, like folding towels or peeling potatoes, something that made them feel a little bit useful.
Doesn't matter you can give him keys or a fake license and he has money in his wallet but it doesn't work they been there tried that and everything else that people recommend it's definitely sad my dad had dementia as well but I give you a lot of praise and know how hard it can be most days you're amazing god bless you all❤
This was very difficult to listen to. He feels he has no purpose. My heart goes out to him. I know it must be difficult to care for him, know when to seek help. Danielle you and your husband work so hard to provide for the care his needs. You have my utmost respect.
Thank you Danielle for your honesty & patients!I sure wish grandpa could find something to keep his mind occupied,God knows you have tried everything you can!Its frustrating for your followers,I can’t imagine how it must be for you!❤
admirable! it is a hard pill to swallow yet it's your reality...and his, of course. bless his heart. stuck with an aging brain and his family just loves him and does the very best by him...and each other. what else can you do? getting angry the worst response so yall handle him firmly but lovingly. God bless you all!
The man is a doctor. He knows the meaning of dementia. He already interpreted his diagnosis. That's why he said.. I guess that's why I can't find my keys
Please know that you and Dan are doing a wonderful job taking care of Ed. He is 92 years old and is doing very well and he always wants to help and have conversations with everyone in your family. My dad was 94 and he had Dementia for about 12 years until he passed away two weeks ago from pneumonia. Don’t let inconsiderate people on the internet get you down as this is a hard disease and it affects the people suffering and their families in very different ways. All the best to you Dan and Ed. ❤ from Toronto Canada.
Becos he thinks he's still young, so he has a rest of his life. This wicked disease has a way of sending and setting them into adolescence sometimes, I do this for a living, for almost 20yrs now, one on one live-in cases, so u can just imagine the magnitude of what we caregivers are up against. Sometimes, we should only be lucky to get a case as "good" as Dr. Ed, whoisquite😂 cooperative, and a lot moreable and self supportive in certain aspects. Anytime I lose a client, i take a couple of to regain my sanity back, recharge, and off to the next unknown level of this tough adventure! Sad to watch sometimes! Good job Danielle and family, there's nothing simple or easy about this damn wicked disease!😢
YOU DID A GREAT JOB TELLING ED THE TRUTH!!! PERFECT, DANIELLE, keep it up, he might just get it after YOU repeat that truth every time. Bless you, that was a very difficulr conversation!! ❤❤❤❤
DAN....please, please take some ideas from Danielle and tell your Dad the truth! Play Danielle's response to Ed and you will see how terrific her response was to Ed. Even for 5 minutes Ed KNEW Danielle was telling the truth.
This breaks my heart. I know it’s frustrating for you. It is so painful seeing him confused like that. I don’t know how you do it. ❤ When he said “all I can do is watch tv” he knows he’s more capable and in disbelief this is his reality. I hate dementia!!!!!! Cruel disease!!!!
Wicked wicked disease!! U said everything I'm thinking. I do this for a living, about 20yrs now, one on one, live-in, 24/7, uuuuu, I could tell u stories. I know im a patient person by nature, thank God for this gift I got from mom, but to be able to take this on, for this long, I never ever thought I could survive it, from client to client! I always need a few months to recharge, after I lose a client, before I can go back to work, with a completely different situation. Hard!😢
Maybe she wouldn’t find it so easy to be direct if he was HER father.. I find her too harsh that’s just my opinion!.. I minded both my parents I know it’s not easy..
He always asked who's jacket that is..God bless u. ❤it's got to be hard cause I get so erated when someone says what u say? This disease is no joke. It's tough on everyone who loves Ed. The caregivers I feel for you. Much love ❤️
We are only human. Ed is frustrated and so is Danielle. In Ed’s mind he is saying all I can do is watch tv? He can’t at the moment remember how often they go out to lunch or the bank on outings period. Sit outside talk laugh eat together. Ed lives in the moment. Danielle does the laundry, cleans house takes care of her family plus a hundred other things. She sits down to find a moment to rest and Ed comes in and is confused and disappointed that he can’t remember. There have been a lot of videos where Danielle and Ed are laughing and doing silly things on the computer, sometimes he fold socks or laundry or change. Danielle is showing everyday life, ups and downs. It’s the disease that is the enemy not the people. I worked in dementia care for 6 months, one day my supervisor walked in the main door with one of my patients! She just walked out with another family and told my supervisor she was going to Walmart to go shopping! My boss didn’t yell at me because I can only do so much at a time. You never know what a patient may do…..walk out the door or try to bake a cake. It’s frustrating and funny, maddening and silly. Ed is lucky he has a caring family. It’s no body’s fault! It’s a shame we don’t have a cure! Thank you to this family who cares!🙏❤️🕊
It was the same thing with my mother. Over and over again with her car and keys. What we did was keep her car in the garage so she could open the door and see it. Even though she couldn't drive anymore and we took her keys, she seemed to find comfort in just knowing and seeing her car in the garage. I know exactly what you are going through, Danielle. Deep Breaths and count to 10...
"For my whole life, I have to sit down and watch TV?"...this made me laugh out loud. He cuts right to the chase. God bless you all. I know it must be challenging. You and Dan are angels on earth.
@OneWithTheUniverse55- I understand what you mean because it seems to me that he always had a sense of humor even before his dementia and It comes out often when he is speaking. Dan seems to have a very similar personality to his dad’s, including that same sense of humor.
I wish I could come over and give you some time away from your caregiving. This has to be hard, and it does wear you down. However, you ALL do an amazing job trying to keep him calm. ❤😊❤😊
Danielle, this must be so difficult for you, having to say this over and over and see the expressions on his face as he's trying to process it. I can't imagine how painful this is for you both. ❤
God bless you (& Dan) - you have the patience of a saint. I know first hand about the difficulties of dealing with dementia - my father had it. My mother passed before him, & he would be outside pacing, & when asked what he was doing he would say "I'm waiting for your mother to come out so we can go to the store." I feel your pain - you & Dan (& Ed) are in my prayers.
Keep your chin up Danielle. My mother is 99-1/2 and I talk to her almost everyday. She tells me the same thing every single day. I know she has told me the same story one million times. Just gotta go with the flow. Luv ya.
This is a very sad thing to witness of anyone. He will never forget that he had a car and a house. This will forever be apart of him. Thanks for being straight forward and honest with him.....I love your eye brows. They look really nice!
This is hard for both of you.But the reality gives him more peace than the wonderng where the carkeys are.It is a repeditive thing he asks.You do the best you can to help him and that to is not easy.Stay strong,this is what needs to be done.
I’m going to visit my mother and brother for 3 weeks to give my brother a break. It is something we never prepared for but, here we are. You are wonderful Danielle❣️
That made me sad when he said that's all I have to do the rest of my life. I am in my 60s and look forward to being able to just sit at some point, I am constantly doing. But when you're in the midst of it after being so active and having things to take care of and then to think that's all there is to the rest of my life😢 Danielle you do such a great job with patience and helping navigate through it. God bless you guys, and I am going to be grateful for what I GET to do❤
I read how when dealing with someone with dementia, there are times where you have to be straightforward with them because not doing this can be dangerous. Also, it is important to keep them grounded with factual knowledge and events surrounding them. I see you and Dan doing this all the time, no matter how frustrated he gets.
That jacket hanging there drives him crazy. Any little thing that looks out of place gets Ed's attention. I appreciate you and Dan sharing to better educate people like me.
5 things to remember when someone with dementia is asking to go home 1. Avoid arguing about whether they are already ‘home' For a person with dementia, the term 'home' may describe something more than the place they currently live. Often when a person with dementia asks to go home it refers to the sense of ’home’ rather than home itself. ‘Home’ may represent memories of a time or place that was comfortable and secure and where they felt relaxed and happier. It could also be an indefinable place that may not physically exist. It’s usually best not to try to reason or disagree with the person about where their home is.
I appreciate you showing another side to these videos. People need to understand how hard being a fulltime caregiver is and the balancing act it becomes managing one's own mental health along with another's. I admire your resilience
Danielle, you are such an inspiring wonderful woman! Super blessed with such patience - not easy at all. Yes, it's fun to watch 1-2 minutes on screens, but 24/7 care... man oh man 🤗 God bless your heart, give you strength, and most importantly, health. Much love 💖
Oh he does not like to hear what u said. When he was fed up he turned and walked out and every time he passes that jacket he says is that your jacket? No matter who is in the room. Poor Ed. He so wants to be able to do what he used to do. Chris from Michigan
Aww, poor grandpa...hearing the brutal honesty...it's just so heartbreaking and hard to watch 😢 Prayers to everyone going through this, caregivers and all! God Bless 🙌🏾 ❤
My mothers license was taken away at 83. My brother asked her doctor to call the dmv. The next 3 years before she passed she would say several times a day that she could not understand why they would take her license when she drove the city buses for 17 years. She was driving about 20 mi an hour towards the end and turning the wrong way at traffic circles and stopping in the middle of the road. She also called me Mom for 2 years. My son and I took care of her for the last 8 years of her life. It was very sad😢 but I would do it all over again
Great job my girl what I’m always impressed by is that he trusts your telling him the truth where as Dan he thinks he is joking with him. I love you both for trying your best xx love to you both from England uk 🇬🇧 xx
Morning Danielle, you did really well, I really liked how you explained to to him using those terms like dementia, memory loss and that you wish you can help him but there’s nothing nobody can do for him and that it is what it is, very well said, and he doesn’t get all butt hurt like everyone makes it seem, grandpa Ed is a realist, despite the dementia, right away he accepted it and even went on to ask if that if that was his jacket…bittersweet cuz you’re doing the best you can, but it’s hard to watch him go through this, but thank God, he’s a trooper, have a great day lady D.
I had a client like Dr. Ed, tied keys , his license & a stick( he liked to measure things) to a gait belt so they were always with him, made him happy.
That was too hard for Dr Ed to digest that he has dementia. I think using the word memory lose .It's much better that way. Wawoo such as life. I like it when Dan uses the word memory loss.
Poor Ed, he will be looking for his wallet, keys and car forever. This has to be hard for you.
Wow, Dr. Ed's skin has healed beautifully; that's what good care will do for you. 🥰
It was a sucker punch in the gut when he asked then all ill do is watch TV, coming from a medical doctor to sitting around. It must be hard😢
They actually do things as a family and Dan seems to take him out to lunch quite often. Plus he spends days with Mark so I’m sure he does a lot more than watch tv all day.
I totally understand. He feels that he has become lazy of a kind😢😢, of course he can't remember all those trips with family😊
There are adult daycares where he could meet other people.
He should not be wandering through the house in a fog of despair.
@@maryshanley329 easier said than done. My grandmother's doctor advised to keep her home with family and not place her in assisted care
Danielle seems to be the only one to mention dementia.
DR Ed's look on his face when he heard the word dementia. Dan calls it memory loss and Ed seems to handle it better.
I hate it has to be this way, but such is life. "My whole life, I have to sit down and watch tv"... I felt his sense of defeat. 😢
Yes maybe defeat but he’s fortunate to have family that here for him , I mean he obviously raised them wonderfully but still some are left and discarded
My heart broke for Grandpa too at the moment. The fact that it was the 5th time he was in that room asking for his keys/car. 😔
me too😪😪
@robertcolacino7310 He left Dan's mom Joanne when Dan was 10 years old and Dan said that he barely saw his dad after that. When Ed married Janice (Danielle's mom) he and Danielle hated each other. It was so bad between Ed and Danielle that they shipped her across the country to Tennessee to live with her grandparents. Danielle said that Ed was extremely controlling and incredibly stubborn.
@@francenefelcherno way, that would make them siblings
Its scary to get old!
Terrifying.
Granpa feels 30 years younger and he is bored at home watching TV. He needs a car, keys, job and wife in his mind...such a sweetheart. ❤
Poor grandpa just can’t believe that he has dementia 😢it’s so sad😔 he is such a wonderful person. You are doing a great job Danielle, Dan and family, thank you so much for that❣️God bless you all❤️
Grandpa's condition seems to be a daily acknowledgment of his reduced capacity. The moments are indeed hard. God bless Grandpa and his family as they help him adjust to his current reality.
I’m 32 years old .
Taking care of my 94 year old grandfather with dementia.
Understanding the ups and downs with taking care of someone with this disease.
Seeing very similar issues and situations while comparing them to mine.
Let me tell you the love , patience, and strength in both sides is at best.. ❤❤
Your during great ❤
Love from Clovis , CA.
Yall take care and have a great day.
I am sure you are doing a great job with your grandfather as well. Maybe he can’t tell you thank you for what you, but I will. Thank you Sweetheart 🥰
@@Joyfully8888 Thank you ☺️ I appreciate that ❤️
Hang tough! ❤️
Wow.. 94 years of age. Keep going. You got this. 🙏
I used to tell my dad " I wish i could fix it all for you, Dad. It worked with him to validate both his frustration and my own"
True
My husband is 67 and recently diagnosed with early on-set dementia. His license was taken away last October. He hates it and doesn't understand why they took his license. He had a driving evaluation and was devastated when they told him. Frankly its been hard on us both.
I bet!
I feel heartbroken by his "discovery" that he has dementia. 😢
My husband blames me and won't accept his alzheimer's diagnosis.
@@wanjirunganga-gichuhi876 They are lucky it doesn't make him angry.
I am so sorry for the diagnosis and at 67 years of age. I think sometimes it’s harder for the caregiver because you live in reality and it’s difficult to watch the mental decline in your loved one. Everyone’s journey is different, but the heartbreak is the same. Prayers ongoing for you and your husband. 🙏
Thank you Danielle for taking such good care of Ed.
Always!
This makes me so sad…it’s no one’s fault…but it sure is heartbreaking 💔
I go through this daily with my father-in-law now. It's not easy but you handled it great. Love you, Danielle. 😘♥️
It’s amazing how Ed still has the ability to piece certain things together. Sharp man.
He is
Bless his heart 🫶🏻💗
Danielle THANK YOU!!!!!! For showing REAL LIFE anyone that thinks this is easy has never walked one day in your shoes ....your amazing i for one see and understand ❤❤❤❤❤
Ty
Excellent! Good job, Danielle! You handled it well by being honest with him and telling him he has dementia. I noticed that’s when he started to understand why he can’t remember. I think Dan should start doing that and telling Ed that he has dementia.
I totally agree that the dementia reason should be consistent. Even if he feels he can drive, the dementia proves otherwise.
As a Doctor he knows the word dementia You are a Saint Stay strong dementia is soooo tough ❤
I totally agree! 🫶
These moment's are tough. Remember when I had to tell my Dad why he could no longer drive. Your right Danielle...you do the best you can and that's all you can do. ❤❤❤
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I wish there were a cure for this disease. It's heartbreaking for everyone involved. 💔 ❤
People need to realize that every family might handle this situation differently!! There’s no need to be nasty or send hate comments to Danielle. They’re doing what works best for their family.
She just sounds so mean 😢
@@pamelasanchez481It only sounds mean because she has to shout for him to hear her. I have to do the same thing with my mom sometimes. It doesn't sound mean to him, because he doesn't hear it the same way. I often feel like I'm yelling at my mom, but she doesn't take it that way, because she doesn't hear it that way.
Very well stated. I totally agree. My mother and grandad were hearing impaired.@@pattysheldon656
@@pamelasanchez481It’s just the way Danielle talks to him. I don’t see a problem. I bet if this was Dan y’all wouldn’t call him mean. 🤷🏽♀️
Remember, most elderly people are hard of hearing. She has to talk loud to him. I don’t see this as her being mean. Why does Danielle get criticized when her husband Dan talks with exactly the same tone?
Plain as day..
He loves her & trusts her & accepted her logic. ❤
That has to be so hard for them both to accept. 💔
Big Hugs to you Danielle .
Much love ❤️
You are more straight forward with him than Dan, seems to work better
Bless you daniell❤
The look on his face in the moment that he understands his diagnosis is heartbreaking. You are such a strong woman. Thank you for taking on this extremely difficult challenge.
Direct . To the point. Said with authority and love.❤❤❤ ❤
This is the interaction ive been waiting almost a year for. Thank you for making it clear to him. For once i saw him acknowledge the fact that he has dementia.
Danielle tells him the truth always. Dan softens it by saying a little memory loss.
It doesn’t matter what you say, because he won’t remember. Not that one way is better than the other, But giving him the straight up truth, does seem to settle him down a bit more quickly.
@@IMadeThis123True, Ed will forget the conversation in about 15 minutes.
@@Jessica-ml6tdLess
Came to say the exact same thing
Danielle, you’re very kind and straight forward with Ed. You have a lot of patience. God bless you and Dan for taking such good care of Ed. 😊
I wish I had a son and sweet daughter-in-law to help me. He's very blessed to have them to take care of him
Ed is so blessed to have a loving family to care for him and I do believe he realizes it! God bless all of you❤
Poor Ed. He’s such a sweet man. It must be heartbreaking for him to hear every day that he has dementia and doesn’t own anything anymore. Telling him these things must be the only way that he will understand anything. Sad thing is it only last for several minutes and then you have to tell him all over again. It must be so hard on everyone. Dan and Danielle have the patience of a saint. I’m glad you get a little respite when Ed goes to Mark‘s house. It’s nice that his kids are taking good care of him. What a horrible disease. 🙁
So so sad but it will come to us all eventually. Loss of freedom has to be worse of all.
Due to severe injury I had to stay in a nursing home for a few months, where there were also people with dementia. It was useless to tell them again and again that they were old and had dementia and could no longer do this and that. Some of the other old people would even enjoy saying hurtful things like, "no your husband will not come and pick you up because he ist dead." Instead I would say things like "you grandchild borrowed the car", or that they promised to help with little kitchen chores, or "no, your parents cannot come to pick you up before it stops raining". Most of the time it worked at least for a while. But they also needed to be occupied with something other than just TV, like folding towels or peeling potatoes, something that made them feel a little bit useful.
That's so sad. So glad Ed is not in a facility. I know he gets bored but it's still a whole lot better where he is.
🤣🤣I have to sit down and watch tv my whole life, he killed me. Best line I 've ever heard from the old man.
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😂😂😂
It's very sad. Imagine how it would feel to realize that your life has been reduced to that.
I think you’re right.
That was heartbreaking 💔
Doesn't matter you can give him keys or a fake license and he has money in his wallet but it doesn't work they been there tried that and everything else that people recommend it's definitely sad my dad had dementia as well but I give you a lot of praise and know how hard it can be most days you're amazing god bless you all❤
You are such a nice person. He always says, "I'm 92?" 😊
Yep, Granda Ed can't believe he's 92...😂. He's ready to go conquer the world some more. Bless his heart 🙏
This was very difficult to listen to. He feels he has no purpose. My heart goes out to him. I know it must be difficult to care for him, know when to seek help. Danielle you and your husband work so hard to provide for the care his needs. You have my utmost respect.
Thank you Danielle for your honesty & patients!I sure wish grandpa could find something to keep his mind occupied,God knows you have tried everything you can!Its frustrating for your followers,I can’t imagine how it must be for you!❤
Thank you so much!
It's getting worse😢❤hang in there you'll be glad looking back🙏bless you 💕 love
Wow That was a hard one, but once again you handled it perfectly. ❤
Thank you! 😊
This is so frustrating for you all. My heart hurts for you and everyone going through this 😢💔
I notice that Ed trusts what Danielle tells him more than what Dan tells him. Dealing with dementia is definitely a learning experience.
You do such a great job Danielle. I can only imagine how hard it must be!
Great job Danielle!! You handled the situation very well.
admirable! it is a hard pill to swallow yet it's your reality...and his, of course. bless his heart. stuck with an aging brain and his family just loves him and does the very best by him...and each other. what else can you do? getting angry the worst response so yall handle him firmly but lovingly. God bless you all!
True. It’s hard for sure. No easy answers ever!
@@mrsdsalnorcal it is what it is. You did g8!
You are doing a great job, Danielle. Don't ever let the trolls get you down.
The man is a doctor. He knows the meaning of dementia. He already interpreted his diagnosis. That's why he said.. I guess that's why I can't find my keys
Please know that you and Dan are doing a wonderful job taking care of Ed. He is 92 years old and is doing very well and he always wants to help and have conversations with everyone in your family. My dad was 94 and he had Dementia for about 12 years until he passed away two weeks ago from pneumonia. Don’t let inconsiderate people on the internet get you down as this is a hard disease and it affects the people suffering and their families in very different ways. All the best to you Dan and Ed. ❤ from Toronto Canada.
God love him, I just love his little laugh and how he’s going to just sit and watch tv for the rest of his life 😂
Becos he thinks he's still young, so he has a rest of his life. This wicked disease has a way of sending and setting them into adolescence sometimes, I do this for a living, for almost 20yrs now, one on one live-in cases, so u can just imagine the magnitude of what we caregivers are up against. Sometimes, we should only be lucky to get a case as "good" as Dr. Ed, whoisquite😂 cooperative, and a lot moreable and self supportive in certain aspects. Anytime I lose a client, i take a couple of to regain my sanity back, recharge, and off to the next unknown level of this tough adventure! Sad to watch sometimes! Good job Danielle and family, there's nothing simple or easy about this damn wicked disease!😢
He can do other things than watching TV ,but he doesn't like activities like puzzle etc.
OMG! At 92 my whole life I got to sit down and watch TV❤❤❤
I love how you explain it so well to him. Being a retired doctor, he seems to get it to a point which seems helpful.
YOU DID A GREAT JOB TELLING ED THE TRUTH!!!
PERFECT, DANIELLE, keep it up, he might just get it after YOU repeat that truth every time. Bless you, that was a very difficulr conversation!!
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Yes! Thank you!
DAN....please, please take some ideas from Danielle and tell your Dad the truth! Play Danielle's response to Ed and you will see how terrific her response was to Ed. Even for 5 minutes Ed KNEW Danielle was telling the truth.
This breaks my heart. I know it’s frustrating for you. It is so painful seeing him confused like that. I don’t know how you do it. ❤ When he said “all I can do is watch tv” he knows he’s more capable and in disbelief this is his reality. I hate dementia!!!!!! Cruel disease!!!!
Wicked wicked disease!! U said everything I'm thinking. I do this for a living, about 20yrs now, one on one, live-in, 24/7, uuuuu, I could tell u stories. I know im a patient person by nature, thank God for this gift I got from mom, but to be able to take this on, for this long, I never ever thought I could survive it, from client to client! I always need a few months to recharge, after I lose a client, before I can go back to work, with a completely different situation. Hard!😢
So hard 😉
Maybe she wouldn’t find it so easy to be direct if he was HER father.. I find her too harsh that’s just my opinion!.. I minded both my parents I know it’s not easy..
He always asked who's jacket that is..God bless u. ❤it's got to be hard cause I get so erated when someone says what u say? This disease is no joke. It's tough on everyone who loves Ed. The caregivers I feel for you. Much love ❤️
We are only human. Ed is frustrated and so is Danielle. In Ed’s mind he is saying all I can do is watch tv? He can’t at the moment remember how often they go out to lunch or the bank on outings period. Sit outside talk laugh eat together. Ed lives in the moment. Danielle does the laundry, cleans house takes care of her family plus a hundred other things. She sits down to find a moment to rest and Ed comes in and is confused and disappointed that he can’t remember. There have been a lot of videos where Danielle and Ed are laughing and doing silly things on the computer, sometimes he fold socks or laundry or change. Danielle is showing everyday life, ups and downs. It’s the disease that is the enemy not the people. I worked in dementia care for 6 months, one day my supervisor walked in the main door with one of my patients! She just walked out with another family and told my supervisor she was going to Walmart to go shopping! My boss didn’t yell at me because I can only do so much at a time.
You never know what a patient may do…..walk out the door or try to bake a cake.
It’s frustrating and funny, maddening and silly.
Ed is lucky he has a caring family. It’s no body’s fault! It’s a shame we don’t have a cure!
Thank you to this family who cares!🙏❤️🕊
I love this family ❤
It was the same thing with my mother. Over and over again with her car and keys. What we did was keep her car in the garage so she could open the door and see it. Even though she couldn't drive anymore and we took her keys, she seemed to find comfort in just knowing and seeing her car in the garage. I know exactly what you are going through, Danielle. Deep Breaths and count to 10...
"For my whole life, I have to sit down and watch TV?"...this made me laugh out loud. He cuts right to the chase.
God bless you all.
I know it must be challenging.
You and Dan are angels on earth.
It made me cry😢
@@mink2536 Yes, that was a sad moment, but at least he won't remember it which in this case is a good thing.
It's sad
I guess we all see things different. This made me sad 😢😢😢 I can't imagine how he feels having no control of his life anymore.
@OneWithTheUniverse55- I understand what you mean because it seems to me that he always had a sense of humor even before his dementia and It comes out often when he is speaking. Dan seems to have a very similar personality to his dad’s, including that same sense of humor.
I wish I could come over and give you some time away from your caregiving. This has to be hard, and it does wear you down. However, you ALL do an amazing job trying to keep him calm. ❤😊❤😊
Danielle, this must be so difficult for you, having to say this over and over and see the expressions on his face as he's trying to process it. I can't imagine how painful this is for you both. ❤
Especially when u need a minute 😉
He's #1 on my favorite person list keep on rocking it pops ❤ u forever no matter what hi Danielle hi Dan do the best u can that's right❤❤❤❤❤❤
Dad is so lucky to have such a compassionate family to keep him centered. He accepts Danielle's assertions more readily than Dan's lol.
God bless you (& Dan) - you have the patience of a saint. I know first hand about the difficulties of dealing with dementia - my father had it. My mother passed before him, & he would be outside pacing, & when asked what he was doing he would say "I'm waiting for your mother to come out so we can go to the store." I feel your pain - you & Dan (& Ed) are in my prayers.
Keep your chin up Danielle. My mother is 99-1/2 and I talk to her almost everyday. She tells me the same thing every single day. I know she has told me the same story one million times. Just gotta go with the flow. Luv ya.
Ty❤️
This is a very sad thing to witness of anyone. He will never forget that he had a car and a house. This will forever be apart of him. Thanks for being straight forward and honest with him.....I love your eye brows. They look really nice!
This is hard for both of you.But the reality gives him more peace than the wonderng where the carkeys are.It is a repeditive thing he asks.You do the best you can to help him and that to is not easy.Stay strong,this is what needs to be done.
That was sad😢
You are doing a great job Danielle. ❤ I can't even imagine the amount of effort it takes to settle him down. 😮
I’m going to visit my mother and brother for 3 weeks to give my brother a break. It is something we never prepared for but, here we are. You are wonderful Danielle❣️
Wow good for you. It must be hard going back and forth so much. But so worth it.
Awe bless him. Hes.just heard that, and still said thank you. Hes amazing, and so are you.❤ prob stll ask you again tomorrow Joan, Manchester Uk
That made me sad when he said that's all I have to do the rest of my life. I am in my 60s and look forward to being able to just sit at some point, I am constantly doing. But when you're in the midst of it after being so active and having things to take care of and then to think that's all there is to the rest of my life😢 Danielle you do such a great job with patience and helping navigate through it. God bless you guys, and I am going to be grateful for what I GET to do❤
I wld also love to sit haha 😉
I read how when dealing with someone with dementia, there are times where you have to be straightforward with them because not doing this can be dangerous. Also, it is important to keep them grounded with factual knowledge and events surrounding them. I see you and Dan doing this all the time, no matter how frustrated he gets.
With some for sure. Others maybe not so much. 😉
I love you Danielle. That has to be so tiring, but I love your straight talk with him. I can only pray for a peaceful day for all of you.
That jacket hanging there drives him crazy. Any little thing that looks out of place gets Ed's attention. I appreciate you and Dan sharing to better educate people like me.
Good job Danielle you are wonderful with Ed bless you!
5 things to remember when someone with dementia is asking to go home
1. Avoid arguing about whether they are already ‘home'
For a person with dementia, the term 'home' may describe something more than the place they currently live. Often when a person with dementia asks to go home it refers to the sense of ’home’ rather than home itself.
‘Home’ may represent memories of a time or place that was comfortable and secure and where they felt relaxed and happier. It could also be an indefinable place that may not physically exist.
It’s usually best not to try to reason or disagree with the person about where their home is.
He's always so polite.
Danielle, I love how straight forward you are with Ed. 👏🏼
I appreciate you showing another side to these videos. People need to understand how hard being a fulltime caregiver is and the balancing act it becomes managing one's own mental health along with another's. I admire your resilience
Ty
That was so sad when Ed asked if that’s all he has to do for the rest of his life is watch TV?
Danielle, you are such an inspiring wonderful woman! Super blessed with such patience - not easy at all. Yes, it's fun to watch 1-2 minutes on screens, but 24/7 care... man oh man 🤗 God bless your heart, give you strength, and most importantly, health. Much love 💖
Hugs & Prayers To Ed
& Danielle & Dan💛💛💛
Yes that was hard for Ed. I wish different for him but as u say there u have it.❤😢
It is what it is.
Oh he does not like to hear what u said. When he was fed up he turned and walked out and every time he passes that jacket he says is that your jacket? No matter who is in the room. Poor Ed. He so wants to be able to do what he used to do.
Chris from Michigan
God’s blessings to Ed and to you and Dan. I’ve been there and I truly understand.🙏🏻
Hammerhead Shark Woman grinds...
I cracked up when he said “for my whole life I have to sit down and watch TV!” Awwww, Dr. Ed! You are awesome!!! ❤
Aww, poor grandpa...hearing the brutal honesty...it's just so heartbreaking and hard to watch 😢 Prayers to everyone going through this, caregivers and all! God Bless 🙌🏾 ❤
My mothers license was taken away at 83. My brother asked her doctor to call the dmv. The next 3 years before she passed she would say several times a day that she could not understand why they would take her license when she drove the city buses for 17 years. She was driving about 20 mi an hour towards the end and turning the wrong way at traffic circles and stopping in the middle of the road. She also called me Mom for 2 years. My son and I took care of her for the last 8 years of her life. It was very sad😢 but I would do it all over again
Great job my girl what I’m always impressed by is that he trusts your telling him the truth where as Dan he thinks he is joking with him. I love you both for trying your best xx love to you both from England uk 🇬🇧 xx
I actually feel him when he said “ I can watch tv for the rest of my life” oh shame🙆♀️
Such a sad disease 😢
OMG THIS VIDEO BROKE MY HEART ❤️ 😢😢😢😢😢😢 I LOVE HIM SO MUCH ❤
I’ve been waiting for you or Dan to explain it to him the way you did. Very effective, great job!
Ty
Morning Danielle, you did really well, I really liked how you explained to to him using those terms like dementia, memory loss and that you wish you can help him but there’s nothing nobody can do for him and that it is what it is, very well said, and he doesn’t get all butt hurt like everyone makes it seem, grandpa Ed is a realist, despite the dementia, right away he accepted it and even went on to ask if that if that was his jacket…bittersweet cuz you’re doing the best you can, but it’s hard to watch him go through this, but thank God, he’s a trooper, have a great day lady D.
I had a client like Dr. Ed, tied keys , his license & a stick( he liked to measure things) to a gait belt so they were always with him, made him happy.
All you can do is go with the flow and enjoy the good
times... much love to y'all, with heartfelt hugs... ❤
Heartbreaking
Danielle the way you spoke to Ed was brilliant so clear and completely honest with him. You can tell he respects you for it.
He does 😉
At least he say thank you !! Thank You friend 🎉🎉🎉
That was too hard for Dr Ed to digest that he has dementia. I think using the word memory lose .It's much better that way. Wawoo such as life. I like it when Dan uses the word memory loss.
I do both. Sometimes u need to do what u gotta do.
Bless his ❤️ Heart...getting old is hard.💜