I had the first thoughts of suicide when I was 10 years old. Have found that my soul is unhappy. i decided to become a healer and heal my soul. Now I'm 54 and I've been dealing with horrible narcissists all my life who have always ruined my life. But I do not give up. your videos help me build a life free of narcissists.❤❤❤
There are narcissists who want to merge with you because they want to consume you in some way, but most of the time, narcissists see you as an object. You arejust a thing, an appliance that they need to use for a time, as long as you serve them exactly as they want. You are not a human being with feelings, deams, goals, with a heart and a soul, you are a thing they play with or use as a means to an end. They can't loveyou because you are an object, even if they may say they love you. But they only love you as long as you are useful for whatever purpose they have in mind. With a narcissist, nothing is ever permanent and there is no future. They live in the present only and they take whatever they can get from you unti they find a new shiny object to play with and use. They might have several at the same time, so they can pick and choose. We live in a world where we are surrounded by them, every day more so. It is common to get into relationships with more than one narc. But the silver lining is that though they are lethal, they are also very predictable, they are all the same, and once you know one of them you know them all. And when you know you are with a narc, as hard as it is, try to cut them off if you can. As tempting as it is, don't look back, don't go back, no matter what they do. They will never love you, but will always use you, discard you, and leave you with a broken heart. Sorry to be so blunt. As I write these words, I also remind myself.
The ex narc I was with years ago, once said to me ' My soul needs yours ' but he said it in such a creepy yet deadly serious way... I actually got a shiver down my spine at the time, I still remember that specific comment he made to this day (4yrs later) 😮 They are straight up demons 😈 Absolutely no doubt about it.
Great conclusion. I agree that those of us who have "the knowledge", have an obligation "to protect and inform and advise". Empaths who are unaware, "forgive" and try to "fix", it is in our nature. But these people are beyond redemption (nor would they ever acknowledge needing to be redeemed). Attempting to "fix a narcissist" only serves the Cluster B through deeper entanglement. You must disengage completely to regain yourself. It took me years to find the Kryptonite. Today I can spot them easily.
@EXPOSED. Algerian satanic narcissist. Bilal lakama They impersonate a normal, loving empath with a conscience (in the beginning) so these marriages are based on fraud and entrapment in my opinion and are null and void.
Can you imagine if everyone stopped being empathetic just because it wasn't reciprocated... Personally, I love narcissists. They keep me on my toes and if not for the living nightmare I experienced-- let me put it this way, I'm FAR stronger (mentally, physically, and even spiritually--not religious, baahhhhh-raaaam-you!) and happier due to all that unnecessary suffering that turned out to be very necessary in the end, and now I see it as a lesson that was very much needed and I'm a much better person because of it. I didn't like the weakling that was destroyed anyway and even if I didn't survive, which I nearly didn't, I would almost see it as a mercy killing. Shit happens for a reason and I now see the most painful experince of my life as a blessing. When going through hell...KEEP GOING!
I agree TJ Tampa! You took the words right out of my mouth.........IT MOST DEFINITELY IS NOT AN ORDINARY SITUATION! I have met a lot of broken people who are not narcissist! The two narcissist that have been fixated on me and obsessed with me are THE MOST annoying people that I have ever met......... copying me, trying to be me, lying, playing mind games, and EVEN STALKING ME, after I cut them off! 🤔🤨🥴 And I am a woman and these narcs are very envious women! One is a neighbor who is mad at me because she tried to force a relationship on me and I cut her off! The very last time she said hello to me I didn't say one word back, I just kept on walking without giving her any eye contact! This is when the stalking me at stores began! UGH..... Creepy and weird! I am so disgusted! And I do mean these narcs literally disgust me and frustrate me to no end!!!!! 😝🤦🤦🤦
Agreed. "Narcissist" makes it sound way lighter, way more banal than what it is. It is not banal at all and it is obscure in the worst sense of the word.
I couldn`t agree more. It feels very uncomfortable being mirrored, copied and not allowed to having any boundries. No one should feel entitled to “steal” your soul. Anyone could make the effort of developing their own life. I am rebuilting -again. I do protect my soul. You have much awareness, Paula.
I'll say this again...I have gone through almost 30 videos now. No one captures NPD better than her. Period. This 'commodification' insight is crucial.
I love this woman. So wise. Everything you've said they'll do, he did it, they are scumbags who deserve nothing but utter contempt and should be grouped together on an island and left to it.
No, I have many, many evil thoughts, but I keep it to myself. My little fantasies, as we're normal we don't act on them. Send loads of super empaths to torment them. Oooh imagine that, them falling apart cos the crap they pull gets called out, they'd have a melt down 🤣
You’re absolutely right amazing! I’ve experienced this exactly with the narcs in my life! I’m so grateful for your advice! I have given to God my narcs! I have laid them at His throne! I have laid myself at Gods throne! I really need your wisdom filled videos! THANKYOU,THANKYOU,THANKYOU! I am now going to use my God given gifts& talents for Gods glory here on earth! I am a spiritual warrior! I am praying for us all!! God bless you Paula, you are an earth angel!! You are so RIGHT ON! Keep up the miraculous work!🎉🎉🌸🌼🙏🙏🙏
First of all a lot of people did get lucky and inherit riches, just like some kids grow up with everything; But that was never there fault. When you first meet the narcissit, they want to test you to see if they can suck you dry or if you will allow them to suck you dry; If they can they are happy but if they can't they have to move on. But also strong narcissit can prey on weaker narcissit-facts. The only way to end all of the madness, is catching them in act or in there manupaltion and treakery and call them out on it immdeately and discard them right away or they abound you. Which ever comes first. Narcissit are unstable bullies looking for a new toy to play with. Thanks narc con.
‘Do one small thing each day, to fight this battle for humanity.’ Love it. ♥️ My mother didn’t survive this battle, but I and my family, by the grace of God, do. 🙏🏻
They are thieves! I had no idea that my 'life' could be stolen. He actually warned me beforehand, told me he was like a cuckoo. At the time I had NO idea what he meant. Yep, cuckoos lay their eggs in another bird's nest and fledgling cuckoo forces the hosts chicks out of the nest so the host parent birds feed it, the baby cuckoo. Can nature be that perverse?
Paula I am with you and all the victims of narcissistic abuse. Let me tell you, they are bully cowards, and do gang up on you, if you stand up to them. I am battle hardened with these scum and will help anyone who needs me. God bless you all..bring it on!!!. Peace&Love&Light
I learnt a lot in this video. I was forced to protect my soul. I became a real spiritual warrior protecting my own spirit. They want to destroy it. It made me aware of my gifts and how valuable they are
Envy, jealousy, greed and spirit corruption are the rotten core in most humans. So yeah. There's a s#@tload of narcs out there. It's cool though, I'm over the species. Don't care anymore and life is getting better everyday!!! Keep your ground, no contact and let them scurry off to wreck someone else's life.... I'll keep on with my beautiful 15 foot burmese python and one day, Anaconda!!! Hoorah!! Narcs are cowards. They cannot handle my babies!!! Haahahaha! Booya!!
This is so true Paula, just out of nowhere they slip in your mind your life family friends user's and manipulates right through everything they want, this is why it's a spiritual battle nothing but demons and predators, the main thing is to recognize and get rid of ASAP no contact and move forward with your life, remember who you were once before you bumped into the narcissis, it's a great awakening, but your stronger and you'll know the signs and don't ignore your intuition like you did that was your soul telling you something is wrong listen to it, and don't be afraid to call them out on the bs,the devil is out to seek and destroy whoever and whatever they want, stay strong and just go no contact and move forward with your life step by step before you know it you'll be running and treading on these worthless soul suckers 👍 Paula and survivors and thrivers 🙏🦋🙏
English Royalty must never complain nor explain. Follow these guidelines while you narcissistic commodity work your plan to go no contact and get the heck away from the narcissists permanently. It's all for YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AND YOUR LIFE, BANK ACCOUNTS, FRIENDS AND FAMILY JOB OR CAREER AND YOUR PERSONAL REPUTATION. ALL THAT IS AT SERIOUS RISK. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS THAT YOU STOP GOING TO CHURCH AND OR STOP DOING THE THINGS THAT YOU LOVE OR WOULD PLAN TO DO OTHERWISE. THEY CAN MAKE YOU DEPRESSED AND IT'S VERY HARD BUT NOT IMPOSSIBLE TO FULLY RECOVER FROM COGNITIVE DISSONANCE THE LONGER THAT YOU STAY WITH THEM. " THOUGH SHALT NOT PUT OTHER gods BEFORE ME ", said God of the bible.
@EXPOSED. Algerian satanic narcissist. Bilal lakama If your lucky they leave, consider it a blessing if they leave, Jesus will remove people out of our life's for a reason, and the Lord works in mysterious ways.
Awesome reflections and analysis. One of my narcs did virtually all of your examples. After she leveled my character , my narc proceeded to steal my achievements including long turn relationships . Thank you for your healing insights.
All the while I was with him, I felt no joy. He destroyed all celebrations- birthdays, Christmas, Easter. He wrecked my family relationships and isolated me. I felt confusion, depression and blackness of soul. It took me years to recover, but now I feel joy and peace. The sun is shining in my world again. I am blissfully alone.
Thank you. Yes, yes, yes, yes, and yesssss. Two years f mental therapy and three years of physical therapy, I’m very pleased to be 60% if what I once was. I bought myself a very very thin 1mm wedding band. I rekindled my relationship with my first love, and I’m never looking back, or looking period. Thank you Lord, Jesus Christ for finding me and forgiving me 😍🙏🏼🔥 your videos are spot on, thank you for helping me succeed thru your hands on experience. Thank you.
You are so right. My past narcissist copied my interests to the tee. She photocopied me basically. I didnt see certain attributes until I picked up those attributes. It was unbelievable. After copying me, then came the envy and the competition. Then she began devaluing me. I left her. Became indifferent to her. Refused all hoovers and hoping they stop completely. Who wants devilish people to hoover them.
My ex-narc claims, on social media, to be a co-founder of business that I created and in my name only, and others believe it to be true. A single straw from the bale of deceit.
I just ended my relationship of 10 years and felt very relieved at first... However, now my mother, who is a narcissist, and my best friend, whom i suspect to be one, have started to attack me , in order to make me small again and pour their long stored wrath upon me! I feel very anxious and full of disbelief. How can they treat a person so coldly and badly, when at the most vulnerable?
When he was with me, we once visited some old friends of his, who laughed that he was 'pretending to like art?!'. It shocked me because he seemed genuinely interested in it (as I was), and even purchased art pieces from galleries. Then when we split and he moved on to someone else, he was suddenly doing things that he told me he hated and would never do - got tattoos, went of ski holidays, got into transformer toy collecting, started following Rugby. He would do all these things to the extreme, and they're basically mirroring whatever their new supply likes. They have no real personality of their own and don't know who they are....or can't enjoy or connect with anything in a real way. It's for show.
Oh wow! Same. Mine has since done exactly the same thing. He's now into environmental justice when he was previously a moderate conservative with me, a hard-core red state conspiracy theorist around his old workmates. I was always surprised by how quickly he would switch accents, interests, seemingly beliefs depending on the company...and now he's over going down another rabbit hole to catch someone else's attributes.
You Can Do It!! First lesson I had to learn : be kind to myself. We all have to learn to love ourselves back to wholeness. No one else is going to do that for us 🥰😍🤗❣
@@lesleyelalami2562 in my case particularly with family they are manipulative terrorists who project their filth into a chosen target almost to the point of suicide
fast simple red flag that you’ve met a thief: Mirroring, copycatting. Run and barricade yourself to avoid endless damage. Raise you defenses to the top to discourage them asap.
.. if they begin to steal your identity in 5 mins, then they are empty. If they are empty, then cannot create anything. Thus they will be glad to steal your house, money and everything you have later.
Thank you Paula. They say Narcissists have pathological envy and Jealousy. Why would anyone be jealous of me, I wouldn’t understand, especially when the narcissist has amassed everything for themselves. The list is endless Paula. Blocking this person and going no contact absolutely backfired and fueled the narcissist to trespass into my life and cause carnage. Job(s) loss, kicked out of the extend family, stole friends, befriended enemies, stole my painting, got themselves adopted by same extended family while my brother and I went to foster care. Also had a father who was always present as a financial safety net and get this, legally changed her name to our mothers and took the last name of said adopted family and hacked the living hell out of all my devices to track every move I make. If that isn’t stealing as many identities as they possibly could, I don’t know what is except for silence of the lambs. Also they are a self-proclaimed actress who tries to portray other identities on stage as well. Is it self-hatred? You can’t steal me. You cannot snuff me out like a bad adult film. What little I do have I am proud to live authentically with out needing her in it. I put it in God the Father’s hands. I apologize for the frankness, I do but I find I get riled while listening to your honest assessment of these creatures, thank you Paula.
Geesh, and l thought l had it bad. l too cannot fully understand this jealousy aspect, though l suspected it long before l discovered these videos. I guess in time that penny will drop. After a lifetime of wife beatings, derogatory name-calling, blackmail and lies, my dad is very successful and super rich, so how is he jealous of me? I lived s carefree life as a professional gardener in London, doing gardens at embassies and for some rock stars. During lockdown, l kept busy beautifying his garden, till he yelled at me that l should spend all day sitting in front of a computer, learning stuff, like him. (He knows l hate computers, and don't even know how to switch one on.) I walked away from him two years ago, and haven't seen him again. I was 56 years old, and he still tried to tell me how to live. I can only pray for him.
@@rolandoscar1696 the jealousy and envy makes no sense to us, we simply cannot fathom it. I have come to believe it is the very nature of our being-ness that they are so jealous of, because they have no true self. They are empty void black holes inside and pathologically jealous of our inner Life (soul) which is vibrant and alive by comparison. In your case, its your carefree authentic self that the narc wants for himself. Well done on going no contact - difficult with a parent.
Think of kids who build a tower out of Legos, then admire their work, then knock it all down w pleasure and delight. That’s a narc. The difference is, you’re the tower but the narc didn’t build you, God did. And the Truth is, You cannot be knocked down. It may feel like you were but it’s not possible to take out a Child of God. And that’s why narcs despise you bc they already know this. Much love to y’all❤
Your insight and compassion has helped many of us, who still struggle with this. I feel free from him now, because I can see through him now and forever. I am a Christian also, and it's even better knowing you are one of His as well. ❤
Thank you for this video! Once I made the decision to go no contact on social media (private messaging me) I feel a lot better. I put them on permanent snooze 💤 it’s so lovely! But yes on the message on your video they will try to be you, they will try to suck your resources and your very soul like a dementor.
This another wonderful video, Paula, thank you! You were so right about so many things you said, and it is so important that we are available to others that need us. I wish I knew what narcissism was at the time I was with my ex because I knew he just wasn't right and couldn't name it. I used to wonder why I was going through what I was going through, and now I have a better understanding because my son is in the same situation. We do not talk because of his narcissist, but I am always here for him. I do understand about wanting God to end it for me here on earth. I used to lay at night in bed and think of all the young children who have lost a mother and how I would willing go in their place so their children could be spared the pain of not growing up without their mother. My children were grown at the time, and I could not see a bit of difference I was making. God does have other plans for each and every one of us and it was egotistical of me to not understand that he had a plan for me going through what I did. I know so much more, I am still learning, and God is not done with me yet. I send prayers of strength and understanding to all who read this.
@ Mary My sister needs your prayers, as she recently received a serious medical diagnosis. I pray for her daily. Please do so too. Her name is also Mary. What a coincidence ! I spent many many years with a narcissist, but no more. I'm FREEEE !
@@bernitacenteno1326 , I will certainly pray for your sister 🙏. Good for you for being free of your narcissist. I tried once to leave him when our children were younger but to no avail. He badgered me terribly till I let him back, now I know it was hoovering. Once the children left he became worse and I finally had the strength and resources to leave. I wish I knew then, what I knew now. My children would have had a better childhood. Keep us posted on your sister!
I had a BPD/NPD friend who ghosted me cruelly when I was at my lowest after my marriage broke up, told people I had introduced HER to that I had lost interest in HER life & then shows up at my College Roommate's wedding and networked with the rest of my College friends. It took me longer to get over how she treated me than it did to get over the fact that my marriage of 30 years was a lie. Only when I understood the NPD/BPD thing that I could get my head around her use & abuse of me.
@@pelletier4432 She has BPD. High functioning enough to charm people. The problem with us lot is that we are on the menu due to our tolerance & high empathetic traits. I KNEW she would be trouble when I met her - but her pity play hooked me. I though just help her with a few things & send her on her way. Within 2 weeks she had taken over my life & introduced me to people as her BEST FRIEND. FvCK!!!! I took so much abuse form her. Normal people wouldn't allow that. These critters actually are our teachers bc the things we allow them to do to us & the fallout with the smear campaign pushes ALL our buttons. Each button needs replacing.
@@rw4754 Yep, had a frenemy situation just like that. Kept popping up over and over in my lifetime from youth through adulthood and I kept falling for the crying. Made fast friends with my BPD mother. So sneaky and so unbelievably mean! You are so right, we learn a huge lesson and that lesson will keep showing up until we get it! Everybody is kicked out for good. Peace is everything!
@@pelletier4432 I had PLATOONS of these people in my life for DECADES. Took me near 60 years to see the pattern & MY part in it. If hosts of Angels were prodding, hinting & guiding, to get out, I was blind. Foundation of the issue was being the Scapegoat to a BPD/NPD mother. I was hard wired to take care of these people at my own expense, like my persona depended on it.
@@rw4754 We have very similar backgrounds. I am 54 now but didn't get the whole picture until my late 40s. We are awake and here to warn others, just as Paula has mentioned. It's an honor to connect with you and thanks for commenting!
I’m two years narc free, I never thought I’d get to this point of inner peace, I almost didn’t make it. Understanding how these demons work and the spiritual warfare has finally helped me fully break those chains. I am healed and so grateful for the lesson the narc has taught me going forward. This channel I will continue to follow, your amazing and thank you, from the bottom of my heart 💜
Thanks very much Paula! You're so on point in this video. I have suffered 40 years of mental abuse from a Narc, who I am finally walking away from. This man is devil reincarnate in every sense. I didn't think I could leave him not because I love him but because I don't know my own strength or recognize who I am any more. However, I cried unto my Father God to fight for me and to deliver me from this evil man. He's absolutely guiding my steps while exiting this bondage called marriage. I need this community's prayers and support to completely heal from this trauma. Tnx!
My prayers are with you. The holy spirit is guiding your steps......God is protecting you and in time you will see the discard as a blessing. I'm 36 years suffering this abuse and was cruelly discarded seven months ago. I tried so hard to make my marriage work but he took and gave nothing. Still working through the trauma bond and betrayal. We are no longer victims, we are survivors and I believe we WILL be ok but it's going to take time. They try to break us but I refuse to stay broken. Keep educating yourself and growing through your pain - God is there with us and we grow closer to Him in the wilderness. This is a new beginning and as we emerge from the trauma pain and darkness, we will rediscover the "light" within ourselves. God's light is like a "beam" guiding us home. Stay strong....you can do all things through Christ Jesus, who strengthens you. Your best days are still ahead of you. God bless you on your healing journey. 🙏
That's Deep, I love 💕 when she speaks. Her words do run through my body, blood, veins, my every being. Her explanation of the subject of Narcissist is so profound. Hope everyone understands like l did.
It is so hard not to lose yourself in these relationships. But you simply must hold on to yourself and your life. You have a right to be here. You are important. Keep going on.
Thank you for all that you do! You are awesome! I am a recent survivor of a narcissist marriage, short lived, thank God He was able to let me see what was happening before much long term damage was done. I'm still having some depression issues, but I am healing, thanks tho your channel and others like it. May God bless you and your work, and use me in whatever capacity He sees fit.... Carry on the good work!! I love you!
Hi Richard ... Soooo glad to hear you got out - our Father was not so Lucky : ( He met & married (due to her insistency) after 9 months of dating. Our Dad was was ''hesitant'' to marry so quickly (she was love bombing him 24/7 of course) but due to her ''I really want to be married - but if you can't commit, I'll start dating other men etc'' he went through w/ it. Total mistake - as I'm sure you can relate. Within 2 months of the Wedding Day, the ''party was over'' ... she was like night & day and totallly 'took over' ALL areas of our Dads life (financial, all relationships w/ friends, family, business, all banking decisions, the investments etc) : ( Long story short, he remained married to her for 19 lonnnng years (we believe mostly out of feeling stuck & pride as he would not admit he made a big mistake etc) He died 2 years ago ill-health ridden, zombie like at times, a total wimpy-guy (he was not like this when they met). She took everything from my brother & I, we were left with almost nothing $$, not even given a chance to have an old sweater of his as a memory etc ~ Anyways, stay strong Robert !! YOU are a SURVIVOR !!! YOU CAN DO THIS & YOU ARE !!! : ) Carry on w/ your Healing Journey !! Again, YOU CAN DO IT !!!!! Most Sincerely, Cindy : )
@@cindyglass5827 God bless you Cindy. You deserved so much better than what you got. Your dad was not a wimp to start with you said. He was drained of any and all self respect that he had to start with. He was not a wimp probably, but was a really kind person who was targeted. Yet he didn't know it or understand how narcissists have no empathy for how ANY OTHERS FEEL, etc.
@@cindyglass5827 Thank you so much Cindy! I'm still struggling with depression and regretfully, missing her, but I'll be ok.... Thanks for the encouragement.....
Wow! I went through this experience January this year, my spirit guides are very powerful, I never knew this person was a narcissist. But I saw her in my dream where she exchanged my soul. My soul entered my body and mine entered her body. In the second dream I saw myself living her life which I was not happy with. I woke and doubted it. But God didn't let me rest he kept warning me about this using any means. Thank you so much. Before then I never knew that such thing exists.
You have articulated this so well.. he said, he would take away everything I have including my name.. when I said this to ppl.. they didn't believe me. They thought I was making up stuff or laughed and said no one can do that.. it doesn't happen.. but you can feel it deep down. When you start becoming confused, insecure, trying to figure out your own self.. or what is happening.. when you see yourself being played by them.. he and his new narc gf.. walking like me, talking like me.. i used to tell ppl something is wrong.. they said i was beinf insecure, and i also thought of unaliving myself because I didn't know who I was.. what I had done.. no one will understand. But like I said.. you get it.. you articulated it well.. and gave hope
This is a brilliant video, you have just described the I was feeling for weeks. I have a strong heart, a good soul and my ex tore it apart. All my friends told me she never desired my love. She destroyed my soul and broke my heart and I spent weeks wondering what I did wrong! I was loving, caring, supportive and a modern partner helping her around the house as much as possible. I had suicidal thoughts as well. It wasn't till a friend said to me "Andy, I think she could be a narcissist" and then a light bulb went off in my head. She hated the fact I had my own life with my own friend, I gave her money in the past and I stopped doing it because it was leaving me short for the month and she hated that. 10% of my attention went to my best mate who lost his dad and that is when the discard started, She started calling me names, making me feel unworthy, getting angry all the time and started to throw things at me. And this was the second time she did this to me. Then I found out she had started to see someone behind my back so I left. These videos have been eye opening and set me on a path to a quicker recovery. A massive thank you Paula for all your help and keep up the great work. You are helping so many people and we are so grateful for that. survivor of Narcissistic abuse.
I actually wrote a song about this 2 years ago when I had been broke up with her for about a year, It call The trickster ua-cam.com/video/XNrPkFQXk7o/v-deo.html I just wished I took the words to heart.
Hang in there mate. We will overcome the assault of the robber robots. Each of our stories are unique to us but we all share elements of commonality as survivors of abuse. Thanks for sharing.
I know now that I was trying to save his sole, and all the while he was stealing mine. 😐. I just keept giving and giving to his spiritual needs ,and I was just loosing most of mine.
Your soul belongs to God, and is not yours to even give to others. They only have black holes, and though you might feel they have depleted your soul, they only took your energy and love. Easily replenished by being in nature, and going no- contact. Lots of love.
WE CAN'T FIX THEM OR CHANGE THEM OR CARETAKE THEM WITH OUR LOVE. WE CAN FIX OURSELVES AND CHANGE OURSELVES FOR THE BETTER. WE MUST BE GENTLE WITH OURSELVES AND PROTECT OUR SELF FIRST.
It was a blessing to be stronger, a warrior lady now. I realized that I am stronger than ever - and since my youth - it was the hardest battle ever. And I think it is the fight about the human souls.
I just love you Paula, so comforting, so true , so calm. Listening to you puts me at ease. This’s just awful experience , but knowledge is power and I thank you for your knowledge and for caring to pass it on to us , broken souls. God Bless You ❤️🙏
Exactly what he did - pretended to be me to be my "soul mate" till he decided he wanted to move on to Greener Pastures. Literally overnight showed me a completely different personality than the one I married. Such a different face overnight -it was truly disturbing
their soul is lonely, misery loves company. If you're a happy go lucky person- find a BETTER MATCH, TRUST IN FAITH. Be Well. P.S. I like the hair! U look so Summer & Sassy!
I want to offer encouragement. We live in a fallen world. There are people capable of empathy and those who aren't. We all struggle with narcissism (narcs use our own narcissism to ensnare us), but not all are pathologically narcissitic. If you've learned this lesson the hard way, it's a lesson that can be ignored but not unlearned. We've been victims of narcissitic abuse, but we continue to victimize ourselves when we stay with our narcissists. We are survivors when we walk away "shrewd as serpents and innocent as doves". Fairy tales aren't real; we all have sinned and life is difficult. No person can be trusted completely. But if there's empathy, a relationship is still possible. We can find peace and be edified by spreading God's love to an undeserving world, albeit imperfectly because we aren't perfect. Moments of peace and beauty dot each of our paths, but we can never expect to find total absolution this side of heaven. We have to be strong and responsible for our own decisions, then one day, long after the narcissitic relationship ends, we wake up and realize that we are okay and the crushing shock and pain from our past abuse transforms into a priceless life lesson. This lesson helps us to make the world a better place because we understand the true value of compassion, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and patience. Keep going. Don't allow the past to hold you back. Forgiveness is releasing someone from their debt to you. If you can, forgive the narc and forgive yourself. Have grace with yourself like you would anyone else. And if you're so inclined, call out to God who has promised to draw near to those who draw near to Him.
Stacie, that's a beautiful well thought out piece of advice! God bless you for your contribution 🙏 I'm sure it's going to help an empath that's just waking up.
There are those who some call "soul less" but I call them “spiritless”, and those (in the minority now) who are endowed with the “divine spark”, or "divine spirit". The "spiritless" among us do have some kind of soul energy by virtue of being alive, but their soul is not imbued with a higher spark of true sentience and self-awareness. The spiritless among us make up the overwhelming majority of people on the planet. They are selfish, egotistical, mundane, superficial, narcissistic, and often occupy their time with stupid trivial bullshit. You will notice, if you’ve spent any time around these people, that there is something very important inside that seems to be missing. They exhibit a flat, dull energy. There is no depth within them. They tend towards extroverted and social behavior to make up for the vacuity within themselves. Their emotional and intellectual centers are dull and seem to be underdeveloped like a toddler. Their behavior is not much different than an animals, like sheep, donkeys or goats. They spend their entire lives in this state of underdevelopment and exhibit no capacity for evolution or desire to change their shitty behavior, because they see nothing wrong with it. Their narcissistic tendencies will leave you feeling drained of energy as they soak up every drop of attention in the room like a black hole. Energy vampires, for lack of a better term. The dull conscious energy embodying one spiritless being is the same dull conscious energy that is embodying all the other spiritless beings; there is very little uniqueness or individuality among them. And if you have a soul, you will not fit in. You will be the "black sheep" among them. Notice how they all have the same dull flat energy, even the "extroverted" ones and their ridiculous childish behavior continues well into the late stages of life. They are all plugged into the same collective hive mind. And if you’re not in their club you will find yourself silently exiled. They lack individuality, independent thinking, and are strongly biased toward holding a herd mentality. They lack comprehension of anything beyond the material sphere of the five senses.There is a certain simplicity, flatness, and inertness to their essence, even if their intellects are highly developed. Unlike other people, their conscious energy is more diffuse, dull, impermanent, and amorphous rather than solid, sparkling, crystallized, and concentrated. Put another way, their minds are like sand castles instead of real castles. There is something animalistic and rudimentary piloting their bodies. It seems they have conscious awareness just as plants and animals do, but not conscious self-awareness as humans are supposed to have. Only after getting burned again and again through out my entire life, did I finally realize some humans are of a "different type of seed." They are acting fully in accordance with their spiritless, narcissistic, predatory nature. This is especially true of the psychopathic "elite" who run this prison planet; they cannot be rehabilitated, made to see the error of their ways, or convinced through appeals to empathy. Naive people who think everyone is equally "good" inside will keep rationalizing and taking the abuse, but those with higher understanding will recognize the warning signs of futility and save themselves the trouble. In a nutshell: our entire lives are governed by those without compassion for the living. On the other hand, those who have been endowed with the "divine spirit" will show signs of higher intuition, creativity and emotional capabilities. They have a "heart", a "higher self", and therefore have a capacity for love and empathy for others as well as greater emotional intelligence. They will not suck the life out of you when you are around them, as they get fulfillment and energy from within themselves. They exude a warm positive energy, and most importantly have the capacity for spiritual growth, or liberation from this shit world. The parable of the wheat and the tares from Mathew 13:24 is an apt metaphor for the two types of souls on this planet. The wheat being the humans with spirit, or the "good seed", and the spiritless are the tares, or the "weeds among the wheat". The tare is a weed that looks exactly like the wheat, and is identical in all aspects, except that it does not bear grain like wheat does and can make you sick if you eat it. I believe this is what we are dealing with and is the reason why most humans are horrible creatures not worth your time and energy. There doesn't seem to be any other explanation for their shitty behavior, or their state of arrested development. Its a sad state of affairs. It’s like they’re all plugged into the same damn collectivist hive mind and they all subconsciously know you are not one of them. They will unconsciously waste your time and drain your energy. My kind and loving spirit, has repeatedly been battered and smashed by people around me. Been shit on my whole life by family, coworkers and friends who don’t give a shit about anything but themselves. Would destroy the lives of people that care about them without a second thought if it benefitted them in some way. These are the spiritless animal-humans (or monkey bloods as I call them...RH positives).They do this to scar you spiritually and shut down your power. Even so called "Christian" people seem malignant and malicious for no reason at all. Those with souls, are not driven to dominate and subjugate others. They are driven by peace, joy, love and happiness, which exist for its own sake. Dominating or subjugating others is simply not something we are interested in. Not because we are on some holier-than-thou ego trip, but because it is simply unappealing, and does not bring us joy, peace or happiness to be disrespectful or cruel to others for no reason. We simply get zero gratification from such behavior. Unfortunately, thanks to the Rhogam shot, which allowed these spiritless people to be carried full term in the womb, and the quiet discontinuance of the marital compatability blood tests back in the 70s and prior, that used to be required to get married, among many other things, the souled humans now make up a very small minority on the planet. They have literally out-bred us to near extinction.
@@reesedaniel5835True regarding us empaths. We have zero interest in dominating people. There's just no appeal to doing that. The only thing that comes remotely close to that for me, is to be good at whatever Im doing, without affecting anyone else. That's what got us fooled by the narc in the first place. We didnt suspect the narc as a bad person because we could not comprehend that someone could be so evil. We learned a very hard life lesson.
I agree in every point just want to say something thet everybody knows, but forgets, we are pefect in the eye of God. We are not perfect in the eye of our felow man. Becsuse of his expectations. We ara more perfect when closer to someones expectations. It would be better to see differences as natural.❤ AND GO AWAY AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, WHEN WE SEE THAT WE ARE NOT IN HELTHY PLACE, OR WE ARE IN BAD COMPANY.❤ Narcissistic personalitys may be conssidered as usefull for self developement🖒! What does not kill you strengthen you ! So GOD LUCK TO US ALL!!💖💖💖
Your so right on everything you said! 💯 In my relationship through many years and post relationship she made me feel more like a narcissist. I was a angry stressed out man most of the time because of my finances getting low falling in debt trying to take care of her because she never tried to get a job and had no desire to. She just watched me sink lower and lower in my life I didn't even know who I was anymore I was just to trauma bonded a shell of my former self. It got so bad I even was considering bankruptcy and it's funny because the day I spoke with her about that that was the day of my discard I left for work came home and she was gone! Left me with a letter gaslighting me and blamshifting me on why she was leaving me she took no accoutibilty what so ever. After reading the letter I tried to call her to ask why she did this to me and got ghosted. January 4 of this year to now never heard anything from her but it's to late now I don't want to see her face again. I know this woman was a narcissist from the study's I got on these videos I did my best for her trying to give her the best life of my ability but all I got in return was ungratefulness and disrespect on how she left the relationship. Thank you again Ms Paula this is one of your best videos in my opinion it lets me get this off my chest.💜💛💜💯💯👍
You deserve sooo much more, and better! And I agree with you, this video is an absolute gem. It's come at the perfect time for me with the narc's return for an attempted hoover. Lucky for me I see through all the lies and manipulation but this video has made me even more aware of the tactic - using us as commodities. Wishing you love and strength on your journey of recovery 💛🧡💜🧡💛
This topic is so relatable to me, when with the ex narc (2yrs ago, not now thankgod!)... He actually said to me word for word... "My soul needs yours" I knew then he was a demon...
Thankyou for this beautiful message. We can recover, they can't. So sad when it's your two sisters. No contact was the only answer. Now they can bond in their hatred of me
One of my narcissists is my older sister. Once I figured it all out by the teachings, I went no contact for my own healing. I am calmer now...not walking on eggshells all the time. I just feel sorry for the others living in her household.
When you're in a relationship with a narcissist, you're literally in a battle with the devil. For your very life and soul. It's a war for your survival. Don't take it lightly. This is a life or death engagement you must fight and escape from to save yourself.
You describe my mother every time I listen to you. She has been jealous of me all my life, has mimicked me and then backstabbed me with lies to the ones I love. When confronted in the past, she's never admitted to anything. She's sort out to destroy my reputation whilst pretending to others she's always wanted the best for me. I find it all so draining and I don't know how to go on with my life after all the damage she's done.
Again another video word for word completely everything you said 100% accurate ..by the end of the relationship I had become dark myself I was paranoid I was hateful I had gotten revengeful I had lost the light that was in my soul. he got stronger ....by the time I completely got away it's been a year now. I was drained of every resource including my health fell into a deep depression that is taking me a year I'm just now barely pulling out of it. because my health had declined it's an uphill battle now .I think because I was a little older when this happened to me it's made it nearly impossible to recover mentally physically financially... but spiritually I became stronger than I ever have been before thank God for that thank you again for another prophetic video this is all been a blessing to me in words I can't explain. I need to kno how to pull my back up and out of the pit get my health back.. so I can have a fruitful life what's left of it I'm 50 but feel 80. . ..Never in my life has anything robbed me of everything like the last 4 years with the narcissist did.. yes I did get suicidal but was able to fight it off when I hit my knees ..but then the deep depression creeped in like I said it's been a year I've basically been in bed gained 45 lb for lack of even wanting to get up or feeling like it.I'm blessed enough to have had a dear friend let me move in to their lake house because without that I wouldn't be here.. the narcissist at my age that it happened to me I wasn't able to bounce back as if I were 30 or even 40 all the stress of the horrid mess I was in for 4 years took a toll on my body physically ..all I can do is pray that God heals me and brings me enlightenment through these videos it's sad because I was a decent looking woman people thought I was way younger than I was had a good job home nice car healthy all that gone in such a short time of dealing with this succubus ..he became stronger was blessed with even more than he was able to Rob from me. I had to really pray to get the resentment and anger and Karma seeking out of my heart it's been really hard .he drained my soul and replaced it with nothing butt junk from his.thank you again Paula by the blood of Jesus gods hand on my life is the Olney way I found freedom...... you are definitely right about narcissists coming in packs during my process of removing myself from him I encountered two more narcissists one a so-called female friend and another a male just to try to drain what was left this is such a spiritual battle it's almost unbelievable
Yes jd.i hear you.im 65 20 year marriage to narc.divorced her when found our she was cheating.couldnt make sense of anything till after. took me about four years to stabilise enough to think straight. You feel 80 because your gaining wisdom,ever thought about that.? Stay strong sister. Gods got it all.xx
@@stephenrandall484 thank you so much I'm crying ..thank you for reaching out yes the wisdom came in light years.. but my body physically feels 80 ..come to find out he horrifically cheated on me with anything that had two legs man or woman off of Tinder one night hookup sites it's sickening I just pray to God I am healthy it's took me a year to get medical insurance so I can get to a doctor and be tested for everything under the sun... narcissists are dangerous with their sexual behaviors not caring if they cause you harm or not not to mention all the other trash that goes with it thank you for your words of encouragement I need them bless you..
JD, hang in there. I know it’s hard. I’m a bit older than you but I, too, was entangled for four years. I stayed 18months after I started catching on to the lies and cheating actually believing him when he said he wanted to work on us. Of course, I kept learning of new lies and deception; cheating, gaslighting, stonewalling and ghosting, triangulation, etc all continued. God finally showed me what I needed to see in order to finally get it and walk away, but then the anxiety even escalated and I started to blame myself. Felt so weak, so untrusting, bitter, hopeless, devastated, vengeful, depressed…. I prayed for the pain to end, first considering suicide and then by falling to my knees. No one was there to help me except these channels and God. I still have a long way to go, but I am able to be a useful member of society again, getting out and doing things I enjoy, setting goals for myself and plugging away. It’s a far cry from the woman I was in 2021. It is most definitely a spiritual battle, one that can be fought and won. My win will be when I am totally indifferent regarding the narc. For now, I’m happy to just get through the day without the paralyzing rumination. That is HUGE! I still have periods when I miss “him”, but I logically know I miss the illusion of him. The man and life I thought I loved. But it wasn’t real. And when I remember that, my sadness dissipates. I am eternally grateful to Paula and others who have been called to educate us. When I feel alone, I need only click on a video and I am emboldened again. Stay strong and true to yourself! Stay amazed!
@@sistergoldensunshine4069 amen amen amen thank you. another thing that proves to me its spiritual because your words are also word for word what I experienced. the spirit in the narcissist is the same in everyone I'm seeing that .it's actually sparked my curiosity in the matter. I've been a year free now myself I'm just just now pulling myself up out of the bed . it's been hard hard and every word you spoke I go through from time to time not as much in the past 3 weeks as I have in the past months. I got a Hoover from him last week and my stomach sank I didn't want it I thought I would have been weak toward it but I wasn't... so I know I'm healing it's just so slow and yes the indifference is where I want to be also I had to find forgiveness for myself and of him. actually praying for him helped me it got rid of the vengefulness and anger I'm just on a slow healing path now and he is such a man child I know he will not Hoover again. so I'm not worried about that anymore by time he does if he does I'll be even stronger... thank you for your words of encouragement and bless you in your journey also
@@Scorpio200 Ask them to check for adrinal fatigue. My dr. recomended lots of various vitamins (natural) from vita cost. adrinals functioning at 5% when should have been 80%.xx
Their soul doesn’t even know them. It’s not in them. No exchange. It’s more of a cloud or tar over the one being awakened. They suffer until they see. It’s like living in hell realm on earth. A veil.
They have no soul. Only a black hole and self loathing. Once awakened, you cannot unsee that. Our hell on earth experience has given us the tools to walk in the light, while leaving them behind to stew in their own juice. Nothing will change them. Nothing. l know, after 56 years of abuse from my dad.
Absolutely true! It took me years to recoup. But I came out stronger, better. I’m convinced that there’s such a dark, demonic force. But there’s also a God that doesn’t like what I went through, and helped me. Thank You Lord, and thank you Paula for your work, and your service. I went through my ordeal in the 1980’s. Yet you described. It’s proof that these demonic beings have all a very similar playbook.
Thank you another great insight into the Narc. Im now 6 months post disguard and have been through the rollercoaster of emotions that with your experience I now see as totally normal and expected. Mine was a close female friend and 6 months post I feel a massive weight lifted. It was tough but I came out stronger and truer to myself. I hope I can spot the red flags in the future and disengage early. With love ❤
It is so important to seek help when you have been under the influence of a narcissist for a while or a long time. Often the people are wounded in their youth. But know we all play a part in this earthly existence. It is not the purpose of live to be oppressed. But it will happen for a reason to find yourself or to find yourself again. For joy is our inheritance. And when you have wrestled your way out of it, joy is your reward. Then you have learned your lesson. They, in this case the narcissist, don’t suddenly come into your life. That has a purpose. And once you get through it, a narcissist won’t come back!
Im speechless wow thank you very much and that's how exactly it went oh my that you for sharing this God bless me and all of us on here that made it out of this cult of a person pure evil its scary....
I agree with every word uttered. Freedom was just one bridge away, when I realised, there is a shadow stalking me in my own four walls. I literally saw and felt the shadow watching and standing over me in my dreams. Absolutely scary but I knew then, this shadow is a representation of my relational subconscious and I am a victim. I am coding now apps to treat Cluster-B personality disorders. This is the way.
I am so sorry you went through that ...I cannot begin to imagine getting that close to a Narc. I hope you're better, healed and whole again. God Bless..🙏
24 YEARS OF PURE HELL SOUL... TIED.. LOOK THAT UP.. this is SERIOUS stuff... GET CLEANSED!~ SHE IS SPOT ON!!! SHE IS the best on the net. I have watched every single person on this subject. Sam VaKNIN is another. .... Heal... Help Each other!
After going through a very unsteady healing path and trying to get over the anger about the destruction caused by the narc in regards to my youthful years wasted and my dreams, and my plans and my finances…which through him got all demolished…I kept wanting the worst to happen to him like I would say out loud….” Please universe make him lose his job” or let him keep fighting with his mom….but after the healing path which is never linear, especially with unexpected crazy Hoovers…I came to understand that the Karma is in letting the relationship with the narc die…meaning…you must be tough tough tough and stand firm when you go no contact no matter what…and give him or her no more chances…ever…that is their karma. They will wither …speaking from personal experience…no reaction…just response when he hovered and I stayed no contact meaning he has no way of contacting me in any way shape or form…That is their biggest wounding…their karma…and in that I take solace…😇🙏🏻💫
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I had the first thoughts of suicide when I was 10 years old. Have found that my soul is unhappy. i decided to become a healer and heal my soul. Now I'm 54 and I've been dealing with horrible narcissists all my life who have always ruined my life. But I do not give up. your videos help me build a life free of narcissists.❤❤❤
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We fight not against flesh and blood but against spirits 😢❤
There are narcissists who want to merge with you because they want to consume you in some way, but most of the time, narcissists see you as an object. You arejust a thing, an appliance that they need to use for a time, as long as you serve them exactly as they want. You are not a human being with feelings, deams, goals, with a heart and a soul, you are a thing they play with or use as a means to an end. They can't loveyou because you are an object, even if they may say they love you. But they only love you as long as you are useful for whatever purpose they have in mind. With a narcissist, nothing is ever permanent and there is no future. They live in the present only and they take whatever they can get from you unti they find a new shiny object to play with and use. They might have several at the same time, so they can pick and choose. We live in a world where we are surrounded by them, every day more so. It is common to get into relationships with more than one narc. But the silver lining is that though they are lethal, they are also very predictable, they are all the same, and once you know one of them you know them all. And when you know you are with a narc, as hard as it is, try to cut them off if you can. As tempting as it is, don't look back, don't go back, no matter what they do. They will never love you, but will always use you, discard you, and leave you with a broken heart. Sorry to be so blunt. As I write these words, I also remind myself.
Beautiful comment. Thank you.
Amen 🙏
yes
Do you think they can really change?
@@karriesaunders8597 No. They will never change. It's a personality disorder.
The ex narc I was with years ago, once said to me ' My soul needs yours ' but he said it in such a creepy yet deadly serious way... I actually got a shiver down my spine at the time, I still remember that specific comment he made to this day (4yrs later) 😮 They are straight up demons 😈 Absolutely no doubt about it.
Great conclusion. I agree that those of us who have "the knowledge", have an obligation "to protect and inform and advise". Empaths who are unaware, "forgive" and try to "fix", it is in our nature. But these people are beyond redemption (nor would they ever acknowledge needing to be redeemed).
Attempting to "fix a narcissist" only serves the Cluster B through deeper entanglement. You must disengage completely to regain yourself. It took me years to find the Kryptonite. Today I can spot them easily.
@EXPOSED. Algerian satanic narcissist. Bilal lakama They impersonate a normal, loving empath with a conscience (in the beginning) so these marriages are based on fraud and entrapment in my opinion and are null and void.
Ditto 👍👍
Same!
I agree 💯
Can you imagine if everyone stopped being empathetic just because it wasn't reciprocated... Personally, I love narcissists. They keep me on my toes and if not for the living nightmare I experienced-- let me put it this way, I'm FAR stronger (mentally, physically, and even spiritually--not religious, baahhhhh-raaaam-you!) and happier due to all that unnecessary suffering that turned out to be very necessary in the end, and now I see it as a lesson that was very much needed and I'm a much better person because of it. I didn't like the weakling that was destroyed anyway and even if I didn't survive, which I nearly didn't, I would almost see it as a mercy killing. Shit happens for a reason and I now see the most painful experince of my life as a blessing. When going through hell...KEEP GOING!
I'm glad you called it dark energy bc this label of Narc makes it just seem clinical and medical. This is no ordinary situation.
This..
@@jaslyn5501 ha. Took me a minute but I think I got it.
Jaw dropping
I agree TJ Tampa! You took the words right out of my mouth.........IT MOST DEFINITELY IS NOT AN ORDINARY SITUATION! I have met a lot of broken people who are not narcissist! The two narcissist that have been fixated on me and obsessed with me are THE MOST annoying people that I have ever met......... copying me, trying to be me, lying, playing mind games, and EVEN STALKING ME, after I cut them off! 🤔🤨🥴 And I am a woman and these narcs are very envious women! One is a neighbor who is mad at me because she tried to force a relationship on me and I cut her off! The very last time she said hello to me I didn't say one word back, I just kept on walking without giving her any eye contact! This is when the stalking me at stores began! UGH..... Creepy and weird! I am so disgusted! And I do mean these narcs literally disgust me and frustrate me to no end!!!!! 😝🤦🤦🤦
Agreed. "Narcissist" makes it sound way lighter, way more banal than what it is. It is not banal at all and it is obscure in the worst sense of the word.
It's not handing over your soul to the narcissist, it's what ever they want.
I couldn`t agree more. It feels very uncomfortable being mirrored, copied and not allowed to having any boundries. No one should feel entitled to “steal” your soul. Anyone could make the effort of developing their own life. I am rebuilting -again. I do protect my soul. You have much awareness, Paula.
I'll say this again...I have gone through almost 30 videos now. No one captures NPD better than her. Period. This 'commodification' insight is crucial.
I love this woman. So wise. Everything you've said they'll do, he did it, they are scumbags who deserve nothing but utter contempt and should be grouped together on an island and left to it.
They will be cast into the hell fire
YES LET THEM BE WITH EACH OTHER FOREVER.
@@treelover1050 I second that motion from my emotion.☺👍
@@cacatr4495 surround the island with sharks
No, I have many, many evil thoughts, but I keep it to myself. My little fantasies, as we're normal we don't act on them. Send loads of super empaths to torment them. Oooh imagine that, them falling apart cos the crap they pull gets called out, they'd have a melt down 🤣
Paula, I am so much stronger in the past two weeks than I've felt for 27 years! Thanks so much!💚
Keep going Melanie 🌹
I'm in communication with a .mortgage company to see if I can purchase my own home and in the process of credit work to do so!🌼
You’re absolutely right amazing!
I’ve experienced this exactly with the narcs in my life!
I’m so grateful for your advice!
I have given to God my narcs!
I have laid them at His throne!
I have laid myself at Gods throne!
I really need your wisdom filled videos!
THANKYOU,THANKYOU,THANKYOU!
I am now going to use my God given gifts& talents for Gods glory here on earth!
I am a spiritual warrior!
I am praying for us all!!
God bless you Paula, you are an earth angel!!
You are so RIGHT ON!
Keep up the miraculous work!🎉🎉🌸🌼🙏🙏🙏
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we have something they do not and thats the power we shall forever hold over them.....we are blessed
Souls cannot be exchanged. That is evil influencing them into a false belief that is NOT possible.
No such exchange possible. Now it's time to run from devil 😈 .
First of all a lot of people did get lucky and inherit riches, just like some kids grow up with everything; But that was never there fault. When you first meet the narcissit, they want to test you to see if they can suck you dry or if you will allow them to suck you dry; If they can they are happy but if they can't they have to move on. But also strong narcissit can prey on weaker narcissit-facts. The only way to end all of the madness, is catching them in act or in there manupaltion and treakery and call them out on it immdeately and discard them right away or they abound you. Which ever comes first. Narcissit are unstable bullies looking for a new toy to play with. Thanks narc con.
‘Do one small thing each day, to fight this battle for humanity.’ Love it. ♥️
My mother didn’t survive this battle, but I and my family, by the grace of God, do. 🙏🏻
Exactly
I worked so hard for who I am but the narcissist comes in and steals it
Steals it and smashes it to smithereens x
They are thieves! I had no idea that my 'life' could be stolen. He actually warned me beforehand, told me he was like a cuckoo. At the time I had NO idea what he meant.
Yep, cuckoos lay their eggs in another bird's nest and fledgling cuckoo forces the hosts chicks out of the nest so the host parent birds feed it, the baby cuckoo. Can nature be that perverse?
Paula
I am with you and all the victims of narcissistic abuse.
Let me tell you, they are bully cowards, and do gang up on you, if you stand up to them.
I am battle hardened with these scum and will help anyone who needs me.
God bless you all..bring it on!!!.
Peace&Love&Light
I learnt a lot in this video.
I was forced to protect my soul. I became a real spiritual warrior protecting my own spirit. They want to destroy it. It made me aware of my gifts and how valuable they are
So true Paula. Guard yourself. They don’t have the abilities you do and they think they can get them by osmosis. Magical thinking.
Envy, jealousy, greed and spirit corruption are the rotten core in most humans. So yeah. There's a s#@tload of narcs out there.
It's cool though, I'm over the species. Don't care anymore and life is getting better everyday!!! Keep your ground, no contact and let them scurry off to wreck someone else's life....
I'll keep on with my beautiful 15 foot burmese python and one day, Anaconda!!! Hoorah!! Narcs are cowards. They cannot handle my babies!!! Haahahaha! Booya!!
Its probably because their demons condemned to hell, they're jealous that you can make it to heaven, so they want to drag you down to hell with them.
We can get depressed and confused and angry and all that but we can also recover and become stronger than ever before and gain wisdom
This is so true Paula, just out of nowhere they slip in your mind your life family friends user's and manipulates right through everything they want, this is why it's a spiritual battle nothing but demons and predators, the main thing is to recognize and get rid of ASAP no contact and move forward with your life, remember who you were once before you bumped into the narcissis, it's a great awakening, but your stronger and you'll know the signs and don't ignore your intuition like you did that was your soul telling you something is wrong listen to it, and don't be afraid to call them out on the bs,the devil is out to seek and destroy whoever and whatever they want, stay strong and just go no contact and move forward with your life step by step before you know it you'll be running and treading on these worthless soul suckers 👍 Paula and survivors and thrivers 🙏🦋🙏
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English Royalty must never complain nor explain. Follow these guidelines while you narcissistic commodity work your plan to go no contact and get the heck away from the narcissists permanently. It's all for YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AND YOUR LIFE, BANK ACCOUNTS, FRIENDS AND FAMILY JOB OR CAREER AND YOUR PERSONAL REPUTATION. ALL THAT IS AT SERIOUS RISK. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS THAT YOU STOP GOING TO CHURCH AND OR STOP DOING THE THINGS THAT YOU LOVE OR WOULD PLAN TO DO OTHERWISE. THEY CAN MAKE YOU DEPRESSED AND IT'S VERY HARD BUT NOT IMPOSSIBLE TO FULLY RECOVER FROM COGNITIVE DISSONANCE THE LONGER THAT YOU STAY WITH THEM. " THOUGH SHALT NOT PUT OTHER gods BEFORE ME ", said God of the bible.
@EXPOSED. Algerian satanic narcissist. Bilal lakama If your lucky they leave, consider it a blessing if they leave, Jesus will remove people out of our life's for a reason, and the Lord works in mysterious ways.
Awesome reflections and analysis. One of my narcs did virtually all of your examples. After she leveled my character , my narc proceeded to steal my achievements including long turn relationships . Thank you for your healing insights.
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All the while I was with him, I felt no joy. He destroyed all celebrations- birthdays, Christmas, Easter. He wrecked my family relationships and isolated me. I felt confusion, depression and blackness of soul. It took me years to recover, but now I feel joy and peace. The sun is shining in my world again. I am blissfully alone.
Thank you. Yes, yes, yes, yes, and yesssss. Two years f mental therapy and three years of physical therapy, I’m very pleased to be 60% if what I once was. I bought myself a very very thin 1mm wedding band. I rekindled my relationship with my first love, and I’m never looking back, or looking period. Thank you Lord, Jesus Christ for finding me and forgiving me 😍🙏🏼🔥 your videos are spot on, thank you for helping me succeed thru your hands on experience. Thank you.
Oooh Angel , thank you so much. Yes Jesus is my First Love . ❤️✨
You are so right. My past narcissist copied my interests to the tee. She photocopied me basically. I didnt see certain attributes until I picked up those attributes. It was unbelievable. After copying me, then came the envy and the competition.
Then she began devaluing me. I left her. Became indifferent to her. Refused all hoovers and hoping they stop completely. Who wants devilish people to hoover them.
My ex-narc claims, on social media, to be a co-founder of business that I created and in my name only, and others believe it to be true. A single straw from the bale of deceit.
I just ended my relationship of 10 years and felt very relieved at first... However, now my mother, who is a narcissist, and my best friend, whom i suspect to be one, have started to attack me , in order to make me small again and pour their long stored wrath upon me! I feel very anxious and full of disbelief. How can they treat a person so coldly and badly, when at the most vulnerable?
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For all of you. God will help you. You will make it through this evilness
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When he was with me, we once visited some old friends of his, who laughed that he was 'pretending to like art?!'. It shocked me because he seemed genuinely interested in it (as I was), and even purchased art pieces from galleries.
Then when we split and he moved on to someone else, he was suddenly doing things that he told me he hated and would never do - got tattoos, went of ski holidays, got into transformer toy collecting, started following Rugby. He would do all these things to the extreme, and they're basically mirroring whatever their new supply likes. They have no real personality of their own and don't know who they are....or can't enjoy or connect with anything in a real way. It's for show.
Oh wow! Same. Mine has since done exactly the same thing. He's now into environmental justice when he was previously a moderate conservative with me, a hard-core red state conspiracy theorist around his old workmates. I was always surprised by how quickly he would switch accents, interests, seemingly beliefs depending on the company...and now he's over going down another rabbit hole to catch someone else's attributes.
This is exactly how I feel.... And having a hard time getting my own footing back. It's a disgusting terrible feeling.
Hang in there Zebra. Its not you whos shaking, its the ground under you. ( the reality of narc abuse) xx
You Can Do It!! First lesson I had to learn : be kind to myself. We all have to learn to love ourselves back to wholeness. No one else is going to do that for us 🥰😍🤗❣
Family and workplace as well. Their goal is always to trade places w you. Thank you! Namaste :-)
So true!
A soul is positive energy source that is a gift from God. It’s non transferable.
So true. My nugget for the day. Thanks, and blessings.
Not transferable, but it can be stolen. Then it becomes our task to get it back.
Wow!!! You just blew my mind Paula as i came across your clip!!… Tears to my eyes!…. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!…. God Bless…. Thank you!
Brilliant commentary. We are just 'object's to them and a 'transaction' to extract from - nothing else - their level of arrogance is beyond sick
Just smoke and mirrors, nothing more. xxx
@@lesleyelalami2562 in my case particularly with family they are manipulative terrorists who project their filth into a chosen target almost to the point of suicide
I love you Remy!
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fast simple red flag that you’ve met a thief: Mirroring, copycatting. Run and barricade yourself to avoid endless damage. Raise you defenses to the top to discourage them asap.
Met one of those today!! Thanks for the warning - I'm now safely barricaded 🙄
.. if they begin to steal your identity in 5 mins, then they are empty. If they are empty, then cannot create anything. Thus they will be glad to steal your house, money and everything you have later.
Extraordinary video. Thanks for your spiritual insight.
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My narc wont let go. Incredibky persistent. Pathological liar. Keeps coming back after me. Told her several times to stay away.
Ohh of course that makes so much sense!
Thank you Paula.
They say Narcissists have pathological envy and Jealousy. Why would anyone be jealous of me, I wouldn’t understand, especially when the narcissist has amassed everything for themselves. The list is endless Paula. Blocking this person and going no contact absolutely backfired and fueled the narcissist to trespass into my life and cause carnage. Job(s) loss, kicked out of the extend family, stole friends, befriended enemies, stole my painting, got themselves adopted by same extended family while my brother and I went to foster care. Also had a father who was always present as a financial safety net and get this, legally changed her name to our mothers and took the last name of said adopted family and hacked the living hell out of all my devices to track every move I make. If that isn’t stealing as many identities as they possibly could, I don’t know what is except for silence of the lambs. Also they are a self-proclaimed actress who tries to portray other identities on stage as well. Is it self-hatred? You can’t steal me. You cannot snuff me out like a bad adult film. What little I do have I am proud to live authentically with out needing her in it. I put it in God the Father’s hands. I apologize for the frankness, I do but I find I get riled while listening to your honest assessment of these creatures, thank you Paula.
Geesh, and l thought l had it bad. l too cannot fully understand this jealousy aspect, though l suspected it long before l discovered these videos. I guess in time that penny will drop. After a lifetime of wife beatings, derogatory name-calling, blackmail and lies, my dad is very successful and super rich, so how is he jealous of me? I lived s carefree life as a professional gardener in London, doing gardens at embassies and for some rock stars.
During lockdown, l kept busy beautifying his garden, till he yelled at me that l should spend all day sitting in front of a computer, learning stuff, like him. (He knows l hate computers, and don't even know how to switch one on.)
I walked away from him two years ago, and haven't seen him again. I was 56 years old, and he still tried to tell me how to live. I can only pray for him.
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@@rolandoscar1696 the jealousy and envy makes no sense to us, we simply cannot fathom it. I have come to believe it is the very nature of our being-ness that they are so jealous of, because they have no true self. They are empty void black holes inside and pathologically jealous of our inner Life (soul) which is vibrant and alive by comparison. In your case, its your carefree authentic self that the narc wants for himself. Well done on going no contact - difficult with a parent.
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@@astradiamond8373 You're right there. Makes sense. Thanks for your message.
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Thank you Paula. That has cleared up a lot for me ❤
Think of kids who build a tower out of Legos, then admire their work, then knock it all down w pleasure and delight. That’s a narc.
The difference is, you’re the tower but the narc didn’t build you, God did.
And the Truth is, You cannot be knocked down. It may feel like you were but it’s not possible to take out a Child of God. And that’s why narcs despise you bc they already know this.
Much love to y’all❤
I think this is the most powerful video I have ever seen about narcissists.
Your insight and compassion has helped many of us, who still struggle with this. I feel free from him now, because I can see through him now and forever. I am a Christian also, and it's even better knowing you are one of His as well. ❤
I have been Blessed TY Paula!
Thank you for this video! Once I made the decision to go no contact on social media (private messaging me) I feel a lot better. I put them on permanent snooze 💤 it’s so lovely! But yes on the message on your video they will try to be you, they will try to suck your resources and your very soul like a dementor.
This another wonderful video, Paula, thank you! You were so right about so many things you said, and it is so important that we are available to others that need us. I wish I knew what narcissism was at the time I was with my ex because I knew he just wasn't right and couldn't name it. I used to wonder why I was going through what I was going through, and now I have a better understanding because my son is in the same situation. We do not talk because of his narcissist, but I am always here for him. I do understand about wanting God to end it for me here on earth. I used to lay at night in bed and think of all the young children who have lost a mother and how I would willing go in their place so their children could be spared the pain of not growing up without their mother. My children were grown at the time, and I could not see a bit of difference I was making. God does have other plans for each and every one of us and it was egotistical of me to not understand that he had a plan for me going through what I did. I know so much more, I am still learning, and God is not done with me yet. I send prayers of strength and understanding to all who read this.
@ Mary My sister needs your prayers, as she recently received a serious medical diagnosis. I pray for her daily. Please do so too. Her name is also Mary. What a coincidence ! I spent many many years with a narcissist, but no more. I'm FREEEE !
@@bernitacenteno1326 , I will certainly pray for your sister 🙏. Good for you for being free of your narcissist. I tried once to leave him when our children were younger but to no avail. He badgered me terribly till I let him back, now I know it was hoovering. Once the children left he became worse and I finally had the strength and resources to leave. I wish I knew then, what I knew now. My children would have had a better childhood. Keep us posted on your sister!
TO THEM PEOPLE EXIST TO BE USED NOT TO BE KNOWN AND RESPECTED. BOUNDARIES AND DEAL BREAKERS CAN PROTECT US.
I had a BPD/NPD friend who ghosted me cruelly when I was at my lowest after my marriage broke up, told people I had introduced HER to that I had lost interest in HER life & then shows up at my College Roommate's wedding and networked with the rest of my College friends.
It took me longer to get over how she treated me than it did to get over the fact that my marriage of 30 years was a lie.
Only when I understood the NPD/BPD thing that I could get my head around her use & abuse of me.
Just so utterly brazen. I know that type of situation well. Keep your head up, it's rough until you've had enough.
@@pelletier4432 She has BPD. High functioning enough to charm people.
The problem with us lot is that we are on the menu due to our tolerance & high empathetic traits.
I KNEW she would be trouble when I met her - but her pity play hooked me.
I though just help her with a few things & send her on her way.
Within 2 weeks she had taken over my life & introduced me to people as her BEST FRIEND. FvCK!!!!
I took so much abuse form her. Normal people wouldn't allow that.
These critters actually are our teachers bc the things we allow them to do to us & the fallout with the smear campaign pushes ALL our buttons.
Each button needs replacing.
@@rw4754 Yep, had a frenemy situation just like that. Kept popping up over and over in my lifetime from youth through adulthood and I kept falling for the crying. Made fast friends with my BPD mother. So sneaky and so unbelievably mean! You are so right, we learn a huge lesson and that lesson will keep showing up until we get it! Everybody is kicked out for good. Peace is everything!
@@pelletier4432 I had PLATOONS of these people in my life for DECADES.
Took me near 60 years to see the pattern & MY part in it.
If hosts of Angels were prodding, hinting & guiding, to get out, I was blind.
Foundation of the issue was being the Scapegoat to a BPD/NPD mother.
I was hard wired to take care of these people at my own expense, like my persona depended on it.
@@rw4754 We have very similar backgrounds. I am 54 now but didn't get the whole picture until my late 40s. We are awake and here to warn others, just as Paula has mentioned. It's an honor to connect with you and thanks for commenting!
That was so frightening and accurate I had to listen multiple times. That’s an excellent idea for people to support others. Thank you
I’m two years narc free, I never thought I’d get to this point of inner peace, I almost didn’t make it. Understanding how these demons work and the spiritual warfare has finally helped me fully break those chains. I am healed and so grateful for the lesson the narc has taught me going forward. This channel I will continue to follow, your amazing and thank you, from the bottom of my heart 💜
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They are extremely emotionless and lack in empathy, she actually called me an empty headed devil when in truth she's the devil 👿👿
Thanks very much Paula! You're so on point in this video.
I have suffered 40 years of mental abuse from a Narc, who I am finally walking away from. This man is devil reincarnate in every sense. I didn't think I could leave him not because I love him but because I don't know my own strength or recognize who I am any more. However, I cried unto my Father God to fight for me and to deliver me from this evil man. He's absolutely guiding my steps while exiting this bondage called marriage. I need this community's prayers and support to completely heal from this trauma. Tnx!
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My prayers are with you. The holy spirit is guiding your steps......God is protecting you and in time you will see the discard as a blessing. I'm 36 years suffering this abuse and was cruelly discarded seven months ago. I tried so hard to make my marriage work but he took and gave nothing. Still working through the trauma bond and betrayal. We are no longer victims, we are survivors and I believe we WILL be ok but it's going to take time. They try to break us but I refuse to stay broken. Keep educating yourself and growing through your pain - God is there with us and we grow closer to Him in the wilderness. This is a new beginning and as we emerge from the trauma pain and darkness, we will rediscover the "light" within ourselves. God's light is like a "beam" guiding us home. Stay strong....you can do all things through Christ Jesus, who strengthens you. Your best days are still ahead of you. God bless you on your healing journey. 🙏
That's Deep,
I love 💕 when she speaks.
Her words do run through my body, blood, veins, my every being.
Her explanation of the subject of Narcissist is so profound.
Hope everyone understands like l did.
one here who does.word!
I love the way you deliver..fogive..heal..and become stronger..Journaling helps..take back your soul..
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It is so hard not to lose yourself in these relationships. But you simply must hold on to yourself and your life. You have a right to be here. You are important. Keep going on.
Thank you for all that you do! You are awesome! I am a recent survivor of a narcissist marriage, short lived, thank God He was able to let me see what was happening before much long term damage was done.
I'm still having some depression issues, but I am healing, thanks tho your channel and others like it. May God bless you and your work, and use me in whatever capacity He sees fit.... Carry on the good work!! I love you!
Hi Richard ... Soooo glad to hear you got out - our Father was not so Lucky : ( He met & married (due to her insistency) after 9 months of dating. Our Dad was was ''hesitant'' to marry so quickly (she was love bombing him 24/7 of course) but due to her ''I really want to be married - but if you can't commit, I'll start dating other men etc'' he went through w/ it. Total mistake - as I'm sure you can relate. Within 2 months of the Wedding Day, the ''party was over'' ... she was like night & day and totallly 'took over' ALL areas of our Dads life (financial, all relationships w/ friends, family, business, all banking decisions, the investments etc) : ( Long story short, he remained married to her for 19 lonnnng years (we believe mostly out of feeling stuck & pride as he would not admit he made a big mistake etc) He died 2 years ago ill-health ridden, zombie like at times, a total wimpy-guy (he was not like this when they met). She took everything from my brother & I, we were left with almost nothing $$, not even given a chance to have an old sweater of his as a memory etc ~
Anyways, stay strong Robert !! YOU are a SURVIVOR !!! YOU CAN DO THIS & YOU ARE !!! : ) Carry on w/ your Healing Journey !! Again, YOU CAN DO IT !!!!! Most Sincerely, Cindy : )
@@cindyglass5827 God bless you Cindy. You deserved so much better than what you got. Your dad was not a wimp to start with you said. He was drained of any and all self respect that he had to start with. He was not a wimp probably, but was a really kind person who was targeted. Yet he didn't know it or understand how narcissists have no empathy for how ANY OTHERS FEEL, etc.
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@@cindyglass5827 Thank you so much Cindy! I'm still struggling with depression and regretfully, missing her, but I'll be ok.... Thanks for the encouragement.....
@EXPOSED. Algerian satanic narcissist. Bilal lakama thank you for the love and prayers... I sure need them...
They can not think like a person
I JUST LOVE THE WAY YOU EXPLAIN THE MATTERS!
Wow! I went through this experience January this year, my spirit guides are very powerful, I never knew this person was a narcissist. But I saw her in my dream where she exchanged my soul. My soul entered my body and mine entered her body. In the second dream I saw myself living her life which I was not happy with. I woke and doubted it. But God didn't let me rest he kept warning me about this using any means. Thank you so much. Before then I never knew that such thing exists.
You are saving my life. Thank you!
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Excellent!!
You have articulated this so well.. he said, he would take away everything I have including my name.. when I said this to ppl.. they didn't believe me. They thought I was making up stuff or laughed and said no one can do that.. it doesn't happen.. but you can feel it deep down. When you start becoming confused, insecure, trying to figure out your own self.. or what is happening.. when you see yourself being played by them.. he and his new narc gf.. walking like me, talking like me.. i used to tell ppl something is wrong.. they said i was beinf insecure, and i also thought of unaliving myself because I didn't know who I was.. what I had done.. no one will understand. But like I said.. you get it.. you articulated it well.. and gave hope
This is a brilliant video, you have just described the I was feeling for weeks. I have a strong heart, a good soul and my ex tore it apart. All my friends told me she never desired my love. She destroyed my soul and broke my heart and I spent weeks wondering what I did wrong! I was loving, caring, supportive and a modern partner helping her around the house as much as possible. I had suicidal thoughts as well. It wasn't till a friend said to me "Andy, I think she could be a narcissist" and then a light bulb went off in my head. She hated the fact I had my own life with my own friend, I gave her money in the past and I stopped doing it because it was leaving me short for the month and she hated that. 10% of my attention went to my best mate who lost his dad and that is when the discard started, She started calling me names, making me feel unworthy, getting angry all the time and started to throw things at me. And this was the second time she did this to me. Then I found out she had started to see someone behind my back so I left.
These videos have been eye opening and set me on a path to a quicker recovery.
A massive thank you Paula for all your help and keep up the great work. You are helping so many people and we are so grateful for that.
survivor of Narcissistic abuse.
I actually wrote a song about this 2 years ago when I had been broke up with her for about a year, It call The trickster ua-cam.com/video/XNrPkFQXk7o/v-deo.html I just wished I took the words to heart.
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Hang in there mate. We will overcome the assault of the robber robots. Each of our stories are unique to us but we all share elements of commonality as survivors of abuse. Thanks for sharing.
I know now that I was trying to save his sole, and all the while he was stealing mine. 😐. I just keept giving and giving to his spiritual needs ,and I was just loosing most of mine.
Your soul belongs to God, and is not yours to even give to others. They only have black holes, and though you might feel they have depleted your soul, they only took your energy and love. Easily replenished by being in nature, and going no- contact. Lots of love.
WE CAN'T FIX THEM OR CHANGE THEM OR CARETAKE THEM WITH OUR LOVE. WE CAN FIX OURSELVES AND CHANGE OURSELVES FOR THE BETTER. WE MUST BE GENTLE WITH OURSELVES AND PROTECT OUR SELF FIRST.
It was a blessing to be stronger, a warrior lady now. I realized that I am stronger than ever - and since my youth - it was the hardest battle ever. And I think it is the fight about the human souls.
I just love you Paula, so comforting, so true , so calm. Listening to you puts me at ease. This’s just awful experience , but knowledge is power and I thank you for your knowledge and for caring to pass it on to us , broken souls. God Bless You ❤️🙏
So true, I love Paula's calm and comforting voice, she puts me at ease too 😊
Exactly what he did - pretended to be me to be my "soul mate" till he decided he wanted to move on to Greener Pastures. Literally overnight showed me a completely different personality than the one I married. Such a different face overnight -it was truly disturbing
their soul is lonely, misery loves company. If you're a happy go lucky person- find a BETTER MATCH, TRUST IN FAITH. Be Well. P.S. I like the hair! U look so Summer & Sassy!
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Thank you Paula (not in good state now at the time). It seems accurate, makes sense. So will not give up. In Jesus Name.
I want to offer encouragement. We live in a fallen world. There are people capable of empathy and those who aren't. We all struggle with narcissism (narcs use our own narcissism to ensnare us), but not all are pathologically narcissitic. If you've learned this lesson the hard way, it's a lesson that can be ignored but not unlearned. We've been victims of narcissitic abuse, but we continue to victimize ourselves when we stay with our narcissists. We are survivors when we walk away "shrewd as serpents and innocent as doves". Fairy tales aren't real; we all have sinned and life is difficult. No person can be trusted completely. But if there's empathy, a relationship is still possible. We can find peace and be edified by spreading God's love to an undeserving world, albeit imperfectly because we aren't perfect. Moments of peace and beauty dot each of our paths, but we can never expect to find total absolution this side of heaven. We have to be strong and responsible for our own decisions, then one day, long after the narcissitic relationship ends, we wake up and realize that we are okay and the crushing shock and pain from our past abuse transforms into a priceless life lesson. This lesson helps us to make the world a better place because we understand the true value of compassion, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and patience. Keep going. Don't allow the past to hold you back. Forgiveness is releasing someone from their debt to you. If you can, forgive the narc and forgive yourself. Have grace with yourself like you would anyone else. And if you're so inclined, call out to God who has promised to draw near to those who draw near to Him.
Stacie, that's a beautiful well thought out piece of advice! God bless you for your contribution 🙏 I'm sure it's going to help an empath that's just waking up.
Forgive the narc? NEVER
There are those who some call "soul less" but I call them “spiritless”, and those (in the minority now) who are endowed with the “divine spark”, or "divine spirit". The "spiritless" among us do have some kind of soul energy by virtue of being alive, but their soul is not imbued with a higher spark of true sentience and self-awareness.
The spiritless among us make up the overwhelming majority of people on the planet. They are selfish, egotistical, mundane, superficial, narcissistic, and often occupy their time with stupid trivial bullshit. You will notice, if you’ve spent any time around these people, that there is something very important inside that seems to be missing. They exhibit a flat, dull energy. There is no depth within them. They tend towards extroverted and social behavior to make up for the vacuity within themselves. Their emotional and intellectual centers are dull and seem to be underdeveloped like a toddler. Their behavior is not much different than an animals, like sheep, donkeys or goats. They spend their entire lives in this state of underdevelopment and exhibit no capacity for evolution or desire to change their shitty behavior, because they see nothing wrong with it. Their narcissistic tendencies will leave you feeling drained of energy as they soak up every drop of attention in the room like a black hole. Energy vampires, for lack of a better term. The dull conscious energy embodying one spiritless being is the same dull conscious energy that is embodying all the other spiritless beings; there is very little uniqueness or individuality among them. And if you have a soul, you will not fit in. You will be the "black sheep" among them.
Notice how they all have the same dull flat energy, even the "extroverted" ones and their ridiculous childish behavior continues well into the late stages of life. They are all plugged into the same collective hive mind. And if you’re not in their club you will find yourself silently exiled.
They lack individuality, independent thinking, and are strongly biased toward holding a herd mentality. They lack comprehension of anything beyond the material sphere of the five senses.There is a certain simplicity, flatness, and inertness to their essence, even if their intellects are highly developed. Unlike other people, their conscious energy is more diffuse, dull, impermanent, and amorphous rather than solid, sparkling, crystallized, and concentrated. Put another way, their minds are like sand castles instead of real castles. There is something animalistic and rudimentary piloting their bodies. It seems they have conscious awareness just as plants and animals do, but not conscious self-awareness as humans are supposed to have.
Only after getting burned again and again through out my entire life, did I finally realize some humans are of a "different type of seed." They are acting fully in accordance with their spiritless, narcissistic, predatory nature. This is especially true of the psychopathic "elite" who run this prison planet; they cannot be rehabilitated, made to see the error of their ways, or convinced through appeals to empathy. Naive people who think everyone is equally "good" inside will keep rationalizing and taking the abuse, but those with higher understanding will recognize the warning signs of futility and save themselves the trouble. In a nutshell: our entire lives are governed by those without compassion for the living.
On the other hand, those who have been endowed with the "divine spirit" will show signs of higher intuition, creativity and emotional capabilities. They have a "heart", a "higher self", and therefore have a capacity for love and empathy for others as well as greater emotional intelligence. They will not suck the life out of you when you are around them, as they get fulfillment and energy from within themselves. They exude a warm positive energy, and most importantly have the capacity for spiritual growth, or liberation from this shit world.
The parable of the wheat and the tares from Mathew 13:24 is an apt metaphor for the two types of souls on this planet. The wheat being the humans with spirit, or the "good seed", and the spiritless are the tares, or the "weeds among the wheat". The tare is a weed that looks exactly like the wheat, and is identical in all aspects, except that it does not bear grain like wheat does and can make you sick if you eat it.
I believe this is what we are dealing with and is the reason why most humans are horrible creatures not worth your time and energy. There doesn't seem to be any other explanation for their shitty behavior, or their state of arrested development. Its a sad state of affairs.
It’s like they’re all plugged into the same damn collectivist hive mind and they all subconsciously know you are not one of them. They will unconsciously waste your time and drain your energy. My kind and loving spirit, has repeatedly been battered and smashed by people around me. Been shit on my whole life by family, coworkers and friends who don’t give a shit about anything but themselves. Would destroy the lives of people that care about them without a second thought if it benefitted them in some way. These are the spiritless animal-humans (or monkey bloods as I call them...RH positives).They do this to scar you spiritually and shut down your power. Even so called "Christian" people seem malignant and malicious for no reason at all.
Those with souls, are not driven to dominate and subjugate others. They are driven by peace, joy, love and happiness, which exist for its own sake. Dominating or subjugating others is simply not something we are interested in. Not because we are on some holier-than-thou ego trip, but because it is simply unappealing, and does not bring us joy, peace or happiness to be disrespectful or cruel to others for no reason. We simply get zero gratification from such behavior. Unfortunately, thanks to the Rhogam shot, which allowed these spiritless people to be carried full term in the womb, and the quiet discontinuance of the marital compatability blood tests back in the 70s and prior, that used to be required to get married, among many other things, the souled humans now make up a very small minority on the planet. They have literally out-bred us to near extinction.
@@reesedaniel5835True regarding us empaths. We have zero interest in dominating people. There's just no appeal to doing that. The only thing that comes remotely close to that for me, is to be good at whatever Im doing, without affecting anyone else. That's what got us fooled by the narc in the first place. We didnt suspect the narc as a bad person because we could not comprehend that someone could be so evil. We learned a very hard life lesson.
I agree in every point just want to say something thet everybody knows, but forgets,
we are pefect in the eye of God.
We are not perfect in the eye of our felow man. Becsuse of his expectations. We ara more perfect when closer to someones expectations. It would be better to see differences as natural.❤ AND GO AWAY AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, WHEN WE SEE THAT WE ARE NOT IN HELTHY PLACE, OR WE ARE IN BAD COMPANY.❤
Narcissistic personalitys may be conssidered as usefull for self developement🖒! What does not kill you strengthen you ! So GOD LUCK TO US ALL!!💖💖💖
Your so right on everything you said! 💯 In my relationship through many years and post relationship she made me feel more like a narcissist. I was a angry stressed out man most of the time because of my finances getting low falling in debt trying to take care of her because she never tried to get a job and had no desire to. She just watched me sink lower and lower in my life I didn't even know who I was anymore I was just to trauma bonded a shell of my former self. It got so bad I even was considering bankruptcy and it's funny because the day I spoke with her about that that was the day of my discard I left for work came home and she was gone! Left me with a letter gaslighting me and blamshifting me on why she was leaving me she took no accoutibilty what so ever. After reading the letter I tried to call her to ask why she did this to me and got ghosted. January 4 of this year to now never heard anything from her but it's to late now I don't want to see her face again. I know this woman was a narcissist from the study's I got on these videos I did my best for her trying to give her the best life of my ability but all I got in return was ungratefulness and disrespect on how she left the relationship. Thank you again Ms Paula this is one of your best videos in my opinion it lets me get this off my chest.💜💛💜💯💯👍
congrats. Parasite has left the host and the host got stronger
You deserve sooo much more, and better! And I agree with you, this video is an absolute gem. It's come at the perfect time for me with the narc's return for an attempted hoover. Lucky for me I see through all the lies and manipulation but this video has made me even more aware of the tactic - using us as commodities. Wishing you love and strength on your journey of recovery 💛🧡💜🧡💛
@@astradiamond8373 Thank you 🙏💯💪
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Thank God we have you and your beautiful soul Paula . What a blessing you are in my life and all those on this channel. Thankyou.
Aw thank you for being here Elizabeth 🌹🌹
This topic is so relatable to me, when with the ex narc (2yrs ago, not now thankgod!)... He actually said to me word for word... "My soul needs yours" I knew then he was a demon...
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What you have explained is exactly what is going on. Thank you
Thankyou for this beautiful message. We can recover, they can't. So sad when it's your two sisters. No contact was the only answer. Now they can bond in their hatred of me
One of my narcissists is my older sister. Once I figured it all out by the teachings, I went no contact for my own healing. I am calmer now...not walking on eggshells all the time. I just feel sorry for the others living in her household.
When you're in a relationship with a narcissist, you're literally in a battle with the devil. For your very life and soul. It's a war for your survival. Don't take it lightly. This is a life or death engagement you must fight and escape from to save yourself.
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Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom about this terrible evil upon us today 🙏🙏
Thank you. Very informative and empowering. Its easier said than done. I've lost everything. I'm exhausted.
No, you have your soul and a sense of justice. Narcs would kill for those. Chin up🏇🏁
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You describe my mother every time I listen to you. She has been jealous of me all my life, has mimicked me and then backstabbed me with lies to the ones I love. When confronted in the past, she's never admitted to anything. She's sort out to destroy my reputation whilst pretending to others she's always wanted the best for me. I find it all so draining and I don't know how to go on with my life after all the damage she's done.
Again another video word for word completely everything you said 100% accurate ..by the end of the relationship I had become dark myself I was paranoid I was hateful I had gotten revengeful I had lost the light that was in my soul. he got stronger ....by the time I completely got away it's been a year now. I was drained of every resource including my health fell into a deep depression that is taking me a year I'm just now barely pulling out of it. because my health had declined it's an uphill battle now .I think because I was a little older when this happened to me it's made it nearly impossible to recover mentally physically financially... but spiritually I became stronger than I ever have been before thank God for that thank you again for another prophetic video this is all been a blessing to me in words I can't explain. I need to kno how to pull my back up and out of the pit get my health back.. so I can have a fruitful life what's left of it I'm 50 but feel 80. .
..Never in my life has anything robbed me of everything like the last 4 years with the narcissist did.. yes I did get suicidal but was able to fight it off when I hit my knees ..but then the deep depression creeped in like I said it's been a year I've basically been in bed gained 45 lb for lack of even wanting to get up or feeling like it.I'm blessed enough to have had a dear friend let me move in to their lake house because without that I wouldn't be here.. the narcissist at my age that it happened to me I wasn't able to bounce back as if I were 30 or even 40 all the stress of the horrid mess I was in for 4 years took a toll on my body physically ..all I can do is pray that God heals me and brings me enlightenment through these videos it's sad because I was a decent looking woman people thought I was way younger than I was had a good job home nice car healthy all that gone in such a short time of dealing with this succubus ..he became stronger was blessed with even more than he was able to Rob from me. I had to really pray to get the resentment and anger and Karma seeking out of my heart it's been really hard .he drained my soul and replaced it with nothing butt junk from his.thank you again Paula by the blood of Jesus gods hand on my life is the Olney way I found freedom...... you are definitely right about narcissists coming in packs during my process of removing myself from him I encountered two more narcissists one a so-called female friend and another a male just to try to drain what was left this is such a spiritual battle it's almost unbelievable
Yes jd.i hear you.im 65 20 year marriage to narc.divorced her when found our she was cheating.couldnt make sense of anything till after. took me about four years to stabilise enough to think straight. You feel 80 because your gaining wisdom,ever thought about that.?
Stay strong sister. Gods got it all.xx
@@stephenrandall484 thank you so much I'm crying ..thank you for reaching out yes the wisdom came in light years.. but my body physically feels 80 ..come to find out he horrifically cheated on me with anything that had two legs man or woman off of Tinder one night hookup sites it's sickening I just pray to God I am healthy it's took me a year to get medical insurance so I can get to a doctor and be tested for everything under the sun... narcissists are dangerous with their sexual behaviors not caring if they cause you harm or not not to mention all the other trash that goes with it thank you for your words of encouragement I need them bless you..
JD, hang in there. I know it’s hard. I’m a bit older than you but I, too, was entangled for four years. I stayed 18months after I started catching on to the lies and cheating actually believing him when he said he wanted to work on us. Of course, I kept learning of new lies and deception; cheating, gaslighting, stonewalling and ghosting, triangulation, etc all continued. God finally showed me what I needed to see in order to finally get it and walk away, but then the anxiety even escalated and I started to blame myself. Felt so weak, so untrusting, bitter, hopeless, devastated, vengeful, depressed…. I prayed for the pain to end, first considering suicide and then by falling to my knees. No one was there to help me except these channels and God. I still have a long way to go, but I am able to be a useful member of society again, getting out and doing things I enjoy, setting goals for myself and plugging away. It’s a far cry from the woman I was in 2021. It is most definitely a spiritual battle, one that can be fought and won. My win will be when I am totally indifferent regarding the narc. For now, I’m happy to just get through the day without the paralyzing rumination. That is HUGE! I still have periods when I miss “him”, but I logically know I miss the illusion of him. The man and life I thought I loved. But it wasn’t real. And when I remember that, my sadness dissipates. I am eternally grateful to Paula and others who have been called to educate us. When I feel alone, I need only click on a video and I am emboldened again. Stay strong and true to yourself! Stay amazed!
@@sistergoldensunshine4069 amen amen amen thank you. another thing that proves to me its spiritual because your words are also word for word what I experienced. the spirit in the narcissist is the same in everyone I'm seeing that .it's actually sparked my curiosity in the matter. I've been a year free now myself I'm just just now pulling myself up out of the bed . it's been hard hard and every word you spoke I go through from time to time not as much in the past 3 weeks as I have in the past months. I got a Hoover from him last week and my stomach sank I didn't want it I thought I would have been weak toward it but I wasn't... so I know I'm healing it's just so slow and yes the indifference is where I want to be also I had to find forgiveness for myself and of him. actually praying for him helped me it got rid of the vengefulness and anger I'm just on a slow healing path now and he is such a man child I know he will not Hoover again. so I'm not worried about that anymore by time he does if he does I'll be even stronger... thank you for your words of encouragement and bless you in your journey also
@@Scorpio200 Ask them to check for adrinal fatigue. My dr. recomended lots of various vitamins (natural) from vita cost. adrinals functioning at 5% when should have been 80%.xx
Absolutely spot on Paula.
Their soul doesn’t even know them. It’s not in them. No exchange. It’s more of a cloud or tar over the one being awakened. They suffer until they see. It’s like living in hell realm on earth. A veil.
They have no soul. Only a black hole and self loathing. Once awakened, you cannot unsee that. Our hell on earth experience has given us the tools to walk in the light, while leaving them behind to stew in their own juice. Nothing will change them. Nothing. l know, after 56 years of abuse from my dad.
Absolutely true! It took me years to recoup. But I came out stronger, better. I’m convinced that there’s such a dark, demonic force. But there’s also a God that doesn’t like what I went through, and helped me. Thank You Lord, and thank you Paula for your work, and your service. I went through my ordeal in the 1980’s. Yet you described. It’s proof that these demonic beings have all a very similar playbook.
Thank you another great insight into the Narc. Im now 6 months post disguard and have been through the rollercoaster of emotions that with your experience I now see as totally normal and expected. Mine was a close female friend and 6 months post I feel a massive weight lifted. It was tough but I came out stronger and truer to myself. I hope I can spot the red flags in the future and disengage early. With love ❤
Your messages are so informative and you are thoroughly amusing. Appreciate your efforts.💕
Thank you so much!
It is so important to seek help when you have been under the influence of a narcissist for a while or a long time. Often the people are wounded in their youth.
But know we all play a part in this earthly existence. It is not the purpose of live to be oppressed. But it will happen for a reason to find yourself or to find yourself again. For joy is our inheritance. And when you have wrestled your way out of it, joy is your reward. Then you have learned your lesson. They, in this case the narcissist, don’t suddenly come into your life. That has a purpose.
And once you get through it, a narcissist won’t come back!
I know why I stay single. I have met many of these creeps in my day.
Wow. This is disturbing and enlightening at the same time. Please keep speaking the truth. I hear you loud and clear. My soul thanks you.
It’s diabolical behavior...Grifters with lipstick and a pretty bow
Im speechless wow thank you very much and that's how exactly it went oh my that you for sharing this God bless me and all of us on here that made it out of this cult of a person pure evil its scary....
I agree with every word uttered. Freedom was just one bridge away, when I realised, there is a shadow stalking me in my own four walls. I literally saw and felt the shadow watching and standing over me in my dreams. Absolutely scary but I knew then, this shadow is a representation of my relational subconscious and I am a victim. I am coding now apps to treat Cluster-B personality disorders. This is the way.
Wow! That’s insightful. Scary too.
Thanks for your comment, your work, your journey. Blessings.
Psychotherapy could help
I am so sorry you went through that ...I cannot begin to imagine getting that close to a Narc. I hope you're better, healed and whole again. God Bless..🙏
Totally Rex thank you 🌹
Exactly...so creepy.
24 YEARS OF PURE HELL SOUL... TIED.. LOOK THAT UP.. this is SERIOUS stuff... GET CLEANSED!~ SHE IS SPOT ON!!!
SHE IS the best on the net. I have watched every single person on this subject. Sam VaKNIN is another. .... Heal... Help Each other!
Yes blessed to have people like yourself which help the minority when we are lost or confused.
After going through a very unsteady healing path and trying to get over the anger about the destruction caused by the narc in regards to my youthful years wasted and my dreams, and my plans and my finances…which through him got all demolished…I kept wanting the worst to happen to him like I would say out loud….” Please universe make him lose his job” or let him keep fighting with his mom….but after the healing path which is never linear, especially with unexpected crazy Hoovers…I came to understand that the Karma is in letting the relationship with the narc die…meaning…you must be tough tough tough and stand firm when you go no contact no matter what…and give him or her no more chances…ever…that is their karma. They will wither …speaking from personal experience…no reaction…just response when he hovered and I stayed no contact meaning he has no way of contacting me in any way shape or form…That is their biggest wounding…their karma…and in that I take solace…😇🙏🏻💫
So true, Karma is their biggest reckoning