DEALING WITH BALDING IN AN IMAGE FOCUSED WORLD - With Mike Delaney
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Welcome to Episode 33 of The Bald Cafe Podcast.
This episode features Mike Delaney
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In this episode of the podcast we talk about Mike's experience with losing his hair and his reasons for opting to go the shaved head route.
Mike shares his experience with dating as a bald guy and offers wisdom in the areas of dating and dealing with society.
Mike also shares some useful fitness advice and a solid book/reading recommendation.
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Hang on a minute, like this is actually the best podcast
Antonio S Big ❤️
YES
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Balding can either become the biggest prison or the biggest freedom. It is the sword of Damocles that forces you to become antifragile, instead of fragile. This channel is a great lane to walk to antifragile. Thanks for that Harry/Henry. No man should cower himself in the corner, bc of society standards. Unleash the chains
Truly inspirational podcast! Been enjoying your content for a while now and even tho I’m a Norwood 2, but seeing as most of us men will experience some sort of hair loss during our lifetime I feel your content can be valuable to a far greater audience than you may realise. This podcast really illustrates the fact that society have labeled hair loss a decease that needs to be treated at all cost. Massive respect to you for fighting this prejudice and giving men all around the world confidence to embrace their hair loss journey.
Top channel, seriously the ramifications and topics are endless starting from a bald head getting to such interesting personal growth, confidence and practical everyday philosophy. kudos
Funny, I used to (and still) look up to Mike as a ‘bald role model’. Great to have him on!
I’d rather be bald and never worry about my hair again. Balding sucks when you’re constantly worried about it, and limits what you can do like swimming and wearing a hat all the time.
Robert You are 100% correct. Getting stuck in that balding cycle of worry and obsessing over it is a dangerous road to take.
@@Baldcafe
If someone's built like him, who needs hair...
hell, even I don't look like a bodybuilder... but do weight lifting, and look like a smaller Powerlifter/Weightlifter with tight waist (no abs)... ppl often say I don't need hair bcuz bald look suites me (with nice chinstrap with goatee) on my physique...
Robert I agree with this. People just don’t understand when we shave our heads. It’s just a stress relief. It’s like you can finally enjoy life again. I couldn’t give a shit if a woman loves my bald head or not. Lol .There’s loads women out there anyways so no need to worry.
Yea people let it affect their ability to do normal activities. At that point embracing it is the only sensible way forward. Shaving isn’t for everyone though. It’s about finding the solution that you’re most comftable with
Came to see how to deal with balding, left knowing how to deal with my insecurities.
Thanks for this one Mike and Baldcafe.
this discussion was brilliant.
Great episode, really enjoyed it.
This guy is a beast. I follow him on instagram since months and when he talk about his podcast with you, I was like "ok, this vid is going to be freakin' good".
Thanks for your work, man, and I'm thinking to contact you via email just to tell how you convince me to shave my head and how your support spread in a lot of countries (yes, I'm 100% French here. You are inspiring dude !)
Keep up the good vibe !
What a two handsome bald gents we have here! great broadcast
salah gamal Appreciated 😆 👍
Hang on a minute, this was a Truly Awesome Podcast! Took a while to complete it but very insightful.
Good work!
MOSS Thanks man 🙏 really glad you enjoyed it
Great interview. He seems like a top bloke. 👍
Great video guys! I would say that your interest does not have to be going to the gym. For example before shaving my head I did my first half marathon. Maybe I will be brave enough to do a full marathon next year.
well done harry,positive is everything.
Love this man
An excellent podcast. You both have a forged wisdom and that comes through.
Through your videos, I begin to appreciate the importance of personality and self-confidence. The problem I have is that I am fundamentally a more negative person. I find it almost impossible to change. I can try and put on a positive mask, but people seem see through it regardless. For myself, going bald and its effects has become a microcosm of a broader difficulty.
Anyways, look forward to more content. Cheers to you and Mike.
Tortoise Gamer Thanks man. Keep watching and I hope some of that positivity can deep into your bones. Try to improve your social circle , if you can, to a more positive one. Even at work. I used to work with people that hated their job and I would act the same after a while.... it’s true about influences.
Really enjoyed this conversation only just discovered the channel already knew of Mike as ive seen some of his brothers you tube as I have a passion for fitness and techno music but anyway though I'm not bald myself I took a lot away from this great stuff.
Excellent talk. Listen during my gym workout!!! While look at my new bald head in the mirror...👊😜
Mark Hoffman The perfect place to consume this podcast 👍 Thanks for listening
Holy shit, hands down the best podcast about baldness. Im still in the transition of having the courage to shave my half head of hair lol
Glad you enjoyed 🤝
Saw mike and thought that's gonna be about fitness man :D , but lasted to the end, nice job. Great cause. I remember when Mike took it off, but I always thought that he did it to look better. I think it suits him very well.
Michał Wawruch excellent! Thanks for watching and really hope you got some value from this 🙏
This is excellent. They’re both good looking I don’t know if that makes balding easier or harder. Maybe because they are good looking it’s harder to adjust although their outcome will be good
Yeah I really was confused when Harry grew out his hair in the last months. But I can understand now.
Having good physical health as can be manifested in a good body is great whether one has hair or not. What I find problematic about the extra emphasis on working out for bald guys is that it serves as a tacit acknowledgment that a bald head is a pronounced deficit to be made up, this was one of the areas where my resentment at being bald kicked in. I think an over emphasis on bald guys working out can be unhealthy and this problematises bald men. Bald guys like all men and even all women should excercise for their health and wellbeing but not necessarily with an emphasis on being 'shredded' in my view. The bald man's acceptance by a potential mate is healthier when not predicated on being completely stacked. I was quite big at one point and thoroughly resented resembling that caricature. I am happier now that I place more emphasis on cardio over weights. I at least partially lament the fact I wear a hair system. Ha ha!
Adam Somerset i love the way you write
Thanks a lot for saying this. It is what bothered me for a while now with the community. Don't get me wrong, on baldcafe or reddits r/bald, people are always super nice and supportive but every single time someone takes the plunge and shaves their head there are a lot of people saying "now grow a beard and get shredded, and you will be fine!". You do not need a beard or abs to validate yourself. Your baldness is not a deficite. You are whole, nothing to make up for, abs or no abs, beard or no beard.
I think that it’s character building to rock a horseshoe for awhile. For some people might find it’s a style they like. It definitely suits some people
The tinder matches thing is true. Its harder to look more appealing and photogenic in pictures when you're bald. Tinder is pretty vain though so I stopped using it because even age lowers your chances while we know in real life women dont care and always make the exception (you look young for your age etc, it doesnt look bad)
Lol. Women do care in real life. You just look good enough to not notice. I've had plenty of women say my face is ugly or make fun of it without me saying a word.
@@hurlentropy6866 man I've given up on daring before I even started. I'm going to shave my head bald and focus on my life. That's the only option left
What killed my hair is this: i went through a longish period of depresion with binge drinking, binge eating and 15 kg weight gain. Looking back at pics my hair were starting to thin, even if it was masked by the lenght of it. I went through 1.5 y of dieting and heavy exercising, i lost all the weight but the hair, they are quite bad atm; They stopped falling but past buzzcut they are BAD (The 2 lenght effect). Still i managed somehow to get kinda out of depression, i found new things, if they fall off it doesnt matter in the end... Sorry for sharing my story, thx if anyone had the patience to read it :)
Edit: listened to the whole podcast while doing my evening walk, awesome content
respected mastermind Thanks for listening man and I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you can really acknowledge your story for what it is too. Recognise it’s worth. If you can pick yourself back from times of depression, weight gain and all of the above then it shows you absolutely have what it takes to confidently rock a shaved head and then crack on to do bigger and better things. 🤝 respect man. Thanks for sharing.
Thats great bro but since you no longer lose hair isnt minoxidil a perfect choise? Youll just regain hair since u aint losing any. It can help beard growth too.
Depression, drinking or weight gain doesnt make your hair fall out. You would have lost that hair either way
@@MrKrusten my dad lost them in late 30ies, my brother is losing them at 30, i started at 23... It is surely genetic, but it fastened it too much...
@@respectedmastermind your family doesnt matter. Hair immune to MPB doesnt minituarize because of weight gain or alcohol.
with a body like that who needs hair
Exactly, he's the kinda of guy that looks like Jason Statham, he has the face, height and body so come on... hahaha
@@angelmaldonadoromero4955 Right? Left that for the ugly ones :(
Having hair back is impossible (exept with an hair transplant) but having a body like that maybe yes. Clearly, It needs a lot of hard work, time and dedication but it's under your control and it depends on yourself. That's the key of discussion. So stop thinking about balding and start thinking positive things to improve yourself, that you can control, like gym, job etc.
@slangnocturno Thats the lamest excuse to better your physique ive ever heard. Most women don't like bodybuilder type physiques cause they are extreme but 9.9 times out of 10 a fit body with a good amount of muscle and good bodyfat(again not extreme) will be more attractive. Its not all that matters but it does matter.
@slangnocturno I have only word: SCIENCE. About hard nice bodies I have already said that when you are bald it's better to focus on the other things like exercise, job, study relations, aid people...a lot of things that they feel better you
Brilliant discussion! Columbia’s druglords! Fantastic!
Aloha from Texas,
Dr. Liam Stone, D.D., Ph.D., N.D.
You both have good head shapes and good jaws to look actually good with a shaved head.
Can you do a video on epilating to get rid of shadow? Alternative to laser
I feel like you shouldve brought up micropigmentation, im thinking about it myself and i think it would look great in both of u
U have to be careful. On some men it looks good but on others it can look unnatural
Harry what about a case study on USA soccer player "Micheal Bradley" handsome guy that went bald very young?
hey hows things mate, you ever in london id be well interested in talking to you about my baldness
Sounds like a plan mna. Best way in to get in touch over on Instagram 👍
Hi man can I get your opinion about my hair it is receeding in front. Not sure if I should go bald or buzz since I dont grow enough beard because of genes I think and I have a round faceshape.
Thanks in advance
Good luck for both bald guys! if i got bald in the future---no, that will never happen to me, well my dad is bald and my grandfathers from both side is bald to... i think was for other reason like stress, gels or being careless by no using hairs products.
I still don't know but as fourth month ago i shaved all my head after fourth years long hair, as three month from now i don't found any hair lost or any signal to going bald, i just wanted to have a healthy new hair, im 31 to 32 years soon.
you can get lazer hair removal to remove the horse shoe shadow on the sides i think that's what i'll do if i reach that point
Shaved heads and the bald look is bad ass
I think the main problem with balding men is that longer hair quickly looks messy (or even neglected) or is quickly associated with an unfit or sickly body.
Many outsiders assume that in people with long but thin hair, hair loss is not accepted and people close their eyes to the truth. However, the persons concerned do not have to have a problem with it at all.
That's it, Ma get the razor ready!
What do you think of the bald look with light eyebrows? I have dark hair but light and quite fine eyebrows, I think a bald person looks better with dark eyebrows. So I don't think I will look so good bald because of this and I can't grow a beard only light stubble that again is quite fine so it isn't that noticeable. I've thought about dying my eyebrows but then that's a lot of hassle. I also have a vitiligo patch on my head so that doesn't help.
Oh shit, you've got Joe Delaney's brother on your podcast!!
I was wondering how i knew his last name 😂
Do you mean John Delaney?
It's ironic that people worry about going bald but here are two guys who are bald but look better than most guys with a good head of hair.
why is the volume so damn low
what are thos headsets? wanna buy it
I’m actually right at that stage of 3 on top with a zero on sides going with a high & tight. Thin crown & high hairline, that day is coming... tick tock
i have to agree, imo you either go for a full restore with hair transplants and medication. or you just shave the head. the balding look looks so much worse than a clean shaved head. I had a hair transplant and it was my best choice ever. But if you have a good headshape for being bald, why not shave
Nothing wrong with embracing a receding hairline or a bit of thinning if you get a good cut. There's plenty of men who still look better with some hair instead of taking it all off. Sure, bald is a great option, but it should never be seen as the only option for those who don't want to go the meds/transplant route.
elder delbro is a good guy
Absoluto 👌
I jumped on finesteride yesterday. My head is just terrible for going bald. I'm going to always keep my hair even with receding hairline. One day I might consider hair transplant too. On this channel we get to see only people with great head shapes for going bald. I want some horror stories here, people with bad skull for embracing baldness so it's not all this biased "just shave it bruh" mantra...
I wish you all the best man but your judgement is likely clouded by this difficult situation. There have been so many men featured on the channel and Instagram, probably 150 at least. All of them look good yet all of them have different shaped heads. This headshape thing is way over thought. Yes absolutely there will be guys out there with some skull deformities etc that might genuinely have an u audial shape but even then. Do other people even care? Most men look great with a shaved head, it isn’t the other way around. All that aside I know going bald is tough to deal with so once again, I wish you the best 🤝
Good move, I’ve Taken finasteride for over a decade 1.25 mg 1/4 tab every second day and it halted my hairloss no sided effects, try Kevin Mann podcasts for good info
Shaving the head hair if balding is true freedom!
These baldness cures only work for very mild baldness. And eventually you will lose enough where they aren’t effective anymore. They help very little for insecurites
As long as you Kno who u are
I grew my hair out for the first time starting from a bald head in May 2019 and i honestly loved how it looked right up til my 18th month of growth, i looked like a fat Jason Momoa but i had the flow down - until the 19th+ months hit. Now my crown is widening and i can't stop it, i look like shit i feel like shit and this is something i always wanted to do but look at me now, i got nice curly sides and back with the top missing.
I swear i can't enjoy anything anymore, anytime i build myself up this shit happens. Broken dream.
It’s Fucking hair dude
I think one thing is more times bald men are insecure in themselves and women are very unattracted to insecurities naturally so it correlates naturally.
You kno what it means if I subscribe? I’m going bald lol but my hair is so fucking beautiful, women love it, I’ve actually slept with so many women who say that my hair was the first thing that caught their eye. But because so many girls wanted to have kids with my hair I never took any of them serious, just wanted to get as many as I could. Now I’m balding and I have 0 confidence. a year ago I was beating the women off now I’m to insecure to go outside crazy what this hair will do to you
its time to grow up and become a man. im in the same situation
28:00
I got a transplant greatest thing I've ever done gave me my confidence back
Ali Hus Good for you man. If that’s what it takes, then that’s what it takes. I hope you can forget about it and crack on to do better things 👍
@@Baldcafe I have a bad head shape bold did not suit me at all had no choice
Same here✊🏼
Baldcafe I love that you still are positive toward people who do different things
Remember everyone thinks they have a bad head shape. Get an objective opinion
Strangers messaged him to tell him to shave his head? What a bunch of pricks
ToysForThe ToyGod Today’s world 🌎
ToysForThe ToyGod Does it have to be out of negativity though? Isn't this channel about encouraging one to take the plunge and shave their head despite any reservations they may have that are holding them back? I'm not saying that people aren't cowardly douche bags online but I would personally at least consider suggesting it to someone if their hair is visibly fading because I think that the bald look suits most men, regardless if they're thin or muscular or this that or the other thing. And I myself have taken the plunge. It's a clean look. Maybe that's crossing a line to talk about something like that with someone? I'm not sure. It's not quite the same as telling someone to lose weight, because some people DO have genetic issues and you don't know their background and even if it was out of an eating disorder or depression or some other mental thing holding them back, it's not your place unless you're close to them. But balding, you can shave it off and it grows back easily if you'd rather cling to whatever hair you have left as a balding man. I don't see it as that taboo to talk about, we can't make it out like it's not really a big deal and then act like it's this overly touchy taboo subject. Men need to know that it's NOT a big deal or something to be ashamed of. And when it's coming from me, it's more of "hey man, you should try what I did if you're fearful or on the fence, it's pretty dope!" rather than "you look terrible!".. Am I the wrong one for that? Am I the same as the guys who just say that stuff to mindlessly insult? If anything, I try to lead by example anyway but I don't really tend to think much at all of being bald nowadays.
Saitama oh no doubt sometimes it isnt meant in a negative way and they are trying to help. But its not a strangers place to point it out and tell someone to shave it.
Think of it like this; a fat person knows they’re fat and what they can do about it. Its just as inpolite to tell them
ToysForThe ToyGod agreed.
I'm bald. No hair looks better than 10 hairs combed across a bald head.
You got a hook shaped face and sharp jaw line. Pretty much the same head shape as me.
he does not have a sharp jawline or hooked nose
Ocd that the tv isnt straight 😵
I told myself that if I ever lost my hair, I would hit the gym. I didn't want to be fat AND bald.
So ... I finally shaved my head the other day after years of thinking it'll be ok.
Time to get buff.
Aren't all gyms closed?
@@TCt83067695 i have one in my building and they didn't close it. My building is primarily elderly so there's maybe 5 tenants the use it. We supply our own cleaning materials and away I go.
@@CDuff86 impressive. Good luck on the journey to buff-dom.
@@TCt83067695 much appreciated. Down 15 pounds and on track
@@CDuff86 did you get buff?
Im balding in the pubes, any tips?
uwotm8 yo what
You could always get a hair system down there haha 😂
That’s just part of getting older. I’m thinning more down there than anywhere else
I got triggered by the handshake then I looked at the date and it was Nov 2019 BCV (before corona virus)
Relax bois.
30:19 I've noticed that British people do this lip curl thing... what is that?
British stiff lip of course
Why would he be worried about hair when he’s that jacked? I smell BS; he wanted his 15 devs of fame (worked too).
I wonder if he regrets using anabolics & accelerating his MPB.
Yep that DHT is payback ,sad thing is the muscle disappears when you stop the gear you’re only renting the muscle!
He might not be on steroids. Some people are natural muscle builders
Im going naughtybaldunit too
respected mastermind Same 😊
#inspired
Bro can bald guys get hot girls
Absolutely
@@Baldcafe thanks mate love from india
@Jdel Hagen I didn't quite catch that
Isha Rohilla he means narcissistic girls
I had a recent experience where I pulled a very physically attractive female. Unusually for me (though not unprecedented) I opened up about having a hair system on the first date as it was going so well. The woman in question proceeded to denigrate the general condition of baldness whilst visibly bald people were in the room. It is this experience which is taking me closer to shaving my head and focusing just on the women that would dig my natural state. Ultimately, that is what we all want I think. If I am honest, attracting women whilst in a hair system is a bittersweet feeling. I am always left wondering what if I had of been bald. This constant reality goes a long way to negating the initial confidence boost that comes with wearing a system. Getting a hair system is a bit like a football team getting a good care- taker manager, results initially improve but the longer time goes on inadequacies reemerge and results drop off, the care-taker is revealed for what he is and a superior solution is required.
Come on man, I have nothing against Bald men. But really you going to count that once or twice a month haircut costs 20 or 30 bucks? Well yeah how much a month do bald men spend on razors and blades each month to shave it "off"...?
Works out about 3 or 4 pounds a month. If its a DIY buzz cut much less.
@@Baldcafe damn where do you buy your blades? I use one blade a week it seems to only shave my face.
Bobby P a 20-30 dollar pair of clippers will last you years. Buzzing or using a low guard takes very little time.
I bought a pair of clippers for like $30 2 years ago and havent spent any more since
Seems like the effect of anabolic steroids.
Not necessarily u can get similar results taking creatin and working hard
@@j0nnyism Creatine also accelerates hair loss. Avoid it like the plague if you're susceptible to MPB.
I'd wear a wig.
So much bald cope
Stay salty and stay miserable then
Why bother...no matter ripped you get your still bald I myself have been going bald since 19 I'm 44 now..I purposely have gained a ton of weight.. don't really care anymore
Because as ripped bald guy looks better than a fat bald guy...?
Lost his hair to steroids
Probably accelerated the process but it was in his genes anyway.
Clickbait photo.
Baldies have no soul
U instantly lose it with ur hair? Is it in ur hair then?
Sorry man, but you looked 10 times better with some hair
No sh*t, who doesn't look better with a full head of hair, only a selected few can rock a baldy you're head shape plays a big role also. Stop saying stupid remarks like that, think a little. 🙂
@@Xander-86 i was telling him that so he can stop this coping s*** and go get a hair transplant smh
I disagree
@@deanal-jackson4593 he looks decent tho now