They usually don't. I have 5 divorced women in my family. 1 had good reason, but 4 left their husband because "unhappy" (for another man). Now the kids quietly hate their own mothers.
There is no better! There is only the one and it’s always a compromise! When you are rich or poor you have to pay for beauty and no brains or for less beauty and more brains.
"Weakness" such as being nurturing towards a husband is strength, as it strengthens the relationship. These "strong" women are just selfish narcissists.
A strong woman and a weak woman can't chop a tree down any faster than the other The only difference is that the strong woman walks around believing she can
This is exactly why my relationship of over 10 years just ended. She created so much drama that she became insufferable. She is gorgeous and I loved her kind heart. Unfortunately, the endless and baseless accusations and unnecessary stress became too much. Beauty only lasts so long. Find someone who enjoys peace and is drama free.
"What can I do to get my ex husband to forgive me" Nothing, when he moves on and finds someone new, he will forgive, but forgiveness doesn't come with remarriage to you. That is gone, he doesn't trust you enough to marry you again, and he will never because you have shown him what you think of marriages and your vows"
im sure she tried every trick in the toolbox, including "we need to get back together for our son". bla, bla, bla. in addition to trust issues, he probably figured out how much of a pain in the arse she was to live with, deal with. No man in his right mind would willingly return to that misery.
My stepsister divorce her lazy can't seem to keep a job husband who she berates all day but he takes her insult and just keep trying. She found a new man. The new man? Another lazy can't keep a job man, only this time he's also a violent abusive man, and he beats her up regularly. Her EX? Well he found a much pretty, younger woman who encourages him and he now has a stable job and is doing great.
Many times, women do not cherish their husbands when they have them and treat them poorly. It is only after divorce, when they encounter worse men, that they realize how good their husbands were, but by then, they have already lost the person who loved them the most.
If an older divorced woman thinks they can find a better guy needs to get a brain scan to see if they have a brain tumor. There are so many younger, single, and desperate women who can't find a husband... and you think an older divorced woman can find someone better?!?!
A woman who is too tough is just asking for trouble. Generally, if you are too tough on a man, he won't treat you well. So, as a woman, it's better to be gentle in a relationship.
Not one of these women expresses regret for how they treated the man, only for not getting a better deal. None of them would be on the internet crying, if they'd got a better deal All their tears are for themselves Every one of my male friends who have got divorced, it was the woman who initiated it all. The women all thought they could do better. They were all wrong.
yo the lady who is mentally divorcing her husband isn't in the wrong. She's pulling her weight in the relationship and was already giving a lot, even giving her mother in law as many gifts as she gave her OWN mother. All she wanted was a guy who would push her out into the sun if she became quadriplegic but he won't even walk with her. She actually wasnt a 'strong' woman but seemed actually meek and gentle. Some men aren't that great either tbh. Some other ladies in the video are frustrating however. If you choose to be single, you better be happy about it. Don't divorce men who are actually decent
If some of these Asian women could just cool it with their demeanor and stop their harsh treatment towards men, they would be a good catch. Listen I tried dating some of these ladies and tried being collaborative, understanding and a "team player" but their strange aggressive demeanor really screwed things up and sometimes you have to say "Enough is enough". I'm willing to take constructive criticism and even a few lite insults once in a while but going overboard with it will just push any man away. You don't get to treat me anyway you want or bring me down just because I stick around, especially if you can't speak any good English and you're frustrated because I can't understand you most of the time. Good luck in life.
their first husband in the best offer they could get with their remaining value as a woman, even if they're extremely lucky to met someone better, they no longer have the value to lock that man down since he definitely have better options. what makes them think that they could always find a better man after they've depreciated is the issue, they'll most probably get someone worse.
For the first woman... she regrets not having the same living & lifestyle. She never said anything about humbling herself to win her husband back. No love or warmth for the ex-husband... only "her desire" to get her previous situation back and give her son a "complete home". How could any man possibly take this woman back, if she is still unwilling to be humble and not showing love for her husband.
People need to remember that we are all flawed. Just because the other person is not bringing up your issues doesn't mean you're perfect. Always remember for every issue you bring up with your spouse you have just as annoying issue for your spouse. When it comes to these things I have always found it better rather than bring something up in the heat of the moment to set aside time to talk about these things and to talk about them and encourage changes in a loving way. Also a mistake I still see in this video is that love is built. It isn't something that magically appears out of thin air. Love rests upon the foundation of genuine care for one another in some cases the foundation is already there in other cases you have to build that foundation too. Being soft and kind helps build that foundation. Being tough, nagging, argumentative, and critical destroys that foundation.
DIVORCE means only one thing - in the EYES of the wife the man's value drops below expectations - a case of the grass being greener over the other side.
"This video makes a lot of sense. As women, being too tough can indeed create tension in a relationship. Being gentle doesn't mean being weak; it shows respect and understanding for each other. Often, a gentle attitude can win the other person's heart and lead to a more harmonious relationship. Being tough won't necessarily make the other person care more; instead, it might make them feel exhausted and distant. A relationship requires effort and care, and a bit of gentleness can help both people go further together."
Being aggressive doesn't mean you're strong. It means you're suffering from some kind of PTSD. Being strong is to acknowledge and carry your consequences.
All this only make sense when there's no 3rd party involved. Forgiving is easy, it really is, it simply means to not care. But getting the man you have chosen to betray to take you back ? that's a different level of hard.
you cracked their code. marriages for men are stupid, it only benefit women. 9/10 marriage problem comes from women and yet they always show up as a victim. the quality of women nowadays are trash. the sick society teach men how to be a gentle and responsible man but never teach women how to serve and listen to their husband like how they obey their manly father's authority.
They never loved their husbands in the first place. They married them because they were useful. Men are not humans, they are appliances in a woman's life. "Toaster, blender, husband, dishwasher, dryer..." Inanimate objects solely meant to make her life easier.
I think Chinese couple before marriage need to attend marriage course. It better if your government. For better future generations, respect tradisional, mind and thinking and communication be
Read proverbs. There are wise people but their are also fools……. Leaving what you have for someone better is stupidity. 1) how can any person shoulder your happiness, when your a miserable person? 2) If you leave your still stuck with you. 3) if the person is a saint, kind loving rich, intelligent funny etc.. why in the world would he want a leftover?
In America, only 27% of women regret getting a divorce. That means 73% are happy they did get one. 32% of American men regret divorce. I dont have a single friend who regrets divorce. If you have a good man, other women are looking to take him away from you, not caring that he is married. So keeping that good husband is a priority. It's ok to let the bad ones go but make sure you have given your best effort, too.
1:33 - In my honest opinion the only thing you can do is promise to introduce him to younger girls to help build his harem while not being jealous, as well as work super hard to bring in money for him to spend. If you think the above is unreasonable, then you still don't understand how bad of a thing you did in divorcing him. Additionally, why didn't you date a bit longer to see if you would get along in marriage instead. People should definitely live together for a few years before marriage.
Improving one’s self is good for everyone. It cares not for gender. It only cares for your sincerity. Women have high standards of men and it can make or break them. Men in turn have high demand for a woman’s warmth and comfort. In order to win it they do things that people would otherwise not do. Remember marriage is a partnership. If one takes too much without giving back, then it falls apart. The most important thing is truthful self reflection. It doesn’t need to be immediate, but the longer you postpone, the more the mountain of grief will grow.
Just like any other couple out there we had our unavoidable but not to get divorced. In my case, it was her single miserable mother and her single miserable friends that once they saw a small crack, they began to chisel away at it until they succeeded. I held the line for over 10 years for keeping my family together but couldn’t hold it anymore. Now, whenever she gets stood up or just pumped and dumbed, I’m the one to blame and go as far as being taken to court for no good reason. She’s miserable for her own doing and somehow puts herself as the victim when the entire time she’s been the villain.
Most women just don't understand the not so secret way to make your husband love you, or totally ignore it because they themselves don't have these needs. Tip: it's got nothing to do with cooking and cleaning.
divorce is akin to betrayal... the man loved you enough to marry you and die for you if needed. women wanting divorced as a way to manipulation... i.e. do as i say or I'll leave. Then they find another man who won't take that bs and are not going to die for you... then the regret sets in. The ex won't die for you now so don't be surprised if they won't you back cos they will give it someone they thinks deserve it... even a stranger.
They're incorrectly using the phrase "strong women". There's nothing wrong with being strong. The issue is choosing the wrong person. When people choose husbands out of cultural pressure and necessity rather than compatibility, you will have problems.
She doesn't give 2 shits about "the child", wtf is that. You can tell she's completely full of it, it all falls on the guy. Its all his fault she got bored and wanted a divorce. If her kids so important than why did she leave him behind?
The divorce rate in America is at least 50%, maybe even higher. So the remarrige in America is 80% because there are so many single people. I think in China, the divorce rate is much lower. Second, divorces are high, too. Also, the courts generally will give the children to the women because our system believes children need their mother who is better at nuturing her children. Many divorced men here actually have an easier life without the wife and kids. Women have a harder life if the the ex husband doesnt help with the children. But i think there are some good loving dads out there who should have custody of their kids. If you treat yourself well, you will probably treat your husband or wife well too. When you love yourself you can love others. If he's not a good person, let him or her go!
Those girls are smart and I like the one who talks on the 14th minute. How ever , Her diet is not balanced and she is under a lot of stress. I hope she sees a Doctor.
They are so ridiculously childish. They destroy their families chasing some fantasy happiness like a child chasing a squirrel. Then when reality kicks them in the pants they want to call take-backies and have their family back. Sorry ladies that is not how being an adult works.
@@noniboo1521 seriously? Oh, I think you mean that 80% of divorced people will remarry. I'm asking about divorced couples remarrying back to each other. Its a 'thing' in some Asia (and elsewhere?) but I don't know the %. (so why I asked)
Sincerely ! There is no reason for marriage guys ! Just live together, when your love is depleted then just go away ! Marriage is only old & obsolete traditional and need to be changed !
She only regrets it because she didn’t find better
In their minds, something is better than nothing, no matter how bad it is.
They usually don't. I have 5 divorced women in my family. 1 had good reason, but 4 left their husband because "unhappy" (for another man). Now the kids quietly hate their own mothers.
The monkey branching didn't work out too well for them
There is no better! There is only the one and it’s always a compromise!
When you are rich or poor you have to pay for beauty and no brains or for less beauty and more brains.
That the issue darling, 90% of time u cant find better😂
Strong women are actually the weakest
"Weakness" such as being nurturing towards a husband is strength, as it strengthens the relationship. These "strong" women are just selfish narcissists.
A strong woman and a weak woman can't chop a tree down any faster than the other
The only difference is that the strong woman walks around believing she can
@@rexcatston8412 Legends in their own mind.
physically and mentally
Strong women are losers in the end.
This is exactly why my relationship of over 10 years just ended. She created so much drama that she became insufferable. She is gorgeous and I loved her kind heart. Unfortunately, the endless and baseless accusations and unnecessary stress became too much. Beauty only lasts so long. Find someone who enjoys peace and is drama free.
"What can I do to get my ex husband to forgive me"
Nothing, when he moves on and finds someone new, he will forgive, but forgiveness doesn't come with remarriage to you. That is gone, he doesn't trust you enough to marry you again, and he will never because you have shown him what you think of marriages and your vows"
im sure she tried every trick in the toolbox, including "we need to get back together for our son". bla, bla, bla.
in addition to trust issues, he probably figured out how much of a pain in the arse she was to live with, deal with. No man in his right mind would willingly return to that misery.
@@Gizziiusa ..too me..i feel the ex is slept with someone else...therefore is not my wife anymore...no matter how good you are...
Well said
Also: she tried to get another dude, her 2nd marriage was a disaster and she took beatings, and only _then_ does she need her backup plan back.
Once bitten, twice shy. In Chinese, it's 见过鬼就怕黑 which means after encountering a ghost, one is naturally afraid of the dark. 😂😂😂😂
My stepsister divorce her lazy can't seem to keep a job husband who she berates all day but he takes her insult and just keep trying. She found a new man. The new man? Another lazy can't keep a job man, only this time he's also a violent abusive man, and he beats her up regularly. Her EX? Well he found a much pretty, younger woman who encourages him and he now has a stable job and is doing great.
Gee, it's almost as if she was the problem all along.
Your stepsister had shit taste in men. Why did she choose unemployed men in the first place?
Some women are bad for men.
Many times, women do not cherish their husbands when they have them and treat them poorly. It is only after divorce, when they encounter worse men, that they realize how good their husbands were, but by then, they have already lost the person who loved them the most.
Problem is that in the West the family courts will massively take money from the man and give it to the woman.
If an older divorced woman thinks they can find a better guy needs to get a brain scan to see if they have a brain tumor. There are so many younger, single, and desperate women who can't find a husband... and you think an older divorced woman can find someone better?!?!
A woman who is too tough is just asking for trouble. Generally, if you are too tough on a man, he won't treat you well. So, as a woman, it's better to be gentle in a relationship.
It took her 5 years to realize divorce hurts a young child the most?
That Chinese university educated mind in action.🤣
Not one of these women expresses regret for how they treated the man, only for not getting a better deal.
None of them would be on the internet crying, if they'd got a better deal
All their tears are for themselves
Every one of my male friends who have got divorced, it was the woman who initiated it all. The women all thought they could do better. They were all wrong.
yo the lady who is mentally divorcing her husband isn't in the wrong. She's pulling her weight in the relationship and was already giving a lot, even giving her mother in law as many gifts as she gave her OWN mother. All she wanted was a guy who would push her out into the sun if she became quadriplegic but he won't even walk with her. She actually wasnt a 'strong' woman but seemed actually meek and gentle. Some men aren't that great either tbh.
Some other ladies in the video are frustrating however. If you choose to be single, you better be happy about it. Don't divorce men who are actually decent
Replicant phish and manosphere will find this pure gold
It's indeed pure gold aka invaluable learning/teaching lesson for men.
If some of these Asian women could just cool it with their demeanor and stop their harsh treatment towards men, they would be a good catch. Listen I tried dating some of these ladies and tried being collaborative, understanding and a "team player" but their strange aggressive demeanor really screwed things up and sometimes you have to say "Enough is enough". I'm willing to take constructive criticism and even a few lite insults once in a while but going overboard with it will just push any man away. You don't get to treat me anyway you want or bring me down just because I stick around, especially if you can't speak any good English and you're frustrated because I can't understand you most of the time. Good luck in life.
China is a bully culture.
The 2nd women understands. And saved her family.
Well she said she gave them a chance. Sounds like she didn't change. She just realized she probably can't afford to live on her own. Facts.
She said "invisible house work". She's ridiculous.
their first husband in the best offer they could get with their remaining value as a woman, even if they're extremely lucky to met someone better, they no longer have the value to lock that man down since he definitely have better options. what makes them think that they could always find a better man after they've depreciated is the issue, they'll most probably get someone worse.
For the first woman... she regrets not having the same living & lifestyle. She never said anything about humbling herself to win her husband back. No love or warmth for the ex-husband... only "her desire" to get her previous situation back and give her son a "complete home". How could any man possibly take this woman back, if she is still unwilling to be humble and not showing love for her husband.
People need to remember that we are all flawed. Just because the other person is not bringing up your issues doesn't mean you're perfect. Always remember for every issue you bring up with your spouse you have just as annoying issue for your spouse.
When it comes to these things I have always found it better rather than bring something up in the heat of the moment to set aside time to talk about these things and to talk about them and encourage changes in a loving way.
Also a mistake I still see in this video is that love is built. It isn't something that magically appears out of thin air. Love rests upon the foundation of genuine care for one another in some cases the foundation is already there in other cases you have to build that foundation too. Being soft and kind helps build that foundation. Being tough, nagging, argumentative, and critical destroys that foundation.
DIVORCE means only one thing - in the EYES of the wife the man's value drops below expectations - a case of the grass being greener over the other side.
I don't know, man. Maybe for those men, divorce is like detoxification, once she's gone, everything started to run smoothly.
ex wives never wan their husbands back they want the life they provided back notice how its always "me me me me" never about the child.
"This video makes a lot of sense. As women, being too tough can indeed create tension in a relationship. Being gentle doesn't mean being weak; it shows respect and understanding for each other. Often, a gentle attitude can win the other person's heart and lead to a more harmonious relationship. Being tough won't necessarily make the other person care more; instead, it might make them feel exhausted and distant. A relationship requires effort and care, and a bit of gentleness can help both people go further together."
Women conflate kindness and weakness. If a husband is kind to her she views him as weak.
Being aggressive doesn't mean you're strong. It means you're suffering from some kind of PTSD. Being strong is to acknowledge and carry your consequences.
"LAYDEES! The BEARS are waiting for you, go to them!"
Tears streaming down my face.... and there was nothing 😂😂😂
All this only make sense when there's no 3rd party involved.
Forgiving is easy, it really is, it simply means to not care. But getting the man you have chosen to betray to take you back ? that's a different level of hard.
beaches be crazy these days... fuck no
This why a lot of Japanese, Korean, and Chinese guys look in Vietnam for wives, much softer and less stubborn attitudes.
7:33 I’m glad they decided to work it out and appreciate each other more.
Never do you hear, I still love my husband
Yeah, its all about what THEY lost
you cracked their code. marriages for men are stupid, it only benefit women. 9/10 marriage problem comes from women and yet they always show up as a victim. the quality of women nowadays are trash. the sick society teach men how to be a gentle and responsible man but never teach women how to serve and listen to their husband like how they obey their manly father's authority.
They are just bitter about not upgrading.
They never loved their husbands in the first place. They married them because they were useful. Men are not humans, they are appliances in a woman's life. "Toaster, blender, husband, dishwasher, dryer..." Inanimate objects solely meant to make her life easier.
sometimes we have the best without knowing we've got the best
I think Chinese couple before marriage need to attend marriage course. It better if your government. For better future generations, respect tradisional, mind and thinking and communication be
Read proverbs. There are wise people but their are also fools……. Leaving what you have for someone better is stupidity. 1) how can any person shoulder your happiness, when your a miserable person? 2) If you leave your still stuck with you. 3) if the person is a saint, kind loving rich, intelligent funny etc.. why in the world would he want a leftover?
LIke they say independence is fine, extreme independence hurts yourself and other people
In America, only 27% of women regret getting a divorce. That means 73% are happy they did get one.
32% of American men regret divorce. I dont have a single friend who regrets divorce. If you have a good man, other women are looking to take him away from you, not caring that he is married. So keeping that good husband is a priority. It's ok to let the bad ones go but make sure you have given your best effort, too.
The exact same thing happens in the USA.
1:33 - In my honest opinion the only thing you can do is promise to introduce him to younger girls to help build his harem while not being jealous, as well as work super hard to bring in money for him to spend. If you think the above is unreasonable, then you still don't understand how bad of a thing you did in divorcing him.
Additionally, why didn't you date a bit longer to see if you would get along in marriage instead. People should definitely live together for a few years before marriage.
Improving one’s self is good for everyone. It cares not for gender. It only cares for your sincerity.
Women have high standards of men and it can make or break them. Men in turn have high demand for a woman’s warmth and comfort. In order to win it they do things that people would otherwise not do. Remember marriage is a partnership. If one takes too much without giving back, then it falls apart.
The most important thing is truthful self reflection. It doesn’t need to be immediate, but the longer you postpone, the more the mountain of grief will grow.
MGTOW
Its done move on. Your ex husband sees who you really are and has his freedom now.
take a shot every time they say "i" and "me"
no. i don’t want to die.
mannn, i dont even know how chinese women look, but i can tell that in these videos most of them are using filters
No one is perfect! Have to help each other grow and improve together as a couple and still won't be perfect but will improve with time!
Divorce is a word, whereas marriage is a life sentence.
At least these women learned these lessons!
Just like any other couple out there we had our unavoidable but not to get divorced.
In my case, it was her single miserable mother and her single miserable friends that once they saw a small crack, they began to chisel away at it until they succeeded.
I held the line for over 10 years for keeping my family together but couldn’t hold it anymore.
Now, whenever she gets stood up or just pumped and dumbed, I’m the one to blame and go as far as being taken to court for no good reason.
She’s miserable for her own doing and somehow puts herself as the victim when the entire time she’s been the villain.
YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU'VE GOT UNTIL YOU SAY GOODBYE
As long your husband isn't cheating, abuse or beats you, addicted alcohol, Gambling and smoke/drugs.
First divorce is 60%… seconds divorce is 90%… 3) divorce is 130%…..
6:10 tall and handsome,rich, gentle,polite man ever exists even he exists why should he marry someone one like me
Those words touched my heart
15:00 beautiful and very smart woman.
Most women just don't understand the not so secret way to make your husband love you, or totally ignore it because they themselves don't have these needs. Tip: it's got nothing to do with cooking and cleaning.
divorce is akin to betrayal... the man loved you enough to marry you and die for you if needed. women wanting divorced as a way to manipulation... i.e. do as i say or I'll leave. Then they find another man who won't take that bs and are not going to die for you... then the regret sets in. The ex won't die for you now so don't be surprised if they won't you back cos they will give it someone they thinks deserve it... even a stranger.
This basically proved that most of the men were okay despite their flaws. It was the women who were not satisfied with their catch. 😢😢😢😢
Always take some time off, staying with your parents if you're a wife and angry with your husband. Divorce is not always the answer.
No one ever talks about perimenopause this is the likely core of the problems.
95.precent regret, 100 percent never loved..
All men are being used
"Give it 6 months to a year." That one is already out the door, with or without infidelity beforehand.
They're incorrectly using the phrase "strong women". There's nothing wrong with being strong. The issue is choosing the wrong person. When people choose husbands out of cultural pressure and necessity rather than compatibility, you will have problems.
hao he understands
orthodontics rubber bands
jim lamothes deer stands
That last one is so full of it.
She doesn't give 2 shits about "the child", wtf is that. You can tell she's completely full of it, it all falls on the guy. Its all his fault she got bored and wanted a divorce. If her kids so important than why did she leave him behind?
The divorce rate in America is at least 50%, maybe even higher. So the remarrige in America is 80% because there are so many single people. I think in China, the divorce rate is much lower. Second, divorces are high, too.
Also, the courts generally will give the children to the women because our system believes children need their mother who is better at nuturing her children. Many divorced men here actually have an easier life without the wife and kids. Women have a harder life if the the ex husband doesnt help with the children. But i think there are some good loving dads out there who should have custody of their kids.
If you treat yourself well, you will probably treat your husband or wife well too. When you love yourself you can love others. If he's not a good person, let him or her go!
You think wrong - the divorce rate in China is just as high
No one should be punch on
Those girls are smart and I like the one who talks on the 14th minute. How ever , Her diet is not balanced and she is under a lot of stress. I hope she sees a Doctor.
It's the filters on Chinese social media.🤣
Lol,I need to hear your sympathy.
They are so ridiculously childish. They destroy their families chasing some fantasy happiness like a child chasing a squirrel. Then when reality kicks them in the pants they want to call take-backies and have their family back. Sorry ladies that is not how being an adult works.
What % of divorces do remarry?
1% 😂
@@cooldown7825 Its 10% in China clown, 80% in the US. Of course, second marriages have a much higher failure rate than first ones.
In America, the remarriage is 80%.
Only extremely foolish men remarry their wives.
@@noniboo1521 seriously? Oh, I think you mean that 80% of divorced people will remarry. I'm asking about divorced couples remarrying back to each other. Its a 'thing' in some Asia (and elsewhere?) but I don't know the %. (so why I asked)
win an aurgument lose a marriage, worth it?
Women don't understand the term "Pyrrhic victory".
give satan the right to chose and this is what. u get
I want to know with a like or comment. Do Chinese women actually watch these videos?
The internet is making Reality TV and it's funny listening to this bullshit😂
100%??
Just move on and live your life.
Sincerely ! There is no reason for marriage guys ! Just live together, when your love is depleted then just go away ! Marriage is only old & obsolete traditional and need to be changed !
Kinda falls apart when children are involved though.
Wow there sure lotsa chinese idioms that really helps later on in life
Yeah thats not what we men what🙄🙄🙄🙄
taken by the hand
hao chens moms mans own taxed land
teas taxed tax demand
😂
hahahhahaha L