Therapist Reacts: Unpacking Interracial Relationship Dynamics

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  • Опубліковано 24 гру 2024

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  • @mayarasaldanha8118
    @mayarasaldanha8118 11 місяців тому +60

    Omg, thank you for that video!
    I’m a black woman now living in a predominantly white country, and it has been SOOOO stressful to date in here. (Not that dating anywhere else isn’t stressful as well).
    I can’t stand the ignorance, and being part of a minority, things that affects me certainly does not affect majority of people here, and if does not affect them, they don’t care. And the lack of knowledge and willingness to learn just blows my mind.

    • @DrUmarJohnson1
      @DrUmarJohnson1 11 місяців тому +2

      Interracial dating is a uphill battle. Never will you find comfort because you're aways in defensive-mode for those who see you as a "Misfit". It also psychologically confuses the offspring. Most importantly, it indicates you don't think highly of your father/mother

    • @grethi8110
      @grethi8110 11 місяців тому

      this is because you are from the USA so your mind works differently. I am biracial born and raised in a white country and I do not share your experience at all

    • @DrUmarJohnson1
      @DrUmarJohnson1 11 місяців тому

      @@grethi8110 Though you were born in a European country as a Biracial person, we all want to know if you're psychologically Black?

    • @Mikey-jv5fv
      @Mikey-jv5fv 10 місяців тому +3

      @@DrUmarJohnson1lotta weird assumptions in this comment man

    • @DrUmarJohnson1
      @DrUmarJohnson1 10 місяців тому

      @@Mikey-jv5fv So you're saying: "Interracial dating will be done with ease. Others won't see you as a "Misfit" and biracial children are always psychologically intact??"

  • @Jesus_Girl1124
    @Jesus_Girl1124 4 місяці тому +4

    Being of mixed race, I have had a HORRIBLE time in life as I not only feel like I don't belong in either cultures, I've been fetishized and/or rejected fully by all of them.
    I'm Black, Hispanic and White but I have darker features. Raised in a predominantly white community.
    My kids range from snow white to cocoa brown. Same Dad who was Hispanic and White mixed. Crazy 🙄😤😓

    • @raeg1100
      @raeg1100 День тому

      Another mixed race person here, I have really struggled internally in trying to figure it all out. It's really frustrating how people make judgements on how a person looks, and what they might or might not have because of it.

  • @KyeyuneBatuma
    @KyeyuneBatuma 11 місяців тому +14

    Excellent analysis

  • @JustAGrl007
    @JustAGrl007 10 місяців тому +17

    This is a therapist that gets it!

  • @living_in_criss3249
    @living_in_criss3249 Місяць тому

    I’m having the hardest time in my relationship after this election. I honestly don’t know what to do

  • @40acresandatractor
    @40acresandatractor 11 місяців тому +16

    I'm a Black Americans so, NO I haven't been racist🫡 I don't oppress, violate or exploit anyone based on their skin color and PHENOTYPES. Stop confusing anti Blackness racism with prejudice and discrimination and stereo typing.

    • @DrUmarJohnson1
      @DrUmarJohnson1 9 місяців тому +1

      As a Black person, you CANNOT be "Racist". To be racist one has to have power and dictate outcomes of a person's life. Without institutions, corporations, and ownership, Blacks can't be racist young man

    • @garyhost1830
      @garyhost1830 7 місяців тому +3

      Anti blackness racism ? I'm not sure I understand (not from usa) I thought racism is an across the board term referring to any discrimination between any races

    • @siearrawebb7048
      @siearrawebb7048 7 місяців тому

      ​@@garyhost1830Some black people in America think they are not able to be racist because they believe it is a systematic oppression.

  • @personneici2595
    @personneici2595 2 місяці тому

    Really appreciate your videos❤

  • @nailahdawkins
    @nailahdawkins 11 місяців тому +5

    @17:56: What specific power? Do you mean _social_ or _socio-economic_ power? Yes, everyone should be able to identify the power they possess.
    Also, just because, for example, a Black person and a White person have a baby *doesn't* mean that baby's phenotype will be Black automatically. Their phenotype can vary, their cultural expression will vary.
    Some identify strictly as Black, mixed, biracial, White, or White-passing.
    I myself identify as Afro-Caribbean American. Dad - African American/Black, and my Mommy Jamaican-American 🇯🇲. Genetically I'm *both* White and Black, so are they 😅❤.
    On stat forms _now_ that I know my ancestry, and have traced over 2,300 ancestors in my family tree, I confidently check either Other and type/write 'Afro-Caribbean American' and/or check two races: Black and White 😃.
    "Race" after all is a social construct.

  • @solidbanjobanjo9367
    @solidbanjobanjo9367 8 місяців тому +2

    A lot of these reactions depends on where you’re from, for example an Americans understanding of the word racist is wildly different to that of any normal person, in America even talking to someone in a particular tone can be considered racist

    • @garyhost1830
      @garyhost1830 7 місяців тому +2

      I thought a very simular thing. I'm not from the usa and found most of the questions hilarious. Happily married in a mixed races relationship and honestly most of these questions would have been disagree

    • @inenfmk
      @inenfmk 7 місяців тому

      @@garyhost1830some people do this hatemongering for living. Finding problems where there aren’t any - is their job.

  • @lisah8438
    @lisah8438 11 місяців тому +4

    Why is it important to ask yourself why you have a racial preference? Does everyone have a racial preference? Should we assume that racial minorites who are in a interacial relationship with white people are in it because of self-hatred?

    • @tHePuReMiRaClEs
      @tHePuReMiRaClEs 11 місяців тому +8

      I think it’s important because we live in a prejudiced society that treats many people who are racial minorities as stereotypes. Because these stereotypes are a daily aspect of life, it informs how we view the world, including the people we have a preference towards. This can lead to people entering into relationships where they objectify/ fetishize their partner because of their race or avoid dating certain races of people because of implicit bias. The world we live in isn’t perfect so it’s important we self reflect on why we operate the way we do, since we could be harming those around us.

    • @Mikey-jv5fv
      @Mikey-jv5fv 10 місяців тому +3

      No one said anything about racial hatred. The point is that no one forms preferences de novo in a vacuum and it’s just good to be able to engage in some basic introspection and question desires that you might otherwise right off as inherent to you. It’s not bad to have a racial preference, it’s silly to be afraid to ask yourself why. Are you scared of what that might to you about yourself? Personally I’m not.

    • @loading...2535
      @loading...2535 6 місяців тому +1

      u think u just fel out of a coconut tree?

  • @krysisstorm2703
    @krysisstorm2703 11 місяців тому +4

    I am a good ol all American mutt! I'm a light skinned black man phenotypically, but I know that I have Irish, English, German, Indigenous American, and Chinese in my ancestry. In my opinion, mixed race people tend to be physically attractive at a higher rate! I don't know if I'm expressing it correctly. But I mean, if most ethnicities have 6/10 that are attractive, maybe 8.5/10 of mixed ethnicity people are physically attractive. That has just been sort of my experience. I am also a military brat and veteran. I've been to over 35 states and a half dozen foreign countries and the mixed people have always seemed to me, to be attractive.

    • @krysisstorm2703
      @krysisstorm2703 10 місяців тому

      I also want to add that the MOST attractive people I've ever seen were as close to pure blooded within their ethnicities as one could get. 100% Scandinavian, 100% Kenyan, 100%Chinese and 100% Indigenous American.

    • @DrUmarJohnson1
      @DrUmarJohnson1 9 місяців тому +1

      @@krysisstorm2703 Your self-hate prompted that response. You have Eurocentric ideologies with VERY low racial pride

  • @thebostonguitarist7886
    @thebostonguitarist7886 11 місяців тому +4

    Human beings by nature are inherently tribal. The reality is that humans developed biases from generations of evolution to assess risk management and harm reduction. As a Caucasian male, my interests are best served to procreate with the intention of a stable environment for my future offspring. By incorporating uncontrollable variables like "identity misalignment" into the family dynamic, the risk could potentially uproot any long-term family cohesion. I feel that multiculturalism tends to invoke mistrust in people who are in these types of societies. I feel that Interracial couples should have legal protections but not to the point where their behavior is championed for emulation.

    • @Mikey-jv5fv
      @Mikey-jv5fv 10 місяців тому

      Multiculturalism only invokes distrust because of racism being tolerated in the dominant culture but that’s just my opinion

  • @Youremythrill18
    @Youremythrill18 10 місяців тому

    Lmao

  • @GunnerMitchell-y3g
    @GunnerMitchell-y3g Місяць тому

    Think about this in a scientific perspective what would happen if you breed a lion with a tiger you get a new species if you use the same logic with a human same thing but the sad reality is the child would have inner conflicts with their self and having a hard time fitting in to society as a new breed of human