As someone who was a ward of the state as well it blows my mind how all of us are so different in our stories. My real mother and I never had a good relationship, I always just wanted to be away, she didn’t want me and I didn’t want her. She was a heroin addict who was sadly too far into it to be a parent, and she made it clear she didn’t want to be. My foster parents (Mum and Dad) I’m so thankful for, at 26 I still live at home with them and mum is my best friend. They were only supposed to be respite care but we wanted to stay so they fought to keep us. 14 years of being a part of their family and they treat us no different to their own
It’s great that there is successes in the system still! You’ll see in coming episodes we celebrate it and want to take what we can on how to make great outcomes.
Hi I’m a former ward of the state, raised in care all of my life and now I am a foster carer. This is amazing that you are sharing all of this information with us so that we have a better understanding of what this looks like from the inside. I’m so sorry you have had these negative experiences. Thank you for sharing your story I will be watching, so glad this is available.
Hi Kelly, Sounds like you yourself have an amazing story! Don’t be afraid to reach out at any point. Thank you for the kind words, appreciate the support and I’m glad it seems to be helping people in different ways 🙌🏼
What im finding is child protection manipulate how foster carers and kincarers are living,we definately need all carers to lobby against the department from interference,when theres kincare child protection need to butt out and leave the family to raise the child...grandparents are forced to alienate their own child for their grandchildren so to me thats hypocritial of any system in fact I find it totally abhorrent the whole supervision of visits and the totally demeaning,destructive and often toxic manner in which child protection proticol and procedures,the fostercare system and child protection system is in itself abusive and in my opinion a breach of the human rights convention of both the child and the parents...
Hi my name's Ryan and I have also been through the system and I don't completely agree with what your publishing. As in to relation of your childhood with your mother seems a bit strange, I don't really see how posting your private confidential life on a platform that million of people can see will benifits you at all or help you recover from what has happened, also if these things did happen you wouldn't be really talking about it openly to millions of strangers I suggest you go seek help and grow from this (if it ever happened)
Hey Ryan, Cheers for the message. Understand where you’re coming from but it’s quite the opposite and we have already had people reach out that this has helped. As for the things not happening, sadly it did and there are documents to back it.
Interesting perspective Ryan, I'm sure most viewing Pauls video would disagree with you. I have just began the process of becoming a foster carer and would like to be as trauma informed as I possibly can be and this video has been so valuable to my learning and growing. Thank you so much Paul for the courage to share your story!
As someone who was a ward of the state as well it blows my mind how all of us are so different in our stories. My real mother and I never had a good relationship, I always just wanted to be away, she didn’t want me and I didn’t want her. She was a heroin addict who was sadly too far into it to be a parent, and she made it clear she didn’t want to be. My foster parents (Mum and Dad) I’m so thankful for, at 26 I still live at home with them and mum is my best friend. They were only supposed to be respite care but we wanted to stay so they fought to keep us. 14 years of being a part of their family and they treat us no different to their own
It’s great that there is successes in the system still! You’ll see in coming episodes we celebrate it and want to take what we can on how to make great outcomes.
Hi
I’m a former ward of the state, raised in care all of my life and now I am a foster carer.
This is amazing that you are sharing all of this information with us so that we have a better understanding of what this looks like from the inside. I’m so sorry you have had these negative experiences.
Thank you for sharing your story I will be watching, so glad this is available.
Hi Kelly,
Sounds like you yourself have an amazing story! Don’t be afraid to reach out at any point.
Thank you for the kind words, appreciate the support and I’m glad it seems to be helping people in different ways 🙌🏼
What im finding is child protection manipulate how foster carers and kincarers are living,we definately need all carers to lobby against the department from interference,when theres kincare child protection need to butt out and leave the family to raise the child...grandparents are forced to alienate their own child for their grandchildren so to me thats hypocritial of any system in fact I find it totally abhorrent the whole supervision of visits and the totally demeaning,destructive and often toxic manner in which child protection proticol and procedures,the fostercare system and child protection system is in itself abusive and in my opinion a breach of the human rights convention of both the child and the parents...
Hi my name's Ryan and I have also been through the system and I don't completely agree with what your publishing. As in to relation of your childhood with your mother seems a bit strange, I don't really see how posting your private confidential life on a platform that million of people can see will benifits you at all or help you recover from what has happened, also if these things did happen you wouldn't be really talking about it openly to millions of strangers I suggest you go seek help and grow from this (if it ever happened)
Hey Ryan,
Cheers for the message. Understand where you’re coming from but it’s quite the opposite and we have already had people reach out that this has helped.
As for the things not happening, sadly it did and there are documents to back it.
Hey, Ryan.
Give yourself an uppercut ya clown.
Interesting perspective Ryan, I'm sure most viewing Pauls video would disagree with you. I have just began the process of becoming a foster carer and would like to be as trauma informed as I possibly can be and this video has been so valuable to my learning and growing. Thank you so much Paul for the courage to share your story!
Appreciate your comment and I hope you find value in the series!