Solo Q&A: getting ready for baby girl, family finances and 2nd trimester updates | The Real Stuff
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- Опубліковано 4 лип 2024
- Now that I’m in my second trimester, it's time for another audience Q&A episode! I'm answering all of the questions that you sent through my IG stories box recently. Join me as I discuss the rollercoaster of our 20-week anatomy scan which unveiled that my baby's umbilical cord has one artery instead of two. Single umbilical artery (SUA) is, as I've learned, not as uncommon as they made it sound. While this discovery was scary at first, I offer comfort and insights for those facing similar prenatal concerns, highlighting how every pregnancy can bring its own set of unexpected turns. On a lighter topic, I share the creative process behind naming our baby, touching on why some beloved names didn't make the cut and the anticipation of a different postpartum experience in our suburban home. Balancing professional and family life with two children is a theme that resonates deeply in this episode. From deciding when to announce the pregnancy to contemplating a step back from work to prioritize family needs, I open up about the complexities and joys of transitioning from one child to two. Join me for a conversation that's as real as it gets, where we celebrate the joyous complexity of adding another heart to the family's beat!
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00:00:00 - 00:08:12 intro + 20-week anatomy scan
00:08:12 - 00:10:49 choosing a name
00:10:49 - 00:14:30 things I hope to do differently with baby #2
00:14:30 - 00:17:35 differences between my two pregnancies
00:17:35 - 00:19:34 does Milo know what's going on?
00:19:34 - 00:21:31 Songfinch
00:21:31 - 00:24:30 having enough time with Milo
00:24:30 - 00:25:55 hiring a baby nurse
00:25:55 - 00:30:09 breastfeeding tips & feeding plan for baby #2
00:30:09 - 00:31:22 when I started feeling baby moving
00:31:22 - 00:32:31 my energy level compared to first pregnancy
00:32:31 - 00:34:52 how I feel about giving birth
00:34:52 - 00:35:50 diet changes for high blood sugar
00:35:50 - 00:36:36 introducing Milo to his baby sister
00:36:36 - 00:38:58 cost of raising a child in the city
00:38:58 - 00:41:33 sibling age gaps
00:41:33 - 00:42:56 did this pregnancy affect how many children we want?
00:42:56 - 00:44:05 sciatica pain
00:44:05 - 00:45:32 announcing my pregnancy
00:45:32 - 00:49:53 fears about going from 1 to 2 kids
00:49:53 - 00:50:55 outro
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I don’t think you can discredit how much Milo gets! My son was 2.5 when his baby brother died and he totally understood the process of pregnancy birth and then death. Now I’m pregnant with our 3rd, and he’s 3.4 almost 4 and totally understands that baby inside mama is his sister etc. they get it! We didn’t have a baby shower the second time around but we DID have a “big brother party” to initiate our son from only child to his new role, and it was so nice. I highly recommend
aww i love that idea. i'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your child :( sending you all so much love and good vibes in your pregnancy!
Sending you love 🤍
I definitely understand what you mean about providing enough for your baby instead of building an over supply. An oversupply can be a blessing, but it’s SO exhausting! I had never felt so weak and tired in my entire life.
I'll add to the subset comments. My DIL had SUA with her second child, and he is now a happy, healthy 14-year-old who pitches on his school baseball team, makes straight A's, and plays the piano like a champ. No problems post-partum at all!
Absolutely, getting help from your parents is so helpful and a big bonus is they're able to, close by and willing!
Hi Lucie! I personally don't think you need to worry too much about finding a nanny that can take care of both of your children at the same time :) I have experience teaching a class of 10 three year olds and nannying for a 3 month old and a 2 year old and I found nannying much much easier! Sure, the kids were on different schedules, but it really wasn't too hard to manage. I just made sure baby's napping schedule made sense around the toddler's schedule and was able to make it work just fine. Maybe it's because I've never had the ease of caring for just one child, but I really didn't find two to be too difficult at all!
This is really informative. You definitely don't want to wake up in the middle of the night if you don't have to!
I don't know why, but since you announced your second pregnancy, I kept thinking the baby would be named Madison. LOL. Milo and Maddie! Has a nice ring to it. 🤣
I think it's great for siblings to grow up close in age. My sisters and I were all under 5 years, and me and my middle sister are only 17 months apart. But now my oldest sister is having her second child 9.5 years after the first! Sometimes it just happens that way, and siblings are better than no siblings, plus obviously the most important thing is their health.
As a former nanny, there were a few families I nannied for that had multiple kids and a baby (under 1). I’ve been in situations where the baby just gets brought along, and naps in the stroller, and I was also in a situation where the baby would stay with the parents who were at home while they napped. It might also be a possibility for you to have a second nanny who only comes for a short time whenever there needs to be that separation or for unique scheduling days. I’m sure you will find a plan that works for you! 😊
Clementine is an adorable name!
Charlie is a cute nickname for Charlotte... but it's very popular at the moment! I think it's nice to pick something that's not too common but not too weird
Hi Lucie! Wondering your thoughts on cloth diapers!
I’m currently 5.5 months postpartum with my first & I’m struggling envisioning having another. I thought I wanted 3, now I feel like I would be stretching for 2. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience.
I wonder if it's true that over time, people forget how hard it was (particularly childbirth) which is an evolutionary way of wanting to have more kids
It's so funny to hear your thoughts on the name Clementine. Its quite a common name in France and the UK. Clemmie or Clem are popular nicknames for Clementine as well.
I LOVE IT lol
I'm surprised the paternity leave there is so good actually! It's usually lower here in Australia - my best friend is pregnant and she only gets 6 weeks maternity leave through work! Mine is 16... Plus government leave is 22 weeks
My 3rd one I had such anxiety about birth I said hell no to natural birth and had an epidural
Clementine / Clem is cute. Some UA-camrs named their RV that name though haha
Hello Lucy! Long time follower here, I adore you! Clementina (the Italian version of Clementine) is a beautiful name and it's particularly used in Florence, where part of my family is from. Such a beautiful name!
So beautiful!!!!
What about Milo and Olive? 🥰
I had my second 7 months ago. Unpopular opinion but I actually think having 2 is easier than having 1. It’s like my first just needed my second this whole time. The role of older brother mellowed him out a bit. When little brother got here my oldest just scooped him up and they became this little unit. The newborn days are a crap shoot but it can get easier.
I love Clementine! My husband totally said no to it too 😂
Is the baby's name Daisy? I think that would be so cute ❤
Love that nameeee! We aren't sharing our choice yet but I do love DAISY :)
I am really surprised by the childcare cost in NY city because I live in NH and nanny/daycare costs are much more with huge waitlists.
It’s so funny that Michael thinks Clementine isn’t a normal human name but liked Milo. I’ve known several Clementines but only heard Milo as a name for pets before
lol same!!!!
Milo is a popular chocolate milk drink here in Australia
Have you considered giving birth with a midwife? Seems like it's not the norm in the US. In most countries in Europe at least it's a midwife unless something goes wrong, then a doctor steps in.
In norway midwives are medical professionals with five years of university schooling on top of practical work.
That's interesting, it's very common here in Australia
Same in the UK 🇬🇧 ❤