I can totally understand this story because I too, like any nyabs who doesn't have loving inlaws, felt the pain and burden of being the one who feels unworthy of being love. BUT I'm a human being and I too, deserved to love and to be loved.
Tus viv ncaus aw koj lub neej yeej txom nyem kawg thiab raug niam pog tsim kawg nkaus koj yeej tub siab kawg nkaus rau koj tus niam pog. Tab sis koj tseem muaj txoj kev cia siab rau koj tus txiv vim koj tus txiv tseem tos tau koj thiab tseem tuaj koj tog koj twb tsis tau txom nyem npau li kuv os. Kuv mas kuv tus txiv tseem yog tus mus txw niam pog txiv yawg tej nkauj tej muam tej kwv yau cem kuv thiab ntxub kuv tib si mas kuv tseem txom nyem tshaj koj 2.3 npaug os nawb.
I can definitely relate to this story. I gave my husband the ultimatum either stay with his mom or me. Told him I was replaceable but not his mom. In the end, he knew how vicious his mom was and he chose me instead.
When you are young and don’t have the mind capacity to think for yourself. This is what happens. If your MIL is this mean, you have to be able to stand up for yourself. This isn’t Laos or Thailand. You want to respect your in laws but they also have to respect you! Stand up for yourself!!
Moral of the story: don't rely on anyone but yourself. You let yourself go through all those misfortune. Your MIL, FIL, Nyab, brothers, and your husband let you down. Build yourself up sister. All the love to your birth mom who was there from the beginning and through all your struggle.
It’s sad that some mil is so evil. Lived through it and survived. It had shown me that it’s her that is unhappy of her life. It’s also ppl who had never been a daughter in law to a mil to know how a real mil should be. Ppl who hold grudges will never be happy! I choose to be happy by forgiving the uneducated ones, yet doesn’t mean I forget.
My ex in-laws were just like your in-laws & my ex-husband couldn't man up so i divorced him. Also, two of his brothers wives also divorced them too. Til this day they blame their parents for their dumb choices. 😒 My ex-MIL is no longer alive so their next wife should have it easy now. My bf's mom & his family truly adores me & this was the first time I felt love within a family. 🤗😇
So happy that you’re bold enough to leave. No one should have to stay with toxic people like that. It’s not good for you and especially when you have a child too. You made the right choice.
Tu siab tshaj li yog leejtwg tau tsevneeg zoo lino. Raug leejtwg es tus ntawd thiaj paub xwb. Uv tsis tuag thaum kawg lawv yog cov tsis muaj chaw tuag yog lawv tsis txawj ua niam ua txiv. Ntuj muaj qhovmuag pom peb ua neej, Cia ntuj mam txiavtxim xwb.
I swear ur parents in law are like my inlaws. My father-in-law is the evil one though. Always wanting to divorce me and makes the call...But look at him now. None of his favorites wants him. I'm the only one with doors wide open but they too embarrassed to want to come live with me.
When people hate you that much, get a job and leave, you weren't a minor. Survival before education. They hate you because your priorities were wrong, you go after their son and live with them for free. Your mil owed you nothing, you married her son when she told you she didn't want you for a dil. Don't compare yourself to other nyabs, we all choose our own paths.
No matter how much I love my husband, I would not stay with my in laws so they can torture me. I would move out or live with my parents until he return. There's no way I will let my child live in that kind of environment.
This story gives me horrible PTSD. And yes this is how stupid I was, too because where can you go? My own mom will not take me back. Poor girl. I feel you.
This is an evil woman. She doesn't even deserve to be call MIL. This are the kinda MIL the nyab hate to the core. Once the nyab move out she will never move back and never want the MIL to move with the nyab. I have 2 nyab too and I don't go behind their back. I want my nyab to like me. Sister be strong and stay away from this MIL. She is very toxic.
this mother in law did ONE thing right in life: she raised some smart ass sons!! good job, sons!! thats what a real man is! you know your mom is full of Sh** so you don't believe her. thats a real man.
This is why you wait until you can afford to move out. This way you will never be dependent on the in-laws! If you don’t ever rely on them for anything, they can’t control you! Yup, don’t take care of those type of people! My MIL was the same way. I stopped taking care of her a long time ago because I know she’s evil and used everything I do against me - so don’t waste your time on people who care zero for you! Yours husband is good and knows his mother. My hubby was the same way. Always on my side and loves me, knowing his life is with me, not his parents.
Girlllll. I've lived on my own when I married my husband. My inlaws still be controlling. Especially my father-in-law. He be acting as bad as this motherinlaw in the story 🤣
@@pn5350 my meska best friend told me that a controlling in-law control their kids whether they live with them or not. Mind you, she’s married to a mama’s boy 😂
So many of us have this very same story. My in-laws were the same way for over a decade. But I am the lucky ones. I have seen my in-laws transition from hating me to accepting me and we have a great relationship now. It is true, I couldn’t have stayed if my hubby did not defend and protected me all this time. We must learn to not be like this to our future daughter in laws. It is up to us, this new generation to stop this ugliness from happening. We must be the change!!!
Txhob tu siab mog, cas koj thiab kuv CES zoo li tau tib tug niam pog kiag xwb os, ua siab ntev2 zoo li kuv no es uv2 txog hnub niam pog ncaim lub ntiaj teb no thiaj mam tag, koj li koj niam pog ua xwb ,kuv li es kuv tus txiv tseem yog nws ua thiab os
Wowo nrog koj tu siab ua luaj peb li peb niam peb txiv lawv cia peb xaiv tus peb nyiam xwb os tsis hais nus lis muam yeej tib yam yeej muaj tej tus kuv niam lawv Tsis tshua pom zoo kuv tej muam yuav lis ku. Tij laug Los kwv yuav tab m'as lawv tsuas haus me me rau peb xwb lawv laj txwv li thaum ho yuav rau lawm lawv yeej hlub tib yam li tus lawv nyiam thiab mas thov kom koj tsuas muaj kev noj qab nyob zoo nrog rau koj tsev neeg xwb mog
I'm glad I have such a loving mother in law. Listening to this story upsets me so much. I would've left a long time ago. You're so brave and strong to stay this long with such toxic in-laws.
Being a Hmong woman, I would never ever marry a man whose mom told me she didn't like me. We ALREADY know what's in store for Us Hmong women. This girl needs to have some respect for herself. A REAL MAN, WOULD NOT HAVE MADE HER STAY WITH ABUSIVE ASS PARENTS. AND HONEY, HE COULDN'T TAKE CARE OF YOU.
Niam ntsuab teev aw cov niam pog ntxub 2 nyab ce yus tej me nyuam yug tau lo lawv twb tsi saib yus tej me nyuam tia yog ab tub lo ab ntxhai os peb cov poj niam ce tus twg yog ntsib tus niam pog phem 2 thiab nkawg2 xaiv ma laj ua neej txog hnub tuag os😪😪😪
if you already knew you'll going to have a monster in law.. y even get married so early? should have become an independent woman 1st and if ur husband loves you, he wouldn't married you to be tortured. He would have waited until you guys are ready to lived on your own.
Kuv nim tu2 siab tia ca kuv niam pog yuav tsim kuv ua luaj ca kuv tsi muaj hmoo li luag e tau niam pog tsim kuv tag ib sim li os koj zoo li kuv thiab os yom
This story gets me all heated up. Why can’t you speak up for yourself. Why do you keep all communication between you and your MIL away from your husband to begin with. It seems like you cannot defend yourself that is why they treated you that way. Sorry, but all of this could have been avoided if you just move to where your husband is. Plus if he wanted to continued with school than WTH is he doing marrying you. Goodnesses!
This story is quite hard to believe. Maybe its more exaggerate because no girl in this country or her mother or her brothers would tolerate this kind of abuse. I feel like this is only her side.
Luag tej laus yeej ib txwm hais tias yog tus txiv hlub thiab xaiv yus lawm niag pog txiv yawg tsis nyiam lis lub neej nyob tau. Hos yog niam pog txiv yawg nyiam nyiam hlub hlun yus los yog tus txiv tsis nyiam thiab tsis hlub yus ces ua neej tsis tau, yus nrog yus tus txiv thiab yus cov me nyuam ua neej xwb tej niag laus ntawd nrog yus nyob los nyob tsis nyob los tsis ua cas li os
Yog kawg nej tsis tau pom cov niam pog siab phem mas nej yeej tsis paub nawb kuv ces zoo li tus sister no kiag lawm os tu siab tshaj plaws nyob taus los yog u tus txiv tseem hlub u xwb thiaj nyob txog hnub no xwb
Sister you are not alone we all go through this .. As long you have your husband love you and trust you plus communication with you. I've been married for 30 years and I dont deal with my mother n law any more cause I know by living with her cause to much problems so I live on my own with my kids and husband. Always keep your head up high and never let any one put you down cause you are more then what other say about you always believe in yourself.. take care sister and best of luck to you..
I don't know what's worse, a bad mother-in-law or a husband who can't be a man and support his wife. I've been in that position for years with pressure from both sides that it was almost unbearable. I was more angry at the husband bc he was supposed to support me and defend me but he just blamed me for false accusations by my mil. I had suicidal thoughts from time to time but knew I shouldn't do that.
This is what happens when you marry a person who's mom told you multiple times she don't like you. Life is what you make of it. You don't have kids to ask others to watch them while you sleep and go to school. You have your own kids, you raise your own kids. If you didn't want to struggle so much, should of kept yourself busy and finish school before getting marry and having kids.
This 2 was my story. The only difference was that i was 14, I farmed and wasn’t allowed to further my education. 23 years later he chose his mom. I’m not sad nor mad anymore. It was a blessing. #23yrslater100miscarriages5kids&thelifeideserved
I wander why now day daughter in-law don't want mother in-law live with them. They don't have the freedom to live the way they want. This mother in-law still live in the life back 1975. She the one have problems that why her first daughter in- law moved out.
Hmong people don’t understand mental health is real. I know how you feel because I am too in similar situation. I got married when I was younger then you. I’m an American born, but it called RIGHTS(yuav cai). The reason some people don’t understand is why you didn’t just leave, first off your husband didn’t make you leave nor throw out your things. You know you did nothing wrong, if you were as bad as your in law says it. They would of send you back to your parents $1200, but they know they are wrong. As for myself, I endear my mil is because my husband is the eldest son. His father is very old and his mother still young. Moving out was not an option, because we help pay half of the bills. Everyone has their our reason. Honestly, what I endear all these years have cause me to have mental melt downs and stress. When enough is enough, as you age, and learn stand up for yourself. They’ll tell you, you’re the bad person😢. In the end you just be you, we are only human, and only able to do so much. I now teach my daughters, don’t get married until they are financially stable. My sons aren’t obligated to live with me. I want a good relationship with my future nyab.
You are very patient, I would have leave when they left your stuff outside. Love shouldn’t have to be so painful. I told my husband, I can only reflect the love I received. If they cannot respect/love you then there is nothing to reciprocate.
I had lived with my MIL for 3 months and I seem her bad side. I've cried to my husband and we left their house. If I have live there long I don't know what could be worst. When I heard these stories makes me think of those memories I had with my inlaw.
I have a story too... Be strong sister, do what you can and don’t give your all to those in-laws who don’t have respect for you as a nyab. Just do what you can. The way bad MIL treat us good nyab make us smarter and stronger My myself experience: When I first got married to my husband, I would cook for everyone and clean the whole house... so they would love me... (I dad passed away and my mom remarried, so it’s like I have no parents since a little girl, when I got married to my husband I was happy that he has parents. Thanking about having mom and dad again... in the house make my so happy.) No matter how much I love them and have treated them well. My MIL would talk behind my back and have said things that I haven’t done... even accused me of cheating and smoking wee. Those rumors used to make me sad... I used to cry almost every night. We moved out after my husband had seen that his parents treated me bad. Even we don’t live with my in-laws, but I would go help them every time they needed us. No matter what and how much I have cared and put in my time for them, they would still talk shit about me. Then one day I woke up.... and decided not to give my “all” anymore. For example, visit them less, do not go to every family gathering, once a very long time only, stop being talkative with them. Associate myself with the people who love me. I have learned that if they don’t like you, they would never like you no matter what. They have never complemented me on things that I have done great and congratulate me on my accomplishment. They didn’t even give me a condolence when my grandma passed away. This just tell me who they really are and enough is enough, no matter how much I want to love them. Some MIL expect so much from a nyab but they don’t look at their own certain daughters (10x lazy and can’t do anything, and they didn’t talk bad about their daughters, right?). My way of living now is: if my parents-in-laws would love me to treat them (again) like my own parents then they should have treated me like their own daughter too. I used to be sad, but now I am not sad anymore, I just feel sorry for them, for their loss, for not treating a nyab who want to love them so much from the beginning... now their live would’ve been better... eh I’m sorry but not sorry. To this sister: Live your life, do your things, spend your time with your “real love ones.” You deserve to be treated as a human being, as a daughter.
Such a touching story. Story of my life. I can relate on almost throughout. Bless you and your partner. Forever ness 💗😍
I can totally understand this story because I too, like any nyabs who doesn't have loving inlaws, felt the pain and burden of being the one who feels unworthy of being love. BUT I'm a human being and I too, deserved to love and to be loved.
Niam Pog npem heev
Tus viv ncaus aw koj lub neej yeej txom nyem kawg thiab raug niam pog tsim kawg nkaus koj yeej tub siab kawg nkaus rau koj tus niam pog.
Tab sis koj tseem muaj txoj kev cia siab rau koj tus txiv vim koj tus txiv tseem tos tau koj thiab tseem tuaj koj tog koj twb tsis tau txom nyem npau li kuv os.
Kuv mas kuv tus txiv tseem yog tus mus txw niam pog txiv yawg tej nkauj tej muam tej kwv yau cem kuv thiab ntxub kuv tib si mas kuv tseem txom nyem tshaj koj 2.3 npaug os nawb.
Tus me niam tsev koj mas yog ib tug ntxhais siab zoo heev koj thiaj yeej kiag ob niag neeg siab lim hiam uas tsis muaj siab ntsws hlub txog lwm tus nrog neb ob niam txiv zoo siab mog
ມວ່ນ ແທ້
Koj tus Pojniam hlub Koj, Tiamsis Koj Niam Koj Txiv Yog yus tsim Koj
I can definitely relate to this story. I gave my husband the ultimatum either stay with his mom or me. Told him I was replaceable but not his mom. In the end, he knew how vicious his mom was and he chose me instead.
When you are young and don’t have the mind capacity to think for yourself. This is what happens. If your MIL is this mean, you have to be able to stand up for yourself. This isn’t Laos or Thailand. You want to respect your in laws but they also have to respect you! Stand up for yourself!!
Cas hais tau ntxim hlub kawg. Pab hlub cov niam pog phem phem li no.
Moral of the story: don't rely on anyone but yourself.
You let yourself go through all those misfortune. Your MIL, FIL, Nyab, brothers, and your husband let you down. Build yourself up sister. All the love to your birth mom who was there from the beginning and through all your struggle.
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It’s sad that some mil is so evil. Lived through it and survived. It had shown me that it’s her that is unhappy of her life. It’s also ppl who had never been a daughter in law to a mil to know how a real mil should be. Ppl who hold grudges will never be happy! I choose to be happy by forgiving the uneducated ones, yet doesn’t mean I forget.
This makes me appreciate my MIL even more now. I’m sorry u had to go through that. Thanks for sharing ur story.
My ex in-laws were just like your in-laws & my ex-husband couldn't man up so i divorced him. Also, two of his brothers wives also divorced them too. Til this day they blame their parents for their dumb choices. 😒 My ex-MIL is no longer alive so their next wife should have it easy now. My bf's mom & his family truly adores me & this was the first time I felt love within a family. 🤗😇
So happy that you’re bold enough to leave. No one should have to stay with toxic people like that. It’s not good for you and especially when you have a child too. You made the right choice.
Tu siab tshaj li yog leejtwg tau tsevneeg zoo lino. Raug leejtwg es tus ntawd thiaj paub xwb. Uv tsis tuag thaum kawg lawv yog cov tsis muaj chaw tuag yog lawv tsis txawj ua niam ua txiv. Ntuj muaj qhovmuag pom peb ua neej, Cia ntuj mam txiavtxim xwb.
Niam pog phem mas mob hlwb tshaj plaws
Zoo siab uas koj twb tiv dhau lawm os...yus tsis yog tus uas luag nyiam ces tseev koj ua zoo npaum twg, luag yeej tsis hlub, tsis nyiam, txawm niam pog nkawd tsis nyiam koj los, tsuav koj tus txiv tseem hlub koj, nyiam koj, ntseeg koj ces yog qhov zoo thiab koj thiaj nyob taus os...nawj..
ມວ່ນ ມວ່ນ ມວ່ນ ມວ່ນ
Txhob tu siab os koj tu txiv xaiv koj.
Story to my life.....it was rough first few years but I'm glad I don't have to deal with that anymore. Move out is all I can say.
ເວົ້າ ມວ່ນໆ ດີີ້
Kj zaj dab neeg no ma hai tau yg tshaj li os tu me niam lau aw
Not all niam pog are like this story but the niam pog being controlling and hating is real...
I swear ur parents in law are like my inlaws. My father-in-law is the evil one though. Always wanting to divorce me and makes the call...But look at him now. None of his favorites wants him. I'm the only one with doors wide open but they too embarrassed to want to come live with me.
When people hate you that much, get a job and leave, you weren't a minor. Survival before education. They hate you because your priorities were wrong, you go after their son and live with them for free. Your mil owed you nothing, you married her son when she told you she didn't want you for a dil. Don't compare yourself to other nyabs, we all choose our own paths.
Exactly my thoughts too!
No matter how much I love my husband, I would not stay with my in laws so they can torture me. I would move out or live with my parents until he return. There's no way I will let my child live in that kind of environment.
Lol, please just buy life insurance for her.... that will be the greatest thing she will ever give for you.
Hoyo...Cov niag poj dab no koj lam yuav life insurance rau seb...koj yuav pom nw lub poj dab tuaj mas koj khiav tsi nco nqa khau khiab...os....hahaha
😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣yes!!!
MHM!!!!
Agree!
This story gives me horrible PTSD. And yes this is how stupid I was, too because where can you go? My own mom will not take me back. Poor girl. I feel you.
Way to go girl...your husband is right it's the both of your life..not their..
Koj siab ntev heev. Kuv Thov qhuas koj os.
This is an evil woman. She doesn't even deserve to be call MIL. This are the kinda MIL the nyab hate to the core. Once the nyab move out she will never move back and never want the MIL to move with the nyab. I have 2 nyab too and I don't go behind their back. I want my nyab to like me. Sister be strong and stay away from this MIL. She is very toxic.
this mother in law did ONE thing right in life: she raised some smart ass sons!! good job, sons!! thats what a real man is! you know your mom is full of Sh** so you don't believe her. thats a real man.
Peb Hmoob cov niam pog feem coob ces yeej zoo li no xwb tiag. Ntxim ntxub tshaj plaws
yog kawg yog tsaj plawg li o niam ntsuab teej aw
This is why you wait until you can afford to move out. This way you will never be dependent on the in-laws! If you don’t ever rely on them for anything, they can’t control you!
Yup, don’t take care of those type of people! My MIL was the same way. I stopped taking care of her a long time ago because I know she’s evil and used everything I do against me - so don’t waste your time on people who care zero for you!
Yours husband is good and knows his mother. My hubby was the same way. Always on my side and loves me, knowing his life is with me, not his parents.
Girlllll. I've lived on my own when I married my husband. My inlaws still be controlling. Especially my father-in-law. He be acting as bad as this motherinlaw in the story 🤣
Right! Why would you marry a man who is deciding to go to the army, AND stay with his mean mom depending on those who hate you already... kinda dumb.
@@pn5350 my meska best friend told me that a controlling in-law control their kids whether they live with them or not. Mind you, she’s married to a mama’s boy 😂
Thank goodness my mother in law is nice!
So many of us have this very same story. My in-laws were the same way for over a decade. But I am the lucky ones. I have seen my in-laws transition from hating me to accepting me and we have a great relationship now. It is true, I couldn’t have stayed if my hubby did not defend and protected me all this time. We must learn to not be like this to our future daughter in laws. It is up to us, this new generation to stop this ugliness from happening. We must be the change!!!
You are depended on someone else to support you. That is what you got. You deserve for what you got.
Zaj ko zoo li lub neej ntas os niam ntsuab teev aw
Txhob tu siab mog, cas koj thiab kuv CES zoo li tau tib tug niam pog kiag xwb os, ua siab ntev2 zoo li kuv no es uv2 txog hnub niam pog ncaim lub ntiaj teb no thiaj mam tag, koj li koj niam pog ua xwb ,kuv li es kuv tus txiv tseem yog nws ua thiab os
Wowo nrog koj tu siab ua luaj peb li peb niam peb txiv lawv cia peb xaiv tus peb nyiam xwb os tsis hais nus lis muam yeej tib yam yeej muaj tej tus kuv niam lawv Tsis tshua pom zoo kuv tej muam yuav lis ku. Tij laug Los kwv yuav tab m'as lawv tsuas haus me me rau peb xwb lawv laj txwv li thaum ho yuav rau lawm lawv yeej hlub tib yam li tus lawv nyiam thiab mas thov kom koj tsuas muaj kev noj qab nyob zoo nrog rau koj tsev neeg xwb mog
Guess I’m the lucky one 😁 my mil is so very nice to me 🥰
I'm glad I have such a loving mother in law. Listening to this story upsets me so much. I would've left a long time ago. You're so brave and strong to stay this long with such toxic in-laws.
Being a Hmong woman, I would never ever marry a man whose mom told me she didn't like me. We ALREADY know what's in store for Us Hmong women. This girl needs to have some respect for herself. A REAL MAN, WOULD NOT HAVE MADE HER STAY WITH ABUSIVE ASS PARENTS. AND HONEY, HE COULDN'T TAKE CARE OF YOU.
Teb chaws vam meej ,tseem muaj niam txiv phem npaum no thiab lov
Your mother in-law is what people called “monster in-law”.
Niam ntsuab teev aw cov niam pog ntxub 2 nyab ce yus tej me nyuam yug tau lo lawv twb tsi saib yus tej me nyuam tia yog ab tub lo ab ntxhai os peb cov poj niam ce tus twg yog ntsib tus niam pog phem 2 thiab nkawg2 xaiv ma laj ua neej txog hnub tuag os😪😪😪
Ua cas peb cov niam pog thiab txiv yawg siab phem ua luaj os hmoob
Niam pog dab ntxwj nyoo, phem npaum ntawm ces tuag ruag2 mus thiab cas yuav nyaav aav ua luaj li os..
if you already knew you'll going to have a monster in law.. y even get married so early? should have become an independent woman 1st and if ur husband loves you, he wouldn't married you to be tortured. He would have waited until you guys are ready to lived on your own.
She was hungry for him. Couldn’t wait
She knew what she's getting into but when she got there she couldn't understand why. 🙄
Me ntxhais koj txhob hu koj tus txiv cia koj niam pog thiab txiv yawg mam hu rau koj tus txiv xwb es nws thiaj tsis nyuab siab mog
Kuv nim tu2 siab tia ca kuv niam pog yuav tsim kuv ua luaj ca kuv tsi muaj hmoo li luag e tau niam pog tsim kuv tag ib sim li os koj zoo li kuv thiab os yom
Lawv aww leej twg g tau ntsib cov niam pog phem li no ces nej yeej g nkag siab li o
Tus viv ncaus aw, cas yuav nrog koj dhuav siab ua luaj li os. Koj tseem muaj hmoo es koj tus txiv tseem ntseeg koj thiab hlub koj.
So sad your a very strong Nyab... At least your husband loves you no ones matter glad you love and listen to your husband best of wish to you sister.❤
Kv lub neej ce zoo li koj zaj dab neeg no xwb o kv tu txiv g nreeg kv ce kv lub neej thiaj tawg vim g sib nreeg siab o
This story gets me all heated up. Why can’t you speak up for yourself. Why do you keep all communication between you and your MIL away from your husband to begin with. It seems like you cannot defend yourself that is why they treated you that way. Sorry, but all of this could have been avoided if you just move to where your husband is. Plus if he wanted to continued with school than WTH is he doing marrying you. Goodnesses!
IKR
This story is quite hard to believe. Maybe its more exaggerate because no girl in this country or her mother or her brothers would tolerate this kind of abuse. I feel like this is only her side.
Niag pog dab ko tuag txhob vaus nawb tus poj phim nyuj vais ko nas
Luag tej laus yeej ib txwm hais tias yog tus txiv hlub thiab xaiv yus lawm niag pog txiv yawg tsis nyiam lis lub neej nyob tau. Hos yog niam pog txiv yawg nyiam nyiam hlub hlun yus los yog tus txiv tsis nyiam thiab tsis hlub yus ces ua neej tsis tau, yus nrog yus tus txiv thiab yus cov me nyuam ua neej xwb tej niag laus ntawd nrog yus nyob los nyob tsis nyob los tsis ua cas li os
Lub neej nrog niam pog nyob zoo li ko ces cuag li yus nyob hauv qhov tsua tsaus ntujnti xwb os noj lo tsi paub noj ua lo tsi paub ua li ho
Oh kj tu txiv ma ua tau txiv kawg li zoo heev od li ko thiaj li od
Ua ca yuav muaj ib cov niam pog txiv yawg haib kawg nkaus li thiab laiv txau ntshais dhau lawm os kuv hnov xwb kuv ntshav twb siab lawm ob peb puas lawm a lawv aws
Niam Txiv tsuas muaj txhawb tub Nyab xwb Niam Txiv zoo li ntawd Foom los yeej tsi raug yus
Nyiam nug kj li neej neeg hv o niam laus
Yog kawg nej tsis tau pom cov niam pog siab phem mas nej yeej tsis paub nawb kuv ces zoo li tus sister no kiag lawm os tu siab tshaj plaws nyob taus los yog u tus txiv tseem hlub u xwb thiaj nyob txog hnub no xwb
Uv tau 4 xyoos Kav diam. ntshe Yog kuv, Kuv twb ua poj nrauj lawm. Koj siab ntev kawg li Tiamsis txomnyem dhau li lawm.
Sister you are not alone we all go through this .. As long you have your husband love you and trust you plus communication with you. I've been married for 30 years and I dont deal with my mother n law any more cause I know by living with her cause to much problems so I live on my own with my kids and husband. Always keep your head up high and never let any one put you down cause you are more then what other say about you always believe in yourself.. take care sister and best of luck to you..
Txhua leej txhua tus yeej yuav tau ua niam pog txiv yawg tab tsis thov ua ib tug niam pog zoo, ib tug niam pog yuav tsum coj ncaj. Tus viv ncaus aw koj tus niam pog tsis phem npaum li koj xav hais muab mloog los mas koj niam pog nkawv pab koj tus txiv khib koj xwb os txhob tu siab rau koj niam pog.
Cov niam pog zoo li ko mas txawj txawj dag siab phem phem mas tuag los zoo nyob los zoo tab sis yog tuag tshe u tsis pom qab nco li os mog
I totally agree with this lady. Some MIL are like that!!
Sound exactly like my mon..
I can relate to your life, sister! It reminds me of when I had my twin babies and my life just as hard, made me tears!
Hugs
Cov niam pog phem li no nws g nyiam tis uv uv taus. Cov niam pog li no phim tau nyab dab nws hais 1 los mas nyab hais 10 lo ces thiaj haum
Tsis K ua nyab zoo li os. Niam pog twb tsis zoo rau yus. You do you girl and live your life. Dont let Evil MIL ruin you.
Koj lub neej thooj thooj li kuv . Kuv uv yuav luag tau 13 lub xyoos txog thaum kawg kuj nrauj nyias mus nyias lawm
In every couple there a similar story I once live this life but sadly my husband couldn't man up himself.
I don't know what's worse, a bad mother-in-law or a husband who can't be a man and support his wife. I've been in that position for years with pressure from both sides that it was almost unbearable. I was more angry at the husband bc he was supposed to support me and defend me but he just blamed me for false accusations by my mil. I had suicidal thoughts from time to time but knew I shouldn't do that.
Same... So sad...
Wow mother feeling such a evil 😈 and devil
True!
Sounds like my mother in law too.
Cas niam pog txiv yawg yuav phem ua luaj. Peb txoj kev ua nyab ces txawv g deb li o
Good that your husband stay by your side.
This is what happens when you marry a person who's mom told you multiple times she don't like you. Life is what you make of it. You don't have kids to ask others to watch them while you sleep and go to school. You have your own kids, you raise your own kids. If you didn't want to struggle so much, should of kept yourself busy and finish school before getting marry and having kids.
And u wud never understand because u have a perfect life !
Exactly!
💯% agree.
😂😂😂🤦♂️
Damn..
She must be the “MIL”
yog heev li tu niam tsev
Yuav yus tu txiv xb g yg yuav niam pog ua neeg nrg tu txiv xb os
Zaj no mas ua rau kuv ntxub nws tus txiv thiab niam pog tshaj
Leeg twg Tsi tau raug niam pog ntxub thiab tsim ces txhob raum tuag no xwb mas
Leave and never look back!
This 2 was my story. The only difference was that i was 14, I farmed and wasn’t allowed to further my education. 23 years later he chose his mom. I’m not sad nor mad anymore. It was a blessing. #23yrslater100miscarriages5kids&thelifeideserved
I wander why now day daughter in-law don't want mother in-law live with them. They don't have the freedom to live the way they want. This mother in-law still live in the life back 1975. She the one have problems that why her first daughter in- law moved out.
Yog kawg nawb kuv zaj zoo li kj zaj thiab os tus viv ncaus aw kuv mas yg tus txiv mus raug lus tau 5 xyoo lawv ua phem rau kv kawg li thb
Hmong people don’t understand mental health is real. I know how you feel because I am too in similar situation. I got married when I was younger then you. I’m an American born, but it called RIGHTS(yuav cai). The reason some people don’t understand is why you didn’t just leave, first off your husband didn’t make you leave nor throw out your things. You know you did nothing wrong, if you were as bad as your in law says it. They would of send you back to your parents $1200, but they know they are wrong. As for myself, I endear my mil is because my husband is the eldest son. His father is very old and his mother still young. Moving out was not an option, because we help pay half of the bills. Everyone has their our reason. Honestly, what I endear all these years have cause me to have mental melt downs and stress. When enough is enough, as you age, and learn stand up for yourself. They’ll tell you, you’re the bad person😢. In the end you just be you, we are only human, and only able to do so much. I now teach my daughters, don’t get married until they are financially stable. My sons aren’t obligated to live with me. I want a good relationship with my future nyab.
Quit blaming your in laws. They are terrible people but if your husband was an actual man, you would have never gone through any of that.
I blamed her husband, he doesn’t love her that’s why he keep telling her to stay with his parent to be torture.
Yog cov niam pog zoo li no mas txav deb22 nws yuav ua txhua phem rau yus nawb kuv pom dua lawm
You are very patient, I would have leave when they left your stuff outside. Love shouldn’t have to be so painful. I told my husband, I can only reflect the love I received. If they cannot respect/love you then there is nothing to reciprocate.
I had lived with my MIL for 3 months and I seem her bad side. I've cried to my husband and we left their house. If I have live there long I don't know what could be worst. When I heard these stories makes me think of those memories I had with my inlaw.
Hais rau cov niam pog txiv yog yus tsi nyiam luag txhob Npav lub foom. Cia lawv mus ua lawv lub neej nawb
Yeap lead by example!!
hais yog sab khau koj rau ko kuv nkag siab kawg ,
I have a story too...
Be strong sister, do what you can and don’t give your all to those in-laws who don’t have respect for you as a nyab. Just do what you can. The way bad MIL treat us good nyab make us smarter and stronger
My myself experience:
When I first got married to my husband, I would cook for everyone and clean the whole house... so they would love me... (I dad passed away and my mom remarried, so it’s like I have no parents since a little girl, when I got married to my husband I was happy that he has parents. Thanking about having mom and dad again... in the house make my so happy.)
No matter how much I love them and have treated them well. My MIL would talk behind my back and have said things that I haven’t done... even accused me of cheating and smoking wee. Those rumors used to make me sad... I used to cry almost every night. We moved out after my husband had seen that his parents treated me bad. Even we don’t live with my in-laws, but I would go help them every time they needed us. No matter what and how much I have cared and put in my time for them, they would still talk shit about me. Then one day I woke up.... and decided not to give my “all” anymore. For example, visit them less, do not go to every family gathering, once a very long time only, stop being talkative with them. Associate myself with the people who love me. I have learned that if they don’t like you, they would never like you no matter what. They have never complemented me on things that I have done great and congratulate me on my accomplishment. They didn’t even give me a condolence when my grandma passed away. This just tell me who they really are and enough is enough, no matter how much I want to love them.
Some MIL expect so much from a nyab but they don’t look at their own certain daughters (10x lazy and can’t do anything, and they didn’t talk bad about their daughters, right?).
My way of living now is: if my parents-in-laws would love me to treat them (again) like my own parents then they should have treated me like their own daughter too. I used to be sad, but now I am not sad anymore, I just feel sorry for them, for their loss, for not treating a nyab who want to love them so much from the beginning... now their live would’ve been better... eh I’m sorry but not sorry.
To this sister: Live your life, do your things, spend your time with your “real love ones.” You deserve to be treated as a human being, as a daughter.
Damn, muaj tej cov niam pog txiv yawg phem tshaj li os.
Nyab los yeej tsis dog dig. Tab tom phim phim niam pog xwb os.
Lawv twb txwv twb hais zaj hais ntxeev, twb ntxub npaum ntawd los nyab tseem nkag qees mus yuav, mus noj lawv mov nyob lawv tsev ces yeej sib sib phim xwb os.
Tsis qhuas leej twg li os.