I told her I'd pay for diapers here and there and I'd still visit her, but this baby is 0% my responsibility. If she chooses adoption, which I'm pretty sure she wouldn't, I'd be willing to help her navigate that. She won't talk to me. My husband (her stepdad) is staying out of this but thinks I could help more. I told him he's welcome to go over and babysit for her and that shut him up lol. AITAH? Edit: I had my daughter when I was 19. I was married to her father who was in the military. I still graduated college on time at the age of 22 and everything worked out well for us, until he died in service. The fact that it worked out okay for me is clouding my daughter's judgement I think. Her trashy boyfriend can't even offer her or her child health insurance. It is a completely different scenario. Also, so many of you are suggesting I still let her live with me and keep the baby. This is not happening!!' I do not want a baby in my home, period. And I'm not babysitting either. I'll do normal grandparent stuff like show up to birthday parties and buy gifts here and there, but that's it.
Maintain those firm boundaries Mom. Just as you did not have the right to determine how your daughter lives her life, she has no right to dictate how you live yours. The absolute best way to get the loser boyfriend out of the picture is to make her dependent on his support. When he is no longer able to fake the funk, he will either disappear on his own or she will kick him to the curb herself. Children and their needs suck all the oxygen out of the room. It's a good thing they are so adorable or they wouldn't live past two weeks. Deciding that you don't want your home and lifestyle completely transformed by the addition of this tiny human is a reasonable decision to make. That's why birth control was invented in the first place. There's nothing like being an involuntary babysitter while your kid goes clubbing because she doesn't want to "waste her youth" to make you bitter as all heck.
"Children and their needs suck all the oxygen out of the room. It's a good thing they are so adorable or they wouldn't live past two weeks." Please, for the love of Christ, do not have children. This is a horrific mindset to have. You're genuinely awful.
Maybe, but a bartending job is barely enough to support 1 person, it definitely won't support 3. The idea of a bartender supporting 3 people is laughable, not because bartenders are worse caretakers, but because bartenders make on average 35k a year.
I told her I'd pay for diapers here and there and I'd still visit her, but this baby is 0% my responsibility. If she chooses adoption, which I'm pretty sure she wouldn't, I'd be willing to help her navigate that. She won't talk to me. My husband (her stepdad) is staying out of this but thinks I could help more. I told him he's welcome to go over and babysit for her and that shut him up lol. AITAH?
Edit: I had my daughter when I was 19. I was married to her father who was in the military. I still graduated college on time at the age of 22 and everything worked out well for us, until he died in service. The fact that it worked out okay for me is clouding my daughter's judgement I think. Her trashy boyfriend can't even offer her or her child health insurance. It is a completely different scenario. Also, so many of you are suggesting I still let her live with me and keep the baby. This is not happening!!' I do not want a baby in my home, period. And I'm not babysitting either. I'll do normal grandparent stuff like show up to birthday parties and buy gifts here and there, but that's it.
Maintain those firm boundaries Mom. Just as you did not have the right to determine how your daughter lives her life, she has no right to dictate how you live yours.
The absolute best way to get the loser boyfriend out of the picture is to make her dependent on his support. When he is no longer able to fake the funk, he will either disappear on his own or she will kick him to the curb herself.
Children and their needs suck all the oxygen out of the room. It's a good thing they are so adorable or they wouldn't live past two weeks. Deciding that you don't want your home and lifestyle completely transformed by the addition of this tiny human is a reasonable decision to make. That's why birth control was invented in the first place.
There's nothing like being an involuntary babysitter while your kid goes clubbing because she doesn't want to "waste her youth" to make you bitter as all heck.
"Children and their needs suck all the oxygen out of the room. It's a good thing they are so adorable or they wouldn't live past two weeks."
Please, for the love of Christ, do not have children. This is a horrific mindset to have. You're genuinely awful.
NTA she livin under ur roof ur rules
she sounds kinda elitist about the bfs job
Maybe, but a bartending job is barely enough to support 1 person, it definitely won't support 3. The idea of a bartender supporting 3 people is laughable, not because bartenders are worse caretakers, but because bartenders make on average 35k a year.
Nothing wrong with that. A bartending Job is not supporting a family
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