Diagnosed with adult ADHD in my 30s | women with adhd | adhd mum
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- Diagnosed with adult ADHD in my 30s | women with adhd | adhd mum
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Hi I'm Amy,
I'm a stay at home Mum to three girls, Caitlin, Elle, and baby Autumn!
We live in a small village in the North East of Scotland along with my husband Andrew!
I love to share hints and tips on making life easier as a parent!
You'll find videos on feeding your family, saving yourself time through planning and money saving tips!
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Amy x
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“I was depressed because I wasn’t managing to function” 🤯🤯🤯 tears in my eyes! This is so SO ME! And I just started my journey of realizing my brain is neurodivergent… I actually avoided wanting to get help because I didn’t want to believe it was my brain that was my problem… I wanted to believe that it was all the different systems I was trying out and that I just hadn’t found the one for me… ugh! So beginning my journey now of how to be successful with the mind that I have and use it for my advantage. Thank you for sharing and helping my healing journey!
Exactly!! I always thought I just needed to find the right routine or system and everything would fall into place 🙈 at least now we know there’s a club of us all the same! ❤️ xx
Would love a video on how you manage your ADHD along with motherhood and raw honest struggles.. helps us feel less alone xx
THIS 👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻
Saw video of young adhd mom. She has tips. Was called lazy at first. That hurt her deeply. Now has many women following her. She says not keeping house clean does mean you are immoral. Simplify your life. Do only what you need. Do cut corners, do half assed.
You are enough. Work so it is good enough. Just show your kids your beautiful ability to love and smile at them. They will remember those things..
Not the perfect house. Everyone deserves to feel good about themselves, messy or not. I hope you find peace in your home. Do what you can. That's all you can do.
@@anneprotheroe7837 May i know who this you woman is? Is she on UA-cam?
I'm 32 and got diagnosed 2 months ago. It's a real eye opener. But it's so relieving to find out that I'm not just "bad at being a person", I have a neurological problem! I'm medicated as well as of 2 weeks ago and it's been really interesting.
Would you mind me asking how you managed to get diagnosed? I was told unless I’m a threat to my children to society (whatever that means?) so she said she will verbally diagnose me instead. A thinking of going private but it’s so expensive. My son already has a diagnosis and I have dyspraxia (only just found out that’s what “clumsy cho syndrome is) that I’ve had for years.
@@Heather_williamsons hi unfortunately with the NHS they are still reluctant to put forward people for assessment. This could be their bias, or lack of resources. But I would do some research on it, and write some notes down and go see your GP. I did it and got put on the list but I was looking at 2 years. So I went private. It’s cost me £1200 for the assessment and a years care. I’m now looking at meds and that will be about £150-£190 a month, but once I’m on the right ones my GP will take over that. Then eventually I will be transferred over to Cahms for my general care
What a great video! I have been one of your followers for a while & also recently been diagnosed. I will definitely watch the medication video as this is something I am thinking about. x
Thank you so much for this. I'm 35 and have always felt broken. I can't keep a job although I'm fantastic at interviews and initially getting them. I have been in a hole since 2020 when I finally started realising there is an issue. I'm currently off work with depression( another thing that links to ADHD very often) and have been given every med under the sun for depression and anxiety, but none ever worked. I'm now driving home to England from Scotland to basically explain everything out to my parents. If I'm honest with myself, I don't know that I will be here next year if I can't get diagnosed and medicated. The wait on the NHS is 2-7 years and it is literally killing people. I'm hoping to be able to go private and start living the life that I always wanted. Anyone else in the same situation?
Hi hun,
I am right there with you! I’m 33 and currently in the process of being diagnosed. Had countless bouts of depression, anxiety and had lots of therapy. Got to breaking point a couple of weeks ago and so called the doctors surgery and they booked me in with a Mental Health nurse. Just wondering whether you could request to see someone in that role at your GP? I’ve got a follow up appointment next month and will then have to wait to see a psychiatrist to fully confirm it but the mental health nurse said it definitely is. Even though I’m waiting for it to be confirmed fully it’s a huge relief for someone in the medical field to say it to me. Hang in there hun, you may feel broken but you’re incredibly brave, strong and courageous for getting to where you are xxx
Oh and just wanted to add, been suffering terribly since my early 20’s but similar to you, I just felt I can’t live like this anymore. Just permanently feel insane!
Honestly, this was so refreshing to see. I didn't consider that I could have adhd until my children were getting assessed. I'm now fighting to get assessed myself.
Thank you for sharing
That can often be the case can't it! I have been so lucky with my journey but I know its not always easy to get a diagnosis! Goodluck! and in the meantime I hope you have managed to find things to help with day to day struggles. xx
@@AmyBeingMum love the vlogs and channel. I fill that I have some sort of it . I am not sometimes I don’t focus and organise
You are so brave to share your story it can’t have been easy for you xx
Yes please keep making videos. I am 35 and have recently diagnosed with ADHD. I feel angry, I feel relieved, I feel confused. But I am also tackling 3 children with adhd, 2 have asd and adhd. It is really good finding someone to relate too. Thank you
Please more of your experience as a adhd mom, the struggle, the solutions, the therapy, the hacks and tips... Everything!! This condition I only discover for 2 weeks let me feel like the worst mom in the world... Getting the right help is my all hope....
I can relate... right before my diagnosis, I was at one of my most depressed times of my life.
Hello Amy, ice just come across your channel and I couldn't have said it better! I too am just discovering that I've had ADHD my whole life & that was what brought on my depression, anxiety, OCD (needing to feel in control of something), I was always exhausted & couldn't figure out why. Thank you ever so much for this. I can wait for your next video! 💋
I was just diagnosed at 33 and my mind is blown. Thank you for sharing! I relate to everything you said
Hiya Amy, loved your video! I was diagnosed with ADHD and Asperger syndrome when I was 20 and a lot of the experiences you talk about also happen to me^^ Even after 4 years, I am still learning new things and connecting my experiences or "odd" quirks to ADHD and realising just how much masking and active observations I do which should actually come to me naturally without me thinking about it! I know that a lot of people who do not want to accept their ADHD or other mental conditions, but knowing that you are different is not bad because it helps you live your life better by doing things suitable for your life and it is not wrong to do things differently from the "norm". I would love more videos about ADHD❤❤
Thanks so much Helena for watching and taking the time to comment! I totally agree with it being a positive thing. I'm loving learning all about ADHD and cant wait to make more videos and connect with fellow neuro diverse friends! xx
@@AmyBeingMum though there are times when my ADHD and asperger make me feel frustrated, I also know that I am able to see things from a different perspective and I wouldn't be the person I am or have come this far without them... though it would be nice if I didn't feel drained everytime I went out into growled spaces and was this sensitive to noises 😅
My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD just over a year ago and at first I couldn't quite believe it as there weren't really any signs when she was younger - tho she was often complained about by teachers for distracting others (! ) and often had difficulty sleeping due to her 'overactive' mind.
Hers came to light as she went through Uni and at first was put down to anxiety but afer getting her GP to refer her to a Psychologist she got her diagnosis and just like you it has been life-transforming. We didn't know she was having terrible problems focussing on her Uni work as she always did very well but she describes the same as you - a mind that felt like 'all the tabs were open on a computer' and the exhaustion she felt because of all that.
When i read some of the articles she directed me too about middle aged women finally being diagnosed it was quite heart-breaking - so many were being treated for anxiety and depression when in fact the reason they were anxious and getting depressed was beciause they knew there was something wrong with them!
She has been massively helped by her medication - she reckons there's no way she would've graduated with a 2:1 degree last year and managed her Masters degree this year.
So happy for you that you have a diagnosis. My son has ADHD and still awaiting a diagnosis of possible aspergers so this is my hyper focus topic...Penny doesn’t fall far from the tree 🌲 😂
The first time I suspected I might have it is-due to some anxiety & health issues-when I had to stop using caffeine about a year ago. I had basically been on low level stimulants my whole life as a big coffee/tea drinker, and that had helped me cope a bit better. Then, when the stress of my job & the pandemic started to subside, I was in such a great place mentally, and I still couldn’t focus. The whole idea of ADHD being the “disruptive in class 5 year old boy” is such a narrow understanding we have as a culture too. I am a high school teacher w an ungraduate degree in psychology even, and I now realize how short-sighted my view was of the disorder. And yes, the coping stuff you mentioned is so real; I am frequently described by people as one of the most organized people they know. And now I realize that almost completely a coping strategy that I just learned subconsciously.
Thank you for sharing. I’m not diagnosed but definitely identify with everything you have talked about. I will wait for a professional to confirm instead of jumping in feet first (see! already learning)
Thank you so much for this video it’s like looking in the mirror. Im only just now realising I may have ADHD and videos like this help me realise i’m not just useless. Ps I wrote and re wrote this message 3 times lol
My son was diagnosed with adhd a few years ago, and I have long thought I had it. I’ve never known how I would get diagnosed, but this video has massively helped. My gp isn’t great though so not sure not if I will get much help, but will definitely try
Hi Amy,
I just came across this video of you because I, like you came across an article about ADHD in women and was like…ummm…that me! So gone down the rabbit hole of researching…can relate to everything you said! I still haven’t conquered the organization strategy’s I try a a new one every month and think, right this is going to change my life! And then after a couple of weeks I’m in a muddle again! I am dyslexic so I have always put things down to that…and have always managed to find ways around things for that reason but I definitely think I have ADHD as well…I was almost excited when I came across it as It was a relief people struggle like I do! I have spoken to the GP so just waiting to hear back from that, not expecting it to be quick but glad I have the ball rolling! Thank you for making the video! Xxx
Thank you so much! You have described me to a T! Especially the overactive mind!
I would love to see more videos about your ADHD discovery! :)
I am currently going through the ASD diagnostic process (30s too) and I know there's lots of overlap between them - I'm a new subscriber and have been binge watching your channel, it's fantastic!
How is the diagnostic process like? And who does it? did you tell a psychologist about your symptoms?
Hi @@Melissa-rb6ct I went to my GP with a list of my traits that I felt were autistic and they referred me to the city's ASD clinic - 6 months later I had an initial assessment and was told it was likely I was autistic. 6 months after that, I had a 5 hour assessment by a psychiatrist. Within 2 months I received my report with a diagnosis. It was well worth the wait.
@@scollard87 wow thank you!
Your video made me feel as though I am looking in a mirror, thank you for sharing your story of your diagnosis x
Thank you for sharing this! My son is autistic and since hes gone through the assessments, both my husband and i see similarities in ourselves. Masking is definitely a huge factor. Watching your video, i see a lot of things i do too. Theres are so many stereotypes when it comes to ADHD, ASD etc, its brilliant that you are speaking up xx
I’ve been meaning to watch this since you posted it but my ADD made me constantly get distracted when coming on 🙈 Ross is going through the process of being diagnosed with ADD or ADHD too.
No way!! Well thanks for watching it despite all the distractions! 😂👍🏼❤️
Amy this is so amazing to hear about-to struggle with something your whole life and not even realise! It’s absolutely incredible and how you can talk about this and raise awareness and deal with it-you have my utmost respect. I have watched you since very early on in your UA-cam career and will continue to watch your journey. Much much love and hugs 🤗💖💖💖 xxxxx
Hello! I really really appreciated your video. I also got a diagnosis of adhd in my 30s, and it explains so so much... A lot of my reading around the subject has been from Gabor Mate's book 'Scattered Minds'. His theory is that stressed parents during the early years of child development result (when that child also happens to be a highly sensitive personality type) in a child who is never able to fully relax and develop the executive function which is needed to live as an independent and self organising human. Increasingly I think that this is actually correct; it seems that everyone I know with adhd indeed had a mum who was at least privately stressed out and not fully emotionally available, and also has a sensitive personality type.
Since he sees adhd as a matter of brain underdevelopment, Gabor Mate in the book recommends seeing a family therapist(just a therapist who understands family dynamics well) who can help provide the conditions in which executive function can begin to develop.
Just putting it out there that you might find it illuminating to read his book, as there is a lot of truth to it I think.
I was curious to see this. I wasn’t curious to try to be “nosy,” but I was curious because I was worried, because I love watching your videos, and when you said your kids may have it, that worried me furthermore. So thanks for sharing this.
I love that you shared this Amy! I thought of ADHD the same as you, so what you have said so far is super interesting to me. Massive well done to you for sharing your story xx
Thanks so much Hazel! xx
Thank you for sharing this. I got diagnosed at 40, and it was Jessica McCabe's "How to ADHD" YT channel that opened my eyes to that possibility. Like you, I had always assumed hyperactivity is the main characteristic. I always thought that I'm just a lazy procastinator. It wasn't until when I accidentally came across her channel that I found out about executive dysfunction, which I struggle with the most. Like you as well, I didn't realize how much my masking covered (what I know now) are my ADHD symptoms.
You should check her channel. It's a treasure trove of information, community support, and tips. Wishing you the best on your journey!
Edit: HAHAHAHA YOU WERE SPOT ON. At the beginning of the video, I wanted to subscribe, then wrote the comment while watching your video, then promptly forgot until you reminded us to subscribe as we might forget to because of our ADHD hahahahha... thanks and subbed with bells on!
Love these vids i didnt understand how other mums felt until they saw this thank you so much xxx
What an honest video Amy, I'm interested to learn more. I'm glad you've had a diagnosis and had great support from your GP by the sounds of it. I'll be following your videos around this with interest. I had a workmate who retired recently and she had aspergers, she told me she wasn't diagnosed until she was in her 40s with a result so much lost opportunity, education and severe lack of support and understanding. I am so glad much more is known now to identify where assessment would help a child at school age. We are certainly not simple souls but very complex indeed, that's what makes us all unique. Take care. ❤️
Thank you so much for that lovely message Amanda! I love that people are still being diagnosed later in life, its never too late! I bet your workmate really appreciated having such an understanding friend! xx
@@AmyBeingMum it's never too late Amy. As you say, it sounds as if it explains a lot of what makes you, 'you' and we should never stop learning from one another. I hope you get incredible feedback on your videos Amy, it's very generous of you to share something so personal but typical of your kindness. ❤️
@@AmyBeingMum Hello Mam... Ive sent you a mail. Is it possible to check?
Thank you SO much for sharing.. I'm about to turn 30 and am about to call my doctor for an appointment... Have been struggling for so long xx
Well done for sharing this, Amy! I'm a teacher and, in some cases, it's hard to try and get a diagnosis and heartbreaking for the families and children involved waiting to be given extra support to help.
Like you said, this is a very important issue as some parents of children with SEN only realise they might have something themselves by going on the journey with their children. Good on you for speaking out about it 💗
My daughter who has ADHD, said last year that I she thought I have it( the pandemic made it more noticeable, I think I've masked it very well for a long time )I have been thinking long and hard about getting some help, which I need. I'm 52 and feel they might think I'm jumping on the bandwagon, but I've been this way as long as I remember. My mum thinks my dad has it too. But alot of the things you discussed I do. Thanks for being honesty xxx
Ah! I so relate to you! I have no idea what prodded me to research symptoms of ADHD… but I did like a month ago and was left shocked that I couldn’t find a single symptom I didn’t relate to… ugh! It’s crazy figuring this out as an adult and a mom!
Oh I can relate to this so much. Just diagnosed in January, and I didn’t really know to start looking until I wondered about my kid and did the trademark hyper focus deep dive. Time blindness is wild, so is learning that other people don’t necessarily have to talk themselves into starting every task they do throughout the day.
I've suspected for a year or so that this might have been what I have but I've never been so sure after this video. Thank you so much Amy, looking forward to more videos on it xxx
I was diagnosed 2 weeks ago with moderate to severe ADHD at the age of 32. I'm still waiting on which type I have as I'm in the period where I'm waiting for my report to be written up (and I forgot to ask in the assessment) but I'm guessing that like yours mine is inattentive, if not combined. I'm really looking forward to your future videos particularly on medication as I'll be starting mine in about 10 weeks (delay to due the increase in ADHD diagnosis due to the pandemic - more than likely our generation finally figuring out what is wrong with them). I can't wait to finally feel capable of completing my degree. I go into my 3rd year in Sept/Oct (hopefully) and it would be great to feel less chaotic by then.
Thank you for sharing your journey.
Wow I'm thrilled that you have made this video Amy ❤ I have also realised during lockdown that I have adhd (possibly asd too) as my little boy is currently being assessed and I saw so many similarities within myself when researching all about it. I'm not officially diagnosed yet as I'm waiting to get his diagnosis first. But even self diagnosing myself has been such a relief and my life now seems to make much more sense lol! Can't wait for more videos ❤ xxx
Oh wow thats amazing you have found out about it together! I feel like it can only be a positive to learn more about yourself. Isn't it fascinating how lockdown has brought so many things to light for lots of us! I think once you "know" you have ADHD the official diagnosis is just another step in the journey. Once you know, you know don"t you. xx
Exactly. Once you 'know', you just know. It was such a mind blowing moment when I realised as I'm sure it was for you too. It makes me sad to think of how many people are still undiagnosed out there and struggling. More awareness is definitely needed and your videos will definitely help with this ❤ thank you xxx
Thank you so much. I was watching this and shoving biscuits in my face as you were talking about binge eating... Oops... Must find the dopamine! 💕
Very interesting Amy I used to follow she’s in her apron on you tube and she has adhd also and she would often have to go lie down I’m sure she was diagnosed as an adult too look forward to learning more about the condition as I too always thought it was about hyperactivity.nice to see you back catching up as I took a break from social media 🌸
Well done for being so brave and sharing your story... Big hugs sent to u... Carry on being amazing xx
That’s really good u have managed to share this with us all and hopefully this will help others also
Another good vlog
Well done for sharing chum... proud of you 💕💕💕
Thanks so much chum! xxx
Amy you are so relatable and so refreshing thank you for sharing it really helps👍
Aw thank you Charmaine! xx
Good that you now have a diagnosis honey. Amazing that some of the symptoms I can totally relate to and my other family members so it will definitely help others who won’t have even thought about it as I had no clue that they were ADHD attributed. X
Thank you for sharing. 😘 My daughter is 17 and just has been diagnosed. I am feeling a little lost now on what is ‘good/useful’ to reference. She unknowingly puts herself in dangerous situations so feel I’m on constant alert. So any useful tips will be awesome. I feel like I’ve let her down 💙
Hi I was just diagnosed a yr ago and I'm 52 now I was have anger outbursts melt downs struggling with tasks at home ex disorganized unorganized always loose my phone leave things to the last minute get impatient in line etc
Thanks so much for the informative video. Must be such a relief to receive help and know how you can start helping yourself :-)
Thanks Laura! xx
Thank you soo much for talking out about this 🙌🏻 xx
Well done for sharing your story , look forward to future videos x
I’m just looking into getting diagnosed myself at the age of 39 but I’m not 100% sure where to start. My son has it and was only diagnosed himself last year. I’m pretty sure my daughter does too but she masks it. I hyper focus on things too and most certainly miss details. I believe if i was in high school now I would have been picked up. I’m super interested in all of this. I’m self employed too, Thank you for sharing
I can relate to every part of your share with us. Your video helped my family understand because you explained everything i couldn't. Thank you for being so brave. Wondered if you have experienced frequent accidents/injuries due to impulsive behavior like i have? Sadly, my attempt at getting diagnosed here in California has not been successful since our county only diagnoses children with adhd. Peace to you on your journey.
Thanks Christine! I think I probably have experienced more accidents and injuries now you mention it! 😂🙈 xx
You know I thought the same thing cause that's what I heard from others but just last month I did get a referral from my doctor for psychological testing and it's covered by medi-cal. The psychiatrist I was seeing for the last couple years never told me I had that option and he just shut me down and disregarded my concerns every time I brought it up.
Please talk more and more on this.. I need the support xx
I have recently realised I have this as my son is now being assessed for it. I won’t bother getting diagnosed as I can personally cope currently but I completely agree the pandemic made it become apparent. I also recognise it in my own mother which is funny. I will say that there are a lot of other mental health issues come with it due to the way we process and the pressures we are under as women so on so forth....
I wouldn't be surprised if I've got inattentive ADHD. I've struggled to keep jobs.
Proud of you girl! ADHD Queens :-) xxxxxx
Thanks so much lovely!! 👑 xx
I’m turning 30 in July and am about to be tested for ADHD, would love to see more videos about your experience and your coping strategies for your ADHD symptoms!
I didn’t start to suspect me having it until I had quit my job to be a stay at home mom. And since then I’ve been struggling to keep it all together. I think I too needed the schedule that work (and school) had always provided! I also went down the rabbit hole of research when I first suspected I had it and find it all so interesting and revealing.
Would also love to know about the medication you take and how it help you. I can’t imagine ever being any way other than I am now so the thought of medication to be able to help… I have questions haha
Thanks for putting your story out there!
Sorry to keep commenting but I can't find many videos on ADHD and motherhood so may be great for your channelx
You have just described me thank you for this x
I am a 58 y/o female. Newly dx'd with adhd. My dad had and brother has text book symptoms. I get tired from thinking, too. I have strong emotions, sensitive to criticism. These wear me out too. I feel I take on others emotions which I HATE!!! Negative feelings. Feel like things are my fault but improving.
I am on non stimulant called Straterra. On 60mg. I feel I need higher dose. Goes up to 100mg. Need to contact doctor about raising dose. What type of medication do you take for your adhd?
I’m a mom of 3,I just turned 40 and getting screening for adhd , bipolar and autism I went last week and the results can’t come fast enough!!! I’ve been struggling my whole life wondering why I can’t do what all the other super moms do?!?!
Please do more videos on this.
I’m 68 and all
My life ive felt different and would live to know why I have adhd or to get diagnosed I’ve done loads of online tests and I feel very misunderstood I calculate sums in my head very quick I talk fast sometimes people couldn’t understand me when I was younger snd still on the phone I get told to say it again ive has panic attacks and depression since I was 17
Thanks very much for making this video. My son has adhd his was diagnosed a few years ago, along with my husband at the same time! My husband was always described as an hyperactive child, but has so many character traits that we can now associate with adhd. He’s symptoms always seem worse under times of stress too.
My son recently tried medication as he’s 14 and thought it would help him to concentrate as he starts studying for his GCSEs. However he couldn’t cope with the side effects and decided to stop taking them. Would be interested to know if you are suffering from side effects and what medication you have been prescribed?
Please post about being a mom withy adhd and how you manage.
Im going to try to work for myself i struggle keeping a job.
So fascinating xxxx
Who’s the American UA-camr that you watched- the one that does videos on organisation with adhd? - Apologies if you do say in the video but I wanted to ask you before I forget x
Kindly share your symptoms, treatment options and coping mechanisms. I am ADHD inattentive type adult.
Hey I have adhd I know I do, I've done hundreds of tests including some I've purchased and had from my auntie who is a speech therapist who helps in aiding the diagnoses of adhd and they all came back positive. How did you go about getting diagnosed with adhd? I'm going to my GP soon but I'm worried they won't believe me and won't refer me and then I'll never know xxx
I was diagnosed with adhd at the age of 37 :)
Im 37 this year too! snap! lol! xx
@@AmyBeingMum r u still going to do grocery hauls on your channel
I sure am! I’m hoping to film one this week! Do you watch those ones? Xx
@@AmyBeingMum yes I do r u going to do an aldi one I miss those ones u do
What medication?
Will you be doing more videos about this 😊
Hi Amy, I’ve followed you for years and I was diagnosed with combined type ADHD just over 3 years ago at the age of 37! How much is the medication helping you? X
Sounds like everyday adult life i feel the same but nothing wrong
Maybe that's what you think. I used to think that too, but turns out I likely have adhd.
So if you don't have records from your childhood you don't get diagnosed???
There are also lists to fill out and interviews to determine if the symptoms where there.
Most doctors (UK) keep a history of your medical records from birth, you can request your medical records from your doctor, GP. I had to do a bit of digging but I got there in the end
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Yes!!! 👏👏👏
Sounds more like untreated UARS, breathing problems during sleep.
Please tell me what you had to go through at the hospital to get a diagnosis? Think I have it and I’m mid thirties 🫣🫣