This talk touches me on a very deep, personal level. As an introvert and ex-(very) shy person, I find it true that introverts are "forced" to be extroverted in a college environment, and it's easy to blame yourself for being different from the accepted norm. It's good to hear that you're not alone in this, that other people feel the same. This was a nice reminder that you can't help who you are, and embracing it is essential to be happy.
Leila, I'm so happy to hear this-thank you! Yes, it's too easy to blame oneself and so necessary to embrace how wonderful you are as an introvert and how much introverts bring to the world! The fox from the little prince has the secret right ;-) Enjoy and share it ! All Best, Michael
The fact that he understands that introvert like to go deep into the dephts of thoughts concepts along with a partner who is capable of that is brilliant i think ge is the firstperson i have met who knows that
Thank you so much for your comment Dr. Shukla. I'm glad to see it resonated for you too--so many introverts seem to know this but haven't put it into words. I think it makes a big difference to be precise about the kind of connecting that introverts like, and to debunk the notion that they don't like socializing. It's about a certain quality that is key. Cheers! Michael
@@michaelalcee9834 country like india need this cuz if people know how to handle personality traits the chaos will be handled and productivity will increase as it has for my own so.
@@marcelapaiva7473 that was one of the driving forces to teach kids. Being an introvert, it seems we are more sensitive. It's a beautiful thing for kids to be aware early as possible.
Love this.....we are not loners....quite the opposite....we just like connecting on a deep level and get drained by small talk....accepting introversion as simply a very normal thing allows us to drop the baggage, the guilt and the negative self talk and free ourselves to live in balance....going inward and quieting our environment let’s our energy replenish and our gifts rise to the surface where they can be shared and help make the world a better place.
He explains and describes introversion very well, society needs to get more educated about it and stop making extroverion be the norm. It took me years to understand myself as an introvert and I love being me even more! It's empowering and inspirational! 💖
I've had the pleasure of being a college patient of Michael Alcee. He helped me tremendously through my grief and understanding of myself. I believe it is because of the sessions with him that I am pursuing psychology as well. This Tedx Talk helped me understand my husband better. Its going to help me reach the introverts in my church and my future congregants. I am so excited to take this information and do something with it and love them and empower introverts. Thank you for this. I learned so much and I will do more research.
Dr. Alcee, As a clinical psychologist, I found the concepts and perspectives you introduced in this video are long overdue! Your talk has not only has helped me think about how to better validate and encourage self-acceptance in my introverts, but also given me the words they can use to explain themselves to well-intended but misguided critics of their preference for quiet/solitude. Given the current climate, it is ironic that we often pathologize the quiet & thoughtful and glorify the loud & crass. Since watching your Ted Talk, I have shared it with many clients and friends and am also thinking about how to introduce that level of self-acceptance in my clients with "non-typical" personality, psychological, or neurological styles (e.g., ADD, Asperger’s, personality issues, and trauma). For so many of them (us) it is the struggle with shame about who and how they are, rather than who or how they actually are, that causes their psychic pain and paralysis. Self-acceptance may not stop all the pain, but it sure cures the suffering. Thank you!
If psychology (both the discipline and the profession) lack a clear and cogent model of what constitutes an authentic human then how can it understand what part of human experience is abnormal ie mentally ill, or a natural part of human nature? Within the entirety of the scientific and academic communities, no such model exists, furthermore, these institutions lack adequate intellectual instruments to construct such a model. This fundamental problem is further exacerbated by the introduction of psychiatry and the series of DSM.
Thank you for this! I went through a journey of anxiety in college only to find it was a matter of fixing the way I dealt with and embraced my introversion. My university mental health services didn’t have the tools to help me but I was fortunate enough to find and afford a private therapist who guided me through with many of the ideas you mention here!
I'm so glad that the talk 'spoke to you' and that you found a wonderful therapist who could guide you through such an important and elemental part of knowing who you are and how you work. It would be nice if we all came with instruction manuals or if the culture could help us read them better---sometimes, I think that's all therapy truly is, helping us to learn ours and others instruction manuals for making new possibilities, new music together! :-)
Excellent Talk! It’s amazing what a well organized and thought out group can do for a college campus community! Giving members a safe place to share or feel connected. The value of young adults learning about introversion is simply priceless. Well done Dr. Alcee.
A wonderful, inspiring talk thank you & resonates so deeply with me. It’s still so hard to effect changes in schools and colleges, to be listened to on these important areas for students within institutions… I‘ve tried as a teacher and can do a little in my classes … I love your point about sociability too, and started a Meetup group recently ‘The No.1 Introverts Social Club’ :D for meeting like-hearted introvert and HSP friends on local walks 🌿 it’s been so wonderful! I wondered if anyone would join and they have, really happily :) I really think Emily would join - she’s absolutely there in spirit x
I am also an introvert and none ever understood that, everyone just thinks that I have a lot of attitude and that's why I don't talk to anyone but no one not even slightly tried to understand that being an introvert is not bad at all. And an introvert is way more powerful than an extrovert. Silence is the biggest weapon of an introvert. Lastly I just want to say that introverts are not full of attitude they are also the coolest but only with the people who understand them.🙂🙂
Being an introvert can be challenging, indeed! Adding dyslexia (which turns reading into a mentally strenuous & exhausting activity) to that, along with ADHD (which indicates fundamentally different techniques & strategies used by the mind to process information and complete tasks); the result is an individual with a unique set of behaviors and needs especially in regards to early education. However, if the teachers are unable to recognize and understand the symptoms and their implications in order to provide an alternate, modified curriculum, which we do not train our teachers to do nor is this feasible in most circumstances & environments.
Chloe, right back at you! Your work helping children learn the beauty and power of reading is phenomenal!! I am so honored that my talk spoke to you and am sending you a soul hug and high five from across the ocean.
Interestingly enough, I never judged my intention but my abilities which I always regarded as perfectly logical from the earliest age. I did however and continue to judge society as all have a moral obligation so to do and do so, relentlessly. For example, society values mindless entertainment like alcohol consumption and football to name but two and I never did. This was the beginning of my inclination to judge society. Now bizarrely enough, that jugment which isolates me considerably, has evolved into a rather more complex and indeed damning and inditing form with respect to social convention and institutions. By convention society is institutionally negligent of its moral responsibility and obligation to generations not yet born and worse still, bring new life into a world over which they have absolutely no control and of which they have very little knowledge yet they continue to "procreate". None of which I can be accused. One can either pursue a life of happiness or of meaning, you tell me, which is the most needed in the world and which is the more popular and by what ratio?
9:03 "we all have one of these, right?" Can... can I say nope? Nope. 😂and I only regret it when I try to order food and they need to text me a code for confirmation (I have to rely on a family member's phone... hopefully while they're awake)... Smartphoneless People discrimination, I say. I think I'm a case of extreme introversion, honestly. Most of what was said resonates with me for sure, but I have to wonder if it'd be enough to help me. I think we can't forget nurture too when we're rightly remembering how important nature is. I think my upbringing and experiences made me more of an extreme introvert today rather than a more "social introvert" (which you'd think is a contradiction of terms, but it isn't). So don't forget that not all introverts are the same in their level of introversion. That said, if introversion was more understood and accommodated in society, maybe I would be a much more social introvert today than I am. All of the few people I know ask me why I'm so scared to meet other people, but I take issue with the very question, as I know I'm not scared. If I were forced to meet other people, I wouldn't be shaking in my boots, just uncomfortable and uninterested. It's just not something I ever feel like doing, not that I'd even have the time for it as I keep myself too busy. If I knew I'd be meeting someone who is also introverted or understands my introversion, I'd be more interested, at least. 1/3rd of the population is introverted? Then chances are I'd have met others by now... I probably have and never realized it, and they probably didn't either, but right now, of the 10 people I know in this world (all of whom I don't regularly keep in contact with, despite being always a landline call or 1 minute away), it's just me. But I think I can confidently say now that much of any mental issues I have had in my life come from my introverted personality clashing with an extrovert-focused world, that's for sure.
@@michaelalcee9834 The phone apps analogy really resonated with me ! Feeling so heard and at peace after this talk - thank you! I wish you had a blog or Instagram account we could follow haha! Also wish there was an introverts group I could go to :) Your work are lucky to have you!
If psychology (both the discipline and the profession) lack a clear and cogent model of what constitutes an authentic human then how can it understand what part of human experience is abnormal ie mentally ill, or a natural part of human nature? Within the entirety of the scientific and academic communities, no such model exists, furthermore, these institutions lack adequate intellectual instruments to construct such a model. This fundamental problem is further exacerbated by the introduction of psychiatry and the series of DSM.
people say that i need to have a talk with counselling persons because I am choosing my friends and i am not talking with everyone. so should I consult one.
I genuinely don’t understand the point he’s trying to make. Psychology and anxiety and depression should always be cater to the individual, and it has nothing to do with this club of introversion.
Hey reader, did you know we all sin? Sin is like a crime we all commit and we all deserve and are heading towards permanent jail time for all the sins we commit. But the good news is that Jesus is offering to pay your bail so that you can have eternal life with him in heaven instead! All you have to do is repent of your sins (apologize for your crimes and commit to living better) and accept Jesus as your Lord and savior (let him bail you out) And that’s it! Just remember that if you apologize to a judge for your crimes and say you’ll do better, that won’t get you out of jail. In the same way, only by accepting and believing in Jesus, who paid the price for your/our sins will save you. Repentance is the acknowledgment that you can’t make bail and the sincerity of your heart that tells Jesus you mean to do better. Hope to see you in heaven one day! (For more info, you can reference the Bible, you’ll find this in the Gospels).
This talk touches me on a very deep, personal level. As an introvert and ex-(very) shy person, I find it true that introverts are "forced" to be extroverted in a college environment, and it's easy to blame yourself for being different from the accepted norm. It's good to hear that you're not alone in this, that other people feel the same. This was a nice reminder that you can't help who you are, and embracing it is essential to be happy.
Leila, I'm so happy to hear this-thank you! Yes, it's too easy to blame oneself and so necessary to embrace how wonderful you are as an introvert and how much introverts bring to the world! The fox from the little prince has the secret right ;-) Enjoy and share it ! All Best, Michael
You could say, you were ex-tremely shy! Lol (l needed to do that, sorry)
The fact that he understands that introvert like to go deep into the dephts of thoughts concepts along with a partner who is capable of that is brilliant i think ge is the firstperson i have met who knows that
Thank you so much for your comment Dr. Shukla. I'm glad to see it resonated for you too--so many introverts seem to know this but haven't put it into words. I think it makes a big difference to be precise about the kind of connecting that introverts like, and to debunk the notion that they don't like socializing. It's about a certain quality that is key. Cheers! Michael
@@michaelalcee9834 country like india need this cuz if people know how to handle personality traits the chaos will be handled and productivity will increase as it has for my own so.
Im just learning about this. I always thought there was something wrong with me, especially as a kid. Fascinating.
Me too! 😊
@@marcelapaiva7473 that was one of the driving forces to teach kids. Being an introvert, it seems we are more sensitive.
It's a beautiful thing for kids to be aware early as possible.
Love this.....we are not loners....quite the opposite....we just like connecting on a deep level and get drained by small talk....accepting introversion as simply a very normal thing allows us to drop the baggage, the guilt and the negative self talk and free ourselves to live in balance....going inward and quieting our environment let’s our energy replenish and our gifts rise to the surface where they can be shared and help make the world a better place.
He explains and describes introversion very well, society needs to get more educated about it and stop making extroverion be the norm. It took me years to understand myself as an introvert and I love being me even more! It's empowering and inspirational! 💖
I've had the pleasure of being a college patient of Michael Alcee. He helped me tremendously through my grief and understanding of myself. I believe it is because of the sessions with him that I am pursuing psychology as well. This Tedx Talk helped me understand my husband better. Its going to help me reach the introverts in my church and my future congregants. I am so excited to take this information and do something with it and love them and empower introverts. Thank you for this. I learned so much and I will do more research.
Dr. Alcee,
As a clinical psychologist, I found the concepts and perspectives you introduced in this video are long overdue! Your talk has not only has helped me think about how to better validate and encourage self-acceptance in my introverts, but also given me the words they can use to explain themselves to well-intended but misguided critics of their preference for quiet/solitude. Given the current climate, it is ironic that we often pathologize the quiet & thoughtful and glorify the loud & crass. Since watching your Ted Talk, I have shared it with many clients and friends and am also thinking about how to introduce that level of self-acceptance in my clients with "non-typical" personality, psychological, or neurological styles (e.g., ADD, Asperger’s, personality issues, and trauma). For so many of them (us) it is the struggle with shame about who and how they are, rather than who or how they actually are, that causes their psychic pain and paralysis. Self-acceptance may not stop all the pain, but it sure cures the suffering. Thank you!
If psychology (both the discipline and the profession) lack a clear and cogent model of what constitutes an authentic human then how can it understand what part of human experience is abnormal ie mentally ill, or a natural part of human nature? Within the entirety of the scientific and academic communities, no such model exists, furthermore, these institutions lack adequate intellectual instruments to construct such a model. This fundamental problem is further exacerbated by the introduction of psychiatry and the series of DSM.
this talk is way underrated
The absolute best and most helpful video I’ve found on introverts.
Wow! Thanks Nick Corriere!! that is so wonderful to hear. Workedvery hard on making it say a lot in a little space. Glad it helped! :-)
Still waters run deep. Introverts are the deepest thinkers.
Thank you for this! I went through a journey of anxiety in college only to find it was a matter of fixing the way I dealt with and embraced my introversion. My university mental health services didn’t have the tools to help me but I was fortunate enough to find and afford a private therapist who guided me through with many of the ideas you mention here!
I'm so glad that the talk 'spoke to you' and that you found a wonderful therapist who could guide you through such an important and elemental part of knowing who you are and how you work. It would be nice if we all came with instruction manuals or if the culture could help us read them better---sometimes, I think that's all therapy truly is, helping us to learn ours and others instruction manuals for making new possibilities, new music together! :-)
Excellent Talk! It’s amazing what a well organized and thought out group can do for a college campus community! Giving members a safe place to share or feel connected. The value of young adults learning about introversion is simply priceless. Well done Dr. Alcee.
A wonderful, inspiring talk thank you & resonates so deeply with me. It’s still so hard to effect changes in schools and colleges, to be listened to on these important areas for students within institutions… I‘ve tried as a teacher and can do a little in my classes …
I love your point about sociability too, and started a Meetup group recently ‘The No.1 Introverts Social Club’ :D for meeting like-hearted introvert and HSP friends on local walks 🌿 it’s been so wonderful! I wondered if anyone would join and they have, really happily :) I really think Emily would join - she’s absolutely there in spirit x
I am also an introvert and none ever understood that, everyone just thinks that I have a lot of attitude and that's why I don't talk to anyone but no one not even slightly tried to understand that being an introvert is not bad at all. And an introvert is way more powerful than an extrovert. Silence is the biggest weapon of an introvert. Lastly I just want to say that introverts are not full of attitude they are also the coolest but only with the people who understand them.🙂🙂
Being an introvert can be challenging, indeed! Adding dyslexia (which turns reading into a mentally strenuous & exhausting activity) to that, along with ADHD (which indicates fundamentally different techniques & strategies used by the mind to process information and complete tasks); the result is an individual with a unique set of behaviors and needs especially in regards to early education. However, if the teachers are unable to recognize and understand the symptoms and their implications in order to provide an alternate, modified curriculum, which we do not train our teachers to do nor is this feasible in most circumstances & environments.
WOW! This was amazing, thank you so much! Spoke to my soul!
Chloe, right back at you! Your work helping children learn the beauty and power of reading is phenomenal!! I am so honored that my talk spoke to you and am sending you a soul hug and high five from across the ocean.
I really need this.
What a fantastic talk, Michael! I can’t thank you enough for helping me during my college years.
Interestingly enough, I never judged my intention but my abilities which I always regarded as perfectly logical from the earliest age. I did however and continue to judge society as all have a moral obligation so to do and do so, relentlessly. For example, society values mindless entertainment like alcohol consumption and football to name but two and I never did. This was the beginning of my inclination to judge society. Now bizarrely enough, that jugment which isolates me considerably, has evolved into a rather more complex and indeed damning and inditing form with respect to social convention and institutions.
By convention society is institutionally negligent of its moral responsibility and obligation to generations not yet born and worse still, bring new life into a world over which they have absolutely no control and of which they have very little knowledge yet they continue to "procreate". None of which I can be accused. One can either pursue a life of happiness or of meaning, you tell me, which is the most needed in the world and which is the more popular and by what ratio?
Awesome talk!👏👍💪😃
Thanks so much Simply Red Island Girl! So glad you liked it!! I really appreciate your comment and the emojis ;-)
9:03 "we all have one of these, right?"
Can... can I say nope? Nope. 😂and I only regret it when I try to order food and they need to text me a code for confirmation (I have to rely on a family member's phone... hopefully while they're awake)... Smartphoneless People discrimination, I say.
I think I'm a case of extreme introversion, honestly. Most of what was said resonates with me for sure, but I have to wonder if it'd be enough to help me. I think we can't forget nurture too when we're rightly remembering how important nature is. I think my upbringing and experiences made me more of an extreme introvert today rather than a more "social introvert" (which you'd think is a contradiction of terms, but it isn't). So don't forget that not all introverts are the same in their level of introversion.
That said, if introversion was more understood and accommodated in society, maybe I would be a much more social introvert today than I am. All of the few people I know ask me why I'm so scared to meet other people, but I take issue with the very question, as I know I'm not scared. If I were forced to meet other people, I wouldn't be shaking in my boots, just uncomfortable and uninterested. It's just not something I ever feel like doing, not that I'd even have the time for it as I keep myself too busy. If I knew I'd be meeting someone who is also introverted or understands my introversion, I'd be more interested, at least.
1/3rd of the population is introverted? Then chances are I'd have met others by now... I probably have and never realized it, and they probably didn't either, but right now, of the 10 people I know in this world (all of whom I don't regularly keep in contact with, despite being always a landline call or 1 minute away), it's just me.
But I think I can confidently say now that much of any mental issues I have had in my life come from my introverted personality clashing with an extrovert-focused world, that's for sure.
Tne electric car analogy really resonates with me! this has been so valuable to me.
Zama, that's so cool!! I'm really glad to hear that. Isn't it awesome to know how cool you truly are??!! :-)
@@michaelalcee9834 The phone apps analogy really resonated with me ! Feeling so heard and at peace after this talk - thank you! I wish you had a blog or Instagram account we could follow haha! Also wish there was an introverts group I could go to :) Your work are lucky to have you!
If psychology (both the discipline and the profession) lack a clear and cogent model of what constitutes an authentic human then how can it understand what part of human experience is abnormal ie mentally ill, or a natural part of human nature? Within the entirety of the scientific and academic communities, no such model exists, furthermore, these institutions lack adequate intellectual instruments to construct such a model. This fundamental problem is further exacerbated by the introduction of psychiatry and the series of DSM.
people say that i need to have a talk with counselling persons because I am choosing my friends and i am not talking with everyone. so should I consult one.
I genuinely don’t understand the point he’s trying to make. Psychology and anxiety and depression should always be cater to the individual, and it has nothing to do with this club of introversion.
Hey reader, did you know we all sin? Sin is like a crime we all commit and we all deserve and are heading towards permanent jail time for all the sins we commit. But the good news is that Jesus is offering to pay your bail so that you can have eternal life with him in heaven instead! All you have to do is repent of your sins (apologize for your crimes and commit to living better) and accept Jesus as your Lord and savior (let him bail you out) And that’s it! Just remember that if you apologize to a judge for your crimes and say you’ll do better, that won’t get you out of jail. In the same way, only by accepting and believing in Jesus, who paid the price for your/our sins will save you. Repentance is the acknowledgment that you can’t make bail and the sincerity of your heart that tells Jesus you mean to do better. Hope to see you in heaven one day! (For more info, you can reference the Bible, you’ll find this in the Gospels).