How I Stopped Living for Others and Started Living for Myself | Intentional Life
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- When I stopped caring about what others thought of me my entire life changed. I stopped comparing myself to others and worked on self-improvement techniques to find my true self. I wanted to live my best life and by living intentionally I found a better life. To change my life, I needed to stop living for others and live the life I wanted to live. I improved my life as unconventional as it is by learning to trust myself and do what was best for me.
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00:00 Introduction
00:40 question life
02:12 life imagined
03:35 details about my future
04:21 what matters most
05:12 will it make me happy?
06:50 trusting yourself
07:21 beat of your own drum - Навчання та стиль
What are the ways you intentionally live?
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I intentionally live like a minimalist. I lived the life many would only dream of. In 2008, I lost my job and most of my 401k. That was a difficult time for me. Those I associated with were not around because they had similar issues. It took me five years to recover. My 401k never recovered because I closed it out to live. I never really talked about it until 2020, when I saw the direction our country was going. I prepared myself for the worse because I went down this road before. My worse fears came true. I am in a better place now than 2008. I learned a hard lesson that one can lose everything in a matter of seconds! Even as a minimalist, I go through the things in my home to decide if something is worth keeping. I buy only items which has multi-functions. Believe it or not, I am actually happier now with my life than before 2008.
I always liked living a minimalist life so I can spend time doing things I like.
Like reading 📖, writing ✍️ going to nature.
My belief is to be kind to all including animals.
Being vegan 🌱 is the best decision I’ve made.
I want to be more thankful.
The scenery is SO beautiful!!!thank you for sharingxxx
I'm JUST beginning to live intentionally. This began the other day when I realized, "I can begin now to make choices that make my future joyous for me." You are full of wisdom and soothing to listen to; thank you ;)
I started really living after my kids left home. However, after my husband died I had a choice to make. Continue exploring or stay at home grieving days gone by. At 70 I decided to start over. I'm an explorer and living the life I was intended.
You are an inspiration to us all! Thank you for sharing your story.
Sherry, that is so inspiring!
Well done cherry
So inspiring.
Living at 70, instead of grieving, this bright tears to my eyes. I want to be like you when I grow up.
I'm selling everything, going back to work on my Masters and travel, travel some more, hike, work on my photography and help animals! I'm 48 and I am no longer worried what people think of me. I've been told I'm crazy to leave the corporate world but I'm done. Did I mention I sold my home of 17 years and am now living in a small studio apartment!>! WOOT! Love this!
Why did you sell your house? You could have put it on rent
@@ni12907 I don't want to deal with renters and I'm leaving the state. I put that money into a high interest account and let it gain interest. I rather be free to move about, with less stuff and worry. I am planning on building out a cargo van. Can't wait!
@@txspacemom765 FANTASTIC!!!! FREEDOM!! 😊👍🎉
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How's it going?
At 70, I've lived for others as a Vietnam Era Marine Corps veteran, RN and volunteer. Gave up my dreams and aspirations to help others. Now, wandering what I have to do to find my true self again. The Great Outdoors are calling me and a more simplistic and harmonious life.
OMG this was so powerful, thank you for making this. I am a 62 yr old woman who doesn’t know where to go next. This has given me hope and I’ll watch it again and again. Blessings. ❤
I am 62 and widowed. I, too, don't know where to go next but am ready to find out.
“If I don’t choose to live life for myself, then life and others will make the choices for me” words of wisdom Connie, well said 😊
I get that. Mindset
Beautifully said!
I'm 62 yo and only recently started to wake up. I often wonder how I made it this far on auto pilot. Thank you for sharing the wisdom you've gained along life's way. 😊❤
I feel the exact same way. I was 40 years old and living on auto pilot.
@@ConnieRiet 🤗❤️
This is SO inspiring to me!
Yes I am a late bloomer as well 😊
Auto pilot, that’s perfectly said. I’m in my mid-60’s and feel the same. I think it happens with work, raising kids and the busyness of life - sometimes I wonder how I got it all done. It’s so much easier now to breathe and live life with intention
I’ve been a full time mom for 40 years. It’s been rough stuff. I’ve come to the realization the only thing that’s going to create the life I want is to stop clinging to the parental idea of “being there” for the kids because they continually create drama and def aren’t “there” for me. 60 is your Saturn return and I def feel like I’m starting over.
I feel you. I have been thinking this same thought.
National Park Service Ranger here! I dared to dream it and succeeded! Zion in Utah, now Pu’u Honua o Honaunau. Living the dream ❤
My sister wants to be a Park Ranger but she is 62 & wondering how to get there. She majored in Recreational Management. She works at a job she hates but makes good money. Kuddos to u!!❤
Oh Zion, beautiful Zion! Thank you for being a park ranger and protecting mother earth for all of us to enjoy. When I was a little girl, I dreamed of becoming a park ranger. Clearly, I haven't lost my love for the outdoors.
Good on you Connie. My whole life has been helping and supporting other people and neglecting myself. I have gained 6 stone. I am sick of helping other people who just use me. Thank you.
Your comment resonates with me. I am the same. There are a lot of us who have given our lives to others ahead of ourselves. Probably why we watch inspirational videos like this.
💁🏽♀️ For me, almost in my mid 50s, I am a wife & a mother, but remembering I am also an individual. I learn more & more to be ok with my personality. I accept that I am more introverted & have what people call "quirks." I strive to keep & remain in peace. Peace in my mind. Peace in my heart. I meditate in prayer alot. I am truly ok with my own company. I am much more of a minimalist than I ever have been before. I enjoy very little material items. Those are the ones I spend $$ on. I don't require much anymore. I learned to let go of alot. I am currently on a journey to forgiving myself. Forgiving myself for many decisions & things I said, that I regret.
We aren't encouraged enough to be our authentic selves and to search out what is joyous and fulfilling but to 'fit in'. Thank you once again for reminding us with your wonderful and inspiring example.
modern society/civilization is about domestication of humans - this means subjugating free-will, autonomy, and also the sovereignty of communities and family
Thank you so much Connie... I'm 65 years old and children learn what their taught by their parents their whole life. To be seen and not heard. Or some are abandoned by their parents mentally. You have just taught so many to lift this dark cloud of guilt hanging over everyone and to know we matter, we deserve to be included, and to live our best life on our terms. To break those chains that were put on us from childhood. It's ok to get out there and laugh Love nuture yourself. 🙏⚘🥂
I am now 75 years of age and just come back from Nepal and all those beautiful mountains, my wife has passed after 44 years together , and I've built a school for orphans, in Asia, at this moment i am planning a second orphanage for 67 kids and two more classrooms and building a chapel, with two Goats and a small pool of water for the kids. we have plans for a new kitchen and dinning room and a place for a bookstand. we will teach the kids to cook.
This is not a video. It is a love story .💖
Hi Connie, this is my life's challenge! I'm the oldest children for 4 siblings, and mother of 5. So, you can imagine how hard I've been trying to live my life, be independent. Now I'm 54 and it's becoming a reality as I understand that being myself is the best way I can help my family. Thank you so much for the inspiration!
Love this. I woke up during the covid pandemic and knew something wasn’t right. That started my questioning and what a transformation the last 3 years have been. I have changed everything, my awakening has been a blessing. I’m no longer conditioned and in the matrix xx
Amen 😊
Nicola please advice me on how to start over.
I am in my 30s, and have been always afraid to start over again.
Please tell me what is the first thing to change to get out of the matrix?
I have stopped buying toxic products, pay cash everywhere. Stopped tv and Netflix subscriptions. Stopped spending on general on material crap. Using my time to get knowledgeable about food prep, storage, sustainability. I am still a beginner but I have became debt and mortgage free as I knew where things were headed so used every penny I had to pay things off. I have a large community of like minded now and we work together to look at ways to not be part of this toxic world. I use no big pharma, only natural products. I am trying everyday to change the way I am and live for the better. Just start somewhere and keep going. Sending love x
@@begina1447
Stop watching the mainstream news.
This includes TV and Newspapers, it’s all
Fear based lies!
Look after your health with organic food and
products, support local farmers.
Spend time in nature and find 3 things a day to
be grateful for. Lastly, the government is not your
friend, God is so, get to know him.
This was my journey to getting out of the matrix
years ago.
The fact you have questioned getting out of the
matrix is the beginning of your journey.
Keep going❣️🙏🏻
@@begina1447 number 1: forget about yesterday. It's gone. Number 2:
Don't make plans for tomorrow. Tomorrow will happen regardless.
Number 3: enjoy what you're doing right now.
Live your life in the now, not in the before or in the next.
Oh my gosh you inspire me no end! My dear husband is in Stage 5 Parkinson's and failing and it's so heartbreaking. I am beginning to imagine life without him and what I would want it to look like. I don't want to just live out my life in grief. He wouldn't want that for me. I am really going to enjoy your new videos Connie. I just know it!
I have viewed this message two times: the first time hearing the message and seeing the visual you provided, then closing my eyes, and hearing your voice say the message. I absolutely agree wholeheartedly with everything that you said and I appreciate you. Your voice is very calming and relaxing. Continue to do what you love. Thank you.❤
AWE! Thank you so much! I'm thrilled to hear this message resonated with you.
Thanks for sharing this beautiful video! I'm starting my own new journey after losing my husband & selling my large home & property. I plan on moving away & living minimally & with intention ✨️
I am SO glad you left. Live your LIFE- according to YOUR INSTINCS.
Simple Goals / Simple life. / Total Happiness.
Connie you look so beautiful so fit so gorgeous ❤. I just love your hairstyle…and your natural grey hair. Connie sometime people who choose to live life on their own terms and choices are labelled as ‘ selfish’ . It’s a very courageous decision to think about your own priorities. In that way you are so inspiring 💞
Oh my gosh! Thank you for your lovely compliments!
I found your channel last week at just the right time. I have been decluttering my house and my mind. Your videos have inspired me. I know I am on the right path. Thank you❤️
Wonderful! I'm glad you are here!
Bingo😊
I was about to post, but then stopped to read the comments first. I can't believe how many of us are in a similar boat. I am wondering when I'll ever get to be the real me. I always put my husband and four kids' needs ahead of my own, way ahead. And now, at 61, I'm still doing it. Instead of working full-time to try to save some money for retirement, which is what I'd like to do for a few more years while having real vacation time (so I can occasionally travel) and sick pay and all the rest, I still work part-time with no benefits because I also have to watch my two-year-old granddaughter (she's going to have a baby sister soon, too). My two younger kids both moved out last year but now find themselves unemployed. I have a feeling at least one of them will have to return home (again). I've an autoimmune disease that causes a lot of pain, but I'm still in the kitchen every night making dinner for me and my husband and cleaning up afterward. I do all the shopping, planning, banking, cleaning, cooking, babysitting, and 95% of the other household chores. I don't know if I'll ever get to be me (or allow myself to be me since I'm always doing for others). This is probably why I watch Connie and similar UA-camrs: I live vicariously through them and hopefully gain some strength to one day get to the other side.
This is a lovely adventure, but not everyone can put themselves out there. Not everyone journeys through life with a best friend by her side. Others live outwardly more quietly, with a rich inner life.
Seeing and doing all there is in life can take many lifetimes. Don't ever stop dreaming.
Omg I needed this on Easter Sunday. My only daughter left for college in the fall and I have been crying and floundering. I don’t know who I am.
YES. ONLY STEPPING OUT OF OUR COMFORT ZONE WILL LEAD TO FULFILLMENT AND LIVELINESS. THANKS FOR THIS LOVELY VIDEO.
I really needs this!
I’m learning to live for me after my whole 27 yrs of taking care of kid.
This sounds like a retirement goal. I can't make any decisions to live my way, until all my kids are grown and living independently. After they leave my nest, the sky is the limit, as long as my health holds up. Happy retirement Connie, enjoy all you can, its later then you think.
❤🙂 66 and getting ready for another chapter! I know my reicpe for happiness .... in the process of putting it all together. Thank you and your support group!!
The universe is so creative in the ways it takes care of us. When we are alone we are never alone but are allowed to feel solitude. The universe never leaving you yet respecting your privacy. It’s remarkable and beautiful
Thankyou so much Connie, I really needed to hear this, as facing an empty nest myself, after 20 years of putting all my energy into raising our family and having turned the big 50, I feel at a cross roads in my life and questioning everything, especially what you said about how I want my life to look in the next 20years!
I am slowly embarking on the decluttering journey and my husband and I are preparing to live fulltime in a caravan.
Yes going against the norm! and living your life on your own terms can be scary and lonely, but I feel being stuck in a rut and doing what I feel has always been expected of me and not taking a chance to feel free and find your happy place, and getting to the end of your life with regrets is a lot scarier!
Thankyou for being an inspiration 🙏💗😊xxxx
Your videos have helped me through a separation. There’s a video you have where you show us how to catch our negative thoughts. I literally wrote your words and read them to my self every morning. I learned to change My negative thoughts into positive ones. I love your positiveness. Thank you Connie!!! ❤
Monica, I would love to know which of Connie's videos you watched on negative thoughts. I could use some help.
Yes, me too.
Cool video❤
The reason of unnecessary anxiety is getting affected by verbal abuses and critisism by other people! Take them seriously only it helps in improving level of peace of mind else ignore them!!
I have a simple rule - Keep interaction with other humans minimum and avoid getting into arguments if it doesnt affect you!
I live in India and you won't find descipline in public spaces - I used to get annoyed- not anymore...I don't care unless it affects me! I am a normal person and I don't aspire to become Gandhi!...😊
If a woman’s “best self” is the one who loves unconditionally and devotes her life to making her family the priority and focus of her life, there will be no reason to search for herself, for she was never lost.
This gives me hope. I have 3 kids, one of them is a newborn, I’m 32… I’m constantly giving, giving, giving. I love it but I am so tired. But I pray one day my hard work will pay of by raising 3 awesome people and having finally time for myself. Yet I feel kinda nervous because I really don’t know what my ideal life would be.
I’m past caring what others think but figuring out what I really want can be tricky.
I made the mistake of living life through my wife’s dreams in order that she could fulfil those dreams. And now four years after retirement I am seeking a divorce at 69 years old, and at the same time have become homeless. And have to start life over again again.
I hope everyone listens to the wise words of this woman.
Can't say that I ever saw some rule book claiming that you no longer can spend time taking care of yourself after years of taking care of others. In late stage life after all of the kids have launched and are doing well,you owe it to yourself to rediscover yourself and pursue new adventures.
It seems that the people who are in this age group are the ones who are becoming tired and worn out by the corporate compacter system. Letting go of anything that holds you down or back is so cleansing
I am from Inner Mongolia. Currently, I am lost in New York. I loved your comforting voice and video! Peace.
I'm a Daydreamer as well .... love where it takes me
Xo Soul sister 🙏🙏🙏🌞
Love this! I just turned 40 and decided I'm tired of living for others and decided to start my journey towards living my true self and what makes me happy. Looking forward to watching the rest of your videos. Thank you for being a calm and confident presence in this world!
This came on exactly the right moment in my life. Thanks!
Just a sujestion: Try pencil coloring, adult coloring books are inexpensive, good pencils are not as cheap but affordable. Paint by number kits are also something I do. Amazon has it all for under 100 dollars. I am offgrid in Brazil, retired airline captain,widower, living alone in a large farm 40 minutes drive from Rio. I am 75 now but feel like 50.. Good job of yours with your posts, All very inspiring!
This is something I want to do so much (travel and not be tied down by things) but I cannot afford it unfortunately. Instead I have some hobbies for just myself and have learned to become less rigid. I could never be far away from my kids either.
It's great to see that you have inculcated yoga into your daily routine.
And yes, living on your own terms is liberating & also offers you a deep spiritual dimension about yourself, your own thoughts & emotions & not being dependent on anyone else's approval or validation.
Your inner journey is unique and no one can walk that for you. It's our own personal experience. Enjoy your tour of the national park. 😊
I'm newly retired, and made a list of things I want in my daily life. I'm not far off, except not having a lock up and go home. Travel is top of my list of things to do. Decluttering, that's something I do constantly. I'm not a 'things' person, even though my profession was interior decorating. Thank you for all your beautiful videos. Very inspiring!
You can hear the peace in your voice that you are speaking truth.
I was enriched and confirmed by the comments till I saw several horrible, cruel and disgusting comments of people who have missed the point. I try to remember that we are all on different paths and just wish they would see that also. I hike alone most days and find myself a loner in an outward location while on my heart filling small farm I created with my husband 15 years ago. Time to start tweaking little by little to fit my future, more open path as I'm 66.
I’m sixty and I realized I don’t need to run on a trip or sell everything
I realized I can live among the Kaos but be balanced
There is no ideal life and a perfect day
This is how u become powerful as shit falls off u
Yet still be here
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I agree, "there is no perfect". The beauty to life is living a life that you love. Life is as unique as we are.
happiness & peace
Yes ... living for yourself is easy for a women. If ever you need an accessory companion ... valueless men will swoop in for a turn.
I love your voice, it's like your in your 30's... Thank you for sharing this video it helps me realized and understand, that yes maybe as a mother we sometimes forget about ourselves, we focused so much to our husband, to our children... But if we feel something missing it's not too late to find it in our own way...
Thank you Connie!
Thank you; it certainly seems that honesty with oneself is the first premise for beginning to choose to live; any pretense robs others as well as ourselves; scary to step off the carousel, but surely Life is there to continue to Open...
Greetings from South Australia 🇦🇺. We make choices for ourselves and live on our own terms, responsible to no one or their thinking. Others make choices for themselves.
I felt you were writing in my journal. Thanks for articulating it so clearly, it feels like a parallel to my own
There’s a reason this older video showed up on my feeds today when I watch all of yours. Oh man,Connie thanks❤
Bravo Connie for creating your own life by following the lead of your heart's inner drummer. It's exciting to watch as you embark on this new chapter. Happy Spring! Jenny
Absolutely powerful!
Love your message. Thank you.
I'm so thankful to have found your channel. Beautiful video and message, Connie. 😊
At the 9:00 minute mark I noticed all the wise faces in the rocks to the right on the screen!! Amazing energy and spirit in those beautiful rocks. What a perfect back drop for your inspirational chat. Maybe they were whispering the wise words of living life on your own terms and you’re finally able to hear them!🧡 I know I wouldn’t be able to hear your message if I haven’t already began my own awakening journey. Blessings to you and I look forward to seeing more snipets of your international travels.
Cool!
I noticed them too!
Thank you, Connie! I really love your videos. This is just in time! Continue inspiring us! ❤
Good for you. I find living authentically is truly hard in this fake, evil world.
That was exactly what I needed to hear today! Thank you! Much love ❤
So inspiring! Thank you❤
Lovely...thank you, Connie. I am not sure how many people really arrive at the same realizations you have in their lifetimes, which is sad.
I appreciate the fact, that you are a similar age as I am, so this gives me hope that I still can have changes in my life as well, as my youngest child is about to leave home. Life is not over for me yet...
Love and light to all on our journey ❤ to true North
Love this will re watch for sure.
Always love your videos Conniexxx thank youxxx
“To live in the eternal present there must be death to the past, to memory. In this death there is timeless renewal. If you as a human being transform yourself, you affect the consciousness of the rest of the world.”
- Jiddu Krishnamurti
(Connie TY for this video. A beautiful ripple added to our collective.)
I believe that living your own life after kids leaving home means forgetting each other and becoming strangers
This was perfectly timed for me. Thank you!
I'm glad you have the opportunity to do this. Good for you!
Beautiful & thanks for planting the seed ❤
Such a beautiful message. Thank you 🙏🏻
this is what I am going through right now. thanks for this beautiful, helpful video
Everyone is free to choose what they want. For myself, choosing what makes me happy is all well and good....but it won't bring me fulfillment. If I die without representing something that stands for service to others...I won't actually be happy. So I have the human side of me that naturally responds to joy and excitement and enjoyment like everyone else......but having tasted that I can't find a way to maintain it in a world with so much suffering without feeling the need to address it.
Beautiful very well said . You are a pleasure to listen to. Thank you needed this .
This is beautiful and so inspiring. Thankyou Connie for sharing your very wise words.
I just found your channel. What a stunning place. I have envisioned a lot over the past 8 years and now it’s all coming together. Thank you for the reminder of the small details ❤
Thank you for your video content, Connie. You inspire us to live in different ways, ideally with more peace and thoughtfulness! ❤
Love all your videos Connie, always inspiring and motivational. My children have also left home, with my wife passing away I am finding things that can fill the gaps like yoga and walking my dog.
Thought provoking. Great way to start the day. Thank you. ❤
Obrigada Connie ❤
Thank you ! Many greats words of wisdom.
This is absolutely beautiful .
Thank you.
Thank you for your profound message on higher conscious living. I can see that you are awakening spiritually which is so nice !😊
Thank you for your gentle insights and for sharing your exquisite life journey with us. 💜🙏
I love this Connie, I think there's something in the water, I just posted something along the same lines having passed an important threshold in my own life. You said it well & I agree we are here for a purpose, on purpose with joy & energy to share. 🌻🌟
Thank you for letting us know that you do not care what we think. It was good to hear .
Thank you for the pioneer spirit you have.
Beautifully spoken, lovely pictures of a peaceful life🌹
Connie thank you so much for your meaningful, informative videos.❤
I just discovered your channel!. This is the second video of yours I watched.
I've started my minimalist journey and it is the best journey for me.
Your voice is so soothing and your message speaks to my soul.
THANK YOU.
Lovely as usual ! So glad you are doing well on your new journey. I know this is also a decision made by your husband as well for himself. Thank you for your gifts…🙏🕊❤️