Severe PTSD from Childbirth | Depression Anxiety the reality of Birth Trauma in Motherhood
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- Опубліковано 9 жов 2023
- Hello friends, this is a little bit different than my usual video and is instead a video about my birth trauma and what happened to me in hospital to leave me with severe PTSD. This is my own experience and my own perspective on what happened.
Whilst my experience is going to be VERY different from others expecting a baby, I wish I had known about this, what could happen and had watched a video like this to prepare myself and my husband. Instead it was a total shock and has left me recovering from PTSD.
This is not my usual video, I usually post about country living, cottage life, cats and pretty places we visit, however I think it is important to be open and honest and discuss things like this as we are neglected as mothers to be and often treated badly.
There is a 1 in 4 chance of someone needing a c-section but there is not anything in place by the hospitals to support or care for the mothers once they go through this. Whilst some are lucky and experience no difficulties after or during, there is a LARGE group of women who do and end up in my situation or worse.
I want to share this so you feel comfortable to speak up and talk about what happened, there is still an ongoing investigation into this on my side but if you have any questions please do not hesitate to message me or comment.
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Thank you so much for being brave enough to put this video out there. It has been comforting/reassuring/helpful for me to watch and I'm sure it will help some other women to feel less alone and alienated in their experience too.
My birth experience was incredibly similar to yours, leading to severe birth ptsd. Intense therapy helped me hugely at the time, and I was gradually able to build the bond with my daughter that was missing for the first 2 years. The physical recovery and reclaiming sleep took longer admittedly. Anyway, thank you again for making this video. I'm so pleased that you have a loving, supportive husband and family to help you and I hope you continue to feel stronger, happier and empowered ❤ xx
Thank you so much for sharing your experience I’m so sorry you have felt this way too. It isn’t fun at all and I totally relate to everything you’ve said. I’m so glad you don’t feel so alone from watching this. It’s a process of recovery for sure I’m so pleased you got help 💕💛
Any sort of nonchalance by medical personnel when dealing with new mothers, especially first-time mothers, is unacceptable and unforgivable.
Childbirth is never easy, whether it be natural or via caesarean section, and it's scary. Mothers need to be kept informed about what is happening with themselves and their baby, during and after birth. They deserve to be treated with proper medical care, kindness and respect.
You have found the strength to get the help you need and continue to work your way through such a debilitating time. You should be very proud of yourself.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this awful experience, Lucy, especially with your first bub. 💜
Thank you so much for your kind words and support that means a lot to me to hear I’m glad you found my channel 🥰💛🥹
I came to this video after watching your London one. I wish you a blissfully happy life with your loved ones. ❤.
Thank you 🙏 i appreciate your support a lot xx
I’m so sorry you’ve went through all of this. Neither one of my children’s births went as planned and my recoveries were long and painful. I am sorry for the lack of compassion and care when you were struggling and sick. I’m sure this video will help a lot of new mothers feel seen🩷
Thank you Amanda for your comment, that’s really kind to hear and I’m sorry to hear about your births too 😞 xx
I just discovered your channel and watched a beautiful film of one of your adventures, then looked at the other videos you posted and chose this one. You are such a lovely and talented person I wish you and your family all the best. I feel so sorry that you have had to endure so much at a time when, but for the lack of support and incompetence of your caregivers, you might have avoided. I did not have difficult childbirths, but I did have a staggering lack of support and this video helped me. I hope all the discomfort and medical issues are soon behind you and you and your family enjoy many years of joy, happiness and loving support.
Thank you so much that’s so kind. I appreciate you subscribing and supporting me 🥰😘
I hate hospitals on a good day so after my first child learning how pushy staff can be after having a baby, on my second when the midwives/obgyn's started to not listen I dumped them and went to a birthing center. I knew, for me, being relaxed and happy was the most important thing to having a healthy, easy birth and I did. It's very aggravating that hospital staff are still treating pregnant women like they did in the convents years ago, like you deserve to be in pain or even die.
Thank you for sharing your experience and views I appreciate that and I’m sorry you experienced this too
I am ever so sorry for the trauma you suffered from and the horrendous care you received. 😢
I am stunned to hear of the insensitivity of people and so sorry you went through that. It also sounds like you suffered from post natal depression. Goodness you had a dreadful experience. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you x
I am so sorry this happened to you. I had to have a debrief with a consultant midwife due to certain things that happened during childbirth. There needs to be more understanding, support and defiy communication during implementation of maternal care so that the trauma doesn't happen in the first place. Sending you Best wishes
Thank you, I am really sorry you had to have a debrief and re-live it. I had hoped our debrief would be what I needed and help make sense of the horrific care but it just added to it as the woman running it had no idea about my case, was quite shocked when we discussed it and hadn't even read my file! She then ignored our follow up email regarding a debrief she offered about our daughters care.
I want to do all I can to make this better for women and stop this happening!
Thank you so much for your comment and I really appreciate you sharing your story with me. X
Thank you for sharing your story. While I find some of it shocking as I assumed you lived a charmed life (based on your lovely IG acct), it is a relief to hear that other women have experienced the pain and trauma of a birth that didn’t ‘go to plan.’ I developed severe preeclampsia and had to deliver my daughter 15 weeks early by emergency caesarean. She endured many complications of prematurity and I basically spent every day at the hospital neonatal intensive unit for the next four months. She is now 15 years old and I feel I still carry some ptsd from that period of our lives. So thank you for sharing your story and I’m so glad you are feeling on the road to recovery now. One thing I will say to you, I had NO intention of getting pregnant again after everything we went through, but after five years I did change my mind and had a healthy son with a delivery that was smoother (not perfectly so but better). Unfortunately but maybe fortunately you learn a lot that first traumatic time about what you want and need and can maybe feel more in control. Much love to you and your little family!
Hello Elizabeth,
Firstly thank you so much for your comment and sharing your experience with me. I’m really sorry to hear what happened to you fifteen years ago, it’s a shock nothings changed in that time isn’t it? Your situation sounds very scary and whilst different in some ways also the same. I didn’t share a lot of info into what I saw and experienced- but seeing a two day old child get injections / spinal and all sorts isn’t going to be good for anyone is it?
Of course, we do have a wonderful and happy life but it’s good to remember what you see on someone’s social page is a tiny glimmer. I know quite a lot of creators struggling and you’d never think it seeing their pages.
It’s my hope that I can be more open moving forwards ❤! Sending love x
Bless your heart. I'm so sorry that was your experience with your first baby. I cannot believe how little the medical community there knows of childbirth, trauma, and post partum. And on top of that, they sound very uncaring. Ugh it really makes me upset for you. You're very brave for sharing. You survived. Tabitha survived. I think you've come away from it a stronger person in a way. Sending love and hugs your way. 😘😘
Thank you so much that’s so kind to hear ❤! I appreciate your message 🥹😘
Wow this resonates and I really welcome you sharing it. Our birth was incredibly similar and like you no one seemed to care. Very brave to talk about ❤
Thank you for sharing that with me and I am really sorry you also had a horrid experience too, it's not ok and you're doing so well and are such a good Mum! X
Im so sorry that you went through that. I was fortunate to have 3 easy births, but i do know what it feels like to nesrly lose your baby as my 3rd was very poorly in PICU at 8 months old. You never fully grt over it, she's 5 now, but you do get stronger. Therapy can be very beneficial. Very brave of you to share your story xx
Hello, I just wanted to say thank you for talking about this topic. It's as if women are simply expected to "take it"! I remember my mother telling me about the birth of my brother (the first). I was appalled - she came to Australia from Italy in 1958 - still speaks minimal English, she's 88 - my brother was born in 1964, she was in labour for more than two days, couldn't understand what was being said, things like interpreters weren't really common. At a certain point she's being wheeled off somewhere and she thinks maybe it was going to be a C section, but she ended up with a large wound underneath. This was back when babies where all put in a nursery. So my brother was off there, my mum developed an infection and so had to remain in bed and after about a week she still hadn't even seen my brother. She was crying one day and a nurse made the effort to find out why and arranged for her to finally see my brother. My dad was working and wasn't confident about what was the done thing. She just went on and I was amazed she never mentioned it!
I chose not to have kids and I must admit, the thought of giving birth scares me in the best of circumstances! Sorry to ramble on so ☺️
Thank you so much for sharing that and for talking to me about that and your own experiences of not having children too.
Hello Lucy, thank you so much for sharing your experience, I feel very sad with some of the effects childbirth can have 😟 Where I live, we have a postnatal and depression cafe and play centre which has recently opened, which I think is great to have for families. ❤
That’s so nice to hear you’ve got that, I wish we had that in England. X
@@HerCountryLiving I live in the UK in Lancashire Lucy. It's a great start to have these centres where I live, hopefully more will open in other counties. 😊
Appalling. Childbirth is such a dangerous thing. Your care was so bad. This happens so often.
Thank you for your reply, it really is and I had little to no idea about just how dangerous it was until I experienced it.
There are two types of danger with it, physical and mental and unfortunately both occurred for me. I really appreciate your support! X
So wrenching I am so very sorry . This isn't ok I hope that you and your family get support and hospital dreadful . You are so brave