I recently had this guy told me “no one wants to marry a boring girl” after I refused to take a sip of alcohol. A few days after (end of 2023) I blocked him. And it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. I protected my peace and now my life is so much better because I don’t have him in my life anymore. We can’t tolerate getting treated bad or letting a guy make us feel bad because your future husband would never make you feel that way!!!! As women we need to be treasured.
You can be fun without alcohol. Alcohol really isn’t good for you physically or spiritually. Im happy to hear you blocked him. You saved yourself. We have boundaries to keep unkind people away from us.
I can't tell you how much your breakup videos helped me. I was in so much agonising pain I thought I would never get over him. Ever. Now a year later I feel nothing. Thank you so much for that Lumma. Congrats on your podcast
Am so happy for you same thing happened to me when I was going through pain of loosing I 5hought I would never get over him I thought it would just hurting me all my entire life but now it's been 8m and I feel nothing about him and the situation
It’s been 3 months and I basically feel nothing now, I’ve been focusing on myself completely that I no longer have time to wonder if my ex is gonna come back
im at the three month mark and i still miss him sometimes and wonder from time to time if he'll come back but ive come so far from where i was these comments strengthen my hope that i'll completely get over him thank you
@@mariasofiaseda2138 There’s a chance that our exes will come back when we least expect it, but the number one priority is to live our best lives and not put them on a pedestal. Whatever’s meant to happen will happen
5 mins before clicking on this video I was listening to a podcast and thinking to myself like " it would be great if lumma just started her podcast" and hearing you say that you're gonna start your podcast just makes me happy
This video is too personal 😭 I just got out of a relationship where I just realized I got love bombed. It hurts to question if his feelings for me were real or not
lummaaa i'm so happy that you're going to be doing podcasts! i love your pep talks so much and they've helped me through many difficult situations. the podcasts are going to be amazing and i can't wait.
Literally need this, this guy I’ve known for a year we constantly hung out from sept to December and then after we slept together he does not want to see me again.
Lumma I have never found a video talking to my heart like this and especially talking to those girls who have been chased even for months and left after sex by guys. You mentioned that The WizardLiz talks about this topic but it is not true. I follow her and she is a great mentor but when she talks about men it is clear she has never been “used” or “played” by a man (lucky her;), so she does not understand the dynamics and she tends not to understand women who have experienced this. As someone who lived that and felt horrible about herself for being used and abandoned, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting this video, and I wish you all the blessings for this year, your podcast and both your personal and professional life. I wish you get all you want Lumma❤️
can you please tell me how long did he persue you before he left you? were you both in a relationship or was it just the beginning of the relationship?
OVERSEASSS TRIP PLEASEE SIGN ME UP👏👏👏👏 I’m being so serious, this is so excited. It would be so awesome to meet such confident women I love on this channel😍😍
What's wrong with being predictable though? I don't believe you can become boring to someone who's right for you. And if u keep trying to stay 'not boring' to someone, then the relationship with them can become some kind of a competition or a race idk.. It doesn't feel right. I feel that there's so much wrong with the word 'boring' itself in the context of relationship.
This! It’s like she’s saying don’t be this but be that so you can have them like you but that’s inauthentic and will lead others to get heartbroken and you’ll end up w the wrong person. We need to normalize being yourself and healing, not to change the external factors just to be liked by others and you’ll be broke. It’s so misleading and promotes people pleasing. Don’t fall for these capitalist mindsets. No hate to her at all but we need to criticize these self help influencers and think why we on the same cycle over and over again. To the people reading this please get therapy and take these videos w a grain of salt. Some are useful advices but be careful with what you hear. Society is just messed up these days expecting you to be this, do that, spend that, etc. Please reach out to a professional. That’s how I realized some videos like this can be harmful to others including me until I talked to my therapist and others.
@@prettybabessssYou might be with a person for example that will find you boring as they get to know you and spend time with you. That just means you both were incompatible. But the person who will love you and is suitable for you won’t find you boring and will love you for who you are.
This is why following dating rules is so important if you want to avoid these guys. Wait for sex. No player is going to wait 8 weeks/dates etc for sex. I know a few women who have followed these rules and found their guys. The right guy who is really into you will wait. Sex is what women have that men want. The men who want relationships will wait for it because it’s not all they want from you. I was love bombed and future faked by a married guy. Had no idea he was married. When actions don’t match words that’s where the truth lies. Thankfully I didn’t get too invested, we never had sex. Just wait, the truth will come out eventually.
Excited for the spotify pep talks and podcasts! Music is good but I really enjoy ur peptalks cuz well they do pep me up more than music does sometimes!!
GORGEOUS as always. thanks for this video. I needed some motivation to clean my kitchen, and listening to this while I did it distracted me and made it 10x easier.♥️
Lovebombing typically comes from Narcissists . Avoid!! Very unhealthy toxic abusers , sometimes they are hard to spot , particularly covert types as they wear their mask well. Hugs to anyone going through this ❤️
Lumma thank you for your videos. It has been a hell of 3 weeks and your videos really helped me moving on. I was in a 5 year marriage and it ended because of his family not wanting me. He chose to leave me and it was so painful. I even begged twice for him to come back to me but he said no more. So I had finally blocked him and he no longer have access to me. Your videos really saved me from being so sad and just gave me hope in life. You taught me to love and value myself more than before. Keep making videos because you are helping a lot of people. ❤
@@zinazoulou3574 we had sex and he went to his living room and he left me in his room, brought me a blanket and water and we wait till new year, we hugged and went back to sleep and by the next day he was urging me to leave because he had “things to do” and it felt kinda odd and I left and that week he was replying late and only once a day so since I have effective communication now, I ended up telling him how I was feeling and he was ok letting me go lol and gave me so many excuses about work and busy and bla bla bla 😂😂😂😂😂😂 so it’s all fine, Karma will visit him later ❤️
My bf of 4 yrs broke up with me because he wanted to focus on himself, his careee and said he kind of used me to stroke his egob(he was low on self-esteem since beginning of our relationship). So i let him go but fast forward to 6 months he's dating another girl and posting her(never did for me) im just left a bit shattered because of a tight punch on my face. I guess he didn't need to find himself, he just wanted to find someone new.
Ladies, please don't sleep around. Make him pursue you, nake sure that you like him and want to be with him, that's he's loyal and decent. It takes about 3-4 months for people to show you who they actually are and what they are capable of. When you allow someone in your body, it connects you in an energetic way and gives them power to really harm you. Just wait! If they like you, they will be okay with waiting. Plus you protect yourself. Hook-up culture is so basic. Be different ❤❤❤
the fact that I was love bombed and ghosted this kept happening in relationship and he ended up breaking the relationship saying that im characterless and bs reasons to get rid off once he got right amount of validation he treated me like a begger made behave intrusive and blamed me for my reaction ive been self harming , dying every day and night with anxiety and panic attacks
Lumma!! I just wanted to say I am an OG fan hahah I watched one of your first videos on your first heartbreak and ever since then I have loved all of your videos
I didn't understand the point about needing to be a business owner or world traveler to be valuable. Too much of those things and you don't have the time, balance, or stability for a good relationship. Plus, there are other values in life.
I don’t know if I’m just a sims character and God has a sick sense of humor sometimes. Because My Instagram and UA-cam are in sync with my current life events. In Summary I trauma bonded with a narcissistic ass BOY and fell for him, Helped and cared for his literal homeless ass for 6 months. Only for him to take advantage of my kindness… He ended up asking my friend for friends with benefits the same exact Wednesday night he messaged me. He messaged me at 5pm and messaged her at 8pm. He “cut me off” saying it’s my fault and I disrespected him.( Ofc he never says how I “disrespected” him) In reality he knew I’d find out because she told me before anything happened. I know (I didn’t lose shit but him as my problem) But questioning my self worth in allowing myself to get taken advantage of in a narcissistic situation… it’s been rough.
Luma, as always you are amazing! Thank you for the profound content. You are my role model and inspiration🤍Please visit Tokyo again and have a meet and greet! Love you!!!
I didn’t come here to brag, just to teach. Maybe I was just lucky, but this never happened to me. And I will tell you why. For a man to get to sleep with me and be in my life, he needs to pass so many damn tests. Honestly, so many that only someone that’s actually in love with me will stay. I have my own hunger games.
Tjats depend with the situation as well especially when u have kids to look after and ur partner all he does is to party and go out with his mates. Even though u like to do alot of things for urself but no one could look after ur kids, what are u gomna do? Leave it behind and put ur kids first.
ahhh u r so amazing, I reallyyyy adore u girl. Did the same shit like sooo many times. Always trying to talk your sentences to myself when shit like that occurs. But I still sometimes fail💀at some point I’ll live like u preach us fr🫶🏼
Hi i just broke up with my ex after 9 years she ended it and want to see if the grass is greener. She told me she wants to call and see how we feel and decided both that we go NC for 6 monts. It feels like she wants me back later in life like she some what told me and dont want to remove me completely from her life. It ❤ she plays with me feelings im heartbroken and lost atm😢
I recently had this guy told me “no one wants to marry a boring girl” after I refused to take a sip of alcohol. A few days after (end of 2023) I blocked him. And it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. I protected my peace and now my life is so much better because I don’t have him in my life anymore. We can’t tolerate getting treated bad or letting a guy make us feel bad because your future husband would never make you feel that way!!!! As women we need to be treasured.
I don’t drink either and my ex would get bothered too
You can be fun without alcohol. Alcohol really isn’t good for you physically or spiritually. Im happy to hear you blocked him. You saved yourself. We have boundaries to keep unkind people away from us.
Its almost 6am and I still haven't slept. Somebody hurt my feelings lol. I needed this, now
us
Sleep makes u prettier cause better health go to bed at decent times no matter what queen
Sending hugs from Kenya🫂
I feel you hun. Take care of yourself and don't let anyone get to you💗
I’ve been going through the same thing. You’re not alone. A big hug from the uk
I can't tell you how much your breakup videos helped me. I was in so much agonising pain I thought I would never get over him. Ever. Now a year later I feel nothing. Thank you so much for that Lumma. Congrats on your podcast
Am so happy for you same thing happened to me when I was going through pain of loosing I 5hought I would never get over him I thought it would just hurting me all my entire life but now it's been 8m and I feel nothing about him and the situation
It’s been 3 months and I basically feel nothing now, I’ve been focusing on myself completely that I no longer have time to wonder if my ex is gonna come back
im at the three month mark and i still miss him sometimes and wonder from time to time if he'll come back but ive come so far from where i was these comments strengthen my hope that i'll completely get over him thank you
@@mariasofiaseda2138 There’s a chance that our exes will come back when we least expect it, but the number one priority is to live our best lives and not put them on a pedestal. Whatever’s meant to happen will happen
I can literally hear LUMMA talk the whole day and not get bored❤
Thank you Lumma, you always come out with the pep-talks I need at the right time ❤
5 mins before clicking on this video I was listening to a podcast and thinking to myself like " it would be great if lumma just started her podcast" and hearing you say that you're gonna start your podcast just makes me happy
Girl, you got me through my break up and you keep inspiring me to be stronger and better all the time. Keep going 💗✨✨
This video is too personal 😭 I just got out of a relationship where I just realized I got love bombed. It hurts to question if his feelings for me were real or not
literally
i cant wait for ur podcast gurl. this vid was so good - u have emotionally and mentally grown so much
lummaaa i'm so happy that you're going to be doing podcasts! i love your pep talks so much and they've helped me through many difficult situations. the podcasts are going to be amazing and i can't wait.
Literally need this, this guy I’ve known for a year we constantly hung out from sept to December and then after we slept together he does not want to see me again.
Lumma I needed this right at this moment in my life, thank you :)
Lumma I have never found a video talking to my heart like this and especially talking to those girls who have been chased even for months and left after sex by guys. You mentioned that The WizardLiz talks about this topic but it is not true. I follow her and she is a great mentor but when she talks about men it is clear she has never been “used” or “played” by a man (lucky her;), so she does not understand the dynamics and she tends not to understand women who have experienced this. As someone who lived that and felt horrible about herself for being used and abandoned, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting this video, and I wish you all the blessings for this year, your podcast and both your personal and professional life. I wish you get all you want Lumma❤️
can you please tell me how long did he persue you before he left you? were you both in a relationship or was it just the beginning of the relationship?
lumma, you have no idea how your video helps me so much. thank you!
The way I love Lumma eh! She’s literally so wierdly cool 😂❤😍
Thank you so much for your advice!! ❤
I love your pep talk girl❤❤❤
OVERSEASSS TRIP PLEASEE SIGN ME UP👏👏👏👏 I’m being so serious, this is so excited. It would be so awesome to meet such confident women I love on this channel😍😍
What's wrong with being predictable though? I don't believe you can become boring to someone who's right for you.
And if u keep trying to stay 'not boring' to someone, then the relationship with them can become some kind of a competition or a race idk.. It doesn't feel right. I feel that there's so much wrong with the word 'boring' itself in the context of relationship.
This! It’s like she’s saying don’t be this but be that so you can have them like you but that’s inauthentic and will lead others to get heartbroken and you’ll end up w the wrong person. We need to normalize being yourself and healing, not to change the external factors just to be liked by others and you’ll be broke. It’s so misleading and promotes people pleasing. Don’t fall for these capitalist mindsets. No hate to her at all but we need to criticize these self help influencers and think why we on the same cycle over and over again. To the people reading this please get therapy and take these videos w a grain of salt. Some are useful advices but be careful with what you hear. Society is just messed up these days expecting you to be this, do that, spend that, etc. Please reach out to a professional. That’s how I realized some videos like this can be harmful to others including me until I talked to my therapist and others.
nobody wants to be with a boring partner. do the work to keep the relationship alive and spicy
@@prettybabessssYou might be with a person for example that will find you boring as they get to know you and spend time with you. That just means you both were incompatible. But the person who will love you and is suitable for you won’t find you boring and will love you for who you are.
This is why following dating rules is so important if you want to avoid these guys. Wait for sex. No player is going to wait 8 weeks/dates etc for sex. I know a few women who have followed these rules and found their guys. The right guy who is really into you will wait. Sex is what women have that men want. The men who want relationships will wait for it because it’s not all they want from you. I was love bombed and future faked by a married guy. Had no idea he was married. When actions don’t match words that’s where the truth lies. Thankfully I didn’t get too invested, we never had sex. Just wait, the truth will come out eventually.
Excited for the spotify pep talks and podcasts! Music is good but I really enjoy ur peptalks cuz well they do pep me up more than music does sometimes!!
I really needed this today!!❤
Yasss so excited for the podcast and the video versions 🤩🤩🤩
You look so much better with this lashes 😍😍
i love your hair in a bun
This really mean to me , thank you my girl ❤
ykno its gonna be a good day when lumma vid is up
Taco 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙏🩷 girl had me dying
MY GIRLLLLLLL SPEAKINGGGG THE TRUTHHHH!!!!!
You are absolutely stunning and such an intelligent woman!
I very much needed this so thank you!
Listening to this in the mornings ❤
I need this on Spotify!
GORGEOUS as always. thanks for this video. I needed some motivation to clean my kitchen, and listening to this while I did it distracted me and made it 10x easier.♥️
Lovebombing typically comes from Narcissists . Avoid!! Very unhealthy toxic abusers , sometimes they are hard to spot , particularly covert types as they wear their mask well. Hugs to anyone going through this ❤️
3:54 YESSS
very much needed bc i’m jaded 😣
For your friend and the guy at 4:18 - Were they in a relationship? Wishing her the best 💛
You described every boy situation I’ve ever been in and it’s a sad realisation
Lumma thank you for your videos. It has been a hell of 3 weeks and your videos really helped me moving on. I was in a 5 year marriage and it ended because of his family not wanting me. He chose to leave me and it was so painful. I even begged twice for him to come back to me but he said no more. So I had finally blocked him and he no longer have access to me. Your videos really saved me from being so sad and just gave me hope in life. You taught me to love and value myself more than before. Keep making videos because you are helping a lot of people. ❤
I needed this so bad!!💓
This is what exactly happened to me the first week of this month, we even spent new years together and boommm lol ghosted 😂😂.
he left after or before intimacy?
@@zinazoulou3574 we had sex and he went to his living room and he left me in his room, brought me a blanket and water and we wait till new year, we hugged and went back to sleep and by the next day he was urging me to leave because he had “things to do” and it felt kinda odd and I left and that week he was replying late and only once a day so since I have effective communication now, I ended up telling him how I was feeling and he was ok letting me go lol and gave me so many excuses about work and busy and bla bla bla 😂😂😂😂😂😂 so it’s all fine, Karma will visit him later ❤️
Lumma and TheWizardLiz are my top 2🩷
My bf of 4 yrs broke up with me because he wanted to focus on himself, his careee and said he kind of used me to stroke his egob(he was low on self-esteem since beginning of our relationship). So i let him go but fast forward to 6 months he's dating another girl and posting her(never did for me) im just left a bit shattered because of a tight punch on my face. I guess he didn't need to find himself, he just wanted to find someone new.
I'm sorry 😢for what happened to you,I really hope you heal,how are you doing today?
Ladies, please don't sleep around. Make him pursue you, nake sure that you like him and want to be with him, that's he's loyal and decent. It takes about 3-4 months for people to show you who they actually are and what they are capable of. When you allow someone in your body, it connects you in an energetic way and gives them power to really harm you. Just wait! If they like you, they will be okay with waiting. Plus you protect yourself. Hook-up culture is so basic. Be different ❤❤❤
I’m a guy !! And it happens both ways. 😂 I’m using this advice. Love this channel💁🏽♂️
loveee youuu keeeep shinninggg
I love your advice 👌
lummmaaa i loveeee ur voiceee ❤️🥺
I love you lumma
I don’t have a sister and ur literally my bigger sister ❤
the fact that I was love bombed and ghosted this kept happening in relationship and he ended up breaking the relationship saying that im characterless and bs reasons to get rid off once he got right amount of validation he treated me like a begger made behave intrusive and blamed me for my reaction ive been self harming , dying every day and night with anxiety and panic attacks
Lumma!! I just wanted to say I am an OG fan hahah I watched one of your first videos on your first heartbreak and ever since then I have loved all of your videos
Lumma, you’re so beautiful
I needed this title/video lol 😂 ❤
Lumma is a vibe when you she her vidio I pass a flying kisses 😂
I didn't understand the point about needing to be a business owner or world traveler to be valuable. Too much of those things and you don't have the time, balance, or stability for a good relationship. Plus, there are other values in life.
Stating facts!
btw if he didnt get u the ring u r single this is what i believe in.... bec if a man wants u he will marry u asap
Always love ur videos
Love from Indonesia 🤍
Hi lumma!!! ❤
its like youre reading my mind
You are stunning 🎉
Needed this video ❤
Come thruuuuuuuuuuu❤❤❤❤
I don’t know if I’m just a sims character and God has a sick sense of humor sometimes. Because My Instagram and UA-cam are in sync with my current life events. In Summary I trauma bonded with a narcissistic ass BOY and fell for him, Helped and cared for his literal homeless ass for 6 months. Only for him to take advantage of my kindness… He ended up asking my friend for friends with benefits the same exact Wednesday night he messaged me. He messaged me at 5pm and messaged her at 8pm. He “cut me off” saying it’s my fault and I disrespected him.( Ofc he never says how I “disrespected” him) In reality he knew I’d find out because she told me before anything happened. I know (I didn’t lose shit but him as my problem) But questioning my self worth in allowing myself to get taken advantage of in a narcissistic situation… it’s been rough.
you'll get better honey I promise!(I'm a girl)
Luma, as always you are amazing! Thank you for the profound content. You are my role model and inspiration🤍Please visit Tokyo again and have a meet and greet! Love you!!!
I love you ❤ thank youu
I didn’t come here to brag, just to teach. Maybe I was just lucky, but this never happened to me. And I will tell you why. For a man to get to sleep with me and be in my life, he needs to pass so many damn tests. Honestly, so many that only someone that’s actually in love with me will stay. I have my own hunger games.
Good I will watch your videos until you are ninety! 💟💟💟 I am just wondering which topics you will speak about that at that time!? 😂😂
Luma I got played lol, but I watched your videos and I have those hard days but 2025 will be my year.
❤
I feel ashamed let a cliwn hurt my feelings once never again ❤
when is the podcast coming!
Tjats depend with the situation as well especially when u have kids to look after and ur partner all he does is to party and go out with his mates. Even though u like to do alot of things for urself but no one could look after ur kids, what are u gomna do? Leave it behind and put ur kids first.
ahhh u r so amazing, I reallyyyy adore u girl. Did the same shit like sooo many times. Always trying to talk your sentences to myself when shit like that occurs. But I still sometimes fail💀at some point I’ll live like u preach us fr🫶🏼
i was boring afterall☹☹
BE GOOGLE THAT ADDR
Ello from the Philippines!
Umut Akalin
hi omggg
5:30
SCREAMING I HAD TO PAUSE AT THERES NO SUCH THING AS RIGHT PERSON WRONG TIMING
Hi i just broke up with my ex after 9 years she ended it and want to see if the grass is greener. She told me she wants to call and see how we feel and decided both that we go NC for 6 monts. It feels like she wants me back later in life like she some what told me and dont want to remove me completely from her life. It ❤ she plays with me feelings im heartbroken and lost atm😢
You mean, killer Clowns ?
K5 GLOBAL HIGH TECH THAT WAS ME NOW DEAR OK
I really hate to be the one to break this to you but those are knock off UGGs
UGGs since 1974 is the og of uggs
I love your videos, but UGG’s the production of these ugly shoes is so brutal 💔
The crazy thing is that there are girls that would sleep with you if you ask. You don’t need to promise the world and the future 🫥