The worst part is when you don’t want them back but still are grieving the memories you made together. I don’t miss him I just miss the relationship we used to have. I cry when I think about how In love we were and how I know it would never be the same again. Thats what stings :/
Meeeeee. It’s the memories. He met my son . I took big steps with him… i know to much has been done for it to ever it to ever work out.. i understand you
Yea that’s what I’m going through rn- I miss our memories and having him by my side, but I wouldn’t want him back… the way he left so easily… didn’t let me explain or communicated… the way he acted so stubbornly…
I struggle with statements like this because there are situations like mine where we are just young and one or both of us just simply cannot provide what is needed of our partner due to inexperience or just immaturity. Facts are we know what we want to give to our partner but real life just says the time isn’t now…
For me it is "if they were your soulmate, they wouldn't want to hurt you". I made the decision to break up but it felt very painful because it was my first relationship.
This is what I was explaining to my ex while he was breaking up with me. Thank you for putting it in better words. Note I have to just come to terms with loving someone so much more than they loved me, and then not wanting me after 7 years of dating while I still love them
The craziest thing to me is….I actually got my ex back. I went through all the heartbreak, every damn stage, and eventually…we got back together, recently. But in between these stages, I fell out of love. Honestly, I’ve been debating on ending things recently. Because what I realized was, my ego was the biggest thing feeding my heartbreak. Once my ego was fed, I’ve realized that was what my brain desperately wanted the most. Not the person, but the feeling of being wanted back. It’s so crazy to me in hindsight
same thing happened to me recently. me n him when through a horrible breakup n he actually came back which surprised me, but he ghosted me about a week ago and i’ve been crying on and off. the past pain came back and i feel stupid for accepting him back even though i knew deep down he would have probably done something like this. :( it hurts to be ghosted
So true! I think we get caught up in the idea that we lost “the one”, but after watching a lot of Matthew Hussey videos I’ve realized that person couldn’t be “the one” because they chose to leave you. The right person will choose you and keep on choosing you.
Its been a week since my break up. Mine decided to go back to his ex after being with me three months. So I guess there is hope for some, but probably not for me.
Day 4 for me. Together for 8 years, many good memories and tons of terrible scars. A friend said to me on day 1: “maybe it’s a good thing that the relationship left you, because I know you would never have left, in spite of your own unhappiness.” I grieve the loss of the family that that I had found with his family. I have no siblings and his family had taken me in as one of them. My daughter has now also lost the feeling of having cousins.
How do I start doing the things I love again,I stopped TikTok and now im afraid to open the app including romance mangas I can't do the things I enjoyed im so scared
The hard part about healing is that it’s a real rollercoaster, i tend to do really well for awhile and then other days I get triggered and upset myself because i thought I was over something that I wasn’t. And I feel like I’m back to square one. Moments like that make me lose hope that I’ll never get over the guy. :(
me too, i was doing so good last week and two days ago i just broke down, now i feel like i’m back to square one as well. heartbreak really does come in waves.
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My hardest thing is just completely not talking to the person you loved for so long and having too resume life as normal even though you are heartbroken. It’s so hard to get through the days at work heartbroken…
I have accepted that we're not meant to be together, we've been broken up for 4 months now. The happy memories make me happy, the reasons we broke up for make sense to me. But what I'm actually grieving is the idea of forever we built in the relationship! It's been toughest to accept that him and I won't be "we" again. He was just a small chapter in my story. The part that him and I are never gonna be together again hurts the most. The whole idea of future we built together is the real grief to deal with. I'm happy, I believe I'll find love again, I just need to deal with this grief.
@@user-fp1ml3qk3e Hi lovely, I am doing better than ever, hit the 5 months mark and it doesn't hurt that much. I got rid of all images, texts and physical items, nothing to hold on to, so that's really helped. Also the things I typed in the previous msg, I think I've healed from it because I don't feel like that idea hurts me anymore. I've just been breaking my own prejudices and really investing in myself. All things I waited to do with a partner, I'm not doing and enjoying alone and it's been empowering and liberating! Can't wait for you to feel this free energy, lot's of love, power and healing to you❤❤🧿
Please make sure you are completely moved on from before you start to date anyone. My guy just broke up with me last week to return to his ex-fiancé after being apart for six months. Him and I were together for only three months, but it still hurts cause I fell for him after two months.
Literally been re watching this because I can NOT stop crying. This is giving me SO much hope. I will be alone and that will be okay. If he wanted me he would've choose me. His loss. Not mine.
Same for me. Also first Love, also living together, also thought we were happy and then he left me on a random Monday… But at least her ex moved out, he will be spending the next three month in our shared flat because he 'has no where else to go' :‘)
@@zinazoulou3574 hey - it’s been 6 month now and I think I can say that I am finally over it! He moved out 2 month ago which definitely made the biggest change. It really helped me to realize that he never put any effort into the relationship and really had some issues with himself. I sometimes see him with his new gf in uni and it doesn’t hurt anymore. A few month ago I could have never imagined that. So I can really say that you will truly get over it. It may took me half a year but I am so happy that the breakup happened in the after math. I started new hobbies, made new friends and experienced so much stuff which wouldn’t have happened if we were still together!!
After experiencing this pain of being heartbroken, I can certainly see how some people decide to end their lives. I imagine so many of us fight harmful thoughts but please be strong. Find value within yourself, I am actively going through now, quite literally today I found out everything I needed to know and my heart has been shattered. I won’t sit here spill my story, it’s complex and I don’t want pity, but it’s the worst pain I’ve felt until this point in my 28 years. Each day is a battle, please keep going, we can do it together! We will look back in months or years and smile at the process that shaped us into who we’re meant to be. Stay strong and put your faith in god when you are weak, my biggest thing is when my dark thoughts consume me is to pray. I just pray and it always passes. Time will heal, and I pray for anyone dealing with this pain🙏🏼
@Rukhxoxo im getting better everyday, there will be some days when it's worse than the others and some that are better too. If you're experiencing heartbreak, just trust me and Lumma that it's true that you will heal, definitely. Many people have gone through this and they survive. We too shall survive my friend
I would add "do not stalk your ex. Stop following them on social medias or try to watch their stories. Block them. It's gonna hurt less like this" to the list of things that could help when going through a break-up. It's gonna make things easier & healing will be faster 😊 At least it works for me!
Yes. 100%. I went through a break up and because I was trying to explain myself, he blocked me. And i feel great about it. Now I just don't waste time checking on him or seeing when he was online. No contact is so much better, helps you forget them and move on
@@insanelittlefangirl I know it's hard, you need a very good self discipline and also distract your mind with something else (aka things you enjoy doing/hobbies/things you have to do). Build a schedule and focus on that so your mind doesn't even have the slightest chance of thinking about the person 😁
You have no idea how therapeutic it is to hear you explain everything while not giving false hope. This is the first video I’ve seen that isn’t either optimistic or pessimistic. It’s just pure understanding.
There is no bigger turn off than them leaving and rejecting you. That should be the biggest repellent about them…that they abandoned you and the relationship.
@@skiiiii664 we got back together after 36 days and our relationship is much better this time around . Those 36 days were the worst of my entire life. I lost a LOT of weight as I didn't eat for 30 of those days. My mental health was shattered. I hope I never have to live through that again because I didn't know how I was going to survive it 😥 I hope you are ok ! Thankyou foe checking in 🖤 P.S I actually wrote many songs during the breakup period. Two of them are up on my page if you would like to see/hear. They're called "blood moon" and "no Memories, no dreams" and we're written on day 3 of the breakup so the pain was SO BAD 💔 I made the video for blood moon mid-breakup too and the part in the video where I'm singing into the mic,that was real pain and tears
I’m the one who left, because he was playing games and started treating me badly and ignoring me and now I’m still the one feeling heartbroken and sad because why did his behaviour towards me change so fast
„The most beautiful souls are those who walked out of the fire, then returned with water for those still in it” - not sure who said it but it popped up in my mind listening to your videos 😊 thank you!
I've been here. We were together for 10 years, and he ended up leaving me for someone else. It took me a year of heartbreak through covid to heal but I've never been happier. I went through all of these stages. I watched all the videos about getting your ex back. But when I got over him I was done. And 2 years later he still wants to get back together and I will never go back. Him cheating on me was the best thing that could of ever happened to me! Everything happens for a reason and believe me you will heal!
My ex broke up with me yesterday and I feel like absolute shit. Everything hurts. My whole body PHYSICALLY hurts and I can’t stop crying and thinking about him. He hurt me so bad, but I still love him. I really think this video will be able to help me throughout my “recovery” so I’m leaving this comment here and then when I’m finally happy again and healed I will come back. Thank you Lumma!
Update! It’s been about 1,5 months since the break up. The first two days was so bad and so painful! I stayed in bed all day and I didn’t eat… But then it got better and better and for about 4-5 weeks I felt really good! I was happy! I went to the gym consistently, I spent time with my friends, I worked a lot and went on many job interviews. I was excited about my future! I’ve also been partying A LOT haha and dating a bit. But… for the last 1,5-2 weeks I have been feeling really bad again. I am thinking about my ex CONSTANTLY and I’m very sad and depressed. I miss him. I miss our relationship, our friendship. I miss his voice. I miss talking to him. A part of me wants to get back together with him, but another does not. He hurt me so bad! He broke my heart into a million pieces, TWICE. In order for us to get back together A LOT of change has to happen within him. He has to stop being so egocentric and start prioritizing and listening to other people than himself! And I don’t think that kind of change can happen in two months, six months, maybe not even a year! As of right now, I don’t want to get over him. I have this incredibly strong gut feeling telling me that we are meant to be. And I got that same feeling the first time I met him. He is studying right now but he comes home this summer and hopefully we can meet up then and talk. So, in the meantime I am going to focus on myself, my job and my physical and mental health. I will keep you updated haha ;) Thank you for your encouraging words!!
"Maybe we'll meet again, when we're slightly older and our minds less hectic, and I'll be right for you and you'll be right for me. But right now I am chaos to your thoughts and you are poison to my Heart"
The “false hope” phase is like a Band-Aid 😅 I’m having to try so hard to not keep slipping back to watching these UA-cam videos that give me false hope lol.. I’m at a phase where I realise I can only work on myself to get myself out of this place I’m in!! Christmas was so different this year I couldn’t be present at all.. I hope whoever is reading this pushes on 💪🏽 you got this!
I completely agree, I realised when I was watching the 'Ex Back' videos that I was simply waiting for him to come back, to show signs - and recently I realised, I just could not wait any longer, I needed focus on other things. When he didn't reach out over Christmas and New Year it really made me realise that he is choosing to stay away, I was waiting for him & he clearly was not interested; it was hard and I felt terrible most of the holidays. As of the New Year i've been trying to stay away from Ex Back vids, for my own mental health, knowing that having that hope is actually causing more stress and disappontment. I've decided to look for a fresh start, rather than the same old, same old. It still hurts and that is why I return to Lumma's videos for motivation to continue.
This is the only breakup video that actually needs to be on UA-cam 😂 grounded, realistic and hopeful. THANK YOU! This is the video that finally helped me release hope and decide to move on and have hope for my own life again. Thank you so so much
Exactly, it helps so much! I did exactly she did. I watched so many no contact rule videos to have this hope of getting him back. Now I am on week 2 and finally starting to accept our relationship is over. I also realized HOPE is so dangerous and it prevents me from healing!
ur 3 month of heartbreak video showed up and I clicked on it because something told me it would reassure me, here I am again! I really appreciate your videos they really helped me!
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My wife left me after 20 yrs of being together. Thank you for your video, I'm watching it nearly every single day and I'm crying with you. It's a weird connection that you can only have with someone who actually experience similar pain and can understand how you feel at that moment.
Thanks, really appreciate your support. 3rd month just started and the pain is still huge, but like someone smart said 'We've got to live, no matter how many skies have fallen'.
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Everyone dealing with someone deciding to leave you, I send you an abundance of love and strength. I know your feelings. I feel for you. And I love you. Blessings!
Thank you so much!!! It’s been so long since I’ve “heard that” from someone. Other than my boys of course. I hope you’re kicking ass in life wherever you are right now!
Watched this 6 months ago and I genuinely did not think back then that I would EVER be able to get through my own break up. But, you were right about EVERYTHING!!! It did hurt less, I did move on, I did get better, I smiled again, I found someone who is GENUINELY so so nice to me, and my ex also came back to me… but I knew better this time. I wish him the best and in fact I’m GRATEFUL that it happened because it helped me SO much as person. And I just want to thank you for this video for making me even look forward to it getting better in the future because it really did !!! ❤❤
Watching this a year after going through the hardest breakup of my life and I realize now, i went through all of these stages, some were longer than others, and going from the depression stage to the upward turn felt so sudden, when the depression stage lasted 6 months. For those who are reading this, you'll be surprised when you get to the upward turn, it can feel like a miracle, like you didn't see it coming, when in fact you worked your way to that phase, even when you were sad and miserable. You'll be ok I PROMISE. Thank you again Lumma, your videos were so therapeutic back when I was going through it.
I AM HEALED!!! Lumma i don’t know how to thank you for the great virtual support that you gave me during the last 5 months!!! I also want to say to all the people out there who are suffering for a bad heartbreak that IT REALLY ENDS. The rollercoaster of emotions finally ends when you least expect it. Please guys just have faith in your own person and i can assure you that once you’ll be out from the circle of pain and sadness, you’ll understand how fucking STRONG AND BRILLIANT YOU ARE!!! Keep going guys, you’ll be absolutely fine!!!! love u lumma❤️
@@fernandavalerio5244 trust me, you are going to be so fine you’ll even thank that person for leaving you one day. It’s hard to believe, I know, mostly at the beginning. There’s a phrase that says: they did not bury you, they planted you. Have faith, you’ll grow so much stronger after this that you’ll really understand your value!🌸
for the past 6 months since february, i've watched this video multiple times and was absolutely broken each time and in disbelief hearing you say it will be okay or that i will love being alone. today marks exactly 6 months since my break up and i can proudly say i've healed and never have been so much happier and content with being alone (: thank you so much for putting your raw feelings out there lumma, i lost count on how many times i cried along with you when being heartbroken. but i guess in the end it really does work out!!
The worst type of pain for me is ending on good terms because when you end on bad terms at least you have something to get over because you can at least resent them. For me ending on good terms hurt me the most because I had no resentment and I know it’s gonna take me a long time to get over this because I’m trying to get over good memories. That’s not something I can possibly do.
I came back to say, you’re REALLY gonna get through that difficult moment, I went through that and I survived, and I consider myself the most sentimental person I know
I can't express how much this video helped me, I am going to save it and watch it every time I need it. My first love broke up with me a few days ago and our relationship made me think I was actually going to marry my first love. I felt every word, I feel like my future is gone. But I am so excited to be with me and stop holding on to hope, thank you, girl. Felt like a friend talking to me.
It's been 5 months since we spoke, and still, I can't go one day without crying. This is the deepest pain and the deepest longing I could have ever imagined. It feels like this will never get better for me.
It only shows you how deeply you loved him don‘t be harsh to yourself, take it step by step you‘re doing amazing some days will be hard just lebt yourself feel these emotions
I am officially going through the worst heartbreak ever. All the details you shared like not being able to eat, feeling you can’t breathe if you don’t text them, to feeling the pain in the mornings and nights. I am going through all those things and it feels good that you went through the exact same thing i’m going through but you made it and now you’re happy. This video really made me feel better now i have to the begin the phases. I’ll remember to come back to my comment once i’m happy like you are. Thank you so much!
@@fernandavalerio5244 After 2 months, I’m finally at peace with myself. I’m proud of how far I’ve become. This video definitely had an Impact. Thanks for reaching out :)
Me rewatching this one year down the line. Fully healed and happy. He came back 8 months down the line but I didn't want him back. Am glad the break up happened. Thank you Lumma.
Im a month out, and the first two weeks were hell. Pure physical and emotional pain. I couldn’t eat, barely could get any work done - it was awful. I also made sure to delete everything that reminded me of me ex. Important keepsakes I gave to my mom in case I wanted them one day. I cried and cried and just let myself feel the grief. Then around week 3 the crying was less. I still thought about him all the time, and it was painful to think about him. I would feel it the hardest in the mornings. I would call my mom every morning to cry. Then, around week 4, thinking of him became less painful. I still think about him A LOT - but now I think of other things too. I’m finding myself again, and I remember I always enjoyed hanging out with myself. I keep reminding myself I a whole person, and what is meant to be will be. The pain lessens, it get’s easier edit: Oh, and I got a kitten. That helped a lot. 😽
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I felt like we were in the same situation on the first 2 weeks after he ended it with me. I was literally crying myself out every night. I was just so empty and no one could ever understand me even my parents. It was difficult because before I still had hope for him to even say that he made a mistake but after a month I felt so much better. I felt like we both want different things.
@Abby hello, I can feel your pain. Im in another situation then yours because we were in an "almost relationship" but we see each other every week, but still, Do you have any advice for me how to handle this?
6 months after the breakup and every now and then I still cry over him. Your video made me feel so much better ❤️ you’re right - why would I focus my energy on someone who doesn’t want me in his life?!
I can not believe I would ever say this, but Lumma was right, time was the only thing that helped me get through the hardest break up of my LIFE. It’s been 9 months and I have moved on completely, I’ve done so much, travel, re connected with old friends, I didn’t lose anyone I gained myself back and even though feelings are some how there and my ex has tried to come back and give me mixed signals I would never go back with him. I’m happy with my life right now and I’m glad things ended when they did. ❤ -THANK U LUMMA.
You will, I promise. The only thing that helped me get through it was to not have hope and accept that things ended for a reason. I would watch lummas break up video almost everyday for reassurance. Trust me when you least expect it you will be over it. You will be ok ❤ stay strong.
It’s mind blowing when you see somebody ACTUALLY relates to you a whole lot. I had all the same habits and even the same thoughts. I had the same look in my face when I cried and even fell down onto my bed or sometimes just laying flat on the floor for about an hour each time. It feels so incredible to finally see that there are sooo many people going through this. You covered like all of my anxieties and worries and all I can say is thank you and thank God for this video. It’s been a little over 3 months now and I’m still really going through it but it’s insane how much better I’m doing now. My best advice is allow yourself to grow. Don’t be afraid of who you’d be without them.
3 weeks post breakup and I found your 3 month of heartbreak video. I cried with you. Everything you said, every thought and feeling and reaction I have gone through constantly over the past 3 weeks. I know I have a long and painful road ahead but you have given me hope that it really does get better. This is also how I discovered your channel. So thank you for opening up to us, much love from a new subscriber 💕✨
I don’t know you and I don’t know if you’ll read this comment but I genuinely hope you’re doing okay. I’m currently going through the most painful breakup right now aswell so I hope you know you’re not alone in this. Sending you love girl 🤍
Hey ladies. I’m going through an 8 year break up and my ex has a girlfriend already, I’m about a month in and I’m depressed, but just letting you ladies know from another city and country, WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER! And Jesus (God) is here with us! #ImAChristBeliever but even if you aren’t I’m still in this with you!
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It has been almost 2 months. Every day I watch your video to reassure myself that I will go through this tough time. I focus on myself my career. I still miss him everyday but I know I don't want him back, I deserve so much more! Being single is not scary being with the wrong person is way more scary. I'm sure there will be someone out there for me, who won't leave me. Thank you Lumma!
@@rizkipc2908 things get better with time. I believe that there is a chance in the nearest future to meet somebody new who fits us better than the one in the past. He/She is not the last why I have to be so sad. 🤍🤍
Wow, I’m coming back to this video after 1 year. I use to have this video on repeat and it held me soooo much. Everything she said is true. Things will get better and life goes on! So grateful to have found this video when I was deep depression. He came back after 4 months but by that time I didn’t want him 😅. I hear from him every month and I just leave him on read. Trust me guys, it gets better!
My boyfriend of 5 years cheated on me with my friend, slept with her behind my back and we broke up. He chose her over me and it took me a while to heal and forgive myself for overlooking all of his red flags. But I am so much happier now, I look back on the days I couldn’t eat or even smile and I’m so grateful that I went through that because it’s made me stronger than ever. I have a person in my life that finally values me and accepts my past trauma and I also now value myself to not let myself be walked all over again x
@@jackie41083 he hasn’t got his karma yet as far as I’m aware but I’m not that into seeing how he’s doing as he means nothing to me now. His red flags are so bright now that I’m out of the relationship. He would message guys that would like any of my pictures and threaten them. He would accuse me of cheating and call me names. He would message my best friends telling them i was crazy and making up lies about him and that he hopes I get the help I deserve. He would bring me down or act uninterested whenever I had good news about an achievement. He made me pay for everything including his gas/petrol and therapy sometimes as he claimed I earned more so I could spend more on him. He would never want to do things with me I would just be sat in his room studying whilst he gamed all day but he would make plans with friends and never with me. He would walk out of a room when having phone calls with female friends and tell me to leave him alone. When he got caught cheating he saw me crying and said he couldn’t feel my pain. When I packed my things he stood in the doorway and said “I don’t know why you’re leaving” as though he hadn’t just told me he didn’t love me and he loved another woman. Honestly there’s so much more and then some but I am so glad I left. Everyday is different on the healing journey but I can now spot red flags in people and set boundaries 💜
As for me, I accidentally discovered on SocMed of the girl that they’re engaged. I had no idea the whole time. The betrayal hurt me like no other. Am still on week two, I hope it gets better. I can accept that we have no chance and he’s happy with his fiancee, what I cannot accept are his lies and betrayal. All the compassion, kindness, and understanding, this is what I get in return. But I pray for my healing and strength to forgive. When I cry so hard, I call the Lord for comfort. I hope I will get through this. Tough to wake up everyday with a very heavy heart.
currently in the depression stage i cry every now and then and mornings are the very worst but i’m gonna look back and see how much my life has changed, thank you so much i was truly hopeless before watching this
Hi got my relationship was fixed back again with the help of a great man my ex is back to me we loving and happily together again after many years of separation, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours.
I realised that during the course of my relationship, I’d stopped caring about myself altogether. I’d attached all my attention to her being the best looking/dressing/ talking person she could possibly be. And I’m the course of that I built almost the ideal girlfriend, but now that she’s gone I realise how far behind I am in my own development. I want to start working on myself as soon as possible. Coming up with a plan on how to get the things I truly desire from life. Thank you for sharing your story!
I agree that hope is extremely dangerous! A few days ago I've come to the realization that I wasn't hurting about the breakup anymore because I was watching the 'ex back' videos and it had some calming effect on me but then I got tired of sitting and waiting like a puppy and decided I won't be waiting for him anymore. And the pain came back as it had been postponed by the hope. Don't hold onto that guys! Try to accept things and move on. Your ex is not a better person than you so don't give them the power. Stay strong!❤❤
I agree. I felt fine for a few days after seeing that she consistently watched my IG stories. Still, I know I'm just hoping for nothing. Them checking things out might just be out of curiosity.
I come to this video every morning and evening. Because that’s when my emotions are strong. I was acting desperate for the first week and it’s so comforting to know that another person had those intense, raw emotions that take us out of ourself. It helps me so much. I talk to you through this video 😂 we besties now. See you tonight for another playthrough!
Hi sweetheart I got my broken relationship fixed with the help this great spiritual Dr who brought my partner Back in 48 hours After many years of separation🥰
Jeremiah same! I watch this video every morning. The mornings I tend to want to reach out to my ex, then later I get busy so it's better, and evening is about sadness and despair. One thing is sure, it'll pass. I hope you feel better :)
my ex broke up with me 5 days ago over a 5-minute phone call after being together for three incredible years. we laughed together, we cried together, and we rarely ever argued. we were even supposed to sign the lease to our first apartment two weeks from now. he was my best friend, my (supposed) soul mate, my twin flame, my partner in crime. i feel absolutely shattered. broken. torn in two. his mother called me daughter, my father called him son. i have honestly lost all hope in everything. …but anyways, the reason i’m saying all this is to document my own progress. i cannot wait to come back in 3, 4, 5 months stronger and happier and more confident than ever. i want to see the light at the end of the tunnel. i want to fall in love with life again. gosh, i cannot wait for that day. :”)))
The hard part about the breakup is going to work the next day lefting all that pain in your chest and act like nothing is wrong with you but everyone starts asking you if you're sick because of those puffy eyes that were crying all night
8 months ago, I was in my most miserable phase. Rock bottom. I remember watching Lumma's breakup video multiple times praying for my sadness and misery to be over. And now, I am more than grateful that I properly went thorough on that phase of my life. It is necessary for me to grow, to understand why such things happened, and it really changed my perspective about things that I never thought I needed. Thank you so much Lumma! 🥺🥰
My first girlfriend broke up with me yesterday and I feel so much right now. I told my parents and my friends that I'm fine and I try to play it cool, like it's nothing. But everytime I'm alone and stay in my room, I cry so much my eyes hurt. Today my semester in college started and everywhere I looked, I thought of her. When I finished my first class, I grabbed my phone as a habit to tell her what the class was about and how cool was the professor and what I learned . But as I stood looking at the phone on the messages, I remembered that I'm not with her anymore. It hurt so much and got a little panic between classes. We were dating almost 2 years. This friday would be the 2 year mark. I don't know what happened. She told me I didn't do anything wrong. Thank you for this video
Him screwing up your connection made you the bad ass you are today. Love it! I've gone through a couple similar "lessons on self-worth," relationships and break-ups that were about making me a stronger woman who fiercely loves herself. May we all encounter bad breakups that help us grow into the amazing women or men we are meant to become. Light & love to you all!
I will come back when Im healed. You helped me so much to go through the first days. He broke up with me 4 days ago and I did not even eat since then. It is such an urge to contact him but everytime this urge hits badly I come back to watch your video.. I cant Imagine that I could ever be able to stay strong even if he would come back and there is that hope that kills me. But I will try my best… Greetings from Germany ❤️
@@lisette_coreas Hi, it's really sweet of you to ask. I'm already feeling better. I'm reorienting myself, trying to find and get to know myself, and just aiming to find some peace. Interestingly, life has continued to have its ups and downs even after the breakup, but I'm doing well. I'm trying to make the best out of everything and looking positively toward the future. I hope it wasn't a breakup that led you to this video either.
Your video really helped me realize that I shouldn’t go back to him. He told me he needed a “break” two days ago and I have been miserable ever since. Not sleeping well or eating well and I want to thank you for showing that side of you and showing us that it is possible to get through it and learn to be alone and learn to be content with ourselves. Also, it was the most toxic relationship I have ever gotten into but it felt like a drug. My happiness depended on him more than myself and I am learning to cope with the pain little by little. Thank you so much.
Literally crying with happiness watching this.. its been 3 months since we ended our 7 year relationship and 3 months of complete no contact and i can say that im in a better place right now. I have been through all those stages you mentioned and as of writing this yes girl i dont want my ex back anymore.. Love from PHILIPPINES ❤
Don't worry anymore Sweetheart , I will introduce you to The greatest relationship Restorer that helped me get my ex back in less 48 hours... He will help you okay
I'm watching this video over and over again. It's been almost 3 weeks since he broke up with me. It is really hard in the morning when I wake up, it's like a stab on my chest. I remember you words "He chose to leave you", that reassure me everyday to help me letting go of him.
Bless all the broken hearts here. I know the feeling of a broken heart as I am also going through a heartbreak now too. I wish everyone nothing but healing and I hope everyone here learns to love themselves and find happiness within themselves ❤️❤️ thank you for making this video it makes me not feel so alone going through this difficult time. Peace and love ✌️
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together. and if you need any kind of help he can help you.
The moment she said she doesn't feel anything toward me, for the first time in my life I felt so much pain and agony hearing those words from her. It shattered me into a million pieces. It's about a week now so I'm trying my best to keep moving forward on my own but this part of the process is very difficult because of my emotions getting in the way. I always go back to this video it helps a lot, it keeps me reminded of what are things I am supposed to do. Thank you so much! I hope y'all getting the love y'all deserve and keep on fighting guys we got this!
@@Falangemary123 I'm at month 6 now, and she was my first real love. Relationship lasted 6 years, and it honestly took me up until last month to finally move on. What held me back was holding onto hope, and if you're holding onto false hope that they will come back you're just prolonging the healing process. I didn't believe the phrase "it gets better" until it actually happened. I'm at the point where I can see photos, or random memories of her will pop into my mind and I won't even feel sad anymore. Time does heal all wounds. :)
I agree with you, she left me and we agreed to stay friends and I see her so happy and talking about her new crushes while I just gotta put a smile on my face and act like I'm happy for her when in reality I wanna cry
This video is everything !!! Always choose yourself ! You can’t force someone to choose you or value you ! The day you have to beg for someone to choose you or value you or love you , you already lost !!! Love yourself !!! Value yourself !!!! If anyone choose to walk out your life you wish them the best & stay gone ! One door close & 5 more door opens ! It’s okay to be alone ! Allow yourself to feel the emotions & go through the emotions . Take it day by day ! Surround yourself with friends & family & people who actually love you ! Write your feelings down as well . I’m going through a heartbreak as well & some days are better than others but I promise you it does get better ! You have to choose yourself ! & be patient enough to wait for someone who’s better will come along ! & if your ex moved on fast wish them the best & continue to focus on you ! Do not rebound !! Heal properly so you can evolve & make better decisions.
We broke up on 29th of September. I am devastated still after one month. I am so miserable and blaming myself. I hope when I am healed I can come back to this comment ❤️I hope everyone who is going through a heartbreak heals too!
the 28th of September was the day of mine. he may have broke up with me, but we still kept in contact. but he blocked me a month ago. i talked to him today, but it hurt me worse. i figured out that hes trying to move on even though he promised me he would always love only me. idk what to think. he said he would never get back with me.
@@ladycoquette0000 i’m really sorry to hear that 😞. Mine blocked me too and he literally told me he had a nightmare that i broke up with him a WEEK before he broke up with me
Last months i have been feeling that life is just too hard to get through. Because of these thoughts i was starting to believe that im getting crazy. Seeing this video i felt that someone can finally understand my pain and that its not irrational to have these thoughts. Probably the most helpful video i have ever watched on yt. I thank you with all my heart
I am so happy I found this video. I felt silly at first looking up this topic. I am 2 months post breakup with someone I was with for a year, my 1st serious relationship. Its been hard. I didn’t want to eat and do things for a while, and I’m still going through the pain & guilt stage but hoping things will change soon. Thank you for this
Hey Brittany, it’s surprising to wake up and still feel the pain after 2 months, I’m at 10 weeks and find myself coming here for comfort and reassurance. It’s an indication of how deeply and fully you loved your ex…. and it will get better. I’ve been divorced twice, and yet this heartbreak is the hardest for me. Stay vulnerable, it takes courage, and you will come out the other side like a phoenix rising from the ashes.
Even tho I already went thru this type heartbreak years ago. It happened again and I seriously needed the reminder that is gonna be ok. You don’t understand how much these raw videos help a person out. Seriously thank you💗
You're very right Jessica, you're going to get better ❤️ and same, I'm through this now, I have been there but it still hurts and it will hurt maybe next time. It always hurts. I hope you found some peace now :)
Thank you so so much for this video. I dated someone for a very short period. I realized that sometimes your feelings for someone can’t be measured by the amount of time you’ve spent with them. It was a happy short period but shattered my heart and soul into pieces when it ended. Still taking long to feel okay… Sometimes it even wows me because this pain is staying stronger and longer than our relationship lol Then found this video. I have better hope now for myself.
I’m gonna come back to this video because I got broken up with like 3 days ago. I’m really heartbroken and I pray things will get better soon. Memories keep replaying and I keep wondering what I could’ve said or done differently. I also keep fighting the urge to break no contact, waiting on “closure.” Most things don’t even seem as fulfilling as they used to. I feel like I may never be my old self again. I’m having insomnia, trouble eating, just not enjoying life like I used to. But I needed to hear all of this, and I will update you guys when I’m finally better. To anyone who’s struggling with me, let’s get better together!!
I’ve been having a lot trouble sleeping for the last few nights, only getting 2 to 3 hours a night.. because of a girl I was with for 4 years & we ended really badly.. but honestly listening to you brings me sooo much comfort.. I play this video each night just to listen and help me sleep.. almost like a good friend comforting me on my bedside till I fall asleep..
I went through a heartbreak myself in 2019 and I literally felt like my heart bled. Physically and literally. Like your first video, I thought those emotions were bigger than myself and the turmoil was enorm beyond measure. Unlike you though Lumma ( by the way, i salute you a lot for making those raw videos. Showed a friend yesterday and we were watching it again and felt your pain). Anyway, long story short. My brokeness did ended and the pain blown away. You are so right, when you are in the midst of this storm, it's like it simply never ends.... But it does and you will learn to love again. Be happy again- with closure or non-closure. To those who are suffering right now, Chin Up, cry your eyes out but believe in your heart that this too shall pass. BECAUSE IT DOES.
How unbelievably identical and true this is. Although I’ve been through this before, the right now feels like something I’ve never experienced. Thank you for putting into words what can’t be made sense of inside of me. This just happened, and the initial stage is the absolute worst. I have rewatched this and will continue to until I’m out of the stages
This video gives such an accurate depiction of what a break is like. It’s reassuring that I’m not alone going through these feelings. I’m happy I came across this video.
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He left me and moved out yesterday. I needed this so much. Thank you Lumma. I will watch it every day until I'm healed. This is the first day of the rest of my life. I will work on myself and come out of this stronger. I will get to a point where I thank him for what he did and how it helped me grow. To anyone reading this, we can do it. It feels unbearable now, but we can do it.
@@aprilrains3163 hi! Absolutely everything Lumma said in this video is 100% true. I never thought I’d be able to say it. I cut off everything related to him and deleted everything from day 1, it hurt at first but meant I gave myself the full chance to truly heal. I did not let myself wallow in my suffering, but I acknowledged and held space for the pain. I focused on my ambitions and my healing and my actions I could control. I moved apartments to an even more beautiful place. I’ve made incredible friendships that I never put time into when I was with him. My hobbies have flourished. I feel happiness so much deeper, because for months i woke up sad. I appreciate my joy so much. I don’t want him back at all, when at first I was crazy desperate for him back. I allowed myself to feel and process. This was the most painful yet best thing that happened to me. I am now an “after” comment on this UA-cam video. The same ones I used to read and cry to. Because of all the hope they gave me. You will be so so so fine.
I'm 6 weeks into a breakup of a 6 year relationship. I'm having a lot of panic every day. Crying a lot less but very anxious and sad. I'm finally able to sleep again but eating is so difficult...and without that nutrition exercise is impossible. I'm doing therapy and journaling and seeing friends when I feel up to it. I'm missing him hard. Hoping he'll message me. Living in the past and trying to fix the past and find solutions which is impossible. Wishing I had done things differently or acted differently in certain situations. Overall just feeling like I'll never get through this. Thank you for the solid advice. I'll be watching this often as I move forward. As much as it hurts, you are completely right...a true soulmate would not have left. He would have stayed by my side and weathered any storm that came our way. He's not it, no matter how badly I want that to be the case.
Girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me. The week before I was going to propose to her. I know your pain especially with being with someone for some time, stay strong
@@zinazoulou3574 I never thought I could feel better but here I am 3 months out and I feel sooooo much better. I see clearer and clearer every single day. It's obvious that he was not right for me and that there were many things he did over the years that I do not understand why I tolerated. I overlooked a lot because I loved him, but he was not good to me. I still have sad times and will cry, but I'm moving forward. I'm seeing friends a lot, making new friends, still doing therapy, journaling, I started doing yoga often and going on walks. I'm getting back into my hobbies. It's crazy, but I feel FREE. I have so much work to still do to do love myself and accept myself. I mean, yeah, that's why I tolerated being mistreated for years. I want to love myself so much that no one can ever hurt me again like this man did.
@@mybeautifulrescue21I'm so soo happy for you!!, this deserves a celebration i swear 🎉, but please I want you to beware of something very important and dangerous,if he crawls back onto your life DON'T let him! Be careful people like him are like satan,a life destroyer , protect your peace at any cost! , he'll probably come back for a disgusting hook up without feelings ,tell him to get married of go to a hooker
it hasn’t been 2 months yet but i’m still crushed. i miss the memory of him so much but he seems to have moved on with other people and told me he doesn’t love me anymore. we haven’t spoken at all since the breakup. we were together for nine months and broke up right before summer started. i still have feelings for him but ive been praying that God takes them away. I wanna let him go. It’s July 13th, and i want strength for when i see him again. i believe ill be okay one day i just want that day to come. I’ll come back to this when im completely healed♥️
Thank you so much for this. I'm struggling so hard with losing the man I was planning on marrying. He also left me so abruptly it was the biggest shock in the world. Everything you're saying is exactly how I've been feeling. I appreciate you taking the time to do this so much and I wish you the absolute best in life 💜💜
My boyfriend cheated on me. I cried for six weeks straight, did not sleep anymore or eat. I watched your video and I feel like I am gonna be okay right now. Thank u for what you put out.
I’m literally going thru the same thing, my ex who I’ve been living with for the last 2 years left me 3 weeks ago because he doesn’t have feelings for me anymore. I was in absolute shock and was shattered. Thank you Lumma for sharing your journey, you’re such an inspiration, I WILL go through this and become better version of myself. Can’t wait to see what the future holds for us strong and independent beings ❤
@@SabaSaba2002-js1qf ohh thank you for asking! I'm doing so much better now, even thanking the process. It's not been an easy journey, I was still in a shit hole 4 months after the breakup, but remembered everyone processed it differently and I may take however long I need to heal. Important thing is to really make up the mind to move on & trust that it's only making space for something better. ❤️
I’m in total disbelief about my breakup. It was never supposed to happen. That’s one of the hardest things I think, the fact that within hours you are suddenly living in a reality that for many years (in my case) you thought would never happen. It makes you question every foundation.
Today my boyfriend broke up with me and few months back I had to heal from the person I never even dated but actually was in love. This year has been terrible because two breakups in a row and somehow I found this video today and this actually gives me the strength to deal with it. I hope everyone going through such phases heals up really soon and May God give strength to everyone to deal with this.
This is such a happy place where all the people with similar experiences give reassurance to everyone going through the same phase . It feels so happy to be here 😊. Hope I too recover sooner and be back here watching the video again but with a lighter heart and a big smile , seeing myself happier than ever before
I was watching your videos almost everyday after a break up 5 months ago. It was a long term relationship, was really in love with him, we were (or at least I WAS) planning a future together. So I came back here today, after 5 months to tell people that IT REALLY DOES GET BETTER. I did not believe it in the first months and it was really difficult time. I was having panick attacks for the first time in my life, crying all the time, was barely able to work or function at all for first months. I think I am still not 100% over, but what I recently feel is a huge relief. Actually I am grateful that it happened because I am a stronger person now and I am slowly looking forward to better future and new people in my life:) I truly start to believe that it was for the best and I have never been that self confident
@@oliverhoffman1118 I came to the point that I accept that I don't have to understand the reason why he left although I have some theories. I don't want to waste my life on crying over him. There's so much to do. I made myself a better version, 2.0 if you will 😅 I enjoy traveling alone and doing other things I like without having to compromise to other people. Sometimes I am still a little bit sad but it's not that often. I try to date other people but after all I'm not sure if I believe in real relationships anymore. Also it's difficult for me to to trust (my ex left me out of the sudden, completely changed within one day). I regret he made this decision but also his actions at the end made me realize that I can't trust him and he's not a person to build longlasting relationship with. So there's no comeback, I accept it and star to feel peaceful. I assume you are going through a breakup now. It will be difficult for a while but it will get better. Just allow yourself to feel all these feelings and go through them. Hit a gym, travel, treat yourself good. All these are cliché but it really helps :)
My boyfriend of 20 months broke up with me yesterday. I am completely broken and can’t wait until I am where you are at in this video. If I don’t forget about it, I will come back and comment in this video when I am healed! Thank you for this video
Ive listened to this so many times. Sometimes several times a day, but everytime it tugs at even more painful corners of my heart. It gives me strength but also makes me so weak knowing how hard this process is going to be. I want to be where you are today, but I'm so afraid of the effort it took. Because right now, I dont feel like I have it in me.
I'm feeling the same. I'm an introvert. I don't have friends to share what I'm going through right now. I was too emotionally dependent on him. I can't describe what I'm feeling. I've been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks for the past 2 years. N now my anxiety kicks in ever since my bf left me. I hurts so bad. I can't eat nor sleep. I've lost so much weight. I kept on hoping that he'll call or text me. I really want to move on n forget about him. But every time I'm alone I keep on thinking about him. I listened to this several times a day too. I hope I'll get over him soon.
@@aceeca7071I hope you're well too now. Three months later it's so much better. I hope he doesn't text or call you though, it's not worth it at all. You'd be much better off not hearing from them ever again. Wishing healing upon you ❤
It's a really weird feeling when you dont want them back anymore, yet you still miss the good memories and times you shared together. I got through the denial stage and now I accept the fact that a relationship between my ex and I would not be healthy even if I did decide to go back to him. However, even in feeling this way, I still love him and there is pain there. I can't wait to be able to get through all the stages
I can’t stress how much your videos have helped me. We broke up a week ago, I gave him an ultimatum to prioritize me more and he chose not to. After 3 years and living together I’m finally realizing he wasn’t right for me. I always turn on your videos when I’m at my lowest and I appreciate you so much.
I too broke up for the same reason with my ex. It's so tough, the thing that's making it worse is the good memories. Never in my life I ever thought the beautiful memories would turn into something so painful
The most toxic thing I see on social media is the whole mentality of “bossing up” or getting better to “manifest him back” or get him back or get his attention… what is the point of that? Especially if you know that even if he did reach out, you’d likely not disrespect yourself by going back to him. So at this point all you want is external validation. I love that she mentioned the “manifesting your ex back” videos and mentality because many people fall into that loophole and don’t actually get better. They remain obsessed with their ex, and that’s toxic and hinders personal growth. What you should focus on is becoming better for YOURSELF and doing the things for YOURSELF which would help you. Get the “revenge bod” because you wanna be healthier and when you look at yourself you feel good. If you expect his reaction, you’re feeding off his validation. What would be even more disappointing is he sees it and has no reaction. That would kill your motivation from inside. Move on only if you’re ready. Don’t fake it for him to see and don’t lie to yourself. Allow yourself to feel the pain and acknowledge it. This way you process. Take on hobbies and activities that you didn’t have time to do when you were in a relationship. Enjoy the perks of being single for a bit. Don’t do this again, to keep yourself “busy” or to show off to him once again that you’re better off without him. It’s hard, but doable :)
Day 2 post-break up. I was the dumper and it still hurts so much. We were together for almost 2 years. I told him I loved him 1 year in to it. He refused to say it back. I was patient and waited. However, I finally asked him if he loved me 8 months later and he said he “didn’t know”. At this point, if he doesn’t know then he doesn’t and he may never will. I didn’t want it to end, but I had to walk away. It wasn’t just the I love you thing either. It was the lack of communication and intimacy. There’s literally no point of return.
The worst part is when you don’t want them back but still are grieving the memories you made together. I don’t miss him I just miss the relationship we used to have. I cry when I think about how In love we were and how I know it would never be the same again. Thats what stings :/
Meeeeee. It’s the memories. He met my son . I took big steps with him… i know to much has been done for it to ever it to ever work out.. i understand you
Plus the loneliness you feel in the void left behind. It’s hard to go from always having someone there to being completely on your own.
Yea that’s what I’m going through rn- I miss our memories and having him by my side, but I wouldn’t want him back… the way he left so easily… didn’t let me explain or communicated… the way he acted so stubbornly…
@@InfestedLice its been 2 and a half months for me now. it gets better, i promise
@@kc3668 thank you sm for the reassurance! I hope you’re doing better now too ❤️
The most comforting thing was “If they were your soulmate, they wouldn’t have left you.” Thank you.
I struggle with statements like this because there are situations like mine where we are just young and one or both of us just simply cannot provide what is needed of our partner due to inexperience or just immaturity. Facts are we know what we want to give to our partner but real life just says the time isn’t now…
Yea wrong time
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For me it is "if they were your soulmate, they wouldn't want to hurt you". I made the decision to break up but it felt very painful because it was my first relationship.
@@nullempt did he hurt you?
If a person loves you ,they will keep choosing you in every scenario what so ever is the condition..
This is what I was explaining to my ex while he was breaking up with me. Thank you for putting it in better words. Note I have to just come to terms with loving someone so much more than they loved me, and then not wanting me after 7 years of dating while I still love them
Wow! This!!!
This hurts to read.. but its so true 💔
@Spijen same story with me as well..life's damn unfair
Well it is nearly impossible to find someone like that nowadays 🫤
The craziest thing to me is….I actually got my ex back. I went through all the heartbreak, every damn stage, and eventually…we got back together, recently. But in between these stages, I fell out of love. Honestly, I’ve been debating on ending things recently. Because what I realized was, my ego was the biggest thing feeding my heartbreak. Once my ego was fed, I’ve realized that was what my brain desperately wanted the most. Not the person, but the feeling of being wanted back. It’s so crazy to me in hindsight
Wow... that sounds impressive. Thank you for being so honest! How is it going now?
Needed to read that 🙏
same thing happened to me recently. me n him when through a horrible breakup n he actually came back which surprised me, but he ghosted me about a week ago and i’ve been crying on and off. the past pain came back and i feel stupid for accepting him back even though i knew deep down he would have probably done something like this. :( it hurts to be ghosted
I feel the same actually....
@@cher1592 Don't give him any chance. He doesn't deserve it.
So true! I think we get caught up in the idea that we lost “the one”, but after watching a lot of Matthew Hussey videos I’ve realized that person couldn’t be “the one” because they chose to leave you. The right person will choose you and keep on choosing you.
Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light. (Ephesians 5:14)
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even tho i wanted them to be the one so bad like i can’t accept it
The "right person" will chose you until something better comes along. Welcome to dating in 2022.
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Today is day 1 of my breakup, leaving this comment here to come back to it and see how i feel.
Delete this comment ASAP.. This comment will remind you of your relation/breakup/Ex Everytime you visit..
Its been 9 days for me
Its been a week since my break up. Mine decided to go back to his ex after being with me three months. So I guess there is hope for some, but probably not for me.
Day 1 for me , we have a child together and live together , it’s horrible
Day 4 for me. Together for 8 years, many good memories and tons of terrible scars. A friend said to me on day 1: “maybe it’s a good thing that the relationship left you, because I know you would never have left, in spite of your own unhappiness.”
I grieve the loss of the family that that I had found with his family. I have no siblings and his family had taken me in as one of them. My daughter has now also lost the feeling of having cousins.
I’ve probably watched this over 100x but after 8 months I gotta say that it really does get better and you become such a better person after healing
Been my strength
@@yonypanofsky2763 yes
How do I start doing the things I love again,I stopped TikTok and now im afraid to open the app including romance mangas I can't do the things I enjoyed im so scared
The hard part about healing is that it’s a real rollercoaster, i tend to do really well for awhile and then other days I get triggered and upset myself because i thought I was over something that I wasn’t. And I feel like I’m back to square one. Moments like that make me lose hope that I’ll never get over the guy. :(
me too, i was doing so good last week and two days ago i just broke down, now i feel like i’m back to square one as well. heartbreak really does come in waves.
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My hardest thing is just completely not talking to the person you loved for so long and having too resume life as normal even though you are heartbroken. It’s so hard to get through the days at work heartbroken…
I think work helps distract the mind
We work together so it is hell.
Update?and how long were you two together?
YESSS
Yes this part.
I have accepted that we're not meant to be together, we've been broken up for 4 months now. The happy memories make me happy, the reasons we broke up for make sense to me. But what I'm actually grieving is the idea of forever we built in the relationship! It's been toughest to accept that him and I won't be "we" again. He was just a small chapter in my story. The part that him and I are never gonna be together again hurts the most. The whole idea of future we built together is the real grief to deal with. I'm happy, I believe I'll find love again, I just need to deal with this grief.
Hey dear, I am in the same situation and we've been broken up for 3 months now, do you feel better now?Love for you.
@@user-fp1ml3qk3e Hi lovely, I am doing better than ever, hit the 5 months mark and it doesn't hurt that much. I got rid of all images, texts and physical items, nothing to hold on to, so that's really helped. Also the things I typed in the previous msg, I think I've healed from it because I don't feel like that idea hurts me anymore. I've just been breaking my own prejudices and really investing in myself. All things I waited to do with a partner, I'm not doing and enjoying alone and it's been empowering and liberating! Can't wait for you to feel this free energy, lot's of love, power and healing to you❤❤🧿
I feel the same way
Please make sure you are completely moved on from before you start to date anyone. My guy just broke up with me last week to return to his ex-fiancé after being apart for six months. Him and I were together for only three months, but it still hurts cause I fell for him after two months.
@@thatsmyshermanI'm so sorry to hear that...
Literally been re watching this because I can NOT stop crying. This is giving me SO much hope. I will be alone and that will be okay. If he wanted me he would've choose me. His loss. Not mine.
It’s really interesting how we feel so alone in these experiences but they’re universal. My story is so much like yours.
Same for me. Also first Love, also living together, also thought we were happy and then he left me on a random Monday…
But at least her ex moved out, he will be spending the next three month in our shared flat because he 'has no where else to go' :‘)
@@juliah8071 hello julia,how are you doing? did you heal? did he come back?
@@zinazoulou3574 hey - it’s been 6 month now and I think I can say that I am finally over it! He moved out 2 month ago which definitely made the biggest change. It really helped me to realize that he never put any effort into the relationship and really had some issues with himself. I sometimes see him with his new gf in uni and it doesn’t hurt anymore. A few month ago I could have never imagined that. So I can really say that you will truly get over it. It may took me half a year but I am so happy that the breakup happened in the after math. I started new hobbies, made new friends and experienced so much stuff which wouldn’t have happened if we were still together!!
@@zinazoulou3574 oh and he never came back, I found out he secretly started meeting his new gf when we were still together
@@juliah8071that boy doesn't deserve you
Different phases:
1. Shock and Denial
2. Pain and Guilt
3. Depression
4. The Upward Turn
5. Reconstruction and Working Through
Omfg thank you so mush for this comment I wish u the best
6.acceptance and hope
@@traclvq8983 hahaha alg thank you for appreciating it haha wish you all the best too ❤️
@@suyencilimbong8048 ty :)
I went through this 3 times, it feels like I'm never going to get over him.
After experiencing this pain of being heartbroken, I can certainly see how some people decide to end their lives. I imagine so many of us fight harmful thoughts but please be strong. Find value within yourself, I am actively going through now, quite literally today I found out everything I needed to know and my heart has been shattered. I won’t sit here spill my story, it’s complex and I don’t want pity, but it’s the worst pain I’ve felt until this point in my 28 years. Each day is a battle, please keep going, we can do it together! We will look back in months or years and smile at the process that shaped us into who we’re meant to be. Stay strong and put your faith in god when you are weak, my biggest thing is when my dark thoughts consume me is to pray. I just pray and it always passes. Time will heal, and I pray for anyone dealing with this pain🙏🏼
Im with you. I’m planning on moving out
That hit me. It's the worst pain i've ever felt. Btw, i was 28 too when it happened.
are u feeling ok?
@Rukhxoxo im getting better everyday, there will be some days when it's worse than the others and some that are better too. If you're experiencing heartbreak, just trust me and Lumma that it's true that you will heal, definitely. Many people have gone through this and they survive. We too shall survive my friend
So true 💔
I would add "do not stalk your ex. Stop following them on social medias or try to watch their stories. Block them. It's gonna hurt less like this" to the list of things that could help when going through a break-up. It's gonna make things easier & healing will be faster 😊 At least it works for me!
Yes. 100%. I went through a break up and because I was trying to explain myself, he blocked me. And i feel great about it. Now I just don't waste time checking on him or seeing when he was online. No contact is so much better, helps you forget them and move on
@@insanelittlefangirl I know it's hard, you need a very good self discipline and also distract your mind with something else (aka things you enjoy doing/hobbies/things you have to do). Build a schedule and focus on that so your mind doesn't even have the slightest chance of thinking about the person 😁
Yes 100% agree!!!
You have no idea how therapeutic it is to hear you explain everything while not giving false hope. This is the first video I’ve seen that isn’t either optimistic or pessimistic. It’s just pure understanding.
It’s realistic ✨✨✨
There is no bigger turn off than them leaving and rejecting you. That should be the biggest repellent about them…that they abandoned you and the relationship.
You would think 😥 unfortunately it just makes me feel like a loser 💔
@@prettyaddictedcult How are you feeling now that it is several months later?
@@skiiiii664 we got back together after 36 days and our relationship is much better this time around . Those 36 days were the worst of my entire life. I lost a LOT of weight as I didn't eat for 30 of those days. My mental health was shattered. I hope I never have to live through that again because I didn't know how I was going to survive it 😥 I hope you are ok ! Thankyou foe checking in 🖤
P.S I actually wrote many songs during the breakup period. Two of them are up on my page if you would like to see/hear. They're called "blood moon" and "no Memories, no dreams" and we're written on day 3 of the breakup so the pain was SO BAD 💔 I made the video for blood moon mid-breakup too and the part in the video where I'm singing into the mic,that was real pain and tears
I’m the one who left, because he was playing games and started treating me badly and ignoring me and now I’m still the one feeling heartbroken and sad because why did his behaviour towards me change so fast
@@prettyaddictedcult just take care of yourself first. And always protect your heart.
„The most beautiful souls are those who walked out of the fire, then returned with water for those still in it” - not sure who said it but it popped up in my mind listening to your videos 😊 thank you!
Beautiful quote❤❤❤❤😊
I've been here. We were together for 10 years, and he ended up leaving me for someone else. It took me a year of heartbreak through covid to heal but I've never been happier. I went through all of these stages. I watched all the videos about getting your ex back. But when I got over him I was done. And 2 years later he still wants to get back together and I will never go back. Him cheating on me was the best thing that could of ever happened to me! Everything happens for a reason and believe me you will heal!
Thank you so much for leaving your testimony, it's incredibly helpful ❤ thank you
My ex broke up with me yesterday and I feel like absolute shit. Everything hurts. My whole body PHYSICALLY hurts and I can’t stop crying and thinking about him. He hurt me so bad, but I still love him.
I really think this video will be able to help me throughout my “recovery” so I’m leaving this comment here and then when I’m finally happy again and healed I will come back.
Thank you Lumma!
More power to you!
You'll get through this, sending you so much love❤
How are you feeling now?
How are you? ❤
Update! It’s been about 1,5 months since the break up. The first two days was so bad and so painful! I stayed in bed all day and I didn’t eat… But then it got better and better and for about 4-5 weeks I felt really good! I was happy! I went to the gym consistently, I spent time with my friends, I worked a lot and went on many job interviews. I was excited about my future! I’ve also been partying A LOT haha and dating a bit.
But… for the last 1,5-2 weeks I have been feeling really bad again. I am thinking about my ex CONSTANTLY and I’m very sad and depressed. I miss him. I miss our relationship, our friendship. I miss his voice. I miss talking to him.
A part of me wants to get back together with him, but another does not. He hurt me so bad! He broke my heart into a million pieces, TWICE. In order for us to get back together A LOT of change has to happen within him. He has to stop being so egocentric and start prioritizing and listening to other people than himself! And I don’t think that kind of change can happen in two months, six months, maybe not even a year!
As of right now, I don’t want to get over him. I have this incredibly strong gut feeling telling me that we are meant to be. And I got that same feeling the first time I met him.
He is studying right now but he comes home this summer and hopefully we can meet up then and talk. So, in the meantime I am going to focus on myself, my job and my physical and mental health. I will keep you updated haha ;)
Thank you for your encouraging words!!
"Maybe we'll meet again, when we're slightly older and our minds less hectic, and I'll be right for you and you'll be right for me. But right now I am chaos to your thoughts and you are poison to my Heart"
This is the most beautiful comment here
The “false hope” phase is like a Band-Aid 😅 I’m having to try so hard to not keep slipping back to watching these UA-cam videos that give me false hope lol..
I’m at a phase where I realise I can only work on myself to get myself out of this place I’m in!! Christmas was so different this year I couldn’t be present at all..
I hope whoever is reading this pushes on 💪🏽 you got this!
I completely agree, I realised when I was watching the 'Ex Back' videos that I was simply waiting for him to come back, to show signs - and recently I realised, I just could not wait any longer, I needed focus on other things. When he didn't reach out over Christmas and New Year it really made me realise that he is choosing to stay away, I was waiting for him & he clearly was not interested; it was hard and I felt terrible most of the holidays. As of the New Year i've been trying to stay away from Ex Back vids, for my own mental health, knowing that having that hope is actually causing more stress and disappontment.
I've decided to look for a fresh start, rather than the same old, same old. It still hurts and that is why I return to Lumma's videos for motivation to continue.
This is the only breakup video that actually needs to be on UA-cam 😂 grounded, realistic and hopeful. THANK YOU! This is the video that finally helped me release hope and decide to move on and have hope for my own life again. Thank you so so much
Exactly, it helps so much! I did exactly she did. I watched so many no contact rule videos to have this hope of getting him back. Now I am on week 2 and finally starting to accept our relationship is over.
I also realized HOPE is so dangerous and it prevents me from healing!
On to week 2 now, still got a way to go, realise never going back to her, these videos really help. Thanks 😊
ur 3 month of heartbreak video showed up and I clicked on it because something told me it would reassure me, here I am again! I really appreciate your videos they really helped me!
I'm so glad :)
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I can't believe am with my love again;
My wife left me after 20 yrs of being together. Thank you for your video, I'm watching it nearly every single day and I'm crying with you. It's a weird connection that you can only have with someone who actually experience similar pain and can understand how you feel at that moment.
You will make it through this brother. I believe in you. You are an amazing human being don't forget that.
Thanks, really appreciate your support. 3rd month just started and the pain is still huge, but like someone smart said 'We've got to live, no matter how many skies have fallen'.
Wow I’m going through an 8 year breakup, I’m here with you. WE GOT THIS
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He brought back my ex few days ago... He did a perfect work I'm assuring you are gonna testify of his works!!!
Everyone dealing with someone deciding to leave you, I send you an abundance of love and strength. I know your feelings. I feel for you. And I love you. Blessings!
Thank you so much!!!
It’s been so long since I’ve “heard that” from someone. Other than my boys of course.
I hope you’re kicking ass in life wherever you are right now!
❤
What a sweet comment! ❤
thank u, fr thank u 💗
I’m on week one and it literally feels like I’m going through withdrawals and my heart actually hurts. I can’t wait to look back and be over it 😞
Watched this 6 months ago and I genuinely did not think back then that I would EVER be able to get through my own break up. But, you were right about EVERYTHING!!! It did hurt less, I did move on, I did get better, I smiled again, I found someone who is GENUINELY so so nice to me, and my ex also came back to me… but I knew better this time. I wish him the best and in fact I’m GRATEFUL that it happened because it helped me SO much as person. And I just want to thank you for this video for making me even look forward to it getting better in the future because it really did !!! ❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing this❤️ currently goin through it
@@asaf8081 hang in there!! i hope it gets better (i know it will) ❤️
how are you now?
Watching this a year after going through the hardest breakup of my life and I realize now, i went through all of these stages, some were longer than others, and going from the depression stage to the upward turn felt so sudden, when the depression stage lasted 6 months. For those who are reading this, you'll be surprised when you get to the upward turn, it can feel like a miracle, like you didn't see it coming, when in fact you worked your way to that phase, even when you were sad and miserable. You'll be ok I PROMISE. Thank you again Lumma, your videos were so therapeutic back when I was going through it.
It’s been two years for me, it’s gets better sometimes as the pain comes in waves. Right now this week, it’s pretty unbearable. Help…
This was beautiful to read I am on week 3 and this really really gave me hope thank you so much ❤
Thanks for this comment.I’m in the worst pain ever right now I just want to feel normal even if it’s just for a hour.I’m exhausted feeling like this
thank you
Tx u I am.in a bad place
I AM HEALED!!!
Lumma i don’t know how to thank you for the great virtual support that you gave me during the last 5 months!!!
I also want to say to all the people out there who are suffering for a bad heartbreak that IT REALLY ENDS.
The rollercoaster of emotions finally ends when you least expect it.
Please guys just have faith in your own person and i can assure you that once you’ll be out from the circle of pain and sadness, you’ll understand how fucking STRONG AND BRILLIANT YOU ARE!!!
Keep going guys, you’ll be absolutely fine!!!!
love u lumma❤️
im so proud of you
I cant wait for this to happen to me 😭
nunzia biaco will I be healed it's day one and I am falling apart I can't stop crying
@@Isabel-fe9yc whats the number?
@@fernandavalerio5244 trust me, you are going to be so fine you’ll even thank that person for leaving you one day. It’s hard to believe, I know, mostly at the beginning. There’s a phrase that says: they did not bury you, they planted you.
Have faith, you’ll grow so much stronger after this that you’ll really understand your value!🌸
for the past 6 months since february, i've watched this video multiple times and was absolutely broken each time and in disbelief hearing you say it will be okay or that i will love being alone. today marks exactly 6 months since my break up and i can proudly say i've healed and never have been so much happier and content with being alone (: thank you so much for putting your raw feelings out there lumma, i lost count on how many times i cried along with you when being heartbroken. but i guess in the end it really does work out!!
💔 I’m not ok hopefully il get over him one day
This comment made my day
@@Teddyy.x0x0 how are you now? Are u better?
im at 6 months and im still hurt
was a 6 year relationship and he left
I'll just leave a comment so that if I heal, I can come back to this video land feel proud of myself for being strong
The worst type of pain for me is ending on good terms because when you end on bad terms at least you have something to get over because you can at least resent them. For me ending on good terms hurt me the most because I had no resentment and I know it’s gonna take me a long time to get over this because I’m trying to get over good memories. That’s not something I can possibly do.
I came back to say, you’re REALLY gonna get through that difficult moment, I went through that and I survived, and I consider myself the most sentimental person I know
When you consider yourself the most sentimental person, it hurts even more😢😢😢 I'm hurting right now!
I know how much it hurts, go over one day after the other, believe me it will pass
@@annacbgc Yup thank you for this ♥️
I can't express how much this video helped me, I am going to save it and watch it every time I need it. My first love broke up with me a few days ago and our relationship made me think I was actually going to marry my first love. I felt every word, I feel like my future is gone. But I am so excited to be with me and stop holding on to hope, thank you, girl. Felt like a friend talking to me.
I got back my ex back under 50hrs after years of break up by the help of Dr fred w are happily married with kids
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I felt everything you said. And I relate so much . It feels like a never ending pain. Can't wait until it's over
@@Alysee679 if you still hope to get your ex back Dr Fred can help you ok
Watching this 20 times and more. To keep me reminded and reassured. Thank you, Lumma. It's been 3 months.
Same. I learned that my ex moved on 1 month after our breakup.
Been 3 months for me as well. Still stings a bit
Same
“They are not the source or the solution of your pain. You are meant to go through it yourself. “ thank you for your wisdom ❤
It's been 5 months since we spoke, and still, I can't go one day without crying. This is the deepest pain and the deepest longing I could have ever imagined. It feels like this will never get better for me.
That’s awful. You’re a beautiful talented person. Please don’t give up hope!
@@r0b0bert thank you deeply for this comment, it means a lot to me
It only shows you how deeply you loved him don‘t be harsh to yourself, take it step by step you‘re doing amazing some days will be hard just lebt yourself feel these emotions
@@annikamueller6483 thank you, appreciating little things like this on my journey
it gets better dw
I am officially going through the worst heartbreak ever. All the details you shared like not being able to eat, feeling you can’t breathe if you don’t text them, to feeling the pain in the mornings and nights. I am going through all those things and it feels good that you went through the exact same thing i’m going through but you made it and now you’re happy. This video really made me feel better now i have to the begin the phases. I’ll remember to come back to my comment once i’m happy like you are. Thank you so much!
Are you a little better? 😓
Im sorry 😞
I am going through the same thing. I FEEL like it ll never end. IM GLAD I found her videos, it s making me feel better.
Hang in there, brother
@@fernandavalerio5244 After 2 months, I’m finally at peace with myself. I’m proud of how far I’ve become. This video definitely had an Impact. Thanks for reaching out :)
Me rewatching this one year down the line. Fully healed and happy. He came back 8 months down the line but I didn't want him back. Am glad the break up happened. Thank you Lumma.
“This will make you become the best version of yourself.” That really comforted me.
Im a month out, and the first two weeks were hell. Pure physical and emotional pain. I couldn’t eat, barely could get any work done - it was awful. I also made sure to delete everything that reminded me of me ex. Important keepsakes I gave to my mom in case I wanted them one day. I cried and cried and just let myself feel the grief.
Then around week 3 the crying was less. I still thought about him all the time, and it was painful to think about him. I would feel it the hardest in the mornings. I would call my mom every morning to cry.
Then, around week 4, thinking of him became less painful. I still think about him A LOT - but now I think of other things too. I’m finding myself again, and I remember I always enjoyed hanging out with myself. I keep reminding myself I a whole person, and what is meant to be will be.
The pain lessens, it get’s easier
edit: Oh, and I got a kitten. That helped a lot. 😽
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I can't believe am with my love again
I felt like we were in the same situation on the first 2 weeks after he ended it with me. I was literally crying myself out every night. I was just so empty and no one could ever understand me even my parents. It was difficult because before I still had hope for him to even say that he made a mistake but after a month I felt so much better. I felt like we both want different things.
@Abby hello, I can feel your pain. Im in another situation then yours because we were in an "almost relationship" but we see each other every week, but still, Do you have any advice for me how to handle this?
6 months after the breakup and every now and then I still cry over him. Your video made me feel so much better ❤️ you’re right - why would I focus my energy on someone who doesn’t want me in his life?!
@jane love SCAM
How u feel?
@@knapi1504 much much better - I think I’m officially over him now
@@animalcrossing1233 did he ever come back to u? I wish i get over my ex :'(
@@knapi1504 but you will. It’s seems impossible but you will as long as you use the journey to do things that serve YOU!
I can not believe I would ever say this, but Lumma was right, time was the only thing that helped me get through the hardest break up of my LIFE. It’s been 9 months and I have moved on completely, I’ve done so much, travel, re connected with old friends, I didn’t lose anyone I gained myself back and even though feelings are some how there and my ex has tried to come back and give me mixed signals I would never go back with him. I’m happy with my life right now and I’m glad things ended when they did. ❤
-THANK U LUMMA.
I hope I can get to this place soon, your story is inspiring xx
You will, I promise. The only thing that helped me get through it was to not have hope and accept that things ended for a reason. I would watch lummas break up video almost everyday for reassurance.
Trust me when you least expect it you will be over it. You will be ok ❤ stay strong.
It’s mind blowing when you see somebody ACTUALLY relates to you a whole lot. I had all the same habits and even the same thoughts. I had the same look in my face when I cried and even fell down onto my bed or sometimes just laying flat on the floor for about an hour each time. It feels so incredible to finally see that there are sooo many people going through this. You covered like all of my anxieties and worries and all I can say is thank you and thank God for this video. It’s been a little over 3 months now and I’m still really going through it but it’s insane how much better I’m doing now. My best advice is allow yourself to grow. Don’t be afraid of who you’d be without them.
3 weeks post breakup and I found your 3 month of heartbreak video. I cried with you. Everything you said, every thought and feeling and reaction I have gone through constantly over the past 3 weeks. I know I have a long and painful road ahead but you have given me hope that it really does get better. This is also how I discovered your channel. So thank you for opening up to us, much love from a new subscriber 💕✨
I don’t know you and I don’t know if you’ll read this comment but I genuinely hope you’re doing okay.
I’m currently going through the most painful breakup right now aswell so I hope you know you’re not alone in this.
Sending you love girl 🤍
Hey ladies. I’m going through an 8 year break up and my ex has a girlfriend already, I’m about a month in and I’m depressed, but just letting you ladies know from another city and country, WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER! And Jesus (God) is here with us! #ImAChristBeliever but even if you aren’t I’m still in this with you!
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It has been almost 2 months. Every day I watch your video to reassure myself that I will go through this tough time. I focus on myself my career. I still miss him everyday but I know I don't want him back, I deserve so much more! Being single is not scary being with the wrong person is way more scary. I'm sure there will be someone out there for me, who won't leave me. Thank you Lumma!
hi how r u????? r u feeling better
@@rizkipc2908 things get better with time. I believe that there is a chance in the nearest future to meet somebody new who fits us better than the one in the past. He/She is not the last why I have to be so sad. 🤍🤍
@@rizkipc2908 so so much better, almost fully heal I have to say. Still miss him thought but not in a sad way. How about you?
My chest hurts so badly but I’ll be fine
Me too bro it’s so hard
You'll be alright 🩷✨
Me too😢
If we are all broken then where are the breakers?
@@Blessedbylord I thought I had an answer to that.....but I don’t 🙄
Wow, I’m coming back to this video after 1 year. I use to have this video on repeat and it held me soooo much. Everything she said is true. Things will get better and life goes on! So grateful to have found this video when I was deep depression. He came back after 4 months but by that time I didn’t want him 😅. I hear from him every month and I just leave him on read. Trust me guys, it gets better!
My boyfriend of 5 years cheated on me with my friend, slept with her behind my back and we broke up. He chose her over me and it took me a while to heal and forgive myself for overlooking all of his red flags. But I am so much happier now, I look back on the days I couldn’t eat or even smile and I’m so grateful that I went through that because it’s made me stronger than ever. I have a person in my life that finally values me and accepts my past trauma and I also now value myself to not let myself be walked all over again x
Stay strong =)
Not sure if you will see this, but I am so sorry this happened to you. Pls stay strong. Just wondering if he got his karma yet?
Also, what were the red flags? If you want to share ❤️
@@jackie41083 he hasn’t got his karma yet as far as I’m aware but I’m not that into seeing how he’s doing as he means nothing to me now. His red flags are so bright now that I’m out of the relationship. He would message guys that would like any of my pictures and threaten them. He would accuse me of cheating and call me names. He would message my best friends telling them i was crazy and making up lies about him and that he hopes I get the help I deserve. He would bring me down or act uninterested whenever I had good news about an achievement. He made me pay for everything including his gas/petrol and therapy sometimes as he claimed I earned more so I could spend more on him. He would never want to do things with me I would just be sat in his room studying whilst he gamed all day but he would make plans with friends and never with me. He would walk out of a room when having phone calls with female friends and tell me to leave him alone. When he got caught cheating he saw me crying and said he couldn’t feel my pain. When I packed my things he stood in the doorway and said “I don’t know why you’re leaving” as though he hadn’t just told me he didn’t love me and he loved another woman. Honestly there’s so much more and then some but I am so glad I left. Everyday is different on the healing journey but I can now spot red flags in people and set boundaries 💜
As for me, I accidentally discovered on SocMed of the girl that they’re engaged. I had no idea the whole time. The betrayal hurt me like no other. Am still on week two, I hope it gets better. I can accept that we have no chance and he’s happy with his fiancee, what I cannot accept are his lies and betrayal. All the compassion, kindness, and understanding, this is what I get in return. But I pray for my healing and strength to forgive. When I cry so hard, I call the Lord for comfort. I hope I will get through this. Tough to wake up everyday with a very heavy heart.
currently in the depression stage i cry every now and then and mornings are the very worst but i’m gonna look back and see how much my life has changed, thank you so much i was truly hopeless before watching this
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girl i just called in work because i can’t stop crying 😭
I realised that during the course of my relationship, I’d stopped caring about myself altogether. I’d attached all my attention to her being the best looking/dressing/ talking person she could possibly be. And I’m the course of that I built almost the ideal girlfriend, but now that she’s gone I realise how far behind I am in my own development. I want to start working on myself as soon as possible. Coming up with a plan on how to get the things I truly desire from life. Thank you for sharing your story!
Same, i did everything for him
I agree that hope is extremely dangerous! A few days ago I've come to the realization that I wasn't hurting about the breakup anymore because I was watching the 'ex back' videos and it had some calming effect on me but then I got tired of sitting and waiting like a puppy and decided I won't be waiting for him anymore. And the pain came back as it had been postponed by the hope. Don't hold onto that guys! Try to accept things and move on. Your ex is not a better person than you so don't give them the power. Stay strong!❤❤
I agree. I felt fine for a few days after seeing that she consistently watched my IG stories. Still, I know I'm just hoping for nothing. Them checking things out might just be out of curiosity.
I come to this video every morning and evening. Because that’s when my emotions are strong.
I was acting desperate for the first week and it’s so comforting to know that another person had those intense, raw emotions that take us out of ourself.
It helps me so much. I talk to you through this video 😂 we besties now.
See you tonight for another playthrough!
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Jeremiah same! I watch this video every morning. The mornings I tend to want to reach out to my ex, then later I get busy so it's better, and evening is about sadness and despair. One thing is sure, it'll pass. I hope you feel better :)
Currently going through the painful mornings and evenings
How are you holding up? I think it’s such a great idea to save this video and reply it at those times. I think I might do that. I’m on day 3 I think.
my ex broke up with me 5 days ago over a 5-minute phone call after being together for three incredible years. we laughed together, we cried together, and we rarely ever argued. we were even supposed to sign the lease to our first apartment two weeks from now. he was my best friend, my (supposed) soul mate, my twin flame, my partner in crime. i feel absolutely shattered. broken. torn in two. his mother called me daughter, my father called him son. i have honestly lost all hope in everything.
…but anyways, the reason i’m saying all this is to document my own progress. i cannot wait to come back in 3, 4, 5 months stronger and happier and more confident than ever. i want to see the light at the end of the tunnel. i want to fall in love with life again. gosh, i cannot wait for that day. :”)))
I hope you are doing well.
The hard part about the breakup is going to work the next day lefting all that pain in your chest and act like nothing is wrong with you but everyone starts asking you if you're sick because of those puffy eyes that were crying all night
I come every single day here to reaffirm that I will be fine and how to overcome the breakup. It's helping me a lot.
how are you now
8 months ago, I was in my most miserable phase. Rock bottom. I remember watching Lumma's breakup video multiple times praying for my sadness and misery to be over. And now, I am more than grateful that I properly went thorough on that phase of my life. It is necessary for me to grow, to understand why such things happened, and it really changed my perspective about things that I never thought I needed. Thank you so much Lumma! 🥺🥰
My first girlfriend broke up with me yesterday and I feel so much right now. I told my parents and my friends that I'm fine and I try to play it cool, like it's nothing. But everytime I'm alone and stay in my room, I cry so much my eyes hurt. Today my semester in college started and everywhere I looked, I thought of her. When I finished my first class, I grabbed my phone as a habit to tell her what the class was about and how cool was the professor and what I learned . But as I stood looking at the phone on the messages, I remembered that I'm not with her anymore. It hurt so much and got a little panic between classes.
We were dating almost 2 years. This friday would be the 2 year mark. I don't know what happened. She told me I didn't do anything wrong.
Thank you for this video
Him screwing up your connection made you the bad ass you are today. Love it! I've gone through a couple similar "lessons on self-worth," relationships and break-ups that were about making me a stronger woman who fiercely loves herself. May we all encounter bad breakups that help us grow into the amazing women or men we are meant to become. Light & love to you all!
I will come back when Im healed.
You helped me so much to go through the first days. He broke up with me 4 days ago and I did not even eat since then. It is such an urge to contact him but everytime this urge hits badly I come back to watch your video..
I cant Imagine that I could ever be able to stay strong even if he would come back and there is that hope that kills me. But I will try my best…
Greetings from Germany ❤️
how are you?😊
@@lisette_coreas Hi, it's really sweet of you to ask.
I'm already feeling better. I'm reorienting myself, trying to find and get to know myself, and just aiming to find some peace.
Interestingly, life has continued to have its ups and downs even after the breakup, but I'm doing well. I'm trying to make the best out of everything and looking positively toward the future.
I hope it wasn't a breakup that led you to this video either.
Your video really helped me realize that I shouldn’t go back to him. He told me he needed a “break” two days ago and I have been miserable ever since. Not sleeping well or eating well and I want to thank you for showing that side of you and showing us that it is possible to get through it and learn to be alone and learn to be content with ourselves. Also, it was the most toxic relationship I have ever gotten into but it felt like a drug. My happiness depended on him more than myself and I am learning to cope with the pain little by little. Thank you so much.
Literally crying with happiness watching this.. its been 3 months since we ended our 7 year relationship and 3 months of complete no contact and i can say that im in a better place right now. I have been through all those stages you mentioned and as of writing this yes girl i dont want my ex back anymore.. Love from PHILIPPINES ❤
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It helps to never allow anyone to have that much power over you. Self love is the best love.
I'm watching this video over and over again. It's been almost 3 weeks since he broke up with me. It is really hard in the morning when I wake up, it's like a stab on my chest. I remember you words "He chose to leave you", that reassure me everyday to help me letting go of him.
Bless all the broken hearts here. I know the feeling of a broken heart as I am also going through a heartbreak now too. I wish everyone nothing but healing and I hope everyone here learns to love themselves and find happiness within themselves ❤️❤️ thank you for making this video it makes me not feel so alone going through this difficult time. Peace and love ✌️
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together. and if you need any kind of help he can help you.
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The moment she said she doesn't feel anything toward me, for the first time in my life I felt so much pain and agony hearing those words from her. It shattered me into a million pieces. It's about a week now so I'm trying my best to keep moving forward on my own but this part of the process is very difficult because of my emotions getting in the way. I always go back to this video it helps a lot, it keeps me reminded of what are things I am supposed to do. Thank you so much! I hope y'all getting the love y'all deserve and keep on fighting guys we got this!
Does it get any better ?
@@huh2594 It does. You will be okay
She said that to me and I agree. How are you now?
I'm going into week 6 now. I'm so glad I found this video. Do you feel better 3 months on? I just need to hear stories of people coming out of this x
@@Falangemary123 I'm at month 6 now, and she was my first real love. Relationship lasted 6 years, and it honestly took me up until last month to finally move on. What held me back was holding onto hope, and if you're holding onto false hope that they will come back you're just prolonging the healing process.
I didn't believe the phrase "it gets better" until it actually happened. I'm at the point where I can see photos, or random memories of her will pop into my mind and I won't even feel sad anymore. Time does heal all wounds. :)
this feels like a warm, comforting hug from a big sister. thank you.
I just don’t know when this pain will stop. I’m tired of pretending to be super happy in public when all I want to do is cry my eyes out.
I agree with you, she left me and we agreed to stay friends and I see her so happy and talking about her new crushes while I just gotta put a smile on my face and act like I'm happy for her when in reality I wanna cry
Me rn.
How are you now?
This video is everything !!! Always choose yourself ! You can’t force someone to choose you or value you ! The day you have to beg for someone to choose you or value you or love you , you already lost !!! Love yourself !!! Value yourself !!!! If anyone choose to walk out your life you wish them the best & stay gone ! One door close & 5 more door opens ! It’s okay to be alone ! Allow yourself to feel the emotions & go through the emotions . Take it day by day ! Surround yourself with friends & family & people who actually love you ! Write your feelings down as well . I’m going through a heartbreak as well & some days are better than others but I promise you it does get better ! You have to choose yourself ! & be patient enough to wait for someone who’s better will come along ! & if your ex moved on fast wish them the best & continue to focus on you ! Do not rebound !! Heal properly so you can evolve & make better decisions.
We broke up on 29th of September. I am devastated still after one month. I am so miserable and blaming myself. I hope when I am healed I can come back to this comment ❤️I hope everyone who is going through a heartbreak heals too!
That was the same day he left me. 😢 I'm still devastated
the 28th of September was the day of mine. he may have broke up with me, but we still kept in contact. but he blocked me a month ago. i talked to him today, but it hurt me worse. i figured out that hes trying to move on even though he promised me he would always love only me. idk what to think. he said he would never get back with me.
@@ladycoquette0000 i’m really sorry to hear that 😞. Mine blocked me too and he literally told me he had a nightmare that i broke up with him a WEEK before he broke up with me
@@Jamie-gw9gu me too :(
same thing with me omg..
Last months i have been feeling that life is just too hard to get through. Because of these thoughts i was starting to believe that im getting crazy. Seeing this video i felt that someone can finally understand my pain and that its not irrational to have these thoughts. Probably the most helpful video i have ever watched on yt. I thank you with all my heart
I am so happy I found this video. I felt silly at first looking up this topic. I am 2 months post breakup with someone I was with for a year, my 1st serious relationship. Its been hard. I didn’t want to eat and do things for a while, and I’m still going through the pain & guilt stage but hoping things will change soon. Thank you for this
I got back my ex back under 50hrs after years of break up by the help of Dr fred w are happily married with kids.
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Hey Brittany, it’s surprising to wake up and still feel the pain after 2 months, I’m at 10 weeks and find myself coming here for comfort and reassurance. It’s an indication of how deeply and fully you loved your ex…. and it will get better. I’ve been divorced twice, and yet this heartbreak is the hardest for me. Stay vulnerable, it takes courage, and you will come out the other side like a phoenix rising from the ashes.
How do you feel now?
Even tho I already went thru this type heartbreak years ago. It happened again and I seriously needed the reminder that is gonna be ok. You don’t understand how much these raw videos help a person out. Seriously thank you💗
You're very right Jessica, you're going to get better ❤️ and same, I'm through this now, I have been there but it still hurts and it will hurt maybe next time. It always hurts. I hope you found some peace now :)
I've gone through so many n they always hurt but these vids help
Thank you so so much for this video.
I dated someone for a very short period. I realized that sometimes your feelings for someone can’t be measured by the amount of time you’ve spent with them.
It was a happy short period but shattered my heart and soul into pieces when it ended.
Still taking long to feel okay…
Sometimes it even wows me because this pain is staying stronger and longer than our relationship lol
Then found this video. I have better hope now for myself.
How long?
I’m gonna come back to this video because I got broken up with like 3 days ago. I’m really heartbroken and I pray things will get better soon. Memories keep replaying and I keep wondering what I could’ve said or done differently. I also keep fighting the urge to break no contact, waiting on “closure.” Most things don’t even seem as fulfilling as they used to. I feel like I may never be my old self again. I’m having insomnia, trouble eating, just not enjoying life like I used to. But I needed to hear all of this, and I will update you guys when I’m finally better. To anyone who’s struggling with me, let’s get better together!!
Same here. I'll check back in.
I’ve been having a lot trouble sleeping for the last few nights, only getting 2 to 3 hours a night.. because of a girl I was with for 4 years & we ended really badly.. but honestly listening to you brings me sooo much comfort.. I play this video each night just to listen and help me sleep.. almost like a good friend comforting me on my bedside till I fall asleep..
I went through a heartbreak myself in 2019 and I literally felt like my heart bled. Physically and literally. Like your first video, I thought those emotions were bigger than myself and the turmoil was enorm beyond measure. Unlike you though Lumma ( by the way, i salute you a lot for making those raw videos. Showed a friend yesterday and we were watching it again and felt your pain). Anyway, long story short. My brokeness did ended and the pain blown away. You are so right, when you are in the midst of this storm, it's like it simply never ends.... But it does and you will learn to love again. Be happy again- with closure or non-closure. To those who are suffering right now, Chin Up, cry your eyes out but believe in your heart that this too shall pass. BECAUSE IT DOES.
I have legit been watching this every day and getting stronger everyday
How unbelievably identical and true this is. Although I’ve been through this before, the right now feels like something I’ve never experienced. Thank you for putting into words what can’t be made sense of inside of me. This just happened, and the initial stage is the absolute worst. I have rewatched this and will continue to until I’m out of the stages
This video gives such an accurate depiction of what a break is like. It’s reassuring that I’m not alone going through these feelings. I’m happy I came across this video.
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He left me and moved out yesterday. I needed this so much. Thank you Lumma. I will watch it every day until I'm healed. This is the first day of the rest of my life. I will work on myself and come out of this stronger. I will get to a point where I thank him for what he did and how it helped me grow. To anyone reading this, we can do it. It feels unbearable now, but we can do it.
Hope you doing okay.
Same… day 2 from 6 years relationship feeling heartbroken and depressed
@@siennaxu9280 you’ll be alright. Trust thr process. ❤️
It's been three months... How are you now?
@@aprilrains3163 hi! Absolutely everything Lumma said in this video is 100% true. I never thought I’d be able to say it. I cut off everything related to him and deleted everything from day 1, it hurt at first but meant I gave myself the full chance to truly heal. I did not let myself wallow in my suffering, but I acknowledged and held space for the pain. I focused on my ambitions and my healing and my actions I could control. I moved apartments to an even more beautiful place. I’ve made incredible friendships that I never put time into when I was with him. My hobbies have flourished. I feel happiness so much deeper, because for months i woke up sad. I appreciate my joy so much. I don’t want him back at all, when at first I was crazy desperate for him back. I allowed myself to feel and process. This was the most painful yet best thing that happened to me. I am now an “after” comment on this UA-cam video. The same ones I used to read and cry to. Because of all the hope they gave me. You will be so so so fine.
I'm 6 weeks into a breakup of a 6 year relationship. I'm having a lot of panic every day. Crying a lot less but very anxious and sad. I'm finally able to sleep again but eating is so difficult...and without that nutrition exercise is impossible. I'm doing therapy and journaling and seeing friends when I feel up to it. I'm missing him hard. Hoping he'll message me. Living in the past and trying to fix the past and find solutions which is impossible. Wishing I had done things differently or acted differently in certain situations. Overall just feeling like I'll never get through this. Thank you for the solid advice. I'll be watching this often as I move forward. As much as it hurts, you are completely right...a true soulmate would not have left. He would have stayed by my side and weathered any storm that came our way. He's not it, no matter how badly I want that to be the case.
Girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me. The week before I was going to propose to her. I know your pain especially with being with someone for some time, stay strong
@@Mikeyy_beats That must have hurt so much. You deserve someone who would cross oceans for you. I hope we both find that someone one day. Take care.
update??
@@zinazoulou3574 I never thought I could feel better but here I am 3 months out and I feel sooooo much better. I see clearer and clearer every single day. It's obvious that he was not right for me and that there were many things he did over the years that I do not understand why I tolerated. I overlooked a lot because I loved him, but he was not good to me. I still have sad times and will cry, but I'm moving forward. I'm seeing friends a lot, making new friends, still doing therapy, journaling, I started doing yoga often and going on walks. I'm getting back into my hobbies. It's crazy, but I feel FREE. I have so much work to still do to do love myself and accept myself. I mean, yeah, that's why I tolerated being mistreated for years. I want to love myself so much that no one can ever hurt me again like this man did.
@@mybeautifulrescue21I'm so soo happy for you!!, this deserves a celebration i swear 🎉, but please I want you to beware of something very important and dangerous,if he crawls back onto your life DON'T let him! Be careful people like him are like satan,a life destroyer , protect your peace at any cost! , he'll probably come back for a disgusting hook up without feelings ,tell him to get married of go to a hooker
it hasn’t been 2 months yet but i’m still crushed. i miss the memory of him so much but he seems to have moved on with other people and told me he doesn’t love me anymore. we haven’t spoken at all since the breakup. we were together for nine months and broke up right before summer started. i still have feelings for him but ive been praying that God takes them away. I wanna let him go. It’s July 13th, and i want strength for when i see him again. i believe ill be okay one day i just want that day to come. I’ll come back to this when im completely healed♥️
Thank you so much for this. I'm struggling so hard with losing the man I was planning on marrying. He also left me so abruptly it was the biggest shock in the world. Everything you're saying is exactly how I've been feeling. I appreciate you taking the time to do this so much and I wish you the absolute best in life 💜💜
How long were you two together?
My boyfriend cheated on me. I cried for six weeks straight, did not sleep anymore or eat. I watched your video and I feel like I am gonna be okay right now. Thank u for what you put out.
I’m literally going thru the same thing, my ex who I’ve been living with for the last 2 years left me 3 weeks ago because he doesn’t have feelings for me anymore. I was in absolute shock and was shattered. Thank you Lumma for sharing your journey, you’re such an inspiration, I WILL go through this and become better version of myself. Can’t wait to see what the future holds for us strong and independent beings ❤
How are you now?
@@SabaSaba2002-js1qf ohh thank you for asking! I'm doing so much better now, even thanking the process. It's not been an easy journey, I was still in a shit hole 4 months after the breakup, but remembered everyone processed it differently and I may take however long I need to heal. Important thing is to really make up the mind to move on & trust that it's only making space for something better. ❤️
I’m in total disbelief about my breakup. It was never supposed to happen. That’s one of the hardest things I think, the fact that within hours you are suddenly living in a reality that for many years (in my case) you thought would never happen. It makes you question every foundation.
I’m literally going through this right now. I love how we can all share this pain with each other and push ourselves to be better and heal!
U recovered?
Today my boyfriend broke up with me and few months back I had to heal from the person I never even dated but actually was in love. This year has been terrible because two breakups in a row and somehow I found this video today and this actually gives me the strength to deal with it. I hope everyone going through such phases heals up really soon and May God give strength to everyone to deal with this.
This is such a happy place where all the people with similar experiences give reassurance to everyone going through the same phase . It feels so happy to be here 😊. Hope I too recover sooner and be back here watching the video again but with a lighter heart and a big smile , seeing myself happier than ever before
It's so comforting to watch because I'm afraid to be alone, I hope I will be comfortable with myself after this breakup
I was watching your videos almost everyday after a break up 5 months ago. It was a long term relationship, was really in love with him, we were (or at least I WAS) planning a future together. So I came back here today, after 5 months to tell people that IT REALLY DOES GET BETTER. I did not believe it in the first months and it was really difficult time. I was having panick attacks for the first time in my life, crying all the time, was barely able to work or function at all for first months. I think I am still not 100% over, but what I recently feel is a huge relief. Actually I am grateful that it happened because I am a stronger person now and I am slowly looking forward to better future and new people in my life:) I truly start to believe that it was for the best and I have never been that self confident
Hi, how do you feel now?
@@oliverhoffman1118 I came to the point that I accept that I don't have to understand the reason why he left although I have some theories. I don't want to waste my life on crying over him. There's so much to do. I made myself a better version, 2.0 if you will 😅 I enjoy traveling alone and doing other things I like without having to compromise to other people. Sometimes I am still a little bit sad but it's not that often. I try to date other people but after all I'm not sure if I believe in real relationships anymore. Also it's difficult for me to to trust (my ex left me out of the sudden, completely changed within one day). I regret he made this decision but also his actions at the end made me realize that I can't trust him and he's not a person to build longlasting relationship with. So there's no comeback, I accept it and star to feel peaceful. I assume you are going through a breakup now. It will be difficult for a while but it will get better. Just allow yourself to feel all these feelings and go through them. Hit a gym, travel, treat yourself good. All these are cliché but it really helps :)
@@agnieszkaka3536 from your narrative. I think you still not healed. You still thinking about the break up and your ex.
@@agnieszkaka3536 you are still in denial stage but less pain i guess.
hi how are you now?
My boyfriend of 20 months broke up with me yesterday. I am completely broken and can’t wait until I am where you are at in this video. If I don’t forget about it, I will come back and comment in this video when I am healed! Thank you for this video
I hope you're doing better♥️
i’ll be back when i’ve healed. thank you.
Ive listened to this so many times. Sometimes several times a day, but everytime it tugs at even more painful corners of my heart. It gives me strength but also makes me so weak knowing how hard this process is going to be. I want to be where you are today, but I'm so afraid of the effort it took. Because right now, I dont feel like I have it in me.
I'm feeling the same. I'm an introvert. I don't have friends to share what I'm going through right now. I was too emotionally dependent on him. I can't describe what I'm feeling. I've been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks for the past 2 years. N now my anxiety kicks in ever since my bf left me. I hurts so bad. I can't eat nor sleep. I've lost so much weight. I kept on hoping that he'll call or text me. I really want to move on n forget about him. But every time I'm alone I keep on thinking about him. I listened to this several times a day too. I hope I'll get over him soon.
@@aceeca7071I hope you're well too now. Three months later it's so much better. I hope he doesn't text or call you though, it's not worth it at all. You'd be much better off not hearing from them ever again. Wishing healing upon you ❤
how are u now
It's a really weird feeling when you dont want them back anymore, yet you still miss the good memories and times you shared together. I got through the denial stage and now I accept the fact that a relationship between my ex and I would not be healthy even if I did decide to go back to him. However, even in feeling this way, I still love him and there is pain there. I can't wait to be able to get through all the stages
I can’t stress how much your videos have helped me. We broke up a week ago, I gave him an ultimatum to prioritize me more and he chose not to. After 3 years and living together I’m finally realizing he wasn’t right for me. I always turn on your videos when I’m at my lowest and I appreciate you so much.
I too broke up for the same reason with my ex. It's so tough, the thing that's making it worse is the good memories. Never in my life I ever thought the beautiful memories would turn into something so painful
I’m watching this video every single day until I get to the point you were when you filmed this. THANK YOU!
The most toxic thing I see on social media is the whole mentality of “bossing up” or getting better to “manifest him back” or get him back or get his attention… what is the point of that? Especially if you know that even if he did reach out, you’d likely not disrespect yourself by going back to him. So at this point all you want is external validation. I love that she mentioned the “manifesting your ex back” videos and mentality because many people fall into that loophole and don’t actually get better. They remain obsessed with their ex, and that’s toxic and hinders personal growth.
What you should focus on is becoming better for YOURSELF and doing the things for YOURSELF which would help you.
Get the “revenge bod” because you wanna be healthier and when you look at yourself you feel good. If you expect his reaction, you’re feeding off his validation. What would be even more disappointing is he sees it and has no reaction. That would kill your motivation from inside.
Move on only if you’re ready. Don’t fake it for him to see and don’t lie to yourself. Allow yourself to feel the pain and acknowledge it. This way you process.
Take on hobbies and activities that you didn’t have time to do when you were in a relationship. Enjoy the perks of being single for a bit. Don’t do this again, to keep yourself “busy” or to show off to him once again that you’re better off without him. It’s hard, but doable :)
Day 2 post-break up. I was the dumper and it still hurts so much. We were together for almost 2 years. I told him I loved him 1 year in to it. He refused to say it back. I was patient and waited. However, I finally asked him if he loved me 8 months later and he said he “didn’t know”. At this point, if he doesn’t know then he doesn’t and he may never will. I didn’t want it to end, but I had to walk away. It wasn’t just the I love you thing either. It was the lack of communication and intimacy. There’s literally no point of return.