What to Love and How
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- Опубліковано 22 лип 2019
- In which John and his family drive north to South Bend and consider what to love and how.
Also, I get to lift the greatest trophy in football.
Thanks to Ian Rush, Patrik Berger, Courtney, and everyone at Liverpool Football Club for making our day so special. Also thanks to Mohamed Salah for absolutely smashing that penalty in the final. Thanks also to Divock Origi and Trent Alexander-Arnold and Virgil van Dijk and Andrew Robertson and and and and ....
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Wait...Alice is 6??? First a kid calls me ma’am and now this?
Same.
Exactly my reaction! Where did those 6 years go? I feel like she was just born.
Right? It seems like just yesterday John and his pregnant wife did the video chat with President Obama, asking his opinion on girl names. Holy crap.
@@crochetingcanuck and then Obama said Don't Forget To Be Awesome! How am I so old
IKR I remember her being born and excitedly talking to my classmate about it. 6 years! wow
John's little feety-stomps while he got to hold the cup are perfect and precious to me. Alice is very lucky to have such a positive role model.
It's his happy dance!
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That’s was in fact the cutest thing I have seen all day. There’s still happiness in the world c,:
Exactly how Jordan Henderson did it! What a captain.
He did it when he came to Orlando for the TATWD tour and no one sang the bum bum bum part in Sweet Caroline!
Your reaction to seeing the European cup has me grinning so big right now 😁 I love it when people are that excited about something they love.
I don't really care for football yet I had tears in my eyes as I watched a man I don't personally know live through a moment of happiness. John has an incredible power to bring us together and share.
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nope i didn't tear up when John lifted that cup and stomped in excitement and kissed it, nope I did not...
but also, I love that you highlight the us-and-them dynamic as well as the value of things - in community, not the things itself
It's called tribalism
To gather. Together. That’s a beautiful connection I never would have made.
To my surprise it even works when translated into German: "zu sammeln" and "zusammen"! :) Curious to know if this is just a coincidence or related?
@@LolasTBs It could also work translated into polish (although more crippled and sounding little worse) as "zbierać" and "zebranie/zbieranina". Maybe the first thing you gathered were humans :)
Wow. This is a really amazing sentence (I'm pretty sure that's a poem, or atleast it really poetic).
I love how the last sentence is both you saying without John pointing it out you wouldn't have made the connection, but it can also say that without gathering together you can't make a beautiful connection together.
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@@LolasTBs While I was thinking that you're being silly, I realized that it's also the same in Greek: Μαζί (mazi), together/ μαζεύω (mazevo) to gather. The "-evo" part of the verb is simply a common verb ending added to the original "mazi" word... Spooky!!!!
"What to Love and How" sounds like the name of a Book. Any thoughts, John?
If I had a book for every title I'd come up with, I'd have a lot more books. ;) -John
Keep it in a list of "possible names for a new book"!
I mean, yeah sure but wouldn't "more light than heat" be better?
Nadius89 The name for that list should be More Light than Heat
Is that like a more genteel version of “a good name for a rock band”?
Ah, father-daughter a cappella harmonies are the greatest kind of a cappella harmonies
Been too long since I've seen John's happy dance. Glad he put it to good use lifting that trophy :):):)
I literally cried as John cried getting to see that cup. I know nothing about Liverpool or even soccer really, but the love and amazement was so genuine and pure I couldn’t help but feel it thousands of miles away.
awwww thanks for sharing that feeling with me! -John
I totally get it, though I'm no football person either.
I am a huge fan of Astrid Lindgren. And I got to go to one reading with Q&A by her.
I think I smiled and cried the whole time and I can exactly remember and feel again the feeling I had when she walked past me to the podium.
We were all hers during that reading!
I cried for a similar reason. These two men were the first genuinely Good people I ever got to know well. May it be one sided. Watching John be happy was heartwarming.
I also cried 😅
I’m glad I wasn’t the only one! This community, as it is for John and so many others, is one of my longest lasting us-es
"Can an us survive without a them to fuel it?"
-John Green
I really hope I'm not misquoting that.😁
I don't remember what video this is from anymore, but here's another John quote: "there is no them, only facets of us" 😂 and I actually really love that quote but it's funny when you put the two together
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This is truly, honestly, wholeheartedly the way I feel about Nerdfighteria. I am thankful to you and Hank for that, yes, but I’m also thankful to every Nerdfighter who has made this beautiful “together.”
An absolute ditto!!
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Nerdfighteria is an unusual group in that it is basically built on the idea of NOT 'othering' people for xyz. The two commonalities Nerdfighteria share are not 'we love football' or 'we love marvel' but 'we love understanding others complexly and with kindness' and 'we love loving stuff' all wrapped up in DFTBA. Not having a 'them' is what Nerdfighteria is all about.
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I am not ashamed to admit I cried when John got to see the Cup. This was so heartfelt and beautiful and important. Also, Alice's singing is so precious!
john’s little shimmy at 3:31, otherwise known as Happy Dance; The Sequel
Been too long.
I wish I could like this comment more than once
Also known as the Giddy Dance
accurate!
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this made me feel good-weepy and i don’t enjoy the sports. because clearly it’s about so much more. thank you, john.
Awww thanks. -John
Same.
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I don’t really get sports and I’m not afraid to say I wept with you.
I’m not weeping, you’re weeping.*
Nope, definitely weeping. Thanks, John.
Thank you! -John
I think we're all weeping
Why'd you have to make me cry, John?
Ahh...the best part of the week. The amazing reflections of John Green. Thanks for these, they are awesome.
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Always know I can get some solid Kurt Vonnegut quotes from you John. Thank you for that and everything else you do.
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YOU HELD THE CUP?! Wow. You sir are truly blessed.
This is why I love UA-cam, I love watching people who are passionate about things, even when I can't find passion for anything.
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maybe, for now, your passion is watching standing witness to the passions of others! :)
Please keep making videos about football, I cry the best tears at every single one.
delahaven Except that it’s soccer, right?
Seeboo __ I’m well aware, of course. But John should know better.
he's aware that it is indeed called football to the rest of the world, so he embraces that fact
Awwww. Seeing John so happy made me so happy. And as always, thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, John
Listening to your daughter say "Gini Wijnaldum" in her baby voice is my favorite thing all day.
she is SO cute! I haven't seen her since she was a whole infant, but with that voice she HAS to be ADORABLE
My Dad is a huge Liverpool fan and although I'm not a huge football fan myself. Seeing my Dad who has always worked hard for his family in tears singing "You'll never walk alone" after winning the final made me love Liverpool FC and what it has done for my Dad and Brother.
Ah jeez your comment made me tear up. You're a good son. I'm sure your dad is very proud of you. -John
It's amazing how I can be the least sport-sy person in existence and still think Liverpool is beautiful
CS Lewis' article called "The Inner Circle" about insider-ism is SO GOOD. That's what this reminded me of.
The inner ring.... its sooo good
thank you for the recommendation :)
I'll be honest it was a bit difficult for me to read and understand (that writing style is scary), but wow it's good.
Truly you’ve changed my outlook so many times, thank you John, you’ll never walk alone
John kissed that cup so tenderly 😩😍
I love you, Nerdfighteria. I think a defining characteristic of this community is that we love the world too much to demonize “them.”
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That’s so beautifully put 😭
I saw some pictures from Looking for Alaska were released today. Cannot wait to watch the series!!
I haven't seen them! But I am also so excited for the series! -John
I really adore and appreciate how versatile (for the lack of a better word) your description of love, togetherness and us-ness is. I'm not a football/sport person, but I could still relate so well with this in terms of other fandoms, my students and how easily 'us' can also become about 'them'.
Thank you, John 💙
Melinda Gates also wrote: "Wisdom isn't about accumulating more facts; it's about understanding big truths in a deeper way." John, you keep the deep thinker in me quite busy.🤔
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This reminds me of me with my dad. When I was around Alice's age Arsenal had just become invincible and my father being a huge Arsenal taught me the game of football and taught me about the club. So many years later we still watch every Arsenal game we can together. Even when in different cities we call one another to talk about the game.
I love football and I love Arsenal football club, but more than those two things, I love what they brought to my relationship with my father.
You've changed me, never thought I would enjoy football/soccer in the past. Just your passion for it has driven me to seek it out! Thank you John!
Oh wow this video made me cry. I can't believe you met Ian Rush and got to lift the cup! Omg this is so amazing!
I have a playlist that helps calm me down when my depression gets bad, during panic attacks and generally high pressure stuff. That playlist mostly consists of vlogbrothers content.
the Thoughts From Places is like... made for that fr
Same! Mine is called "Things that make me happy" and it's just stuff that makes me feel like the world is not as bad as my brain is making it out to be. It is largely Vlogbrothers, and this video has just been added to it.
@@RainaRamsay Exactly!
@@m.w.kaplan447 I guess so. They tend to remind me of how big the world actually is and 'the world' can be uniquely defined by every single person.
Nerdfighteria is the only community I've stayed with through all the different selves I've been over the years. What a beautiful place to be. Thanks Hank and John.
Thank you for growing with us! -John
John lifting that cup actually brought tears to my eyes. John has meant so much to my life that it is literally tear-worthy to watch him do something that means so much to him. I am genuinely so very happy to see him genuinely so very happy.
Singing for two hours solves probably most problems in the world. Thank you for this amazing video! You just saved my day (I even tried singing before without any results, so thank you so very much)
Have a lovely day🤗
Yay, another philosophical sports video!
Honestly before John started making these videos I didn't understand the appeal of sports and I thought they were kinda pointless. I have been thoroughly proven wrong and I am thankful for that
We have been Man U fans for 30 years and have never hated Liverpool! We root for Newcastle, too: I guess we just love great soccer. My hubby played soccer in college where I learned to love this strange, “new” game. We took classes so we could coach younglings and continued to promote the game to anyone who would listen. We lived in South Bend for 18 years and saw the Michiana Soccer Association grow. We attended every Notre Dame soccer game that our schedules would permit. In 1994, we scored tickets to Russia vs Sweden and actually caught a ball that was launched high and wide over the goal. During the last 2 men’s World Cups, we watched every game (we had to record some), and this summer, we saw every women’s game (we are teachers and have our summers off). We love, love soccer, South Bend, and Notre Dame stadium, and loved this post. I had goosebumps just listening. Although I really loved seeing you lift the trophy (cup), I think seeing your daughter traveling with you was even better.
Discord has been a great way to connect with communities I never would have found otherwise!
Yes indeed! The Nerdfighteria Discord server is my favourite place on the whole internet.
This is the kind of vlogbrothers' video I love the most. The ones that reflect, that celebrate community and passion, and that remind me of what I should value as I go through life. Thank you John.
It is possible to love others without fearing and hating The Other.
And again, you flawlessly put into words, thoughts I never got to shape well enough to express.
Thank you.
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Love is such a hard concept to define and John did it effortlessly
Nerdfiteria creates no them
Also, when you published turtles all the way down my freshman year of college it created that same reminiscent feeling. The fault in our stars was important to me my freshman year of high school. What a journey I went through from knowing Hazel to Aza :)
I really hope nerdfighteria creates no them. That's definitely the goal! And thanks for the kind words about my books, and for sticking with us all the years between them. -John
Okay, couple things:
1) I love your thoughtfulness with the feeling of belonging and being very careful and aware of creating "other"ness
2) I will proudly say that while I pretend I became a Liverpool fan back in 2011 because I felt like they were the closest to the Packers in the premier league, it was mostly because of your passion and the YNWA spirit of the club.
3) You can't help but get chills every time you hear YNWA sung by it's fans. I find it almost more powerful than the Himno de Sevilla, which is hard to beat. I think because YNWA is more community feel than Himno is about being proud of the club and the history of the club.
I love both those songs. They're both really hymns! The second best thing a football song can be is funny. The best thing a football song can be is sacred. I'm really grateful that you've been following LFC in part because of me! -John
Dear John - I told my former professor about you a few weeks ago. He was one of the people who encouraged me to pursue graduate work (which I did). It felt strange to come back to him years later (as a friend and colleague now) to recommend a young adult novelist as one of the most significant voices of wisdom in my life. As a fellow person of faith, I have wrestled with the themes you discuss so very many times. Oh and you also helped me move toward a fuller love for European football, so thanks for that as well. If our paths ever cross IRL, I owe you one.
It still blows my mind that Americans love UK football and are just as much football fans as we British can be 😀😀😀😀😀 love from London
John Greens happy dance in full force, slightly modified due to holding a legendary trophy. Congrats!
There's nothing better than witnessing someone love something so deeply. Good on you, John!
I can't even begin to express how the sincere emotions that you put in to these videos make me feel. The strange profoundness of a video about soccer is something that I didn't know I wanted till I saw it. I have known about this channel for yonks but only started watching last year and I don't think I'll ever stop. There is such a gentle, fatherly passion in your videos that I adore. Thank you so much for sharing it with us.
This is now the second video in a row where I see a John being excited by holding Liverpool's cup (Oliver and then Green)
This is a beautiful video- it's so nice that Alice has taken an interest in football too
Seeing John this happy makes me happy, too. 10/10 content
So many thoughts on this. 1. I love how pure your joy is in this video. I'd do that too if I got to hold the 2014 National Championship College Football trophy. 2. The drive to South Bend was tedious when I went in 2011, I can't imagine how bad it is with construction. We used dead raccoons as "mile markers." 3. Alice is six?! Where have I been all this time? 4. This video is exactly why I enjoy this channel so much. The mix of emotions, facts, introspection and other valuable human experiences is always so well done, even when the fullness of that experience cannot be expressed.
These vlogs are so important to me, not only because John and Hank are amazing sources of perspective and humor, but also because they just... share. They share their life experiences, and their reasons for feeling a certain way, they share their perspectives about topics, simple and abstract with such relate-ability, but also by unconventional means at the same time. Who knew that I would think critically about what I love, and why I love it from a UA-cam video about a man and his daughter going to a football meet-up, and getting to hold a monumental trophy whilst performing a joyful tap dance in front of two football superstars. My appreciation for life and the concepts that I work with every day that fundamentally makes me "me" have been greatly deepened over the years of watching 'vlogbrothers'. And I just wanted to share my gratitude for that. I've grown up watching your vlogs, figuratively and literally.
John, we ALL love you. Thank you for being a part of our life!
I cant comprehend a love for football, but when you make videos like this I move a little closer to understanding. Thank you John
i don't think a lot of people quite understand what being a part of something like a football club really feels like. it is so weird to me when people outside the "fan circle" question why we get emotional when a bunch of people we have never met score goals or make passes or create great tackles. a friend asked me why i refer to liverpool as "we", why it is "us" who won the champions league title, and i couldn't give her a coherent answer up until watching this video today. i don't know john green but here i am connecting with him on something bigger than him and i. when, for example, liverpool fans listen to "you'll never walk alone" and you hear those fist words, we feel the same things - pride, passion, joy, unity. it is crazy, especially from the road our team has taken. sports as a whole is something that has this unifying power, it is incredible.
Exactly. It IS us. It's OUR club. The club isn't the players or the manager or the staff. It's us. All of us. -John
John, you truly don’t ever forget to be awesome. Thank you for sharing this beautiful moment!
I love following this channel and seeing John slowly carve out turns-of-phrase over time.
Top shelf content. Thoughtful, emotional and joyful. In less than 4 minutes, you took me on quite a journey.
I actually really needed this video in a way I never thought I would. After an incredibly low point in my battle against mental illness three years ago, Nerdfighteria was, quite literally, one of the only things carrying me through the darkness of my depression. I watched every video, listened to every podcast, read every book... now, a couple years later, I haven't read Hank's book, I don't listen to the podcasts, and I rarely watch the videos. Before, I would have bought a plane ticket to go see them on their mini tour, even if it was in a place I never would otherwise go to. Now, I'm not so sure I would buy a ticket if they came to my home town. It's not that I don't love Nerdfighteria anymore, but I have come to love other things, too, and have learned to balance my life in a way that is mentally healthy for me. As such, I have started to categorize myself as an outsider, thinking I could no longer be considered a Nerdfighter. But I am a Nerdfighter. I do love this community. It made me feel so much peace hearing John say that, truly, there are no outsiders, including in UA-cam fandoms. So, yah. Thank you. I am happy to still be able to call this community my home, even if I never again dive as deeply as I did in the tuatara rabbit hole. ;)
Tears came to my eyes when I saw John seeing the trophy.
You know, I spoke today to my husband about how many people can't talk to you, know you have a different opinion, and despite it respect you first. We need that so much. There's no right or wrong, only different perspectives.
Omg, I saw John went to South Bend and I thought he'd definitely sneak in a Mayor Pete reference in here
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yeah, same! just more damning evidence of how ridiculously invested I am in this primary...
I got excited and thought he was going to talk about Mayor Pete, but I guess football and love is good too.
That was my first thought too! I wondered if he might mention Pete.
The message of the video had me in tears but the Alice's-voice-cameos stole the show
I have never watched a game of football and I have no interest in sports at all, yet this warmed my heart. Thank you for your positivity, your joy, and your words.
You know what I love? That when John lifts the trophy, his face is hidden by it. Even after being on camera, that moment of immense joy and hopefulness is private.
YOU'RE A LIVERPOOL FAN. i have never loved you more.
As someone who doesn’t really root for sports teams, I was interested in how you got into Liverpool and what sets them apart from other teams. Do they have a special story of community, like AFC Wimbledon, are they “just” really good at football, and/or something else?
@@homeworkbreak4237 hi :) so usually fans of any sports teams will always have different stories as to why they root for the team they support and it is difficult to give an overarching reason why people would support the team. with liverpool however, personally speaking of course, there is just something more, like their slogan as of late has been: "this means more". i came to love liverpool coming out into my own growing up. my family is mainly man united fans so i grew up in a man united home but at the age of like 12 or 13, i discovered liverpool and they were at a pretty mediocre stage, having finished 7th or so in the table. i was not a hardcore football fan but my family has always been a sports family and with time my love for the sport and then liverpool intensified and i came to find that there is this passion in the team that i had never seen in any other, players and supporters alike. watch any video of the fans singing "you'll never walk alone" right before the match and you feel it from across the screen. i suggest watching the video of liverpool winning against barcelona in the uefa semi-final, and you will see that bond between the players and the fans. people say anfield is a fortress, a cheat code and it is. the fans are known as the 12th man because they are. it just means more, so much more and it is beautiful.
mahlape makhetha YNWA
mahlape makhetha thanks for the feedback! I can see why this team can be important to so many people
Oh man, I loved how excited and emotional John was! So happy for him that he got to experience that moment :)
John has one of the purest, most life-affirming smiles I’ve ever seen. Gives me hope for humanity.
John you some how always seem to make me feel better but especially today. I'm so happy you have a tribe that shares your enthusiasm and that you got to literally hold something so precious to you. Sending love ❤️
"I'm not afraid to say that I wept."
...and I'm not afraid to say that I wept watching you weep, holding an enchanted object suddenly tangible.
ohhgghhh I love these videossss they make my heart happy
i know nothing about soccer but boy the amount of emotion i felt seeing john so excited smacked me to somewhere new
There's so much I've come to love in the world via UA-cam purely because of the boundless enthusiasm of those who makes content about it. My favourite being Geoff and Vicki Marshall here in the UK who makes videos about trains and train stations but do it in such a way that every video is a uplifting moment that enables you to feel their joy about the things that they love. Every if we don't love a thing ourselves, we can feel and appreciate the love others have for it and in so are, for a moment, brought together by it.
Boy it's been a long time since we've seen a John happy dance.
We should really get some more of those. :)
I cried when i saw you with the European cup! You surely deserves it John and i love it when you make videos about football lol. #YNWA
Got emotional watching this because it reminded me of how much I love the thing that I love but how hard it's been to love it alongside other people. It's given me a lot to think about.
Just in the amount of time I've been part of Nerdfighteria, I've seen the strong bonds and how amazing a community can be. Many of my nerdfighter friends have helped me through tough points in my life. And I hope I have helped them through their rough times. I'm proud to be part of such an amazing and supportive community.
such beautiful words. thank you, john.
I will always be a vlogbrothers fan ❤️❤️
I have the biggest grin on my face, especially watching John being so giddy. Truly heartwarming.
crying at this, thinking about the seven years through which your and hank’s work and this community have been with me the same way liverpool’s been with you.
thanks
This was lovely. I am a Dortmund fan who also loves kpop, so it felt like a personal miracle to find a video that speaks to both. Thank you, John. You made my day.
We gather together to join in a journey
Joyfully, mindfully making our way
In beauty of woodlands and quiet peace of waters
We sing a song of hope at the break of the day.
Well, I have now officially cried over something I really ~really~ don't care about. So thanks for that! But seriously, your absolute joy raising that cup was contagious. Thanks for sharing.
I was lucky enough to see Hank and John on the tour for TATWD, and I had a similar reflection on the passing of time. I thought about when I started watching Vlogbrothers in 2012, and what a deeply sad, lonely person I was then. I had depression and serious anxiety problems going unchecked and I was suffering for it. I compared that time to the present that was October 2017, and how different my life was. In 2012 I didn’t think I would ever be “better.” I thought that was how I would always feel. I’ve had really low times since 2012, but also some really great times and throughout all that, Vlogbrothers was a constant for me. I always enjoy your videos! Thanks for all that you do.
hands up if u thought john was gonna meet mayor pete (only because I know nothing about south bend other than that that is where he's the mayor of)
(great vid though!)
omg I can't stop smiling seeing you lift the trophy. I would've totally done the same
Oh John, you’ve made me cry. You must know how much love Nerdfighteria has for you. This is unbelievably sweet and smart and deep and wonderful, just like you. Thank you for continuing to give of yourself so generously to perfect strangers on the internet.
I live in south bend and my goodness that game brought in so many people it was nice!
This is why I'm proud to say I'm a nerdfighter!🖤🖤
Question: how do I remember the “us” ‘s that I’m a part of that I care deeply about when I am far away from them? I’m a scientist and my work can be very solitary. But there are many people way across the world that might benefit from the work I put in at 11am on a Tuesday. Many, many Tuesdays.
I want to feel this togetherness, this love. But it can’t always be right there, it can only be there sometimes. Apartness is an important counterpoint to togetherness, and that can be so hard.
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I have had a Very Long Week, and John's joy at seeing the cup just genuinely lifted my spirits and made my heart lighter. Thank you for sharing your happiness, John.
It wasn’t until very recently that I found myself being part of something like this, but man has it changed so much. I’ve always been shy and aloof, using feigned disinterest to keep me at arm’s length from everyone else as a way to protect myself. But, as a nearly 24 year old lady, I quite accidentally fell face first into the BTS army of all things. I found myself commenting, responding, liking, and sharing, very much throwing myself into the depths of togetherness, like one big group hug. No walls. Just openness and vulnerability, happy and excited discussions of all the things we love about our favorite band and our feelings about various songs. It sounds silly even to me, but being open about being a fan of something has really been a turning point for me this year. Human interaction, it’s a wild thing.
south bend let's go ND and Mayor Pete!
I believe the arc of the most loving universe bends towards full inclusivity and warm welcomes.
My favorite part of the week: insightful perspective from John Green's mind. I don't like sports, but I love the connections you make. Thanks John ☺️
Thanks for showing me that there can be a good way to love a football team John. I'm an Arsenal fan but I spend time pretty much exclusively with people who hate football for being loud, confrontational and divisive and honestly I was starting to agree with them. I think that without your positive love for the game in my life I might not have gone back to football next season after the sadness of Wengers departure and that soul-crushing night watching Baku. But here I am getting ready for another season, hoping against hope that this might be our year, because I watched Wimbledon stay up on the final day and listened to you'll never walk alone after the CL final with tears in my eyes and I know that when Arsenal have a good one it'll feel even more magical.