SOUTH AFRICA WILL TEACH YOU THESE 4 HABITS BY FORCE | Nigerian in South Africa 🇳🇬 🇿🇦
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- South Africa has changed me in ways I'm quite happy about! In this video, I share 4 habits I've had to develop faster in order to have a smooth and easy time living in South Africa.
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I'm definitely one of the South Africans who asks personal questions. Thanks for saying how it makes you feel. My partner is Zimbabwean and he also has a problem with this and is a very private person.
I don't mind telling anyone anything about my life. To me it's trying to get to know the person particularly for us who come from villages. Our villages are small, maybe 50 homes, and everyone knows everything about each other and are responsible for helping each other.
I think the questions get more personal when I find out that the individual is very different to me or is from another country because I'm trying to understand you and your culture. Divulging every bit of info about yourself, family life, even who your ancestors are and historical events in your family are a necessity in a typical South African village. People who are too private can be acused of being spies, or lacking 'togetherness' or of being uppity. It can also lead to them being ostracized. Ps. Applicable to SA village life.
All the best in SA.
Hi mama! Thank you so much for this comment! One thing I love about making these videos is that I get to engage with people like you in the comments, who can share certain cultural realities and give me context, without being rude or insulting about it. This comment has taught me something very VALUABLE about smaller communities in South Africa, so thanks a million for sharing. I hope to see more of you on the channel and engage with you some more. Thanks for your well wishes too, God bless you big ❤️💐
@@oyinkanhoney Not me, I am very private so I do not ask people personal questions that might result in me being asked the same questions. It is more of a personality thing whether a person is an extrovert or an introvert I would not say it is a South African thing. Sometimes some people ask you a lot of questions to understand what you are all about and to indirectly inform you and that they got your back, so call them if you need anything, type of people. Some are just forward and want to parade the new girl in town is my bestie, I have first dibs on them, just make sure they do not take advantage of you and emotionally manipulate you.
I am South African, but I find that problem is different in different races. My background and people are very private,but some races are in your face,yes..
Agreed... same here
I will think you want to bewitch me🤣😂
South Africans dont migrate because we are inlove with what God has given us . We enjoy our country a lot .
But we do migrate,
That's quite a general statement. South Africans do migrate but perhaps not as much as others.
@@oyinkanhoney Yes not as much as other Africans you right
Uhm there are many South Africans here in the US….
@@Keesha the Europeans/white/caucasians of course, there’s a reason for them but many of us Black South Africans always return home to make a difference. Recently my uncle, aunt, cousins, my brother have returned from the US and UK. I just got back to the US but we will be returning with friends. SA needs us to build and it’s our dear country, if we migrate forever all our efforts for fighting for our freedom would be in vain.
The thing is South Africans are very friendly and it is easy to start up a conversation and you would think when asking those questions am interrogating or stepping on boundaries but fun fact is that after the conversation I am already forgotten all that info that you just gave, we ask questions to keep conversation going ,it's just who we are
Ahh I see. That explains that. But I still feel like there are some questions not to be explored on the first conversation. At the end of the day, it all boils down to the people involved. As long as nobody is pressured to share, all is well. Thank you for your comment and for watching 🤗
True, such conversations happen even in queues in shops😅just to pass time
You are on youtube telling strangers about your life, unbothered? Make it make sense!
Nah iam a South Africa and I hate it too bit
I don't see myself relocating to any other country, SA is me and I am a proudly South African🇿🇦😍
Love that for you 👍
Nobody cares!
That’s not a smart thing to say. It’s good to travel and visit other countries, at least a temporary stay, that broadens your horizons and you learn things you wouldn’t have known staying put in one place. I know you would say you love your country, it’s beautiful and so on, but believe me Europe, China are beautiful with better infrastructure but they leave their countries and live in undeveloped African countries. Leave your country and go somewhere and then come back home you feel a difference, try it.
@@lawman4272 That is their problem whereas many really live outside of their country. They are many in USA, UK, Australia, UAE, China, Thailand, etc. They will tell you South Africans don't travel. What a piece of lie.
They are really living in a fool's paradise.
SA is not good country to live
People are just friendly, they don’t mean any harm. You are not forced to answer the questions, just laugh it off and keep it moving.
Also, those things depend on the type of people you interact with, so look carefully at the people you are with and always remember that your experiences in South Africa are determined by who you interact with.
I’ve been told by a Cameroonian colleague, in a professional environment , me being senior to him, that he was told that South African women will sleep with a man for a can of beer. All I could tell him was that his friends must be interacting with low life types coz I did not know a single woman at our level who did not have her own money, own car, own house etc. and who would sleep with just anyone, and for a can of beer for that matter.
Mind the company you keep guys and do not generalise.
Other than this, thanks for the video sister. Good stuff.
100% correct!
Yeah that's why I said it is important to determine your boundaries before you interact with people, so you are not caught off-guard and you can respond gracefully 👍
The person who told that to your colleague really must be a hater, that's so demeaning! Even if they met one person who would do that, it's wrong to generalize such a terrible trait. I hope we all do better.
Thank you so much for taking the time to engage, glad to have you here 🤗
Perfectly said, they will intact with low lives and think that everybody is like that
I wholeheartedly agree with your submission. However, a lot of South Africans paint Nigerians with the same dirty brush. A lot of South Africans believe Nigerians are bad news. Is that not generalisation? SMH!!
@@pmambongwe8640 exactly 💯 we are not talking about Nigerians in Nigeria
I have also noticed that people from outside South Africa have a problem adjusting to our friendliness, like greeting a stranger and they just look at you and say nothing
South Africans travel , in droves ..the UK nurse deal began here so there's still many SAns abroad , difference is we don't form communities, mark our territory in another man's country. Because we know home is home ,n home is where we buried our ancestors n where we will rest not overseas here
The respect point is huge..in order for you to succeed, you need to respect everyone around you and also respect yourself. I love that fact about SA..I think we're better at that than many other countries especially compared to the far East and the West, because we grow up in such a diverse country.
I agree. Many here have mastered the art of disagreeing with others without fighting about it. Yes, that's not true for everyone, some people still like to fight, but a wise person knows better plus has experience. Thank you so much for engaging, I'm happy to have you here. 🤗
Did you know that Bio oil which many Nigerians like to use was actually invented in south Africa.
I find it very strange that fellow africans always find ‘something’ wrong with our country or even with South Africans while african Americans who visits or live in our country speak very highly of our country and South Africans. When we respond to them favourable, some fellow Africans accuse us of showing love to African Americans than fellow Africans. Get it….if you want to get respect, be respectful. We don’t travel to other African countries and find ‘something’ wrong with that african country or its people. By the way, why are there so many Nigerians living in other countries? Why are they always trying to find green pastures elsewhere than in NIGERIA?
Darling, please breathe. Take it easy. Let's learn to listen to understand, not to react. Please show me an example of what I have said is WRONG with your country in this video. Just one. The title of the video and the advice in it don't even lean towards negativity. Check out the comments left here by your other countrymen...they mostly seem to be proud that someone recognizes the nice things in their country and the interesting adjustments that come with it, which I have discussed. You simply assume that because I have made a video about SA, it's negative. Patience and Analytical listening are life skills that will save us all this drama o, let's learn those. And to your question, people relocate because people can relocate, if it was so bad, said countries wouldn't let anyone in. Travel doesn't need to be justified to anyone except Immigration services. Cheers.
Many of us African Americans have so much admiration for South Africans. To us you are survivors and share a lot in common with us that no other Africans can. Nigerians(not all) come into our countries and look down on us as if they are superior. They do it in every country they go to.
@@jaxthewolf4572 Thank u for saying this because when we say that we get called xenophobic. We should learn to impress each others differences and respect is earned.
Did you watched the video or you just commented..im confused 🤔
@@jaxthewolf4572 I will say this it is only African Americans that have suffered exactly like South Africans. South Africans were subjugated for almost the same time as black Americans which is 500 years. No other other African people were subjugated this long and I am from Zambia. Maybe the next who were equally subjugated quite long were the Zimbabweans. So south Africans and African Americans really are identical. They do not share this with other Africans.the europeans stayed the longest in the southern African region than anywhere else in Africa. Even now the high number of the white population in Africa is concentrated in the southern part of Africa.
1. Falling into a trap of living beyond your means is very easy.
2. S.A is very diverse, you can go to cities , small towns, resorts, national parks etc.
You can fully explore the country
You have spoken truth! Thank you so much for engaging 🤗
Asking personal questions is something we've normalised as SAns and it's a bad habit. Don't be afraid to tell the person asking that they're overstepping their boundaries.
Yes, definitely. Boundaries have to be communicated respectfully. I believe I can tell someone that I do not want to share certain information, and still be friends with them. The problem is , some people think boundaries equals impoliteness/being mean. I really hope we can all just respect one another's boundaries. Thanks a million for engaging 🤗
Agree...some questions make you cringe even for South Africans like me 🙆♀️
Now I'm aware of it
Stop the bad habit. I have never seen people who like to justify every bad behaviour like South Africans.
Other African countries need to implement a "buy local" culture. In South Africa, we have brands like the Proudly South African campaign and a website dedicated to products manufactured in South Africa.
You can start by having isles or shelves dedicated to local products...
I always check the country of origin when I buy anything and make sure that as far as South African products are concerned, most of my purchases are products Made in South Africa..like my shampoo and conditioner, body and hand lotion, shower and hand gel, cleaning products....
I also prefer products from other African states as second option...I am yet to see food products made in Nigeria in SA retail shops
THIS! Nigeria is gradually figuring out production, mostly in food and fashion, but we still have a long way to do in terms of certain industries (high level products). I really admire your support for locally made products and I'll start checking to do the same too. THANKS for engaging 🤗🤗
@musuhena h you are right. People.must buy SA. I will go further. If i was living in SA i woild only buy black SA. Go to the black SA farmers and buy their products.
@@africaine4889 that means blacks must produce top notch quality products. It is of no use just saying buy black if the product is of very low quality. I gave a friend (I won't say her country) she told me that she would prefer if she bought rice that her country grows which she says is tastier, but she said there was a serious issue in why she preferred to continue buying the foreign rice. According to her the localky grown rice was full of tiny stones, as a result it took so long to clean it all and then cook. But the imported rice was a breeze, just open the packet and cook. So quality is paramount.
Nigerians buy Nigerian. Most of our biggest brands here are Nigerian from food to banking e.t.c. there are nigerian businesses in s.a such as uba, pay stack e.t.c and they aren't owned yts but full blooded Nigerians
I wish Nigerian and foreigners in South Africa would learn something from south African and that is to stay in their country and love their countries and love their languages and stop speaking English to each other.
Ahh, stop speaking English? 😅
History has happened and only the present and future can be changed oo. And part of history is how that the world has become a global village and we sometimes need a universal language. As much as I dislike certain aspects of colonialism, I'm grateful that you and I have a language we can communicate together in on UA-cam today, even though our cultures and backgrounds are different. Nigeria has over 100 languages and the way our country is set up, we cannot select one as an official language (story for another day). So english is how people from 2 extremes of the nation get to communicate. I do agree that we must all love our countries, but we can do so even when we don't live there. If I got the chance to travel the world, I'll take it and enjoy everywhere I go, but not for a minute will I stop loving Nigeria and Africa.
Thanks for engaging 🙏
We really do need to stop speaking in English... Decolonisation of education means taking all the scientific knowledge of mankind and put in our own languages... It'll develop and grow our languages and make us contribute to and innovate in creating our own African Economy!!!!
Nice information for Nigerians who are moving abroad and to SA!
For sure South Africans must ask those questions.. I’m a South African living in America and I want a man who willing to work harder.
Thank you for such an honest view of our beloved country and its diversity.
Aww my pleasure. Love it here and I hope to discover more and more and make more friends here. Thank you so much for engaging, it's great to have you here. 🤗
As a South African i also hate questions such as do you have children, some people ask invasive questions. I am also against asking questions about a person's private matters.
That's Mzanzi for us, we will protect it with all it takes . We love this country , not only this country but the whole of Africa. Some Africans might think we don't love the, but that is not true. I pray for Africa that will trade with each other, help each other to develop and just for once respect each other. South African under Ubuntu very well, we cannot be well when our brothers are suffering. Our brothers need to take care of their homes, we are not perfect but hopefully we will get there. Please continue to be honest even if it hurts us , that sisterly love needed for growth
A golden comment. Big amen! I really hope Africans get to love and support one another deeply one day, no hate or exploitation. Thanks for engaging, hope to hear from you on the channel more. 💐
We LOVE our country... really really love SA
Your description about certain characteristics of South Africa are quite correct esp the last two. It is also good to hear about negative traits of South Africans that will also help us to look at areas to improve. Good video, keep it up sister.
Thank you so much for your encouraging comment. Happy to have you here 🤗
I am south African and I don't travel y is because everything is here iam happy
The ball is back in your court, SA means things as in positive way but you are free to say say 'I can't answer this' but please don't be tempted to change us. Thank you
This is such a wholesome video!
Awww thanks a million!🤗
But those are usually friendly questions though, so you can share as much or as little as you like but you shouldn’t be rude to others or feel forced to answer if you’re uncomfortable
Yeahh I get you. I just think we should go easy at times lol. I feel like this comment is a perfect summary of the first point. Thank you so much for engaging 🤗
Lol another Nigerian UA-camr made a reaction video of living in South Africa and said "in South Africa everyone minds their own business".... She must either be from a different part of Nigeria or is surrounded by different people in SA. Asking personal questions is not the norm but depends on where you are and who you are interacting with which I am sure is the case in Nigeria as well. i. e if you live in a township or village people tend to be more invasive because people there know each other etc or if you live in a city or suburb you can go years without knowing or even seeing your neighbors, you may not even know the people shopping at your local grocery stores are living just next to you.
This perspective is so true. It all boils down to contexts. Honestly, I love meeting new people here and making friends but boundaries are just necessary. Thanks for being here!!!👍
If you are in Gauteng personally for me, people mind their own business...
However my experience in Cape town😯😯😯...people are super nosy.....nosy...nosy...
She is right , black south women speak like interviews. I am South African .
😂South Africans are just friendly and like small talk. You can even lie a bit when they ask a personal question .… we just talk to talk . It’s not serious
Lmao @ lie a bit 🤣🤣🤣
@@oyinkanhoneyHello dear
I’m South African and I live in Abu Dhabi and have been here for the past 8 years. Some of the things you said can apply to Abu Dhabi as well:
- Diversity, most colleagues and friends are from around the world.
- Credit, if you don’t manage your money well, you won’t have any. So many many things to spend money on and the banks here can give a R1m loan like it’s R50k, gotta be careful.
- Culture of respect, it’s an Islamic country and obviously respect and boundaries are extremely important.
- Holidaying in the country though is a let down ‘cause the country looks the same everywhere, whereas in SA, you can have different experiences in the same country, like Cape Town, Joburg and Durban are completely different, it’s like being in another country, both culturally, linguistically and esthetically.
This comment right here? GOLD! It's so interesting to see how in spite of all our differences, a lot of values are universal. We are all one, we just need to realize it. I really cannot wait to visit and explore the UAE one day. Thank you so much for taking the time to engage.
@Nikolizky Which has a better tour experience Dubai or Abu Dhabi?
@@GbogboSwagger Dubai is good for visiting and having fun, Abu Dhabi is awesome for living, especially with wife and kids. However, dubai has better accommodation options and cheaper, Abu Dhabi’s accommodations is expensive. So before you accept an offer, consider what your housing allowance will be, especially coming from SA where good accommodation is pretty affordable.
@@Nikolizky thanks for the insight 🙏
I get that I’m in bahrain and it’s more of the same thing here to… cool
One thing that I despise most about Nigeria, is the killing of people for being Atheists, for criticising government, or for having strong opinions about religion in general.
Oh wow! Where did you hear about that?😅
Honestly, there are certain parts (like 2%) of Nigeria where such happens, e.g. people not being accepted for not practicing 'a particular religion'. But it begins and ends there. Political and religious killings are not rampant,I assure you.
My sister, thank u for your honesty & objective observation about Mzansi. U r welcome. Africa is your home.
Thank you so much for being kind and welcoming 🤗
When you migrate to a new country, you should brace yourself for new things and change .When I started working with Nigerian colleagues in another country, I used to be very offended when they referred to me as THIS/ THAT WOMAN when they knew my name and working in a professional capacity.The reason being in South Africa is disrespect and unacceptable .As I get used to them, I realised that it's normal to them and acceptable to say that, so I had to conform and go along with it.
THAT FIRST SENTENCE IS PURE TRUTH ! When I moved here, I used to get uncomfortable when people say 'you MUST do xyz'. In Nigeria, the word MUST is quite forcible and authoritative, while here, it is synonymous to SHOULD. It took me a while to figure it, but now I'm among the people who ask 'what must I do?'. So many interesting changes. I must even make a video about how my vocabulary has changed since moving here. Thank you so much for engaging, glad to have you here. 🤗
We just love asking questions it's a way we start warming up to you. Just tell them if you feel uncomfortable and we are very friendly.
thanks for your comment 😀
I love your sincerity on both countries ❤
I appreciate it 😀
That's why we don't go to other African countries we are content with our country. And we are surprised why people run away from their countries
aversion to travel is not the flex you think it it.
@@oyinkanhoneytravelling and visiting for a few weeks or months is fine but Nigerians are literally running from their country, trying to get other citizen statuses even SAn resident permits. Running from developing your country and framing it as just travelling is rather disingenuous of you. Who’s going to fix your country Nigeria, a real question
@@thandisilec835South Africans are over 200k in the UK alone. You migrate as much as Nigerians. Say something else😏.
As a South African it's surprising to hear that asking personal questions can seem intrusive... normally U just ask to establish a friendship and connect with another person. It doesn't come from judgemental side but more to be friendly and learn about other people and how they live, afford coz everything is so expensive,how they make money and maybe you'll consider that career path, relationship with their partner and how they make it work,kids and what maybe u can learn from their parenting style and it might help U,etc
Oh this makes sense, interesting perspective. Thanks for watching 🤗
🤣🤣 to answer your question about relocating. I have relocated from Gauteng province that's where I was born and breed and I'm now in Brits north west it's about 1 hour 30 minutes from gauteng
And trust me for me I feel like im far away . Brits is surrounded by tourism I now have a habit of visiting resorts go on a boat cruise in hartebees or go to a cable way it's about 45 minutes from where I am based.
I've never travelled out of south Africa but I wish one day I could be brave enough to do so
Hi friend! I've been to both provinces you mentioned, awesome places! I love the tourism for you, please enjoy it, you live in a blessed country. I also really hope that you explore other countries soon and have a fabulous time everywhere you go. Tell me all about it when you do, okay?!! Cheers 🤗
South Africans are very friendly people. They have open their country to so many foreigners. Which other African country is selfless in that manner. Boundaries? Who crossed the borders first. There are so many foreigners living in this country. Some brought in good things. Others we want to hide. The untidiness of hanging clothes on near balconies. This are the very same who don't want this or that. But their own countries don't offer friendliness. We visited Nigeria. UpTo now my experience, from entry to driving around the city we visited, I felt traumatized by the environment itself, 'Scoan'. That's 10 years ago. But things back there maybe much more has improved. Please do a video on Nigeria, what we can learn to protect our boundaries
South Africans are very friendly people as all and many Africans has been coming to their countries. As much as this people want to explore their country, they too want to learn who is from where, likes and dislikes, like maybe fellow students, cultural diversity etc. Not all is always negative
I understand your sentiment. Some people are good, some are unpleasant (regardless of nationality). I really hope you have a better experience in Nigeria if you visit again. Cheers.
Things have change drastically here and infrastructure have improve lot cuz the people are actually making a lot of effort to put pressure on government to do the needful but they are still alot to be done in terms of maintenance cuz in Nigeria we lack that maintenance culture and Nigerians like to target those infrastructure anytime they are doing protest
We respect other people from other countries until they start disrespecting us. Apart from that we are more welcoming because we have Ubuntu.
Marking attendance as always 😁.
My person! You will win my first giveaway, it has already been rigged 😅
Am a South African🇿🇦. But I love Nigeria more. They vibe more. They are more sensible, happy and smart on anything
As a South African I agree with everything you have shared! I would be that person who ask u loads of questions 😂
Your honesty is GOLD 😂😂
Very informative, thanks a lot from a Congolese in Ghana
Thank you so much for engaging 🤗
@@oyinkanhoney u welcome
I love you my sister from another mother 😍 enjoy my country to the fullest 💃💃💃💃💞💞
God bless your heart! ❤
Beautiful sis, long time no see. I really enjoyed this, its lit.
The financial management they teach that in schools. Ems is economics, accounting and business. It teaches you tax, how to handle money and anything that involves money. So you even if you don’t go further into the studies you will know at least the basics of financial management
Loved the tips. Especially the bit about financial intelligence and exploring without breaking the bank.
Planning on relocating soon. Will definitely keep these tips with me
That's awesome! Thank you Deji 🤗
Its lit!!!!
🤗🤗🤗
Great video, thank you for sharing your experience
Thanks for watching and commenting, God bless you.
South Africa is beautiful and everything but still you have to be safe you don't want to find yourself on the wrong side of the country. Enjoy yourself but be mindful of where you are and who you are talking too and what information you are giving them and also not everyone that sounds friendly has good intentions and not everyone that says they South African are 😉
Solid advice. Thank you so much 👍
The respect part sometimes puts us at collision with other africans. For example we had to dismiss our Zimbabwean domestic helper coz we treated her as our daughter and she saw that as our weakness. Then she started mistreating our 9 yr old daughter. We realised that some africans only give respect to their employers if they are mistreated. And mistreating people isnt our culture. So we dismissed her.
I've moved from kzn to western cape in 2002. The only culture shock for me was afrikaans, which i now basically speak.
Please bring the camera closer to you, Sis. You are too good-looking to be this far from our screens. 🙏🏾
NOTED 😂👍
There's that observation where some ask very personal questions that are quiet materialistic, is a lot from those who come from rural areas and they actually need to take it easy. It may be a phenomenon but common from those who come from rural lands, and I can bail them out because they may be in urban lands fro opportunities, and I wish they could realise how wealthy they are inside, then they would be easy about life
the issue of saving money is affecting south Africans also. there is a pressure of having good things like, good house, cars, cloths, furnitures and the likes. most we get that all on credit . we live above our monthly salaries. you get paid today after two weeks you left with nothing. there are also loan sharks were you can get money and they charge extra money that you have to pay at the end of the month. failure to pay the money accumulate and most people are struggling to get out from them.
This is so true. As adults in general, it is so important to learn financial intelligence. 👍
I too noticed that Nigerians prefer going abroad for holidays not in their own country. Yet Nigeria was beautifully created like most of Africa.
The thing about Nigerians is that we don’t appreciate our county as much as we appreciate other countries.most Nigerians don’t know much about Nigeria.most of us get shock when we go online and see beautiful places in Nigeria
Most Nigerian always think everything start and end in Lagos not knowing that they are so many beautiful places to visit around them apart from Lagos and Abuja which are the most popular places in Nigeria
Most Nigerians discover all these places online
Nice one❤
As long as your accent is not south African, Forget about it 😊😊 we shall ask you questions Darling . And by the time I find out you are Nigerian 😂😂 aaah you are in for it my dear , more deep questions.
Lmao this is funny
So true. Money management is must have skill, otherwise debt for life. New form of slavery...
Outside Lagos, what's the other best attraction to do in Nigeria 🇳🇬
Hi! Outside Lagos, places like Abuja, Cross River, Osun, Ogun, and LOADS more have nice tourist attractions like waterfalls, mountains, parks, museums and historical sites to visit in Nigeria.
Thanks for watching and commenting 🙏
You are saying you are safely everywhere but why do most of you foreigners saying South Africa is xenophobia county especially Nigerians
Hi, great question! We say so because its true. Road safety/security and xenophobia are two different things. Anyone can travel without being stopped and harassed on the road about their nationality, and when I spoke of safety I was referring more to the fact that the roads are constructed well and vehicles on the road are road-worthy, thus reducing accident rates. Xenophobia, on the other hand, exists in certain systems (eg, occupational, certain neighborhoods). Sometimes it doesn't harm you physically, but it affects your livelihood and psychological well-being. Hence, it is an unpleasant experience and we all need to do better. Nobody can tale away the fact that people have been killed, hurt, and discriminated against in the name of xenophobia i some places. It can be scary. But we only hope to see all Africans operate with one another in love and harmony one day.
Thanks for engaging 🙏
@@oyinkanhoney what is xenophobia according to you?
@@oyinkanhoney Mara Wena you are safe in south Africa more than your country but South Africa is xenophobia do you understand what you wanna say hence you can say South Africans don't want undocumented immigrants in their country 🇿🇦 instead of using word xenophobia bcz every country has its own immigrants who add something to the economy unlike terrorists
@mastermind6248 she says "because it's true" yet she's safe in her corner and SA are interacting with in a nice and polite manner. She must pin it in her mind that, we will never accept and accommodate criminals here especially undocumented ones. That does not only kill the people of this country but the economy as well, later we will find ourselves having to clear the rubble alone after they done with the demolition and they will move to another country (I suspect that will be rewanda) they like ready made, they like nice life but can't build and create that in their countries of origin. Let's respect each other and our spaces them no one will cry xenophobia.
@oyinkanhoney South Africa is still safer than Nigeria, xenophobia and all.
All what you said here is applicable to most societies that is well planned.I said this because in Europe,western Europe and the Scandinavian to be precise,everything you said is also applicable .
Someone that you probably met for the first time, would ask you,how old are you? Till date,I still find that question irritating.They ask too many questions even private ones that are supposed to be personal and you would look at the person and wonder,who the hell is this person.
Concerning being prudent in spending,you are forced to learn it in Europe or you may not be able to pay your bills.
Thanks for your comment and this insight! Hope to see more of you here 👍
This is exhausting even to listen. It is best to stay home and you won’t have nosey Parker’s asking you questions or Europe where they bother about you
So why did you listen? You enjoy being exhausted?
@@oyinkanhoney actually I did not it not. Can’t be bothered
@@stizo3066 happy for you
You should visit Limpopo province
soon!
In addition, SAs don't like to relocate even from Province to Province....noticed that?
For instance a person can be norn in KZN spend whole life in that place
Yes I've actually noticed 👍
I am a South African but I will not take it kindly that someone can ask me invasive questions. The people you met and their attitude towards you is not necessarily representative of the majority of South Africans
South Africans lack boundaries PERIODT. Asking people personal questions is just plain rude 😒😑
I would not tell that you are not South African. You just look like us. Maybe that's why they were asking u questions 😂
Hahahaha I get that quite a lot, you know. 😂
She looks like a Lebo
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Great content.
Thank you 😊
From Texas and what we told is they asked you those things to see how much money you got so you can continue
No those questions on 4:22-4:24 it's in appropriate. I'm a South African but I wouldn't allow for those questions
Girl, sometimes it's just too much 😅
Waze wamuhle sisi😍.
@@SiphiwoMtwebana siyabonga! 😌
You're so SAn... "ha a, why" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Welcome to SA 😍😍
Am I ?? 😂 I guess we Africans are more similar than we even know! Thanks for being here!!
I love your reflections and I note that what you're saying is perhaps something that one should think about. But reality of the matter is that if you're on a long trip, say you boarded a bus from Johannesburg to KZN and you sit next to a silent reserved person who never utters a word, damn I dare you, on the next bus stop you will look for another place to sit, it doesn't matter even if you did bring your own entertainment like phone or laptop to watch movies. Generally I feel like, as human beings we are created in such a way that we need to connect and I can bet you again, suppose you need a new job and want to make a change in your life, if you go to a party and there's people interacting you'll be wise to open up so that you can meet people who later on through conversations can connect you based your skills and capacity, so its both ways, people can be too forward however others do it in order to see how they can expand their horisons, networking with others for mutual benefits
Hi, thank you so much for your detailed comment. I appreciate that you took the time to share your insights and I definitely understand your point. I guess balance is just the answer. I hope we all learn to be kind and friendly, but also while being careful around sensitive topics, and forseeing + respecting people's boundaries. I look forward to seeing you more in my comments! Cheers!!
Spot on but me generally I don’t like gossip but when the discussion has to do with business,lifestyle,politics,sport,history and traveling count me in.but anything petty talk don’t bring it to me
We just wanted to come there and leave there safely it's not the only way we know that you have rooms but America got its own rules to record them to you when you come
I’m your new subie
I really appreciate you being here! God bless you 🤗
South Africa always beautiful saying, what about the criminality poverty and expensive thing over there.
I te em from Vusi a South African
We are fully satisfied with our country. No need for us to go to other countries. What for, actually?
Love your couch so much 🥰 if you don't mind sharing, where did you buy it from? ☺
Hi, thanks a million. It's from Coricraft but I can't seem to find the specific name anywhere.
@@oyinkanhoney Thanks a lot for sharing 🤗
Hi! Just found your channel. Love your content.
I’ll be moving to waterfalls Midrand Johannesburg with my family (job transfer) in a couple of months.
My biggest concern is the issue of security. There’s a lot of negative press about South Africa and it really bothers me.
I’ve visited Cape Town in the past and one of my observations is the shocking number of homeless people on the streets. Also my wive’s phone was stolen at the hotel despite being highly rated.
How do you cope with this ? Is crime as prevalent as the media suggests?
Hello, thank you so much. Congrats on your new opportunity in Johannesburg, I pray that you and your family settle well and enjoy your time there. Yes, rime can be quite a thorn here but I'm grateful that I haven't had any personal encounters. I suggest you live in a well-protected area, perhaps a gated estate, and be sure to keep valuables tucked away when n public or crowded places. I really hope and pray you are safe, please don't be anxious about it. This country is great and I trust you'll meet really nice people, please just set your eyes on that. Crime is everywhere on earth, we just have to keep trusting God for protection. Thanks for watching, commenting and subscribing, I wish you all the very best! 🤗
Well my sister especially are women is how they used to be friendly especially women 🚺 when they meet they talk everything or ask
Woooooow... I enjoyed this video as always. Maybe because they live among white people that's why they ask personal questions without respecting boundaries.
The part of the places to visit, they are endless that's why SA will always be a pick for me as regards travel destination, you have tours that fit your budget, pocket and status. SA is a credit economy, Omo you gash dey wise with your spending *inserts the billionaire song*... Thanks for sharing
Thank you!!! This boundaries issue, hmm, God will help us 😅
Cheers to many more SA tourism years oo, billionnaire onye ji cashi 💃
@@oyinkanhoney Amen 🙏... God haf mercy upon us
Hit us up when you want to come, we will show you the best places.
I'm a South African, I too do not like the personal questions, matter of fact I've had to call people out for asking them. And believe it or not it's more a black thing than a white thing it's actually annoying, I hate it and we need to change.
@@ZinikoMhlaba thank you so much, this is kind of you.
You mean respect from African to African
We love all foreigners in RSA, if they are not bringing in forex they are definitely adding value to our labor market. Please consider migration to RSA it's the best place in the world
Why ur acting as if Forex trading is Rare skill in South africa 😭😂😂
Foerx is not the same as forex trading(the skill) lol.
I love your perspective. Thanks for your comment. Indeed, this place counts as one of the most blessed places on earth. Cheers!
@@oyinkanhoney loll💀, but she wrote Forex not Foerx
@@trayway3014 aww you're brilliant yeah...
You are so pretty
Thanks for your kindness, God bless you
If you happen to be in Rome you do as the Roman's are doing. You left your country and came to our country and so you need to adapt. Period! South Africans don't trouble anyone by going to their countries. You people come to our country and start commenting on how we do things. There is definitely going to be differences on how we do things as compared to how you do things. And obviously because we are the best and ofcourse that's why you come to us and we don't come to your country things will be better. My advice to you is see the differences and keep it to yourself
Watch to listen and comprehend, not to fight and speak amiss. Cheers.
Please how much do I need before traveling to meet my friend in south Africa from Nigeria
Still listening cuz I know this is friendship to another African to another African not do African to know American are Hilo something like that American cuz they not cordial to us
Nice video......am coming to SA next month on 3months visa free from the UK. Please would u know if a tourist can a buy?
Have you started your Zulu lessons?
Yessss! I have a video where a 7 year old taught me some words, but I also try to pick up what I can from conversations with other people. I must be more intentional!
The point of sharing that you see how much money you got Holly want to know so going to be nice cuz we know cuz we didn't watch that hand watched it for have these answers not real havanese answers are very useful though
I don't like to b asked personal question. Like where is ur family etc.
If you want to live in our country, we need to know you since you will be living in our society.
Me neither. Personal is even different for everyone. The key is to know what you can share, and learn how to boldly and kindly tell people what you do not want to share when they ask you. God help us all. Thanks for engaging 🤗
Nope. Relocation does not rid one of the right to privacy.
Yes they don't have to ask you too personal staff but asking your name, your language you speak, thats basic . As for how many kids you have, are you married thats too personal.
As human being you need to know about who you are with at that moment, if you feel that your privacy is invaded when people wish to know about you then you must keep to yourself
When they say different personalities to me I'm American so I'm giving you some
4:14 Lol
They're really not that deep questions, the person asking is probably just making conversation. You already freely post that information online on social media but when someone asks to make conversation then when you have to set boundries.😂😂😂
Nope, nowhere on social media have I said when I plan to have kids or why I got married when I did. It's very weird when someone I'm meeting for the first time asks me that. Boundaries are boundaries, no matter how much people think they know someone because of the internet.
Normal that means normal price for you and jack up the price for us
Im South African i only watch your videos because you're beautiful. You married to early .I enjoy content
I can see you being monetized in a few days
Amen and Amen! God bless you!
You video is very interesting, about unroadworthy vehicles in te streets of Lagos, do these guys ever get fined for operating such vehicles, or is it lawful and accepted, same about motorbikers who ride without helmets, is that also okay. I am trying to learn here, don't mean to be disrespectful, to your country.
Interesting questions, honestly. Sadly, the regulatory bodies that should take care of these things are corrupt or dysfunctional. It's a very unpleasant reality and many nigerians are just hopeful that things get better while they do their part. Thanks for engaging 👍
Where's the spectrum app came to America not unless they want that Visa we going to get these questions more down-to-earth dealing with a African and another person that's not African cuz you're only cordial to each other
Please, stay safe. South Africans are good in mugging people. Please, take good care of yourself.
So you're dating a South African..??
nope...married to a Nigerian in South Africa,
@@oyinkanhoney ok