I have been playing a small trick on you.
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- Опубліковано 18 жов 2024
- In which John reveals the ruse, and the reasons for it.
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“I always assume that future me will be more productive than current me is able to be”
Oh that was relatable 😂
I came to the comments to say the same thing!
Same.
Every. Single. Time. You'd think that after the 100th planning failure you'd learn your lesson. But no.
Was going to post the same thing.
I always think future me is going to be more productive, and I often look back on past me and wonder how on earth I managed to be so much more productive that current me.
Pretty sure current me just can't tell that I'm making progress or succeeding in any way.
John, I teach English in Jerusalem and my 10th graders just presented their book reports. I was shocked to see the whole class light up when someone began to talk about "The Fault in Our Stars." Multiple girls halfway across the world from you expressed their deep connection to the book. It reminded me that we never know the impact of our contributions in this world, whether it be a formally published book or time spent with family.
Thank you for all you do here. I found Vlogbrothers through "The Fault in Our Stars" nine years ago, and I could not be more grateful.
Rena, this comment made my day. Thank you! I am so heartened to know that little book is continuing to find readers in Jerusalem, and I am so grateful to you for teaching them! -John
@@vlogbrothers My pleasure!
Hopefully there will be feasting and dancing there next year!
@@ozymandias___868 Welcome to the inner circle! :) You now qualify for special perks and a reserved seat at the Super Secret Nerdfighteria Chili Feed and Apples To Apples Tournament.
Come to think of it, we should totally do this! I'd invite you all here for it, but I live in Wyoming and I don't think the COVID situation here is really amenable to such a thing. Although, there are lots of wide-open spaces out here; we wouldn't HAVE to interact with the (other) locals too much.... Hmmm....
Nooooooo I was an active and seasoned Nerdfighter back when TFIOS came out! It can't have been 9 years, that means I'm old! Whhhaaattt
As someone who listens to Dear John and Hank, the lack of John has been a spoiler to this "trick".
Thanks for not spoiling it in the comments of all the videos 😅🙃👍🏼
what a ryan move tbh
@@musman9853 ur so right, Ryan.
-Ryan
weirdly i was keeping up with dear john and hank but then i hadnt listened to any from the month of november remaining unspoiled?!
@@juneguts i have listened all month and im still surprised
"what if readers feel like I cheated them out of the $20 of faith..." This hit me really hard. Thank you for caring the way I want to be cared for as a reader. You haven't ever cheated me out of money.
That's why I love the library! If the book sucks, just take it back and pick a new one. But of course I had to buy a copy of TAR
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It feels like John isn't really making this video for Hank, but actually just to convince himself that he can justify taking a month off. (Which he can and should)
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And for us a little too, I think; he works with Hank directly every day so he probably knows what's up by now. p: (Though Hank might be surprise that the actual videos are time capsules, which would be great tbh)
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"We've been tricked, we've been backstabbed and we've been quite possibly, BAMBOOZLED"
Dangit I was gonna say that and I early too
Out loud "ahuehuehuehuehue" laugh
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We've been smeckledorfed
@@beamerball666 That's not even a word and I agree with ya!
You have betrayed us in a way that is not only completely reasonable, but also gave you enough content for an entire Vlogbrothers video. Great work.
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Honestly the absence of John from DH&J was like a low level worry for me so I'm very glad to hear that it was a positive thing! Happy to have you back in real time soon John!
I felt the same haha!
Oh yes, it was also a low level worry for me. I’m glad things seem to be okay.
Ditto on both counts! 😄
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"Expand my definition of productive to include the things I actually want to produce, like joy, connection and fulfillment"
I needed to hear this, thank you.
Me too, I paused the video there and immediately wrote that down in my journal.
Yeah. Joy, connection, and fulfillment are too easily overlooked.
Yes! Massive perspective expansion. Thank you John and Hank; my life just got better.
there’s always a notion that the “depressed artist” is the most creative one- but i’m not sure i agree. i find that i write and produce my best work when i’m in a good place. glad you’re taking care of yourself, john! ❤️
I always thought that, too! But then I had to do a project on the artist Renoir, and it totally changed my mind!
@@MorriganShay Can you tell us a bit about what you learned?
@@pendlera2959 basically, his parents were actually really supportive of his art and he seemed genuinely content. Made me think that if not all artists struggle with mental health, then there's hope that my mental illness can be taken care of and my art and creativity won't suffer.
I think that adversity can help people have a deeper understanding of the world that can help them make incredible art, but I think that the best time is always afterwards, when you can reflect on the adversity from a safe distance, processing it using whatever healthy coping mechanisms work best for you, and be able to put the time and care into the art without harming yourself further.
@@auroraourania7161 yes!
Does anyone else feel like John is one of those people that should be protected at all costs? Like Mr. Rogers
Absolutely yes!
Definitely
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YES!!!
Great video John. On a related personal note, my therapist recently completely shocked me by suggesting I take a year off to follow my favorite band on tour - visiting friends at the shows and stuff - instead of going straight to grad school. She said, “I can see how this lights you up. What you ‘should’ being doing with your life in your early twenties is leaning into that feeling as hard as you can.” I’m grateful to have found two role models, in you guys, who think deeply about the same struggle to prioritize these things correctly. Right now I think I will go to grad school next year; while I’m in these environments, it helps me fight off the work culture in my field that can be crushing at times. Thanks as always for your thoughts.
Ye if you can afford to take a whole year off…
Whats your favorite band!?
@@LordofWolves twenty one pilots! :D what’s yours?
@@kapoioBCS yeah that is the thing about it that would make it hard 😓
I am currently in grad school and I would highly highly recommend taking a year or two off to do something. Maybe travel and work part of the time. I took two years off in between undergrad and grad school and have noticed a huge difference in maturity levels between the average person who took time off and the average person who went right into it.
Really glad to see John is resting this month! Good well-being is so valuable. Maybe in a decade or so, Hank will follow suit.
And then he will come up with fifteen award winning ideas, maybe even effect world peace! :D
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If Hank ever runs for President, I'll vote for him because the man gets things done! :0)
A few moments ago I was listening to DH&J 273, when Hank (teasingly) said: "You are way too self-aware..."
John, this video made me smile from start to finish. It's really quite beautiful to see someone slow down to focus on what they need and want for their life. Thank you for sharing a little window on that journey - it's inspiring. And I hope it's been a rewarding month for you.
This was such a wonderful, mischievously generous thing to do because no one would have had a singe issue with him just taking the month off but he made us videos anyway.
Im not gonna lie, being a teacher is hard and pretty stressful at times, but having two months free built into my life is the best and I wish everyone could have a schedule like mine
Heck, I get 1-2 weeks off every year for winter break (I work for a university) and just knowing I have that guaranteed paid time off (that's not even counted against my time off!) Feels like winning a small lottery every year. That most Americans have little/no vacation time- often for most of their working lives- is criminal.
Thank you both for your work ♡
I used to be a teacher and while the built-in time off was wonderful, I always felt like I desperately needed it because the work was long and draining. Now I have a different job that gives me plenty of PTO (about a month's worth each year) but I don't feel the desperation for a break anymore because I am able to leave work at work; no more taking home work and working 16 hour days. Taking time off feels more like a treat, rather than being much-needed time to put my life back together and tend to things I'd been neglecting. Anyway, I'm glad that you find teaching fulfilling enough to handle the stress and I do have a lot of admiration for people who stick with it. I just wish the expectation wasn't that you have to sacrifice all of yourself in order to be a good teacher.
@@AnnaReed42 I've only been teaching since August so I guess we'll see how I feel in a few years! I've always wondered if teaching was just harder than everything else and thus required breaks or if I was just weak and wouldn't survive a 'normal' job. Thank you for confirming that for me, I hope you have a wonderful day!
@@derekdouglas6147 For what it's worth I've heard that it gets easier after the first few years, I just didn't make it past 3. I also taught at 4 different schools in those 3 years so.... your mileage may vary. But being a teacher is HARD and you are not weak for needing breaks. Best of luck to you!
I too have mental health struggles, and John is a really good example for how to cope. It's really helpful when someone you look up to says they're taking time for themselves and their family. Taking good care of yourself is important.
Anytime that I don’t think I can adore this human more, he goes and does things like this..
Hofstadter's Law: It always takes longer than you expect, even when you take into account Hofstadter's Law.
Yes this, it's not just John, this is a much wider phenomenon...
So proud work is no longer the most important thing! It’s so hard to achieve that ❤️❤️
This feels like one of those videos to come back to so that it helps me remember that work doesn’t define me. I still have a very hard time getting there, mostly because I love to work. But it’s good to remember that that’s not the only thing that matters. Hope your foot is better by now, John from November!
"I need to expand my definition of productive to include the things I actually want to produce, like joy and connection and fulfillment". WOULD THAT I COULD EMBLAZON THIS IN MY MIND ETERNALLY.
Thank you for tricking us. Self-care is important and I'm glad you prioritized it. Also hope your foot gets better! ~hugs~
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Hi John!
Thank you so much for this video. I've hit a rough patch regarding my mental health the past couple of months, and have struggled a lot regarding these issues of how to be valued as "productive", what I actually value, and what I actually want to "produce". Your video moved me to tears, thank you very much for sharing, for having the courage to take time off for yourself, and for being vulnerable with this community 💕
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"I always assume that future me will be more productive than present me", John says, as he is arguably at peak productivity, recording several vlogbrothers episodes in the present so that future John does not have to worry about being productive in quite that way
So glad you took the time you needed! So glad to be part of a community that responds to secret sabbatical news with joy and prioritises happiness and mental health. It gives me confidence to do the same in my own life!
Thanks for taking care of yourself, John, and for reminding me that creating joy and connection is valuable.
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It's very reassuring and helpful to see someone like you also feel and address mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
Thanks for the reminder that it's ok to step back when that oh so fun mental illness creeps in on me. 😊
It is priceless to me that I have role models like you - Knowing life is difficult for everyone, somehow makes it easier for me.
I appreciate that you did video ahead, still bringing information and smiles into our lives.
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Circle drawings have taken up a place in my life and I am grateful for them. I hope you had some time to circle.
I am 27 years old and going through my first experience of mental health issues. Although its been frustrating, and exhausting, and hard to figure out how to handle, your honesty over the past years about your own mental health issues has made me kind to myself now, because even if I couldn't relate before you taught me how to be empathetic in a way that I can now be to myself. So thanks. I hope your month has done you good, and I hope I learn the steps I can take to improve as well.
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One of my favorite things is when people I have parasocial relationships with set healthy boundaries. It's tough when you can see someone overextending themselves to please their audience, but you as an audience member have no way to communicate to them that you'd prefer if they put themselves first. When public creatives put themselves first, the quality of their work goes up and they seem happier, and that makes their audience happy. Example: when Ash Hardell left the internet I was happy. I was sad, because I liked their videos, but that sadness was overshadowed by joy that they chose to do what was right for them.
All of this is to say that I'm proud of John for putting his priorities is order, and I liked the video!
I sometimes struggle with defining my worth by how productive and successful I've been at uni and tend to forget that that's not what it's all about. So this video was a very welcome and needed reminder that there's also value in the aspects of non-work life
Same! I am about to graduate and just during this last year (as a mature-aged student) have realised that the stress and self-imposed critical pressure on the great mark I aim for is just not as important as I built it up to be.
You know, I always hoped you would do this when you needed to. Life goes in ebbs and flows and I'm grateful for your example adjusting life based on a shift in priorities. You guys are the best.
"I always assume future me will be more productive than current me is able to be." I felt this deep in my bones.
My professors feel that about my homework
Only John can make the idea of taking a break from work thoughtful commentary on the human condition.
Also, consider me successfully duped. I never would've guessed.
John makes us realize everything is the human condition.
November is going pretty well, John from October
I really REALLY value hearing this from you. Thank you for letting us in on the ruse!
I find that I value these vlogs far more as I mature than when I first found this channel. I've always enjoyed the content but after entering my 20s and experiencing portions of life as an adult these videos have helped me understand myself and the world around me just a bit more and for that I'm ever grateful for this community 💙
Me too! I'm particularly grateful that John is open about his existential fears and hopes. It's something that hardly anyone talks about, and it's so relieving to feel like I'm not alone in experiencing life the way I do.
@@clellieirwin2155 I completely agree! I know it's not easy to be so open and vulnerable but I really appreciate when John or even fellow viewers express the good and no so good feelings we all experience
I just saw the title and now I’m interested.
"worry was invading from every direction" is quite the line
This came up in passing on DH&J, wasn't sure if it was something serious or something "secret project"y.
Glad you're taking time to, you know, live your life! I think it would be great if everyone was afforded this opportunity... without it consuming a full years worth of vacation days
The How We Spend Our Days video quickly became one of my favorite videos and I constantly re watch it when feeling stressed. Hope you're enjoying your time off, John!
Hank’s advice to “expand the definition of productivity to include the things I actually want to produce, like
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Joy, Connection & Fulfillment” is my new mission. Thank you both!
ah, sneaky! very clever too. glad you're taking some time off. hope you're well John. thanks for reminding us work isn't everything :)
I'm expecting a baby in a month, and for the first time in my adult life, I'll be taking extended time away from work. I'm very grateful to have maternity leave, especially in the U.S. where so many don't, but I'm also nervous about the shift in identity. I really *want* to expand my definition of what's productive (and in some sense, what could be more productive than keeping the child alive), but it's also scary to challenge the cultural script and take a break from what has been the foundation of my self esteem.
I am in the same situation, Catherine. Baby was born in September and I am not sure when I will be returning to work. I am really privileged to have the option to stay home with my yet unvaccinated baby, but it does require a huge shift in priorities and who I have always seen myself as professionally and personally. All this to say, thanks for sharing and congratulations on the soon to be birth of your baby!
kids! they really do a great job at shifting, well, everything.
Right here with you! My first kid is due in March, and I feel like I’ve just finally settled into my dream role at work. It’s gonna be hard to let that go.
So- Congrats on the new baby and I hope all goes well. I also hope that you know this little online community is always here to remind you that you contain multitudes.
Good for you John. I'm so happy you took the time you needed for yourself. I hope you emerge from this refreshed and going forward that you take time for yourself whenever you need it. I myself am starting a 19 day weekend at the end of business today. A much needed break from work.
Hey John
I'm glad you found it meaningful to keep the dialogue going here on vlogbrothers but if you do ever feel like pushing the pause button, know that we fully support you.
We'll be here when you want to get back.
Oof the part about mental health for the last few years being better but the last little while being worse....felt that 🥲
John, no matter which way your voice comes into my ears, I am profoundly grateful.
you deserve a month! i hope you’re boot injury heals and good luck figuring everything out!❤️
This makes me happy - you prioritizing balance and self-care. I also want to tell you that my Favorites Playlist contains quite a few John videos like this. Lessons and words of wisdom that I can return to again and again. Thank you for your vulnerability, authenticity and sharing your thoughts & life with us. 💖
Before even finishing the video, I just want to say how much I relate to work being my main focus and how I constructed my identity and how much happier I am now that they has changed. Good for us, John.
John Green and I now have the same hair cut. What joy! Loving your circle drawings, and also your reviews. 💜💕
You both bring so much joy to the world, thank you.
-This is such a great reminder. One of my favorite videos you've put out. Thank you
Hope you're having a wonderful break, John!
I am so glad you are enjoying writing! I finished and enjoyed the Anthropocene Reviewed, then gave it to a friend who is fully enjoying it.
These past few weeks haven't been great for me mentally. Thank you for being open about what you personally need. It reminds me that it’s OK to take time for myself 💕
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I am FASCINATED to hear how the month went, and I hope there was an increased amount of joy and connection and fulfillment!
~Trav
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been feeling lots of stress and pressure from school lately, and "I need to expand my definition of productive" was a great & needed reminder :) enjoy your sabbatical john!
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Yay! We're proud of you, John. Thank you for setting a good example.
I love this notion of expanding your idea of productivity.
I’m super glad to hear this! I tell people they should do this sort of thing all the time. I hope this month has been joyful and stress reducing and filled with the same wonder that you instill in all of us. Thank you as always John!
Having the willpower to take a step back and refresh is a virtue of the highest order. Good on you John
“I always assume future me will be more productive than current me” so relatable 😂😂😂
Yay for taking a break & focusing on other things! Hope the break has been successful & enjoyable.
Having spent the pandemic feeling very lonely, I've also felt a shift toward valuing my relationships more than I have in the past and actually doing something about that feeling by reaching out and spending more time with the people I care about. It helps to have that encouragement from Vlogbrothers (specifcally because they're so dedicated to their jobs as well) that it's okay and good to take time away from work to develop and grow interpersonal relationships. I'm glad John was able to take a month off, and I hope he was able to spend the time that he needed focused on his friends, family, and himself.
Hell yes, John. Your value is not measured by your productivity, and you are totally welcome to take a real and actual break whenever you need to.
Happy for you, John! Glad you're doing well and that you're taking time for yourself. What a great example of self-care. Be well!
I related to everything you said in this video and it makes me feel a little more grounded. Thanks John!
Love this message! Focus on what gives you joy!
Thank you for providing a great example of balancing self-care and responsibility
"expand my definition of productivity to include things that I actually want to produce, like joy, connection, and fulfillment." Brilliant! Thank you so much!
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“I always think my future self will be more productive than my current self” was too accurate to how I operate and why I’m so panicked at the end of the semester.
I have learned so much about how to perspectivise my stressful job, creative passions, personal relations, and mental health from watching you over the years. It’s always a challenge but at least you’ve taught me “you’ll never walk alone”
So happy for you!! Taking time away from ‘work’ and other stressful things is very important. I hope you got a lot out of it and am able to slowly change your work/life to balance it all out! Which is hard for all of us.
Very interested to hear how the mini-sabbatical went. I feel pretty confident that this community would absolutely have been supportive of you taking a few weeks for yourself, I'm honored that you valued these "conversations" enough to want to keep them going. Thank you! I value these "conversations" as well and appreciate you planning ahead so that everyone could continue to participate. Here's wishing you well and a pre-recorded "Welcome back!"
your definition of productive will stay with me till end of time (or more accurately, end of me)
Hands down the greatest title of the year, not just for vlogbrothers but for everything
I'm about to start my own sabbatical. Doing things that are meaningful to one's self really does take precedence over whatever the work world may have in store. I'm closing that shop and working on me. Looking forward to see how your month away was!
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Probably the best description of worry's impact I have heard yet.
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Kinda needed this video, I've been trying really hard with the "just bc you're not being productive in a contribute to society way doesn't mean you're a bad person" thing
It means a lot to see other people, esp people I look up to, doing the "joy is something that you produce" thing
this was the exact video i needed today. i took today off of school to take care of myself and i always feel a little bit guilty about needing that when nobody else seems to. thank you john, for proving me wrong, and for writing a book that made me want to love the world again
Thank you for the transparency John
if u decide to take a break without uploading any content we understand!! pls dont overwork yourself just to not work for a few weeks- you can only not work
the first time i saw this video pop up in my notifications i was high so the title caused some paranoia. but i'm back and actually watched it now and i'm happy i did. it's good to hear that john is taking time off to focus on what's important to him, and it's also a good reminder that i should work on giving myself permission to not always be productive, which is something i struggle with.
Holy cow, my experience with publishing followed pretty much the same plot outline:
- Dreaming about it
- Experiencing the "dream-come-true"
- Realizing those dreams come with a lot of other stuff (reviews, sales projections, reader/publisher expectations, etc.)
- Watching the stuff I hadn't anticipated overshadow the stuff I loved about writing
- Languishing in frustration and losing my drive to write or publish anything at all.
I'm so glad you found a path out of that. I'm trying to do the same myself and find hope in your journey.
Cheers!
I hope you’re doing better with your mental struggles! As someone dealing depression, taking a break has been helping me a lot, so I understand why you’re taking time off.
I've needed to reduce my obligations, especially at work, recently for reasons very similar to your first three and have been processing a lot of guilt and internalized shame for not somehow pushing through. Thank you for this very well timed video reminding me that my health and relationships are worth prioritizing.
This is very reassuring. I am struggling with my health. I have struggled to feel like a fully valuable member of society and I am on the cusp, I hope and it seems, of stepping into a role that fulfills that desire. And in the meantime, I have also been working on inter- and intra-personal "productivity". And I hope one day I grow greater than my need to feel validated by my career. Thank you for this window into what I hope is also my future.
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happy thanksgiving
one of my fav videos you've uploaded mate. bang on.
"Not economically productive but, you know, *actually* productive" that line killed me
I'm off work because my mental health is also not fun right now. Thank you. I've been feeling guilty, and this lessened that.
I hope you're month has been restful and replenishing as well 💜 DFTBA
I hope you and your family and friends have a really nice month :) I am so grateful that you are still uploading though as you help form my week and crystallise my thoughts about things.
Simply the best UA-cam channel
There are many times when I wish not just 'like' your videos, but 'heart' them. I know that's a product of Facebook socialisation (or Facebookization, perhaps), but when I find myself recognising something in what you just said, or when what you say just evokes that feeling of joy in me, then I just really want to 'heart' you.