A man that takes on another mans children is a treasure. It is such a fine line they have to walk. Also, some people think that romance dies as people age - for many people that is not true - physical love can be very beautiful in older marriages.
annie bee I agree. Any man who takes on another mans children is indeed a VERY special treasure. Doug seems to have done it sooooo well, too. God bless him❤️
I agree. Some people say they would never want to marry someone who has children with someone else. I used to say that, but i realized if you really love someone, it won't matter. Children are a true blessing, too:)
Doug seems like such a laid back, funny, southern gentleman. It is so obvious he loves you and it's easy to see why he does. Y'all are a beautiful couple.
Doug's a keeper, he's just such a sweetheart ! You two are just so adorable. My hubby and I have been married for 46 years and he's STILL the best thing that ever happened to me. We laugh and talk a lot and now we are retired we enjoy the simple things in life so much more like being blessed to still have each other. I think you are right about some of the reasons why older couples bicker and seem resentful of each other. They probably were working hard when they were young so didn't notice how they had drifted apart till the kids leave home, they retire and have to spend a lot longer together. I think it's so sad as they must have been so in love when they first married/lived together. Forget the guilt about your illness and medical expenses lovely lady - you would do the same for Doug in a heart beat . God bless you both always from a sunny Wales - YES I SAID sunny !!! Woo hoo...... 😎 xxxx ❤❤❤
As I had the pleasure to meet Doug, I already know that he is a wonderful, kind and funny man, he loves you (that is clear)and that is why he doesn't resent you for anything and that is what unconditional love is about-we do whatever we can to make each other safe and happy. Love you both xoxoNisha
aw, thank you so much, Nisha. We still talk about that day and all the fun we had. What wonderful people you both are. I will never forget all the kindness you showed us. I will forever be grateful to you and love you! Many thanks, Melissa
What a blessing 😇 (and bane 🙃) UA-cam can be. I don't know if you two couples met here, or if you've been friends for years, but even so, congratulations either way. Friendship knows no boundaries❣
As a marriage counselor I loved this video. It's not easy keeping a marriage healthy for the long term and blended families are hard. You had helpful advice and I commend you for being open, honest and self-reflective.
Oh thank you so much for this, Mindy. I did know, as did Doug, that going through a divorce was a hard thing to do, so it was really important to me that this marriage work. It was difficult at times, but I'm really grateful that I get to share my life with him. I appreciate this so much. Love Melissa
This wasn't boring at all. It is inspiring and refreshing to see a couple who are true soul mates, like you two. All you have to do is look at your faces, and see the love and adoration you have for each other. It's a blessing. ☺ 💖 Thank you so much for sharing. xoDebra
aw, thanks so very much, Debra. I appreciate you saying such nice things. I think Doug is so sweet so I just am so thankful when someone says nice things about him. Thank you and much love, Melissa
I had to bring my husband in to watch this because I told him that your Doug is exactly like him. So easy-going, strong and steady, and so supportive of me.We're lucky women, Melissa! He tells me all the time, "you worry too much" or "I don't mind". I call him the easy button. lol Loved this video!
Oh Michele, I am so touched that he agreed to watch this. Doug did not want to do this and at times I thought he had a deer in the headlights look. lol. Thank you and tell your husband thank you. Love, Melissa
This should go viral. It is one of the most beautifully honest videos I have seen. The questions and answers are so difficult, yet so important. Thank you both for having the courage to share this. In an online world full of avoiding the hard stuff and, consequently, giving false impressions of life, you two gave such a gift here. And thank you for always sharing without judgment of others.
Oh my goodness, Jennifer, thank you!!! I appreciate it so much. They were difficult questions, especially for Doug. I always am pretty much an open book. But Doug likes to keep things private a bit more, so that's why it was even more special for me. Thank you so much for saying this! It really means so much to me. Love, Melissa
Your husband is a true gentleman and you are the epitome of a truly beautiful woman. Thank you for sharing and wishing you many, many more years of wedded bliss!
I honestly stumbled by your channel because I have similar hair as yours; I was told the other day older women shouldn't wear their hair long. I watched your latest video with the 8 hot rollers, (genius, btw), loved your hair and your attitude so I picked a few more videos to watch. I landed on this one, so glad I did. This one is just what I needed. As we get older, (I'm 60, my husband 61), both married before. I had kids; he didn't. We also have always included their dad in sharing holidays, birthdays, important occasions. You and your husband are so sweet together. The love is obvious; bless his heart for opening up to us like he did..thank you for doing this video. Oh, I'm keeping my hair just as it is...thanks again
Oh my goodness, this was the best--I laughed and cried--I hope MANY people watch this video and take it to heart--I agree with every word and I am so happy for you both! Love~Lisa
I.LOVE.THIS!!!My husband and I have been married 20 years and we never pass gas in front of each other,we never disrespect each other with curse words,we always give each other multiple hugs a day and complement each others..xoxo
I love this Sophia! Now I have been known to let the cursing fly if I hit my toe or something, but not at Doug! lol. You are very blessed. Much love, Melissa
It's unrealistic to not pass gas in front of your husband of 20 years, unless you aren't together a lot. A husband sees you when you are most vulnerable - my husband has seen me in much worse states than passing gas.
Don't believe her Doug she has 35,000+ subscribers! Many people are watching this. Lol! You guys are great and have been married a super long time; 30years. Congratulations.
I cannot tell you how much I love this series! :) You two have a successful marriage because I genuinely believe you both feel lucky to have one another. You both seem so humble and kind, and you both continue to behave and carry yourselves in a way that keeps the element of attraction alive, and I think that's really important. Loved this video!
Thank you so very much, Jenifer. I really feel so lucky to have him. I really hope he feels the same. You are so sweet and I thank you so much for this comment. Love Melissa
This was so much fun to watch. I thoroughly enjoyed it. I can see the love and respect you both have for each other. It's beautiful. It touches my heart. Thanks for sharing ❤.
You two are so incredible. I have tears in my eyes. I used to think Doug was the luck one because of what a bright light you are and how beautiful you are but you are lucky to have him too! Not passing gas in front of each other is important....LOL. Good on both of you for your love and mutual respect. You deserve each other. Much cyber love from the west coast of Canada! Susanne
aw, thank you so much, Susanne. I agree 100 percent about me being the lucky one! I couldn't have asked for a kinder, more decent man to spend my life with. lol at the passing gas. Love you lots! Maybe someday if we get that RV, we'll come up your way! Lots of love, Melissa
This is such a lovely, loving interview. I am watching it 8 years after you made it. It's so cute that you said at the beginning, "not many people watch this," and I'm sure it was true at the time. But now (August 2024), you have 148,000 subscribers! 😃❤
My husband never left me when i had a dark depression for 10yrs, it was hard on him, i sassed him and was nagging and jealous. I found the Lord and was delivered from the darkness. I am free from the depression and found my purpose. Now i am able to practice being respectful to my husband and support him in his work. I love him and am thankful he is a train of a husband. He doesn't talk to me much but that is his way and i find my contentment in Jesus and try to serve my husband in the way he needs. Study your husband ladies. I enjoy knowing you love each other and are supporting each other. It is inspiring to me to see a wife respect her husband. "Golden Rule!" Yes.
@@shinesobrightforever4863 That is a blessing in disguise you will see. My childrens father has left me and or made things worse in difficult times in my life and i have fogave him so many times to be let down again and again. He brings the worst of me and as i am getting older and mature i realised i just wasted my precious youth and time for being too naive. But i refuse to dwell on that and focus on God, my children and myself. You will find out soon why it was a blessing if you haven't yet.
I was struck by the similarity of your story to mine. I met my second husband when he was 28 and I was knocking on the door of 40. He too inherited 2 step children and the journey he had with them was similar to your husbands. Unfortunately my children father was not present as they grew up, and my children now look upon my husband as their father even taking his name. You are so right in what you say, and we follow as best we can the principles of mutual respect and care. We have been married for 15 years now and he is my rock. Thank you for sharing, it delights me to see such a committed and loving couple who have weathered the storms that life throws out from time to time.
I've watched all your videos, and this one is by far the best!! So candid and every woman wants to ask these questions and your husband was so cute in the way he answered. Do more videos with Doug!
Your husband loves you so much. I'm glad you did this video because this communication really cleared up some things for you. He is obviously committed to you from his heart and you love him too. Wonderful video!
I do know in my head I shouldn't worry, but my hears always says something different. Doug's brothers and his father were really easy going too. So is his sister. I think it might be a family trait and it's very calming. I appreciate you, Dianne. Have a wonderful week. Love, Melissa
How amazingly sweet are you as a couple! Thank you for this, I truly was reminded of lots that need to transpire in a marriage. I am 54 and my Fiance is 41 and as we look forward to a future together I do have concerns about life, togetherness, love, and keeping that spark, trust and realness as a couple! Thank you for being so open and I wish you all the best as you continue to grow together!
Pure joy. I've been wanting to watch this but I've had company so I saved it for a "me" night. Your love is so palpable. When you and Doug are together in a video or when you talk about him, it is so beautiful. I can see the love and respect you have for each other plain as day - it literally shines in your eyes. This is what I want and thank you for showing it can exist. I think the key is that you have mutual respect for each other. When he looks at you, I can see the love in his eyes. It is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story; it makes me so happy.
You learned even more about him & his attitude. Very relaxed & reassuring. He did and would do anything for you. That's love in action & attitude. Speaks volumes. Your beauty is enhanced it seems by your genuinely loving husband, by family, laughter, courtesy,compliments & daily routines that are tailored to you. It's refreshing to see/hear this. Many thanks. :)
Oh my goodness. Your husband is a jewel. A gentleman. From watching a few of your videos and how beautiful you are and seemingly never aging, I thought, your husband is a lucky man. But after seeing this video, I think you got a true catch! He has integrity, that shines through and is very attractive in a man, and he is very handsome besides. All the things you talked about, are so true for a good and lasting marriage. Continued blessings to you both!
i just found you, while looking for vlogs over 40. (yes that's what i searched for lol) anyway, this man loves you and you love him. i can tell bye the way you look one another on the eyes when talking :)
I am much younger than you but married with a child for 20+ years and hearing your interaction with your husband makes me hopeful for the future. You are so natural and your husband fits your style perfectly. It's great to see this. Thank you for sharing and Doug thank you for going through with it even when uncomfortable. You are both great.
I love your honesty Melissa, I can see what you say comes from the heart. Your man is super special and a big gorgeous hunk. Don't question his love or commitment to you and don't feel guilty because he is lucky to have you to, accept that you are equals and both bring special gifts to your amazing union. Thank you both for sharing your inspirational journey.
So sweet and so beautiful the Co parenting is so important. My Son’s dad refused to do that and he is at the end of 30’s now starting into 5 decade of life with 40 around the corner I see what a struggle it has been on him and for myself. Though I pleaded with his dad tried to educate him on it. He refused to do make the effort despite the fact he was a friend first since we were in 1st grade. To all the parents out there please put your differences beside because it can cause a lifelong struggle on your children. I’ve seen a firsthand. Thank you for doing this video and you have a beautiful marriage and relationship.❤❤❤
Oh Melissa! I love this video. Doug is so sweet , at one point I teared up because of his unwavering love and devotion to you and his family. He seems so strong and yet so sensitive to others. You are both very blessedKimP.S. I wish he would run for President!
Oh Kim thank you so much!!! I will have to say, he is very strong and sensitive. We all look to him for everything - myself and the children. He is like our problem solver. lol, I'll tell him you said that!!! Maybe I'll write his name in. lol. Much love Melissa
What a sweetheart you have. And I'm sure he feels the same about you.And I can say as a caregiver myself, it's an honor to take care of your loved one and it bonds you to them even more. I bet he feels all the closer for being there for you.God bless you both.
30 years is pretty damn impressive. You two remind me of some friends who had the most perfect relationship, holding hands and in love 40 years later. Interestingly, what it appears you both have in common is opposite personalities. You definitely are more of a worrier who internalizes, whole Doug seems to go with the flow and let's water roll off his back. He is such a gem. God broke the mold when he made Doug. I just adore you two! xoxo, Swoozie
aw, thanks Swoozie. We are opposite in a lot of ways. Doug's brothers and father were like that - just really super laid back. Doug's sister is like that, too. I told Doug what you said and he said, "I hope breaking the mold is good. God broke the mold when he made the devil too". lolol He cracks me up. Love you always, M
My husband always made me feel so good when things went wrong. He was my rock. We married young and I always told him he taught me everything I know. lol. Sadly in April 2019 I lost the love of my life. I’ve just passed the five year anniversary. I’m so lost without him. We had two children together. But I feel so alone. Enjoy your time together and never stop having fun together. Btw we were married for 56 years. We loved Florida beaches and Smoky Mountains. Las Vegas was so much fun!! Hold each other tight!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Doug is an absolute treasure. You two are so lucky to have found each other. The love between you is so visibly strong.and am sure will last your lifetime. Thanks for sharing.
Y'all are really cute together ❤ Love your skin care videos, you look 20 younger than your actual age & you seem like a genuinely kind person 😊 Thanks for your tips
Melissa, I recently found your channel and have fallen totally in love with you! I'm a southern gal, too (Tennessee!) and your knowledge and wisdom is admirable. Just a note about being chronically ill: I'm only 24, but my partner and I have faced some pretty major health issues (mine) in our time together. Like Doug, he swears up and down I'm not a burden and he wouldn't trade me for a perfectly healthy person. I COMPLETELY understood your persistence in this video. I can't believe my partner doesn't resent me for all of the time, money, and energy my health issues have consumed. But he loves me just the way I am, just as Doug clearly adores you. Thanks for this video!
Oh thank you so much!!! I did mention this to another person to hang in there. That you literally don't know what's around the corner. Doug and I met on a job interview! Many thanks, Melissa
This truly warmed my heart. You two are so genuine and open here. I love how sweet you are to each other. You like each other, and that fondness is wonderful. Your kindness clearly goes a long way toward strengthening your relationship. You also said so much here that was wise about not always having the kids. The benefit of the “ex” co-parent scenario does leave solo weekends open. I’ll remember that as a bonus when I begin to date again!! I have two the same age as yours were. Thank you both for giving us a glimpse into your relationship. 🙏🏻🙌🏼😊💛
Oh Melissa I am balling. I am a nurse and just listening to you two talk and how kind you speak to one another. I understand how much sickness can be hard on families. There is so much love and respect on how you both speak. Much love to you both!
I love this video! So refreshing to see two people in love, and so transparent. I love the fact that you are not afraid to show to the world your own life and struggles. Great chemistry between Doug and Melissa. :)
as a couples therapist i love this beautiful conversation between you both. You are giving great pearls of wisdom . The power of giving acknowledgment every day is so underestimated and often forgotten .Thank you Xx
Melissa & Doug, that was my all-time favorite! You guys are so honest, sweet, & kind and your love for each other shines. We have been married 47 years & still have fun, show love, and make future plans too. Being kind to each other is key! We've started praying together before bed, for the last two years. We've also had the illness thing and the children period...and now it's grandchildren. Two attend UTK and we love to see their games. We moved from Seattle to Nashville about three years ago. I went to St. Mary's school in Johnson City in the first grade, so I kind of know where you live. We visited my old house two years ago and I was shocked it was still there in Gilmer Park. Amazing! Anyway, I love your VLOG and totally respect your willingness to share your lives...thank you! Blessings to you and your family.
He loves u deeply Melissa and he did all those things because u were his world.. You can see it in his face. You are truly blessed to have him hunny you both are a great match 👍
You are the cutest thing ever! I found myself researching tips and tricks for women over 50 and came across your You Tube channel, which made me smile. So glad I did! You and your hubby are adorable, you are an inspiration : )
Thanks for doing this Melissa and thanks for Doug giving his insight into why it works and why maybe other couples don't work. My husband walked out just over a year ago now and the first thing he said to me when I asked why, he said I was so cruel that I never gave him a baby. His decision 15 years ago to refuse to go to IVF with me was why we didn't have children ( I'll carry that hurt for ever because I desperately wanted his children but was to scared to go against him and end up a single mother again) He has always made put down comments and making them out to be jokes. Even when he would take me to the jeweller to by me something special he would run me down with his comments, to the extend the sales lady one time was so uncomfortable she looked at me in shock. I tried to explain that it was bad behaviour but he just put it back on me. His nephew even said to him the comment he just made was really harsh and uncalled for. He answered his nephew with "she knows it's a joke" . The comment he thinks was a joke was to call me "A barren bitch" a few weeks after I got out of the hospital from having a hysterectomy under really traumatic time. So it makes sense that after years of his constant put downs and me trying to appease all the time but not understanding it, he was slowly hating on me instead of dealing with what ever his issues were. All round it's devastating the effects people can have on other people because they choose to live a lie. If he had left me when he knew he didn't want to be with me, I wouldn't have waisted 23years on a man who was hiding the fact that he never loved me. That is a nightmare I use to see in movies and hoped as a little girl that never happens to me but it has. Now I live with the constant wait for him to send divorce papers, it's sold destroying and in the last year I've found out that it is so many women treated this same way, when they were under the impression their marriages were extremely strong. He made me feel I was the love of his life when all he was doing was waiting to get the guts to leave. Still to this day I don't know what was his reason really for leaving. Up until an hour before he told me he was leaving, we were happily interacting and even was so happy looking and smiling when he asked me to come do our tax. A minute after we walked back in the house from the tax office he told me. Anyway I'm long winded. Thank Doug for his insight. I'm improving week by week as time goes on, so that's a positive and I wish the best for everyone that they never have such heartache :)♥
Cherylene You are much better off without him , you deserve to be treated much better ❤️ I wish u true and unconditional love and happiness and nothing less !! Never compromise yourself for a man , you are whole as you are , no addition of a soulmate would make u worth more .
Melissa, thank you so much for posting this video. I'm 32 years old, and came to youtube today to search out skin care routines for aging skin, and your joy captured my attention. It radiates! Hearing your story gives me so much hope. I am a single mother of two as well, and I pray I'll have as much joy and a healthy marriage as well in my future. Doug seems like an amazing man. Many blessings.
i just recently subscribed to your channel which i stumbled across because of my huge interest in skincare. i usually just lurk around youtube without commenting or subscribing to any channels, but you are such a likeable personality. i know this is an older video, but i wanted to tell you how much i appreciated you talking about your illness and the guilt you feel about being a burden on your husband. I too, have a chronic illness which at times is difficult on my family and i feel a tremendous amount of guilt. when you talked about it, tears came to my eyes because i can relate. my husband is also a very good person like yours. i had to stop working a few years back because of my health and so my husband now supports me and our daughter and pays for all my medical bills. i hope when we have been married as longs as you have my husband will also say he never resented me for the hardships i brought to his life. thank you for sharing this video. there is so much i can say about it but i will stop here.
I love your advice! Me and my husband have been married for 15 years. Married since I was 19 and him 22. The last few years have been rough. Everything you two have said is exactly what me and my husband say we need to work on. Love your UA-cam channel!
Hi Melissa, I really enjoyed watching this..you and your husband make such a lovely couple. What was so beautiful about it was how you look at your husband with such a adoring countenance. You look so pretty as always..Thank you for sharing, : )
Oh thank you so much!!! This is the truth, I just think he is the handsomest, sexiest man alive. To me he should be a male model or something! lol. I don't know what it is but I'm still crazy about the man after all these years. Thank you so much! Love, Melissa
I can't tell you how much I love and appreciate this video! Your husband reminds me of the men in my family, my father had the same disposition and kind nature and my brothers both took on the same quality. My Uncles who I remember fondly and loved dearly again same qualities. My husband is also the same! It's just wonderful to see and I hope for today's youth that seems to be moving at such a fast pace that young men still grow up with this same nature to them. Wishing you both continued love and happiness. Have a wonderful Easter!
Melissa...you have no reason to feel guilty. That's what love is all about...and it is very clear that Doug loves. you. The year my husband and I got married, 31 years ago, his brother was diagnosed with cancer of the pancreas. I was in college, working full time, and planning a small wedding, but there was no place that I wanted to be more than sitting with my "husband to be" at the hospital. I wanted to be there for my husband and his brother. I didn't know his brother very well then but I loved him and felt so heartbroken for him. Instead of this situation breaking us a part it brought us even closer. The two of you were meant for each other. My husband also likes to keep the mystery alive. I feel the same way about my husband Melissa. When he walks in the room my heart still skips a beat. I think having that chemistry is really important in a marriage. It gets you through the tough times. Loved every minute of this video. Love you! Laura
I do hear what you are saying, but sometimes your feelings don't always align with logic, I think. Guilt is one of those emotions that's hard for me. I love this story abut your husband and the love and support you gave your husband. And hopefully everything that you've gone through since has brought you closer, too. In the past few years, Doug has lost both of his brothers within a short time of each other. It was devastating for the family. And I had to learn to give Doug his space. Unlike me, he needed his alone time to grieve. So I think knowing what the other one needs is important, too. I love that you still feel breathless seeing your husband. I do, too, with Doug. Love you so much and thank you for sharing. Love, Melissa
Thankyou for sharing this wonderful personal video. Living with a chronic health condition has at times made me hard to live with, grumpy and full of guilt. Your video has reminded me to appreciate the small things my husband does for me, like the daffodils he bought for me today, to be more concious that he loves me for who I am. Not to hold on to the guilt of chronic illnesss and to tell him more often how special he is and how thanful I am to have him in my life.
Oh Vanessa, I'm so sorry that you have been ill. It is really hard to deal with at times. Oh the daffodils! I love that. That is so sweet. The guilt is so hard to let go isn't it? We both have bene very blessed. Love and thanks, Melissa
Hello Melissa. I saw this yesterday and it gave me a great deal to think about. Tell Doug that I am so glad he agreed to it. My husband and I have been married 48 years August 30th. Despite the longevity of our marriage, your video gave me food for thought of what the "glue" is that keeps couples together. I find all of your chats thought provoking and insightful though I do not always comment. I cannot thank you enough for being willing to be vulnerable to help your audience. My husband and I have been through many challenges and as we age, we are facing even more challenges. We also try to have "something to look forward to." I can't stop thinking about your video and I am going to watch it again. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your soul with your subscribers. Hugs.
Thank you so much for this. Many congratulations on your marriage. You are such an inspiration. I don't feel like any kind of expert. I feel like a failure in that my first marriage ended in divorce. It was such a hard thing to go through. I just never wanted to go through that again, and neither did Doug. So I did think that made us more determined to make it work. And it is work, isn't it? But I think the respect I have for Doug and I hope he has for me, has really made a difference. I think he is absolutely wonderful and I try to remember to tell him that daily. Thank you so much for this. Much love, Melissa
Hey Melissa and Doug! Well....what can I say....this was such a special video for me to watch! I was so impressed how much love, admiration and respect you two have for each other. Such a fine example of what a loving marriage is all about. Thank you both for taking the time to make this video......I just LOVED IT!!!
Oh thank you so much, Carrie!!! I thank you for this so much. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't say a huge thank you for him. You are so sweet and I really appreciate you. Love, Melissa
You hit the lotto when you found this guy, you two are perfectly matched...almost complete opportunities, but both completely generous and selfless. Yen and yang...just quit worrying so much, and enjoy your wonderful life. This video was a joy, thanks for sharing.😊
Wow, that man loves you, Melissa, and you just love him, too! Correct me if I'm wrong now but you are the more vocal one I bet and he's the quieter one? You know I can tell you balance each other out. I understand what you said about still finding your husband completely attractive after years of being together. I feel that for my husband. It's like I still think I've never met anyone like him and never will again. Some of your discussion looked cathartic for you as maybe you haven't discussed some of this with Doug before? I hope it made you feel like you let go of some things that needed to be freed. The topic you chose here isn't discussed often enough. Great video. Angela xoxo
Thank you so much, Angela!!! Yes, I really do feel like I am the more vocal one. Doug likes to chill and just read and relax. Oh that is so sweet the way you feel about your husband! I had skirted around the issue before. Offhand comments, like, "I bet me being sick has been a pain in the butt for you", casually. I was surprised that he was surprised that I thought they had been awful times. Thank you so much and much love, Melissa
This is so beautiful and wholesome 🥰 Your husband went totally out of his comfort zone because he knew it'd mean something to you. That is just adorable. Thank you for sharing such a precious part of your life with us! Wish you both the best 🍀
You seem an amazing sweet woman and your husband looks a great husband. I can tell how you love him. You are absolutely gorgeous. I just discovered your channel and I like the fact that you are feminine and classy but not overly sophisticated with fake eyelashes and a ton of make-up. I love make up, don't get me wrong but when it is too much, we don't look natural at all and I think we are not ourselves anymore. I am 47 years old and I had a lot of problems with my health too, mostly the last years. I try to take care of me to feel myself again. I hope I will find some great tips with your videos.
Thank you for sharing these personal issues in marriage. I had a counselor give me wonderful advice when I first became ill. She said it was time for us to put down deep roots, and we did. She said to always spend affectionate skin-to-skin time to nurture our relationship even when illness might prevent other intimacy. Touch is so essential, as are all the other communications, caring, and commitment. And humor! Thank you both!!! So much love, Sharon xo 💞
Oh Sharon, I appreciate it so much. I love this and wow, is it ever true. I have to stop myself from hugging Doug all the time. And you know what else I think is true intimacy? Sharing a joke or a look in a crowd. From across a room. Like when someone says something and it reminds you of something that only the two of you would know. Gosh I love that. It's so wonderful to know that this other person shares this moment with you ad gets you. Yes,, touch is vital. Thank you for reminding me of this. Much love, Melissa
I love this video so much . love getting to know you and your husband. my situation is very much like yours . My husband is such a good man as yours is . He is definitely in love with you and that's all that matters .you are wonderful.
I stumbled on your beauty videos and I am watching them. I thought I'd check this one out too. I love that you respect each other so much and are kind to each other. Once the respect is gone its downhill from there. I'm very happy for you. You found a living caring man. Let him love you. You are conscientious and so you worry about all you think he's had to bear through your health issues. I can tell you would have done the same for him had the tables been turned and been right there to care for your loved one. You two are a inspiration. I'm having my husband watch this. And you are right to make time for each other and nurture your marriage. Usually if you don't when the kids leave you find you no longer have anything in common. I really enjoyed watching this. Thank you both for sharing what is working for you. God Bless you both.
I really enjoyed this video thank you for sharing your marriage with us. I’ve been married to my husband for 23 years and it helps to hear how other marriages have matured and what has helped them . You have given me a lot to think on and ways I can improve because we have also gone through a lot of struggle & stress that has taken a toll on our lives. This video made me aware of that and how important it is to work on our marriage it is by far one of the most important gifts we are given in life that needs to be nurtured. Thank you for sharing your hearts. Blessings from AZ🌵❤️
Hi, Melissa. I'm late to this video and a fairly new subscriber to your channel, but thank you the honesty and candidness in your broadcasts. Now, more than ever women need to see authenticity in real role models. You do that so beautifully.
Going on a little over 8 years with my husband with a similar situation as your marriage. So thankful for your openness. Absolutely encouraging to this young couple. Thank you both.
Not boring at all. I love the videos you two do together. It's obvious that you are still very crazy about each other. You both are really deserving of that kind of love. Thanks for sharing.
Doug's facial expressions are priceless at the beginning of the video hahaha On the more serious note, this is one of the most important videos for all married couples or those aspiring to be: compliment each other every day; make each other feel good by highlighting the good qualities; be courteous; never compare each other to someone else; respect the biological parent and do not try to take their place; remember that marriage is in health AND in sickness. Thank you so much for sharing!!
A man that takes on another mans children is a treasure. It is such a fine line they have to walk. Also, some people think that romance dies as people age - for many people that is not true - physical love can be very beautiful in older marriages.
annie bee I agree. Any man who takes on another mans children is indeed a VERY special treasure. Doug seems to have done it sooooo well, too. God bless him❤️
annie bee I find it gets better and better for both of us!
I agree. Some people say they would never want to marry someone who has children with someone else. I used to say that, but i realized if you really love someone, it won't matter. Children are a true blessing, too:)
@Mauser 96 Found the incel.
what do you mean?
Doug seems like such a laid back, funny, southern gentleman. It is so obvious he loves you and it's easy to see why he does. Y'all are a beautiful couple.
I am also a cold weather girl and the SEC is my conference. Although , I am a diehard Gamecock fan.
aw thanks so much, Jenn! I appreciate it. xxx, Melissa
The SEC is the best! Steve Spurrier and I have the same birthday! lol. xxx,
What a great day to be born. I will miss him this season but have high hopes that Mischamp will be a great coach.
What is/was her sickness? Its not connected to the products she use?
I am just curious.
Doug seems very happy with you. Let him love you and don't question it! 💕
And I meant that very lighthearted!
aw, thanks so much!!! I really am trying! Lots of love and thanks, Melissa
Melissa55 you both are blessed to have each other!! I was not so good at picking men. Be happy with each other!!
What a sweet man. He is crazy about you.
Doug's a keeper, he's just such a sweetheart !
You two are just so adorable. My hubby and I have been married for 46 years and he's STILL the best thing that ever happened to me. We laugh and talk a lot and now we are retired we enjoy the simple things in life so much more like being blessed to still have each other. I think you are right about some of the reasons why older couples bicker and seem resentful of each other. They probably were working hard when they were young so didn't notice how they had drifted apart till the kids leave home, they retire and have to spend a lot longer together. I think it's so sad as they must have been so in love when they first married/lived together.
Forget the guilt about your illness and medical expenses lovely lady - you would do the same for Doug in a heart beat . God bless you both always from a sunny Wales - YES I SAID sunny !!! Woo hoo...... 😎 xxxx ❤❤❤
He looks at you with such love! Bless him, Bless you both!!
Your husband is just precious... And so are you.. Thanks for sharing this!
As I had the pleasure to meet Doug, I already know that he is a wonderful, kind and funny man, he loves you (that is clear)and that is why he doesn't resent you for anything and that is what unconditional love is about-we do whatever we can to make each other safe and happy. Love you both xoxoNisha
aw, thank you so much, Nisha. We still talk about that day and all the fun we had. What wonderful people you both are. I will never forget all the kindness you showed us. I will forever be grateful to you and love you! Many thanks, Melissa
What a blessing 😇 (and bane 🙃) UA-cam can be. I don't know if you two couples met here, or if you've been friends for years, but even so, congratulations either way. Friendship knows no boundaries❣
As a marriage counselor I loved this video. It's not easy keeping a marriage healthy for the long term and blended families are hard. You had helpful advice and I commend you for being open, honest and self-reflective.
Oh thank you so much for this, Mindy. I did know, as did Doug, that going through a divorce was a hard thing to do, so it was really important to me that this marriage work. It was difficult at times, but I'm really grateful that I get to share my life with him. I appreciate this so much. Love Melissa
This wasn't boring at all. It is inspiring and refreshing to see a couple who are true soul mates, like you two. All you have to do is look at your faces, and see the love and adoration you have for each other. It's a blessing. ☺ 💖 Thank you so much for sharing. xoDebra
aw, thanks so very much, Debra. I appreciate you saying such nice things. I think Doug is so sweet so I just am so thankful when someone says nice things about him. Thank you and much love, Melissa
@Deb Beach
how do you know they are "soul mates"? you don't even know these people. What's wrong with you?
@@AvangardaVVV What's wrong with YOU ? If you can't say anything nice jog on to someone else's channel and peddle your rudeness and cynicism there !
He's adorable, Melissa! You are blessed to have a humble and loving husband. I'm just as lucky. Praise God!
aw, thanks so much, Debra. And thank you for saying that about Doug. I'm always really proud when someone compliments him. Love and thanks, Melissa
Have a great new year full of new adventures and many blessings.
What a lovely couple. Poor Doug though, I don't think he was that comfortable on front of the camera. But bless him, he did really well.
I had to bring my husband in to watch this because I told him that your Doug is exactly like him. So easy-going, strong and steady, and so supportive of me.We're lucky women, Melissa! He tells me all the time, "you worry too much" or "I don't mind". I call him the easy button. lol Loved this video!
Oh Michele, I am so touched that he agreed to watch this. Doug did not want to do this and at times I thought he had a deer in the headlights look. lol. Thank you and tell your husband thank you. Love, Melissa
Girl, never question whether or not you have the absolute best husband. He is a jewel with an amazingly good heart. Beautiful.
One gorgeous cougar!! This is so sweet...Love you Doug...EVERY Man and WOMAN deserves a respectful love...so happy you both have it!
aw, thanks so much, Tammy!!! You are so right, we all deserve to be respected by our partners. Thank you and I send you lots of love, Melissa
That Doug is a dear! I cracked up when he said, "I just take something to read."
lolol, aw, that is sweet, Cindi. I love it when people appreciate how nice he is. Lots of love, Melissa
This should go viral. It is one of the most beautifully honest videos I have seen. The questions and answers are so difficult, yet so important. Thank you both for having the courage to share this. In an online world full of avoiding the hard stuff and, consequently, giving false impressions of life, you two gave such a gift here. And thank you for always sharing without judgment of others.
Oh my goodness, Jennifer, thank you!!! I appreciate it so much. They were difficult questions, especially for Doug. I always am pretty much an open book. But Doug likes to keep things private a bit more, so that's why it was even more special for me. Thank you so much for saying this! It really means so much to me. Love, Melissa
Your husband is a true gentleman and you are the epitome of a truly beautiful woman. Thank you for sharing and wishing you many, many more years of wedded bliss!
I honestly stumbled by your channel because I have similar hair as yours; I was told the other day older women shouldn't wear their hair long. I watched your latest video with the 8 hot rollers, (genius, btw), loved your hair and your attitude so I picked a few more videos to watch. I landed on this one, so glad I did. This one is just what I needed. As we get older, (I'm 60, my husband 61), both married before. I had kids; he didn't. We also have always included their dad in sharing holidays, birthdays, important occasions. You and your husband are so sweet together. The love is obvious; bless his heart for opening up to us like he did..thank you for doing this video. Oh, I'm keeping my hair just as it is...thanks again
Oh my goodness, this was the best--I laughed and cried--I hope MANY people watch this video and take it to heart--I agree with every word and I am so happy for you both! Love~Lisa
Love you too Lisa
Thank you, Madelyn! ♥ Lisa
+LisaLisaD1 we love you too Lisa!!
Lisa I would love to see you and your hubby do a video together !! Have a Great Day !! Trish xoxoxo
LisaLisaD1 please do this video. Love you!
I.LOVE.THIS!!!My husband and I have been married 20 years and we never pass gas in front of each other,we never disrespect each other with curse words,we always give each other multiple hugs a day and complement each others..xoxo
I love this Sophia! Now I have been known to let the cursing fly if I hit my toe or something, but not at Doug! lol. You are very blessed. Much love, Melissa
It's unrealistic to not pass gas in front of your husband of 20 years, unless you aren't together a lot. A husband sees you when you are most vulnerable - my husband has seen me in much worse states than passing gas.
Diana Martiniuc-cameron I know, she sounds NUTS.
Same!
Never farted in front of your man.?Farts in our family are funny as.
Don't believe her Doug she has 35,000+ subscribers! Many people are watching this. Lol! You guys are great and have been married a super long time; 30years. Congratulations.
I cannot tell you how much I love this series! :) You two have a successful marriage because I genuinely believe you both feel lucky to have one another. You both seem so humble and kind, and you both continue to behave and carry yourselves in a way that keeps the element of attraction alive, and I think that's really important. Loved this video!
Thank you so very much, Jenifer. I really feel so lucky to have him. I really hope he feels the same. You are so sweet and I thank you so much for this comment. Love Melissa
This was so much fun to watch. I thoroughly enjoyed it. I can see the love and respect you both have for each other. It's beautiful. It touches my heart. Thanks for sharing ❤.
You two are so incredible. I have tears in my eyes. I used to think Doug was the luck one because of what a bright light you are and how beautiful you are but you are lucky to have him too! Not passing gas in front of each other is important....LOL. Good on both of you for your love and mutual respect. You deserve each other. Much cyber love from the west coast of Canada! Susanne
aw, thank you so much, Susanne. I agree 100 percent about me being the lucky one! I couldn't have asked for a kinder, more decent man to spend my life with. lol at the passing gas. Love you lots! Maybe someday if we get that RV, we'll come up your way! Lots of love, Melissa
This is such a lovely, loving interview. I am watching it 8 years after you made it. It's so cute that you said at the beginning, "not many people watch this," and I'm sure it was true at the time. But now (August 2024), you have 148,000 subscribers! 😃❤
Doug seems like a great guy. You are a wonderful couple- and it is obvious he is there for you no matter what. ❤️👌
Wow it’s obvious there’s a lot of love in this marriage. ❤️
That´s more than heart-warming. Such a sweet way treating each other, appreciating and take nothing for granted. That´s outstanding.
My husband never left me when i had a dark depression for 10yrs, it was hard on him, i sassed him and was nagging and jealous. I found the Lord and was delivered from the darkness. I am free from the depression and found my purpose. Now i am able to practice being respectful to my husband and support him in his work. I love him and am thankful he is a train of a husband. He doesn't talk to me much but that is his way and i find my contentment in Jesus and try to serve my husband in the way he needs. Study your husband ladies.
I enjoy knowing you love each other and are supporting each other. It is inspiring to me to see a wife respect her husband.
"Golden Rule!" Yes.
Real love!! My boyfriend left me when I was stressed over my father dying!! He died a week after my boyfriend left
@@shinesobrightforever4863 That is a blessing in disguise you will see. My childrens father has left me and or made things worse in difficult times in my life and i have fogave him so many times to be let down again and again. He brings the worst of me and as i am getting older and mature i realised i just wasted my precious youth and time for being too naive. But i refuse to dwell on that and focus on God, my children and myself. You will find out soon why it was a blessing if you haven't yet.
May the Lord bless you
THIS is the quintessential best of the SOUTH. Both, lovely people.
That is so kind of you to say! Thank you so much. Love, Melissa
Only just found this. Made me cry how much this man unconditionally loves you and what a good person he is. He reminds me of my beautiful husband. Xxx
I was struck by the similarity of your story to mine. I met my second husband when he was 28 and I was knocking on the door of 40. He too inherited 2 step children and the journey he had with them was similar to your husbands. Unfortunately my children father was not present as they grew up, and my children now look upon my husband as their father even taking his name. You are so right in what you say, and we follow as best we can the principles of mutual respect and care. We have been married for 15 years now and he is my rock. Thank you for sharing, it delights me to see such a committed and loving couple who have weathered the storms that life throws out from time to time.
I've watched all your videos, and this one is by far the best!!
So candid and every woman wants to ask these questions and your husband was so cute in the way he answered. Do more videos with Doug!
You two are such a great couple! It's easy to see that you both love each other so much. I really enjoyed this! Lots of love to you both xoxo
Thank you more than I can say, Anne. You are terrific. I really appreciate it so much. Love, Melissa
Your husband loves you so much. I'm glad you did this video because this communication really cleared up some things for you. He is obviously committed to you from his heart and you love him too. Wonderful video!
When you are in love, you do not feel the weight in the water pail. He loves you. Pure and simple.
Stop worrying Melissa! Doug's answer to have a short memory was so valid. He is adorable. Great video.
I do know in my head I shouldn't worry, but my hears always says something different. Doug's brothers and his father were really easy going too. So is his sister. I think it might be a family trait and it's very calming. I appreciate you, Dianne. Have a wonderful week. Love, Melissa
How amazingly sweet are you as a couple! Thank you for this, I truly was reminded of lots that need to transpire in a marriage. I am 54 and my Fiance is 41 and as we look forward to a future together I do have concerns about life, togetherness, love, and keeping that spark, trust and realness as a couple! Thank you for being so open and I wish you all the best as you continue to grow together!
You have a unique first name, thought I'd tell ya! Cheers to your engagement
Law Bug Thank you Love! Yes my name is very different, thanks to grandma.
Pure joy. I've been wanting to watch this but I've had company so I saved it for a "me" night. Your love is so palpable. When you and Doug are together in a video or when you talk about him, it is so beautiful. I can see the love and respect you have for each other plain as day - it literally shines in your eyes. This is what I want and thank you for showing it can exist. I think the key is that you have mutual respect for each other. When he looks at you, I can see the love in his eyes. It is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story; it makes me so happy.
You learned even more about him & his attitude. Very relaxed & reassuring. He did and would do anything for you. That's love in action & attitude. Speaks volumes. Your beauty is enhanced it seems by your genuinely loving husband, by family, laughter, courtesy,compliments & daily routines that are tailored to you. It's refreshing to see/hear this. Many thanks. :)
Emilia Motyka Very well said
Oh my goodness. Your husband is a jewel. A gentleman. From watching a few of your videos and how beautiful you are and seemingly never aging, I thought, your husband is a lucky man. But after seeing this video, I think you got a true catch! He has integrity, that shines through and is very attractive in a man, and he is very handsome besides. All the things you talked about, are so true for a good and lasting marriage. Continued blessings to you both!
i just found you, while looking for vlogs over 40. (yes that's what i searched for lol) anyway, this man loves you and you love him. i can tell bye the way you look one another on the eyes when talking :)
that's funny, i would NEVER pas gas or belch in front of ANYONE let alone My husband, not even my children. truth to that
I am much younger than you but married with a child for 20+ years and hearing your interaction with your husband makes me hopeful for the future. You are so natural and your husband fits your style perfectly. It's great to see this. Thank you for sharing and Doug thank you for going through with it even when uncomfortable. You are both great.
I love your honesty Melissa, I can see what you say comes from the heart. Your man is super special and a big gorgeous hunk. Don't question his love or commitment to you and don't feel guilty because he is lucky to have you to, accept that you are equals and both bring special gifts to your amazing union. Thank you both for sharing your inspirational journey.
Gloria very well said...
So sweet and so beautiful the Co parenting is so important. My Son’s dad refused to do that and he is at the end of 30’s now starting into 5 decade of life with 40 around the corner I see what a struggle it has been on him and for myself. Though I pleaded with his dad tried to educate him on it. He refused to do make the effort despite the fact he was a friend first since we were in 1st grade. To all the parents out there please put your differences beside because it can cause a lifelong struggle on your children. I’ve seen a firsthand. Thank you for doing this video and you have a beautiful marriage and relationship.❤❤❤
Oh Melissa!
I love this video. Doug is so sweet , at one point I teared up because of his unwavering love and devotion to you and his family. He seems so strong and yet so sensitive to others. You are both very blessedKimP.S. I wish he would run for President!
Oh Kim thank you so much!!! I will have to say, he is very strong and sensitive. We all look to him for everything - myself and the children. He is like our problem solver. lol, I'll tell him you said that!!! Maybe I'll write his name in. lol. Much love Melissa
What a sweetheart you have. And I'm sure he feels the same about you.And I can say as a caregiver myself, it's an honor to take care of your loved one and it bonds you to them even more. I bet he feels all the closer for being there for you.God bless you both.
30 years is pretty damn impressive. You two remind me of some friends who had the most perfect relationship, holding hands and in love 40 years later. Interestingly, what it appears you both have in common is opposite personalities. You definitely are more of a worrier who internalizes, whole Doug seems to go with the flow and let's water roll off his back. He is such a gem. God broke the mold when he made Doug. I just adore you two! xoxo, Swoozie
aw, thanks Swoozie. We are opposite in a lot of ways. Doug's brothers and father were like that - just really super laid back. Doug's sister is like that, too. I told Doug what you said and he said, "I hope breaking the mold is good. God broke the mold when he made the devil too". lolol He cracks me up. Love you always, M
My husband always made me feel so good when things went wrong. He was my rock. We married young and I always told him he taught me everything I know. lol. Sadly in April 2019 I lost the love of my life. I’ve just passed the five year anniversary. I’m so lost without him. We had two children together. But I feel so alone. Enjoy your time together and never stop having fun together. Btw we were married for 56 years. We loved Florida beaches and Smoky Mountains. Las Vegas was so much fun!! Hold each other tight!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Doug is an absolute treasure. You two are so lucky to have found each other. The love between you is so visibly strong.and am sure will last your lifetime. Thanks for sharing.
Y'all are really cute together ❤ Love your skin care videos, you look 20 younger than your actual age & you seem like a genuinely kind person 😊 Thanks for your tips
Melissa, I recently found your channel and have fallen totally in love with you! I'm a southern gal, too (Tennessee!) and your knowledge and wisdom is admirable. Just a note about being chronically ill: I'm only 24, but my partner and I have faced some pretty major health issues (mine) in our time together. Like Doug, he swears up and down I'm not a burden and he wouldn't trade me for a perfectly healthy person. I COMPLETELY understood your persistence in this video. I can't believe my partner doesn't resent me for all of the time, money, and energy my health issues have consumed. But he loves me just the way I am, just as Doug clearly adores you. Thanks for this video!
This video was so sweet! I almost cried because I wish I could have what you guys have......!
Oh thank you so much!!! I did mention this to another person to hang in there. That you literally don't know what's around the corner. Doug and I met on a job interview! Many thanks, Melissa
This truly warmed my heart. You two are so genuine and open here. I love how sweet you are to each other. You like each other, and that fondness is wonderful. Your kindness clearly goes a long way toward strengthening your relationship. You also said so much here that was wise about not always having the kids. The benefit of the “ex” co-parent scenario does leave solo weekends open. I’ll remember that as a bonus when I begin to date again!! I have two the same age as yours were. Thank you both for giving us a glimpse into your relationship. 🙏🏻🙌🏼😊💛
Oh Melissa I am balling. I am a nurse and just listening to you two talk and how kind you speak to one another. I understand how much sickness can be hard on families. There is so much love and respect on how you both speak. Much love to you both!
I love this video! So refreshing to see two people in love, and so transparent. I love the fact that you are not afraid to show to the world your own life and struggles. Great chemistry between Doug and Melissa. :)
as a couples therapist i love this beautiful conversation between you both. You are giving great pearls of wisdom . The power of giving acknowledgment every day is so underestimated and often forgotten .Thank you Xx
Melissa & Doug, that was my all-time favorite! You guys are so honest, sweet, & kind and your love for each other shines. We have been married 47 years & still have fun, show love, and make future plans too. Being kind to each other is key! We've started praying together before bed, for the last two years. We've also had the illness thing and the children period...and now it's grandchildren. Two attend UTK and we love to see their games. We moved from Seattle to Nashville about three years ago. I went to St. Mary's school in Johnson City in the first grade, so I kind of know where you live. We visited my old house two years ago and I was shocked it was still there in Gilmer Park. Amazing! Anyway, I love your VLOG and totally respect your willingness to share your lives...thank you! Blessings to you and your family.
He's a keeper (as are you)! You both have great chemistry.
He loves u deeply Melissa and he did all those things because u were his world.. You can see it in his face. You are truly blessed to have him hunny you both are a great match 👍
aw this really touched me, Dee. Thank you so very much. I sure am blessed and I never forget it. Much love, Melissa
Wow this man is amazing ❤🙏🏻 you are so blessed
I am crying now. He loves you so much. God bless you both.
Oh thank you so much! I sure hope he does!!! Much love, Melissa
You are the cutest thing ever! I found myself researching tips and tricks for women over 50 and came across your You Tube channel, which made me smile. So glad I did! You and your hubby are adorable, you are an inspiration : )
Thanks for doing this Melissa and thanks for Doug giving his insight into why it works and why maybe other couples don't work. My husband walked out just over a year ago now and the first thing he said to me when I asked why, he said I was so cruel that I never gave him a baby. His decision 15 years ago to refuse to go to IVF with me was why we didn't have children ( I'll carry that hurt for ever because I desperately wanted his children but was to scared to go against him and end up a single mother again) He has always made put down comments and making them out to be jokes. Even when he would take me to the jeweller to by me something special he would run me down with his comments, to the extend the sales lady one time was so uncomfortable she looked at me in shock. I tried to explain that it was bad behaviour but he just put it back on me. His nephew even said to him the comment he just made was really harsh and uncalled for. He answered his nephew with "she knows it's a joke" . The comment he thinks was a joke was to call me "A barren bitch" a few weeks after I got out of the hospital from having a hysterectomy under really traumatic time.
So it makes sense that after years of his constant put downs and me trying to appease all the time but not understanding it, he was slowly hating on me instead of dealing with what ever his issues were.
All round it's devastating the effects people can have on other people because they choose to live a lie. If he had left me when he knew he didn't want to be with me, I wouldn't have waisted 23years on a man who was hiding the fact that he never loved me. That is a nightmare I use to see in movies and hoped as a little girl that never happens to me but it has.
Now I live with the constant wait for him to send divorce papers, it's sold destroying and in the last year I've found out that it is so many women treated this same way, when they were under the impression their marriages were extremely strong. He made me feel I was the love of his life when all he was doing was waiting to get the guts to leave. Still to this day I don't know what was his reason really for leaving. Up until an hour before he told me he was leaving, we were happily interacting and even was so happy looking and smiling when he asked me to come do our tax. A minute after we walked back in the house from the tax office he told me.
Anyway I'm long winded. Thank Doug for his insight. I'm improving week by week as time goes on, so that's a positive and I wish the best for everyone that they never have such heartache :)♥
Cherylene You are much better off without him , you deserve to be treated much better ❤️ I wish u true and unconditional love and happiness and nothing less !! Never compromise yourself for a man , you are whole as you are , no addition of a soulmate would make u worth more .
Melissa, thank you so much for posting this video. I'm 32 years old, and came to youtube today to search out skin care routines for aging skin, and your joy captured my attention. It radiates! Hearing your story gives me so much hope. I am a single mother of two as well, and I pray I'll have as much joy and a healthy marriage as well in my future. Doug seems like an amazing man. Many blessings.
OMG....you guys are soooo good together!!
i just recently subscribed to your channel which i stumbled across because of my huge interest in skincare. i usually just lurk around youtube without commenting or subscribing to any channels, but you are such a likeable personality. i know this is an older video, but i wanted to tell you how much i appreciated you talking about your illness and the guilt you feel about being a burden on your husband. I too, have a chronic illness which at times is difficult on my family and i feel a tremendous amount of guilt. when you talked about it, tears came to my eyes because i can relate. my husband is also a very good person like yours. i had to stop working a few years back because of my health and so my husband now supports me and our daughter and pays for all my medical bills. i hope when we have been married as longs as you have my husband will also say he never resented me for the hardships i brought to his life. thank you for sharing this video. there is so much i can say about it but i will stop here.
OMGoodness... this is so beautiful! What a gift you two have given us all with this. -xo
I love your advice! Me and my husband have been married for 15 years. Married since I was 19 and him 22. The last few years have been rough. Everything you two have said is exactly what me and my husband say we need to work on. Love your UA-cam channel!
Hi Melissa,
I really enjoyed watching this..you and your husband make such a lovely couple. What was so beautiful about it was how you look at your husband with such a adoring countenance. You look so pretty as always..Thank you for sharing, : )
I saw that too.
Oh thank you so much!!! This is the truth, I just think he is the handsomest, sexiest man alive. To me he should be a male model or something! lol. I don't know what it is but I'm still crazy about the man after all these years. Thank you so much! Love, Melissa
aw, thanks! He just does it for me!! lol. Love, Melissa
I can't tell you how much I love and appreciate this video! Your husband reminds me of the men in my family, my father had the same disposition and kind nature and my brothers both took on the same quality. My Uncles who I remember fondly and loved dearly again same qualities. My husband is also the same! It's just wonderful to see and I hope for today's youth that seems to be moving at such a fast pace that young men still grow up with this same nature to them. Wishing you both continued love and happiness. Have a wonderful Easter!
Melissa & Doug you two are such a beautiful couple. Thank you so much for sharing this. Bless you both xxxx
Thank you so much, Kerry! xxx, Melissa
Melissa...you have no reason to feel guilty. That's what love is all about...and it is very clear that Doug loves. you. The year my husband and I got married, 31 years ago, his brother was diagnosed with cancer of the pancreas. I was in college, working full time, and planning a small wedding, but there was no place that I wanted to be more than sitting with my "husband to be" at the hospital. I wanted to be there for my husband and his brother. I didn't know his brother very well then but I loved him and felt so heartbroken for him. Instead of this situation breaking us a part it brought us even closer. The two of you were meant for each other. My husband also likes to keep the mystery alive. I feel the same way about my husband Melissa. When he walks in the room my heart still skips a beat. I think having that chemistry is really important in a marriage. It gets you through the tough times. Loved every minute of this video. Love you! Laura
I do hear what you are saying, but sometimes your feelings don't always align with logic, I think. Guilt is one of those emotions that's hard for me. I love this story abut your husband and the love and support you gave your husband. And hopefully everything that you've gone through since has brought you closer, too. In the past few years, Doug has lost both of his brothers within a short time of each other. It was devastating for the family. And I had to learn to give Doug his space. Unlike me, he needed his alone time to grieve. So I think knowing what the other one needs is important, too. I love that you still feel breathless seeing your husband. I do, too, with Doug. Love you so much and thank you for sharing. Love, Melissa
Such a loving couple.
I've been married 17 years and could definitely learn a few things from you both.
Thank you. Xx
Thankyou for sharing this wonderful personal video. Living with a chronic health condition has at times made me hard to live with, grumpy and full of guilt. Your video has reminded me to appreciate the small things my husband does for me, like the daffodils he bought for me today, to be more concious that he loves me for who I am. Not to hold on to the guilt of chronic illnesss and to tell him more often how special he is and how thanful I am to have him in my life.
Oh Vanessa, I'm so sorry that you have been ill. It is really hard to deal with at times. Oh the daffodils! I love that. That is so sweet. The guilt is so hard to let go isn't it? We both have bene very blessed. Love and thanks, Melissa
WOW! This video made me cry. I love you two. Bless your hearts. Your husband is so lovely! #DougForPRESIDENT
This is really lovely. I'm surprised. Not what i expected and lovely. Well done, Melissa.
He is such a sweet man. :)
Hello Melissa. I saw this yesterday and it gave me a great deal to think about. Tell Doug that I am so glad he agreed to it. My husband and I have been married 48 years August 30th. Despite the longevity of our marriage, your video gave me food for thought of what the "glue" is that keeps couples together. I find all of your chats thought provoking and insightful though I do not always comment. I cannot thank you enough for being willing to be vulnerable to help your audience. My husband and I have been through many challenges and as we age, we are facing even more challenges. We also try to have "something to look forward to." I can't stop thinking about your video and I am going to watch it again. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your soul with your subscribers. Hugs.
Thank you so much for this. Many congratulations on your marriage. You are such an inspiration. I don't feel like any kind of expert. I feel like a failure in that my first marriage ended in divorce. It was such a hard thing to go through. I just never wanted to go through that again, and neither did Doug. So I did think that made us more determined to make it work. And it is work, isn't it? But I think the respect I have for Doug and I hope he has for me, has really made a difference. I think he is absolutely wonderful and I try to remember to tell him that daily. Thank you so much for this. Much love, Melissa
This is really sweet. I hope one day to have a relationship and marriage like yours.
Hey Melissa and Doug! Well....what can I say....this was such a special video for me to watch! I was so impressed how much love, admiration and respect you two have for each other. Such a fine example of what a loving marriage is all about. Thank you both for taking the time to make this video......I just LOVED IT!!!
Oh thank you so much, Carrie!!! I thank you for this so much. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't say a huge thank you for him. You are so sweet and I really appreciate you. Love, Melissa
That Doug...he's a keeper! ;-) Thanks for sharing! ♥
He sure is, Lu. Thank you so much. Love you! Melissa
You hit the lotto when you found this guy, you two are perfectly matched...almost complete opportunities, but both completely generous and selfless. Yen and yang...just quit worrying so much, and enjoy your wonderful life. This video was a joy, thanks for sharing.😊
Wow, that man loves you, Melissa, and you just love him, too! Correct me if I'm wrong now but you are the more vocal one I bet and he's the quieter one? You know I can tell you balance each other out. I understand what you said about still finding your husband completely attractive after years of being together. I feel that for my husband. It's like I still think I've never met anyone like him and never will again. Some of your discussion looked cathartic for you as maybe you haven't discussed some of this with Doug before? I hope it made you feel like you let go of some things that needed to be freed. The topic you chose here isn't discussed often enough. Great video. Angela xoxo
Thank you so much, Angela!!! Yes, I really do feel like I am the more vocal one. Doug likes to chill and just read and relax. Oh that is so sweet the way you feel about your husband! I had skirted around the issue before. Offhand comments, like, "I bet me being sick has been a pain in the butt for you", casually. I was surprised that he was surprised that I thought they had been awful times. Thank you so much and much love, Melissa
I am single and I pray I can have a marriage like yours. I know there is no perfect marriage, but love and kindness conquers alot. Your truly blessed.
So curious what is on your arm? This video would make any husband nervous. Koodos to Doug for participating.
This is so beautiful and wholesome 🥰 Your husband went totally out of his comfort zone because he knew it'd mean something to you. That is just adorable. Thank you for sharing such a precious part of your life with us! Wish you both the best 🍀
More videos with Doug please 😁.
Melissa.....".For better or worse in sickness and health".... Doug is a great guy! Enjoy your wonderful blessing!........ no guilt needed.
You seem an amazing sweet woman and your husband looks a great husband. I can tell how you love him. You are absolutely gorgeous. I just discovered your channel and I like the fact that you are feminine and classy but not overly sophisticated with fake eyelashes and a ton of make-up. I love make up, don't get me wrong but when it is too much, we don't look natural at all and I think we are not ourselves anymore. I am 47 years old and I had a lot of problems with my health too, mostly the last years. I try to take care of me to feel myself again. I hope I will find some great tips with your videos.
Thank you for sharing these personal issues in marriage. I had a counselor give me wonderful advice when I first became ill. She said it was time for us to put down deep roots, and we did. She said to always spend affectionate skin-to-skin time to nurture our relationship even when illness might prevent other intimacy. Touch is so essential, as are all the other communications, caring, and commitment. And humor! Thank you both!!! So much love, Sharon xo 💞
Oh Sharon, I appreciate it so much. I love this and wow, is it ever true. I have to stop myself from hugging Doug all the time. And you know what else I think is true intimacy? Sharing a joke or a look in a crowd. From across a room. Like when someone says something and it reminds you of something that only the two of you would know. Gosh I love that. It's so wonderful to know that this other person shares this moment with you ad gets you. Yes,, touch is vital. Thank you for reminding me of this. Much love, Melissa
I love this video so much . love getting to know you and your husband. my situation is very much like yours . My husband is such a good man as yours is . He is definitely in love with you and that's all that matters .you are wonderful.
I stumbled on your beauty videos and I am watching them. I thought I'd check this one out too. I love that you respect each other so much and are kind to each other. Once the respect is gone its downhill from there. I'm very happy for you. You found a living caring man. Let him love you. You are conscientious and so you worry about all you think he's had to bear through your health issues. I can tell you would have done the same for him had the tables been turned and been right there to care for your loved one. You two are a inspiration. I'm having my husband watch this. And you are right to make time for each other and nurture your marriage. Usually if you don't when the kids leave you find you no longer have anything in common. I really enjoyed watching this. Thank you both for sharing what is working for you. God Bless you both.
this is so sweet I teared up... I need me a Doug lol
I really enjoyed this video thank you for sharing your marriage with us. I’ve been married to my husband for 23 years and it helps to hear how other marriages have matured and what has helped them . You have given me a lot to think on and ways I can improve because we have also gone through a lot of struggle & stress that has taken a toll on our lives. This video made me aware of that and how important it is to work on our marriage it is by far one of the most important gifts we are given in life that needs to be nurtured. Thank you for sharing your hearts. Blessings from AZ🌵❤️
Aww! You 2 are precious!
Hi, Melissa. I'm late to this video and a fairly new subscriber to your channel, but thank you the honesty and candidness in your broadcasts. Now, more than ever women need to see authenticity in real role models. You do that so beautifully.
Anything he does is a labor of love, that's what loving couples are like. Relax and enjoy your man.
Going on a little over 8 years with my husband with a similar situation as your marriage. So thankful for your openness. Absolutely encouraging to this young couple. Thank you both.
Oh thank you for saying that! I wish you much love and joy in your marriage. Thank you and much love, Melissa
Totally Precious - from someone who did not make it.
Not boring at all. I love the videos you two do together. It's obvious that you are still very crazy about each other. You both are really deserving of that kind of love. Thanks for sharing.
Aw. Love this ❤
Doug's facial expressions are priceless at the beginning of the video hahaha On the more serious note, this is one of the most important videos for all married couples or those aspiring to be: compliment each other every day; make each other feel good by highlighting the good qualities; be courteous; never compare each other to someone else; respect the biological parent and do not try to take their place; remember that marriage is in health AND in sickness. Thank you so much for sharing!!