5 REASONS THE INFJ DREADS BEING AROUND PEOPLE
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: There are many reasons why INFJs might dread social interactions. It's not that we don't want it at all; rather, being around people brings up a lot of emotions which can be hard for us- even if they're somebody we love or care about! There are always aspects that requires some work on our end, but by understanding what those triggers actually mean on an individual level then they becomes less difficult to manage and master.
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Do you dread being around people as an INFJ?
You look very comfortable expressing yourself about such a difficult topic. Your INFJ is showing!!
Yes. Very draining, because people I attract seem to be entitled my time.
Besides very *few* people, i dislike being around ppl, especially large crowds are PITA totally. I hate it.
Not all people. Just some that are full of darkness and those who wear masks. Bullshit artists, fake facades, and dipshits who I see right through. Total shade. It's disturbing.
@@jessmason2112 Yes. i can't stand those creeps.
Dear Wenzes - I have finally found my people because of you. We are a community of people who love being alone. Your videos are so life affirming. I am retiring in 3 months. I can't wait to be able to be myself all day every day. The world of work has been a trial by fire every single day for my whole life. Working at home during Covid shutdown was a wonderful time for me in so many ways. I could make my own schedule, shut my door, work in quiet, and not interact in person with those many, varied, needy, personalities.
Thats true✨
I feel like I have been a victim of a vampire when I am around other people. They typically act very defensive around me and I have to try so hard to put them at ease and it is not an equal exchange.
Most people don't know how to handle our honest up front energy, it freaks them out. We are SO rare.
@@corporaterobotslave400 Very true. There was someone saying to me that they didn't study, so I said to them they're gonna have to catch up, and I was told that I was very blunt, that I could have softened the blow. I told them that I am a very upfront person and they did freak out. Right then and there I told myself I wasn't gonna associate myself with that person or their group anymore. We gotta do it.
@@evanhearne4020 yeah way to go - the more you hang your authentic self out there the more you will repel those who don't like a challenge and also attract those who do.
I just wrote about feeling like a vampire’s victim too. There must be something true to this INFJ personality type, seems spot on.
yep and endlessly explaining ourselves to them which is beyond tiring and puts them in a power position to be the judge of us
If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room. 🎯✌️😎
Dread is too fearful a word, but yes, I have a strong aversion to being around people. Most of them are like hungry ghosts looking for someone to feed on, but never satisfied, because no amount of approval, support, affirmation, validation, praise, or any other flavor of attention from outside of themselves will ever be enough. They are like little children constantly playing make-believe games and want me to be some character they’ve made up in their heads. When I don’t play along the way they imagined, they get mad and react in various unpleasant ways. There isn’t even a “myself” to be, as I am not a character. I just am. I cherish and adore my solitude. I have no desire for relationships. A brief bit of (unavoidable) polite chit-chat is as much as I can stand. I’m retired now, so I am fully absorbed in my myriad of crafting hobbies, long walks in fresh air, fitness and nutrition, and reading copious stacks of novels. I have a deep compassion for humanity, but keep my distance. Been there, done that ad nauseum with all the painful INFJ dynamics you so insightfully present. Gone beyond now.
I fully agree. I can only handle so much fluff talk or the non-stop problems that arise from others' selfish, dishonest, and manipulative behaviors. Happy retirement to you! Edit: Btw, I can't count how many times I've said to myself that's it's not ok unless I'm the persona they want me to be or expect me to be. So very tired of that. Thanks for your effort to explain all that.
What a great response! I'm retired now too and actually just starting to really understand how great I have it now not being in the midst of all the noise and mind games and projection of people at work. Those painful INFJ dynamics just about destroyed me over time. I am in healing mode now and want nothing more than to be me and not what someone's idea of me is.
I second that emotion!👏
I have zero desire for "drama"
and in my observations I find
that most people don't like
"themselves" and are
constantly projecting what
they don't like about
"themselves"( ie insecurities,
shortcomings, ideologies, etc..)
onto others. ESPECIALLY other
females, the jealousy, the back-
stabbing, and always trying to
compete. Like, wtf is that !!!! 😢
I am sooo NOT INTERESTED
in that. I've always been a
loner anyway so it doesn't
bother me not having any
friends. I'm my own bestie
now and I prefer my own
company over others.
I also have had a very very strong
compassion for humanity since
childhood, but recently with all
of the bullying and trolling that
I've been receiving on social
media and more recently HERE
on YT... I'm no sure anymore. 😔
It's because it's so rare to find other people that respect your boundaries and preferences.
The more I work through my issues and heal the less I wanna be around people. I just dont feel the need I love my own company.
Omg same!
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I am an older INFJ that happens to be a therapist in private practice. Now, the idea of being around "most people" in most cases is something that I dislike tremendously and avoid at all cost. Currently, the level of toxicity being displayed in so many people all around me makes me avoid people that much more. Drama, toxicity, aggressiveness, being hate- filled, etc., are things I have zero tolerance for. Conversely, my clients are people who I truly love working with, and I feel incredibly grateful for my working relationships I have with my clients. So, people are actually the currency of my life, and generally, I love people....when in an environment that I can manage many variables and that is super predictable. And again, it is controlled by me, so generally speaking what happens in that vacuum-like space with one individual at a time is priceless. Sometimes even revelatory. But yeah...I have gotten so used to avoiding public, social events that I finally realized that I never liked them, but forced myself to act like an extrovert for decades, for example, working in a hospital setting for 30 years. But I eventually felt tapped out, like only a fraction of myself. Like my life energy was being suppressed. Letting go of it all and moving into private practice made me realize how exhausting it was to "perform" for a very long time in that capacity. Being very nice and always being on top of my game, and so on. I used to literally have to hide in my office whenever I was "on the floor " for long periods of time. Like, I had to in order to make it through the day. It was brutalizing in many ways. Bit now, I feel better than ever, and feel like I am living in a way that is not only compatible with me, but that brings me tremendous joy. I love what I do and the people I do it with. Everything's a work in progress but I let go of so many things that were dragging me down that I feel free of the negative parts of my past more than ever. And I don't know if anyone can relate to this, but I cannot tolerate watching people on screens anymore, especially because it is so often fake and contrived. This is why I do not watch tv, and even films, which I used to be more of a fan of, I rarely watch. This is related to both people and the system we are currently living under. Which I want no part of...lol
Anyway, thanks. Love your content.
Heavens. I still replay things I’ve said 25 years ago where I feel I may have made someone else feel uncomfortable.
" I am not responsible for others well being" actually it feels liberating!!!
Also, by feeling other people, it is often like they are all screaming in my head at the same time, a jumbled mix of emotions.
Then, I see into their souls, good, and bad, and have to deal with all the evil in the room, all the pain and baggage that the people have with them, all their demons.
Oh wow. You really feel things don’t you
I often feel drained around people. It also depends on how the other people's energy is. For example, if the people I am around are stressed about something or if they are just pessimistic, that negativity wears off onto me and I feel that stress as though it were my own.
Being able to feel everyone’s emotions and feelings all the time is exhausting.
I feel best when being out into nature, enjoy my hobby, photography...best when listening to the music, also...it gives me new images into my minds eye....i've found it especially draining, being inside the bus, train, etc...with lots of other ppl.
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I am so glad you put it in words. I find it hard to explain why I can't be around people. It's because I feel everything.
We are ultra-rarely responsible for how others feel. Let them feel however they want, even negative feelings.
Being around people most of the time is only because I'm forced to leave the house and go to a job to pay the bills and buy things I like. If it wasn't for that, my coworkers would probably never hear from me at all. If I can find a way that works for me to earn money without leaving the house, I will happily be doing that instead. I have some idiots for coworkers who hate me when I'm not even working with them. I'm in my area, doing what I need to do, and the morons still bitch about me. They have serious issues and I have no desire to indulge them one bit. Weak minded fools are far too common.
theyre jealous. people suck
Just want someone to complain about cus their life probly sx
1 - It's draining because we feel people;
2- guilt is amplified because again, we feel people and it's on autopilot. Be in alignment with yourself. The more you feel it, the more you heal it;
3- We lose ourselves. We are not only being chameleons but we go further, we lose ourselves in the process. "The leaf in the wind". Helping people has to be a conscious choice. Don't feel guilty for choosing yourself. Stop effacing yourself.
4- we can not have fun if we are not ourselves. It's always that box you are limiting you in. Solution: yes you are going to rock the boat, create a new harmony that includes yourself.
5- we feel responsible for people well being. What we believe what makes a good person. Our identity is, I'm the only one who is able to make people feel good. You can choose to feel that way or not. Be on the driver seat. I'm responsible for my own well being, not others it's on automatic pilot.
It takes energy to change but it's not going to be always difficult, it gets easy overtime.
Do I dread being around people as an INFJ? Yes. Mainly because most if not all of the people that are at social gatherings are extroverted, life of the party type of people. I'm not as outgoing as they are, yet I do well to speak with one person at a time. I can take people in small doses. Sometimes folks have a tendency to be rude to me (interrupting, being boisterous). I tend to just end those conversations and try and either find someone else easier to deal with or just leave. Leaving is normally the better choice for me because I like my peaceful home. Self-preservation and recharge time.
Aside from my energy/social meter being drained, I also don't always like being around people because in some cases it just makes me feel sad; particularly, during permanent departures. Hence, I try to avoid getting too close to people, but that isn't always easy to do for INFJs because we're "feeler types" and we value deep connections/interactions with others rather than shallow talk. And let's face it, most of us don't have many or any associates and only certain people "get us." We might be a true friend to some people, but we're slower to call others our friends due to our high standards.
Many INFJs also dread being around people because of having so many unfortunate experiences of being abused or mistreated during our lifetime to the point it can make us get sick and tired of dealing with them. Like, can I please go on a stranded island away from humanity?...lol. Just saying. I know I've felt this way before and I'm probably not the only INFJ either.
Whenever I'm alone, I don't have to worry about getting offended or hurt by an individual, and I don't have to worry about feeling sad because of permanently leaving someone I get along with or care about or them leaving me. It's just me, myself, and I, which is why I value my solitude.
people love to abuse me and love to hate me and belittle. they gatekeep jobs and generally make life harder for me because i want to be my own person. i have been through absolute hell on this earth but also have had incredible experiences i should honestly write a book that no one would read lol. but yes this is not our home in my opinion, heaven is
You are not the only infj that feels this way.
It's so nice to know that I can just be me . Being responsible for other people's happiness is so exhausting. !
I know where my dissatisfaction of people comes from for me. Most of them have lackluster motivations. Most people are overly suggestible- to social sloganeering, fads, marketing, parental influence, status, money, power, etc.. The 10 or 15% who are actually worth knowing are very busy and popular, and not particularly interested in making new friends.
they are not on our level. and i will not be going back down to theirs anymore to be accepted. thats all these idiots want is for someone as powerful as us to want them in many ways. they are pathetic outside of their skillsets in the physical sense
Just got off a Zoom "water cooler" call with a colleague. I was apprehensive abt the meeting but decided that I was going to be myself. I don't know if she likes me or not. Or if we will hv another call. I just don't give a f* anymore abt ppl not replying to my text, rescheduling meetings, not visiting or reaching out. Yeah I feel lonely sometimes but I know I'm an awesome person. I'm connecting to myself more and more, taking care of my needs and feeding my interests, developing talents, and just trusting I can create a fulfilling life.
As replied to someone else, well-put. Ironically, you're not alone in how you feel.
And that self belief is everything. Having a strong sense of self will guide you in the right direction.
Even with my husband, after a few hours I think "ok you can go do your own thing now so I can do mine ". He is an estp, our exact opposite.
I agree with what you say but since in real life and considering I'm very sensitive to noises, I do not go out much and I'm more of a loner wolf... so when I have started to be more myself on the contrary to what you explain here, I have never met so far people who are happy to be with a truly honest person... I have only met defensiveness so far or people escaping subjects or being not at ease around me for reasons I cannot even grasp, I simply feel it.... online it might be easier yes but in real life I must not meet the right people then.... Anyway I stick to myself and being me but it does feel very isolating
lol well i am one if you want to be friends. exactly the same as you described. lone wolf, deep, virtuous, multi layed personality
I know being around people as an INFJ I most times feel like an outsider more then anything and that is with friends and sometimes family. Plus having a chronic illness one day with friends and family can knock me out for a few days.
Extroverts gain energy from other people..
Introverts lose energy being around other people..
Oh yes, that's true. I'm actively trying to engage less in other people's dramas, or at least stick to those who want to vent, but take responsibility for their problems. At this point I have enough of guilt and emptiness coming from losing myself to live their lives. It's great, It's more peaceful, but it requires conscious effort.
Sometimes the best strategy is to say nothing. I talked to a psychologist and she asked me if I encourage venting. Do I nod? Do I make sounds, ask questions, go for it? Hmmmmmm. We often don't even notice we encourage behaviour that in result makes us feel awful.
Endure some awkward pauses rather than speak out of alignment be otherwise engaged and feel ok about it the conscious choice can become automatic
I avoid people because I value authenticity..most people are so phony and self- absorbed ..I get weary of listening to how wonderful they believe they are..
I only discovered your channel a couple of days ago, and I already saw more than 20 videos of yours. You have no idea how you’ve helped me already. You’re talking about subconscious patterns that I was kind of aware of, but you explain them so beautiful and give amazing advice on how to deal with these. Thank you so much for helping us out. ❤
Well said
The timing of this video couldn't have been better for me. I needed to hear all of that. Thanks
I dunno, I’m an INFJ, but I do like being around certain people. At the same time you are right though. It is draining and I need to recover after socialising. I’ve felt before that I was always identifying this recharge time as being about to get ill with a cold or migraine. In actual fact it is more about finding my soft comfort blanket (even though I’m a grown woman) and hiding under it so it’s a bit darker.
I’ve also had days where I’ve thought other people are comparable to vampires sucking the life out of me. I guess because I’m an introvert and some people seem energised after social interactions (most likely due to being extroverted, but still, extroverts are vampires). 😂 Sorry, not sorry. 😂
Yes, I do. It's much better if it's a small group or people that I already know. Everything you're saying is spot on. I get so uncomfortable if I'm talking to one person and another comes over and interrupts...I can't ignore them, but I shouldn't be rude to the person I'm already speaking with. Thank you for your wisdom and guidance. This is something I can work on now.
As a libra and an INFJ everything you are saying is so spot on. In a crowded room I always feel as though im confused by all of the emotions in the room, that guilt you talk about is paralyzing like I dont know "HOW" to act. . I literally hear every conversation which i brutal enough to deal with, i can never focus on one person or feeling because of the obvious clash, knowing there is a sadness and a happiness in a room at the same time i want to protect the sad one from the obvious lack of empathy from the happy one as an example. What a conundrum that can feel like. If harmony is present im ok emotionally but still experience the chaos of hearing every conversation. Im better breaking off to personal private settings.
Concerts however allow me that time where im most comfortable as i am a musician and enjoy everything about music. I funtion just fine in the crowd and can actually meet stangers freely. Proving your point about if you are happy being yourself you glow and attract people as opposed to being the quiet wierd person in the crowded room.
Libra INFJ...Hi.:)
@@jillmarieweingarten3048 Hello to you. I've often wondered how many are Libra because the traits are similar. I'm emotionally intense but remain stoic. Nice meeting you.
Hi there, libra INFJ here too. You're not alone!
Its easier as you get older. Set a limit to how much energy you're going to put into it and care a little less overall.
I am not responsible for others well being.
I’m not a fan of mindless chatter and useless information. I have to escape before my opinions and “ism’s” start flowing out. I’m happy knowing I can control it, took years.
Dread no. Dislike, yes. Not too many. Not too long. Just random faces in a crowd that requires little, I can deal with it. But when they cause issues, when they cross my boundaries. Worse if it's on the job where everything you say or do is amplified. Being the figure of authourity, ( though with no actual authourity is unpleasant in the extreme).
when the walls fell @ wallmart.
i don't really enjoy letting go and enjoying myself because I spend the next several hours replaying what I did and what I said over and over in my head and regretting things I felt was stupid, and feeling like I made an ass of myself.
I would say that I do enjoy people, but as an INFJ, more often than not, it can be completely draining! For the most part of my life I've always followed my true nature of being an observer, and although the natural default of processing and over processing others lends to this, I think that as I've gotten older and more mature, and especially now understanding myself as an INFJ, I have gotten a lot better at expressing my true thoughts and feelings and self around others, instead of always dimming my light for their benefit. I of course still require my alone time to recharge. I find that I do prefer more one-on-one or smaller group dynamics as opposed to larger ones, although I can occasionally tolerate a large group well, at least for a period of time. I think the only time I would describe it as dread though, would be if I was forced for some reason to have to experience a social situation, that I was either unfamiliar with, or disinterested in. That is a great feeling on occasion to feel that "blossoming" effect! 😃
Working in an office use to drain me constantly, I'm glad I work from home now. I'm not picking up on a bunch of different energies
I have worked in healthcare business development for over two decades, visiting doctor's offices. I can read people and the vibe of the offices very well. It helps me be a better rep and a better person.
When a person with bad intentions get successful , i can see the harm they can do to society and mostly we cannot overthrow them at present on the long run may be but this is tough
Man this couldn't have come at a better time!!!!!! 🗣WENZES!!!!! This is by Far one of the most beautiful gifts I've gotten! Yes I called you and this video a gift in this season in my life! After going through trauma and healing, I was still trying to figure out why it seemed so unbearable to be around people with this new commitment and outlook for my future. Going through trauma "season", all I could think about was how "I lost myself dealing with people, their issues, their mess and now that I'm reduced (what seemed) to nothing, where do i go from here. The one thing that I worked so hard at "becoming me and accepting me" I don't even have the energy to try again (so it seemed, we're stronger than what it appears). Most people cry because they lose tangible, material things but when I lost myself, I lost the will to live! So to try again, commit, and live amongst people, daring to open myself up to others again! 😵💫 ALL of what you said gave me clarity, disrupted the attack of anxiety, helping me to choose me and reminded me of who I was (to the core) prior to trauma.
This video is also why I am motivated to overcome, why we all (Infjs), should be motivated to overcome, so we can help others along the way. I mean the battle within me (a couple of hrs before watching this) was exactly what I was concerned with, fighting within myself (on a subconscious level), while around a group of people, ughhh! The Lord knows what u need, I'm telling ya! 🙌🏾
Thanks Wenzes!❣️
(I watched this video 3x in a row that's how bad I needed this!) "Geez-Luis" 😅
This is amazing! I wish i had watched it 20, 30 years ago! I have slowly figured an out a bit of this, but you put it all out so clearly. Thank you!
I am listening to this every couple of weeks. I need the reminder after so many years of relating in these patterns.
Love this community. We are so misunderstood
I think most of people Just want the social, superficial part of socialization and are not interested in connections, It sucks.
This 110%. Its like a glimpse inside my head more so than with many of your other videos.
I'll try & improve myself. I need to actually have a meal with my walking group one time instead of just heading home.
There is one guy I click with so well more so than the others, which yes does have a level of acting to it. He has said much the same to me. I have wondered what his personality type might be.
Only time they really saw the goofy, high energy me was last Halloween. It went over well, a lot of people & kids loved it. Running around as a werewolf. Even a video out there of me howling lol.
It was a great day. It was like the costume gave me the excuse you know. I'll get there.
I am so glad I ran into this video. This is very helpful. Thank you and it's right on time.
So glad I had this in my recommendations.
Thank you❤️🙏
Love you girl! You always know what I need to hear!
Wow this literally describes what I’ve been going through and feeling!
Wenzes, thank you so much for your amazing content. This video is exactly what I needed. I totally resonate with the unconscious habit of feeling responsible for other people's well-being. I was starting to sense I was doing this unconsciously and out of habit. Your video helped me realize this is something I can change and it's going to feel uncomfortable at first but only temporarily as I start to shift things around. THANK YOU!
Yup correct, when it's too much it's too much
Wenzes, I am actually coming to grips with this very topic. Everything you say is ON POINT! Thank you ❤
Amazing analysis and description of INFJ....describes my experience 100%. Thanks... so very helpful..... Cheers!
Oh my, so needed this tidbit. A wowza moment.
Thank you so much!
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Sometimes it feels like being stock between a rock and a hard place. Accepting people for what they are… in the friend group where not everyone get along… uncomfortable
Thank you wenzes! Watching your videos made me to discover knowing myself more and more .
This really hits home. All 5 reasons take up so much space in my head completely rent free. Guess that’s why I’m way more fun with a drink or edible in me. Responsibly of corse
Because we know it’s ego, image and fakery.
Thank you
Brilliant x
It is hard for sure even around people i care about.
Thank you.
thank you......
#1 Can we just sit and talk slow and relaxing instead of you constantly making me feel like I have to offer something to the conversation, why don't we keep our expectations and just understand ourselfs for who we are the way we are?
#2 Why don't you intune with me instead of making me feel your misery about that you think that I'm not intuned with you?
#3 Why can people just do a little bit of what I like without making me ask for it, just a single time?
#4 Why don't I show you how to have real fun(in my way instead of you cousing me mental breakdown with what you think is fun that I simply can't stand)?
#5 Why can people just don't switch my caretaker mode on max every time and just let me have a good time instead of thinking about everyone else's feelings?
I tend not to complain about the kind of music others are listening to when I am with friends or family members because I feel like I can listen to my favorite kind of music when I am on my own in my free time.
I like my people. But I dread being around a crowd of people I don't know who I need to impress. I still haven't met a handful of my husband's friends bc I don't like being put on the spot or center of attention. But crowds of strangers who I don't have to talk to if I don't want to don't bother me at all.
Please, please talk more about #4!
This is a useful video and definitely merits a lot of reviewing and internalizing.
Standouts for me:
** Feeling guilty. I was always worried that I said something "wrong" and it was exacerbated by constantly being called a misfit. A lot of that happened at a younger age, but it took a while to get over it.
** Preparing ahead to commit ourselves to being ourselves, knowing that yes, some people might get offended. My take on this - I commit myself to civil communication, be myself, to avoid trying to be clever - then communication is easier.
We INFJs love people, we want to help them and enjoy them but sometimes it is a challenge! 🙂
I am still trying to figure out if I am INFJ. All the things you state, I fit fairly well. I am also a Sagittarian and feel boisterous by nature. I have viewed your videos and fit most subjects you cover. I would enjoy a conversation with you to help guide me. Have a good day.
Because of your videos, I (infp) think that I'm infj ×D btw great content 👏 I learn a lot from you
Yes, I hate being around people out in public. I don’t mind it if I know them, but I don’t like being around strangers.
I used to have to get drunk to have a good time, and loosen up. It turned me into an alcoholic, just so I could be normal. I hated myself. I finally kicked that habit after almost 2 decades. Then a couple years ago, they legalized Delta-8 THC in the US, and that was awesome. It has an even better affect on me than the alcohol, but I wasn’t hurting my body, and having hangovers. I was sleeping better. It was great. Now I’ve changed jobs, and can’t use it at all. Which sucks. 🫤. All I can hope for is Federal legalization and decimalization of all THC. And that seems like a long shot. 🤦🏼
Great video Wenzes! Hope you’re having a great week! 🙂🌹❤️👍🏼
Sometimes it get to intense
Wondering if anyone out there can assist? Have tested INFJ initially, now a few tests later indicate INTP..🤔 Am a little confused, as feel I fit INFJ profile but need clarification, thanks.
Hi Wenzie, your videos are so helpful and inspiring. I can't thank you enough for what you do. Pls pls can you do a video about if INFJS should have children? Any fellow INFJS, please let me know what your opinion and experiences are....I know there is no clear cut answer but i would love to hear other peoples opinions on INFJS being parents, having kids, etc.
I am a father of two sons now grown. I think its fine to have children if you are an INFJ. I don't think I was a terrible one. I wish I had been more in the moment with them but I was so often preoccupied by work worries (read: people at work worries). Luckily my excellent ISFJ wife more than made up for me being a little checked out at times. But I think I was a caring dad and an understanding one. I made mistakes modeled after my own parents. I didn't know that some of what they did was not really the best way to parent. But this is a common and understandable problem with a lot of young parents. Sometimes we haven't really evaluated what our parents did to us or whether we would or should do something differently with our own children. But knowing myself much better now and looking back I don't think anything in my INFJ personality was a detriment to my children. They are still actively communicating with me so I take that as a positive!😄
I have made the choice not to have children (long before I knew anything about infj's). I instinctively knew that I would find this too draining and incompatible with the private way I chose to live. However, I don't think that infj's who want children should hold back. Awareness of how to manage this personality type would help with raising kids.
unfortunately not bringing kids into this messed up society
I have more energy, being exposed to nature, and my independence. People are too draining.
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I don't like being around people is apparently I'm wrong about everything, taking people, reading people the wrong way, what they say, why they said it, their intentions. They play the game of " nothing's wrong, it's in your mind" only to have them come clean later and admit what you knew all along, of course there's always some twist on it.....
It sucks the life out of us.
i identify as an INFJ, but how do we know this isn't how other people feel also?
How do u turn it down
I'd rather chitchat with people I don't know than speak with people I do know. I worked for 26 years at the same place and when I resigned I never looked back nor called anyone from that place. Never made a real friend. Am I not so very weird?
No it just sounds like you don’t want to be known
"Brave dolphin 81"
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Oh well. :P
dolphin
Only 5?
Don't most true INFJ figer out this stuff as they grow?
We just have to not care. I've been practicing that since high-school, I come off as a bitch when i do this- but unfortunately, that's the only time people will listen and back off. I have a big heart on the inside, but if you try to take advantage of me, control me, manipulate me then you'll get that "cold" version of me. And boy is it HARD to do, I feel like I'm going against my moral character, but you know what, I don't care. I am not going to be responsible for people's feelings - byeee!! If you don't like it or what I'm doing - then bye bye bye. 👋
#notasociopathjustaninfj 😂
Be you, be alone if you want … don’t let society and the moronic narrative that people need people… nah… be like Luke Skywalker walk your path and do you…. 🐺
If you are a infj wouldn't you already know this
some of us infjs have a hard time being extroverted. This is what this is.
@@MegaCyberleader
I understand that fully .
my question basically is the point of the video? To show others what infj personality are like ??
Cause wouldn't you agree if you are a infj
You would no you hate to be in crowds
Before seeing this
@@swanzilla1982 The funny thing about the experience of being human is it helps tremendously sometimes to hear your thoughts spoken out loud by someone else. 'Faith comes by hearing' as it were.
@@swanzilla1982 To me, it's more about reinforcing that it's ok to feel how you feel. Just because you know you're an INFJ doesn't mean you are comfortable with it. It's good to know others feel that way too, and it's ok.
No, most infj's don't know they are infj or don't know what it means, so alot of us think there's something wrong with us. She not only describes infj but gives tips on how to overcome those unhealthy behaviors.
Sadly I’ve come to realise women do not make good friends; if you do find some congenial souls they are rare so hang onto them.
It must be an evolutionary thing; as I’ve found most women I meet are predatory.
Women have good instincts.
women are not intellectual creatures generally speaking. infj want/need both emotional and logical fulfillment which is a hard mix to come by
i DON'T LIVE IN A HAPPY BUBBLE AND SOMETIMES THERE ARE VICTIMS THAT'S JUST THE WAY IT IS.😁
As an ENTJ I used to think that I didn't like how INFJ's feel, we're opposites in our expertise, but then I met an ISFP and INFJ's seem way more grounded and practical.
The way you take your time to explain the details is what I love the most about your videos 😍😍❤️ . Increase your stats = Promo'SM !!