Your family hurts you? | Nouman Ali Khan
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JAZAKALLAHU KHAIRAN for this...can i please have the link to the whole lecture?
Yes im looking for the link for this lecture too. Could u helppp us, pleaseee ?? 💗
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What is the actual meaning of sabar plz make a detailed video on it .. most of the teaching are to tolerate unappreciate behavior and things is saba with out doing anything about it
they ruined so much for me until I distanced myself.
It feels like the end times when you can't even trust family
I'm going through same my older brother ruined my life . My wife left and few years later my mum passed away. Now his after my share of my mum property that she gave me. I'm just Quite because he calls I'm greedy. I'm young sibling 41 years old age.
I agree, but you made the best choice… it doesn’t matter who that person is… if their not nice to you distance or avoid them.
@@zackabee5498 he gave his mum house to his wife
@@akrambaig2689 may Allah keep what's truly yours safe for you
I'm on the Same position all my life. The more good I do the more they hate me.
If you don't expect anything from others, you will be never be disappointed. Only rely on Allah, who is the All-Hearing & All-Seeing.
What a toxic and unislamic thing to say.
Are shaming people with husnu dhan or are you giving yourself an excuse not to help others?
@@sparklemotion8377 you can still help others, just don't expect anything from them but the bear minimum mutual respect.
@@sparklemotion8377 expectations are one thing and husnu dhan it’s another thing you can do both
@@SafaASaid-gq2wi And you can use words to say nothing
People say 'don't expect anything' to people who have been disappointed for trusting people.
Yet when people don't expect anything anymore because they don't trust anybody. The same 'don't expect anything' people will say. You should have faith and husnu dhan. People are good, just ask and they will help you.
Pessimists are disappointed optimists.
People don't do good, people say what makes them look good.
If people only preached only what they practiced we would have short khutbas and no toxic positivity.
If I don't expect my parents to love me
My husband to care and protect me
My doctor to treat me
My teacher to teach me
My friends not to stab me
My employer not to pay me
Etc etc
What the hell am I doing then?
You make common decency look like entitlement.
@@sparklemotion8377 I try to do go to everybody I meet, expecting nothing in return. I don't understand why this kind of mentality dose not stand with you. Calling it toxic positivity.
This remembers me of the story of Yusuf (AS)
👍
Yes great example!!
Exactly
Yes very sad
And it is a possibility that the speaker is refferring to that Surah as i have heard him before concluding that from Surah Yusuf.
its really hurt when your own family don't understand that depression and social anxiety are real illness, and say you're just being lazy
So true sis, it so exhausting that every time that came up to do it intentionally, and then my mum said “no baby i tell you for your best intention, to cherry up and do the opposite” like are u serious?
They r the one who gave me depression & tears.. toxic family 😢
@@Saavi_Subedi totally agree
@@Saavi_Subedihow do you deal with such situations while i just cant control my anger and headaches
True sis❤
This message is so relieving. I cant express my feelings right now. It feels like tons on weight taken away from my heart.
True
For real
😂majority felt same
I am trying to address a broader audience, not replying to anyone person in particular.
Please read till the end (even though it’s a very long comment 🙈).
Many people in the comments are complaining about their families. But all situations are not created equal. And perception matters. Who knows maybe the complainer himself is much more toxic than the ones he’s complaining about.
And yes! Of course some people also go through genuinely hellish experiences due to family.
Also it’s worth noting that I do completely agree with Brother Noman…
But 12 years ago…
I always thought that I am not allowed to severe ties with my family and hence I put up with many illogical nonsensical abuses. And kept striving for Allah’s sake as much as possible. Even had some big fights, cried a lot, and prayed a lot too.
Also felt I needed to show my daughter how to deal with difficult situations and family.
Eventually… slowly and surely things started to change (after a long struggle; that of course effected my mental & physical health as well).
Some days I felt so hopeless and would want to give up totally. But kept going on… because I thought all my other ibaadah won’t even matter if I don’t build a good relationship with my parents and then my siblings. Literally years later things have turned around for the best, around 75 to 85%😅, which is good; so good!
And today when I think about it all, it feels so surreal, and I don’t remember the struggles as much as I enjoy the fruits. Masha Allah, SubhaN’Allah, Alhumdulillah!!!
And the most important part… when things started getting better and I was able to breathe and was calm enough to think… that’s when I started realizing my part in it all (some of the blame also belonged to me, and rightly so). They were not the only ones who were wrong.
I still know that my family was absolutely absurd in those days… but my parents are not very educated and they lack knowledge in so many matters. And that I should have put more effort into my way of communication and also I should have always prayed more.
My siblings are a different matter… but when your parents start respecting you and appreciating you… everyone else also follows suit.
So the moral of the story is, in most cases, you can turn it around with sincere effort and mercy from Allah, which comes through with perseverance and prayers.
And bonus: my daughter was very impressed by how I dealt with everything and with age she has become the best version of herself (Masha Allah) by making me (her mother) her ideal, on how to do it for Allah’s sake.
So even though Brother Noman is absolutely right 💯. I am glad I didn’t see this video 12 years ago 🤭
May Allah bless you with more ease.
I am a Christian. I still really enjoy hearing the things I've heard scrolling through that has to do with your faith. It's all so relatable and good advice to be a good human no matter what you believe
Yes, islam is a religion, but it teaches u how to live your life in every aspect!! Thank you our Christian and Muslim and any religion frnds!! This is what we need in our world, just acceptance
May Allah swt guide you
God bless you.
thank you very much for your comment. I hope You and your loved ones will one day, read the Quran and be honored with Islam. Stay safe. Have an amazing day 🤲☝️👋🌹
In my family if i keep distance just to protect my mental health still im consider to be on wrong side.
Same here ☺️
They dnt kno the actual meaning and solution to such sensitive issues which islam is teaching us..... we have created our own thoughts and sometimes mess up with what Quran actully teaches us ..
I understand that… I was told that my efforts to lose weight or practice assertiveness is all a lie/act and that I am harming myself. Even if I take advice from my family, I got mocked for it
Allah knows best ❤ don't be too harsh on yourself.
Think possitive pls every situation will in your favour it is my 6 year struggle which i achived 🤲🤲🤲
Family is sometimes extremely toxic and the worst part is you can't rid off them. To make matters even more worst, you are not allowed to sever ties with them. This life is just a test. May Allah guides us in the straight path. May Allah grant us the wisdom of this life and the hereafter.
I didn't get your point, we have to serve ties with them, to.make the matter even worst? How does that make sense
It doesnt suits up, if it is not reciprocated in their best way or form possible as well, islam is not just one family's person or one human responsibility, it is for all! We should stop practising victim blaming everywhere in the name of religion
I agree. My extended family are toxic and manipulative bullies. As they've gotten older they seem to get worse and enjoin in upsetting us
with unpleasant nonsense. We're always stuck in situations where we have to cater to their needs, but when we need help in times of hardships or happiness they openly can't be bothered to help. It's a never ending cycle and I'm drained.
@@tea-chip-cookies May Allah ease your hardship.
Each situation is unique so severing ties may be mandatory in some cases. Some situations, some may need to move out and may have a better relationship with family. But the best thing is to ask Allah ﷻ to guide you to make the choice and aid you whatever your situation.
What led you into Hell Fire?
They will say: 'We were not of those who prayed.'” (Qur'an 74:42-43)
🌹Don't forget your five daily prayers 🌹
Needed to hear that because i have felt guilt for stepping away from some of them.
Same here feeling good
Me too 👀✨
You need to at least keep the minimal connection. We're not sopposed to cut off the relationships allah has created us to have
@@NisarBhatti. me too but, i know their is a lesson that i am missing in my maturity.
@@NisarBhatti. me too but i have a feeling that i lack comprehension and maturity in something that will allow me to see there view in life.
I feel validated. May Allah guide us to what is right.
Ameen, ya Rabb
Aameen
Aameen
This is a problem that all people go through to some extent. I’m christian and I feel that the Quran is very wise on this subject. Teaching that we have a right to be treated with love and respect within our families! I have not heard this spoken of before! Thank you.
Sometimes being around family will make you commit more sins than being away from them because of all the mental and emotional abuse, narcissism, arguing, being cursed to hell, badduas, slapping, threatening, etc doesn't stop.
It's soo true
Same bro same 😭😭😭
@@iqrabhat645 may Allah SWT make it easy for you.
@@nat3786 how do you deal woth such things like baddua.? These things have been very hard on me
@@iqrabhat645 dealing with baddua is not easy especially when it comes from a parent. When we are young and naive, we believe everything our parents tell us. But as I grew older, I realized that even Islam says that if you're innocent and someone says baddua to you, it will go back to that person. Secondly, I have also realized that the person who would give me baddua has mental health issues, narcissistic tendencies. Not to say that it doesn't hurt what the person says but I ask Allah SWT to protect me from such people. Dua is very powerful, so you can always do Dua. And you can explain to your parents that Islamically it's not allowed for parents to curse their children.
You're the only Sheikh that I've witnessed bringing it up. Al Hamdullillah. I have to give you credit for it. May Allah reward you brother Nouman. This is very important.
I like how he talks realistically & that also from the Qur'an not by himself because I've seen most scholars talk like that we can't do anything for ourselves if someone is treating us badly in our family & that really creates a cage for people who suffer , people who have not been tested with family don't understand this & all of that makes a person feels guilty even if he/she is the victim of abuse or anything bad .
Yes exactly
Exactly. Qur'an teach us to be good. But not to be naive. The 1st person we should be good to is to ourself 😊. Stay true to our emotion and always ask Allah for guidance to keep us confident with every decision in our life. Either stay close with someone or make a "healthy" distance... Never ever feel guilty for your own mental health..😊
Allah tala has been testing me since I was born and now I'm 20 still waiting for Allah's promise i.e " There's ease after hardship"
A.A Rabia
Be patient with Allah hence I know what you are saying.
It is just around the corner.
May Allah help you Amiin...
Keep on trusting Allah dear...the Help of Allah is close In sha Allah ♥️
May Allah help you sis
Alhamdulillah
God bless you.. may you get over evil and toxic people.. may God protect us all from such people, Amen!
Demeaning, belittling, jealousy, rejection, all of these difficult feelings we face from our family. I pray for those who are struggling to bond with our family members to be under Allah's blessings & protection. May Allah SWT ease our struggles and burdens in this life.
you would never know if you weren't in that situation
True
I can feel you
So true 🙂
True...
No one can understand your situation if he is not going through that situation
Family can be really toxic these days
Sometimes you want to close the room and sit in a corner crying to Allah
You know Allah will replace your family with a better one
When I imagine I'm among the prophet's daughters, I feel more comfortable and happy 😌
Thank you for this, I needed it, my father ruined me mentally , all my problems in my life is because of him, last year I stopped talking to him and visiting him and I can't believe how much my mental health became sooooo much better
Bukankah memutus hubungan persaudaraan dilarang dalam Islam? Tap translate button.
@@frifan217 my mental issues made me unable to take care of myself let alone my children.
Allah told us to take care of our souls because it's a gift from him and me going to my father KNOWING that I'm harming my soul and my children!!! This is so wrong to me.
I don't want to be sick to the point of no return and be a burden to my children who had nothing to do with my father
I also want to leave him
This is so true , after sometimes , Allah revealed the intentions of some of my close family member. Alhamdulilah I will never trust them back
Al-Hamdu-liLlah.
You forgot the first "L"
Yes. I recently was shown the intentions of my closest relatives. How are you doing? It’s such a sign of the times. In the Bible God says he will reveal our enemies to us. So I’m just thanking Him through the shock and pain. Praying for you dear.
My father is like this , no matter what my dad's side of the family does to us , even though he knows that they are harmful to him or us but he still says idc they are my family or do nothing and takes their side every time, it just takes our mental peace away, even in Ramadan we don't talk to my father it's just break my heart , i just want to run so far away form my parents , my family😟. Ya ALLAH give me mental peace and everyone .
Same💔
i am not a Muslim but i have seen multiple shorts and videos with Nouman Ali Khan and he speaks so well and eloquently and i agree with what he says.
We should keep balance within our family relationship
exactly
we really need the full episode of this one
He speaks absolute sense on this topic. In fact very few Muslim talk like this when it comes to family problems.
May Allah bless him Jannah. Ameen
I’m not Muslim , but I admire the truth in this man’s voice and teaching.. I watch often I find peace, and I feel well. ❤️
Thanks for your kind words 😇
We need to find a balance 👌
We need more influential people like you who would spread such open minded awareness about what should be done and what shouldn't be regardless of the religion. Love to hear your opinions, I hope people follow it too !
Quran has the best guidance. This is so true. May help us and forgive us.
One of the teachers who tell about islam beautifully🫶🏻
My khaala( aunt) has ruined my whole life ,has gone to the level of destroying me, my younger sister and my mom and dad, we are tired of her black magic attacks one after the other ,going to the Hindu magicians and this time she casted a Khabees on all 4 of us ,she has not spared even a single one from us and now we are getting followed by Black birds everywhere we go, for about 18 years we are suffering her torchure!! But Allah still made us survive these multiple attacks and we know it's Allah's test ,his help will come Insha'Allah!!! We will not give up, someday we will be free from her and these attacks!!! Insha'Allah!!! My brothers and sisters please pray for us 🤲May Allah safeguard all of us and grant us victory over our enemies!!
She has no power on you if you pray and make your morning and evening adkar, recite Quran everyday, remain clean, and ask Allah almighty God to protect you.
Ma Sha Allah! Needed this so much! Few people don't actually understand this and end up with major problems.
I wish everyone could understand this and think the right way.
May Allah bless him more, how beautifully and calmly he explains such a critical problem. Hats off.
It really surprises and amuses me reading the comments..how can one whole generation face the same kind of issues? I thought that I am the only unique person dealing with such kind of problems.. May Allah make it easy for everyone 😢
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﴿إِنَّ اللَّهَ وَمَلَائِكَتَهُ يُصَلُّونَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آَمَنُوا صَلُّوا عَلَيْهِ وَسَلِّمُوا تَسْلِيمًا﴾"
اللَّهُــمَّ صَلِّ وَسَـــلِّمْ
وَبَارِكْ على نَبِيِّنَـــا مُحمَّدﷺ
ﷺ ❤️ ﷺ 🧡 ﷺ 💛 ﷺ
Having family can be very lonely ..its hard to forgive when u dont exist to them x
😞 I’m so sorry you’re going thru this
Praying it gets better for you
@@Muslimmindset1154 thank u xxx
I can understand how you feeling while typing this
@@Deen_over_Duniya786 it's not nice is it ..but I'm kind of used to it now ..I know my mum loves me but I do feel invisible ..stay strong for u though xx
I can relate to that. Stepping away made me more invisible but it gave me peace. Now a approach them like hot water. We all have to mature. 💛🙏🏽
Im a victom of this also. May Allah protect us all
Many said break relationship with partner or wife is the most broken things in life.. in fact they dont know it feels when u got big problems in family since u were born💔
Just sabr, don't break ties
@@malihamohammed1792 It doesnt suits up, if it is not reciprocated in their best way or form possible as well, islam is not just one family's person or one human responsibility, it is for all! We should stop practising victim blaming everywhere in the name of religion
Wow😢i needed to hear this.
I've been changing religions so much since I was 14 years old because I'm trying to find a true version of God and how can I worship Him like He wants and live my life to the fullest to Him😢😢
My family is just like "Give up,you're going to end up believing in nothing"
And Islam is convincing me so hard that I feel I can't give up that easy.
Don't give up, keep searching the truth. May Allah guide you.
@@komo5278 Ameen yaa Allāh
May the Almighty guide you to this true religion
@@fatimas.mohamed5561 Off topic but nice name, you got the name of the Prophet (s.a.w) and his favorite daughter's name
@@komo5278 I must admit that ever since I was called by my first name Fathima, there was so much barakah in my life. Alhamdulillah.
I respect him so much!
AL hamdu LILLAHI RABIL ALAMEEN RAHMANI RAHIM ❤️... jazak ALLAHU ❤️ khairen 🤲🏽🤍
Alhamdulillah, I get the chance to see the beauty of Islam and this person is one the medium of this chance...May Allah give barakah to ustad noman
May Allah's blessings be always with you.. for this statement Wallah
Jazakallah Khairan
Maasha Allah Sh. Nouman so smart, an amazing educator. Prophet Yusuf A.S. went through this, the stories of the prophets are there so we can think, reflect & learn.
This is the thing everyone needs to understand
Almost the only Imam speaking realistic about family. Not copying blabla goodness for parents etc. Elhamdoulilleh.
لا اله الا الله محمد رسول الله صل الله عليه وسلم
The only one who makes sense and is logical at all costs. May Allah bless you and your family and all people who are truthful like you.
I so appreciate when he talks about this topic.
I stayed away with a lot of "friends" and family. Never been so honest to myself and such a huge relief being myself:)
I really need to get myself The Quran
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@@HaveSabr Can you please recommend one? I see so many translated by different people, I'm so confused
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Thank you Allah for sending this.
Ya rabi please protect us from all the fake families who hurt us. May Allah shower his wrath on them
I wish people could realize this stop treating family members like properties or house stuff that need to bottle pressure and obey orders blindly.
That is so ture! When l was comeing up! My mother never love me! But l alway love them! Up to now l still love all of my family for ever l will alway do😢
Theres many people that have a family dificulty may Allah make it easy for yall❤❤
we have the smartest and best in the ummah! THnks Nouman ali kahn!
I cut off ties with my toxic family last year. I felt guilty, but never have I felt so peaceful. I even feel closer to Allah when I have nobody by my side. This peace that I have is nice.
Cutting of family kinships is very impermissible in Islam. It can even prevent one from entering Islam. Repent to Allah and make the bad, good again
This really helped me brother shukran
I’m not very religious but I do love watching these kinds videos and seeing all the perspectives of each religion.
Thank you❤🌹🙏 Allah🙏🙏🙏🙏 alhumdulillah..
Allahu Akbar!
Feels like he is talking to me...😪
subhanAllah what a great religion
Getting this message at the right time 😊
The way you teach makes so much sense. Thank you.
This is EXACTLY what happened to me right now with me and my brother..
That’s why true love exits, but not between a human and a human but between human and Allah subhanahu Wa Ta’ala
Also everyone here is complaining about their families. But all situations are not created equal. And perception matters. Who knows maybe the complainer himself is much more toxic than the ones he’s complaining about.
I agree with Brother Noman…
But 12 years ago,
I always thought that I am not allowed to severe ties with my family and hence I put up with many illogical nonsensical abuses. And kept striving for Allah’s sake as much as possible. Even had some big fights, cried a lot, and prayed a lot too.
Also felt I needed to show my daughter how to deal with difficult situations and family.
Eventually… slowly and surely things started to change (after a long struggle; that of course effected my mental & physical health as well).
Some days I felt so hopeless and would want to give up totally. But kept going on… because I thought all my other ibaadah won’t even matter if I don’t build a good relationship with my parents and then my siblings. Literally years later things have turned around for the best, around 75 to 85%😅, which is good; so good!
And today when I think about it all, it feels so surreal, and I don’t remember the struggles as much as I enjoy the fruits. Masha Allah, SubhaN’Allah, Alhumdulillah!!!
And the most important part… when things started getting better and I was able to breathe and was calm enough to think… that’s when I started realizing my part in it all (some of the blame also belonged to me, and rightly so). They were not the only ones who were wrong.
I still know that my family was absolutely absurd in those days… but my parents are not very educated and they lack knowledge in so many matters. And that I should have put more effort into my way of communication and also I should have always prayed more.
My siblings are a different matter… but when your parents start respecting you and appreciating you… everyone else also follows suit.
So the moral of the story is, in most cases, you can turn it around with sincere effort and mercy from Allah, which comes through with perseverance and prayers.
And bonus: my daughter was very impressed by how I dealt with everything and with age she has become the best version of herself (Masha Allah) by making me (her mother) her ideal, on how to do it for Allah’s sake.
So even though Brother Noman is absolutely right 💯. I am glad I didn’t see this video 12 years ago 🤭
so true.. can't disagree with these ideas..
I’ve been listening to this message many times, and every time I cry, and my heart aches.
I think this is a miracle to see this video
Ya Allah i was going to same phase for so long now this video make me feel so relief that i was not doing anything wrong by keeping a safe distance from them
I feel relaxed after listening to this.... My family is pretty damaging and a big threat to my family, they don't hesitate to humiliation, physical abuse, pick up fights in small issues and yet they try to showcase as intellectuals😢
أُنصر أخاك ظالمً أو مظلومً
It's hard 😪 😔 😞
*When they damage you & you keep your tongue quiet and hands, waist, & legs calm, then you get cool rewards from Allah SWT. Keep that gift from Allah SWT secret & give more Dhikr*
I needed to hear those encouraging words my Allah grant us ease 🙏
if you searched this, may Allah bless you and ease your problems. Aameen
pray for me too 🥺
I am new revert muslimah Alhamdulillah ❤️ 🥺 but sometimes it's very to respect family members who are stopping you to get closer by ALLAH SWT 💔 and you are forced to distance yourself from that toxic people 💔
That was really the bestest thing I heard ☁️
I feel it,and actually needed this type of guidelines..
Always remember that ‘We can’t change people, we only have control over ourselves’ so focus on yourself, whoever is reading this know that you matter and you deserve to be happy, ‘seek help through patience and prayer’
Quran 2:45
I can't believe I'm reading this while crying
Aslam wa alaikum. Whoever is merciful to Someone Allah will be merciful to that person. And if someones drops their ego for the sake of Allah and his Nabi ﷺ Allah will raise his status. Don’t be like the Shaitan and keep your ego up because ego/ pride is only for Allah and no one else
Only sake of Allah, only. Not even for our prophet. All prayers has to be done only for Allah. Don't forget Surah Fatihah.
i kept this on loop why i cleaned my whole room and sorted out my art works lol
No other speaker speaks about such grave issues in society
Now I understand, I grow up in war zone family, it is very damaging but only Allah will save I promise you that ❤ wallahi
Ma sh Allah a beautiful reminder. May Allah swt bless you and Noman Ali khan too. Ameen. Suma Ameen.
Every one:listen carefully
Me:notice his blue eye
Mashallah....many many dua
yeah, for all.his good lectures , he's not happy with the eye color Allah gave him
i have a family, very toxic, they isolated me and sabotaged my life, accusing me for something i didnt do.. i just begged to God, pls let me leave from this house..
May Allah remove all problems of our families ❤❤
Ohhh, such a relief from feeling guilty about it. Would have appreciated the reference to that surah.
It's quite hard when it's mostly verbal abuses. They're easier to twist and negate and labeled as "not bad" when compared to physical abuses.
They somehow always succeed in gaslighting me and making me question my memories, question my intentions, my principles, my whole life. I distance myself, I want to run away so bad, but alhamdulillah I'm still holding onto my sense of responsibility. But. Hah. I don't know. What the hell am I even doing this for anymore.
Know that you are not alone and you're doing this for the sake of Allah,I had the exact same feeling and thoughts....I still do but this Ramadan I stepped out of isolation and tried to spend a bit time with them at iftar ,first 3_4 days were overwhelming but Alhumdulillah, it's sort of like you get used to their antics 😅 ,but I'd like to say don't be afraid of taking that initial step to being a good person and a better version of yourself!💕✨
@@eshanaz8234 Wow, thank you so much! I'm so glad you could make that positive change. I hope things will get better every day with you and your family❤❤
@@b2_bluedragon212 Thank you,I pray the same for you as well!❤️✨
Any type of abuse is bad & it’s wrong. Our family members should know better.
Omg..same here..I really feel for you. My family has been doing this to me for ages and now trying to do it to my kids as well. The last straw for me was Eid time..when I slaved away all morning to make their kids. Deserts, drop them off on time andrush bk to get ready with my kids ..only to find the whole smily has ate without us..it made me feel so unloved and undervalued..I cried soo hard that ay looking at the disappointment on my kids faces...Eid is ment to be a time where family gets together...in the end we ended up eating in our ow like strangers being fed at my mum's house....it was horrible and horrible words were said between all of us...what eats me up is I have no love or respect for my mum...she has no idea how to hold us all together and is incapable of teaching us basic manners but will quickly blame and twist words and use us for her own ends ..sometimes I really worry Allaah is punishing me because I can't love my mum...it hurts soo much
Naam, very true, especially those close family members who are misusing their positions to - abuse, bully, belittle, demean. Moreover they quote hadith : if they say the sha’hada upon death - they’ll go to paradise?
If someone is always angry and show authority,other family members ignore and take sides for the oppressor.Even keep their mouth shut.
Never cut family relationships ❌
I don't need drama so of course I will cut them off.
@EmpressKajal I've had exactly the same experience as you. I'm also from England. Alhumdulilah, we got through it and have our own family! The abuse bought me closer to Islam. They disowned me , since then it's been a relief to live the islamic way, no toxic culture or people.
But some relationships are so bad they don't stay away and they always and always interfere with your privacy and they always have bad intension
Oppression is haram in Islam
Some family members keep hurting me all the time about my weight.They know how I feel but they keep doing it. One time when someone told me I need to loose weight my Unser to that was if I need to loose weight first I have to loose some of my relatives then I’ll loose the weight 😢😢😢
SUBHANAALLAH WALLHAMDULLILAH LAILAHAILAALLAH ALLAHUAKBAR ❤ALLAH
Absolutely right. Be sensible. Don't be stupid.
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