0:00 i agree with this first sentiment. but men are very aware that women tend to not think like this until they hit age 30-35 & start running out of quality dating options. ONLY THEN will they think about God, the church & the man God has made for them. men are so aware of this that good men actively avoid women like this as its usually damaged women with lots of kids & a ton of relationship baggage that start looking for a good man at age 30 after purposely dating bad men because they were "fun" prior to age 30. you know, not the "fun" guy with the tattoos that was a former weed-man but the guy that always wears a collared shirt, owns a home & is "boring" women don't check for this guy until they get old. it has nothing to do with "maturity" like women will claim, men are hyper aware that women don't look for the "provider" guy until after age 30. this guy is usually the guy that she's not sexually attracted to at all. NO WOMAN will go from being extremely attracted to only men over 6ft to "oh I guess this 5 foot 6 guy is alright" it just doesn't happen irl. she may say she's attracted to him because he's paying her bills & funding her lifestyle, but she's settling because she couldn't find someone better by a certain age. women's type will keep them single. its weird how men will have their vision of their ideal woman in their head, but its never enough to blind them from seeing the woman that is right for him when she's right in front of him. even if she doesn't check off ALL of his boxes. if she checks 8 out of 10 of his boxes, he's good to go & will pursue her enthusiastically. women, however could meet the perfect man... but her dream man in her head was wearing a matching black belt with black dress shoes in a tailored business suit. she might meet that same man in real life, but since he's not at work, he's dressed more casual, in tennis shoes. or maybe he's wearing a brown belt & black shoes. she'll say "uhh unh, that don't match" & will reject him just based on that. 6:35 this is the other part about how black women choose men that unsettles me. how people look can change. i've been rejected by women when my parents just died & i got depressed & had gained 30+ lbs but because i wasn't Boris Kodjoe when I met them, they rejected me. only for them to cross paths with me 6 months later & i've lost 80 lbs & I look great to the point where they didn't even recognize that I was the same person. its unfortunate that from my experience, women appear to be more superficial when it comes to looks than even men. men will date a pretty chick if she's overweight. if she has a good personality, he'll get in the gym with her & help her lose the weight. women? forget about it. if you're not Idris Elba on the day you meet them, she will reject you because of the illusion of many options. funny thing is, they say they have all these options every woman I've ever met that I had a crush on from elementary school, to high school, to college, came back to me 5, 10, 20 years later saying how they made a mistake & let's catch up... after they've had 2 or 3 kids by "their type" that abandoned her & their kids. the illusion of unlimited options in men that social media gives women gives them choice paralysis & is responsible for so many black women making the absolute worst mate choices. the "pop the balloon or find love" dating shows that you see on youtube is a great example of everything wrong with how women... particularly black women, choose men. these are shows, but its very accurate to how black women choose mates in real life.
I don’t know why I clicked into this, I will tell you a wild story, years ago, I had a woman who I dont particularly think she liked me. But for some weird reason, God would be showing me dreams about her, telling me tomorrow she will sit on your car, and it happens that day, she would need a ride to church, every time God showed me a dream, it happened exactly that way. By the way she acted and everything, it was clear as the sun that the woman was not into me, and she played as many games as she could, her behavior was completely wicked. I to be honest did not find her behavior attractive. She was beautiful, and I was only saving face because God wanted me to be nice to her. At last I prayed to God and begged him with tears to stop linking me with this woman. One day, I asked God for a sign if she is my wife or not. I don’t know why, but the next day, she did something to me intentionally to show me how she hated me. That was rough. I then had to treat the situation like it didn’t happen, like forgiving 70*7 times which in that situation is crazy. Years went on, I distanced myself from her. One day I saw her outside church, just like in my dream. She was dressed very immodest, just like in the dream, even to the attire and color and who she was hanging with. She was embarrassed to see me. Now I knew she was living a double life. Anyways it was none of my business and I left it as that. Then last dream I had was me and her in church, and that God would transform her. I remember praying that I hope God changed her because her behavior was through the roof after I saw the dream of her dressing immodestly. And years later, after the dream came to pass, then God started working in her. I’m telling this to say, although someone might not be your type, God can sometimes take the person whom he wanted to give you and give it to someone else, the same way he took the crown of Saul and gave it to David. I would do anything for God, but God also knows your heart, I don’t know what God is trying to do, but I’m with him all the way, I just trust him, and I know he will do what is best for me. As for her, God is working in her. I wish her the best and hope she becomes a lovely young woman for someone.
Your hair is bomb gurl ❤ keys get it. Grown women vibes. Your speaking truths hair and I'm hear for it. "Why is your type your type great question" 🤔 "is he spiritually the part?" Hmmm. Do not limit yourself. God has hand created him for your purpose period. I encourage everyone to harken to the voice of the Lord in this area he will guide you and lead you in all things especially who we date and court in accordance to his perfect will. Never lower your standards or your requirements. Gods best is coming don't miss it or compromise. Don't look at his looks look at the heart of that man. ❤ " he isn't the one for your purpose". Ask yourself is he fit for the purpose. We should always judge in accordance to his heart not look at the stature of that person. You may have to sacrifice your own desires in accordance to his will. Lose your desires and align them in accordance to the will of God. If it's God's will lay your own desires done. Pick up your cross and assignment and lay your will down and pick up your cross. God truly knows what's fit for the calling and at his appointment time he will bring it to pass. Stay in alignment God loves you more than anyone else. #Destiny helper don't miss that key that he has to offer to unlock your full potential in ministry partner with God and trust the process. Know your identity know your purpose in God become whole no one is perfect and its all a process and your journey. Analyze your list focus on the spiritual rather than the physical mind soul and emotions and spirit. #soulmates exist let's go.. kingdom movements and kingdom mindset walk with integrity and lay down your life stop resurrecting in your fleshly desires and so called type ask yourself this question how has going for your usual type gone for you in the past ? Has it worked and been fruitful to the kingdom of God? Move with a kingdom mindset his will and not yours lay down your life and have the mind of christ. He's ways are much higher than ours. Renew your mind daily in accordance to his word romans 12.2 you cannot walk in the perfect will of God If you do not know the mind aka the word * (Ruach ) and logos word of God. Walk in this revelation with the help of holy spirit. Know what your purpose is and journey in an intimate relationship with Christ its only in this place of surrendering your own will and taking up he's that you will find and discover and be found be your kingdom spouse. I say it again my beloveds renew your mind in accordance to the mind of christ. Break your Bible open break bread and study to show yourself approved and being to walk with holy spirit he will show you all things and show you the heart and ways of the Lord and how to walk in accordance to a manner that's pleasing to him. Once again our lives our not our own when we laid down our lives to God from being born again and for some of us baptized we died and resurrected with christ I no longer live but Christ the hope of glory lives in me and its in him that I live I breathe and have my being. Let 2024 be your year for kingdom marriage if it is your appointed time. Enquiry of the Lord how to prepare yourself as a wife. Your a wife before the ring ladies the bible states that it's he that finds a good thing obtains favour from the Lord. Finds a wife not finds a girlfriend not finds a sister in Christ no finds wife. So begin to study his word in this area and become that virtuous proverbs 31 wife that your destined to be amen. Glory be to God. Much love L ❤🙏🏽✨️
I agree so much, kind of in this situation currently but I'm not sure if it's the same for most men where they can grow to find someone more attractive. What are your thoughts?
men definitely can grow to like a woman. men see nothing wrong with it, but black women call it "settling" which is an absolute no-no among black women. its women that typically have a hard time seeing past whatever first impression she had of a man she met.
@@asdfxcvbn746 this is really interesting, thanks for your reply! Do you think physical attraction is needed beforehand though or can that literally change from none to then having it? Obviously, I understand everything is case by case, but if there's a general answer that's kinda what I'm looking for.
@@TehyaSB men generally have to have at least some physical attraction, but the bar for men is really low compared to women. men usually have 2 or 3 criteria a woman must meet for him to like her, whereas women typically have a laundry list of 50+ criteria he must meet & if the man only has 46 of the 50 things on her list, he's not "the one" & then she's on to the next guy that piques her interest, as even average looking women typically have far more options in mate choice to choose from than men do. the same goes for women too. there has to be some physical attraction, but in the cases where there's is little to no physical attraction, women are forcing themselves to like the "nice guy" because he's great on paper. he's a homeowner, good career, good income, is respectful & would be a good father & role model to children, but the physical attraction isn't there. so she forces herself to like him because she's 35 & running out of biological clock time & options. usually in cases like these where the physical attraction isn't there for the woman, the relationship never works out long term. she'll have the kids, stay for 3 to 5 years, divorce him, take the money, take the house, take the kids away from him & leave him destitute. thats usually how that goes. so if the physical attraction isn't there, its a no-go for both men & women.
Nope. I'm sorry. I follow Jesus, I've read my bible cover to cover and I don't believe God brings a certain someone for you. The only biblical evidence I have seen for this is God bringing Adam Eve. God gives us the faculties to judge and evaluate spiritually and physically. We don't have to settle for a man we're not attracted to under the guise of being more "spiritual" and this is the one "God sent".
The hair! It suits you so much 😩🔥🔥🔥
Thanks girl 🥰
@@lakeishamayI love your hairstyle too❤👍👍👍❤my hair is even shorter than yours😂 because I don't try to please anyone but myself🥰
@@TanyaBrightFuture I love your hair too!
@@lakeishamaythank you Lakeisha❤
0:00 i agree with this first sentiment. but men are very aware that women tend to not think like this until they hit age 30-35 & start running out of quality dating options. ONLY THEN will they think about God, the church & the man God has made for them. men are so aware of this that good men actively avoid women like this as its usually damaged women with lots of kids & a ton of relationship baggage that start looking for a good man at age 30 after purposely dating bad men because they were "fun" prior to age 30.
you know, not the "fun" guy with the tattoos that was a former weed-man but the guy that always wears a collared shirt, owns a home & is "boring" women don't check for this guy until they get old. it has nothing to do with "maturity" like women will claim, men are hyper aware that women don't look for the "provider" guy until after age 30. this guy is usually the guy that she's not sexually attracted to at all. NO WOMAN will go from being extremely attracted to only men over 6ft to "oh I guess this 5 foot 6 guy is alright" it just doesn't happen irl. she may say she's attracted to him because he's paying her bills & funding her lifestyle, but she's settling because she couldn't find someone better by a certain age.
women's type will keep them single. its weird how men will have their vision of their ideal woman in their head, but its never enough to blind them from seeing the woman that is right for him when she's right in front of him. even if she doesn't check off ALL of his boxes. if she checks 8 out of 10 of his boxes, he's good to go & will pursue her enthusiastically.
women, however could meet the perfect man... but her dream man in her head was wearing a matching black belt with black dress shoes in a tailored business suit. she might meet that same man in real life, but since he's not at work, he's dressed more casual, in tennis shoes. or maybe he's wearing a brown belt & black shoes. she'll say "uhh unh, that don't match" & will reject him just based on that.
6:35 this is the other part about how black women choose men that unsettles me. how people look can change. i've been rejected by women when my parents just died & i got depressed & had gained 30+ lbs but because i wasn't Boris Kodjoe when I met them, they rejected me. only for them to cross paths with me 6 months later & i've lost 80 lbs & I look great to the point where they didn't even recognize that I was the same person. its unfortunate that from my experience, women appear to be more superficial when it comes to looks than even men. men will date a pretty chick if she's overweight. if she has a good personality, he'll get in the gym with her & help her lose the weight. women? forget about it. if you're not Idris Elba on the day you meet them, she will reject you because of the illusion of many options. funny thing is, they say they have all these options every woman I've ever met that I had a crush on from elementary school, to high school, to college, came back to me 5, 10, 20 years later saying how they made a mistake & let's catch up... after they've had 2 or 3 kids by "their type" that abandoned her & their kids.
the illusion of unlimited options in men that social media gives women gives them choice paralysis & is responsible for so many black women making the absolute worst mate choices. the "pop the balloon or find love" dating shows that you see on youtube is a great example of everything wrong with how women... particularly black women, choose men. these are shows, but its very accurate to how black women choose mates in real life.
you need therapy boy ! you're triggered !
I don’t know why I clicked into this, I will tell you a wild story, years ago, I had a woman who I dont particularly think she liked me. But for some weird reason, God would be showing me dreams about her, telling me tomorrow she will sit on your car, and it happens that day, she would need a ride to church, every time God showed me a dream, it happened exactly that way. By the way she acted and everything, it was clear as the sun that the woman was not into me, and she played as many games as she could, her behavior was completely wicked. I to be honest did not find her behavior attractive. She was beautiful, and I was only saving face because God wanted me to be nice to her. At last I prayed to God and begged him with tears to stop linking me with this woman. One day, I asked God for a sign if she is my wife or not. I don’t know why, but the next day, she did something to me intentionally to show me how she hated me. That was rough. I then had to treat the situation like it didn’t happen, like forgiving 70*7 times which in that situation is crazy.
Years went on, I distanced myself from her. One day I saw her outside church, just like in my dream. She was dressed very immodest, just like in the dream, even to the attire and color and who she was hanging with. She was embarrassed to see me. Now I knew she was living a double life.
Anyways it was none of my business and I left it as that. Then last dream I had was me and her in church, and that God would transform her. I remember praying that I hope God changed her because her behavior was through the roof after I saw the dream of her dressing immodestly. And years later, after the dream came to pass, then God started working in her.
I’m telling this to say, although someone might not be your type, God can sometimes take the person whom he wanted to give you and give it to someone else, the same way he took the crown of Saul and gave it to David.
I would do anything for God, but God also knows your heart, I don’t know what God is trying to do, but I’m with him all the way, I just trust him, and I know he will do what is best for me.
As for her, God is working in her. I wish her the best and hope she becomes a lovely young woman for someone.
Fire hairstyle🔥💙
Thank you lovely 😘
I already love your channel ❤️
Your hair is bomb gurl ❤ keys get it. Grown women vibes. Your speaking truths hair and I'm hear for it. "Why is your type your type great question" 🤔 "is he spiritually the part?" Hmmm. Do not limit yourself. God has hand created him for your purpose period. I encourage everyone to harken to the voice of the Lord in this area he will guide you and lead you in all things especially who we date and court in accordance to his perfect will. Never lower your standards or your requirements. Gods best is coming don't miss it or compromise. Don't look at his looks look at the heart of that man. ❤ " he isn't the one for your purpose". Ask yourself is he fit for the purpose. We should always judge in accordance to his heart not look at the stature of that person. You may have to sacrifice your own desires in accordance to his will. Lose your desires and align them in accordance to the will of God. If it's God's will lay your own desires done. Pick up your cross and assignment and lay your will down and pick up your cross. God truly knows what's fit for the calling and at his appointment time he will bring it to pass. Stay in alignment God loves you more than anyone else. #Destiny helper don't miss that key that he has to offer to unlock your full potential in ministry partner with God and trust the process. Know your identity know your purpose in God become whole no one is perfect and its all a process and your journey. Analyze your list focus on the spiritual rather than the physical mind soul and emotions and spirit. #soulmates exist let's go.. kingdom movements and kingdom mindset walk with integrity and lay down your life stop resurrecting in your fleshly desires and so called type ask yourself this question how has going for your usual type gone for you in the past ? Has it worked and been fruitful to the kingdom of God? Move with a kingdom mindset his will and not yours lay down your life and have the mind of christ. He's ways are much higher than ours. Renew your mind daily in accordance to his word romans 12.2 you cannot walk in the perfect will of God If you do not know the mind aka the word * (Ruach ) and logos word of God. Walk in this revelation with the help of holy spirit. Know what your purpose is and journey in an intimate relationship with Christ its only in this place of surrendering your own will and taking up he's that you will find and discover and be found be your kingdom spouse. I say it again my beloveds renew your mind in accordance to the mind of christ. Break your Bible open break bread and study to show yourself approved and being to walk with holy spirit he will show you all things and show you the heart and ways of the Lord and how to walk in accordance to a manner that's pleasing to him. Once again our lives our not our own when we laid down our lives to God from being born again and for some of us baptized we died and resurrected with christ I no longer live but Christ the hope of glory lives in me and its in him that I live I breathe and have my being. Let 2024 be your year for kingdom marriage if it is your appointed time. Enquiry of the Lord how to prepare yourself as a wife. Your a wife before the ring ladies the bible states that it's he that finds a good thing obtains favour from the Lord. Finds a wife not finds a girlfriend not finds a sister in Christ no finds wife. So begin to study his word in this area and become that virtuous proverbs 31 wife that your destined to be amen. Glory be to God. Much love L ❤🙏🏽✨️
You look absolutely gorgeous with the haircut ❤
Thank you 🤍
Oohhh I love this
God bless you 🙌🏽
I agree so much, kind of in this situation currently but I'm not sure if it's the same for most men where they can grow to find someone more attractive. What are your thoughts?
men definitely can grow to like a woman. men see nothing wrong with it, but black women call it "settling" which is an absolute no-no among black women. its women that typically have a hard time seeing past whatever first impression she had of a man she met.
@@asdfxcvbn746 As a man, this is all FACTS
@@asdfxcvbn746 this is really interesting, thanks for your reply! Do you think physical attraction is needed beforehand though or can that literally change from none to then having it? Obviously, I understand everything is case by case, but if there's a general answer that's kinda what I'm looking for.
@@TehyaSB men generally have to have at least some physical attraction, but the bar for men is really low compared to women. men usually have 2 or 3 criteria a woman must meet for him to like her, whereas women typically have a laundry list of 50+ criteria he must meet & if the man only has 46 of the 50 things on her list, he's not "the one" & then she's on to the next guy that piques her interest, as even average looking women typically have far more options in mate choice to choose from than men do.
the same goes for women too. there has to be some physical attraction, but in the cases where there's is little to no physical attraction, women are forcing themselves to like the "nice guy" because he's great on paper. he's a homeowner, good career, good income, is respectful & would be a good father & role model to children, but the physical attraction isn't there.
so she forces herself to like him because she's 35 & running out of biological clock time & options. usually in cases like these where the physical attraction isn't there for the woman, the relationship never works out long term. she'll have the kids, stay for 3 to 5 years, divorce him, take the money, take the house, take the kids away from him & leave him destitute. thats usually how that goes.
so if the physical attraction isn't there, its a no-go for both men & women.
Nope. I'm sorry. I follow Jesus, I've read my bible cover to cover and I don't believe God brings a certain someone for you. The only biblical evidence I have seen for this is God bringing Adam Eve. God gives us the faculties to judge and evaluate spiritually and physically. We don't have to settle for a man we're not attracted to under the guise of being more "spiritual" and this is the one "God sent".