Thank you so much for your videos. I think you are right to pull back into yourself for awhile. People pleasing can suck the life out of a person. I don't know if you noticed, you have crossed 3K subscribers!
I allowed my mother (possible Narcissist) into my life during lockdown (due to health decline) and now I'm 40 and have no clue how to start again as my parents are my carers. I'm not coping with the constant mold in my flat but my only other option is to stay with my parents but I would have to leave my two cats at home. My heads done in as my energy to deal with the flood damage, insurance, moving everything, decorating and having council in to do repairs etc at the same time as struggling to get out of bed somedays due to my physical health!
I feel like my life/image/identity/who i am is shaped around my trauma beginning 3 years ago I don't know how to get myself back or if i can. Knowing that youve gone through trauma and others makes me want to get through the other side but i honestly don't see how or if i can
It's a long, tough slog, but I really truly think we can all learn to live happier, more fulfilled lives. I'm not sure there's necessarily 'the other side' so much as, similarly to grief, just sort of a new normal and a new you. I promise though, everyone you see that looks like they're healing or getting better in anyway has had SO many days/weeks/months that we didn't know how or if we were going to manage it, but as unfair as it is, trauma really does build a certain strength and resilience that we shouldn't need to build, but means we can get through so much shit to get to the better stuff
How long is long? It shows the importance of a support network because people will exploit social vulnerabilities If people don't know you and people know them they side with them I don't even know what to do. I regret trying to fight for myself and speak up. That's the worst thing to do and now it will be harder and take longer
Thank you so much for your videos, being authentic and sharing your journey. I will have to pause my subscription for now, as money is getting tighter, but I hope to continue it in the future :) How is your financial situation at the moment, if you don't mind me asking?
Thank you for watching and commenting so often! Please keep your subscription paused/cancelled for however long you need, and if you do decide to come back, use the first months to get yourself a little treat instead and make your return the month after ;) I'm never sure how much I should share about my financial situation honestly, I'm a very tell all type (obviously), but its such a taboo lil subject lol Definitely won't be going on any holidays or getting myself big presents anytime soon, but I did manage to sort my housing costs with UC so I'm no longer in rent debt, and I don't have any other debt or overdrafts that I'm aware of (have had several large unexpected debts suddenly dropped on me over my life so there's always some fear haha), so at least when I'm low on money, it is my money and isn't owed to anyone :')
The more I push myself to be productive the more I resist it. If something HAS to be done I can force myself.
It's a mixed bag for me, I think I'm still working with a lot of neurotypical messaging of 'just push yourself' kind of stuff :')
thank you, i find these types of videos very calming, im glad you feel better now
I wasn't allowed to be angry growing up. I thought that I didn't get angry either. But the anger is in there and it justified.
Slowly learning to recognise and accept this!
I would say , It is nice relaxing video to watch , with a hope for better future. I wish you good luck for it.🤠
Thank you so much for your videos. I think you are right to pull back into yourself for awhile. People pleasing can suck the life out of a person. I don't know if you noticed, you have crossed 3K subscribers!
I allowed my mother (possible Narcissist) into my life during lockdown (due to health decline) and now I'm 40 and have no clue how to start again as my parents are my carers. I'm not coping with the constant mold in my flat but my only other option is to stay with my parents but I would have to leave my two cats at home. My heads done in as my energy to deal with the flood damage, insurance, moving everything, decorating and having council in to do repairs etc at the same time as struggling to get out of bed somedays due to my physical health!
I feel like my life/image/identity/who i am is shaped around my trauma beginning 3 years ago
I don't know how to get myself back or if i can. Knowing that youve gone through trauma and others makes me want to get through the other side but i honestly don't see how or if i can
It's a long, tough slog, but I really truly think we can all learn to live happier, more fulfilled lives. I'm not sure there's necessarily 'the other side' so much as, similarly to grief, just sort of a new normal and a new you.
I promise though, everyone you see that looks like they're healing or getting better in anyway has had SO many days/weeks/months that we didn't know how or if we were going to manage it, but as unfair as it is, trauma really does build a certain strength and resilience that we shouldn't need to build, but means we can get through so much shit to get to the better stuff
How long is long?
It shows the importance of a support network because people will exploit social vulnerabilities
If people don't know you and people know them they side with them
I don't even know what to do. I regret trying to fight for myself and speak up. That's the worst thing to do and now it will be harder and take longer
Great video, like the reference to looking back an rediscovering interests that make you happy like reading
Thank you so much for your videos, being authentic and sharing your journey.
I will have to pause my subscription for now, as money is getting tighter, but I hope to continue it in the future :)
How is your financial situation at the moment, if you don't mind me asking?
Thank you for watching and commenting so often!
Please keep your subscription paused/cancelled for however long you need, and if you do decide to come back, use the first months to get yourself a little treat instead and make your return the month after ;)
I'm never sure how much I should share about my financial situation honestly, I'm a very tell all type (obviously), but its such a taboo lil subject lol
Definitely won't be going on any holidays or getting myself big presents anytime soon, but I did manage to sort my housing costs with UC so I'm no longer in rent debt, and I don't have any other debt or overdrafts that I'm aware of (have had several large unexpected debts suddenly dropped on me over my life so there's always some fear haha), so at least when I'm low on money, it is my money and isn't owed to anyone :')
You're too sweet