Body dysmorphic disorder: When our eyes tell lies
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- Опубліковано 23 лип 2024
- This video portrays an in-depth look into body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). This video educates the general public about BDD and addresses questions such as who it affects and what it looks like. The video also touches upon self-harm, possible treatments and resources in Canada that provide help with suicide and harm prevention.
This video was made by McMaster Demystifying Medicine students Abishna Jayasundararajah, Gurleen Bhogal, Shreya Singh and Alexandra Lengyel.
Copyright McMaster University 2019.
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My body feels like a prison. I feel trapped and get depressed knowing that I only live once and this is what I’m stuck with. I wish so badly that I could be someone else.
SAME SAME
Same, I sometimes get shocked that this is a body I am supposed to call "me".
We only lived once, change your mind set so ur body is free .. it’s your brain had problems not your body
THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL
I hope it gets a lot better for you ❤️ I struggle with this myself I feel your pain
i'm literally obsessed of looking at myself in the mirror for minutes straight...i feel like if i'm not perfect, i'm never going to find love :(
SAME SAME
Mane I suffer from the same problem, it really does suck understanding that you were born unlucky. Your perception of life changes, entirely
@@mikudubskasai8725 your whole life changes and not to a good way :(
@@victoria_337 personal question. Have you ever thought about suicide because of this?
girl that's literally me
I always struggle with certain aspects of my face or my body. Including my legs, knees, cheekbones, skin, I always think my shoulders are to wide and I often feel like my stomach isn't flat enough. I always compare myself to almost every other girl I see and notice all the things they have that I don't. I sometimes spent hours and hours getting ready to go somewhere and end up not going if I even planned on going at all bc of the way I look. I almost feel like it's better to stay away than someone have to look at me. I look at my reflection repeatedly and I hate it people have called me "vain" and "selfish" but I just honestly want to fix me. I've always thought it was just me being self conscious and my social anxiety but I think I might have BDD and I don't know what to do
I RELATED TO EVERYTHING YOU SAID!! I feel you on the being called “selfish & vain”. Like we can’t help it :(
I can relate too. I spend hours just studying my face in the mirror and seeing if I look different and hating so many aspects of my self, i truely don’t have anything I like on my face, and there are parts I can barely live with. I constantly am looking on my selfie mode probaly 100+ times a day. I don’t like it when people call me vain for looking in the mirror so much because they don’t understand. I don’t know what it is
I feel the same all-time
I have cancelled so many plans because I just hated the way I looked
girl I’ve been going through the same thing :( I’m actually at the threadmill right now to try to fix my appearance lol
The worst thing is the fact that I always look different in my eyes. There are times when I feel like my face is okay, but then there are times when I feel like the ugliest person on earth. There is a picture I look good at, but then there is picture of me where I look ugly and I start thinking about it too much. It's horrible when you genuinely can't tell how you look like in reality. Always comparing yourself to others doesn't help either. Don't think I have BDD, but some symptoms are there, unfortunately. Hope I'll get better
exactly me
I feel you!. I'm feeling just like that today 😑😔
That's exactly what I think!!!
It’s very difficult. I wish I never ever had this issue. Life would be more pleasant, easier. Worst thing is when I see a flaw in myself then I look for it for others, compare myself etc. it’s exhausting.
I feel this to a tea
i don't wanna self-diagnose, but this is really on point with how i feel lmao i'm bawling my eyes out after having my school id picture taken
omg i struggled with the same thing i actually spiraled into a depressive episode after mine, but i hope we both get through this😕😕
i just saw my class picture and i’m crying so much like i can’t take it anymore why can’t i be beautiful
I'm so lucky that my I'd card was satisfactory for me. That's rare as fuck. I still had a flaw on my forehead that bothered the fuck out of me and made me sad.
Same
Me toooo
I can’t imagine myself ever looking good, I can’t leave the house, I feel I don’t deserve love, and I can’t figure out why I had to be one of the unlucky ones, I know that everything I want in life, such as a family and a job, will never happen because of the way I look. It’s just different for people that look like me.
I’ve had the exact same thoughts, every time I think about my dreams and aspirations, it’s crushed by the thought that i’d just be ugly doing all of it so my accomplishments would mean nothing.
I have the same thoughts on a daily basis 10 times a day at least
@Rolling Withthepunches this is really helpful, thank you for your comment. The only problem is how it’s easier said than done, I am worried about wasting my life hating myself, but even a reflection in a shop window can give me a panic attack. I’m not sure how to change this before it’s too late.
My BDD started when I cared so much about physical appearance specially when I see that someone is treated special and lovely because they have exceptional beauty.
I got to the point of hurting myself, slapping my face for being so ugly that I cannot find work and be confident because of my appearance. I don't hate or blame God for it nor my parents for the genes, but I asked myself all the time why I need to live looking like sht while I'm sorrounded by pretty faces and perfect life. What would be my life if I look fine just like them?
Same. I just don't want to live with my body anymore. Sometimes I wonder what if I was someone else, wouldn't that make my life so much better. I don't need to be exceptionally beautiful, just being "mediocre" is fine by me. I just don't wanna be as ugly as I'm now
Same
@@yang_er I had a dream once when I traded myself with someone else… I deeply regretted it…
Seriously I also think the same thing..I think that if I would be like which I want my life would be very beautiful and if I'll get those things which I want then I will do my whole works with full of energy
My bdd is so bad I can't even hang out with friends without constantly comparing myself. All my friends are gorgeous, skinny, and boys look at them all the time. And then there's me. I've gotten to the point of severe depression because of it. I don't know what to do anymore.
Me too that’s what the worst part is for me... I cant even have fun with my friends anymore as I constantly feel inferior.
currently watching these to reassure my BDD self that what i see isnt real..i wish therapy wasnt so expensive
I saw this was three years ago, did you get help, or were you able to get treatment for it or something like that
@@Christian0830Hernandez im on 2 different types of anti depressant, things are going okay ish but I can't say 100% better, it's slow but progress is progress, I appreciate you asking
Mine is my breasts and body. I’m 20 and almost flat, I think about it everyday, I can’t watch tv, I can’t look at my body, I can’t go on social media, it’s consuming me. I feel like dying instead of being faced with this disgusting flaw
I feel the same and no one understands so it’s so hard to deal with if you want to talk to anyone send me a text
If it’s something that bothers you so much
You should consider getting them done
Maybe save up a little
And erase your insecurity
not sure where you live, but I'm a counseling student doing my practicum, and I also identify as having BDD. We could talk about it and see if I could help you out. and you would be helping me out too as I also need clients for recording sessions for the purpose of learning. I live in Malaysia, so we need to do it over google meet. would be really glad too to talk to other people with BDD symptoms like me :D
I'm exactly the same. People think I'm crazy because movies, ads, social media, even going out.. Just makes me feel even worse.
I know what I’m about to suggest isn’t a permanent fix but I watch a youtuber named Clara Dao who does a lot of flat chest positivity videos. And as a flat girl who struggled with body image issues in high school it really helped me accept my body
Like I always see my cousins in photos and say “wow they’re so pretty I wish I was them” then I look at myself and end up sobbing because I can’t take it, it disgusts me the way I look no matter how many times my moms friends call me pretty or boys look at me I think it’s all just false. In school, the girls are all so pretty and then there’s me I always look at them and just wish I was born the way they were. It scares me that I have to live with the way I look, I wish I was one of those pretty girls at my school.
Same it really hurts because I feel like im almost close to being okay looking, but there’s that one angle or feature that ruins everything. I wish I was just born prettier.
This comment is so relatable to me I literally want to cry rn 😭
Trust me. If you see me you’ll feel better. I look so masculine body n face
At least ppl tell you you’re pretty so you could tell yourself that you might feel ugly and wrong in your body but at least others won’t see it that way.
I can relate to this. I have body dysphoria i cry all the time i hate everything about my body and face. I wish i could wake up and be someone else 😭
Based on your photo you look beautiful, but i do suffer from this too...
Hey thanks for this. I'm glad that there is a platform in which we can discuss this topic. I hate my appearance to the point where I'll cry myself to sleep and I'll have anxiety about looking at my reflection in the mirror. I was kind of embarrassed and I've honestly haven't expressed this side of me to anyone because I'm afraid they might just laugh. But now that I know that this is a thing (BDD) and other people struggle through it too, it makes me feel a heck of a lot better, knowing that I'm not alone and my feelings are valid.
Nobody will laugh and if they do there disgusting humans.
I avoid pictures as much as possible. I feel bad for my friends that have to deal with me for that. Sometimes I let them take the picture. I try not to look at at them at all because then I don’t have to think about it. Today a longtime friend said she’d thought I’d grow out of it and that’s how I got here, wondering if I ever will.
I’d say I’m a little easier on myself than most people here. Try not to think about it for too long because it’s not doing me any good, you know? And cut myself some slack because I know it isn’t as bad as I think it is. All of the things I’ve mentioned are me just trying to avoid it, huh?
Most of us know how long it takes to get ready. “Look the best you possibly can.” “It’s not good enough, let’s try the next outfit.” “Nothing’s good enough.” And I see a lot of you stay home. I go anyway. Despite how I feel, I’ve been raised to stick to my commitments, even if I might not feel comfortable.
I’m someone who’s always been called beautiful. I’m the girl that boys want to date, odd as it may be for me. People have expressed jealousy towards me and it’s strange. I’ve taken up exercising and I’m consistent. So why is my image so skewed from everyone else’s? My nose is too big, my lips are too small, face too wide, shoulders too wide, waist not slim enough, thighs too big, not tall enough, face too serious, smile ugly, etc. “Just don’t call attention to it.” “Everyone else is having a good time, don’t ruin it.” Looking up plastic surgeries left and right. I’m sixteen, I shouldn’t be thinking of that, but I am. Maybe one day. In the meantime, always look good. Always dress well and always wear makeup. Make it more natural so people think it is. Even during sleepovers, I’ll wear concealer the whole night and my closest friends don’t wear anything. I really wonder why I am the way I am. I’m doing my best to make things easier for myself. I feel bad for my friends. I don’t really know what I’ll do.
Baby steps. I bought a bathing suit for the first time in four years-ish. One piece with sleeves, but still out of my comfort zone. I’m hoping for the best for me and for you. Good luck.
Practicing mindfulness has helped. The mindfulness book "30 Days to Stop Obsessing" by Harper Daniels has good exercises and lessons. Share it with anyone who might be struggling. The fight is real, but it doesn't have to be long term.
I always tried to practice mindfulness but it's just too hard for me to focus. I have a real bad obsession problems with almost everything, including my look like my face or body which is one of the worst. I'm gonna try to read this book to see if it can help, thank you so much. :( ♥
true!
I look at the mirror for like 3-4hrs a day.. I feel so trapped and disgusted of how I look. I feel like ripping my skin apart
Same
Thankyou so much for making this, Ive been struggling with social anxiety and attributed my fear of social situations to that but learning about this made me realise it was BDD which makes a lot more sense for me. Your video was very informative and brought me to tears after hearing how much of this rang true for me. Lots of love to anyone struggling with this too ❤️
as a counseling student, i must say this is clear and comprehensive. great job!!!
Jesus Christ loves you x
I’m literally on the path of having this. It’s not serious but it’s all I ever think about. I’m even scared of raising my hand and speaking in class so I don’t draw attention to myself. I cant stand making eye contact with other people bc all I think about is how I’m ugly and they’re probably thinking bad about me. I can’t stand my parents looking at me either. I can’t ask people out bc I think that no one would even be put of their minds to date me. I always compare myself to other people and feel bad when everyone else is prettier than me. I don’t even look as pretty mom or as handsome as my dad. U would probably think I’m not their child just by looking at me. I’m so embarrassed sometimes to be introduced to someone as their child bc I look nothing like them.
i relate 100% omg. do u wanna talk ?? i’m l probably younger than you but idk. i go through this so much and i thought i had social anxiety, and i think my (what might be) BDD is causing me to get social anxiety. if i didn’t feel so insecure about myself then i probvaly wouldn’t have social anxiety.
edit: so my bad i just realized that this was posted a year ago. 😭 are u still dealing with this?
@@kgirlsupdated9327 yh i am still dealing with this and i think its actually worse than last year its nothing but anxiety when i am the center of attention. Even when when i am talking to my friends.
Btw how old r u
@@user-pb9pd7vq1y i agree same to me too. i’m sorry it’s worse for you. i am 14 hbu?
@@kgirlsupdated9327 Im 17
I find it so disconcerting and disturbing that I can literally look different from one hour to the next. I can look in the mirror and think “ ok the flaws are not that bad” then the next time I think I look like the most hideous being ever! I think I look so different and abnormal. I have so many flaws that I can’t count how many and how much I hate the way my face and body looks. I feel people are starting because I’m so ugly. Meds so far are not helping much so next is CBT which I hope can help.
I have this issue too, sometimes I feel like my flaws are less and if I catch my reflection when I’m out I tend to feel like a monster and want to leave
I wouldn't like to self diagnose but I really feel like I have this and it's consuming me. At school a few years ago I did get bullied a lot for my looks, I would get called ugly and people said I looked like a nerd so I stopped wearing my glasses and used random skin care products hoping it would help my skin get better. I was 9. When I was 13, I decided to go to school again after being homeschooled for a while since I couldn't stand the bullying, so the first month of the new school was going well until I overheard the boys talking about how I was too skinny to be their type and how I was too flat. I got called anorexic and told I have a big forehead. After this I started staying at home and going outside at least for 20 mins every 3 months and barely socializing so I switched to the internet to socialize. I often get bullied on the internet for my face too. I have started skipping a lot of meals recently and spending hours of my day trying to "glow up" even though I feel like everything I do isn't helping. I have often had people tell me I look so pretty but I always feel like they are lying now. My mom doesn't really try to do anything about my severe depression and I have no clue what to do anymore. Sorry for the long story, was hoping I could get some help on this maybe. I think I'll most likely get plastic surgery when I'm older.
u are dealing with so many things.... i literally have tears in my eyes while reading this.... I'm not sorry but i am proud of u that u are still strong and fighting with so many things... i know this is very random but i am alwayss with u so pls stay strong and healthy and always remember we have our own days to shine 💗
lots off lovee to u 🥺💗
hope u recover soon......
I can relate to that, and being called names at a young, age. I remember being told I have a "big head" and I was called garden rake, and stick insect for being so skinny.
I was called a tart aswell, which is British slang for a woman of ill repute. I personally believe it was because I happened to look good in my clothes back then - my behaviour wasn't tarty at all, and THAT is what mattered.
Uhhh! I don't get it... Why don't people compliment somebody if they're so compelled to remark on another's appearance?? I hope you're opinion of your body becomes much louder than theirs! ❤
are you a man
@@gardenbee1238I have a big head too, so I always isolate it, what are you doing with a hat and a hoodie?
@@sergenturgut342 I'm a woman. I don't wear anything to hide my head outdoors. My head seems a bit big to me from the side view, but I don't care what people think anymore. I don't think about it that much nowadays.
I'm 39 and I've had bdd since I was 14. It can be hell. I would say I've been cured by half..
Which is a massive positive for me as it was severe. It takes time...and it may never completely disappear.....but that's ok...I can cope with it now.
I think high school started my bdd
Help, any sugestion?
@@slobodailinista with what in particular
I always thought I was just insecure, bc I thought with BDD, your mind distorts what you see in the mirror. For me it’s my chubby cheeks and my jaw. I will spend hours in front of a mirror pulling at my face and push the fat around so I can see what I wish I looked like. I’m getting lipo and buccal fat removal next week I hope this fixes me 😓
i dont know if i have it , but whenever i look at my face or my hands they look droopy or like there drooping, im so insecure about them and only i see it. i have to wear gloves and sometimes a mask if i go out somewhere because of this/ its gottne so bad that i wear my gloves every day every second, just not in the shower. it causes me anxiety and alot of it
Wow you’re gorgeous asf girl it’s crazy what we see in the mirror ugh!
i want to talk to you
I don’t have Bdd but i wanna learn about it
Same I see Low Cheekbones and Lowwr Cheeks. I worry about it
My eyes don't tell lies, I just look absolutwly monstrous.
Your brain interprets what your eyes see. It can lie sometimes. This world is full of impossible standards of beauty thrust upon us by media and peers.
Don't trust everything you feel. I've hated myself for most of my life and only recently got to a place of accepting me. I'm not prefect but I see beauty that isn't just skin deep. You are a soul that inhabits this body for now. You were created for a purpose and are loved and valuable.
Reading books like 'feeling good' which is about tackling depression with cognitive behaviour therapy was helpful. It taught me to really question and analyse my beliefs about myself and evaluate how true they were. More often than not I had overestimated the problem. This is not just replacing negative thoughts with unrealistic positive ones but finding truth. Do not be decieved.
@@daughter_of_the_king thank you for your comment!
Please seek help❤️ hope your doing okay.
@@MissFeline thank you so much. I am a lot better now 💙
this is eating me up rn and i can't hang on much anymore
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Wow; didn't know a lot of people also suffer from BDD. Glad to know I'm not alone in this fight.
i feel so depressed with the fact that this body is what i'm supposed to call 'me'
This is what I am currently going through.
All through my life I have always thought I was fat even when I wasn’t. Now that I’ve gained a little weight and people have started making little comments I spend most of my day criticizing how I look and wish I could go back to how I look before. I mainly focus on my stomach and arms and I spend most of my day obsessing what I can do to look how I looked before. I feel like everyone I meet is looking at my flaws and I feel judged. I never imagined that I would ever reach this point in my life I just hope I get over it.
I'm a guy and I'm extremely self conscious about my stomach and more. It has came form trauma during puberty when my family and school peers would shame me and criticize me for being overweight and when I lost the weight I feel the exact same . Every day now for years I have even bodycheck and the mirror and constantly disgusted with my body. I refuse to look in windows while walking by because I'm worried I will be disgusted with myself once again
Picking out clothes before school terrifies me every day
@@marshallaustin7138 My hips bother me dude. We have the same problem. I feel disgusted with my body. It's horrible feeling. You're not alone.
Anyone else have body dysmorphia about their hair? I've other issues too, but my hair is my biggest trigger. As far back as a child going to school I remember not wanting to go to school unless my hair looked right. Even though there wasn't anything wrong with it... I actually got scissors and tried to cut it..and made it look worse lol..this would be funny if it wasn't so tragic. My BDD ruined my entire high school experience. Its hard to function when all your thoughts is focused on how ugly you think you are.
bro i feel like my hair makes my whole face look different so if it isn’t in the exact right position i want it i get really bad anxiety and feel like shit icl i thought it was stupid but every time i look at other people there hair sits so nicely and matches there face shape and i feel like mine just doesn’t if u get it, i get headaches daily bc i feel like i can’t sleep properly because of it and i used to get paranoid my hair was falling out🤷♀️
I had a really bad episode today and I cut off a lot of my hair. I've been struggling with this for so long now, I'm constantly in this loop of cutting my hair and then waiting for it to grow back again. all I can really do is wear a hat and keep on going, although it sometimes seems like there is no light at the end of the tunnel.
@@creepingthyme9552 i feel you bro, it’s hard bc not a lot of people understand it like that, people think it’s never deep until it’s too late, only people who suffer it will only ever understand, i feel the same way like there will never be any light at the end of the tunnel but one thing i can tell you is that your not alone and even tho we don’t know each other,, we’re in this together bro. you got this, we all have🙏🏼
Holy shit I thought I was the only one
Same but the most annoying is wind that freaking ruin my hair bangs im trying to hide my forehead cuz i look so weird, I mean my forehead is normal and its not my problem but it also it makes hair goes on two side(Natural hair partin) and it also makes make looks bald when my hair flying upward then i looks so ugly that's why i always wear hat
I have been suffering from bdd for past 3 years and it's really difficult to live with it, the voices in your head specially at night makes you think of your flaws aggressively. The feeling of never facing camera, looking into mirror from a particular angle only, being in certain lights so that your flaws couldn't be seen, not really going out in daytime, this is what I experience on a daily basis.
Not having friends and keeping oneself isolated from the world, broken relationships, unable to concentrate on one's career, this is what bdd has done to me. I am obsessed with how the way my nose looks, i visited plastic surgeons but really couldn't have rhinoplasty because my family didn't support it, so I had to do something of my nose, hence i got temporary nose fillers previous year to make myself feel better, i was 21 and without telling anyone at home i did that , my parents didn't come to know, now I'm 22 still thinks of having a nose job thinking that would make my bdd go, with fillers i thought the same thing, i wouldn't deny it gave me confidence but my nose didn't look as i really wanted to but my nose did improve so cheers to that.After that I'm very particular of my skin, started to get skin treatment, laser sessions, still think to get more of skin treatments to achieve a glass skin that everyone would envy, cause through out my teens i had acne on my face which left scars, people did make me feel bad for that, hence now i think i would do anything to fix that too.But im being referred as a pretty girl by everyone who sees me, but i think everyone compliments me to make feel better which i hate.
Trust me it's all messed up :(
Ruhi where are you from?? I am from India
Hey I am also from India ruhi.
Hey jamjul
I am also suffering from the same issue
I keep looking myself in the mirror
Compare myself wid others..
I love being in dark room and avoid moving out in day time
@@mirasingh7428 i understand , it will all be okay consult a psychologist ❣️
I started being obsessed with thinking abt my body since i was 10....i literally spent 6 hours worrying abt my features and wanting to change it so badly i feel trapped in my body
i dont know if i have it , but whenever i look at my face or my hands they look droopy or like there drooping, im so insecure about them and only i see it. i have to wear gloves and sometimes a mask if i go out somewhere because of this/ its gottne so bad that i wear my gloves every day every second, just not in the shower. it causes me anxiety and alot of it,
Wow so many weird disorders and pathologies out there especially in the modern age. I’m convinced we have to reconnect with nature. Everybody is going through a spiritual crisis and i think it’s because we no longer relate to the natural world. We gotta learn to be wild again
every time I try to open to my friends about it they just start looking at me weirdly, and one specific friend would say *omg stop we all gain weight stop making a big deal out of it!! " in a really mad and aggressive way.
I'm sorry. They maybe don't know what to say so it came out that way. I hope you can get the help you need. You deserve understanding and support, a good therapist can help you navigate all of this. They are sometimes free if you don't have $. Best wishes
I have developed a fear of looking in the mirror. Im supposed to go to a therapist in two weeks. Ive had bulima since I was 9 and im 19 now. Ive only told two people about it. Ive also gained a phobia of becoming old because if I hate myself now, how will I feel when I have wrinkles and lose metabolism? Its terrifying.
Bro same!! I havw a phobia of being old
Worst thing is i feel that the constant worry and stress aboht my face will age my face even more cus of the stress!!! Its a thought cycle that never finishes and everyday life is so hard. I often think how life would be if i was normal :(
I feel u
Oh gosh this is 100% me, it’s gotten so bad to the point where I’ve isolated myself because I feel like I’m not good looking enough for friends 😵💫
I have body dymophia and have gotten help for it- therapy has helped tremendously! Recovery is possible ☺️
Therapy is really expensive😞
I have a 17 year old son with bdd. He acknowledges he has it, but doesn’t feel therapy is the answer and believes plastic surgery is the answer. Did any of you feel the same? When did you start thinking about therapy as a real option?
Which therapy u had?
That explains why I get depressed when I’m in the mirror 😢 I’m 26 I obsess over wrinkles, my hair thinning, body size (past history of Anorexia), my skin complexion, my nose, lips, hair color, body shape, double chin, shoulders, cheeks, and so on I hate my appearance
I’m 17 theirs not a minute that goes by where I’m not thinking about my physical appearance. I used subliminal and they destroyed my pretty face . Know I’m trying to get it back in preying . I wish someone understood me .
😬😮💨
Sorry you feel that why
It’s what we see on the daily. It’s what society makes us pressured to be. It’s the camera.... the clothes we buy “models” ... the films we watch “actresses” ... it’s the posts we come buy on social media “Gymnists but BBLs” .. media isn’t that’s what makes us insecure... and if not that in itself .. it could even be our own partners viewing that type of content.. where girls are the stereotypical “fit,sexy women” ..
Everyone in this phone we happen to view who is looking “fantabulous” is either done up with surgery or cosmetic/dermatological procedures of some kind.. wether it be from regular eod red light facials to kill bacteria on your face to Botox and more permanent surgery of sorts.
Bottom line we feel insecure because we are already pretty and just want to be the prettiest... because society makes it and fun fact make up industries used that to make profit..
Not mad at anything! I want you all to love yourselves. I need to love myself. We all came a long f way to be trippin if we aren’t good enough for the person and if not for the next!!! We are pretty inside and out ❤️ if we just be healthy eating we should be fine. I want empowerment energy girls .. we got this
I’m not against any procedure or surgeries for it makes u happy do it! You are boss of your own body! Make sure it’s healthy and Board certified for safety!
But the reason it’s a disorder is because that insecurity becomes a *delusion.*
I went frim being short and fat to what people around me call “tall and average body”. To me im still short and fat. I constantly look at my self in any surface i have to make sure my hair looks good, i constantly have to check my weight and look at my stomach through every mirror in my house.
My hands are exactly 7 inches long and I’m an adult man. It’s bothered me my whole life cause I feel like women see me as inferior when they find out my hand size. I hate this and the fact that’s it’s supposedly associated with penis size which isn’t true at all. I am 5’7 but even men at 5’2 or less have manlier hands than me.
I feel all of your pain.
I don't know what to do anymore. Every night I end up crying. I wonder if this will ever end.. I hate my teeth and my eyes. I'm also kinda tan. I don't wanna hate myself but I just can't help it. I desperately want to "love myself" but that's just too hard.
I’m planning on getting loads of plastic surgery when I’m 18 (may 13) I can’t wait. I’ve been insecure and depressed ab my appearance since I was 11. I hate looking like this
me af, but at the same time i’m scared i’ll like my old face once it’s permanently gone
Just FYI. I’ve had plastic surgery, and it didn’t get rid of my body dysmorphia
i just want to get a nose job. then id be pretty
i dont know if i have it , but whenever i look at my face or my hands they look droopy or like there drooping, im so insecure about them and only i see it. i have to wear gloves and sometimes a mask if i go out somewhere because of this/ its gottne so bad that i wear my gloves every day every second, just not in the shower. it causes me anxiety and alot of it
I can only speak for myself, but since my teens I've been ambushed with criticism concerning my looks. I personally feel I'm looking pretty, beautiful, and lovely then someone critiques my looks, and I go from feeling on top of the world to anxious in a matter of seconds.
I never had offers from boys in my teens, which still baffles me to this day.
I'm obsessed with looking at myself the way I believe others see me, it's so hard knowing there are plenty of people who disagree with me about my looks and think I'm ugly.
It's strange to me that I can only view my body in a mirror, and others can see my body more often than I do. That makes me want to tailor my looks to others more than I do for myself. 😢😰
I would always classify these as insecurities cuz I never knew there was an actual disorder for it. I low key got bullied in school even tho I didn’t act like I cared about what anyone said. Now I’m out of high school and in college with so many insecurities. I think I have a big head, my hairline looks like it’s receding, I have big lips, small ears, I’m skinny, my heads shaped like a cube. No one has said that I have any of those features when I get assurance but that doesn’t stop me from constantly looking in the mirror & getting reassurance from others. Yes, I also looked into getting some hairline surgery where it moved my hairline up more so my head looked more proportional. Now that I know it’s all in my head, I won’t try to get surgery but the obsessions are still gonna be there
Heyy
It’s not even that I’m unsatisfied with my body, I just physically feel so uncomfortable in the one I have. I don’t feel right in my own skin, like I need to escape it.
I feel bad every day because of this :(
I feel like I have ups en downs with this, I don’t know if it is real cause it isn’t constant. I do struggle with feelings like this through my whole teens but I do have better periods if I don’t look in the mirror to much. In better periods I don’t want to tear my skin off but I still pick my skin, thinks about the things I want to change and how I would do that and think about how I look constantly so idk
Fun fact: when she’s looking down and right, she’s not reading wikipedia article but actually looks in the mirror
My biggest thing is my chin and general face build so having to wear a mask feels almost freeing for me it helps take my mind of it though it gets bad again when I have to take it of
I haven't been diagnosed with this but i feel like i can relate to alot of these, I even told my family how i have felt and I feel as though as they've ignored it and keep triggering me on purpose for example my mum wanted pictures of me when out for a meal with family so i agreed but I didn't want to see the photos i just agreed she could keep them but she uploaded them to social media and i told her not to and i went into meltdown this weekend and i have been picking apart everything about myself so much so i have deleted my social media accounts and completely isolated myself because of it as i feel humiliated and embarrassed, sorry to others struggling to sending my love and support💓
You’re not alone, and know that you are a beautiful and strong human being. ❤️
@@adrianvalencia3899 you're so kind, thankyou so much! Sending love ❤️🥺🥰
I hate my body I don’t want it anymore it’s getting bad I wanna cry! 😭
Stay strong we all have same feeling
I was diagnosed with bdd in 7th grade, I am now in 9th grade (freshman in high school) I am still trying to educate myself to more understand myself and others.
I have had people ask me about my body dismorphia before. Thing is, I think I'm pretty. I like my complexion, my face shape, etc. But I'm bone thin because of separation anxiety. Literally. I'm alone a lot more than I should be for my age and find it hard to eat when alone. My friend suggested me this video and was like "You're pretty the way you are, no need to think you need to be skinnier! UwU"
I've tried doing things about it. But I just can't. Fold doesn't look appealing when I'm alone and I physically cannot eat. I tried to force myself once and let's just say I ended up with an empty stomach and feeling very sick.
You could have anxiety or something else treatable. A good therapist can help you navigate whatever is going on. I finally found a good one and now I can't shut up about it. Best wishes
I genuinely feel trapped sometimes in my own body. I obsess over the littlest things from my chest to my legs. I’m at a point now where in my art I feel uncomfortable drawing features I feel dysmorphic about. It will go away soon though I always manage to block out these emotions
What do you do when combination therapy doesn't work?
I've had bdd for 20 years and have been in and out of cbt, dbt and analytical therapies for 16 of those years and been on a plethora of ssris and other pharmaceutical drugs and I'm now worse off than I was to start with... Help me
amazing that you've sought multiple kinds of therapies. in my opinion both as someone with BDD symptoms and as a future mental health counselor (im doin my masters rinnow)...here's my take on it:
1) you've got to acknowledge your pain from BDD every day and tell yourself your pain is there but it is not YOU. don't identify with it. mindfulness plays a role here. observe, be in the present, breathe, do whatever but be in the present.
2) you've got to live your life purposefully. don't center your daily activities around unhelpful things, yes of course, but more specifically really stay conscious of what you're doing each moment, how you're feeling, what you need...check in with yourself and if you need a break from work, break! coz then the stress (in fact any stress) will pull you back into that BDD pain. that's how i think about it at least. Also, have hobbies and exercise, haha coz exercise makes you focus on body functionality and not body as it appears...
3) you've got to acknowledge that this society is meant to make you 'beauty sick' as Dr Renee Engeln calls it. It means empowering yourself with not just the realization that you're not alone but that you don't have to suffer as much if you don't want to because the truth is that PEOPLE make looks important and PEOPLE are the ones who judge and create ideals and standards. From there you can set boundaries between YOU and IDEALS. simply don't identify with it. you're not playing the game, in other words.
4) you've got to get in touch with your spiritual side. I try to create a dialogue with god, for instance, and just ask questions to myself about my purpose in life, and like to imagine what if I'd be dead by tomorrow, and it makes me feel more objective and alive.
5) you've got to ask what being ugly mean to you time and time again. ask yourself if being ugly = loneliness? (for instance) from there you can do things about that loneliness..like making friends with likeminded people, joining a volunteer team, etc.
now does this mean I don't have BDD symptoms anymore. HAHAHAHA id be lying id i said that. but doing the above helps me and I've never been better.just keep practicing. no one helps us but ourselves!!!!!
Damn. I feel for u. Were the therapies and and medications ever of any help at any point?
You are hero!!
I love your constant struggle for treatment
I don't know whether or not I have body dysmorphic disorder. I certainly obsess over my appearance and have always feel a deep hatred towards it but I don't obsess over a specific defect/defects, I just think I'm really ugly as a whole and have felt that way since I was 5 years old. I can't pinpoint things about my appearance that if fixed I would look okay. My whole body/face just looks wrong, weird and creepy and I feel like it's so beyond hope not even plastic surgery couldn't help. Seeing my reflection often makes me cry, feel nauseous and wince in disgust, sometimes it causes panic attacks. I don't want to be perfect or good-looking. I just want to look average, good enough to feel comfortable in my own skin.
I have the same issue
I don't want to look very beautiful... Just normal
I think that I have so many issues that can not be corrected wid surgery also...
I hate everything about myself
I just want to look human 😢
Mines is my face and body like I’m too thin, I wish I can just be normal, just look like something normal. Not only that I feel like I’m actually am ugly because people always laugh at me the way I look the way I talk, walk ugh gosh I hate everything about myself I already go through so much with my flaws and it being pointed out and being bullied makes dealing with this mental illness worse I be looking like a whole different person on social media because I use a lot of filters, angles I just wish I can look like social media me. I met some people online in person and I be wondering do they think I’m a catfish I’m ugly in person or something 😔
how do you know if its and insecurity not bdd?
I wish I could change everything. Everything.
Someone please help
Do you need someone to talk to?
If you're struggling, its a better idea to get professional advice, but remember that we are always here to listen!
Hope you’re okay james❤️
For everyone, thanks for caring, I've managed to come to terms with my issues and fix my BPD and more best of luck to you all it's possible and I've never felt more confident or sure of myself- i can do anything i put my mind to now
What should I do I worry about how I look all the time I train as much as possible I've lost a lot of weight but I still see myself differently than other people why is that
I hate how my body looks in clothes now /: I used to feel great when I was thinner but after gaining weight after having my baby I feel disgusting 😓 I obsess about taking pics to see how I look then hating it. I just wish I can love my body the way it is.
It's worse when you're actually ugly. It feels horrible
I find it very difficult to look at myself at all. The mirror is my enemy.
For me it’s my lips or mouth. I feel like I look so weird and different when I talk. I cant even look at myself when I talk because I think I look so weird.
I have an underdeveloped lower jaw. Knowing that something is actually wrong plus bdd is just ruining my life
DUDE YES SOME ELSE RELATES. literally all i do is compare my chin to everyone else’s and they all perfect. they all have beautiful side profiles and i wanna cry
I’m 37 and I have had issues with this since I was 10. I never have told anyone not even my parents 😢
I deal with dismorphic disorder, depression and borderline since over 40 yrs...I'm not able to see myself like others see me or love myself. I can't find one thing I like on myself or something I'm good at..I will be 55 in april and that's so depressing...
I have bdd due to my skin color and complexion. I can barely leave my home. I'm going for therapy soon hopefully.
What if they’re not lies? What if you’re objectively ugly or fat in others eyes? You’re trapped, and there’s no one to blame but yourself for not restricting enough
I never cared about my looks when I was younger. All of a sudden i’m in 10th grade and I feel like my face is lopsided, so hate my skin tone, my lips are so thin and my nose is huge. I hate myself and I feel so hideous when I go to school.
That's sad to hear. I'm sorry you are suffering like that. A good therapist can help you navigate what is going on. I finally found a good one and now I can't stop recommending therapy. Best of luck
But if you can't do therapy rn please know you are amazing and beautiful and good people will recognize that about you
I can’t quite tell if it’s dismorphia, but I hate looking at myself… I’ve been struggling with weight for a long time. Bad relationships in real life turned into a bad relationship with food and then it led to my body becoming chubby. And while nothing is wrong with it with other people, to myself, I look hideous… I always want to dress up and look pretty but every time I look down I feel like my damn jiggling stomach ruins the look.. I always want to wear a corset, I’m embarrassed going out with people I romantically like or sometimes even friends because of my body. I get worried about people mocking me for my stomach because it’s happened before when I was in 4th grade. Someone literally said I looked like I was pregnant… and people have called me worse was the years went on till the comments stopped but stayed (if you understand).
My parents and everyone else always tell me I look beautiful but my mind always says “they’re lying.”
I once tried starving myself for the day because of it… I really need to look into getting a therapist. But is that something that can be labeled as BDD..?
i dont know if i have it , but whenever i look at my face or my hands they look droopy or like there drooping, im so insecure about them and only i see it. i have to wear gloves and sometimes a mask if i go out somewhere because of this/ its gottne so bad that i wear my gloves every day every second, just not in the shower. it causes me anxiety and alot of it
@@flooslightly3575 I’m sorry youre feeling that way.
Happy I got help
So this is literally what I have damn
Beautiful video. Jesus loves you!
The title "when our eyes tell lies" ......but what if there are so many people telling me that i am ugly ?....it means my eyes did,nt tell lies , i am really ugly right? I started to get confuse with this disorder .....
I absolutely hate my body. My waist is 27.5 inches, I weight 128 pounds, and my thighs are 20 inches. I have an hour glass but I despise it sm that I spend hours crying about it in a mirror.
Same 😭😭😭
I wanna be skinny so bad
can I have body dysmorphia if im thick ?
For me it's my hair, ever since I was little, look in the mirror, and mines REALLY thick.... too bulky, too bumpy, too thick, to thin, looks cute... nvm nope, let's just stay home
At times i cant look at myself for long periods of time i even too the mirror down in my room
Guys love yourself first then love others
Couple years ago I used to be super skinny I thought I was fat but in reality I wasn’t. As a coping mechanism I started binge eating and I now weight 230 pounds I don’t recognize myself anymore.
I'm 14 and I have been dealing with this for more than four years... I just feel so ugly. I don't think I deserve love or anyone. I really wish I looked better.. A boy online said he has genuine feelings for me and I feel like he deserves someone way better... I don't wanna lose him but at the same time, he doesn't know that I'm too ugly for him. I just can't change the way I think about myself. I get so defensive when someone tires clicking photos of me. I start crying when I look at the photos taken of me. I just want to be pretty 😔
ive had bdd since i was like 8 and ive never really been happy with my own appearance :) i miss out on so much because of my bdd and i feel like im trapped in my own body. i wish i was pretty.
I always think I look postpartum or three months pregnant. I think I'm flat chested even though I'm a C/D cup. I always think I look 40, even though I've had people say I look 16 (I'm 19!). I always think I have excessive amounts of skin hanging off my jawline and chin.
I'm so vain. Nothing looks right.
Vanity is a disease.
I’m 34 DD now, and in my head, I know that everything is fine and I have to have a big chest. My brain keeps telling me that maybe those two bras that I bought from target are really just A’s and people are trying to trick me I almost feel like my breasts have shrunk.
Would anyone reach me out on ig and share each's story? i've been dealing with BDD since i'm in JHS till now im 21 years old. It get worse by the time because of it's nature. I'm so ashamed to tell it to anyone and i cant afford to go to psychologist 😭😭😭😭
I know this is 1yr ago but I’m happy to talk if you still want
Wish I knew what I had
I do have rosacea on my skin gets worse when I shave wash face
Facial flushing from it
Eye bags circles from never sleeping
Dry skin from accutane
And I never leave house so super pale
I don’t believe it’s bdd I legit have this stuff
But it’s stopping me from living so idk
when i look in the mirror, i am literally sickened by what i see
I have OCD to so makes sense I guess 😭😭
What kind of OCD do u have ..May i ask ??
We’re all self conscious I’m just the first to admit it. - Kanye
I’ve had BDD (or at least insure thoughts) since I was 6
I just got my boobs done, was hoping it will make me look at myself differently. But no, I feel like the doctor didn’t do a good job. Others say my boobs look great but I think differently. I’ve been wanting for my boobs to be perfect for years and I still don’t think it is. 😢
I’ve seen a lot of other girls who have amazing bodies but still think they’re ugly. But I’ve convinced myself that I *know* that I’m not the internet’s perfect body and it’s hard for anyone to convince me otherwise because I won’t show anyone my body to receive their opinions.
Imagine being my age and looking the way I look. Plus having a best friend who is perfect. Then your husband compares you. Now what? No therapy can cure that! It’s now etched in stone forever and no amount of backtracking will solve that
Is that you in your pfp? Girl you are gorgeous
If you wanna see ugly you should see me lol
@@Oh-yu7qq I doubt you are anywhere near ugly ❤️
@@Oh-yu7qq Thankyou lovely 🥰
@@modmutha8608 no problem girl🤍🤍And thank you sm^^
So in fact, I am not balding, I am a hairy hippie, rite?
I’m trying to figure out if I have BDD, and I worry if I do I do t want another mental disorder :’]
Im sorry but I don't think they are "scewed". Im okay with my body but my face really bothers me. It's worse when it's your face because you can't hide that! You can't help obsess over it. I'm sorry. I'm a mom so I'd never feel suicidal but is my self esteem in the gutter yes. I don't take pictures or anything. Working out, cosmetic surgery if you feel it's right, that's okay!
I can't go out anymore, I look in one mirror and I'm ugly, then I look in the other, and I'm hot. I look at the mirror every ten minutes everyday. Idk what I look like. I've quit on dating, and hanging with friends. Idk what to doooo