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if someone doesnt have a good relationship with their parents for whatever reason, may Allah ease your hardship and soften your heart, i want to say, it is especially important to respect your parents in these difficult circumstances, why? because often the problems we face in adult life comes from our experiences as children, and if we do not choose forgiveness and mercy, especially for the two people closest to us, then we will end up with hardened hearts and a skewed, scary or untrusty worldview. often this is why humans will turn scornful, ill meant, or even worse, into people who will do real harm to others. to turn away from this, the first person you need to make peace with is yourself, know that to know (understand) Allah is to know (understand) yourself, like the prophet Muhammad saw said. the second person to make peace with is your mother, and third your father. know that this will set you free and change the way you see the world inshallah. alhamdulillah for this video, i deal with a difficult father who i try advising sometimes, but now i understand as you said, i will refrain even if i have the urge to mention Allah for the sake of not upsetting my father, may Allah guide him ya Rabb
I've always struggled with my mother, especially as an adult. We also live together now ( I thought this was a good idea but it's been really hard). She is harsh and unforgiving to me and I have become that with her as well. :( I entered the fold of Islam 4 years ago and one of the reasons I embraced Islam so empathetically was because I knew the only help I could get to help me with her would be through Allah alone. And even as a Muslim, that has been an additional test. My heart is slowly starting to soften. It used to often but after so many years of hurt and sadness, it became hardened and I didn't even realize. May Allah give us ease and help us change our condition. Ameen. Thanks for your post. Allaumma barik.
Thank you so much sheikh for introducing such series where we get to know how exactly we should treat our parents I was very tensed about how should I treat my parents because they are very rude to me and always yelling at me and it makes me mad and i start to think about all haram ways to take revenge ( its basically shaitan) Please SUGGEST ME HOW SHOULD I DEAL WITH These kind of parents
Thankyou for addressing..... I have received alot of harshness and rudeness from my parents.... although they have loved and provided me with alot of luxuries and love....but i have emotional distance with them as before marriage i was being forced to marry without my consent but i took stand for myself , they maybe think i did the wrong thing .... after marriage I was not allowed to meet them as my inlaws didnt allow, i missed them n remembered only the love they gave me, i was nice n humble to them , now i came back on holidays , its for more than 6 months i m with them, but i never recovered from the trauma of my past n the rudeness n everything... i get rude n my inner child at times hates them...i thought it was gone but as they become rude n dismiss my rights i became aggressive, astagfirullah, idk where that shaytan came from... i have anger issues i realized, due to childhood trauma... But thanks to your vedio , i learned alot, may Allah forgive me and my parents......
8 ways earn even good deeds Even after your death. 1. Give a copy of the Qur'an to someone. Every time they read from it, you gain. 2. Donate a wheelchair to a hospital. Each time a sick person uses it, you gain. 3. Teach someone to recite a Dua. 4. Sharing islimic content. 5. Participate in building a Mosque. 6. Place a water cooler/ well in a public place. 7. Plant a tree. You gain whenever a person or animal sits in its shade or eats from it. 8. And the easiest of all, share this message with people. Even if one person applies any of the above, you gain. Also copy & share with others
I love your videos. Im in a slight situation and i try my best to not answer my mother back in actual fact i agree with all that she says and when i try to lead her right an arguement errupts on her end. Whenever she calls me there is always an insult or negative word that is being said to me even though i agreed with her my heart has become very numb towards her and Allah knows this is not the road i want to go down but my soul feels tired when i am around her. What can i do i try to win her pleasure but it seems like it will never be enough
That's an amazing reminder, Jazak Allahu Khairan, Akhy! I do have a question, though: how is it possible to take care of your parents in their elderly age when you are living in a separate house with your wife? I am still not married yet, but the majority of women want to live separately from their husband's family. In my case, I am the one and only son. I would love to take care of my parents and actually live with them because they helped me a lot growing up and untile now they pray for my success. Jazak Allahu Khairan!
You can get your future wife her own home and alternate between staying with your parents overnight and staying with your wife or you take care of your parents or wife only during the daytime and spend your nights with the other respectively It depends on your situation and you will have to come up with a schedule or other solution But in any case you have to make that priority of yours clear at some point in your marriage meetings probably the second or third one or onwards with the same person after you have made sure there is compatibility and it's time to talk about priorities, deal breakers, etc. Just as a food for thought, may Allah make it easy for you
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Alhamdulilah, I teach multiple weekly classes and run a supportive community at Muslim Lighthouse. Seek knowledge, make new friends, answer your questions & doubts and develop Islamically by becoming a student at: muslimlighthouse.com
The verse in the video about respecting parents is Al-'Israa ayah 23 and not Al-'Asr ayah 23
yes.
"Allah never changes the condition of a people unless they strive to change themselves" (Quran 13:11)
My parents are gone now for a few years. I wish I knew this and the Quran then. They were good people. I was young and not so good.
if someone doesnt have a good relationship with their parents for whatever reason, may Allah ease your hardship and soften your heart, i want to say, it is especially important to respect your parents in these difficult circumstances, why? because often the problems we face in adult life comes from our experiences as children, and if we do not choose forgiveness and mercy, especially for the two people closest to us, then we will end up with hardened hearts and a skewed, scary or untrusty worldview. often this is why humans will turn scornful, ill meant, or even worse, into people who will do real harm to others. to turn away from this, the first person you need to make peace with is yourself, know that to know (understand) Allah is to know (understand) yourself, like the prophet Muhammad saw said. the second person to make peace with is your mother, and third your father. know that this will set you free and change the way you see the world inshallah.
alhamdulillah for this video, i deal with a difficult father who i try advising sometimes, but now i understand as you said, i will refrain even if i have the urge to mention Allah for the sake of not upsetting my father, may Allah guide him ya Rabb
I've always struggled with my mother, especially as an adult. We also live together now ( I thought this was a good idea but it's been really hard). She is harsh and unforgiving to me and I have become that with her as well. :( I entered the fold of Islam 4 years ago and one of the reasons I embraced Islam so empathetically was because I knew the only help I could get to help me with her would be through Allah alone. And even as a Muslim, that has been an additional test. My heart is slowly starting to soften. It used to often but after so many years of hurt and sadness, it became hardened and I didn't even realize. May Allah give us ease and help us change our condition. Ameen. Thanks for your post. Allaumma barik.
Can you please suggest me how to deal with toxic parents without going against islamic laws and Allahs commands ?
Just be silent...
Thank you so much sheikh for introducing such series where we get to know how exactly we should treat our parents
I was very tensed about how should I treat my parents because they are very rude to me and always yelling at me and it makes me mad and i start to think about all haram ways to take revenge ( its basically shaitan)
Please SUGGEST ME HOW SHOULD I DEAL WITH These kind of parents
Thankyou for addressing.....
I have received alot of harshness and rudeness from my parents.... although they have loved and provided me with alot of luxuries and love....but i have emotional distance with them as before marriage i was being forced to marry without my consent but i took stand for myself , they maybe think i did the wrong thing .... after marriage I was not allowed to meet them as my inlaws didnt allow, i missed them n remembered only the love they gave me, i was nice n humble to them , now i came back on holidays , its for more than 6 months i m with them, but i never recovered from the trauma of my past n the rudeness n everything... i get rude n my inner child at times hates them...i thought it was gone but as they become rude n dismiss my rights i became aggressive, astagfirullah, idk where that shaytan came from... i have anger issues i realized, due to childhood trauma...
But thanks to your vedio , i learned alot, may Allah forgive me and my parents......
8 ways earn even good deeds
Even after your death.
1. Give a copy of the Qur'an to someone. Every time they read from it, you gain.
2. Donate a wheelchair to a hospital. Each time a sick person uses it, you gain.
3. Teach someone to recite a Dua.
4. Sharing islimic content.
5. Participate in building a Mosque.
6. Place a water cooler/ well in a public place.
7. Plant a tree. You gain whenever a person or animal sits in its shade or eats from it.
8. And the easiest of all, share this message with people. Even if one
person applies any of the above,
you gain.
Also copy & share with others
I will respect my parents now
Astaghfirullah💗
i will listen to my parents.
I love your videos.
Im in a slight situation and i try my best to not answer my mother back in actual fact i agree with all that she says and when i try to lead her right an arguement errupts on her end. Whenever she calls me there is always an insult or negative word that is being said to me even though i agreed with her my heart has become very numb towards her and Allah knows this is not the road i want to go down but my soul feels tired when i am around her. What can i do i try to win her pleasure but it seems like it will never be enough
That's an amazing reminder, Jazak Allahu Khairan, Akhy! I do have a question, though: how is it possible to take care of your parents in their elderly age when you are living in a separate house with your wife? I am still not married yet, but the majority of women want to live separately from their husband's family. In my case, I am the one and only son. I would love to take care of my parents and actually live with them because they helped me a lot growing up and untile now they pray for my success. Jazak Allahu Khairan!
You can get your future wife her own home and alternate between staying with your parents overnight and staying with your wife or you take care of your parents or wife only during the daytime and spend your nights with the other respectively
It depends on your situation and you will have to come up with a schedule or other solution
But in any case you have to make that priority of yours clear at some point in your marriage meetings probably the second or third one or onwards with the same person after you have made sure there is compatibility and it's time to talk about priorities, deal breakers, etc.
Just as a food for thought, may Allah make it easy for you
jazaka Allahu khairan what a beautiful video, thank you soo much
Jazak Allahu Khair for these reminders akhi.
0:13 surah asr? u mean surah isra
جزاك الله خير for the beneficial video brother! Is it just me or is The Surah Name wrong? It says Surah Asr not Surah Isra
Wa iyakum. It’s a mistake in the video edit
its surah al isra not al asr as u have mentioned in ur vidoe at 0:12
Thank you for this knowledge brother
May الله forgive me
w editing mashallah
what about prophet ibrahim A.S? He gave dawah to his father and in return his father got really upset with him
Qur'an surah Al-Isra ch.17 or Bani Israil.
Surah al Asr?
Best series❤❤❤
Where is ep 1
Mashallah