AITA For Telling My Husband That I See Him As A Liability And Not A Partner?....- Reddit Family
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- AITA For Telling My Husband That I See Him As A Liability And Not A Partner?....- Reddit Family
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I'm Frustrated Because Of My Useless Husband. AITA For Telling My Husband That I See Him As A Liability And Not A Partner?
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A 34-year-old woman, who is physically impaired from a car accident, has been with her 37-year-old husband, Nathan, for eight years. Since their daughter was born three years ago, Nathan has become increasingly unreliable and careless, causing significant stress and frustration. The woman, who works in software development, has been the primary breadwinner, while Nathan, who has not worked in five years, was supposed to handle domestic duties.
Nathan's inability to manage even simple tasks has led to multiple costly mistakes, such as buying wrong-sized items for their daughter, mishandling medications, breaking household items, and causing damage to their vehicles. Despite repeated discussions about these issues, Nathan remains careless, often prioritizing his hobbies like streaming on TikTok over family responsibilities.
The situation reached a breaking point when Nathan left the front door open and a stove burner on, putting their daughter at risk. This culminated in a heated argument where the woman expressed that she saw him as a liability rather than a partner. Nathan's response was to withdraw completely, avoiding any interaction and spending all his time in the garage.
The woman loves Nathan and misses the dependable person he used to be. She has tried to communicate her concerns gently and suggested he see a doctor, but Nathan dismisses her worries, citing that people make mistakes. She feels overwhelmed and unsupported, despite having financial stability and external help like a weekly cleaner and part-time daycare for their daughter.
Nathan finally acknowledged the severity of his actions after seeing a TikTok about their situation. He agreed to seek medical help and admitted to being under the influence of alcohol during one of his major mistakes. He proposed paying for the damages he caused from his allowance and making changes to improve his behavior. The woman remains skeptical but hopeful that this might lead to a resolution.
In response to the online feedback, the woman has taken steps to adjust their financial arrangement, reducing Nathan's allowance and removing him as an authorized user on the household account. She is prepared for the possibility of divorce but is giving Nathan a chance to prove his commitment to change.
The couple has begun discussing their future, setting timelines for Nathan to demonstrate improvement. The woman hopes that this effort will either steer their relationship back on course or serve as a lesson in taking accountability, even if it means parting ways.
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Weaponized incompetence.
Like a step above to even.
Last 4 words of the last 4 paragraphs:
Just so you know.
He will read this.
Love alone isn't enough.
And sometimes requires divorce.
I dated someone dumb like this, it honestly creates so much anxiety just worrying wheather or no he'd burn the house down. Being nice & thoughtful isn't enough. It's embarrassing knowing that family & friends were laughing with eachother about his stupidity. Poor OP
NTA he put you and your child through too much
Thanks for your input!
“TikTok and streaming.”
Oh
Oh no
NTA: he half-ass you and your child and he only cares about what he likes\hobbies
He definitely has ADHD the forgetfulness
The lack of awareness of surroundings
The creative aspect of him
Even down to his emotional responce to injustice screams ADHD
Ive personally been him and never could figure out why i kept failing at everything i did but honestly it was simply focusing too hard on being the guy i used to be that i made it far worse than before. I understand the frustration from her perspective but this is what it may be like for him and many others with adhd it comes off as careless but it really isnt. Yeah.....i certainly know what being a liability felt like.
Kindof sounds like OP wants to be a mom to hubby instead of a partner since she doesn't even hold him accountable as a man or father. Not liking the people you work with is a part of life, most adults don't have the luxury of just quitting their jobs and making TikTok videos because we don't want to act like grown ups. Examples need to be set for the child, is hubby the kind of man you want to see her with.
No. He might have ADHD, and in that case should be medicated. I have a cousin with two babies with ADHD that works and now in sick leave because of a surgery he has to do and he is still waiting. I also knew a woman with a partned like that. He was a narcissist. It doesn’t matter what’s happening with him. He is a big baby! You will be happier being a single mother. He was a good husband but since he had to be a stay at home dad, he stopped being. He should see a especialist, the meds his mother took can be the cause of it.
Thanks for your insights! Do you think a specialist could make a difference in similar situations?
Autistic or ADHD?
Tf does autism have to do with any of that? ADHD maybe. But autism??
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