The #1 Flirting Mistake Women Make With Men - Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy
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Ever find when you meet a REALLY cute guy it’s impossible to flirt and just be yourself?
It’s a common scenario: You see that guy you like from across the room.
Your eyes meet his and he smiles (god, he looks adorable when he does that). Ok, he’s walking over to your group, it’s showtime… what do you SAY to him?!
Flirting with guys is tricky if you don’t know the right techniques. Sure, there are women out there who naturally “get it” and have some inherent skill at getting a guy’s attention.
But guess what?
Once you know the secret you’ll see how ANY woman can get men to notice her.
In this week’s video, I want to share the biggest flirting mistake women make when they meet a guy they really like. Then I’m going to show you in 3 minutes how you can turn that guy you like from a friend into something more with just a few magic words.
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Directed by JAMESON JORDAN
Written by MATTHEW HUSSEY & JAMESON JORDAN
Starring
MATTHEW HUSSEY
PAMELA MITCHELL
DAVID ODOM
Music
"Tippy Toes" by EMMETT COOKE
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www.TellMeFirstMatt.com
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I just realized that I know how to flirt- but with the guys I don't like. That scenario is exactly me. I didn't realize I was like this until now! But when it comes to the guy I'm attracted to, I literally pay him NO attention. Like I pretend he's not even there. What the heck is wrong with me?! I guess part of me is afraid of being vulnerable. I have a lot of pride. And I care what the guy I like thinks about me. 😩😩
SaraWithoutTheH Omg this is me exactly.
I can't even make eye contact when I like someone 😂
True!!! I was really like thia all the timeeee
Same.
SaraWithoutTheH I flirt with my friends😂😂😂. I wanna die
Me: "humm...this is easy" *memorising the lines*
Me in front of my crush: "...my name is jeff" *excessive sweating*
Shanaynay O'keil 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
_Me though!!_
😂
I like the 22 jump street reference 🤣🤣
LOL!
That woman walked away without using the coffee machine.
"get out of my way so I can make my coffee" and then she leaves.
it's all part of the mind games..
InShortSight :3 😂
That would be me irl
Haha she did xD
Ikr, this isn't the playground lmao flirting isn't just "being mean to the girl you like".... honestly the one thing that fucks me off more than anything to do with relationships is literally just how few of them there really are nowadays... it's not even about getting to know each other and being friends first anymore, now it's just sex or nothing. :L God forbid a person "catch feelings" because its "uncool" to have emotions apparently. xD
Me: "Why are you always on the coffee machine, when I come to make myself a coffee?"
Him: "Why you think that?"
Me: "No no you're supposed to say I'm following you now"
Some guys don't get flirting.
It means he's a smart dude who is in his head.
Or...
Me: "Why are you always at the coffee machine when I want to make a coffee?"
Him: "Sorry" and walks away
Me: later hears him telling someone how rude I was about the coffee machine earlier.
*sigh*
Lol, that's too funny, I think the trick has to be saying it softly with a grin/smile on your face
HAHAHA
Ha, this came to my mind
-Why are you always on the coffee machine, when I come to make myself a coffee?
-You see, there's a difference between correlation and causality. This is a commonly confused concept in public BLAH BLAH BLAH
-K dude
This is totally true for me because I have the worst anxiety with cute guys. I really liked the voice over with actors but now I want espresso!
Oh thank you, God! I now don't feel I'm the only one with anxiety issues regarding cute guys.
Today after doing a few groceries, I placed them on the cart escalator as I made my way down to the parking lot, and when I was ready to grab them at the bottom of the escalators, a gorgeous guy mentioned how that was clever. All I could do was grunt and give this awkward smile.
Julie Erin: Oh nooo! Awkward indeed...then again, i think i might have done that too. We women can jumble up inside when gorgeous guys suddenly bumped into us. Don't fret! Next time something similar happens again, we don't grunt at that next cute guy.
Rebecca Liew :)
Lol me too!!! The guys I find attractive intimidate me.
Yeah, that flirtation scene sent chills around my spine. Totally not happening! I would cringe to high heavens after saying those lines.
right? 😲
+Rimu N And that's why you have stop thinking like a Real Woman and start behaving like a boy! :D Because it ... will ... work.
+Rimu N I love that they're like taken out of a rom com lol
I WOULD!!! (((:
I agree, lol, but he's a man and he's an expert in this field. I might try this one day with a guy I find attractive but not really my type, personality wise, to see if it works, as an experiment. I wouldn't risk it with a man I really fancy.
I like the idea of having actors do it.
Almedia Lee Exum you’re brilliant lol
😂
That's called porn
Concerning 2:09, honestly, as a man, if I was approached by a woman that I was attracted to, and she directly told me her feelings and asked me out, I definitely say yes. I wouldn't stutter, I wouldn't feel emasculated, and I wouldn't judge her. There are men that actually appreciate a woman showing the same confidence and courage that is expected of men.
+Frank M Good comment. I am SO tired of having to act like you are into someone without acting like you're into them. It's stupid. I just tell the guy. He is right in this video that a lot of guys can't handle it, but I can't be bothered with games.
I'm so glad you said this! I'm more of a direct no bs type of person. I can't do these I like you, but type of flirting games. I be me and if that person don't like it then bye. Years of experience got me to realize that I need to associate myself with people who appreciates me for me. I'm an honest person looking for another honest direct person.
Ok, but I think Matt is talking about when a women has feelings for a guy, but this guy doesn't feel the same, I think it is the case when the women wants to win someone's heart. In this particular case, this guy, who is not interested, maybe wouldn't say "yes" if she asks him out. I know I would never say yes to a guy I am not interested. That is the point.
Camila Moroli
Fair point, but let's face it, if a person isn't in to you it's likely they never will be. Could they eventually come around? Sure, there are always exceptions to the rule, but usually you're not going to "win" someone if they don't feel at least a little attracted to you to start out with. And if they do "come around" it probably won't be because you played games or used some sort of "trick" to do it.
Serenadesong Fair point as well, but I don't know... I don't see it just as a game. I think a woman, using this "tricks" could make a guy ask her out, and during the date she wouldn't play games, but that would be her opportunity to create real connection... but that would only possible because they played around with each other first, she showed him she was someone that could be interesting... So I see the flirting as a catalyst. It is discarded as soon as possible. Of course, when you are dating you also flirt, but it is different when both already have feelings for each other... Maybe it is not common, yes, but I think it is perfectly possible to suddenly get interested by someone who flirted with you, and then, on a date, you start feeling attracted. The flirting thing is just to give someone the opportunity to get highlighted. But I understand what you guys said. I would only try this if I had really great feelings, and had no idea what else I could do, because I would feel very stupid... but, on the other hand, I wouldn't mind at all if a guy, who I am not interested in, used this resource to call my attention. (not an English speaker, sorry for any grammar mistakes).
I like the part with the actors. It adds something to the video
I relate to everything you said. flirting scares the crap out of me
I can also relate. I'm the girl who has a crush on someone forever and then I HAVE TO say something so I become the first example who throws everything in his face and he goes "ew no, you're gross".
Josefine Walther lol omg same, but now I'm like whatever.
Jane Silverstar
Wish I could be like "whatever". Intead I hate being in love.
Lol don't hate it embrace it. Also make sure if it's love or a crush. I allowed myself to believe crushes meant I was falling in love, but in fact, it of course wasn't.
Jane Silverstar
I've always considered them to be the same thing so I had to google it. I've only had a crush once and the rest has been love apparently.
I almost turned myself into an alcoholic because I discovered that when my inhibitions were turned off I could access the charismatic, intelligent, funny girl that my friends, family, and close coworkers could see. So I would drink. Before interviews, before dates, when I needed to step up my name for a certain corporate event.
It was bad.
But the concept, of just needing to relax, is correct.
bombervity same here! I'll have a glass of wine before a date and it's always successful because I'm flirty and silly and I talk! When I don't have that glass of wine before a date, I'm a disaster.
bombervity except that you can't almost become an alcoholic cause you are sort of addicted even before you drink. Addiction is hereditary. Have a great day :)
Somehow alcohol just makes me sleepy
SAME😂😂😂
I have the glass of wine on the date itself and tell myself to relax and that it's no biggie if he doesn't like me. That usually helps.
Now for awkward introverts like myself I'm gonna write this down on the hand and do the coffee trick :P
+Siham Al Ramahi introvert dont mean shy or awkward ;)
+Ruqayat Hime true introvert isnt a bad thing
Ruqayat Hime but I am awkward and shy....
Use it to your advantage! Quirks, if presented right aren't a bad thing.
Gem Fost I'm like Chandler Bin g trying to flirt :P
honestly if a girl walked up to me and asked me out, I would have mad respect for her because she doesn't play the childish games that I see a ton of other women do and she knows what she wants. She'll definitely be getting a coffee date that weekend and I'll happily pay.
I hope there are more men like you.
Because being straightforward is the way I deal with everyone :D
Coffee date. I-
I would invite her out.
Hell, if I didn't like her, I would have still gained a bunch of respect for her.
I'm like this too. And in the current political and social environment it the only safe policy for a guy.
I'm not certain the guy making these videos is being completely honest with women, because no guy would have said no in that situation to an attractive woman. Her approach is completely irrelevant because all the dude cares about is what she looks like until he gets to know her, then personality starts to be a factor.
Are you kidding me? THAT'S flirting? I thought I was just being playful! I mean, innocently playful, like a child. Holy shit, I had no idea flirting was so subtle... God this makes so much sense to me now, over the years, all of those people I accidentally flirted with...
Lol I know right? Like everyone I ever ran into... Geeeeez. No wonder I had such a "reputation". 🤣🤣🤣
lol
and now you know why men think women are bitches, cause you flirt with every guy you don't like and then when they take the "bait" they get called creepy or get in trouble.
and you don't even think about the ramifications that has on a mans reputation, being called creepy by a woman is basically a biological death sentence for men, cause you women love to gossip, so guess who gets to hear about that "creepy guy" you rejected? literally every other woman you know, now he has the "creepy guy" reputation among all the women hes gonna interact with, not to mention that rumor will quickly spread to the HR department, etc. all because you gave him the wrong signal, purposely threw that bait at him.
and judging from all the women commenting in this video, all of you seem to do this, its literally all there in the comment section, so you can't argue with me on this, you all admitted to it, which means you women need to take more responsibility with your behavior.
and if you ladies out there think i'm joking, why not look at the social climate right now. men are avoiding women at the work place now because of this exact behavior, and because this happened to so many men, other men ( including the ones you like) will just simply avoid you just to be safe, look up the " Mike Pence rule ", cause reputation is everything to a man because his ability to make a living depends on his reputation.
so keep in mind what you're doing when you willy nilly throwing out that bait to all the fish you don't want catching it.
@@TheGeckoNinja Well you're not supposed to be a fucking idiot and call the guy creepy unless, you know, he actually is creepy. Yeah, I admit I'm playful with a lot of people because it's naturally the way I communicate, and though it may sometimes be misleading I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with that (I've faced the same situation with guys and got over it). I just think it's important to not be a bitch about it when somebody mistakes it for flirting, especially since I know what it's like and usually the guys in question aren't dicks about it either.
I was thinking the same thing! 😂
Being playful and flirty go hand in hand
THIS NARRATIVE MADE ME LOL
+Ruqayat Hime "You know it's a good thing you and me are colleagues, cause we would be so much trouble for each other." Ha, ha, over coffee? Can't imagine anyone saying this in the US.
'Trouble?' *lifts eyebrow*
Some time ago I read that flirting should be considered to be a bit more intimate than a handshake and less intimate than a kiss and that -if both master the art of it- it can make people feel good about themselves afterwards. I liked the idea of that! I don't think flirting has to lead to more all the time. It can just be a way of expressing "I think you are attractive, have a lovely day" :-)
+Chr W. So true! And whether it makes anything happen or not, if you are having fun you already won :)
Agreed! Flirting is the most fun you can have for free.
absolutely.
If I'm told "it's a shame we can't be together" I would agree, move on and never look back. That's it. I do not love trouble. Fuck that shit. Plenty of trouble in life as it is. I'm outta here! Deuces!
It all depends on how you banter and tease, about which I have absolutely no idea, but obviously is not working. There must be a reason for that. If it's the typical annoying kind of teasing and bratty flirting, well, that may come across as you being the typical run of the mill silly girl playing the classic stupid mind games. Like those, there are millions out there. Eeeeeew!
Rodrigo Ramirez interesting to hear/read another perspective on this!
I agree. He could have used a better example. I would never consider her an option again after she said that line to me. too many women as is to 'chase' one who's already rejecting me, that would only work I imagine if she's smoking hot and if she was.. well, then I imagine she probably means it lol
Right! Chasing after someone who's already rejecting you is a waste of your time, and you may not be emotionally healthy if you fall for that kind of game. "Please! Let me be your door mat!" Lol.
Even if she's smoking hot, I don't care too much either. Those chicks need a reality check from time to time.
lol
Modern times. I'm hearing "you're in my way, I can make trouble for you." I would avoid her like the plague. I want to keep my job.
Every second of this video is EXCELLENT! I figured out a while back that I was doing this. I realized that, around guys I wasn't attracted to, and those who I may have found attractive but had girlfriends (so, unavailable to me), I was relaxed, funny, clever, and yes - flirtatious! There were several times when coworkers, friends, and my mom teasingly said something about me flirting with someone. I thought "I was not flirting with him, I don't even like him that way." Eventually, I realized that WAS flirting! And I did it naturally because I wasn't uncomfortable! And I realized that around guys I liked I was censoring myself, acting really self conscious and boring. I also noticed that when I felt comfortable with a guy, having fun together and inadvertently developing chemistry, as soon as I began feeling an attraction I would start acting different. I'd get nervous and weird and my sense of humor went out the window because, like Matthew said, I would shut down.
I love this voice over thing! Matt you should really consider making a rom com film lol
I love love love this idea. Hahaha especially the voiceover was brilliant.
A little bit of bratty flirting always works well! Great lip-synching in the office scene! Loved it! You rock Matthew.
LoL, "bratty" flirting..? ;)
Guh. I've always hated the "bratty flirting." In my case, it makes me look like a b, and then it scares guys away even more. That's why I always do the "nice and impressed flirting."
I think she means cheeky haha :)
@@1TrueJuliet - I agree. I prefer to be nice and have the guy be nice. Nice and sweet bowl me over every time.
I love when the actress starts talking and Mr Hussey's voice comes out 🤣🤣🤣💜
3:14 Girl: “Just get out the way so I can make my coffee”
*Girl walks away instead*
😂
I love it when actors are used in videos like this xDD
That applies for a workplace but what about other situations! WE NEED MORE
senpaixsammy It was just an example, use your emtpy brain.
The guy I like always says "What's up Irene?" And I always get nervous and end up just saying "Hi" in a shy, quiet voice😂
😂😂😂
"And now, you're the most boring version of yourself" yup it happens 😂
Let's just hope the guy in my criminal law class follows this exact script!
Tatenda Madondo 😂 ikr. only if.....😊
Seriously? Are you that lame?
I need an update ... dit it work ?
Spending a Sunday afternoon watching Matt. He fills me with happy feelings. I need to make some friends with traits like him, he is so sparky, cute and fun. What a joyous well spoken guy.
Matthew you look amazing in that outdoor setting. So fresh and full of life 👍
agree 100% such good hair :D and muscles ;)
Right on the money! Learning stand up comedy helped with this. I learned to deliver fun one liners and bounce off of what people were saying. I practiced every where I went. When I start getting that quiet oh no I like him feeling and start to get more SERIOUS... I pull out mantra in my head "Insert Humor" "Have Fun" it works. It takes me out of my head and focus's me on what's fun here. I hope idea helps anyone else in achieving Matt's marvelous advice!
I dont know man. Flirting at work place is risky. You could be sent to HR.
Fadhlie Ikram despite all the risk work place has been the best place to flirt and cultivate relationships.. i dont flirt in the family or stand at the bus stop to flirt.. that would make one pervert
ensayofr No you are minimising rape. Something a woman or a feminist would never do. Men have been putting their hands on women employees for centuries and making inappropriate suggestive remarks and laughed it off as flirting when in actual fact it was sexual harrassment. It's about time this was stopped. Flirting is harmless friendly banter. If you are confusing the two then maybe it's time to wise up and be more considerate in your views about women and feminists.
@@mandyg5747 you are assuming that women are rational individual,there is many cases women report to hr and make up stories just to destroy you.
@@Shadowsong10 True - they are probably Narcissists - why make something so awful up? Many men also lie about what they have done too.
@@Shadowsong10 thank you for rudely calling me s baboon. I am not a feminist - nothing in my reply suggested that but I have been abused by men. I do not hate men and do not favour all women. There are good and bad of both men and women. You sound like a woman hater and just as bad as the feminists you are calling. I don't know what a feminist believes in but I believe in treating all people with respect. That does not make me a feminist or a man hater. Nor do i deserve to be called such nasty names. Read my comment again. I agreed that some women do falsely report sexual harassment but NOT all. And you replied to my comment to someone else. I don't understand why you are bring rude or would think that is ok even if I had disagreed with you....which I did not. Good day to you.
The guy at the espresso machine has beautiful eyes 👀
Sw33tSparkl3 I wanna say that's Matt with a mask over...😋
LOVE the little play out with Matt's voice :)....hilarious
OMGGG, HOW ARE YOU ABLE TO SAY THE RIGHT THINGS WHEN FLIRTING???? I SUCK AT THIS AND YOU DESCRIBED ME THE FIRST 30 SECS OF THE VIDEO, I'LL END UP ALONE AND WITH CATS ='((((((((((
+16Meily Same problem, I always think of the wittiest, most playful things I should have said AFTER IT'S ALL OVER :/
Tamara Jovic same here girl, you're not alone
As a dude I can say we're the same, but the difference generally is, that we get more practice. Should it be that way? Nope. So, practice makes perfect :)
16Meily again someone with the cat thing poor cats
@Alies Alies Great tips! Thank you Alies!
Yeah I am normally too shy. I feel for the guys. They actually have to make the first moves according to society. I would be so scared..
It seems that way from the outside looking in but once you dealt with it, built confidence, and realize the only thing you lose from this situation is allowing a chance someone you like slip away and live with regret will far exceed a chance she laughs, says no, or you screw up. Again, it's about flirting not proposing so if done right you don't have to feel shy. just need to love yourself and start with lower expectations
no thats only to ask someone out, anyone can make the first flirt move
honestly, just sitting there and having to wait for someone else to ask you out would be so painful isn't it?
Women couldn't vote, according to society.
lol yikes i completely relate to this scenario, i actually do like a colleague that i've worked with now for almost 7 months now & every time he comes within feet of me i freeze up & my carefree, happy, flirty personality goes away bc i'm trying so hard not to look dumb or turn him off or somehow in my head seem less attractive if i'm acting too goofy. thinking that staring into space or being quiet will make him wanna talk to me or pay attention to me more if than if i'm being outgoing & loud. basically i'm single handedly ending my own chances of ever being with anyone i like bc i shut down all my attractive emotions :/
So my sister and I are sitting down watching all your videos, and we click on this one and basically one of the first things you say is "when you are around the people you genuinely like, parts of you shut down and you get nervous." We hear this and my sister hits me on the shoulder.. obviously she knows what I need to be paying attention to.
UPDATE:
We are watching farther into the video and you say "So say you like a guy at work-" My sister audibly laughs because this video was practically made for me and she just can't get enough of it!
I love the production value on these videos
This is so funny in that this exact thing occurs with me....when I'm attracted to a man, I become nervous and a bit silly...but when I am not at ALL ATTRACTED to a man, I am always myself and ultimately the guy is right there vying for my attention. I have been aware of this for a while and I've realized I must discipline myself by doing the exact opposite...pretending I am not at all attracted to a man. Easier said than done!!!!
i'm standing at the coffee machine:
her: "you're always hogging the coffee machine."
me: Oh, I'm sorry. here ya go. (I walk away thinking "jeez what did I do to piss HER off ?")I'm not even aware of what a flirt is.
Thanks, Tom. Not sure about this video. You have restored my faith in men -- the kind I'd like to meet; and, to me, the script he suggests -- that's not flirting : )
especially if u are on "nofap" you would fucking destroy that girl.
Yeah flirting just goes right over my head too. I just assume she's being polite.
Nobody flirts with me and i automatically assume peoples dont like me, maybe because i dont like myself
Mathew Hussey taught me to be a bitch to men and I thought it was cute until guys thought I was rude
I just watched so many of your videos that everything got super complicated and I am sure now I will never get the guy I like (he was trying to flirt with me, I was not getting it, after I realised it, he seemed to be not interested anymore and now I'm in a trap + he's shy). And I should be working now. My brain is dead. Men are more complicated than I ever imagined.
This is so true omg. Well at least for me I’m currently trying to stop this habit
This format is hilarious! Very good. Well done, Jameson!
BACHELOR HERE, AND I APPROVE OF THIS MESSAGE ; )
+Michael Ambrose ... is that you Dan ;) ?
are you his brother? I mean hello
hey bachelor! let's go out!
Dashing Bachelor, are you a Marilyn fan?
+Michael Ambrose Why are you always hogging the comment section when I'm trying to input my two cents?
So glad I'm still subscribed to this guy. He makes everything sound like you're hearing it for the first time!
I would gladly hear this guy talking all day just because of his accent... just... superb
Lmao Matt u really did a wonderful job on this vid the humor is at a perf 10 no shit good job man. Made it really enjoyable to watch.!
Flirting is an art and if you don't find it fun you're doing it wrong. Also, loving the new editing!
From the bottom of my heart, thank you Matthew for this video. It's exactly what I needed to hear in every way possible, and then some.
This is my favorite video format of all the Get the Guy videos I've seen!! Love it, love it, love it. Keep up the awesome work Matthew and Jameson :) I can't wait to see what you guys come up with next.
Matthew already got me a boyfriend... I don't know why I keep watching these flirting videos 😹
I loved the enacting part. Awesome Matthew
The part with the actors really helped me understanding such situations! Thanks so much!
absolutely perfect advice. clamming up is so true of me, when actually there is a flirtatious woman waiting to appear! thankyou so much.
I adore this video and the awesome enactment of his quotes!
i love all of that voiceover
Yeah that's neatly done!
Matthew, the comment box does not have enough space for describing how amazing you are and the consept you have created. You are my inspiration!
When I have days when I feel low about love life or life in general, I watch your videos and will get back on track! Thank you! I have been an active follower and book reader for some time but I should have been more active commenting and giving you feedback.
Btw,
You bring together two of my biggest passion: Get the Guy and Nespresso
Love the voice overs! This helps me visualize what to say so much better
Great message and can I just say I love that shirt. You personally wear it fabulously, but I also love the shirt itself. Great style!
I thought it was hotter the first time. She was upfront and honest. That proves that she's more interested in having an invested relationship than if she just considers me some side option. Sorry, mate, this simply just isn't my style.
This man is a genius
You're flirting tips are spot on though. Thanks for sharing them to everyone. Love you Matthew!❤
Oddly enough, I'm so good at flirting with people I'm already comfortable with being around, that I know, but with strangers my mind just says "game over" and I freeze up and can't do anything. I need to get less shy.
My biggest question in life answered. Thank you!
Thank you! Your effort at being specific and touching on a lot of
subjects and being constant has been my nutrient needed to grow from
caterpillar to butterfly! ❤
Love how this was produced; great job!
If someone said that to me and walked away.... boy I already built us a house.
I love your channel, Matt 😌
I would absolutely hate if a woman came up to me and said something like, "it's a good thing you and me are colleagues because we could be so much trouble for each other."
How do I take this? Do I read it as flirtation? A joke? Is it an actual indication that she doesn't think us dating is a good idea? Does "no mean no" here?
Honestly I'd prefer directness
This has really helped me. And not just this one video, but all of your videos. Especially with all of the drama of boys and the pressure of not dating someone your fellow women give you.
"Trouble you say, cause men love trouble" hahaha BEST
Okay, I feel like this video goes from antisocial geeky expression of love to extreme flirting. Where is the healthy in between? Does anyone else agree with me here?
You mean you would like to see two characters that are silently staring awkwardly at each other, like in real life?? Matthew has a creative way of illustrating where we are all wasting time and opportunities and endlessly overthinking and under estimating the power of a smile, eye contact, and simple fun.
This video is informative, but i can't get over how funny it is when matt is talking over the video of the two colleagues, XD made my day!!!
Matthew!!! The trouble line works!!! I’ve been messaging a guy about meeting up. COVID makes things complicated. He kept saying something like “I’m sure we’ll figure something out”. Once I responded with “I guess it depends on how much trouble we want to get into” I had him! He responded that “trouble sounds like fun” 😉
I’m recently divorced after knowing someone for 17 years. This is my first foray into dating. Thank you for giving me new confidence!!!!
"You know, it's a good thing we're coleagues coz we'd be so much trouble for each other"
If a man flirted like this he would be risking his job and a potential sexual harassment lawsuit.
If a woman flirts like this she risks being slightly embarassed for 2 minutes.
youre not wrong lol
Don’t shit where you eat
As someone who is completely out there and non shy when I like someone, I can say that looks i.e. if you're not hot enough, are the reason someone's not interested. Its shallow but its true. or at least its true in my age group. I'm 17 and I board and the guys are brutally honest saying that if someone's not hot theyre way less likely to be interested. it sucks
Hot is subjective, one mans unattractive is another mans hot. It would be a very boring world if we all liked the same. Also I'm assuming you're referring just to someone's appearance whereas "hot" and attractiveness is the full package and not just the way someone looks.
im sorry u had to see dudes say that. However the problem with most beautiful looking ppl is that they never have to search for themselves, they never learn to grow beyond the shallow. why, because as soon as a relationship ends, they already have a replacement on the side line. wemon love this about men who are dicks and mistake him as "confident".
When you're 17 maybe. Guys have too many hormones raging.
That's pretty shallow
Don't fret! It gets better with time. :3 Most people start appreciating other stuff when we grow up. Just grow to be a person you love to be. ;)
I LOVE this video. Favorite yet with the way that the actors mouth Matthew's words. Hilarious and effective!
was listening to a string of your videos last night and you had some really good advice as far as interpersonal relationships in general. thanks for the vids!
So you're telling me I been flirting with the guys I'm not interested in without realizing 😩
Cute video, Matt. I especially enjoyed your voice over on her
AMAZING, loved the format of this video! x
I love watching these for the scenarios. They're entertaining.
Loved the acting! More, please :)
Hmmm, what I see happening next is being called into the HR office.
😂😂😂
Love. This. I'm an expert flirter & have zero issues getting the guy. The issue is I'm often attracted to those who aren't right for me. Working on my radar now & learning to consider the unfamiliar (a totally different vibe) because the familiar hasn't been healthy for me.
Holy crap. This video FINALLY makes me understand how flirting works. THANK YOU!
im just watching this again and reading comments... i dont think being nervous is the reason some ppl only get attention from guys they DON'T fancy while being too nervous to get attention from the guys they do fancy. That sounds a bit cliché as ive heard that before. I think it is simply about good looking ppl knowing full damn well they're good looking and knowing whether or not they are out of someones 'LEAGUE'... i think its about whether someone thinks they are too hot for someone or not ie knowing whether or not they 'can do better'. I mean if you fancy someone or think they're hot you're gonna fancy them regardless of whether theyre nervous/shy or not arent you? So if a guy is attracted to u they will be interested in u whether u are nervous or not. BUT if you act 'stuck up' in front of someone u fancy then that might put them off someone but i dont think nerves will, not in my opinion, anyway.
Matt, thank you for this video - now I understand why I keep getting guys I don't want. I wasn't aware that I was being "flirty" with the guys I wasn't interested in (I guess 'cause I felt sorry for them)- and with guys I like I was being serious and polite, and they just by-pass me. Now I understand I have to reverse strategy :-)
+Elizabeth Carey you should read his book "Get the Guy" and if it does the same thing as it did for me, you will get a lot of a-ha moments!
Jc H Thanks for the heads up, I'm going to go look for it this week-end. I've been doing a lot of inner work and I just recently noticed I stopped finding guy with problems appealing. I was at the market and there was this really cute looking guy checking me out, we made eye contact, I smiled and kept going. I noticed him watching me with that longing look on his face, even at the check out. And then I realized what seemed so familiar about him - he had that "I have the weight of the world on my shoulders" - that kind of super needy vibe, that makes a woman want to "rescue" men like that only later to find out how screwed up the guy is. No part of me responded to the bait, not my heart, or my brain - I maintain a stoic look, paid for my purchases and left. Some might say "maybe he's not like that" - however the emotionally unavailable men I dated before, gave off that same vibe - which is how I got baited into getting involved with them in the past. I'm really really proud of myself! :-)
Eliz Cringle such an idiot, you don't have decide who is emotionally available or judge them the first time you see them.
You can just get to know them on a date, you don't have to continue for second date.
Stop forcing yourself on judging people.
Ikr. Same. And it's f annoying
Classes are usually boring, but yours is funny 😄. I enjoy attending your classes! 😙
Its amazing how by watching some of your videos I could see everything I have been doing wrong in the first guy I have actually liked. Thank you a lot, its like much more easy to understand now.
Oh Crap, I do this flirting thing all the time with people who I have no interest in dating at all and then they throw themselves at me and I'm like "No, I'm good. I'm going to go do some accounting or pretend to be doing something so you'll leave me alone"
This was hilarious!
Your best video yet. Good job Jameson! And also that Matthew fellow is ok.
i love this voice over format, lol - so good lol
He's kinda bad at lip syncing to your lines
But she's VERY good
I don't become boring around the guy I like I become more awkward than usual
Mathew!!!! This video is genius, and I have laughed a lot. Keep them coming 👏🙃
LOVE your videos!!✨