When You Squeeze An Orange | My Tribe | Dealing With Mean Rude People
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My grandma used to tell me “Kelly, people are usually doing their best, allow God to correct them that’s NOT your job” She was right! I can’t tell you how many blessings I’ve received just for extending the same grace extended to me. Love these ❤️2❤️’s.
Your grandma sounds like a very wise woman.
Your Grandma had wonderful Advise!!
When someone is nasty, don't take it personally. It says nothing about you but a lot about them!! Loved ur video today!! ❤
it sure sure does :)
I believe the more you talk about rudeness, the more it fuels the negativity. Focus on the good. That’s why I watch.
Please never loose your simple thoughtfulness in life! Thanks for sharing !
There are soooo many layers to each and everyone of us, so many different conditionings! I try to be empathetic to "mean" "rude" people, they are definitely going through something.
I believe that in a relationship, always trying to be right can be damaging. An emotionally strong and unselfish person is able to hold their tongue. If it’s still worthy of a conversation, cooler heads will prevail after some time has passed.
Mean, rude people only show others how miserable and unhappy they are in their own lives. Love these Wednesday videos!💜
Exactly! I had a stranger tell me on Facebook how I’m unhappy and petty and emotional based on stating facts to defend women in domestic violence relationships. The man revealed himself that he’s abusive. Just mind blown how they reveal themselves by belittling others.
Oooooo girl!!! Sometimes letting it roll off takes extra strength!!! But the way you feel five minutes later, as compared to the way you’d feel had you taken an adversarial stance, is just so much better!
Still… it takes practice, practice, practice 🙏
I love how you are an example of both being a classy lady and being strong and intelligent at the same time. There is a softness about you that is so engaging. Great video!
Can't say that I agree 100% with that Doctor's analogy about the orange because when squeezed, many people react differently to different people. I definitely saw this throughout my career with customers and coworkers etc
I work with a couple people that are extremely rude to me. I am nice to them and I did nothing wrong. I just keep telling myself that “it’s their issue, not mine”. I won’t let them bring me down.
"You don't want there to be a Winner or a Loser" So very true. Sent chills through me. That was perfectly said. You don't want the people that you love and care about the most to be a loser. Really touched my heart. Lisa you are the sweetest most genuine person. You have not changed the whole time that you have been on UA-cam. AND THAT GOES BACK TO THE ORANGE JUICE AND WHO YOU ARE INSIDE. Thank you for being you. Love and hugs to you and your sweet family
I said this in response to last video, there is a time to speak up and a time to walk away. It only makes one a fool to argue your point, when the other person will not hear you. I love your view on this type subject.❤
Hurt people hurt people; it's the complete truth. If you're hurt, please seek out help for yourself. Thank you Lisa; powerful words.
What I’ve learned is that you need to discern which battles are worth fighting and when to walk away. Sometimes you can correct a person that might not know what they are saying or doing is hurtful - at times it’s best to walk away maybe slowly or fast.
Omg… Lisa Wayne Dyer saved my life at the age of 15 … literally saved my life… Hes amazing & so are you!!!! Wow!! Thank you so much!!! His books are freaking amazing!! Love&light from California 💗💗
Last time I went off was in 2018 on a group of “friends” while playing a drinking game. They were picking on me ganging up and bullying me💁🏼♀️ I went off on all of them like a hurricane and a tornado combined. 😬 I was bullied as a kid and just took it but now that I’m grown and found my voice I engaged. I had a “carrie” moment and I became the monster. I still remember it and hated how I lashed out. I didn’t have to prove anything to them. Those weren’t friends. I stopped drinking and dropped all the bad influences and refuse to be baited ever again.
good for you the world would be MUCH improved if we dropped all our bad influences
Lisa- I’ve been watching you for a couple years and just love your growth and wisdom. Love everything about you! You are a sweetheart🥰🥰🥰
I think when you learn not to engage, you're empowered. I have grown to feel sorry for people who are rude, etc. Good food for thought today! I really like those jeans on you.
Lisa I have been following you for years. This is you at your best! KEEP IT UP!
I have just had my 58th birthday and I have discovered that a lot of issues with people you know such as friends family or even neighbors have to do with jealousy and unhappy people. Misery loves company. If they can't be happy they try to make other Happy people miserable.
All true and well said. We can all stand to hear this. Thanks Lisa! Have a blessed week!
I understand what yuh mean about not want to be a door mat, I usually walk away from conflict if I decide t will take more from me to enter into the conflict than to leave it alone. My energy, my head space, my good qualities are precious, and conflict and confrontation may take that from me - I guard my energy and don’t easily give it up to the unworthy or the unnecessary.
I definitely think there is a difference between being assertive and being aggressive. Being assertive, to me, means being true to the best of me and having clear boundaries. If someone is being rude and disrespectful, I always remind myself that it’s reflective of them and the issues they have/are having. Having said that, if someone is aggressive, I do my very best to pause and just make it clear I am not engaging with that type of behavior. Some years ago, I did experience a situation with a family member that upset me and made me lose trust in them. I made it clear that their actions were unacceptable and inappropriate. I did not engage in a back & forth; other cues indicated to them that lines were crossed. At one point, they approached me and asked me if I had anything to say to them. I knew it was not the path for me. I quietly said that there was nothing to discuss. The person in question did not show any remorse or regret. It was more of “Whatever you say to me, I will use against you and make more trouble and cause more turmoil”. It was not worth it.
The “Orange” metaphor is always an interesting one. We all have issues (we have experienced some kind of trauma, hardships, etc); do we all go around spewing disrespect, hatefulness, creating havoc and turmoil to others in our lives? Some feel/think they have a license to that; others do not.
A Gandhi quote that I find very powerful is “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet”.
Thanks, Lisa, for making your channel a place of self reflection and growth. 💙
OMG! My grandpa used to use that "slippery as an Eels ass" . . .that made me laugh out loud :) Thank you for this Lisa
I agree and totally get what you're saying! I've been driving almost 4 hrs a day to keep my granddaughters and homeschooling which has been a life changing thing and I'm so tired....but my daughter kept going off on me in the morning. Shes never been a morning person and she's always liked to take things out on me. I taught her to stand up for herself and I was fiesty back when I was younger so she gets it honestly but I just can't handle the morning fussing..it ruins everyone's day. I finally stood up to her and told her I'm not going to be disrespected or her punching bag. It makes sense what ur saying about squeezing the orange juice. I'm at a point in life where aurguing just isn't something I have the energy to do. As I've aged and become closer to God I have a different perspective on everything and life's just too short to get upset and upset others. And like u said people are all different and have different views and that's what makes us individuals. It's ok to be different and that's one thing that seems to be being pushed out there. It doesn't mean people are bad just because they might believe differently. It seems people are very up-tight and I blame the media for a lot of it. I don't believe anything they say anymore. There's also a spiritual war going on out there. Good against evil. I wanna learn how to put on my full armour of God too. Sorry so long...I do get exactly what you're saying! Love u Lisa! Have a great weekend full of Blessings!! 💓
I love your kindness! Keep doing what you are doing. I enjoy watching your videos. Loved today’s message. It was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!
The Bible says it the best.... (since I am a preacher lol) out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. I like to say out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth leaks. What's inside will come out, all their thoughts and beliefs so let's make love so much in us that love will leak out. Love all you share my beautiful friend. ❤️😇
Lisa, I’ve been watching you for a long time, you have been mostly upbeat, positive, complimentary and kind. Thank you, for being you. Honest, what you see is what you get. Don’t sweat the small stuff.❤️
I love the orange juice lesson. I work with the public at my job and the public can be so nasty and rude. This helps me think of those people differently. Thanks Lisa
With age comes wisdom . I never really got in a tiff with anyone , but sometimes I was frustrated on how things happened when I walked away . That’s was not good for me either . Now that I am old I just let it roll of my mind. A paster once said , if they are mean when they are young they are great at it when they are old. Some people don’t want to seek wisdom on how to walk in Love.
Lisa, please don’t stop with videos like this and Monday’s. The BEST! I love your fashion and Friday Haul videos too. Soul food after a long week of work. Thank you thank you thank you. 💗💗
let’s agree to disagree is a good response to arguments. I go to mass most days and that sets me up for a positive day, reminding me that I haven’t walked in the rude or mean persons shoes and to show them kindness
So much wisdom! Thank you Lisa!
Awesome insight Lisa.🌸 It takes more wisdom, self-control, and strength to hold your tongue and not give in to the innate impulse to open your mouth and give the offender "what they deserve." It is never wise to argue with the mean/nasty/negative/angry/argumentive person because there is no logic or reason within them at that moment. Anything you say will simply escalate the issue, making you feel awful afterward. Stephen Convey's 7 Habits is one of my favorites. Thank you for sharing.
YOU ARE SO INSPIRING.I CAN REALLY RELATE TO YOU.I AM VERY KIND,COMPASSIONATE AND EMPATHETIC,I THINK,SOMETIMES TO A FAULT. IF SOMEONE IS MEAN TO ME,I THINK I DID SOMETHING WRONG AND SOMETHING MUST BE WRONG WITH ME. I WORK ON TRYING TO CHANGE THAT AND LIKE YOU SAID"THAT IS MY JUICE"AND IT'S SWEET...WHY WOULD I WANT TO LOSE THAT TO SOMEONE WHO JUST WANTS TO BULLY AND TAKE AWAY MY GOODNESS.
I WISH I COULD MEET MORE FRIENDS LIKE YOU.
Everything you said makes so much sense!!! You are absolutely right Lisa!!!
Lisa, my step-mom used to say, "Oh Honey, that's just the way they are".....she crossed over in 2003, but anytime I feel that someone is rude to me, I can hear her saying that, and it somehow all feels less personal. Love you....would like more healthy living and healthy thinking episodes such as this!......xox
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You give such thoughtful and heartfelt suggestions. I love it when you share your knowledge and your sources of information. I also follow a Carnivore with a splash of Keto Diet and I am healthy and thin but I constantly face criticism from my ‘fluffy’ friends. You should write a book for all of us to improve our outlooks and approaches. You are blessed and a blessing!!
Lisa Loved this! I like Dr Dwayne Dyer!! I was Nieve on mean people till I went to a Big factory to work for 11yrs. There I learned how some women love to be mean! It was hard to hear & girls gossips about others, took me a while to deal with it. My Mom used to say let it roll off your back, like water runs off a ducks back. Yrs later I feel like the only ones that can hurt me are my kids, & my husband. Which is so much better, I just dont let others steal my Joy, Which means some people you have to keep at arms length away. This has helped so much, some people are just out to be dramatic & stir the pot. Sometimes with my husband, I just let little things go, instead of fighting with him. I just want to not have Drama over little things that he probably didnt mean it the way I took it!! I get what your saying & Agree!! Tfs
I love these videos so much! I look forward to them everytime! Thank you so much for being here, Lisa!!
You said ‘chump’ love it Lisa, it’s funny sometimes you can defuse a situation by being extra kind and being an example. In my career I loved to change a grumpy persons attitude and get them to smile, people sometimes are just lonely, however I believe there are just mean people in the world sad too.
Lisa. Great video! Thanks for sharing all of your thoughts, knowledge and research with "Your Tribe" which I'm glad I'm a part of! :)
Oh my gosh, thank you for that orange story! So cool. What comes out of you when you get squeezed - and we can CHOOSE/CHANGE what comes out of us! (I need God to help me with that :) Thank you Lisa. xx
Excellent video 🥰Lisa! And I enjoyed learning some fancy words! 🤣
Thank you for this great advice Lisa. I really needed it at this time in my life. You’re such a sweetheart.
Love,
Barb
I work retail and I enjoy people! There are a few people who are just mean! Just ignore them, it’s their problem!
Thank you! Loved the orange analogy 🍊
"Slick as an eels ass"😂😂😂😂love it! Never heard that one before! Patience with people is probably my biggest fault and problem these days! Anger has been coming out of me alot this past year and a half. I need to spend time calming myself and stop worrying so much about the state of things.🥺 Thanks for these discussions.💞
I absolutely love what your channel has evolved into. I get so much from you and enlightened so often. Still love all the makeup and fashion too though😉
That’s right Lisa don’t let anyone take away your sweet orange juice❤️😊😘🤗
Enjoyed these videos. Sometimes I slide in to reactivity but when I am able to resist it does feel more like a win and definitely is more peaceful. I like to think it may rub off on the person as well and what a better world that would be .
By the way, that orange analogy is LIFE CHANGING
I love your videos Lisa, your wisdom and advice about life and relationships has been such a wow moment for me and made me rethink my perspective on life and my marriage , all for the better. I am going to be 50 next month and listening to you makes me think you are like the sister I never had as I’m an only child and the topics you talk about have never been anything my Mother would ever want to discuss. Thankyou for all you do.
Lisa, you are such a sweetheart. I can see that you're trying to be the best you can be & help others understand your process. It is so helpful and heartwarming - Thank you!
Your skin looks so glowing today Lisa ❤ I love Wayne Dayer and always listen to his videos, they are so powerful and eye-opening
I’ve been reading Dr. Wayne Dyer for almost 30 yrs. He was a brilliant man. Now that you discovered him and start to read more your personal growth will explains. I recommend listening to everyday wisdoms over and over. I played it in my car since he was in a kiddie seat. He’s 12 now and has the entire book mesmerized.
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I’m not going to finish your video because my evolution has surpassed a lot of his writings. I learned this so many moons ago. Your children will benefit as well. It’s so empowering
Love
Great points, Lisa. They’ve been pushing the negative, divide and conquer propaganda for a few years now, negativity all the time, you really have to look for positive stories. Can’t take the bad attitudes personally, I’m always extra friendly to the sour pusses, it either shakes them out of it, or they double down and amp up tell you to flip off.
Also love the message - make your marriage the winner, and don’t beat down those you love.
I thought about this all day today. Thank you for the message.
Oh gosh Lisa - On a recent business trip the TSA agent was just vile; yelling at people and was just horrible. I had to really resist confronting her rudeness. I let it slide and moved on with my day! No regrets!
Just wanted to say your a beautiful person inside and out. I understand everything you said l have people like that always trying to steal my joy . and I believe there hurting over something that happened.
Wow!!!! The orange squeeze oh my that really hit me u r so right I have always got my feelings so so hurt when someone is rude to me this has really gave me something to think about. wow how profound.! Thank u so much u r such a inspiration. I hope u know how u r helping people everywhere.
Thank you for your beautiful words! I really needed to hear them today! ❤
I loved every minute of this. Thank you.
When somebody squeezes me botox comes out lol
I try to not dislike people these days but some of them make it really hard. lol I hope you are doing well and having a great time in the new hacienda ! 💁🏻♥️☀️
Thank you, Lisa, for this !!
I love where you are going with your videos! What you said, made so much sense. I really enjoyed the one the other day, as well, when you talked about your relationship with John. My husband was sitting beside me smiling as we listened. When you were describing John's personality, I thought, that is just like my husband. Thanks for sharing!
I don’t agree with that analogy, just because people have hardships and we all have them in our lives is not an excuse for anyone to be rude or disrespectful in public.
I don’t think it is meant to be an excuse, just an explanation. It certainly doesn’t make it right but it can be the reason for why someone acts the way they do.
Humans are flawed. Grace and compassion towards others and with ourselves can be so helpful to staying in peace and love. Love always wins ! Always! I recommend a great book by Marianne Williamson called “A Return to Love”. It’s amazing and will change your life❤️ I read it 15 years ago for the first time.
I love Marianne Williamson 📚
Your hair looks so healthy!
I have found that most people who love to provoke, hate, bring pain or insult are often governed by fear.
The more I cling to the Lord, find His peace, the less their fear can affect me. ☺️🙏🏻❤️
THANK YOU LISA 😊
I immediately wrote this down "First, seek to understand, then seek to be understood." I hope I can remember to do this...I rarely watch the news, but this a.m. I happened to be watching the news and there was a story of a lady in a Chipotle's and apparently because Chipotle's was short staffed, there was some problem with her getting her food and she is saying "Somebody better get me my food" and I thought that person has no idea what it is like to work in a restaurant or better yet, she needs to return home and fix herself something to eat instead of being so nasty to people just trying to work (maybe this a case of seeking to understand?)
Wow that kind of video I love !! Thank you so much !! ❣
You are so introspective. I enjoy your conversations so much.
I love all of your videos, but, I really love the videos where you share life wisdom with us. You always have a refreshing take on things💗💗
I’m enjoying these videos so so much!!! ❤️
You always have something that makes me a better person! Thank you for being such a good role model! 🧡
Thank you Lisa ❤
Soooooo good!
I enjoy your videos!
Happy Fall!
Have a wonderful day!
Hey Lisa! Dillard’s formally J.B White’s 😳Nooooooooo that’s shocking! How unsouthern! 😜Seriously,the customer WAS always right with them!! I asked you on your last video if you have heard of Evy Pompouras ! I left my comment late but she is awesome! I’m practicing responding instead of reacting! Hard but makes so much sense. Like you said I want peace in my life and to have good days!!This so good what you talked about today!! It really is life changing!! Thank you Lisa!! We need this!!! 🍁🍂🌾
Loved the video and the advice. As my dad use to say, "Take the high road".❤❤❤❤💜💜💜💜
This video really opened my eyes !! Thank you, Lisa. These types of videos are my absolute favorite ❤️
Through the years, I’ve learned a lot from the late Wayne Dyer. His advice is timeless. Hard to believe it has been six years since his passing. 😔
Really enjoyed this video...such good insight!
The orange story definitely hit home, thanks for bringing this into my view.
I’m always nice…my Family says too nice. But being nice and respectful in all situations says everything about Me…and everything about the one who tries to gear me up.
Love this so much ~💖
Drive Thru everything!!
my favorite line in a song is "don't let them steel your thunder"
🧡💜❤️ The orange juice analogy is so clear. Thank you Lisa ❤️💜🧡
OMG Lisa so much wisdom! thank you for sharing and giving so much food for thought ❣
Wow. Can’t tell you how bad I needed this video today. I didn’t even KNOW I needed this. Thank you, Lisa!!!💞
Well said! I was watching this guru today name Sadhguru. He’s amazing! He says something along those lines like if you allow someone to decide who you are, then it would mean you’re a slave to them. Something like that. There are two types of people, there are joyful people and miserable people. Don’t give that power to the miserable party. Don’t give them permission to decide who you are.
Lisa you are just wonderful🎈! Thank you ! Again for a great video
I feel exactly the same. All of it 🥰
Your videos just keep getting better 🌟 Thank you 🌟✨ when you squeeze me, I’m pure sugary sweet orange juice 🍊 😊I try very hard to live with joy 🤩 nobody dims my light with there reflection 🪞🌈🥰 I always take a moment and pray for angry or rude people to be filled with God’s love 💕
Just to say when people are rude to me I generally know it is because for some reason they don't respect me. Also it can mean they think rather a lot of themselves. And of course there are mean people i.e sociopaths.
Lisa, good for you, you get IT