Let's Talk About Parasocial Relationships and Parasocial Communities
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- Опубліковано 25 чер 2024
- I'm fascinated by parasocial relationships and I hope you are too. Join me for a deep dive into parasocial relationships, including what I think of the parasocial relationships people form with me!
Let me know what you think!
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Can’t wait to hear about Parasocial relationships from my close friend Caroline
Yes, my close personal friend who would respond if I sent her a dm
God dammit.... You beat me 😁😁😂
LOL
Yes Caroline, my friend who would drive me to the airport if we lived in the same city, but doesn't even know I exist.
Yes, my literal best friend Caroline who would bail me out of jail if I got arrested but has not responded to any of my daily "good morning Queen" DMs 😤
I have a parasocial relationship with your college admissions character
Banker for me lol
Me too actually-she’s so nice to me
to me its the doctor
It drives me INSANE when people are disappointed when content creators dont post and insist that the creator should have posted a message of explanation. I firmly believe that if we're watching free content, creators owe no explanation for absences.
I don’t know a single creators schedule. People get reading upset when the Do We Know Them Podcast upload late. Like Lilly is editing give her time. It’s so weird to me when people get upset about that stuff
@@Chelseabee55 I don't know their schedules either! I subscribe to wayyyy too many people to remember even if I wanted to 🤣
Ik it’s not the same but I don’t like how people get upset when influencers and celebrities don’t voice their political beliefs and say they’re disappointed if they didn’t make a post saying “free Palestine” or something. Like yes it’s an important topic but especially if it’s someone who’s NEVER spoke about politics it’s like.. that’s not what their platform is for. If you want political opinions go to a political platform. I’ve seen so many comments on creators who just haven’t spoken about it and they’re like “I’m so disappointed you haven’t voiced your opinion on this” like… why? They’re not a political person and they’re not your friend, why do you care what they think so much?
Most of those militant Palestine accounts are fake accounts run by feds to make everyone hate Palestine.
Creators get tired - and most work on their own. It’s a hobby… so I’m happy for anything from my favs.
I have a parasocial relationship with Little Sandwich and still sing the Little Sandwich song at least once a week. Send help.
This one is weird because I think Little Sandwich represents the kids in those situations that we wish we could help. My theory why that series did so well and everyone “loves” Little Sandwich.
But do you end it with, “HAPPY 40TH BIRTHDAY, SCOTT!”
Cuz I do. 😂
No chic fil a sauce??
That skit lives in my head rent free
I stopped having parasocial relationships after Zayn left one direction, I was sobbing all day like I knew this man. thank you for having this very important conversation, we need to remind people that this is not normal. obsessive infatuation with a stranger is very dangerous for both parties
Hate to say this is insanely true 😢
Honestly being in an extreme parasocial relationship as an ex kpop Stan was insane, like I was truly In love with these men. I truly thought I knew them personally 😭
Were you really young? I have been cyberbullied (lol) multiple times by kpop stans for the stupidest unrelated things that somehow get brought BACK to kpop (when that was never the topic) and every time, it's been mostly girls no older than...14? 15?
It was the same scenario with r&b groups..like In my day was Immature later on IMx and then B2k followed..esp learning what their 'manager' /handler was doing to those young boys smh all while sexualizing mere children and no one batted an eye and this was before the internet and youtube and such i cant imagine the hold these 'relationships' have on people nowadays stuck for real companionship smh its a recipe for disater
@@yoyohayli omg no I never actually interacted with the community online as I was kinda older by the time, but I 100% saw the bullying that was going on. It was more like a personal romantic crush with these idols😭
@@michelletalbot2281 that's truly awful
Bro ikr. Like some of it is funny (Chuu stans are insane and hilarious) most of the time I feel bad for the idols having to interact with wierdo fans. I'll never forget that video where the SKZ members were forced to do video calls with fans who made them call them "baby" "honey" "mommy"
I really like that you used the word "worship" because so often does liking someone turn into 'loving' someone which becomes worship, the line gets crossed unknowingly and far too often. I cannot imagine what it's like to have random people tell you that they love you or generally interacting with you as if you do really have some established relationship. I got to meet Denis O'hare a few months ago at a convention, and I really do love his acting on American Horror Story, and so when i got the chance to speak to him I was terrified of being like "I LOVE YOU SO MUCH" so I specifically said "I love your work on AHS" and specifically mentioned that I love his work, and not 'I love you', and I really hope that it established the exact boundaries of my parasocial relationship in that he is an artist, and I admire his art. Parasocial relationships are a really interesting part of society and art, this was a really good video!
havent finished the video so apologies if you brought this up already but eden sher, who played sue on the middle, is CONSTANTLY harassed on tiktok whenever she does/says something "out of character" for sue. she had to make a video like "sue is a fictional character, sue is not real, my name is eden." and people in the comments were like "omg sue what are you sayinggg😆sue would never say that who are you and where is sue??" it was insane
Aubrey Anderson-Emmons constantly has to do similar things because everyone calls her lily from modern family and I feel so bad for her
I think there are unfortunately a lot of actors/actresses who experience that especially if they were a kid/teen or a unique character in one well-known thing. Keiko Agena and Jenette McCurdy are another couple who come to mind. It’s so sad
So stoked abt Caroline’s activism and education around social media dynamics like damn this is awesome.
Some really solid advice in here for interacting with fandom and some good examples of boundaries such as blocking certain kinds of posts, redirecting parasocial energy into actual friendships, and not relying exclusively on fandoms for social activity. Self reflection and awareness are key to being online without losing your mind so this is a great little check-in for everyone. thanks.
"redirecting parasocial energy into actual friendships, and not relying exclusively on fandoms for social activity" I feel like in this case the isolation came first and then the parasocial relationships. As hard as it is for some people to imagine but there are people out there (hi, it's me) who simply don't have a community for years and years despite working on themselves. I manage to not go overboard with parasocial relationships but I recognize them as a symptom of a society that alienates people and then blames them for it. We can't fix it if we only ask those stans to change, we all have to carry that change.
“Being online without losing your mind” would be an amazing book/series title ngl
some of the strongest examples of youtube parasociality can be found in the comments of asmr videos. i think the inherent intimacy & stated goal being to bring people reprieve within the genre, lends itself to this dynamic more than most others. under any given asmr video you can see comments where people feel so comfortable divulging extremely intimate & honesty graphic details about their lives completely unprovoked to a total stranger. it’s a very fascinating thing ngl
There was one person who to me seemed obsessed with Angelica. Like this dude would make semi nonsensical innuendos guised as poetry almost. I never knew why she didn’t block him. 🤷🏼♀️
I was just thinking this! I recently was watching an asmr video and I actually started to feel uncomfortable when the creator kept calling the viewer their ‘friend’, deliberately trying to connect personally to the individual instead of the audience as a whole and really trying to emphasise how special that relationship was and if I’m being honest it seemed disingenuous and a bit harmful to people who have parasocial tendencies. 😬
Yeahhhh I’ve noticed this a lot. Like at one point years ago I guess TingTing mentioned she cuts her hair when she’s stressed out. Well she didn’t post for awhile and when she did her hair was very long and multiple people were saying they were glad to see she was happy (based off her hair). And other weird things of course
@nickibobicky sure you might get some weirdos doing that, but for people with trauma its really nice to be able to "open up" to someone especially someone behind a screen who can't judge you for whatever you are about to say. Its like pretending to talk about it, so eventually you can really talk about it. Anything can be misused, ASMR isn't the only space being invaded by creeps. A few years ago a guy went to a signing booth and unalived a girl who only had 2,000 followers because he was mad she had a boyfriend. She did unboxing videos.
I think true crime can be similar, although the creators have more of a stated comfort with knowing about graphic info but an individual sharing with you directly is still another level
Wow, I'm glad my best friend Caroline decided to tell you guys about this 😩👏
What amazing world am I living in that three Caroline videos come out back to back?!!!!
We're being spoiled rn
@@shamrock2002 I know right! :D
I’m feeling productive now that I decided I can make whatever I want.
@@carolineeasomI’m glad you feel free to make whatever content you want! BRB, turning on the notification bell to make sure I don’t miss your next video (not in a parasocial way)
@carolineeasom so far I've loved what you're making!! I really love video essays, and the few that you've made have been very well researched. and I always wanted to see more of your personality come out in the ASMR. I'm here for all of it
Another, perhaps one of the oldest examples, of parasociality is that between the masses and their rulers. This continues into the modern era with how many people practically worship certain politicians or ceremonial heads of state. I think looking at parasociality in US politics or in how certain segments of UK society treat the monarchy would be an interesting study.
I love this thought process, especially with the way it ties in with propaganda.
@@redbuggOoo yeah, and also with dictators in totalitarian governments. Like the parasocial relationship that North Koreans have with the Kim family. A 14 year old girl drowned trying to save images of the Kim family from a flood - that’s how intense it is.
But yeah, the parasocial aspect with QE2 and how she just wiped of all blame and responsibility of so much in the eyes of the general public and how central something like the Christmas message is to everyone. Hell, I have so many commemorative mugs of royal events and use them all the time without really thinking about it.
A super interesting Wikipedia article to look at on this topic in general is the one on “Cult of Personality”. It doesn’t address the UK, but does a good job of addressing the concept in general and you might find some good studies or starting points there.
Watching this video made me realize I don't have a parasocial relationship with anybody. But I am a big fan! ❤
it’s so hard to remind yourself that you don’t know rlly anyone you follow online! excited to watch ur video 🫶🏻
Thank you, Caroline. Your video essays are always so informative. The parasocial relationships I had with some twitch streamers made me lose money. Should’ve supported myself instead 😂 on a serious note, I think us adults can turn it on/off, but it’s scarier when children form parasocial relationships with some of the content creators they watch.
I’ll do a whole video on parasocial relationships and kids soon!
Lots of people are disappointed when other support lesbians 😢 lesbians are always grateful for the support lol
I love lesbians 🧡🤍🩷
@@carolineeasomand we love you (no para)
oh my god i feel so validated that someone else has said that calling someone fat out of concern online is really strange and unnecessary. like i responded to someone “you don’t care about their health you just want to call someone fat lmao-“ cause realistically you have to know that pointing that out does absolutely nothing but make that person (and others) feel bad. they know they’re fat, and they know about the health concerns. someone’s weight has never even crossed my mind, let alone the need to comment on it. like??? it’s so blatantly clear that picking on others makes them feel better about themselves. lame
19:38 i love this point about grieving for internet animals. i've got a huge heart too and it used to wreck me with that sort of stuff too. it's important to realize that your time is valuable and not to spend it on things that would ruin your peace of mind. anyways, great video from my bestie caroline.
I think Caroline is neat but also if I found out she was a habitual baby kicker I'd more then likely be like "not cool..." so alls well para socially here 😊
Sounds like u have a pretty healthy mindset and the way u view folks online etc. Lol i should hope more ppl would take that stance but you'd be surprised how the line is blurred and how much is accepted and regarded as acceptable
Yeah, the way she talked about disappointment with creators was some food for thought. I think I just don't personally feel as much emotional weight goes with the word - at first, I was thinking that there's some times I have felt disappointed in people online. (Finding out that someone I liked uses their money or platform to support a cause I disagree with does disappoint me, I think.)
I was able to see what she was saying though at the same time, and I haven't really thought through my position yet.
Edit - I was almost done with the video, and then in the last few minutes she really specifically talked about moral and political disagreements. I'll say I definitely feel like I learned something after the specific instance I'm thinking of, where I felt some version of "disappointment" with a creative person. I just don't support their work anymore; I moved on pretty quickly. It's left me more hesitant to recommend media to friends, in case I find out later that the author donates to We Kick Puppies: A Charity or something. That's probably overthinking it though, and I realize that.
this may be controversial but i think january 6th is the perfect example of a type of parasocial relationship. the fact that people idolized our former president so much (i don’t care whether you agreed or disagreed with him on politics) that they took “action” into their own hands by his encouragement is so. so. dangerous. the rise of situations like these need to be talked about more.
So what do you think now about the problem of people taking your former president into their own hands?
Excited for this, her video essay on child stars was stellar and this is a topic I find fascinating
The world needs more honesty and reality calls like this.
PS I was vaguely concerned for Caroline when she stopped posting for awhile after the Sandwich Family videos. Like she was silenced by the Family Blog Mafia. 😂 I was vaguely relieved when she posted again.
Unrelated, I love that blazer.
Back on topic, parasocial relationships are fascinating and terrifying in equal measure. You've really put a lot of work into this.
A third post in a row?? Also this is great for addressing this topic. Parasocial relationships are strange to me.
Love the "Caroline's House (Interior)"
I agree that these relationships go WAY back in our history. I recall a greek myth about an artist that had such strong feelings for his sculpture it came to life, sounds like a parasocial relationahip to me.
That's Pygmalion! He felt no woman was "perfect" enough for him for well, classic Greek culture sexism reasons, so he made a statue of a "perfect woman" and fell in love with it. During Aphrodite's festival, he made offerings to her asking her to bring the statue to life and she did!
literally just finished the last video and there's another?? we've been blessed 😌😌
I used to have really bad ąnâ and the parasocial relationships are REALLY bad in that community because it’s so tight knit and it’s literally like a secret society. Everyone was hurting sm and sharing sm of themselves to each other. No one really notices it because the whole point is that accounts like that are secret.
i am sooo grateful for of herbs and altars’ work on this subject (as triggering as it is and as many people as i believe should avoid her channel overall for their own mind’s sakes). fortunately i got myself out of the livejournal ana world way back in the day before it got too bad on my end but that shit is so dangerous and scary and sad, good point about the hurting and desperate, unhealthy attachments and idolizations that can form there (perfect example: my intro to ED as aspirational was via following my older cousin’s girlfriend’s LJ in 2004, who i had a huge crush on as a kid and wanted to be)
I really like when actors/actresses refer to their character by name in interviews, helps to put that necessary distance between reality and fiction some folks need.
Really great video. I think the key with parasocial communities based on specific media fandoms is to find the people for whom you have a lot of different fandoms in common as well as shared values and a shared sense of humor. Then, you can stay friends even when your interests don't overlap for awhile.
One of my irl friends used to be my favorite fanfiction author, but the difference between her and the other authors I like is that she replies to every comment, so we talked and she remembered me - her comments began to bridge the gap between parasocial and social. After DMing for a few years, we arranged to meet in person, and now we usually video chat once a week. We aren't always obsessed with the same thing at the same time, but we have so many fandoms and interests in common that there's always something to talk about.
Fandom is such a big part of my life that I simply don't care to have deep friendships that don't involve shared media obsessions at all, but because I seek out people I truly have things in common with, my fandom friendships don't have to have an expiration date, and I think that's a pretty good way to do it.
I have parasocisl relationships with my own characters and worlds.
It's very fun and keeps me entertained for hours when nothing else is fun. But also, I think all fiction stems from parasocial relationships with our own characters, as writing a story about them is parasocial.
same here.
same i love my lil idiots lol
This is a great topic that needs more attention. You did a good job addressing your viewers with kindness and empathy.
I’m not sure what this video is about, but as long as my bestest friend Caroline who I totally know personally is posting it I’m here. 😅
My assumption would be that people form these overly strong parasocial relationships when they dont feel like the relationships they have in real life are that strong.
This reminds me of the swifties bullying others and sending death threats publicly with everything going on after what dave ghrol said about taylor swift lip syncing
I thought of the same thing!!!
Yes AND the anti Swift communities, particularly on Reddit. So much toxicity.
Fans of the royals (and formal royals) probably baffle me the most. The UA-cam videos they make saying stuff like "look at them at this event, this is obviously a really close knit family"... I mean, they might be! But what a thing to assert as an outsider just because you saw a video of them performing in public.
The late Queen (pre internet) was a true professional.
I feel like a great warning against parasocial relationships is the one I had with Ian Watkins from Lostprophets. I watched countless interviews with him, listened to so much of Lostprophets’ music, and thought I knew him and his personality so well only for it to come out that he is a truly disgusting human being. I was a teenager so I’m not exactly mad about the fact I was that deep but it serves as a constant reminder that you really don’t know anyone, especially celebrities or people you’re only seeing through a screen.
This is brave, and wise. I see the personalities I’m drawn to online as hints to the kinds of people I’d like to draw into my “real” life. It takes courage to do that, and social media temps us to be lazy. Your vids have made me smile lots, thank you! 😊
I started to consciously try to stop having deep parasocial relationships with real people when I noticed I was getting too upset if a celebrity I liked did something bad. I figured that that probably wasn't good for my mental health. I will still allow myself to get attached to a character but I make sure to not get TOO attached to the point where I would be devastated if they were all of a sudden gone and I do allow myself tp enjoy celebrities and allow myself to think they'd be fun but I try to not get too deep anymore. And just enjoy the stuff they make
As a new content creator (less than 1 year) I 100% relate to everything you have said. I don’t understand why people send me reels constantly. And when I started my page I had more time so interacted regularly with a few people who nowadays get “disappointed” in me when I don’t reply.
It’s very odd the power that a reply from a “celebrity” has for some people (I am not even a subcelebrity but I still see it)
So I find this so interesting because there is a UA-camr I follow who has two UA-cam channels and a patreon, I’m not in her patreon, but she also has a public email and she does reply to everyone that emails her. It takes her a while but she will reply. Some of the people she has gotten to know and she also has said she feels they are sort of friends. So that’s interesting. So I feel like that begins to break the barrier of parasocial into real acquaintanceship or friendship
Idk about that, a lot of UA-camrs refer to their fans/followers as their “friends” in either a deliberate or unconscious attempt to encourage the parasocial attachment. The parasociality is the lopsidedness of the dynamic - with a youtuber for example a fan might have watched hundreds of hours of their videos thereby having a very detailed idea of that person’s character, their mannerisms, their beliefs and opinions, things about their personal life they’ve shared, art they’ve made, etc. The youtuber on the other hand has had very little information/contact/information from or about the fan and barely knows them. A few emails, meeting them at a meet and greet etc, having a brief conversation is not the same as a real friendship. It’s still parasocial.
@@liesbeneathoureyes I completely understand what you mean. I’ve emailed her once or so but I don’t really feel like friends with her, I just enjoy her content. I am saying that some of these people email back and forth with her pretty frequently, and while they don’t have her personal information like phone number, she still has said like some of those people the ones she is in more regular contact with feel more like friends. It is only to a select few which makes me wonder if it’s less para social at that point and genuine acquaintanceship or friendship.
This reminded me of some of my favourite lectures/lecturers from university - super fascinating and engagingly presented! Love your content!
These video essays are great! Keep up the stellar work!
These are such good and level takes in parasocial relationships. You're so right about the microfandom's potential for being dangerous, I've seen it a lot in the creative communities I'm in.
We're all technically equals just honing our crafts but quite often some skilled artists that stand out become "micro celebrities" and have their own devoted fans who are often younger less experienced artists. I've seen a lot of people abuse that power (with those younger artists getting hurt because of it) and it rarely gets resolved because so many people have a parasocial relationship with that person - in some cases a decade's worth of inspiration from their "idol". Because we're all in the same community the parasocial bond is even stronger than with a celebrity because even if you've never spoken to that person, they're seen as a friend because of the proximity and people end up going to bat for them like they were a friend, too. It's honestly such a pain in the ass.
Hi lady I’ve never met. Your talks make me happy and entertain me 🎉 hope you night is 👍
Love that you do both ASMR content and speak about these important topics especially in this time in the world where everyone is so online. Looking forward to more video essay style content and really anything you put work into!
I think people can get even more confused with how blurred the lines can be with social media. I can reply to a youtube video, and the creator can even like my comment and reply. I can go watch a streamer, and they might even read my comment and answer in real time, like I am spending time with the streamer in real time. A viewer can easily think "this isn't a stranger - they reply to me and share their personal life with me. I know this person."
I love the mild yet urgent “mom who just discovered the bill from the App Store” intervention voice. 😂
I absolutely love this format- great pacing, well written and thoughtful video essay - would definitely watch more!
I love your videos about the family with the family channel. More people need to be talking about it, and you're doing it in such a clever way.
Just what we needed. Another Caroline video🎀
You have the best curls ever!! Your lil curly bangs make me so happy they just look so fancy yet whimsical
I was literally just watching your last video! Thanks for talking about this
Yesss loved this. Hope to see more video essays from you in the future.
You are very wise. Thank you. I already try to distance or minimize parasocial relationships in my life, but this is helping my awareness of it.
I love that you brought up parasocial communities, I met some of my very best friends through a content creator’s discord and the way it shaped was wild but it could have gone so wrong
Was just thinking about this! And that people dont understand the value and power of their comments. People are super mean or overly familiar online, and it's very shocking when you really think about it. Honestly, the way people see influencers or online creators as vehicles for entertainment and not human beings is the #1 reason why I would never be one. I would just hate to give people like that power over my financial stability or my mental health.
Ohhhhh you mean that special thing between me and Mr. Rogers??!!!
Love this style of video from you! I joined a few of your Tik Tok lives when you started ASMR and these videos have a similar feeling :) Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences!
First time seeing long form content from Caroline. I'm so excited
You are so smart and I have so much respect for you and the content you make, thank you for making it.
I feel like this video should have way more views! Very thorough. Super interesting and relevant.
Have loved all your videos about things like this or family vlogs! They make you think and reflect!
Thanks for putting out such an articulate, well considered video essay. You summarised my own concerns about the use of social media (something intended to connect us) and how it instead leads to these hollow relationships which then impact on our ‘real’ lives. As someone with a following yourself, it’s especially brave to acknowledge these sometimes manipulative tactics, whether intentional or not, which influencers employ to lead on parasocial relationships with the aim of exploiting those who are most lonely and vulnerable.
Thanks for being one of the realest and most relaxing gals on UA-cam right now❤
Hi Caroline, this is the first video of yours that I've seen. Very interesting topic that makes us analyse our own behaviours too! I particularly liked the way you described the part about "disappointment." It got me thinking and I can take a lot of positive from what you've said 🙂 Thanks and take care, Lisa (UK)
I would love to hear more video essays in the future. This one was really good.
I love your content and style. Love the mix of real, intellectual breakdowns of issues we are facing and the ASMR comedy sketches that last a half hour uncut 😂❤❤❤
I have always been concerned about expectations for women ASMR content creators in particular because of society’s expectations that women be comforters, help-meets, etc. and only that. Ah, the internet!
Off the topic of the video but your voice is so satisfying to listen to 😭 it makes this video so easy to watch
I koved hearing your descriptions! It helped me feeper understand what para social relationships are and how they develop. Thanks so much!
PLEASE keep doing these videos essays!! I'm begging you they've helped me bunker down and make art and also fall asleep once I've done I ADORE your voice 👏👏
Thank you for posting this.....let's get this shared with every family vlogger fan!!!
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under capitalism there is NO SEPARATING THE ART AND THE ARTIST, but i think in a way the antidote to a lot of this creepy parasociality / parasocial relationships is to realize we might have real relationships with the work or art someone creates, but this DOES NOT CORRELATE with having ANY relationship with the artist / person themselves, i in a way do not understand parasocial relationships nobecause i don't understand how people miss this distinction, we would never look at a plumber doing good work and assume they're a good person because the plumb well, but we as a society CONSTANTLY FAIL to make the same distinctions with artists and musicians, plenty of AMAZING artists / musicians are HORRIBLE human beings, and if they are shown to be then we need to step away because to support the art is to support the artist at least in a financial way
what's with the five interrobangs
honestly love these videos where you're just talking, ASMR or not i just enjoy listening to what you have to say. I often rewatch the video about child celebrities and family vlog channels too because I just enjoy these sorts of not-quite-video-essays where people just ramble about whatever they want for half an hour
and by "not-quite-video-essay" i mean it's not super mega edited and 3 hours long diving DEEP deep into a subject. I love those sorts of videos too and both have a lot of work put in them but often times something easier to digest and approach like this just sits better
I’ve seen your channel on shorts but I had no idea your long form content was so good! I’m genuinely impressed and kinda mad at myself that I didn’t check your videos sooner. Keep up with the great work💞
Such well formatted and well spoken commentary/essay! Would love to see more!
very insightful thank u caroline! love the video essays
You totally should make a podcast, this is fun to listen to!
This video is so informative, I'm watching it again and this time I'm taking notes!!
I'm loving these video essay style videos
Love the video and your makeup looks great today!
as a very small twitch streamer, this video is so eye opening and relatable. I also need to check myself and my own parasocial relationships with the streamers that I watch myself.
It feels very different with streams than any other social platforms as we are technically talking in real time and I can have full conversations with my viewers, especially as I don't have many. But it can be hard to navigate off stream friendships when people think that we're closer than we really are!
anyway, such a complex thing, thanks for breaking it down in such a digestable way 🖤✨
i’m relatively popular in a niche that tends to have a lot of parasocial hate directed at creators, and it’s scarier to me than peoples’ romantic, platonic, or sexual parasocial attachments, no matter how intense. it’s a big part of why i only comment on a private account-people expect you to be willing to argue with them because they want to fight you. it’s weird!
great video overall :)
love you for citing your sources!
This video is so good.
The way you speak and convey information is top notch.
And I can’t stop staring at your eyes 😅🖤
I liked this video. I was a little mad that I realized I have a parasocial hate relationship with my ex.
I justified it for a while because I had legitimate concerns for my safety, but it’s time to move on.
I decided that me graduating into a new decade of life last week was the perfect time to cut the cord. I guarantee he hasn’t thought of me in years, no need to let him rob me of more time. ❤
Wow, we're both introverts, and I also feel like I don't have enough time for my friends sometimes! Knowing that, I feel like we hang out IRL exactly the right amount. 😅
In all seriousness, I like your character videos. I put one on sometimes during my work day, and I end up gradually tuning in and out as I focus in on my work. I keep coming back to the mood pods MLM pitch, as I enjoy anti-MLM content and I don't "feel bad" for not focusing on a character pitching me a (hilarious) scam.
I feel that your research based / experience based nonfiction videos like this are incredibly profound.
OMG YOU ARE REALLY FEEDING US ❤❤❤❤
I appreciated your comments on pet grief. I have a small pet account and that corner of the internet is really easy to get lost in. I think I’ve learned here that it is ok to hold a boundary for myself and reserve that support for my close and personal connections. 💜💜💜
Deff learning alot from this channel
I like these videos! Keep up the good work!
Caroline lots of content!!!! Thanks girliepop
This is great to dive into, especially after watching your series of “sandwich family vlogs”
Where there is an active push for the kids to feed into parasocial relationships their fan base builds with their personas.
Which unfortunately is exactly what happens in real life in these family vloggers homes.
Great video, but it would be way better if you faked a miscarriage for months then used this video to not only reveal that it was all fake and then also promote your patron.
It is very refreshing to me that a creator is setting clear, reasonable boundaries and keeping their audience informed of the status of their parasocial relationships. Thank you for this, and I wish more creators were more honest and clear like this.
I didn’t expect to have a wake up call like this today, very informative video 10/10
Stoooop, this week has been too good because of YOU😭😭