i’m tired of being alone
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I like to be alone but every once in awhile, having a small dose of human interaction is a blessing. Glad you had some positive human interaction.
SAME 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽I alway say prayers for ambulances, fire trucks & All f fire Dept EMT’s AND I pretty much say the same Prayer ❤👍🏼🥰
lol true
The older I get, the more I just want to be alone.
Same here. ✌🏼
Same here 🙄
Same!
I'm the exact same way. I used to always have ppl around me...now I'm like leave me ALONE!!
Same here
That’s the beauty of “vanlife”… you can be alone when you need to be, or be with people when you need to be, and you get to meet a bunch of wonderful people along the way
u can do that in a house too...
@@ProjectMotive yeah but you don’t have the Responsibility
@@jenniferlong651 What happens when you house breaks down?
And there are so many fun times 💜
Or serial killer when you want to be lol
Don't be so tired of being alone that you choose the wrong partner and/or friends.
That's how most people end up having a bad experience traveling.
Amen‼️💕
FACTS
Disagree... for the most part people are good. Mistakes are made.. people are human. Accepting them is part of maturity.
I have been opening myself up to sisterhood. And although I loved being alone, traveling alone, sitting in my own silence for a decade. I am now craving sisterhood bonds, giggling with each other and talking about deep ish.
Same!!
This is so relatable.
I enjoy being alone away from family. I’m not very big on family.
I'll b ur friend if u like 😊
I feel that ... and I'm considered a 'loner' :-/ (^^) The kind of friendship +sisterhood thts mutual on the encouraging attitude,support yet honest . and not just empty "good time" company. Stir up creativity, find inspiring things, do interesting things, talk about said things. (lol)
suppose I should find her/them
When I was van dwelling I would feel lonely as well. Now I live alone on my land in the rural desert with my animals. If I get bored or lonely I take a trip into town. The older you get the less people you need.
Alone sux🤠
I love being alone. If it weren’t for needing to making money I’d never interact with others. Some times I feel lonely (really occasionally) but most people don’t really fill that spot anyway.
I am currently going through this . Renting a room . Even though I hang around people I feel lonely . Positive vibes for you
Yeah, they have to be good people willing to let their walls down.
That's because you need to be with me. Call 📞 me! 😶
I agree, you can be alone without being alone. It's having enough self-esteem. I have a large family of siblings ,of which are 5 anglos. I am hispanic adopted in Hong-Kong, my siblings have nothing but anglo friends and i mixed. With family get togethers I am more lost than anything. None of these people ever come to me and get aquanted, i always had to push real hard to mix but it's extremely hard . I have been alone at every family gatherings. With the pandemic, what hell ! My sister, a doctor, never called me just to check in. Aren't doctors supposed to check in on their patients ?
@@jamalmcgrath810 I completely sympathize with your story . We are in the same boat . The more people you have without properly addressing your issues within yourself ( me ) it just makes things worse . Hoping you find peace . ❤️
It's better to have 1 or 2 real friends than million aquantinces.GOD brings the people we need in our lives at exactly the right time.Clearly you're an independent soul or you wouldn't travel that way
Me too. The older I get the more I hate it. Never bothered me before being alone. Now at 55 that is changing. Dont wait that long.
Same here
The part about being in fight or flight all the time is so true. Being alone is nice and important but company is so much better
I actually do love being alone; however, I know what you mean about having friends. Find groups in your favorite hobby. Then you already have a common bond to start and you can still retreat and have your quiet time when you need it.
I'm lonely as well, even though all I do is work. I've been lonely ever since my wife's suicide and even though I love my co workers, sometimes I just need time alone. Mainly because I'm so tired from work. But on some days, I would love to try to get out and meet new people but it's just hard.
sending lots of love to you ❤️❤️❤️
You know I’m your friend across the way ❤️
I hear ya...it is hard...I just was broken up with a few months ago...im so lost after 4yrs with her and her 4 great kids...im miss them all.i don't understand why either...I feel guilty all the time no matter what I'm doing even though it was her idea.just a terrible feeling.
Sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry for your loss I really am that must be so tragic
That's so sweet that you acknowledge Lori for her kindness, I'm sure it means a lot to her. I think she's pretty great and God bless you Lori ❣️
I pray every time I go past an ambulance & accident too. ❤👍
And I totally get what you're feeling! I love my alone time, especially in the mountains. But I'm always alone lately 😕. Divorced now for 8 years after being married for 34 years. I thought we would be married until my very old age, I never thought I would be alone. I can't expect my adult kids to be my only friends (although they are my only friends now.)
So I've decided to join a weekly women's group at home of a lady in my church. Maybe I'll make some new friends! Hope & pray you continue to spend time with friends & foster fellowship!
Reading your comment it was like seeing my self my grown kids are my only friends, so hard to get out their, but trying 💕 you are defenetly not alone so many moms with empty nest journeys. And I 🙏 for everyone feeling lonely
I'm here for all of this 🥰 you sharing not only helps you but I'm sure so many silently... ❣️
Such good wholesome content, I love your channel. Safe travels to you, I hope everyone you meet is good to you.
God will always take care of her. She’s too sweet not to.
I’m so thankful you found a place full of love and kindness to recharge! Road angels are one of a kind and truly a gift! Sending happy hugs from the Pacific Northwest 🌲🐄🌲
Thank you Kate! Enjoy the PNW until I’m able to come back up there!!
I’m on the Olympic Peninsula! If you ever need a drive way or a simple laugh give us a shout! My partner and I are at home base for a bit waiting on grand baby # 4!
I'm glad you are finding your community. Safe travels and happy trails.
I just know your channels gonna blow up soon, your videos are just so aesthetic and the music just ads to the vibe 🥰💕🙏🏾
I love the fact that you're making videos about your adventures living in your car. I recently just moved into mine about 2 months back, and started watching your videos as of late. I like how you show not only the good times but also the hard times, from what I've seen. Keep up the amazing work, and if you ever want a friend, I'm in newport. Take care of yourself and make sure to keep the friendship bonds strong.
It does get to that point. I've done it for 2 years alone and I didn't mind it, but then again I'm not that much of a people person anymore. Customer Service lol. It's good to have some sorta protection when camping alone or at least have another female friend who has a similar mindset as you. I'm going back out at it again but you are right sometimes you just want extra people around for safety and sanity reasons.
You're so sweet for praying for the ambulance! I never thought about doing that but I am now going to start ! Thanks for being kind 🥰
I've always been a loner. I'm 59 female. I do almost everything. I also have 3 very very good friends. So when I crave people I show up on their door. They love me and I love them. Humans are social people. We NEED people.
Thanks for bringing us along, your not alone you definitely have us❤️❤️❤️
Lorrie seems like a sweetie. I subscribe to her channel. She usually responds back to me when I make a comment with at least a "like/heart" but often a typed response. I know it's hard for bigger channels to do that. But it definitely sets her apart. Thanks for visiting her and making this video. I know it means a lot to her knowing she had an impact on your wellbeing. ❤❤
We are the same way love to be alone, yet from time to time a humans presence is nice; especially if both people are on the same frequency.
HAVE to be on the same frequency…otherwise it’s so draining and better to be alone
@@AlyssaVanilla exactly, I can only deal with people in increments.
Some don’t fit into the mold of the world, I’ve accepted I’m one of those people.
I enjoy being an old soul 😁
This popped up as soon as I was saying that I’m lonely and it’s so hard to meet new people where I live. (UA-cam was listening lol)
i’ll be your internet friend 🌷 & my phone listens to me all the time that’s my nosiest friend lol 😭
I'm here for ya.
@@AlyssaVanilla lol thank you for your words lol ❤️ stay safe on the road and keep taking care of yourself!
That’s actually true. Your phone is listening to your conversations 👍
I really appreciate your honesty and candidness about nomadic living. I recently started doing it but not in a vehicle because I work remotely and need to be plugged in for work with strong internet. I think to myself how other women do it, you know be on their own with feeling lonely. You are such a beautiful person and it makes me understand that one can be lost and wandering and still come across communities that feel like home. This is what I am hoping for myself.
I'm new to your channel.
You've been showing up,
with my recommendations.
I'm glad, because I like your
vibes, and vlogging
style.
Just finished my first 4 months on road by myself. I had to take a break because you are always ‘on’. Especially being a woman. I’m mentally and physically exhausted. I’ll start back in January after a tune up on my van and body. But it’s the underlying stress that’s always there. Especially being my first real trip by myself. I hope to find community in the desert in January.
I always have moment of silence when I pass a accident always so sad.
I love my isolated moments but I absolutely love my friend time too.
Lori/Laurie sounds amazing 🦅
I love your channel and I love Flagstaff. One of my regular stops when I was travelling around USA, now I’m a nomad in Australia and I’m more adjusted now to the solitude… I’ve always felt more alone in a group of people who I feel like an oddity around than I do when I’m totally alone.
Man would love to be around you and traveling with your voice in my ear. I travel as much as I can can with my two little ones.love traveling..it's got to get lonely traveling all the time by your self. You deserve having company. Someone you can trust and share those good memories with. Love being part of your journeys. God bless you. 🙌
You are so vibrant positive and joyous in your life. I can relate to your feelings. I spent years alone in wilderness. I would never trade that back. Thank you.
God bless you, Allyssa. You are so sweet. I feel you tho. I just started VL and am wandering around Eureka/Arcata Cali. You really do have to stay positive and just take it in with gratitude. We are blessed to be able to do this thing. Im happy you have found a community.
That’s the best place to be haha stayed at the community center many times! There are some beautiful spots up near CC too
I pray when I see accidents too. It’s good you do that! 🙏🏾❤️
Im a single mum and a loner but starting to crave friendship. I live in a small remote beach town community which i love for me and my daughter but i mainly just stay at home and walk to the groceries shop when i need too.
I miss people. My heart aches for connection.
I think it is super cool that you pray over the patient in the ambulance and their families! I do the same :) i learned it when i was little from my dearest aunt Sele
this is such wholesome content i love it
Lorrie is awesome and super friendly.. She extended an invitation to me to join her camp as well ! I also visited the HOWA Caravans while in that area.. most people in the community were friendly and just kind and easy to engage
You look so happy. Lori hits me as one of the nicest van lifer's out there
Thank you for sharing your stories! also amazing music too add! Enjoy your solitude, but try and keep a balance! Too much of anything is not good for the soul. Keep shinning bright!
Alyssa you are one of the kindest souls.
I just came across your channel and I must say that I’m really enjoying your content.
I am from Michigan but I have lived in Oregon since 2006. I absolutely LOVE it here. I watched your video of you talking about coming here,what part (if you don’t mind me asking?) I live in Southern Oregon (near Roseburg $ about 3 hours from Portland)
I’m binge watching your videos tonight lol Be blessed & safe on the road!!
Many are alone and vanlife is about solitude. Its great to have a few females to meet up with every so often. Vanlife allows you to do that and when you're ready to camp solo you'll know it. Listen to your heart and intuition. Be careful!
I'm approaching retirement and have followed and considered the van life for myself for several years. I would consider regular meetups or caravans of women who travel together for safety and companionship rather than a solitary Van Life though I admire those women who do 💌
I feel lonely too. I recently ended a toxic relationship that lasted many years. I only had him in my life, now it's very hard being alone, I just started working again after going on vacation alone, the vacation was nice and relaxing, but also sad to spend all the days and evenings in a beautiful place by the sea, sometimes, especially in the evening when I was at dinner and I saw people walking on the boulevard, I felt sad, and I held back the tears sitting in the restaurant, seeing a group of friends laughing, a couple walking hand in hand with the child sitting on the father's shoulders.. as a young woman I have been approached several times by men but they were clearly only interested in having fun on vacation with a tourist, so I haven't made friends with anyone. It's a real pity that there are no apps to meet new friends! There are only dating apps. But how do those who are looking for friends and not romantic dates do? Someone should create one, I'm sure it would be successful! There are many people of all ages who are alone for various different reasons. Many could use some new friends.
Greetings from Italy 😊
My niece lives in a van took after me..🤭…What she does is she has a little house cleaning job…it keeps her out of the eliments she still can travel…when she wants she has her regular monthly client as well as her snowbirds…you might want to look into it she also does housesitting…it puts money in your savings for emergency fund
Same here! Had this feeling earlier in the year, and sometimes family doesn't scratch that itch. I found #vanlife events and meetups help and allow you to mingle and make friends. Doesn't hurt if there is a bit of booze and live entertainment to loosen you up. 🤙🏾 Happy travels Alyssa
You do not have to be a lone,you are young, attractive, fit,the world is at your fingertips.
Yeah those things are great and everything but some people choose to be alone most of the time and that’s okay too. Appreciate that you’re tryna be nice - but this really reads like anyone who isn’t young attractive or fit has to be alone, and anyone that is those things shouldn’t be alone haha.
as someone who finds "found family" as their favorite trope to read/watch i understand the need to be around people and the search to find understanding and companionship even though you feel more than fine when you're alone. life is to be shared i guess...
I am Feeling That Too
It gets better ❤
That’s the hardest part about traveling alone. I love being a lone too. But after two or 3 weeks I need Company. Hard to find sometimes. So many of us are on the road alone I don’t know why we don’t get together
You're young, bright & beautiful. Yes, enjoy your freedom & time alone.
I've traveled State's as a: Nomad/Boondocker.
5 yrs ago, even though I loved being alone & having my space, I began to fell lonely traveling alone. That's when I decided to adopt a puppy from a shelter.
I named him Boondock, it's the best thing I ever did. He totally filled the gap of complete loneliness, my mind stopped drifting off in the quietness of remote places, LoL, he absolutely occupied my time , & thoughts.
Actually, were getting ready for Adventures/Journeys again. We took a couple years break.
Our Van is almost complete, Alyssa, enjoy yourself !
di feel it. ive always wanted to be alone too but thats definetly changed
Love this! I love the very end, where she blows a kiss and then this is my favorite part 12:26. I wonder if she has thought about getting a dog as a companion? I like being alone too, but if it were me (and thankfully, everyone is different), I'd have a dog traveling with me. Plus, while not every dog can be a guard dog, they can all be a watch dog. Thumbs up, as usual!
Same girl I’ve been a nomad for slightly over a year car camping. I’ve crossed the entire country this year bissh! I’m super introverted but we all need human interaction. I don’t have any family or friends tho.. so looks like it’s this. Solo and solo
I’ll be your friend!
@@AlyssaVanilla I watch you alot so we’re besties 🤗
Glad you're safe and hanging with Lorrie and her peeps. She's so nice! Loved "the field trip" too!!
Beautiful soul this lady has!
Having a home base to randomly return to helps. You are living my dream.
Live life to the fullest. You're the one that makes your choices for your paths and how you touch or how you don't touch people and remember that the imprints you leave will leave someone else an inspiration to follow your footsteps. You're such a Divine young lady live life as you please but at the same time be cautious and don't ever let anybody know where you're going because you don't know what people are thinking. You're a beautiful girl just always remember to leave wonderful thoughts and thank the Creator for creating such a wonderful human being like you not everybody's going to like us but you will leave an imprint because I love your videos you are an awesome young lady
Same. I started vanlife a year ago…. It definitely is harder to meet people than I thought it would be…
Alyssa been following you on utube like watching all the fun places you go and your great personality Sean
Alyssa, you are a funny, smart, spirited young lady with so many adventures ahead of you. Your testimony in this vlog was deep and heartfelt. I am starting out on my journey and maybe I will meet you someday out there. After watching many, many videos I am finding a common thread we all enjoy are own company and every so often we crave the company of others. Be safe and continue on.
You know how to call when you get bored…
Yeah... thank u 4 sharing your experience
Everything in life is about balance. Sometimes you need that alone time and sometimes you need to find your tribe or reconnect if you already have a tribe.
Being alone builds so many personal and positive attributes! I have traveled and lived in various countries all my life. I currently live in Costa Rica.🏖 I practice positive Karma, with the hope of meeting a woman as a travel companion, who shares the joys of travel. I prefer face-to-face, as opposed to social media platforms.
I am starting my van life journey this week!! I’m leaving and traveling with my cat Lars our first stop is Flagstaff let me know if you’ll still be around there I’m gonna start logging my travels as well and I have an Astro van lol hope to meet you one day you’ve been a big influence ♥️
I was in Sedona and Flagstaff back in July for my Birthday. Went hiking and felt more energized from the vortex. I loved there!
ok 1st LOVE your videos .... insightful. i can honestly say i could easily be alone ... since a child i always felt like i'm drowning when around people. i do however understand hat moment of need for a connection
Less friends less drama but good to have social interaction once in a while. Recommend to have a spray bottle to spray yourself when you have to turn the AC off. That’s what I did when I went up the I-17 to Flagstaff
I just found your channel. I’m now a subscriber! You are the sweetest person!
☺️ thanks for being here
I'm all about the simple life, and can fix almost everything, cook everything,and like it clean and organized. .. good luck and be safe out there. ....
I like being along most of the time so I can get work done etc. I ride mountain bikes and that gives me an outlet to hang with people and get the human interaction. I'm older so I don't care about going out to a bar/club (done all that) but going a brewery for a bit is nice every now and then. Not sure if I could do van life full time. A 1-3 week adventure is perfect for me.
I understand girl! I understand!
voyaging on my sailboat... i got that way. in my van... wallmart was all the peopling i needed compared to the isolation of sailing for 3 months. but now im back in my home town. and it feels good after 3 months of van life to be close to friends and fam... but i still can't really stand people for more than an hour
Its good to be alone in moderation.....would love to be able to do what your doing.
You are very strong. On a van on a daily basis, I would really breakdown. Even though I love nature, love camping but I don't think I would be able to survive especially for a 6'6 tall dude. I need space. I commend for your mental strength
I wish I could live in the mountains in my van alone or in the mountains alone. I'll watch this video later. Just came across your channel. Keep your head up. Hope you can be happy in life with or without someone else there💕😘
Your so real... very refreshing. Stay safe out there.
I love your videos. You are so funny, so cute, so smart, and your videos are soooooo entertaining. I watch a lot of vanlifers; you are now my favorite. Keep them coming.❤️
I always love the pine trees of Flagstaff.
Love your videos girl , such an inspiration
Loneliness can get stressful. Still living out of my jeep and I don’t have a lot of friends like I used too over previous years. I’ve preferred to be alone but it’s also exhausting. Hope all is well with ya maybe one day I’ll get to meet a traveling friend to have adventures for
I just turned 25 not too long ago and I don't think I could relate more to your thought about still feeling young like a kid, but also feeling like you're halfway to death! Keep posting these video please! Currently living vicariously through these videos while I plan for the future!
YES YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO BE ALONE!!!! You gotta go through lots of relationships and you will make FOREVER FRIENDS and then live alone but still talk n hangout with them whenever you want to.
Too much time alone and I start having debates with myself that I always lose.
Some of us need alone time, but we ALL need community sometimes!! Glad you found some!!
This seems so therapeutic sigh
Well I been in my van for almost 4 years now. I have to admit that the alone part can be what everyone needs from time to time. Humans are supposed to have interaction with others....we are not designed to be alone for long periods. I wish the best for ya and glad to know your still OK.
Slowly I am catching up on ur videos. Alone or not you have come a long ways since the car. Keep chasing those dreams girl and make videos for us to see it all unfold.
Hey! Alyssa your vlogs are too too relaxing and I really love your vlogs so so much you inspired me so so much and I wish you reach 20K Subscribers very very soon!😭❤️✨
I passed 20k a bit ago but thank you friend!
Stay safe out there and travel well !
Love her spirit
It was nice that you said a prayer for the people who had an accident.
what a nice video when you opened the van door the scenery was so pretty and when you put those boots on it got even better :)
I love being alone. I’m saving to do van life. Hope to see you on the road sis🎉❤
Awww! Sometimes you need that human interaction and thankfully you found such a kind person to spend time with.
Just fyi. I put all my stuff and storage and been living in my car for two days. I love it so far but I’m low key worried. Gonna try it for a few weeks and see what happens 😊 happy camping 💞🚗⛺️
Also you do what I do - pray for people if there has been an accident
🖤 Thanks, Lorrie.