Today I'm talking about what its like to be Agender Outro Music: • It Kills Me PFP by: / themadmansbox #Autism #LGBTQ #Heartstopper #LoveIsLove #Agender
Agender here, I think Monochromatification pretty much say anything I could. I personally identify myself as trans because I was assigned a gender at birth so I recognize myself in the trans process of getting rid of that even if I have no gender to transition to. And I would put myself under the non binary umbrella, partly because I am outside of the binary genders system but mainly because I love the colors of the enby flag. And I think choosing an identity not because it suits your inner feeling of yourself but because you like the colors of the pride flag is the most agender thing you can imagine.😂😂
I'm agender (it took me a long time to come to this realisation - over thirty years to be exact), and the way I like to explain it is that asking me about my gender is like asking a blind person to tell you their favourite colour. The concept of "gender" somehow doesn't make any sense to my brain. I have asked people to explain "gender" to me, whether cis, trans, or versions of non-binary like genderfluid or bigender, and all I have managed to understand is that there is an essence of *something* that most people identify with which I definitely lack. It's the same way a person who was born blind can understand they there is something called "colour" which is present in the world around them and shapes people's lives (such as how cars stop at "red" and move on "green") but they will never be able to personally appreciate what colour means even if they can appreciate the effects of it all around them (such as how people should wear "black" to a funeral). This is how I feel when I see people react on different sides of the gender discussions, including how a lot of cisgender people seem so convinced that there is a way all people born with certain genitals *must* feel and act in the world - which seems to be the basis of "gender norms". In terms of how I actually behave, it's purely based on what makes sense to me. I buy my clothes based on dimensions and practicality, from any side of a clothing store. I use a handbag sometimes when carrying things in pockets is impossible or feels uncomfortable, and I struggle to understand what is "masculine" or "feminine" about a bag. I see things like make-up and nail polish in the same way I see watercolours or oil paint, and so I feel they can be used by anyone for aesthetic or artistic expression. I believe high heeled shoes are for those who want to look taller (after all, they were first worn by nobility) yet the angle of incline between the toes and heel should not exceed 30 degrees or it's an orthopaedic risk to the small bones of the foot (so I feel that a lot of women are sustaining damage to their bodies for "fashion", which I don't understand at all). In the same way "gender" is not a factor in how I make my decisions or understand the world, I express myself in a mix of ways. I like my clothes to be comfortable and practical, and I love the freedom that tunics and skirts provide (which honestly contributed to why I now live in Scotland and often wear a kilt. I don't understand why it is a problem for men to wear skirts, yet that's another one of those "gender" things I feel will never make sense to me. Clothes are just fabric designed to fit a body). I know I am perceived as a man and referred to using "he/him", which I accept because it helps with general communication and fits social conventions, yet I am fine with any and all pronouns (as a joke, I often ask people to make new ones for me). I've also had people seem to want to insult me by calling me a woman, or using "she/her" with the intent that those pronouns would make me feel bad/uncomfortable. Maybe they would to someone with an internal sense of a male gender, yet as I have no real appreciation for gendered qualifications, it makes no difference and just looks like misogyny for someone to think that being called a woman should be an insult. However I am fully aware that being perceived as a man somehow makes people generally treat you better, and sticking to the mannerisms that are expected of "masculinity" tends to reduce the likelihood of people reacting like I have done something atrocious. Yet, it's all an act that I put up to make others comfortable, and I really don't care either way. Anyway, thanks for reading this. It's rare to see anyone talk about being agender, and I hope what I've added to the comments helps someone understand a bit more.
Thank you so much for your comment. I'm so glad I've managed to reach someone who is Agender. I'm sorry people have done that to you. Hopefully things get better for you. Also, that's awesome you live in Scotland!! I'm from there!! (And I still live here. Lol)
how does one be agender and straight??? If they don't identify with a gender then being straight would be out of the question wouldn't it??? I mean I'm genderqueer so I kinda know about agender because for a while I did identify that way for a little while
I'm glad you said that you're Genderqueer and you're not just hater. I myself am not agender or straight. So, I can't really speak on their behalf. So, I would recommend doing some more research
I feel I must specify it so it doesn't come off wrong xD But yea, I'm genderqueer :D I even wear a genderqueer ring in all my videos :P I'm also asexual and have a ring for that so obviously I can't be considered straight for that reason :P @@BBMacsWorld
I didn't watch the vid yet. I think agender can be a personality but saying you as a person are genderless won't be taken serious by most. You can express yourself genderlessly by not having stereotypical personality traits and trying your best to look androgynous. I think these gender identities outside of trans and non binary is just the gay community flipping off the normies but the thing about agender and bi gender and tri gender and etc is kids will flock to it.. agender is pretty much what pokemon was to me. But keep doing what you'd like.. I even thought agender was interesting at a point in time.
The reason I think non binary is fine to claim yourself as is bcuz intersex ppl exist and in my head they could technically call them selves non binary, agender, no gender or what they'd like. And yes I know that non binary is an umbrella term for agender and others.. but when it gets to the point where we talk about insert name gender you're just asking for trouble. Sexualities are fine you can call urself soulsexual or etc but the average normie mc normalson will look at you and see either black or white. Male or female and the most you can push their perspective about gender is teaching them about intersex.. but saying ur tri gender won't make sense to them. I wish we were all open minded but we aren't.
I understand your concerns. I also wish the world was like that. However, we can't let those people try and silence us all. It's better to be your authentic self rather than letting some assholes try and tell you who you are
Agender here, I think Monochromatification pretty much say anything I could.
I personally identify myself as trans because I was assigned a gender at birth so I recognize myself in the trans process of getting rid of that even if I have no gender to transition to.
And I would put myself under the non binary umbrella, partly because I am outside of the binary genders system but mainly because I love the colors of the enby flag.
And I think choosing an identity not because it suits your inner feeling of yourself but because you like the colors of the pride flag is the most agender thing you can imagine.😂😂
Thank you for your comment!! That makes sense that you identify yourself as trans, and fair enough liking the flag 😅🩷
Well said Bb. I like your comments. Love yous sooooooooo much xxxxxxx💜💖💛💚💙😚👧😇🙈🙉🙊
Thank you!! ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I'm agender (it took me a long time to come to this realisation - over thirty years to be exact), and the way I like to explain it is that asking me about my gender is like asking a blind person to tell you their favourite colour. The concept of "gender" somehow doesn't make any sense to my brain. I have asked people to explain "gender" to me, whether cis, trans, or versions of non-binary like genderfluid or bigender, and all I have managed to understand is that there is an essence of *something* that most people identify with which I definitely lack.
It's the same way a person who was born blind can understand they there is something called "colour" which is present in the world around them and shapes people's lives (such as how cars stop at "red" and move on "green") but they will never be able to personally appreciate what colour means even if they can appreciate the effects of it all around them (such as how people should wear "black" to a funeral). This is how I feel when I see people react on different sides of the gender discussions, including how a lot of cisgender people seem so convinced that there is a way all people born with certain genitals *must* feel and act in the world - which seems to be the basis of "gender norms".
In terms of how I actually behave, it's purely based on what makes sense to me. I buy my clothes based on dimensions and practicality, from any side of a clothing store. I use a handbag sometimes when carrying things in pockets is impossible or feels uncomfortable, and I struggle to understand what is "masculine" or "feminine" about a bag. I see things like make-up and nail polish in the same way I see watercolours or oil paint, and so I feel they can be used by anyone for aesthetic or artistic expression. I believe high heeled shoes are for those who want to look taller (after all, they were first worn by nobility) yet the angle of incline between the toes and heel should not exceed 30 degrees or it's an orthopaedic risk to the small bones of the foot (so I feel that a lot of women are sustaining damage to their bodies for "fashion", which I don't understand at all).
In the same way "gender" is not a factor in how I make my decisions or understand the world, I express myself in a mix of ways. I like my clothes to be comfortable and practical, and I love the freedom that tunics and skirts provide (which honestly contributed to why I now live in Scotland and often wear a kilt. I don't understand why it is a problem for men to wear skirts, yet that's another one of those "gender" things I feel will never make sense to me. Clothes are just fabric designed to fit a body).
I know I am perceived as a man and referred to using "he/him", which I accept because it helps with general communication and fits social conventions, yet I am fine with any and all pronouns (as a joke, I often ask people to make new ones for me). I've also had people seem to want to insult me by calling me a woman, or using "she/her" with the intent that those pronouns would make me feel bad/uncomfortable. Maybe they would to someone with an internal sense of a male gender, yet as I have no real appreciation for gendered qualifications, it makes no difference and just looks like misogyny for someone to think that being called a woman should be an insult. However I am fully aware that being perceived as a man somehow makes people generally treat you better, and sticking to the mannerisms that are expected of "masculinity" tends to reduce the likelihood of people reacting like I have done something atrocious. Yet, it's all an act that I put up to make others comfortable, and I really don't care either way.
Anyway, thanks for reading this. It's rare to see anyone talk about being agender, and I hope what I've added to the comments helps someone understand a bit more.
Thank you so much for your comment. I'm so glad I've managed to reach someone who is Agender. I'm sorry people have done that to you. Hopefully things get better for you. Also, that's awesome you live in Scotland!! I'm from there!! (And I still live here. Lol)
how does one be agender and straight??? If they don't identify with a gender then being straight would be out of the question wouldn't it??? I mean I'm genderqueer so I kinda know about agender because for a while I did identify that way for a little while
I'm glad you said that you're Genderqueer and you're not just hater.
I myself am not agender or straight. So, I can't really speak on their behalf. So, I would recommend doing some more research
I feel I must specify it so it doesn't come off wrong xD But yea, I'm genderqueer :D I even wear a genderqueer ring in all my videos :P I'm also asexual and have a ring for that so obviously I can't be considered straight for that reason :P @@BBMacsWorld
It doesn't matter if it doesn't make sense as long as people can live their best lives and be happy! Well done bb 🤩🤩😍😍❤❤❤❤ xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Yes, exactly!!! Thank you 🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I didn't watch the vid yet. I think agender can be a personality but saying you as a person are genderless won't be taken serious by most. You can express yourself genderlessly by not having stereotypical personality traits and trying your best to look androgynous. I think these gender identities outside of trans and non binary is just the gay community flipping off the normies but the thing about agender and bi gender and tri gender and etc is kids will flock to it.. agender is pretty much what pokemon was to me. But keep doing what you'd like.. I even thought agender was interesting at a point in time.
The reason I think non binary is fine to claim yourself as is bcuz intersex ppl exist and in my head they could technically call them selves non binary, agender, no gender or what they'd like. And yes I know that non binary is an umbrella term for agender and others.. but when it gets to the point where we talk about insert name gender you're just asking for trouble. Sexualities are fine you can call urself soulsexual or etc but the average normie mc normalson will look at you and see either black or white. Male or female and the most you can push their perspective about gender is teaching them about intersex.. but saying ur tri gender won't make sense to them. I wish we were all open minded but we aren't.
I understand your concerns. I also wish the world was like that. However, we can't let those people try and silence us all. It's better to be your authentic self rather than letting some assholes try and tell you who you are