Struggling Abroad 🇬🇧 with a Partner Who Refuses to Help with House Chores

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  • @User-72430
    @User-72430 3 місяці тому +3

    Why should a woman be working so much outside the house when you have a family to care for and nurture? Why do you do that to yourself? House chores is not a man’s duty, sorry, so you the woman should let the man be a man and provide for the home while you also concentrate on raising the kids. If you have to work it should be few hours, not double double shifts, why? You will keep complaining sis.

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому +1

      Thank you so much for this. I honestly wish we can go to the setting of "Adam till the ground". This days, it is unfortunate some women find themselves in a marriage that they hv to b the ones doing the most to be able to cover the bills adequately.
      This is why I can't judge any woman who works double shift for whatever reasons.
      May God help everybody in their marriage!

    • @benedictaojo1791
      @benedictaojo1791 3 місяці тому

      When the man is not winning enough bread for the home, how can the woman concentrate only on home making? It's funny how men want women to help them to win bread but don't want to help women to make home. If most women concentrate only on home making these days, them and their children will swallow air as food while being homeless.

    • @jenniferngozi7948
      @jenniferngozi7948 3 місяці тому +2

      My stay on this, if the man's money is enough for him to take care of himself,his woman and kids then the woman can take one job but if the man is still expecting the woman to still support him financially in a way, then the man is not being fair to his wife.
      We are looking at house chores what about finances to run the home??
      If the woman is also providing in the house then the man should do the needful... Simple

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      ​@@jenniferngozi7948exactly. Thanks alot ma for saying this. Somethings are easier said than done 😂

  • @PeterUchennaNnabuike
    @PeterUchennaNnabuike 2 місяці тому +1

    Ginika, you nailed it. Couples should know what know what and what works for them and apply such in their marriages whether residing abroad or in their home country. Yes, there is no formular in marriage. What works for a particular home may not really work in another home. Let couples be guided.

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  2 місяці тому

      Exactly sir. No copy cat affair😀😀.
      Thanks alot sir

  • @idorenyinnwaehujor5389
    @idorenyinnwaehujor5389 3 місяці тому +4

    Well said. Even here in Nigeria, my husband assists me. I had a nanny when my kids were underaged, but his impact in the home was always felt even with his busy schedules.

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому +1

      Thank you ma for sharing this with us. I am proud of how your husband is always supportive, even while you were running your PhD, working, time you had to be outside the country on study. I celebrate the grace of God in your marriage ma.

  • @esthernnabuike8877
    @esthernnabuike8877 3 місяці тому +1

    Thanks for this

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare 3 місяці тому +1

    Valuable insights

  • @lilicasablanca1056
    @lilicasablanca1056 3 місяці тому +3

    Couples who migrate need to be aware that some behaviours and attitudes that worked back home will not work in another man's country. They must be willing to stand as a unite front to nurture and support each other for the benefit of the family unit. Getting help, be it childcare or domestic support, is not as accessible and cheap as back home. Which makes it so important to be in agreement on how household duties are shared.

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      They must be willing to stand as a unite front to nurture.... God bless you ma for this. Thanks alot.

  • @adesuyiadeola934
    @adesuyiadeola934 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you sis . You have nailed it. My prayer is God will give us all wisdom and 'help them to listen to the wise words before its too late oo'

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Amen. Thanks alot for watching

  • @thelmablissdiaries
    @thelmablissdiaries 3 місяці тому

    Nice video Ginika

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Thanks alot for watching ma

  • @luluWill
    @luluWill 3 місяці тому +2

    OMG you had me in the first few seconds 😭😭 I was ready to fight you. Glad I waited 😂

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Thank God He saved me o 😆 🤣 😂

    • @swant8489
      @swant8489 2 місяці тому

      😂😂😂😂 i was also shock too liké What IS she saying😂😂😂

  • @kisasharon902
    @kisasharon902 3 місяці тому +2

    After watching and listening to this vlog
    I have to appreciate my hubby more.
    And may be to encourage couples in preparation to japa abroad prepare in physically socially. 😊 And above all spiritually

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Please appreciate him wella. Weldone to him. I raise hand up for him. That spiritual prep is importanta

  • @chinwengozieuniceamakom5303
    @chinwengozieuniceamakom5303 3 місяці тому +1

    Nice talk

  • @gloriadestinyacademy1607
    @gloriadestinyacademy1607 3 місяці тому +1

    Your simile and your simplicity glued me to your channel. Personally, from the story you narrated, I think they lack proper communication in their home. It is one thing to communicate and it is another thing to communicate well. The woman should always communicate to her husband that she needs help. Assumption is the greatest enemy of marriage. You assume your spouse should know this or that, instead of assuming or squeezing your face, communicating with your spouse is the key. That's why I encourage every couple to read the 5 Love Languages book and once every month to have an outdoor date night without their kids, these will enable the couple to talk things out, bond together, and plan for their home as well. God bless you for your prayers to marriage❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому +1

      It is one thing to communicate, another thing to communicate well.
      Assumption is the greatest enemy of marriage!
      How you easily dish out all this nuggets with you comment. More anointing ma.
      Thanks alot ma.

    • @gloriadestinyacademy1607
      @gloriadestinyacademy1607 3 місяці тому +1

      @@ginikatalks love your channel

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      @@gloriadestinyacademy1607 thank you so much ma

    • @gloriadestinyacademy1607
      @gloriadestinyacademy1607 3 місяці тому +1

      @@ginikatalks stay blessed

  • @walebibs7676
    @walebibs7676 3 місяці тому +1

    Kudos to you too. You are really trying. Weldone.

  • @akunnannabuike651
    @akunnannabuike651 3 місяці тому +1

    God bless you my dear for this.

  • @NursePeace-oi9yl
    @NursePeace-oi9yl 3 місяці тому +2

    This is one thing that cause problems in diaspora marriages. Let's all support our partners in marriage and the load will be lighter for each one

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Exactly my nurses. Thanks a lot for the support

  • @adelekefaith4782
    @adelekefaith4782 3 місяці тому +1

    Well said🎉
    Ride on sis

  • @DupsyPeperempe
    @DupsyPeperempe 3 місяці тому +1

    It’s a very important topic

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      That is under discussed. Thanks for watching.

  • @AjurisStyle
    @AjurisStyle 3 місяці тому +2

    House chores won't really be an issue in a home where communication, understanding and sacrifices is present. Kudos to all understanding and appreciative partners out there❤
    GinikaTalks always coming through with amazing and informative videos❤
    Thanks for sharing sis❤

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому +1

      You just listed the 3 key ingredient. God bless you for this.
      Thanks alot sis.

  • @kaysstitches4507
    @kaysstitches4507 3 місяці тому

    Is the seriousness for me 🤣🤣🤣
    Very well said

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Lolz. Women are going through alot here.
      Thanks sis

  • @isiomaanyanwu8114
    @isiomaanyanwu8114 3 місяці тому +1

    You look great....you have said it all

  • @sarahnnajiofor4847
    @sarahnnajiofor4847 3 місяці тому

    Nice one 👌👌well said👌Tnk u sis❤

  • @walebibs7676
    @walebibs7676 3 місяці тому +1

    Wow! This is a piece that is really thought provoking. This is what marriage should be all about - HELP MEET!

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Marriage should be about helping to meet each other need. Thanks alot for this

  • @jasonandestelle
    @jasonandestelle 3 місяці тому

    Very well said Ginika. People have to find a balance. Compromise, it’s a partnership.

    • @jasonandestelle
      @jasonandestelle 3 місяці тому

      The last sweep got me rolling 😂😂
      There is something they do to help. We appreciate them all the same 😊

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      It is o. Thanks alot for watching

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Lolz.

  • @jesusiscomingsoon6139
    @jesusiscomingsoon6139 3 місяці тому

    Well said. Say it louder for those in the back.

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      They must hear o. Lol
      Thanks for watching

  • @ginikatalks
    @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

    Thank you all for watching this video.
    I still dont understand why midroll adds are not playing on my videos!

  • @AjurisStyle
    @AjurisStyle 3 місяці тому +1

    Wahala oooo it's the serious face for me 😂😂😂

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому +1

      The matter serious. And e pain me

    • @AjurisStyle
      @AjurisStyle 3 місяці тому

      @@ginikatalks 😂😂😂

  • @LadyKach
    @LadyKach 3 місяці тому

    It's not easy sis but i believe communication and understanding is key 🗝️

  • @ijeuchesvlog5847
    @ijeuchesvlog5847 3 місяці тому +1

    God bless you ❤❤❤

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Amen. Thank you so much ma.

  • @teazerfemi
    @teazerfemi 3 місяці тому

    Lovely ma'am

  • @OmolaraOsunmakinde
    @OmolaraOsunmakinde 3 місяці тому +1

    Whenever house chores becomes evident in a marriage whether home or abroad it shows, one spouse has been negligent in their duty, meaning that it is the woman that has been shouldering the responsibility of house chores, here in Africa men are treated as king, bathing & caring for their children is once in a while thing, and this laxity has ruined many homes.

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Thank you for this master piece. I totally agree with you ma.

  • @nneomaazunobi6136
    @nneomaazunobi6136 3 місяці тому

    Rightly said

  • @msmeerah
    @msmeerah 3 місяці тому +1

    The *winking at me* sarewole part got me ROTFL😂😂😂

  • @Amyudobic
    @Amyudobic 3 місяці тому +1

    This will really help a lot of marriages and out there.
    Very informative.
    Please, I need to contact you privately ASAP. How do I get your contact?
    Thank you so much ma'am.

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Thanks for watching. Please my email is in my bio.

    • @Amyudobic
      @Amyudobic 3 місяці тому +1

      @@ginikatalks okay ma'am.
      Thanks.

  • @Kim_Nyasha
    @Kim_Nyasha 3 місяці тому +1

    You look great. UK suits you ❤

    • @NovemberReigne
      @NovemberReigne 3 місяці тому +1

      UK really fits her so well

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому +1

      Awwwn. Am blushing. Thanks alot.

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому +1

      Thanks so much sis 😀😀

  • @AjurisStyle
    @AjurisStyle 3 місяці тому

    Second here🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤😊watching still

  • @ruthuzoma8071
    @ruthuzoma8071 3 місяці тому

    Amen oooo

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Thank you so much for watching

  • @Jennybeautyempire
    @Jennybeautyempire 3 місяці тому

    Today's seriousness is something else😂😂

  • @akunnannabuike651
    @akunnannabuike651 3 місяці тому +1

    Those women in the Pata market are the 1st Peter 3:1 women.

  • @onomeilenikhena2503
    @onomeilenikhena2503 3 місяці тому +1

    The men should know that if u are living in the abroad as a couple u have to be up and doing.if u are not ready to help out then just stay back in Nigeria otherwise u will pay for a nanny to take care of ur kids while u sleep and also take care of ur kids.

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Exactly. And as new migrant, we may not be financially buoyant to afford nanny. May God grant all couple wisdom. Thanks for this ma.

    • @jenniferngozi7948
      @jenniferngozi7948 3 місяці тому +1

      Period

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      @@jenniferngozi7948 exactly.

  • @oluwafunmilayooseni105
    @oluwafunmilayooseni105 3 місяці тому

    Gini❤❤❤❤

  • @Hannysideas
    @Hannysideas 3 місяці тому +1

    You are so right ma
    Couples need to support each other ❤

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      That support is the key. Thanks alot

  • @flexinjoku
    @flexinjoku 3 місяці тому

    First to view, like and comment 😅

    • @AjurisStyle
      @AjurisStyle 3 місяці тому

      Notification gang member😂😂😂🤝

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      God bless you. Thanks alot

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Oshey 🙌🙌🙌

  • @GodfreyNnabuike
    @GodfreyNnabuike 3 місяці тому +1

    Unu ekwuzine aru.

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому

      Lol

    • @jenniferngozi7948
      @jenniferngozi7948 3 місяці тому +1

      Kedu aru okwuru? Did you listen to the video till the end? I don't know whether your a man or woman but if you watched the video till the end you will understand that what she's stating is nothing but the truth... Period!!!

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому +1

      @@jenniferngozi7948 lol, you don buy my matter, abeg o, lol

    • @jenniferngozi7948
      @jenniferngozi7948 3 місяці тому +2

      ​@@ginikatalks you are simply stating facts. 22years experience is not a joke.
      My last kid is 16yrs so when we see the truth we applaud it coz in marriage a lot of things are going wrong and people are overlooking them.
      Am a serious advocate of women honouring their husbands but the husband should also love his wife... Not by words or by winking of eyes😂😂 but by action ( helping her live loñg and stay healthy) for you ❤❤❤❤

    • @ginikatalks
      @ginikatalks  3 місяці тому +1

      @@jenniferngozi7948 not by winking eyes o, lol. thanks ma for sharing this advise too

  • @maureenoshinkoya
    @maureenoshinkoya 3 місяці тому +1

    You are always on point sis.

  • @akunnannabuike651
    @akunnannabuike651 3 місяці тому +1

    Women these days sef.