A Diagnosis - feat. Rachel Bloom - "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend"
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
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A Diagnosis
Starring Rachel Bloom
Written by Rachel Bloom and Adam Schlesinger
REBECCA:
FOR ALMOST 30 YEARS
I’VE KNOWN SOMETHING WAS WRONG.
BUT MOM SAID WEAKNESS CAUSES BLOATING
SO I TRIED TO BE STRONG.
FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT
THAT’S HOW I GOT BY.
AND WHEN I TRIED TO FIND THE REASON
FOR MY SADNESS AND TERROR
ALL THE SOLUTIONS WERE TRIAL AND ERROR.
TAKE THIS PILL, SAY THIS CHANT, MOVE HERE FOR THIS GUY...
BUT NOW THERE’S NO NEED FOR REGRET
‘CAUSE I’M ABOUT TO GET
A DIAGNOOOOOOOOSIS.
A DIAGNOOOOOOOOSIS.
DON’T TELL ME NOOOOOOO
SISTER, YOU DON’T FIT IN.
DOC, PRESCRIBE ME MY TRIBE
GIVE ME MY THRONG
TELL ME THAT THIS WHOLE TIME I’VE BELONGED
WITH THOSE OTHER PEOPLE WHO SHARE
MY DIAGNOSIS.
WHAT COULD IT BE?
WHAT COULD BE RIGHT?
SCHIZOPHRENIC OR BI-POLAR LITE?
I’VE NEVER HEARD VOICES BUT MAYBE IT’S TIME TO START.
VOICES (V.O.):
You’re super cool, Rebecca
REBECCA:
Thanks!
OBSESSIVES WITH NUMBERS, HOARDERS WITH CATS
I COULD REALLY ROCK A TIN FOIL HAT
PERFECT THEY’RE NOT BUT AT LEAST THEY KNOW WHO THEY ARE.
NO MORE BAD PILLS, FADS OR TRICKS.
WHO SAYS THERE ISN’T AN EASY FIX...
WITH A DIAGNOOOOOSIS
I’M READY TO BLOOOOOOOOW THIS…
JOINT AND BY JOINT I MEAN MY INNER SENSE OF CONFUSION.
VOICES (V.O.):
YOU SAID THAT CONFUSINGLY.
REBECCA:
Shh
I’M AWARE MENTAL ILLNESS IS STIGMATIZED
BUT THE STIGMA IS WORTH IT IF I’VE REALIZED
WHO I’M MEANT TO BE
ARMED WITH MY DIAGNOSIS.
OH, THE DOCTORS THAT I’VE MET WHO DIDN’T GET ME.
THIS ONE NATUROPATH
USED FEATHERS TO PET ME.
THEY SAID ANXIETY INSOMNIA WERE MY AFFLICTION
THE NATUROPATH SAID IT WAS SEX ADDICTION
BUT ALL THOSE THINGS I KNEW I WASN’T
YES I LIKE PENISES
BUT WHO DOESN’T…
SO PUT ME IN A BOTTLE
SLAP A LABEL ON.
LIST OUT THE SIDE EFFECTS
THEN WORRIES BE GONE.
‘CAUSE FINALLY I’LL KNOW THIS...
MY DIAGNOOOOSIIIIIIIIIIIIIS!
The show was never about Josh.
Amazing.
@@nxt_tim If that happens with someone, it will be Greg. Otherwise they wouldn't have recasted him.
@@davidgalan2140 Maybe. But maybe they recasted him so she'd get back into the old love triangle or let's say "back to the roots"... ^^'
I'll be disappointed if she "ends up" with any of them tbh.
@@ShelbyxPwns I agree. I suspect the show will end with her in therapy successfully managing her BPD, surrounded by a huge circle of close and wonderful friends that care about her and love her. I feel like she's going to be single at the end of the series.
TimTube What drives us forward might be love, but to assume that must be romantic love is naive. That is exactly what Rebecca did at the beginning of the series. She assumed romance would solve her problems.
Our driving force can be familial love, love of what we do, love for friends, even love of self. Romantic love is great, but don’t pursue it because you can’t recognize the love in your life that was already there.
This is exactly how it feels to have a diagnosis.
Geek Remix I love your channel!
Geek Remix I KNEW YOU GUYS WOULD LOVE THIS SHOW FUCK YEAH
Wow I love you guys and this show
Its fate
OF COURSE U KEEP UP WITH THE SHOW TOO. Seeing you on here is really cool because you both are great and this show is great and now my day is great.
I think you meant diagnoooooosis
This song nearly made me cry. So many people don't understand how often mental illnesses are misdiagnosed and therefore aren't treated. Depression and anxiety are often just a symptom, not the actual condition!
Oh I def cried!
And did you know that depression and anxiety can sometimes be the symptom of physical disabilities too? Because I didn't until recently! Mast Cell Activation Syndrome can cause both, along with concentration issues, headaches, digestive issues, and more. But sadly MCAS is very underdiagnosed
It's nothing you have, but something you ARE !
THAT HIT *HARD !*
Yup. I really resonate with this song. I've been diagnosed with depression for over two years now, and will hopefully get a new diagnosis in a few months
yes that's so true
I have been diagnosed with Severe Depression but now i'm being tested for bpd or bipolar
As a mental health professional, it is really beautiful to watch the show address the reality of mental illness, and that there is no easy fix. This show deals brilliantly with very difficult issues from abortion and alcoholism to suicide and personality disorders. It is still amazingly funny without trivializing or sensationalizing it. Great job
bobinsuffolk Wow. I hope you never get sick, old, or injured, because the second you do, you’re getting kicked to the curb.
@bobinsuffolk it's a path of construction, not destruction. These people can be productive members of society and all it takes is a little concern and help from the people around them. I'm genuinely confused as to how you complained about a "path of destruction" and then went on to suggest that we literally destroy parts of people's brains.
@bobinsuffolk And with that response I have no hesitation in saying this: You are a monster, and if there is a god he will see you burn in hell for suggesting that the solution to people is murder. I will not be responding further, as there is no point in further talking to someone who believes something so vile.
bobinsuffolk you are a shit person who doesn’t deserve to share opinions if you are that crazy. These people need help like therapy and other treatments not brain removal or death
@bobinsuffolk We've already tried your solution (such as it is) and it created way more problems than it solved. When Reagan cut budgets and cancelled many public mental health programs in the 1980s then a whole lot of people who needed those services became homeless and many more ended up in prison. The streets got more dangerous with all these untreated people out there. Prison is a really expensive, inefficient and misguided way to deal with the persistent public health problem of mental illness. And on the streets homeless people who need mental health services just get worse and other problems are compounded.They become a risk to themselves and others. Almost any public official who is serious about reducing homelessness and.prison populations will tell you that providing more and better mental health services to these populations must be a basic part of any realistic, enduring solution. Prisons cost way more than health clinics. I'm guessing you imagine yourself to be fiscally conservative but to ignore very real problems as you propose is no way to save money. It's also morally reprehensible, but I'm not even going to go there with you.
Somehow I never caught this show during its original air and lockdown has given me the chance to sit down and watch it. I'm a mental health professional who works with teenage girls, about half of whom have BPD. Every now and then my husband will ask me to explain it and while we were watching this season and I turned to him and said "This, this is all borderline personality disorder." Lo and behold, halfway through she got the diagnosis! My jaw hit the floor and my fists hit the air. First, to see a disorder as complex and loaded as BPD chosen for representation is IMMENSE and I was absolutely elated. Second, to then see it handled with such dignity and reality....it's so hard to describe the overwhelming gratefulness I felt. What you and the team of C.E.G. did is huge and you should be so very proud.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Apparently they actually got a mental health professional in to go over the show and figure out what her diagnosis would actually be.
I was in completely the same position as you and I agree. When I finished the show, not just because it was gone. But because it is such an educational and important show for people with mental illnesses in general.
I am delighted to hear that, because I haven't even watched the show yet (intend to) just seen a lot of the videos, and as I watched this I was thinking, "oh, dude, she totally reminds me of (person I know who has BPD) and it could totally be that" but I've seen so many bad portrayals of mental health issues before, so I didn't realize they would actually go there. I completely agree--it's so interesting a disorder and I have so much sympathy for those who have it. Their emotional spikes are just excessively high, to a point where anyone who's had hormonally-induced emotional issues (read: usually PMS) can really understand.
@@WynneL I have PMDD and the hormonal highs and lows and seesaws are hella extreme. I couldnt live like this without the week's break that comes when my period finally starts. I need that I knowing that this will end soon, these thoughts and reactions aren't you, its hormonal. How people deal with the more extreme disorders I dont know, respect to their strength I guess.
This may be the most wonderful comment I’ve ever seen on a UA-cam video. Makes me appreciate this show even more.
I’m not gonna lie, I almost cried when she said “move here for this guy.” She’s grown so much and I’m so fucking proud
I've got onto Season 4 and I find myself telling Rebecca I'm proud of her all the time now!
I feel like this is the non-ironic version of "The Moment is Me."
If you're looking for an actual non-ironic version of the moment is me search for "the moment is me earnest version" ;)) :D
Melodically it's kinda similar, ngl
With a little bit of Defying gravity thrown in
I think the first part was from Wizard and I. Rebecca believes that when she mets her doctor, the doctor will have an answer through a diagnosis
@@nxt_tim I just looked that up... After knowing the regular version so well, I laughed my ass off! 😂🤣😭
I was really shocked to see Valencia’s response in this episode when she thought Rebecca killed herself in the bathroom. She’s really come a long way from yelling “why does Rebecca get a pass for every crazy thing she does?” in the party bus in season 1.
I love Valencia so much.
And in her defense, she wasn’t wrong about Rebecca in the beginning. This random woman moved across the country to try and steal her boyfriend of fifteen years. Rebecca WAS being inappropriate and stomping boundaries, not to mention all the scheming on Paula’s end and the obsessive behavior on Rebecca’s. Valencia was 100% correct about everything she thought and said about Rebecca’s motives. That’s part of why I loved her so much.
And I love her even more because she learned how to be friends with girls and she learned how to have a genuine, loving friendship with multiple people. She needed that. Now she’s basically unstoppable, and Friendtopia shall soon come to pass.
@@lindsayface4750 TSAR OF TORTURE
Tara Crockett That’s the genius of the show. Every time someone used the word crazy in a flippant or derogatory way in the first few seasons was entirely intentional to draw attention to the way most people use and abuse the word
I mean, Valencia wasn't wrong when she said that in S1 and she had a good reason for despising Rebecca aka the woman that was actively trying to get them to break up so she can live out her fantasy. If Rebecca wasn't trying to get back with Josh, they would have stayed friends instead of having a falling out the same day.
Can we all agree that this season has zero boring moments?
It was the best show, but now with this season, it's even better.
I agree, to me the last two episodes were probably the best ever! So incredibly well written
I thought the second season lagged, though I still liked it. The first season had been pure comic and musical genius. This season, as it has found a footing in such moving drama, while keeping its over-the-top sense of humor, is pure genius. Very few shows can pull off that move from comedy into strong drama. Buffy did, and though I don't expect it ever to be topped, it wasn't until the fifth to seventh seasons that its story achieved dramatic perfection. I adore CEG. So very surprised to find the tears that come with the laughter this season.
Todd Bolton DUDE. YES. Glad I wasn't the only one who related it to the writing of Buffy. Glad Joss decided to redo the movie into a TV show.
"Perfect they're not, but at least they know who they are"
I know this feeling way too well. I'm excited to see where Rebecca finds herself by episode's end.
Rachel Anderson That line is where I started cry.
That envy of people who have a label is REAL.
I was diagnosed with Autism last year (i was 30 years old) and this song.... this song is sooo relatable. It describes the exact feeling of getting a diagnosis. I'm crying, this show is perfect.
I feel ya, I'm going to go through the diagnostic process, and it would explain everything I put aside as "quirks".
❤
I will never cease to be impressed by the quality of the West Covina mental health system
Pretty mad that 13 reasons why did a pretty awful job of depicting mental illness / suicide and then tries to label itself as "helpful" when it's actually harmful as it glorifies the act rather than getting help. And it did amazing. But this show really fucking hard as fuck. Like it's genuine and real about suicide and doesn't boil it down to "13 reasons" which is over simplistic. It also shows that getting help is bravery not a weakness. And it shows that help is out there. 13rw sent the message that if you're struggling, there's no point in reaching out because "nobody will understand" when in reality when you reach out to the right people, they genuinely want to and are trained to help you. I'm just pissed that 13 can be so harmful in its depiction of mental illness and get accolades and this show is swept under the rug when it's way better. (Of course, if you find merit and meaning in 13rw I'm not trying to say that's invalid. )
13 reasons is following the trend of tv shows being"dark realistic' tv shows because its prestigious,edgy and artsy. These 'dark' shows get them acclaim and awards because they so different from network tv shows like the cw, so they're taken seriously. Its has shock value to keep people talking.
The fact it got more recognition than Crazy Ex-Girlfriend is my villain origin story
@@amabelmercelin3047 honstly even when i wrote my original comment i didn't feel like i was indeed right. my mindset when writing my comment was less believing 'suicide and self-harm are inherently selfish' and more that i want to believe in it because i don't trust myself and scared that if i ever go to this dark place i will consider it. it was wrong of me to say this in public and thus contribute to the prejudice against mental health. i do think my original comment was very immature so i'm deleting it.
@@jash3881 My apologies for taking so long to reply: I do not watch UA-cam on a daily basis.
I am going to state the obvious, because there are reasons why still say it: if you are thinking that if you contemplated it, you would hurt yourself, it is time to seek help. Ideally, you would report in with a psychiatrist (usually by reporting into an ER or going through your general practitioner), or you would go to an allied mental health professional, such as a psychotherapist, social worker or (age-dependant) guidance counselor, who can help you navigate the system and provide continuing support. If still not available, a mandatory reporter usually knows of resources; if not, they know where to look. If you are in imminent danger, call a crisis line; if you are in immediately danger, call emergency services.
Realistically, not everyone has access to professionals. At the very minimum, a trusted, competent, mature friend should be informed. They should know so they can look out for you, and report as necessary. However, the big thing is that this is not something to go through alone.
With this said, I think you may be more scared than you need to be. Like with fear, this is part of an alarm system telling you something is wrong and needs to be addressed urgently. However, as part of trying to teach people to take it seriously, we tend to demonize it for more drastically than is true. The truth is in-between. Sometimes, to get people to move as inch, we have to push hard enough to knock them down. That much force shouldn’t be necessary and, sometimes, people really do get knocked over in the process, further perpetuating the myth. This is a reality, but it was only necessary to scare people to get people to move an inch. It was only necessary to get people to see the possible danger. The vast majority do not get knocked over, they do not fall.
Like fear, ideation cannot harm you. It’s just really, really uncomfortable. Taking action is the only thing that can harm you. Like when you see someone’s device has been left unattended, noticing that does not make you take it, even if you want it. It’s okay to notice; there’s nothing bad about you if you notice.
People always says “there’s nothing in the dark that isn’t there in the light.” Yeah, we know this is only a technicality. There is a reason why old maps marked unknown areas with sayings “here there be monsters.” There could be. The whole point is that we don’t know what’s there, we can’t see it! There could be something that could hurt us! But it wasn’t because we actually thought there would be Big Foot or the Loch Ness Monster in those spaces. The experts knew what it meant. It scared away the naïve, making sure that people went in prepared for the possible dangers within. It made sure people didn’t wander into the darkness alone, nor not leave word of where they are going. If you decide to go into the darkness, you go with a plan, and you go either with someone (like a professional in therapy) or at least tell someone where you are going.
There can actually be a lot of benefit to looking. It is a part of you. There can be consequences of not knowing yourself. You cannot clear out a space if you don’t know what’s in it. Sometimes it is scarier not knowing what’s in the attic than not knowing what’s in it. It can lead to growth. It can show you where the lines are, for your behaviour and others, and if they have been violated. You may even get to fight your own demons and discover you’re strong enough to win (that was me: I was actually managed to fight my way into remission, even go off anti-depressants, for nearly ten years before I was re-traumatized). A lot of my artist friends and family claim some of their best work comes from there (not me, I can’t work from that place, at least not now. My art comes from my happy place. Artists don’t have to be miserable, but they are an entire population that typically can and does look in the dark, and they are not the only ones).
You might not be ready to look. That’s okay too. There’s a lot of reasons to not look. Like many medical treatments, you can actually get worse before you get better: it can be triggering. You have to be prepared that you might be sacrificing your (intermittent) short-term for a net long-term benefit (another reason to wait to go exploring with help: it drastically increases the chances of getting better, and can make the journey easier, more controlled). Another thing you learn in treatment is how fear of it can make it worse, how thinking about it makes it worse. Sometimes you just can’t go there and, while you cannot escape entirely, you learn to let those thought come in one ear and out the other (a mindfulness technique). They can become the annoyance they are, not destiny.
There's no perfect answers, only what is right for you.
Yes, if you’ve said you’re afraid of going there, you need help. However, it does not mean anything is going to happen. Yes, suicide is a very critical issue that takes 800 000 deaths worldwide a year, and we could save so many of those, but don’t. But millions more feel suicidal; most with suicidal ideation do not ever make an attempt. Be scared enough to take it seriously, but thoughts are not destiny. You do not need to be afraid of the dark.
Thank you!!! I’ve suffered from mental illness all my life. I’ve attempted suicide twice in my past (now I’m okay. I asked for help one day and now I’m 30 and I’m an author!).
13RW bothered me so much in the way it romanticised and glorified depression and Suicide. Thankfully Katherine Langford was such a great actress she was able to sell it, but the writing was nothing more than trying to be shocking. The message was horrible...
Then I discovered this gem of a show. Never in my life has a show gotten mental illness so right
The best/worst part is that bpd cannot be medicated or cured. You have to retrain yourself to basically do everything. I'm so excited to see how they tackle the process on the show
bpd can be cured, that it can not be cured is disproved. It is just a rather difficult and long path. Plus some medication helps, just like no mental illness is not truly cured by medication but just symptoms are lessened.
I haven't seen the episode yet but did she get bpd as a diagnosis? That would explain why I've recognized myself in her so much. I've been thinking she had it since the start. But witj DBT and mood stabilizers you can manage it. You just have to think extra before you do anything at all sometimes. Like impulsive behavior. You have to try and train yourself to think before you act.
She did, yes. They even went through the DSM borderline checklist and showed flashbacks to connect her pattern of behavior to it. My mom has bpd and it meant a lot that they showed the diagnosis process (and Rebecca's reactions to it) in such a thoughtful and painfully realistic way.
Chebyshov wow that's awesome that they did that, I'm going to watch it as soon as I get home. Also I kind of felt just like this song she's singing when I got my diagnosis like "finally there is something I can do something about because I know what it is now!"
You can learn to cope but the emotional instability never really goes away. It gets hard wired through childhood and the brain changes in a way that prevents the ability to experience ambiguous emotional responses. It's called cross-inhibition so when you feel good, you forget all the bad and when you feel bad, you forget all the good. Recovery involves learning to cope and giving yourself time and room to think before reacting but the underlying neuroanatomical structures are still there.
This song is really funny, but what I appreciate most about it is how honest and sincere it is. Thank you, Rachel Bloom and the Crazy Ex-Girlfriend team for giving us songs like these!
3NU AGREED
Can we talk about how wonderful Nathaniel was in this episode? He really has come a long way
Anusha Neupane seriously. I was in tears (I'm just a little dramatic) seeing him having that talk with his mom and seeing him at the end with Rebecca.
Tiffany Palacios Totally acceptable response 😄
Anusha Neupane I KNOW. The last scene was so beautiful and sincere. incredible. so proud of our little nathaniel.
i mean like... i love nathaniel but i hope he doesn't end up with rebecca. she needs to work on recovery and love kinda makes her take two steps backwards
Ruby S Maybe not at the moment but I wouldn't mind them being together somewhere down the line
"I know mental health is stigmatised, but the stigma is worth it if I realise... "
This part gets me
I always tear up at all the women being in the kitchen when Rebecca leaves, especially Paula blowing a kiss. I love the little wordless ways this show showed the casual intimacy between friends.
I'm 34 and I finally got a diagnosis for ADHD yesterday and I have been listening to this song nonstop ever since. I loved the song even before, but the having a misdiagnosis corrected is an extra powerful feeling on top of the being diagnosed with mental illness in the first place which was already helpful.
I have an appointment today to see if I have ADHD! I was feeling very excited and realized this song expresses the feeling masterfully, so here I am.
I always just assumed feeling like/acting this was normal and it turns out...not everyone experiences this?
When I got my ADHD diagnosis, this was the first thing I listened to 😊
@indigoziona hahaha I'm also here right now after getting my adhd diagnosis today. Hello tribe!
Have also just come here immediately after getting my ADHD diagnosis! 36 years old. Love to my diagnosis pals :D
I wanna thank you for this episode. I also have borderline personality disorder , been diagnosed 15 years ago, and daytherapy free for 14 years . I liked that you gave accurate description of Borderline (psychiatrist talk ) so you did your research on this topic. And since there is such a stigma about it , it is refreshing to see it done seriously but also with a sense of humor. I will be looking forward to see Rebecca go into therapy and how she will rebuild her life after the diagnosis.
This song is exactly what it's like to go through decades of undiagnosed and repeatedly misdiagnosed chronic illness.
Hearing it on network television made me want to scream with joy.
If this show and Rachel don’t win an Emmy I’m going to sue.
isn't she Allred's daughter ?
she's already won a golden globe and critics choice award, so I think she's gotten alot of the recognition she deserves
It did! Finally! Because of "Antidepressants are so not a big deal"
I have Bipolar 2, clinical depression, PTSD, and ADHD. I know people dont like labels, but I feel like knowing what I have makes me know that there is solutions and people I can talk to about my problems.
exactly. i understand why people don't like labels but for those who do, a label can be really useful as a concise way to categorize your experiences. that way, you don't have to separately try to solve each symptom but rather work through what's psychologically driving them in the first place!
I love how this is such a Disney Princess song. Just compare it to Into the Unknown, for example. Yet she's singing about mental illness and treatments. One of the best songs in the show imo.
It gives me Defying Gravity vibes from Wicked
it gives me "i belive" from the book of mormon vibes in some parts
Purpose from Avenue Q
I never liked “Into The Unknown”. It had too many long notes. This song included so many great rhymes and an excellent melody.
its great. see people? not all tales of mental ilness need to be melodramatic or skewed. You can have a important story and still make it honest.
although melodrama can end up being a big factor of many real life mental illness stories, and I don't think that should be put down as a cringy or bad or unrealistic. many patients of mental illness practically live a life of melodrama, and it's honestly not their fault that things end up like that, the illness itself can elevate everything around them and the pain and struggles they face from it can make them feel at a constant low. even in this show, in the moments where it takes on a more serious and less playful tone when it comes to Rebecca's illness, things get pretty emotional and depressing tbh.
@@marsnr2177 I think OP was talking about stories where people with mental illness are not portrayed correctly and are simply used as a vehicle for drama.
@@oof-rr5nf maybe, hard to tell which they were implying imo
I was diagnosed with BPD many years ago. I don't often see a show or movie portray it so brilliantly. It's not that well known my many, and I hope this show opens people's eyes as to what it's really like.
there's been so many sad and emotional moments on this show, but this was the one that made me tear up. as someone with undiagnosed autism/adhd, finding the word for my experiences was the difference between feeling like i was weird and wrong and different, to connecting with a community of friends and likeminded people. i'm so glad we get a mentally ill character written by someone who's actually experienced similar things, who can break past the tropes of horrible mental health treatment and crazy ex girlfriends, and show a genuine picture of what it can be like.
I finally decided to watch the show, and I'm amazed. Just a few episodes left, but I know that I will watch it again as soon as I'm done. It's perfect.
I sobbed when this song came on, because I myself have gotten the diagnosis BPD just like 2 months ago. I knew that Rebecca would get the diagnosis, and even if I hadn't known about it, it wouldn't have come as a shock, because I really see myself in her a lot. But even though I knew, I just bawled. Still now, every time I see the video or hear the song I get tears in my eyes, and a lump in my throat.
I just got diagnosed with ADHD inattentive after 33 years of suffering through the absolute inability to focus on anything, and this is exactly how I feel. Like meeting myself for the first time and finally understanding and having hope. ❤️❤️
Same for me here
This is me today, and this song captures so perfectly how it feels. I'm even 33 years old too haha
This is so powerful. This song is everything. As a mental health professional, this scene spoke volumes to me, because so many times I've felt anxious about giving someone a diagnosis, especially when it's a difficult one like BPD... yet, at the same time, I've witnessed this moment happen to my clients many times, I've seen how empowering can be to finally get the right diagnosis, to understand what's happening to them, to be able to name it. They stop feeling weird and alienated, they start feeling like they belong somewhere, that their suffering has a name and a reason and is understandable. Also, it opens the doors for adequate treatment. Many of my clients have BPD, and since it's one of the less understood and often underrepresented disorders, I'm just so happy that this show exists and that it has addressed it with such professionalism, heart, and care. This show is necessary and I think everyone should watch it. ♥
Honestly, I love watching the people that catch things the characters throw in these songs. They always have their vague confused expression and it makes me laugh
'envelope guy' is the same guy that catches her jacket in the pilot
Having struggled with issues since my period started 14 years ago i finally got a dr that told me what is wrong and gave me plans and backup plans to fix it. The feeling of finally having a plan and not being told it is hormones and nothing can be done. This song is so perfect. Going to dr after dr and never getting answers is awful.
as someone diagnosed with bipolar disorder at 22, every time I hear this song I start to cry because wow I felt this
I hope Rachel and the entire cast and crew of Crazy Ex Girlfriend realize how much good they've put into the world, with this song and many others.
Just finished my autism assessment and should have an official diagnosis this week!!!! Came immediately to this song!
For 55 years, I felt broken. I felt like an alien. At 56 years old, I just found that I am Autistic with ADHD. For the first time in 56 years, I no longer feel broken. I no longer hate myself for not being good enough. Those feelings have faded and been replaced by love for a kid struggling through the world, not knowing who or what he was. I'm a lot more gentle with myself. A diagnosis matters.
this is exactly how it feels to be bpd. i don't know how they got it so perfectly without even trying or realizing it. i'm so impressed with this show and its writers/rachel. thank god for crazy ex girlfriend
Windy Sharpe It sounds like the creators put in a lot of work to portray her BPD accurately. Which is good to hear.
I like how they threw in the stigma of BPD when she looked it up. Because it is particularly stigmatized in the mental health field.
I read that they consulted a lot with professionals to make sure they got it really right.
@Julián Méndez what's your source? Because I've only heard Rachel talk about having depression and anxiety. Pretty sure she's said she doesn't have BPD
As someone who's lived their whole life with immeasurable frustration and hopelessness due to having their particularities and grave personal issues dismissed and underestimated by multiple health professionals who didn't see my situation as legitimate probably because of how neurotypical I look on the outside... this is way, way, WAAAAYYYYYY too accurate. I could literally spend 5 hours writing a complex essay on how I relate to every single word on this song. I'm literally jumping on my chair of sheer excitement. I feel seen.
A few weeks ago, at 22, I FINALLY got my diagnoses - BPD and OCD. I'm looking for further diagnosis, as I also heavily believe I'm on the Autism Spectrum and that I have ADHD. This was one of the greatest victories of my life.
I totally knew what the doctor was going to diagnose Rebecca before she went to his office. I'm happy she'll be getting the help she needs, but I know this is going to be a difficult road ahead for her. Especially because she has never really gone all in into treating her mental health.
Tiffany Palacios Yeah. As soon as he said that meds weren't a big part of her treatment, I knew exactly where this was heading. Especially with the abandonment issues she has.
Ciara Verzin I don't want to spoil it for you! It tells you in this last episode.
I was pretty sure she had that particular condition for most of the show, but I'm really happy they committed to a specific diagnosis, compared to a lot of shows that just have their unstable or weird characters given some vaguely defined condition so they're not obligated to portray their diagnosis accurately. Really pleased :)
Borderline personality disorder. You're welcome.
i had a feeling from the title alone ngl... but i knew in 'boy band made up of four joshes' when they said they were trained in personality disorders
I've cried over this at least once a day since the episode aired. I personally had a really difficult, kind of traumatic time around my own diagnosis a few years ago (the same as Becca's). This may sound weird, but I found this song kind of healing, soothing a spiky little corner of my past that I'd been stuck with for way too long. I could not love this show more
I totally understand that. This song is way too on the nose for me!
I love this show so much at how it paints a positive picture in seeking professional help. I remember feeling empowered a bit when I went to a psychiatrist but felt disappointed with how straightforward he was but I guess it's part of his job but I still dislike that approach. Being diagnosed with Dysthymia with Major Depressive Episodes sucked but it felt good because this lifelong shadow had a name and it gave me strength. Despite me still having mental health issues of my own, I work as a psychologist now helping people in need. Some days are tough but things that make me happy, like watching Rachel Bloom's work of art, gives me the strength to push through life's challenges. Thank you so much for this show.
i felt the same way when i was diagnosed with Dysthymia too, like finally so many things were clear and I could start a treatment that worked
Hi guys! Fellow DMDE sufferer here *waves*
That’s how I felt when I was diagnosed as autistic. It’s like everything just *clicked* and finally made sense.
I also learned actual skills to cope with my sensory issues, which I hadn’t understood until then. My diagnosis has opened up my life so much.
I like the straightforward approach with therapists. I’m a very blunt, straightforward person, so I don’t like being coddled or “handled.” It makes me feel condescended to.
But that’s why it’s so important to find a therapist that fits you well. You need to have a solid relationship and trust in one another, and that starts with just liking and respecting the other person. I firmly believe in looking until you find one you click with. Otherwise, you won’t be able to accomplish what you went there to do.
That is so great that you are a psychologist with actual experience that allows you to relate to the people you treat.
I hace that too and felt the same
Just got diagnosed with BPD after a Suicide attempt. Still trying to come to terms with it. Hope rewatching this series helps.
The world is better with you still here. Enjoy the show again and also take a break every now and then if stuff hits close to home. Season 3 is my favorite but also hardest to watch bc of the way she spirals. Too familiar 😔
The world is better with you in it.
Be careful watching this when you’re not in a good head space. I’ve always loved this show but for a couple years it was triggering to me if I wasn’t doing well. Hope you’re doing well all these months later 💖
I just got diagnosed with ADHD at 29 and this is making me cry 👍
Congrats on yours! I just got diagnosed today too at 31 and this is also making me cry 😅❤
@@turquoiseguineapig I got my ADHD diagnosis yesterday, in my late 40s, and this song was the first thing I put on after I put the phone down, well after crying in relief that is. The weird thing is that I didn't really get the song first time round but now I feel it so much!
Every time I hear this song I start crying. I got diagnosed with ADHD 11 months ago and finding my community and being properly medicated has actually completely changed my life.
28 years in and I finally have ways to treat my condition as well as realise that not all parts of it are my fault, sometimes it's the society isn't built for me. I have healthy coping mechanisms and my depression (caused by the ADHD) is easier to deal with.
I miss this show so much, it actually added so much positivity to the world.
Honestly, this song makes me tear up every time. I have generalized anxiety. Such a basic condition and yet it screwed me up for so long. When I finally had an experienced therapist who told me to my face what I had, it changed my world. This captures the feeling of finding out you're not alone. Other people feel what you feel and you can get better.
I kinda like how Rebecca is _happy and hopeful_ about her diagnosis instead of dreading it. A lot of people think a diagnosis is a sign of defeat, she sees it as a tool to help her
Thank you for this song! This feel so much like my Asperger syndrome diagnosis. I know it is not the same as what Rebecca has, but the feeling that you know why you're not like everybody, that you belong somewhere and that you can have help to work on it, this is exactly how i felt. I sincerely hope Rebecca can work througt it with the help of her friends!
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That’s how I felt when I got my autism diagnosis, too. Like everything just clicked and finally made sense to me.
I learned to be kind to myself for the things I had formerly hated because I didn’t understand why I did them. I learned how to deal with my sensory issues because I finally had a name for what the hell was going on with my damn hearing. I spent my whole childhood thinking I was going deaf because I couldn’t understand what people were saying. But nope. My hearing is actually exceptional, and I can hear all ranges possible for humans. But my brain can’t process so much noise, so it gets all staticky and blotchy and fuzzy. I learned how to compensate for that (isolation headphones are my BFF), and how to keep from pushing past my limits. Okay, actually, the latter was because my service dog would jump on me and howl in my face, then try to drag me outside by the leash if I ignored his subtler alerts that I was passing my limit. Turns out, he is significantly more stubborn than I am. At the very least, he’s less sensitivr to public mortification.
This song (and this whole episode, for that matter) perfectly captured what it's like to get a mental health diagnosis. It totally nailed the sense of relief you feel when a health professional tells you you're not completely crazy or messed up, but also touches on the hurt and shame that tends to follow after being classified as "mentally ill." I also love that this episode was just the right amount of funny for dealing with such a serious subject.
Awesome work as usual Rachel and the rest of the Crazy Ex-Girlfriend team!
The nod of Paula at the beggining is the cutest thing ever. Also when she give the purse to Rebecca and all the women are so happy for her
I actually have BPD. (No most ppl wouldn’t boast it aloud but this show changed that for me…) Her broadway show saved me. For this reason. Im not alone. And the actual stigma w BPD is everyone thinks were murderous screaming psychopaths. It’s so insulting… bc we just need to find stability. This song is very golden to me bc I felt this way for years before MY diagnosis.
I will add though, that her symptoms are very realistic… I never imagined musicals to cope. I imagined every conversation that was hard playing out how I wanted it to in my head even tho I know that didn’t happen. So much so I would rehearse this fake convo in my head and speak it aloud when alone and believe that’s what happened. (Again I realize it didn’t) But it brought me comfort and many other odd things like that. The point is we do these very odd things for comfort bc our emotions are very difficult to wrangle.
And YES. we very much live in our heads. Again, to cope.
Great representation of how it feels to finally have a doctor say, "Yes, you're crazy--and we can treat that."
Wow I didn't realize how vocally talented Rachel Bloom was until this song
I guess I just took it for granted until now. But wow! She has golden pipes!
The soft "welcome to your therapy Rebecca" is so smooth and nice, it's like ASMR for me
this is exactly how i felt before i got diagnosed. it's incredible how well this captures the feeling of knowing your troubles and terror isn't all personal failings and you actually have a community of people who can help you and understand, even if u know getting better won't be easy or quick
Just echoing all the comments to say as a therapist and a person in therapy with a bpd diagnosis how important this show is!!!!
I was diagnosed with DID in August and this song pretty perfectly describes that experience. 12 years of depression, anxiety, and PTSD diagnoses and treatment that never seemed to stick more than a year or two. And then suddenly I had an explanation for the experiences of my whole life. Treatment is still confusing and hard and will take a long time but for the first time it actually feels like getting to the bottom of things.
I felt exactly the same way before hearing a diagnosis and also exactly the same as Rebecca did when I started googling what BPD was. I can't even begin to express how relatable this show is. Having BPD and discovering musical performances as my biggest passion, I basically felt like I've been watching my own life.
When I first heard about this show portraying a girl with a BPD I was expecting a usual stigmatized prejudiced approach, presenting people with BPD as toxic freaks without showing a full picture since this is how my disorder is usually being portrayedin media. I'm so glad I was wrong.
Basically all the basic knowledge about BPD has been covered in the show with an amazing sample of the way we process things and how suffering this personality disorder really is. Most of us do our best to function in the society without hurting others and ourselves but eventually we'll end up hurting someone and this is killing us with regrets and self-hatred.
I also love the fact that Rebecca's treatment wasn't immediately effectives and straightforward - it is a long process full of ups and down. Personally I am in therapy for a year and on meds since few months, did DBT groups and workbooks and I still feel like there is sooo much more work to do waiting ahead of me...This show gave me a message that that's totally normal and okay to experience this kind of journey in curing BPD. thank you, thank you, thank you!
I do really like the way they handled her bpd in the later episodes. But as someone with bpd, I do feel a little uneasy about the early episodes. The show is literally called "crazy ex girlfriend" and does a lot to make fun of how crazy she is. I also feel like Rebecca is excessively narcissistic and manipulative in the early seasons, and both of those things are negative stereotypes about bpd that don't hold true in real life. I know a lot of it is for comedic effect, but it does make me uneasy having that be the representation of us. I guess it's a step forward, but I'd like to see someone handle it better in the future.
@@hueyandmo The whole point of being called crazy ex gf is to play with the stereotype of men talking about their crazy ex
This scene tugged at my heartstrings so hard. I love how fearless and thoughtful the show is in its portrayal of mental illness. And how the characters are all layered and the more we know about them, the more we care for them. I'm so happy this show exists.
I got a diagnosis today, and went straight to youtube to play this song.
I finally got a (physical health) diagnosis today that I've suspected for almost 10 years, and all I want to do is play this on repeat at full volume. It still doesn't quite feel real. I used to watch this video with so much envy and now it's finally a celebration 🎉
I was watching this show right before I went to Rehab for alcohol addiction. Seeing Rebecca’s journey gave me hope. Reaching out and getting the help you really need is so tough. Having her journey be depicted on public tv gave me a lot of hope. I think so many of us feel ashamed. Life gets better when you can talk to others like you. Thank you Crazy Ex Girlfriend!
This is my favorite song in the series, which is really saying something when they're all such great songs. It exactly captures that feeling when you finally, FINALLY get the right diagnosis, be it for mental health or a chronic illness. I know Rebecca is being naive about treatment, but I've had that giddiness too. Realistically I knew it was going to be hard work, but even having a name for what was going on with me felt like such an achievement that everything else seemed easy. I just get overwhelmed every time I listen to this one since the day it aired. Immediate mood booster.
This was the very first song I heard from the show and the reason why I watched CEG. I have bipolar disorder and my best friend has BPD. When I started watching I was like: that's my bff, that's how she is... And then the diagnosis came and I felt... Relief. Thank you for making people understand us better. Thank you for being respectful and well informed. Thank you for this anthem. One day I will record the most profesional cover I can and dedicate it to you, Rachel, even if you never see it. Thank you so much.
I am so happy to see this song now. This show appeared after my first huge breakdown and it gave me hope. It took me 3 years of struggling alone and failed attempts, but now I found a great psychiatrist that diagnosed me, gave me a treatment, and I've started therapy with a great psychologist. To finally feel seen and that my struggles aren't imaginary, it's awesome. This show is also the reason why I can now describe my emotions and symptoms, it was the start for getting myself educated on these matters. For someone like me who can barely get words out, that's huge.
This is it. There is no easy fix, but having a name to call it, a therapist to talk to, and prescription meds to make it easier to handle all help on the road to learning to live with it. I say learning to live with instead of recovering from it because a lot of mental illness doesn't have a cure. It's caused by trauma or you're born with it, and it doesn't just go away with enough drugs. It's always there, just handled better as you understand more. Hell, I got diagnosed three years ago and I'm still finding new shit that I can suddenly explain thanks to my diagnosis!
This is my favourite song of the whole series 🥰
This really affected me - what a wonderful song.
And I love that Crazy Ex Girlfriend has deconstructed the crazy and quirky sitcom character in such a compassionate way.
Seeing Rachel being in a hospital bed with minimal hair and make-up done is so refreshing. Most tv shows aren't willing to let their stars look less than perfect for a scene, even when it breaks the believability of the scene.
I don't know how many times I searched and played this song over the past few years, but the feeling is the same whenever I watch it. It's so glorifying, and refreshing to hear, every time.
I was diagnosed with EUPD many years ago and finally I watched this show last year before Netflix took it off and I've been listening to the songs since and this song is literally how I felt and still feel about being diagnosed. I went to so many professionals before hand and go no where. Then finally found the right one that literally got me. And helped. I'll never be cured or medicated fully but I have acceptance of myself and was able to do research and learn to better cope with things instead of just splitting. The progress I've made and this show and the songs over the past few months(I was late yo the fandom) has helped me so much. Thanks
Rachael bloom is an expert at really capturing mental illness. This is exactly how I felt when I finally went in to a psychiatrist and figured out what was happening in my brain
GUYS GUYS GUYS!!! They put so much thought into Rebecca having BPD. It's been foreshadowed since the very first season. In 'A Boy Band Made Up Of Four Joshes' the Joshes say they specialize in *personality* and sleeping disorders. Also, when you look up symptoms of BPD, one of the symptoms is self-destructive behavior. This ranges from self-harm to persuing unsteady relationships, and *wreckless, impulsive, or excessive shopping.* The unhealthy relationships bit is obvious, barring Jason, all of Rebecca's relationships have been unhealthy. Josh, Greg, Nathaniel, even that one vegan guy because she was using him to avoid her problems. Rebecca's relationships got better with time and therapy, and as the boys grew as people, but none of them started healthily. Back to the other example I listed. Remember that episode where Rebecca was broke and it felt kind of out of place? It made sense that Rebecca would eventually go broke because, wow was she bad at managing money, but it almost feels like a shoehorned in obstacle because they don't bring it up much afterward. But because impulsive and irresponsible spending is common for people with BPD it fits *perfectly.* God, I love this show. It's so cool to see little details fall into place when you rewatch. So much effort went into it and it is so, so, so underappreciated.
Edit: I just remembered Rebecca casually mentioning that she threatened her dad to let her go to camp by telling him about her suicidal thoughts! They really had been planning this BPD storyline from episode one.
Just got my diagnosis from my shrink today for Gen Anxiety Disorder. I blasted this.
i got diagnosed today i'm oddly overjoyed 💗 stay stong everyone!!
This song sums up all I've been feeling lately. In 3 days, I'll go to therapy for the first time. I've had a talk with a doctor before being guided there and there are high chances that I have ADD. I've been researching and it makes a lot of sense. I know I'm not going to be fixed or something but it's comforting to know that I'm not just stupid and that my "mistakes" in previous relationships might've been because of this. Knowing that I could have a treatment feels so good
I wish you the best!
Got mine today! This song makes so much more sense to me than it had back then when I had watched the show. ADHD in the house
I am a med student and I swear I diagnosed her with BPD since season 2 ep 2
Anh Nguyễn Quang Ping pong girl !
If you haven't cried while singing this at a low point in your life... I can't relate.
There's something so super satisfying about this song - I think it's that despite the non traditional subject matter it's unapologetically earnest, in ways that the previous songs have occasionally played with but always thrown a joke in (like me JOSH GROOOOBAAAAAN) and like... even the jokes in this song are kinda earnest, like hearing voices that encourage her or being ready to wear a tinfoil hat if it means finding a tribe.
It feels like all the other songs were somehow leading to this one, just like how the moment we saw Rebecca's bottle of pills in the first episode we were starting on a journey of finding out if she really is "crazy".
I think that also, like "We'll never have problems again", it's a little over optimistic, but Rebecca knows it, and even kind of acknowledges it when she mentions that mental health is stigmatised. It feels like such a hopeful moment and she is enjoying the hope and we can enjoy it too.
Just received a new diagnosis at the psych today and this song immediately got stuck in my head 🙃
So happy that Rebecca is ready to do the work to get to a better place. She’s so hopeful in this song and even though her expectations aren’t realistic, it’s just nice to see that she still has hope.
Nathaniel took me for an unexpected trip with his arc... his character just gets better.
Also, I hope Josh figures it out and gets some help too because he needs it.
Ashley Bobal yes. I love where they are taking Nathaniel's character. This episode showed us such a heart breaking and warming side of him.
Nathaniel is growing to be more likable with each episode. Meanwhile, Josh pisses me off more and more as the series progresses.
josh doesn't deserve all the things rebecca did but she also wasnt in her right mind. its like when someone with the flu vomits on someone. it sucks for the person they vomited on, but its not necessarily the person with the flu's fault.
I'm getting the sense that Josh is on the verge of a huge arc. Because for the first time he doesn't have someone centering their lives around him -- or someone to center his life around. (Plus all his friends are now closer to Rebecca than to him, which makes him completely alone.) While Rebecca's getting better, Josh isn't. I think he's about to start a very painful growth process (though I hope he gets to keep the puppy).
I assume -- and hope -- it'll end in some sort of friendship with Becky, but he's in a rough place.
silvertamagachi I’m hoping the puppy will teach him responsibility. It’s strange, he’s so self centered and doesn’t want to take responsibility for anything but when something comes up that has nothing to do with him, he feels guilty and thinks it’s his fault. I was really very disappointed when he didn’t stick with the priesthood since he has always been interested in religion. He has no direction and it was nice to see him reach toward a goal. But I’d probably feel differently if I didn’t have months between the end of season 2 and season 3 lol
I’m pursuing my own (correct) diagnosis at the age of 27 and I want to send this to everyone I know. The part where she talks about finding her tribe... tears 😭
I cried so much watching this episode, im just really glad i'm not alone and i know i knoww we all want to feel like we belong but when you haven't felt loved or well, like you belonged anywhere, its nice to feel it be it from a relatable show or whatever. Also I kinda paused and re evaluated the people i took for granted in my life after seeing Rebecca and all the love around (even from her mom in her own way) and idk, I'm really glad I came across this show and you Rachel
Coming back this song the day I got my ASD diagnosis 💗
I remember hearing this song for the first time, fondly. I have endometriosis, a hard to diagnose chronic "female sickness". Still, this was really how it felt when I learned what was wrong with me.
I just got a diagnosis for a mental health problem. I thought something was wrong all this time and the happiness to know how I can treat it and get better is overwhelming! I know exactly how she feels and thank you so much Rachel for this show! It helped me to seek help and I’m beyond grateful that we’re destimigmatizing mental health problems!! I especially relate to her singing about new life’s possibility because for the first time in a long time I feel hopeful for the future and excited about new possibilities in my life!!! 🙌🏼🍀💗
They gave me my diagnosis today, at 22 years old… after 15 years of carrying this weight. This was my soundtrack for the day.
I think one of the most underrated but best parts of this show is how well they balance the comedy/parody elements with genuine sincerity.
This is exactly what TV needs, thank you Rachel, the beautiful songs, the EVOLUTION OF CHARACTERS OH MY, and this exact scene made me so happy. The show has come a long way and I am looking forward to seeing how it all ends, but I don't want to see it end because it gives me so much hope and self love. I really got to thank my film teacher for showing me this show ages ago, it is absolutely lovely.
This made me cry so much. I have somatic ocd since i was 5, but only being 18 i found out my symptoms had a name. Feeling like theres something seriously wrong with you that totally separates others from you, feeling you could never be understood and loved and being so invalidated all your life... I know pretty well how it is. When i found out my diagnosis it changed my life for the better, i felt like it was possible for me to connect with others and i had hope.
i cried so much during this song, i've been recently diagnosed with PTSD and i identify with this song in every single level
This song was stuck in my head for several days I've waited to get mine. Ironically, I also got BPD. That explained a lot to me, including why I could relate to Rebecca so much even in really shitty things she's done
It’s been a few years since this first came out and I am convinced that this ballad is more personally moving to me than anything Andrew Lloyd Webber or Sondheim ever wrote. No shame to those geniuses, but this is on that level, truly. I’ve felt this way. I know exactly how she feels and it makes me and many other people cry. ❤️❤️❤️
It's 2024 and this song still makes me burst into tears. I can relate with every word that Rebecca's saying. So greatful for this brilliant piece of art. I remember when I got diagnosed and it felt like I was finally going somewhere, for the first time my existence wasn't a burden. Long live Crazy Ex-Girlfriend.
100% accurate to my life experience. Literally. Everything.
This made me cry.
Thank you Rachel for everything, this gives me actual strength. BPD it’s bad and scary, but you can do it.
The song hits me right in the feels. As someone with health problems but no diagnosis, I get all teary at the thought of a diagnosis.
I can’t believe I missed this show! It’s absolutely amazing! I love this song and the antidepressant song.
Just got my diagnosis and I had to search for this song and give it a listen to celebrate 🎉 thank you
I got the same diagnosis as her (not going to mention it because spoilers? You can never be too careful) right around the time when I first heard this song and this show helped me cope with it so much! I am so thankful that this kind of representation for this mental illness exists in the media. This show means so much more to me now than "just a fun thing to watch"
We need Rachel Bloom on Broadway STAT
I was diagnosed with rejection sensitive dysphoria... After being wrongly diagnosed or several other things... A diagnosis can be the best feeling in the world once it's finally the right one