I was also adopted from China. I wish there are more videos like this in my teenage years. I struggled with it for a long time. Especially with racism. I had that feeling I had to stick a note on my forehead which says that I’m adopted because I look different in between my siblings. Thank you for sharing your story.
I hope you are happier than the moment you left the message. Let them speaking, let them judging, you are not what in their mouth or in their mind. You are you, a true, self-loved and angel person. Be yourself, and enjoy your life!
They are not. There are many cases where adoptees are systematically abused tortured and exploited by the adoptive families. You do not know half of it!! Ignorance is the downfall of humanity! International adoption is human trafficking and it´s criminal human trafficking, warfare and a way to enslave ppl. Its been used for that for centuries.
My late husband and I adopted 5 girls, 2 from China and 3 from Cambodia. Our first daughter came home in 1995. We never used the words “abandoned” or “unwanted”. We always told them that their bio parents loved them but couldn’t keep them and wanted the best life for them. They are all in their 20’s now and doing great! There is an organization now that helps adopted Chinese children find their bio parents through DNA. They found out that many of the children had been stolen and sold to orphanages.
That's what I'm afraid of. When the adoption involves lots of money, you wonder where the money went. The jobs in China created by these adoption agency and profit for government. So worrying.
@Advant Garde Not just that, but a lot because of the one child policy so there were a lot of abandoned babies. In Korea also there are a lot of adopted children to foreigners because of the war and accidental pregnancies etc and Korean's are not big on adopting other people's children so they tend to get adopted out. Very sad. In India a lot of girls are given up as well because having a boy is more profitable and stable. A lot of babies and children during these times either get out up for adoption, abandoned or killed.
I have a friend who was adopted from China. She was completely abandoned on a farm when she was just a baby and no one ever found out who her parents were so she was just taken to an orphanage and was eventually adopted by a single woman who wanted to have kids, but didn’t want to get married. She’s completely healthy with her body all in one complete piece and has a brother who was adopted from Pakistan.
Let the parents in China take DNA test and put it in a database. Children searching for their biological parents can then be able to use the database to find matching DNA.
Rey Rey they probably should not search for their biological parents at all. Any Chinese will tell you so. In some places in China, especially in poor villages in Jiangxi and fujian provinces, people strongly prefer boys than girls, they would try everything until they get a boy. If they can’t, they adopt a boy from relatives. With strict one child policy they just abandon baby girls. There are studies from Chinese scholars showing in certain period, the recorded gender birth rate is extremely unbalanced, one can only guess why. When the policy is not so strict, they raise them as helpers of their little brother. One huge problem from it is that in these areas nowadays young men are outnumbered women thus it’s difficult to get married, and the family of women usually asks for tons of money to agree for marriage. Guess who is paying the money for the little brother to get married? Big sisters! They also have to help with buying house and car: standard start for marriage in China. I watched many videos of adoption and get moved each time. so happy for the adopted kids. They are so lucky to have the loving parents and family. Their biological parents don’t deserve them. There are cases that some girls found birth parents in the end, who fake crying and say how much they love the girl, only hoping to get financial help from her. I hope the adopted kids never have to meet them and find out the ugly truth.
yao sun You may be right. I’m just thinking for those who really want it - then registering into a DNA database to find matches is the right way to go.
@@yaosun1646 A lot of children were flat out stolen. A lot of Chinese parents ARE interested in finding their children. This is a very difficult situation indeed. But please don't paint all Chinese with the same brush.
Children in orphanage are usually abandoned, not stolen. There is a scandal though, that mainly between 2000 and 2005 in Shaoyang city, staffs from Population and Family Planning Commission took babies away from many parents and put them in orphanage for adoption. For these families, of course I hope they find each other soon. Except for these rare cases, usually the stolen kids don't end up in adoption system, but human trafficking: boys as sons, and girls as current labor and future wife of their sons to avoid huge payment for marriage. They have little chance to be found and rescued, let alone making decisions of anything. And It is not about nationality at all. I am Chinese, that is why I know these things. Most people in any country are just normal people. I wrote down the names of places where these happened a lot in the past. Again, any Chinese will tell you the same story why there are so many adopted girls from China. People who abandoned their kids don't deserve kids.
I would like to adopt but from my research is hard to adopt a child that is between 5 and 10. My daughter like to be a sister. I want to adopt like years but looking to the process that takes so long. Make me just lose hope. Can i travel to china and adopt. Is it easier from USA . I notice when people go through American adoption agency it's take longer. Or some find out that the child is sick. Which in different situations is hard to go through that. Some families can handle that and accepts what it is. But in my situation it would be hard. Who can help me here? Any advice or suggestions. TIA😊
It doesn't sound like you've researched this very well if you're asking questions on a UA-cam comment section. Adoption is a very serious business. People don't adopt to give their child a playmate. Special needs adoptions are all that's available in China with varying degrees of medical needs depending on what family can handle. Btw good news is that an older child (5-10 like you mentioned) adoption is one of the easier kinds to do and you can get grants for that.
Although China is the 2nd largest economy and yet their GDP/income per capita is still quite low and that is the reason why the title is "Abandoned in China, Adopted to the U.S.". Indeed, more than 2 thousand years ago, Mencius claimed that "raise the old as you raise your own old, and care for the young as you care for your own young" which is an important embodiment of Confucian thought. Confucianism believes that people should have a benevolent heart and extend their love to others. Therefore, people should raise their elders, care for their young, and extend this love to everyone. This thought embodies the pursuit of an ideal society and the emphasis on the idea of benevolence. The mentioned Chinese Confucian thought is very similar to western utopia - an ideal society. Utopia advocates that people should treat each other equally and help each other. In a utopian society, everyone works, distributes according to needs, and there is no gap between the rich and the poor, nor is there any crime. This thought also embodies the pursuit of an ideal society and the emphasis on the idea of benevolence.
I wish I could adopt so much, especially one so young. I don't understand why they don't do that as early as possible. Surely that's better than letting them either being pushed from pillar to post, or bonding with a foster parent only to be snatched from the only life they've known. Then there's the cost of caring for them. I do understand that people need to be vetted, but how long does that take really?
They forgot to talk about filicide In China, and the approximate 180 million babies girls killed at the hands of their own parents. Filicide has been an accepted practice in China for hundreds of years. I do give the orphanages credit for getting the baby girls out of China to other countries...
Lets not forget Obama started war in three countries on three different continents too, murdering millions of people who have the will to live and take care of their families
@@TsarOfRuss that doesn't justify killing millions of Innocent girls child . You killed them because you wanted son not because you wanted to control population.
As somebody that knows plent yof people in China i can say that it is certainly not an accepted practice in China. Maybe there are people who do it, maybe some even think it is ok, but that is certainly not the norm.
and it's Brian Greenup not Brian Greemup just wondering on why you's adopt kids from china or anywhere for that matter why not Australia I was in boys homes since 1972 and I wasn't adopted or fostered out it would have been nice to been fostered at lease I wouldn't had a decent family???????
While yes, very sad kids are given up in China, many were also stolen by the government, forced adoptions. Some kids are told they were left in a box, but not always true.
@@SummerHailstones its definitely a hard thing to talk about, especially on camera haha. but as a Chinese adoptee I have a hard and complicated relationship with it, even though my adoptive parents are good people who mean the best.
Because most people want to adopt a child younger than 6 and in the U.S it's actually really hard to be able to adopt a child younger than 6. The U.S is always trying to keep children with their biological families if possible. If any reason they can't keep them with their parents, locating other families or the family is unstable etc just a lot of it comes into play. The children are put in the foster care system until all those can get resolved. The only real way to able to go through with adoption here if the family foster to adopt which can take years and during the whole process any biological family member can come in and take back the child. It has happened before. So technically it's a little easier to adopt internationally because they are guaranteed a child if the family is accepted through the program.
Also there a priority list in the U.S too. First dips goes to couples that can not physically have a child. If they already have children depending on how many you have you get put towards the bottom of the list for adoptions. I watch a lot of adoption videos and parents explaining why they chose to adopt internationally instead of within the U.S.
Annie Hall Why not research it yourself to find the answers? I think you'll be surprised at the differences in scenarios. It's also very interesting that you apparently think one kind of orphan is more deserving than another.
My favorite adoption video on You Tube by far!!!!(Compliment... Ive watched 100's).... one thing I Hate to say that lingers... BIG TIME.... the omission, that Fathers can, and do Love their children as much as Moms... at 14:30 this adoptive Mom, speaks about Woman all over China that are Wondering, "What happened to their children '... Arguably(at minimum)... an Equal number of Men, are wondering, what happened to there children too... This Blatant Sexism is SO DISTURBING... and Common!!! Evolution is a Slow Process for sure... Hopefully she does some sort of Addendum... and acknowledges that .... another words... Grows/Evolves.... All Sexism/ Racism is Equally Ignorant and Dangerous.... Hopefully she Evolves a bit???? Regardless.... Everything else she said, and everyone else , and this Beautiful Daughter they have, and Extraordinary Young Woman, it looks like she has become... is.... So Endearing... X 1000!!!! Gives me HOPE... Im in need of that these days... THANK YOU!!!
I was also adopted from China. I wish there are more videos like this in my teenage years. I struggled with it for a long time. Especially with racism. I had that feeling I had to stick a note on my forehead which says that I’m adopted because I look different in between my siblings. Thank you for sharing your story.
I hope you are happier than the moment you left the message. Let them speaking, let them judging, you are not what in their mouth or in their mind. You are you, a true, self-loved and angel person. Be yourself, and enjoy your life!
Hmm, you must have been part of the early '90s wave. Kids adopted in the '00 had a relatively developed internet by their teen years.
People who adopt and welcome strangers in their family and raise them like their own, are truly ANGELS 👼 on Earth 💜💜
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They are not. There are many cases where adoptees are systematically abused tortured and exploited by the adoptive families. You do not know half of it!! Ignorance is the downfall of humanity!
International adoption is human trafficking and it´s criminal human trafficking, warfare and a way to enslave ppl. Its been used for that for centuries.
Her boys are so handsome ,good job Mom.Beautiful family.🤗
Wonderful family and truly beautiful mother and brothers.
My late husband and I adopted 5 girls, 2 from China and 3 from Cambodia. Our first daughter came home in 1995. We never used the words “abandoned” or “unwanted”. We always told them that their bio parents loved them but couldn’t keep them and wanted the best life for them. They are all in their 20’s now and doing great! There is an organization now that helps adopted Chinese children find their bio parents through DNA. They found out that many of the children had been stolen and sold to orphanages.
That's what I'm afraid of. When the adoption involves lots of money, you wonder where the money went.
The jobs in China created by these adoption agency and profit for government. So worrying.
The stolen babies were boys only...
Hi,did it cost much money to adopt a child in china at that time?
fookin white ppl. you deserve to get thrown into 🔥🔥🔥
so nice of american.ppl to adopt them
I feel so sad how we treated our orphans in China...even today..the country is not doing enough to take care of the most vulnerable.
so sad :(
@Advant Garde Not just that, but a lot because of the one child policy so there were a lot of abandoned babies. In Korea also there are a lot of adopted children to foreigners because of the war and accidental pregnancies etc and Korean's are not big on adopting other people's children so they tend to get adopted out. Very sad. In India a lot of girls are given up as well because having a boy is more profitable and stable. A lot of babies and children during these times either get out up for adoption, abandoned or killed.
I have a friend who was adopted from China. She was completely abandoned on a farm when she was just a baby and no one ever found out who her parents were so she was just taken to an orphanage and was eventually adopted by a single woman who wanted to have kids, but didn’t want to get married. She’s completely healthy with her body all in one complete piece and has a brother who was adopted from Pakistan.
Great mother!
What a beautiful young woman
Jesus commands us to do for the least among us..
Adoption is God's work and God's blessing 🙏....
You are very kind.
Let the parents in China take DNA test and put it in a database. Children searching for their biological parents can then be able to use the database to find matching DNA.
Rey Rey they probably should not search for their biological parents at all. Any Chinese will tell you so. In some places in China, especially in poor villages in Jiangxi and fujian provinces, people strongly prefer boys than girls, they would try everything until they get a boy. If they can’t, they adopt a boy from relatives. With strict one child policy they just abandon baby girls. There are studies from Chinese scholars showing in certain period, the recorded gender birth rate is extremely unbalanced, one can only guess why. When the policy is not so strict, they raise them as helpers of their little brother. One huge problem from it is that in these areas nowadays young men are outnumbered women thus it’s difficult to get married, and the family of women usually asks for tons of money to agree for marriage. Guess who is paying the money for the little brother to get married? Big sisters! They also have to help with buying house and car: standard start for marriage in China. I watched many videos of adoption and get moved each time. so happy for the adopted kids. They are so lucky to have the loving parents and family. Their biological parents don’t deserve them. There are cases that some girls found birth parents in the end, who fake crying and say how much they love the girl, only hoping to get financial help from her. I hope the adopted kids never have to meet them and find out the ugly truth.
yao sun You may be right. I’m just thinking for those who really want it - then registering into a DNA database to find matches is the right way to go.
@@yaosun1646 A lot of children were flat out stolen. A lot of Chinese parents ARE interested in finding their children. This is a very difficult situation indeed. But please don't paint all Chinese with the same brush.
Children in orphanage are usually abandoned, not stolen. There is a scandal though, that mainly between 2000 and 2005 in Shaoyang city, staffs from Population and Family Planning Commission took babies away from many parents and put them in orphanage for adoption. For these families, of course I hope they find each other soon. Except for these rare cases, usually the stolen kids don't end up in adoption system, but human trafficking: boys as sons, and girls as current labor and future wife of their sons to avoid huge payment for marriage. They have little chance to be found and rescued, let alone making decisions of anything. And It is not about nationality at all. I am Chinese, that is why I know these things. Most people in any country are just normal people. I wrote down the names of places where these happened a lot in the past. Again, any Chinese will tell you the same story why there are so many adopted girls from China. People who abandoned their kids don't deserve kids.
no way...many prefer not.
so sad to think of the past
Nice story. Thanks!
Very sad this country in. China they cannot afford to keep their kids thanks.
there are abandoned kids in every country.
Amazing story's
I would like to adopt but from my research is hard to adopt a child that is between 5 and 10. My daughter like to be a sister. I want to adopt like years but looking to the process that takes so long. Make me just lose hope. Can i travel to china and adopt. Is it easier from USA . I notice when people go through American adoption agency it's take longer. Or some find out that the child is sick. Which in different situations is hard to go through that. Some families can handle that and accepts what it is. But in my situation it would be hard. Who can help me here? Any advice or suggestions. TIA😊
It doesn't sound like you've researched this very well if you're asking questions on a UA-cam comment section. Adoption is a very serious business. People don't adopt to give their child a playmate. Special needs adoptions are all that's available in China with varying degrees of medical needs depending on what family can handle. Btw good news is that an older child (5-10 like you mentioned) adoption is one of the easier kinds to do and you can get grants for that.
A child is not a perfect doll
Although China is the 2nd largest economy and yet their GDP/income per capita is still quite low and that is the reason why the title is "Abandoned in China, Adopted to the U.S.". Indeed, more than 2 thousand years ago, Mencius claimed that "raise the old as you raise your own old, and care for the young as you care for your own young" which is an important embodiment of Confucian thought. Confucianism believes that people should have a benevolent heart and extend their love to others. Therefore, people should raise their elders, care for their young, and extend this love to everyone. This thought embodies the pursuit of an ideal society and the emphasis on the idea of benevolence.
The mentioned Chinese Confucian thought is very similar to western utopia - an ideal society. Utopia advocates that people should treat each other equally and help each other. In a utopian society, everyone works, distributes according to needs, and there is no gap between the rich and the poor, nor is there any crime. This thought also embodies the pursuit of an ideal society and the emphasis on the idea of benevolence.
Louder please ❗️
I wish I could adopt so much, especially one so young. I don't understand why they don't do that as early as possible. Surely that's better than letting them either being pushed from pillar to post, or bonding with a foster parent only to be snatched from the only life they've known. Then there's the cost of caring for them. I do understand that people need to be vetted, but how long does that take really?
They forgot to talk about filicide In China, and the approximate 180 million babies girls killed at the hands of their own parents. Filicide has been an accepted practice in China for hundreds of years. I do give the orphanages credit for getting the baby girls out of China to other countries...
China's population would have been around 3-4 billion right now... more than half of the world's population
Lets not forget Obama started war in three countries on three different continents too, murdering millions of people who have the will to live and take care of their families
@@TsarOfRuss that doesn't justify killing millions of Innocent girls child . You killed them because you wanted son not because you wanted to control population.
As somebody that knows plent yof people in China i can say that it is certainly not an accepted practice in China. Maybe there are people who do it, maybe some even think it is ok, but that is certainly not the norm.
and it's Brian Greenup not Brian Greemup just wondering on why you's adopt kids from china or anywhere for that matter why not Australia I was in boys homes since 1972 and I wasn't adopted or fostered out it would have been nice to been fostered at lease I wouldn't had a decent family???????
Beautiful baby girl
God blessed you.
While yes, very sad kids are given up in China, many were also stolen by the government, forced adoptions. Some kids are told they were left in a box, but not always true.
Specially girls boys r most valuable 😢
There's a lot though due to 1 child policy at that time.
How does the government steal babies? Do they just walk up to the family and say give me your baby and they do?
I wish you talked with more than one adoptee, and got less flippant responses.
Yeah, you are right! Thank you for the suggestion. I really wish I was able to find more adoptees.
@@SummerHailstones its definitely a hard thing to talk about, especially on camera haha. but as a Chinese adoptee I have a hard and complicated relationship with it, even though my adoptive parents are good people who mean the best.
Wow, you are an adoptee. That's why I felt you know much more about the topic than I do. Have you been to China to search for your birth parents?
no, theres no records either so its pretty much a dead end :/@@SummerHailstones
oh....well...But anyway, you can visit China if you want to see the place where you were born. It would be still very nice to know.
Ah! Fala em português, por favor. Não estou entendendo nada...e mais alto também. Aguardo retorno. Obrigada.
Why don't people in the US, adopt Children from America? They need adopted too.
Because most people want to adopt a child younger than 6 and in the U.S it's actually really hard to be able to adopt a child younger than 6. The U.S is always trying to keep children with their biological families if possible. If any reason they can't keep them with their parents, locating other families or the family is unstable etc just a lot of it comes into play. The children are put in the foster care system until all those can get resolved. The only real way to able to go through with adoption here if the family foster to adopt which can take years and during the whole process any biological family member can come in and take back the child. It has happened before. So technically it's a little easier to adopt internationally because they are guaranteed a child if the family is accepted through the program.
Also there a priority list in the U.S too.
First dips goes to couples that can not physically have a child. If they already have children depending on how many you have you get put towards the bottom of the list for adoptions.
I watch a lot of adoption videos and parents explaining why they chose to adopt internationally instead of within the U.S.
@@HopesUAllDie Thank you for explaining this to me.
An there are times when God puts it on your heart or gives you a vision, like in my case to adopt overseas!
Annie Hall Why not research it yourself to find the answers? I think you'll be surprised at the differences in scenarios. It's also very interesting that you apparently think one kind of orphan is more deserving than another.
The picture says it all sadd .
My favorite adoption video on You Tube by far!!!!(Compliment... Ive watched 100's).... one thing I Hate to say that lingers... BIG TIME.... the omission, that Fathers can, and do Love their children as much as Moms... at 14:30 this adoptive Mom, speaks about Woman all over China that are Wondering, "What happened to their children
'... Arguably(at minimum)... an Equal number of Men, are wondering, what happened to there children too... This Blatant Sexism is SO DISTURBING...
and Common!!! Evolution is a Slow Process for sure... Hopefully she does some sort of Addendum... and acknowledges that .... another words... Grows/Evolves.... All Sexism/ Racism is Equally Ignorant and Dangerous.... Hopefully she Evolves a bit???? Regardless.... Everything else she said, and everyone else , and this Beautiful Daughter they have, and Extraordinary Young Woman, it looks like she has become... is....
So Endearing... X 1000!!!! Gives me HOPE... Im in need of that these days... THANK YOU!!!
R
USA has enough people
Granted USA has enough people.
But if couples cannot conceive,
then they adopt. That is the choice of childless couples.
Greetings from Switzerland.
@@111-w9d7y well said.!