I don’t know how OP doesn’t hate the brother. HE was the one who pushed to know why she didn’t want to see Nico, and HE was the one who told everyone afterwards. He blew up her life, got her harassed, blamed her for “ruining his family”, all to go back to being best buddies with a rapist afterwards like he didn’t ruin OP’s life. I hope the brothers wife and daughter never go through what OP did, because if they do they know the only think brother will do is blame them
Ikr? Bro did all these shenanigans, ruined her mental health, her family life, and her professional life and then his word means NOTHING and goes crawling back to his family and rapist in law so he can get a good deal on a house. Spineless and shameless him and his wife. I hope their daughter is safe but now the rapist knows he can get away with this shit because if anyone speaks up, “it’ll ruin the family”. Got off Scott free.
@maddiemcnugget1076 Its giving "but he's changed!!! 🥺🥺🥺" Nuh uh girliepop as OP says he wouldve been the one to approach and apologized without any prompts
This made me sick to my stomach. OP didnt deserve any of it. Shame on all of that damned family for forgiving that abuser, and for putting that poor baby in risk
Yeah honestly the rapist probably “had fun” with his fiancé while she was unconscious a couple of times since they’ve been together for 9 years. And now he knows he can get away with it so he will do it again
Why do humans treat SA victims like subhumans?! Homicide, fraud, robbery, and hate crime victims aren't treated with as much contempt as an SA victim. Why is something as damaging and life-altering as SA regarded so fucking little?
for women its ultimately misogynistic ideas around "purity" it plays hand in hand with general ideas about women that arent virgins being "used", for men its because of this idea that youre "weak" and "not masculine". And also like the other person said, sex is a topic that tends to make alot of people lose their minds
He's probably going to do this again if he hasn't already and every single person who brushed aside OP will 100% cove4 for Nico. I hope OP blocks all avenues of contact so nobody can retraumatize her with updates. I hope OP gets to move on live her life without them dragging her down
So Angie knew what he did to her best friend (basically sister) and she still chose to date him. What a horrible person. The brother Sven is also to blame because he was too nosy and pushed OP to find out why. Now everybody is buddy buddy with a grapist and all while actively seeking to destroy the victim's life by getting her fired. you can't make this mess up. Absolute insanity
I hate this so much. Victims of SA are almost ALWAYS given backlash and for what??? Why can't things just be made easy? This is just sick and disgusting and makes me SO angry.
Absolutely horrid. That poor poor woman. I hope her current base of support (partner, friends, therapist) is still there for her. All the rest of those people can kick rocks. And for anyone who needs it: assault is never EVER your fault, and you are free to abstain from sex with your SO at any point even if you’ve already had sex with them, because consent to one encounter is just that: consent to one encounter. You’re under no obligation to continue if it makes you uncomfortable. If your SO truly loves you, they will stand by that decision. And if they break up with you over it, yeah it’ll hurt, but rest assured you dodged a bullet.
I hate victim shaming! How can you treat the abuser like nothing happened and put the blame on the victim as if she is the one at fault?! I don't understand people and I feel so sorry for this OP and anyone else who's had to deal with such an awful situation!
HE was the one who pushed to know why she didn’t want to see Nico, and HE was the one who told everyone afterwards. He blew up her life, got her harassed, blamed her for “ruining his family”, all to go back to being best buddies with a rapist afterwards like he didn’t ruin OP’s life.
You are absolutely not the AH for speaking your truth. Your courage to share your story is valid, and no one should be forced to stay silent about their trauma. Stay strong. 💔🙏
What is wrong with OP’s sister. I would never be with my sister’s grapist. Has she no self respect??? What’s wrong with most of the people in her life and her family supporting a grapist & shaming the victim??? I’m gobsmacked at how evil they all are. OP needs to go permanently NC with all of them. Unfortunately eventually Nico will get caught graping someone else because he’s going to get comfortable and sloppy because of all the support he’s been given for graping OP. Nico will got what’s coming to him once he’s caught, in prison and the prisoners find out what he’s in there for. I hope OP finds healing and peace and makes her own family with people who love and respect them.
I don’t know how OP doesn’t hate the brother. HE was the one who pushed to know why she didn’t want to see Nico, and HE was the one who told everyone afterwards. He blew up her life, got her harassed, blamed her for “ruining his family”, all to go back to being best buddies with a rapist afterwards like he didn’t ruin OP’s life. I hope the brothers wife and daughter never go through what OP did, because if they do they know the only think brother will do is blame them
Ikr? Bro did all these shenanigans, ruined her mental health, her family life, and her professional life and then his word means NOTHING and goes crawling back to his family and rapist in law so he can get a good deal on a house. Spineless and shameless him and his wife. I hope their daughter is safe but now the rapist knows he can get away with this shit because if anyone speaks up, “it’ll ruin the family”. Got off Scott free.
Yeah thought the same thing. Besides they had the audacity to (try) ruin her career. Everything’s messed up.
Such a sad update. It does feel like it would be pointless to speak up if nothing changes
at least they cannot go crying wolf about this ''WHAT?! the rapist...raped somebody?!'' truly mindblowing shit
The fact that Angie knew the reason they broke up felt so fuckin disgusting to me
Ikr it’s like “lol let me date my best friend’s assaulter! That totally won’t happen to me because I’m different”
@maddiemcnugget1076 Its giving "but he's changed!!! 🥺🥺🥺" Nuh uh girliepop as OP says he wouldve been the one to approach and apologized without any prompts
This made me sick to my stomach. OP didnt deserve any of it. Shame on all of that damned family for forgiving that abuser, and for putting that poor baby in risk
Honestly. I hope the little girl stays safe
Hopefully they protect their daughter because I doubt she’s the only person he ever did this to
Doubt it, Sven's wife would just cry if Nico does something to the poor kid with "should have believe in OP even more".
Yeah honestly the rapist probably “had fun” with his fiancé while she was unconscious a couple of times since they’ve been together for 9 years. And now he knows he can get away with it so he will do it again
Why do humans treat SA victims like subhumans?! Homicide, fraud, robbery, and hate crime victims aren't treated with as much contempt as an SA victim. Why is something as damaging and life-altering as SA regarded so fucking little?
Because sex, that's the topic that makes people lose their minds.
for women its ultimately misogynistic ideas around "purity" it plays hand in hand with general ideas about women that arent virgins being "used", for men its because of this idea that youre "weak" and "not masculine". And also like the other person said, sex is a topic that tends to make alot of people lose their minds
He's probably going to do this again if he hasn't already and every single person who brushed aside OP will 100% cove4 for Nico. I hope OP blocks all avenues of contact so nobody can retraumatize her with updates. I hope OP gets to move on live her life without them dragging her down
So Angie knew what he did to her best friend (basically sister) and she still chose to date him. What a horrible person. The brother Sven is also to blame because he was too nosy and pushed OP to find out why. Now everybody is buddy buddy with a grapist and all while actively seeking to destroy the victim's life by getting her fired. you can't make this mess up. Absolute insanity
This is sickening. Now he knows that if he does it again, he can get away with it. 🤮 I feel so bad for OP.
I hate this so much. Victims of SA are almost ALWAYS given backlash and for what??? Why can't things just be made easy? This is just sick and disgusting and makes me SO angry.
so she heard that she was traumatized by being raped, then advised her to break up, and proceeded to get with him??? wild
How tf can Sven and, especially his wife, be okay with their baby being anywhere near Nico?!
Absolutely horrid. That poor poor woman. I hope her current base of support (partner, friends, therapist) is still there for her. All the rest of those people can kick rocks.
And for anyone who needs it: assault is never EVER your fault, and you are free to abstain from sex with your SO at any point even if you’ve already had sex with them, because consent to one encounter is just that: consent to one encounter. You’re under no obligation to continue if it makes you uncomfortable. If your SO truly loves you, they will stand by that decision. And if they break up with you over it, yeah it’ll hurt, but rest assured you dodged a bullet.
I hate victim shaming! How can you treat the abuser like nothing happened and put the blame on the victim as if she is the one at fault?! I don't understand people and I feel so sorry for this OP and anyone else who's had to deal with such an awful situation!
This story made me so depressed.
HE was the one who pushed to know why she didn’t want to see Nico, and HE was the one who told everyone afterwards. He blew up her life, got her harassed, blamed her for “ruining his family”, all to go back to being best buddies with a rapist afterwards like he didn’t ruin OP’s life.
Dang it, I was listening to Christmas music when I came across this!
You are absolutely not the AH for speaking your truth. Your courage to share your story is valid, and no one should be forced to stay silent about their trauma. Stay strong. 💔🙏
chat I'm gutted by this one
This is why you don't speak about it because you will be the one to be blamed at the end of the day men are always the victim in grape cases
lol sounds familiar
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You are gross
What is wrong with OP’s sister. I would never be with my sister’s grapist. Has she no self respect??? What’s wrong with most of the people in her life and her family supporting a grapist & shaming the victim??? I’m gobsmacked at how evil they all are. OP needs to go permanently NC with all of them. Unfortunately eventually Nico will get caught graping someone else because he’s going to get comfortable and sloppy because of all the support he’s been given for graping OP. Nico will got what’s coming to him once he’s caught, in prison and the prisoners find out what he’s in there for. I hope OP finds healing and peace and makes her own family with people who love and respect them.