I was prepared for Crusade mode just for watching the title, but the first sentence disarmed me immediately and completely: "Intrusive thoughts are quite normal , we usually don't give then any attention. When we don't give a thought attention, it will fade away. The way we react to thought teaches us brain to pay attention or not. Intrusive thought comes from amygdala - part of brain developed to keep us alive." Yes! Intrusive thoughts are totally normal - it is triggered by something or someone, like Seesaw effect. Enter people who are in abusive contact, covert narcissistic abuse filled with gaslighting, blaming and ongoing criticizing. Simply being in contact with someone who is toxic but appears as neutral or friendly - will keep us stuck in intrusive thoughts, and from our perspective it will appear as if we are generating these thoughts out of the blue, that we are guilty ones, that our brain is abnormal and making us focus on such PureOCD rumination post-event rumination thoughts - while in reality we are exposed to someone really toxic (constant criticism, constant nagging and complaining, nitpicking our natural and normal mistakes and flaws and presenting them as our character flaw which is permanent). When we grew up in such toxic environment with constant relentless criticism and when we attract similar toxic people in our daily life - we will develop Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) - which means our brain will have open wound - and exposed to criticism it will trigger our ruminations all the time. Without education about toxic abuse and wound (RSD) - we will believe that we are defective abnormal and that we must be "strong" and engage in civil war with our head - which will only make things worse. Jung said - what we resist, persist. Any reaction, any ritual to anxiety leads to PureOCD. While in reality - we could simply be exposed to narcissists who is criticizing us all the time and keep our child trauma CPTSD wound open. Glasser said it the best: Improving our relationships is improving our mental health. William Glasser Interpersonal strife with those close to us leads to rifts and resentments that produce symptoms of mental illness; these problems are, in fact, the logical consequence of troubled relationships. Glasser emphasizes that lasting psychological problems are usually caused by problems in our personal relationships (rather than signifying a biochemical abnormality in the brain), and distress can be remedied through repairing these relationships without recourse to psych drugs. WILLIAM GLASSER Controlling Habits: Blaming Criticizing Complaining Nagging Rewarding To Control Threatening Punishing William Glasser William Glasser "What's my Choice" Connecting Habits: Listening Supporting Encouraging Negotiating Respecting Accepting Trusting They see us as timid, shy, weak, or unsociable. Fearing these labels, we try to be like others. But that leads to our becoming overaroused and distressed. Then that gets us labeled neurotic or crazy, first by others then by ourselves. The Highly Sensitive Person, Elaine N. Aron
@@MyOCDCoachI had an awful thought earlier there was a woman near the bushes. I was away from her but felt and thought that I was going to attack her it’s haunting me. My mind is severe hell and a prison sentence forever. I’m beginning to doubt that this is OCD. I’m scared and terrified
It is all depend on severity of them, i couldnt function without medicine..i had so many intrusive imagies, thoughts, all the time, second per second..
@@MyOCDCoach ERP with intrusive thoughts like somebody Will die because of me ect, didnt prevent that i wasnt near that Person, but severity of them was so Strong, that i couldnt Listen music, have conversation, concentration zero because of them ;)
Hi! I'm 12 years old and this one day I watched too many disturbing videos and I can't forget them. I think I have OCD and anxiety. I even had thoughts of jumping into holes but I didn't because I don't wanna die. I had those thoughts since I watched those videos. But slowly I'm forgetting those jumping into hole thoughts. But I can't forget the disturbing thoughts and I had nausea for 5 days.
@@aesthetic_bts_army7 Hi!! I’m sorry you’re struggling with this. Just know that you can learn to overcome this. I’ve worked with many teens with OCD and would love to help you. Have you told your parents? They can schedule a session with me at www.MyOCDCoach.com
can you help me please for the last 3 weeks ive been going threw a spiral i had intrusive thoughts about killing my mom and im just like wth why would i ever wanna do that and then it just got worse and worse i try to tell myself its jujst a thought cause ive been threw this before but whenever i think of something i think of the worst possible outcome and how do i know this isnt me and this isnt what i want please can you help me im terrified
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Harm OCD, like all subsets, is scary. I can definitely help you with recovering from this, you can find my recovery options here - www.myocdcoach.com
My brain feels num from this it was weird, last night I almost broke up with my girlfriend but I didn’t want to and my head feels like I should but I don’t want to. I never did at all but I feel like I thought about it so much that it feels like it’s true
Yes, the more you engage with a negative thought, the more negative you were going to feel. Thinking about breaking up is the compulsion of avoidance, and compulsions are the problem with a OCD.
@@MyOCDCoach thank you, I used your advice to just accept it as a thought in my head, it’s funny because I struggle with hypochondria as well. So I’m at the lowest mental state I’ve been in a while. But I kinda got over that thought of leaving her because deep down it makes me so sad you know
It affects my life so much😢even when I'm doing daily things,i do the things again and again untill i do the thing while im thinking about something good,i feel like if i do things while thinking those thoughts,those thoughts will be real,and im really scared of that cuz I dont want to think about those thoughts theyre horrible,even if i say to myself "these are just thoughts let it go" i still continue doing that after like 2-3 minutes,i really need a response cuz i dont know how i will let go of it,my mother and her siblings suffered from this for so long when they were teenagers too, I've been suffering from this for 6 years and I hate it so much it gives me headache,it hurts my head and it makes me wanna s/icide
It’s true! it seems counterintuitive, but the more you try to get rid of them, the more power you give them and the more you get. When you stop trying to get rid of them, but change your response, they lose their power, will no longer scare you, and your brain will stop giving them to you to try to warn you. Discomfort and imperfection are part of life, however, and the tools I teach will help you learn how to deal with this as well, so that OCD doesn’t start to latch on to any area of your life. For some, this may seem impossible, but I’ve done it, and I see people do it every day. It requires having faith in the process, and using the method I teach consistently, and there’s a lot of people that will tell you how well it works
I have OCD everything thoughts bad i learned a lot on ur video about thoughts that's me up one side and the other. Thanks i enjoyed it. 😊
I was prepared for Crusade mode just for watching the title, but the first sentence disarmed me immediately and completely:
"Intrusive thoughts are quite normal , we usually don't give then any attention. When we don't give a thought attention, it will fade away. The way we react to thought teaches us brain to pay attention or not. Intrusive thought comes from amygdala - part of brain developed to keep us alive."
Yes!
Intrusive thoughts are totally normal - it is triggered by something or someone, like Seesaw effect.
Enter people who are in abusive contact, covert narcissistic abuse filled with gaslighting, blaming and ongoing criticizing. Simply being in contact with someone who is toxic but appears as neutral or friendly - will keep us stuck in intrusive thoughts, and from our perspective it will appear as if we are generating these thoughts out of the blue, that we are guilty ones, that our brain is abnormal and making us focus on such PureOCD rumination post-event rumination thoughts - while in reality we are exposed to someone really toxic (constant criticism, constant nagging and complaining, nitpicking our natural and normal mistakes and flaws and presenting them as our character flaw which is permanent).
When we grew up in such toxic environment with constant relentless criticism and when we attract similar toxic people in our daily life - we will develop Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) - which means our brain will have open wound - and exposed to criticism it will trigger our ruminations all the time. Without education about toxic abuse and wound (RSD) - we will believe that we are defective abnormal and that we must be "strong" and engage in civil war with our head - which will only make things worse.
Jung said - what we resist, persist.
Any reaction, any ritual to anxiety leads to PureOCD. While in reality - we could simply be exposed to narcissists who is criticizing us all the time and keep our child trauma CPTSD wound open.
Glasser said it the best:
Improving our relationships is improving our mental health.
William Glasser
Interpersonal strife with those close to us leads to rifts and resentments that produce symptoms of mental illness; these problems are, in fact, the logical consequence of troubled relationships.
Glasser emphasizes that lasting psychological problems are usually caused by problems in our personal relationships (rather than signifying a biochemical abnormality in the brain), and distress can be remedied through repairing these relationships without recourse to psych drugs.
WILLIAM GLASSER
Controlling Habits:
Blaming
Criticizing
Complaining
Nagging
Rewarding To Control
Threatening
Punishing
William Glasser
William Glasser "What's my Choice" Connecting Habits:
Listening
Supporting
Encouraging
Negotiating
Respecting
Accepting
Trusting
They see us as timid, shy, weak, or unsociable. Fearing these labels, we try to be like others. But that leads to our becoming overaroused and distressed. Then that gets us labeled neurotic or crazy, first by others then by ourselves.
The Highly Sensitive Person, Elaine N. Aron
That’s really helpful Danielle. The bridge analogy is great!
Glad you enjoyed it, thanks for the comment!
You explain everything so very well 😊
Thanks, personal experience leads to expertise, and for that I am thankful for the journey! 😀
I have these thoughts around people about hurting them and they feel so real iv had them since my mom passed away in 2021 and they are ruining my life
Harm OCD is tough, but very treatable! Have you gotten proper treatment yet? You don't have to struggle with this.
@@MyOCDCoach iv tried meds, therapy, CBT nothing seems to work so you think hypnotherapy might work ? I’m thinking of giving it a go
Also doing some Reiki sessions???
@@MyOCDCoachI had an awful thought earlier there was a woman near the bushes. I was away from her but felt and thought that I was going to attack her it’s haunting me. My mind is severe hell and a prison sentence forever. I’m beginning to doubt that this is OCD. I’m scared and terrified
It is all depend on severity of them, i couldnt function without medicine..i had so many intrusive imagies, thoughts, all the time, second per second..
Did you learn really good ERP and use it with all thoughts/feelings of discomfort, doubt, etc?
@@MyOCDCoach ERP with intrusive thoughts like somebody Will die because of me ect, didnt prevent that i wasnt near that Person, but severity of them was so Strong, that i couldnt Listen music, have conversation, concentration zero because of them ;)
Hi! I'm 12 years old and this one day I watched too many disturbing videos and I can't forget them. I think I have OCD and anxiety. I even had thoughts of jumping into holes but I didn't because I don't wanna die. I had those thoughts since I watched those videos. But slowly I'm forgetting those jumping into hole thoughts. But I can't forget the disturbing thoughts and I had nausea for 5 days.
And the videos I watched were about murder/death/shootings so now im kinda stressed and I got nightmares for the past few days
@@aesthetic_bts_army7 Hi!! I’m sorry you’re struggling with this. Just know that you can learn to overcome this. I’ve worked with many teens with OCD and would love to help you. Have you told your parents? They can schedule a session with me at www.MyOCDCoach.com
@@MyOCDCoach Yes but they told me to forget it but I can't
Can you tell me some tips but without medication?
They don't know I have anxiety and OCD
can you help me please for the last 3 weeks ive been going threw a spiral i had intrusive thoughts about killing my mom and im just like wth why would i ever wanna do that and then it just got worse and worse i try to tell myself its jujst a thought cause ive been threw this before but whenever i think of something i think of the worst possible outcome and how do i know this isnt me and this isnt what i want please can you help me im terrified
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Harm OCD, like all subsets, is scary. I can definitely help you with recovering from this, you can find my recovery options here - www.myocdcoach.com
My brain feels num from this it was weird, last night I almost broke up with my girlfriend but I didn’t want to and my head feels like I should but I don’t want to. I never did at all but I feel like I thought about it so much that it feels like it’s true
Yes, the more you engage with a negative thought, the more negative you were going to feel. Thinking about breaking up is the compulsion of avoidance, and compulsions are the problem with a OCD.
@@MyOCDCoach thank you, I used your advice to just accept it as a thought in my head, it’s funny because I struggle with hypochondria as well. So I’m at the lowest mental state I’ve been in a while. But I kinda got over that thought of leaving her because deep down it makes me so sad you know
@@ZODIACALMIGHTY_ hypochondria is just health, OCD, both will be treated in the same way.
It affects my life so much😢even when I'm doing daily things,i do the things again and again untill i do the thing while im thinking about something good,i feel like if i do things while thinking those thoughts,those thoughts will be real,and im really scared of that cuz I dont want to think about those thoughts theyre horrible,even if i say to myself "these are just thoughts let it go" i still continue doing that after like 2-3 minutes,i really need a response cuz i dont know how i will let go of it,my mother and her siblings suffered from this for so long when they were teenagers too, I've been suffering from this for 6 years and I hate it so much it gives me headache,it hurts my head and it makes me wanna s/icide
How to get rid of intrusive thoughts. Don't try to get rid of them
It’s true! it seems counterintuitive, but the more you try to get rid of them, the more power you give them and the more you get. When you stop trying to get rid of them, but change your response, they lose their power, will no longer scare you, and your brain will stop giving them to you to try to warn you.
Discomfort and imperfection are part of life, however, and the tools I teach will help you learn how to deal with this as well, so that OCD doesn’t start to latch on to any area of your life.
For some, this may seem impossible, but I’ve done it, and I see people do it every day. It requires having faith in the process, and using the method I teach consistently, and there’s a lot of people that will tell you how well it works