Oh Han, I really felt for you there. You rode her so well!! The shouting teaching style of just one or two words repetitively when you’re struggling is a tricky watch. There’s certainly a time and place for having a push, but when you’re building your confidence is not it. Confidence is a delicate thing in both pony and rider. I struggle with it myself and think I would have got off within 5 mins of both jumping lessons. You were both absolutely amazing. You’ve both got this ❤
It is so tough sometimes! Especially with different instructors! Some are not our cup of tea while others are! Some push so, you did amazing though. Looking at where you were you and Affie are killing it!!! Never underestimate yourself!!!
Han, considering you and Aff weren't doing even remotely half of this level and intensity of work just a short time ago, you should be SO proud of yourself and your pony! You two are looking amazing together, and your smile says a ton about how much you're getting to enjoy the journey - the ups and downs of it all. Well done! What a fun camp (minus the rain, lol)! 💖
Han, I really felt for you, b/c I've been there. Both instructors were knowledgeable and knew their stuff, but were a little brusque, and I could FEEL you getting tense as the cross country instructor yelled at you to keep her going between fences. Which IS what you guys need, but probably with a little more positive encouragement (Simon, for instance). It matters so much to you, as it always does to me, to do right by your horse. And when we get tense, the horse feels that and refusals result. And that makes you feel even less confident--a vicious cycle. But PLEASE take away from this that you guys looked REALLY GREAT most of the time! A few refusals are not the end of the world. They just aren't. And they are much more about you than about Affie (which always makes me feel better--I'd rather the problem be ME than the horse, b/c I can work on myself!). IMHO you got a lot from the camp--you just may need a little time to realize it. I'm glad you were able to work with your instructor afterwards--just what you needed! And clearly you did well at Pontispool, so seems like you got your mojo back. Anyway, just to say I GET IT!!!! Hang in there and keep up the GREAT work, both of you!
I think that cross country instructor was not right for you. IMO success is not the height or number of obstacles you jump, it’s how confidently and happily you jump them. He was not safeguarding your confidence OR giving you the tools you needed. Good thing you listened to your intuition and Simon’s advice and not attempt XC jumping the next day. Take care of yourself and your pony!
Well done Han. I wasn’t a fan of either of them instructors. Dont think they did anything to help your confidence. Chin up, everything’s a learning curve ❤ x
Somerford is my local training place, I live in Cheshire, it's so cool seeing you there, the farm ride and x-country course are amazing. I take my own trainer so I've never had a lesson with the people you did. I'm glad you followed your gut and spoke to Simon, jumping twice a day is a lot for any horse but it's not beneficial for a team that needs confidence building, it's just asking too much of you both. But I hope you liked it there, it's changed a lot from when I first started riding there
Han, honestly you did AMAZING. Those were two rough sessions and you sat up and did your best! You did it upset and scared but you did it! Every time you had a hiccup you came RIGHT back around to try again. And Affie looked happy and generally relaxed! Her little ears were picked and she was happy to work! Yes she was difficult and yes you had a hard time, but you know your girl and you are doing it!!!
It's so great you spoke to Simon - he's such a gem who's sensitive to the emotions of both people and horses. Well done on coming out from a stressful situation with learnings and more confidence. Your body language in the last clip is so different from the first XC clip.
I must say, although there were a few moments Aff looks amazing! And she’s jumping so well!! Nerves and confidence are so fragile and some days the smallest thing can knock you sideways, so well done for continuing on and pushing through when you could’ve quite easily called it quits!!!❤❤
You’re doing such a good job Han!! That instructor was pretty harsh with you, I been in that situation where you think it’s best to stop but you don’t want to go against the professing. I just want you to remember how far you’ve come! Not too long ago you didn’t even want to trot, now ur cantering around XC🎉
I think you did really well. You & Affie have far exceeded what you would have expected this time last year. Shouty instructors are not for me but I guess they work for others. Affie was so sweet & tried really hard. Riding horses…..one day it’s amazing & the next you question everything. We are a mad bunch! 😂
Han, you're a beautiful, kind rider, and you and Aff make a cracking team! ❤ Watching that XC and SJ was tough to watch, the xc started absolutely amazing! You were smashing it, but I noticed there was never praise from your instructor, and once you lost your confidence, I belive he pushed to hard and once again when you improved and did well there was no encouraging words just "crack on" ... as for the SJ, that was brutal coaching, and again absolutely no praise when you did well, only criticizing and chasing you, I personally think you thrive off a kinder trainer (like simon) someone to really build your confidence and not pressure you and chase. To even be out doing this stuff with Aff after what you two have faced is incredible in itself, and I'd hate to see you beat yourself up because of harsh trainers 🥹 but that's just my opinion! Either way, I'm super impressed. You make a fab team !!!
Thank you!!! The SJ instructor is actually my usual instructor from home that I have very regular sessions with. She wouldn’t have ever spoken to me like that before she knew me. I’d been in tears to her and really didn’t even want to get on because I thought I couldn’t ride. She knew I needed shouting at and telling what to do otherwise I’d spiral out of control. It wasn’t a pretty session at all and if I’d had ridden like that the week before she’d have been like what are you doing. She knew that session was only about getting Aff and I over a jump to get our confidence up x
I haven't read all of the comments but I agree with some I have read. Instructors don't need to be brusque and have that tone as if you're not trying. I'm 58 and would have come away disappointed that I'd spent money on it. You've been doing really well with Affie, she's not been easy. I'd go for instructors that make you feel good. We all need a bit of a push now and again but there are nicer ways of achieving it.
Absolutely everyone even the best have days like this and we all suffer with loss of confidence at stages of our riding career. It’s tough but we come back from it and we always learn from it. You should be so so proud that you and your horse kept going through it and did everything asked even when it was difficult.
I think you did a great job! It is hard when you are not feeling it and you communicate that to Affie and it just continues round and round. That being said, I think you did a great job. Some of those jumps were a bit wonky! I don't know how you sat them! But you did and you made it through. Great job Han. You pushed through and although not always pretty you did do it. I'm impressed. Also, big Ariat fan. I freakin' love all of their gear. I have a pair of Ariat mules that are, kid you not, over 25 years old. They've been chewed on my dogs, stomped on by horses and do look a little rough but are just so comfortable and are the best "boots" I've ever owned. When I throw some saddle soap on them, they still clean up well! Can't wait till the next video!
This time a year ago you were wondering whether you’d ride her again - look how far you’ve both come! Don’t be too disheartened - even top,riders have bad sessions. Keep on kicking, you are both doing really well!
Well done to you for pushing through BUT not sure the instructors would be for me and don’t think they are right for you and your beautiful girlie who has been through a lot as have you , your journey has been tough , take it as an experience and just move on you are doing a great job 😀
You did a great job Hannah. Affie is so lovely and c!early trustsyou. With that in mind, I observed that you have a great canter rhythm until you approach a fence, and then you take your leg off and hesitate just a bit, and that's when Affie feels you back off and follows suite. That said, your improvement istremendous. Just keep doing what you're doing and it'll come
Bless her. She won't go if your heart is not in it. You can clearly ride and have a decent seat so you can amaze yourself if you ride forward and enjoy it. And remember as we learn things seem to just get harder and harder. You have come a long way now just enjoy it and let go a bit.
To be honest Han non of the trainers which was on camp was mend for you and your pony. I could see that both of you weren't in the right head space. Love you both so much 🌼🐎✨️
I’d find an instructor you really like and trust and stick with the same instructor …. One who is good at building your confidence and it’s ok to keep the jumps small and don’t feel you have to jump bigger … no pressure to jump bigger until you are both super confident
Wow that was a rough one to watch. Weirdly not because of the covert vlogging that was kind of cute. Even the show jumping session at the end of camp seemed not productive. Other than a horse just running flat over the fences what was the point there? Granted we don’t get to see the whole lesson but she was just pushed for more and as an Arab she is like ok we go. How is that teaching her to actually jump better or teaching you to see a stride or what to do when you don’t see a stride. Props to you for sticking through all the lessons and Affie was a really good sport about everything. She is really maturing and you guys are really making a great team this was just an unfortunate run of lessons.
In my SJ instructors defence. That last session was just about getting me over a fence to help build my confidence rather than any sort of style or anything. She knew if she gave me things to do I’d just flap out of control. I really didn’t want to get on so Mandy had a tough time trying to get me confident x
I didn't find the somerford camp experience any where near as AMAZING as I've heard it to be... I think it's hyped up and rated far too much, so you go there with an idea of what to expect and it's so unlikely it will live up to it. You done very well. The camps have a lot to improve on, you did great ❤
Mine wasn’t ran by somerford. It was organised and ran by my RC. So I knew all the instructors before I went. I think I was just tired and got myself in a mess. I do usually really enjoy the camp with my RC X
@Nohorsehan oh I see, that explains why the instructors were a bit more blunt etc. Well either way, you're doing really well with your horse, and thanks for vlogging your journey x
In my humble opinion, those instructors were just what you needed to give you a really good push. Yes, it was important and a good call to not jump twice in one day, but as I watch, you tootle around with no impetus or purpose, then when Affie stops or dodges out, you question what is happening. Affie is more than capable, you have to accept that and try to be a bit more brave. I thought you ended on a good note and look forward to seeing your next event.
You did amazing Han, however I think both instructors need to learn about people skills and how we all learn differently. Shouting at someone who they don’t know, don’t know the history is really not the way. Move on from it, stick with Simon or similar who will give you more confidence. You are an amazing rider and horsy mum.
The SJ instructor is my usual instructor from home. She wouldn’t shout at anyone else like that but I have weekly private lessons and she knows Aff and I so well. Maybe I should have explained that. She knows that I get myself in a mess and overthink when I’m in that head space. So I just need shouting at and telling exactly what to do, the session was about teaching me I can ride and Aff will jump rather than anything else. She actually gave me soo much confidence x
I know both instructors and if I was in a different headspace I think I’d have been fine. I didn’t want to upset anyone or cause any issues out XC so I just carried on
What saddle is affie in looks great !! The right Tutor for you.... You have to find !!!🤔 Pony club Barking !! does not work for me !!! Your Jumping With Simeee was so much better !!! He is so gentil and firm !!! 🤩
Yikes...this wasn't on your or Aff, Han. Watching these instructors was hard for me. Zero praise, they seemed annoyed to even be there. I am not saying they're not talented which I am sure they are, but for people like me, I like Simon's approach much better. I think another mini Simey camp is in order personally!
I think a mini Simey camp is definitely in order. The SJ instructor is actually my normal SJ instructor from home and I absolutely adore her. She pushes me because she knows me and Aff so well. She was never like that when she first met me, unfortunately I’m the sort of person that just runs away with there thoughts. She knew I needed telling to just get on with it and almost shouting at so I didn’t have time to over think and think I couldn’t ride
Oh Han, I really felt for you there. You rode her so well!! The shouting teaching style of just one or two words repetitively when you’re struggling is a tricky watch. There’s certainly a time and place for having a push, but when you’re building your confidence is not it. Confidence is a delicate thing in both pony and rider. I struggle with it myself and think I would have got off within 5 mins of both jumping lessons. You were both absolutely amazing. You’ve both got this ❤
It is so tough sometimes! Especially with different instructors! Some are not our cup of tea while others are! Some push so, you did amazing though. Looking at where you were you and Affie are killing it!!! Never underestimate yourself!!!
Han, considering you and Aff weren't doing even remotely half of this level and intensity of work just a short time ago, you should be SO proud of yourself and your pony! You two are looking amazing together, and your smile says a ton about how much you're getting to enjoy the journey - the ups and downs of it all. Well done! What a fun camp (minus the rain, lol)! 💖
Han, I really felt for you, b/c I've been there. Both instructors were knowledgeable and knew their stuff, but were a little brusque, and I could FEEL you getting tense as the cross country instructor yelled at you to keep her going between fences. Which IS what you guys need, but probably with a little more positive encouragement (Simon, for instance). It matters so much to you, as it always does to me, to do right by your horse. And when we get tense, the horse feels that and refusals result. And that makes you feel even less confident--a vicious cycle. But PLEASE take away from this that you guys looked REALLY GREAT most of the time! A few refusals are not the end of the world. They just aren't. And they are much more about you than about Affie (which always makes me feel better--I'd rather the problem be ME than the horse, b/c I can work on myself!). IMHO you got a lot from the camp--you just may need a little time to realize it. I'm glad you were able to work with your instructor afterwards--just what you needed! And clearly you did well at Pontispool, so seems like you got your mojo back. Anyway, just to say I GET IT!!!! Hang in there and keep up the GREAT work, both of you!
I think that cross country instructor was not right for you. IMO success is not the height or number of obstacles you jump, it’s how confidently and happily you jump them. He was not safeguarding your confidence OR giving you the tools you needed. Good thing you listened to your intuition and Simon’s advice and not attempt XC jumping the next day. Take care of yourself and your pony!
Hanny you rode so bloody well considering the non stop pushing you received from your instructors. Well done you 👏
Well done Han. I wasn’t a fan of either of them instructors. Dont think they did anything to help your confidence.
Chin up, everything’s a learning curve ❤ x
Somerford is my local training place, I live in Cheshire, it's so cool seeing you there, the farm ride and x-country course are amazing. I take my own trainer so I've never had a lesson with the people you did. I'm glad you followed your gut and spoke to Simon, jumping twice a day is a lot for any horse but it's not beneficial for a team that needs confidence building, it's just asking too much of you both. But I hope you liked it there, it's changed a lot from when I first started riding there
Han, honestly you did AMAZING. Those were two rough sessions and you sat up and did your best! You did it upset and scared but you did it! Every time you had a hiccup you came RIGHT back around to try again. And Affie looked happy and generally relaxed! Her little ears were picked and she was happy to work! Yes she was difficult and yes you had a hard time, but you know your girl and you are doing it!!!
Thank you, Aff really loves jumping and just generally pleasing me 🥹
@@Nohorsehan she's a good girl and you're so good for her!
It's so great you spoke to Simon - he's such a gem who's sensitive to the emotions of both people and horses. Well done on coming out from a stressful situation with learnings and more confidence. Your body language in the last clip is so different from the first XC clip.
I must say, although there were a few moments Aff looks amazing! And she’s jumping so well!! Nerves and confidence are so fragile and some days the smallest thing can knock you sideways, so well done for continuing on and pushing through when you could’ve quite easily called it quits!!!❤❤
I sooo get this!!! I’ve been in tears a few times in XC groups with coaches pushing too much. Finding the right people is so important.
You’re doing such a good job Han!! That instructor was pretty harsh with you, I been in that situation where you think it’s best to stop but you don’t want to go against the professing. I just want you to remember how far you’ve come! Not too long ago you didn’t even want to trot, now ur cantering around XC🎉
I think you did really well. You & Affie have far exceeded what you would have expected this time last year. Shouty instructors are not for me but I guess they work for others. Affie was so sweet & tried really hard. Riding horses…..one day it’s amazing & the next you question everything. We are a mad bunch! 😂
Han, you're a beautiful, kind rider, and you and Aff make a cracking team! ❤ Watching that XC and SJ was tough to watch, the xc started absolutely amazing! You were smashing it, but I noticed there was never praise from your instructor, and once you lost your confidence, I belive he pushed to hard and once again when you improved and did well there was no encouraging words just "crack on" ... as for the SJ, that was brutal coaching, and again absolutely no praise when you did well, only criticizing and chasing you, I personally think you thrive off a kinder trainer (like simon) someone to really build your confidence and not pressure you and chase. To even be out doing this stuff with Aff after what you two have faced is incredible in itself, and I'd hate to see you beat yourself up because of harsh trainers 🥹 but that's just my opinion! Either way, I'm super impressed. You make a fab team !!!
Thank you!!!
The SJ instructor is actually my usual instructor from home that I have very regular sessions with. She wouldn’t have ever spoken to me like that before she knew me. I’d been in tears to her and really didn’t even want to get on because I thought I couldn’t ride. She knew I needed shouting at and telling what to do otherwise I’d spiral out of control. It wasn’t a pretty session at all and if I’d had ridden like that the week before she’d have been like what are you doing. She knew that session was only about getting Aff and I over a jump to get our confidence up x
@Nohorsehan That makes so much more sense!! You're smashing it. I love watching you and Aff thrive 🥰
I haven't read all of the comments but I agree with some I have read. Instructors don't need to be brusque and have that tone as if you're not trying. I'm 58 and would have come away disappointed that I'd spent money on it. You've been doing really well with Affie, she's not been easy. I'd go for instructors that make you feel good. We all need a bit of a push now and again but there are nicer ways of achieving it.
Producing horses is like living on an Alton Towers rollercoaster oh the ups and the downs!
Absolutely everyone even the best have days like this and we all suffer with loss of confidence at stages of our riding career. It’s tough but we come back from it and we always learn from it. You should be so so proud that you and your horse kept going through it and did everything asked even when it was difficult.
I think you did a great job! It is hard when you are not feeling it and you communicate that to Affie and it just continues round and round. That being said, I think you did a great job. Some of those jumps were a bit wonky! I don't know how you sat them! But you did and you made it through. Great job Han. You pushed through and although not always pretty you did do it. I'm impressed. Also, big Ariat fan. I freakin' love all of their gear. I have a pair of Ariat mules that are, kid you not, over 25 years old. They've been chewed on my dogs, stomped on by horses and do look a little rough but are just so comfortable and are the best "boots" I've ever owned. When I throw some saddle soap on them, they still clean up well! Can't wait till the next video!
This time a year ago you were wondering whether you’d ride her again - look how far you’ve both come! Don’t be too disheartened - even top,riders have bad sessions. Keep on kicking, you are both doing really well!
Well done to you for pushing through BUT not sure the instructors would be for me and don’t think they are right for you and your beautiful girlie who has been through a lot as have you , your journey has been tough , take it as an experience and just move on you are doing a great job 😀
You did a great job Hannah. Affie is so lovely and c!early trustsyou. With that in mind, I observed that you have a great canter rhythm until you approach a fence, and then you take your leg off and hesitate just a bit, and that's when Affie feels you back off and follows suite. That said, your improvement istremendous. Just keep doing what you're doing and it'll come
Bless her. She won't go if your heart is not in it. You can clearly ride and have a decent seat so you can amaze yourself if you ride forward and enjoy it. And remember as we learn things seem to just get harder and harder. You have come a long way now just enjoy it and let go a bit.
You have both really come on loads well done 👏👏👏
I’m so glad you’ve uploaded! Was getting so worried where you’d gone! - on to the video 🥰
To be honest Han non of the trainers which was on camp was mend for you and your pony. I could see that both of you weren't in the right head space. Love you both so much 🌼🐎✨️
I’d find an instructor you really like and trust and stick with the same instructor …. One who is good at building your confidence and it’s ok to keep the jumps small and don’t feel you have to jump bigger … no pressure to jump bigger until you are both super confident
good for you for making smart decisions on not pushing your horse too much!
Wow that was a rough one to watch. Weirdly not because of the covert vlogging that was kind of cute. Even the show jumping session at the end of camp seemed not productive. Other than a horse just running flat over the fences what was the point there? Granted we don’t get to see the whole lesson but she was just pushed for more and as an Arab she is like ok we go. How is that teaching her to actually jump better or teaching you to see a stride or what to do when you don’t see a stride. Props to you for sticking through all the lessons and Affie was a really good sport about everything. She is really maturing and you guys are really making a great team this was just an unfortunate run of lessons.
In my SJ instructors defence. That last session was just about getting me over a fence to help build my confidence rather than any sort of style or anything. She knew if she gave me things to do I’d just flap out of control. I really didn’t want to get on so Mandy had a tough time trying to get me confident x
Hannah your rode brilliantly this is why you do pony camp x
I didn't find the somerford camp experience any where near as AMAZING as I've heard it to be... I think it's hyped up and rated far too much, so you go there with an idea of what to expect and it's so unlikely it will live up to it. You done very well. The camps have a lot to improve on, you did great ❤
Mine wasn’t ran by somerford. It was organised and ran by my RC. So I knew all the instructors before I went. I think I was just tired and got myself in a mess. I do usually really enjoy the camp with my RC X
@Nohorsehan oh I see, that explains why the instructors were a bit more blunt etc. Well either way, you're doing really well with your horse, and thanks for vlogging your journey x
In my humble opinion, those instructors were just what you needed to give you a really good push. Yes, it was important and a good call to not jump twice in one day, but as I watch, you tootle around with no impetus or purpose, then when Affie stops or dodges out, you question what is happening. Affie is more than capable, you have to accept that and try to be a bit more brave. I thought you ended on a good note and look forward to seeing your next event.
Well done😊
You did amazing Han, however I think both instructors need to learn about people skills and how we all learn differently. Shouting at someone who they don’t know, don’t know the history is really not the way. Move on from it, stick with Simon or similar who will give you more confidence. You are an amazing rider and horsy mum.
The SJ instructor is my usual instructor from home. She wouldn’t shout at anyone else like that but I have weekly private lessons and she knows Aff and I so well. Maybe I should have explained that. She knows that I get myself in a mess and overthink when I’m in that head space. So I just need shouting at and telling exactly what to do, the session was about teaching me I can ride and Aff will jump rather than anything else. She actually gave me soo much confidence x
@@Nohorsehan Aaah I see, well that explains the shouting then. As long as you are ok with it then alls good 👍
Please remember that as a paying client, you do have a choice to continue or not! Simon was much better for your confidence.
I know both instructors and if I was in a different headspace I think I’d have been fine. I didn’t want to upset anyone or cause any issues out XC so I just carried on
the constant mix instructions from that last instructor ....nah
What saddle is affie in looks great !! The right Tutor for you.... You have to find !!!🤔 Pony club Barking !! does not work for me !!! Your Jumping With Simeee was so much better !!! He is so gentil and firm !!! 🤩
She’s in a bates Atlanta. It’s so nice xx
@@Nohorsehan It really looks part of her Lovely..🥰
This instructor was amazing sometimes you need a push like Meg get of lucinda
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Ohh, poor you havnt had the courage, to watch but, when i saw the title i just thought, oh come back simon ,ae you going to, talk to him!@@
So Did I
Yikes...this wasn't on your or Aff, Han. Watching these instructors was hard for me. Zero praise, they seemed annoyed to even be there. I am not saying they're not talented which I am sure they are, but for people like me, I like Simon's approach much better. I think another mini Simey camp is in order personally!
I think a mini Simey camp is definitely in order. The SJ instructor is actually my normal SJ instructor from home and I absolutely adore her. She pushes me because she knows me and Aff so well. She was never like that when she first met me, unfortunately I’m the sort of person that just runs away with there thoughts. She knew I needed telling to just get on with it and almost shouting at so I didn’t have time to over think and think I couldn’t ride