Your Uncle Is A Scum-Burger!

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 936

  • @claudiamalavazi3513
    @claudiamalavazi3513 2 роки тому +265

    She is 21 now. That happened a year and a half ago. The uncle convinced a 19 year old to lend him $15K! He should be in jail.

    • @meateater4life551
      @meateater4life551 Місяць тому

      Really? People are considered adults at what age? You should be in jail for being an imbecile.

  • @sandykmalta
    @sandykmalta 2 роки тому +827

    The Uncle didn't pay the hospital he kept it for himself 100 percent!

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 роки тому +64

      A dirt bag who would take money from a young lady would have no concern about his father’s hospital bill. It was just a pretext. I’d like to know whether she even saw it.

    • @bigdave5946
      @bigdave5946 2 роки тому +29

      That is a fact he never paid any hospital bill .

    • @ashleyhartadams3939
      @ashleyhartadams3939 2 роки тому +29

      Came here to make this comment!!! You beat me too it. 100%!

    • @awlarson10
      @awlarson10 2 роки тому +12

      I can't believe it took them 14 minutes to bring up that possibility.

    • @t-shindalankston3621
      @t-shindalankston3621 2 роки тому +5

      Yep

  • @43DW
    @43DW 2 роки тому +850

    Never tell your family how much money you have

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 роки тому +105

      Never tell anyone what you have.

    • @tenningale
      @tenningale 2 роки тому +1

      @@genxx2724 100% this. Parasites will come out of the woodwork like no other.

    • @josephinetracy1485
      @josephinetracy1485 2 роки тому +22

      @@genxx2724 Yes..u beat me to it

    • @tracym8952
      @tracym8952 2 роки тому

      You can tell them. As long as they don't get any of it. Otherwise you're an ATM

    • @peoplearecrazy1798
      @peoplearecrazy1798 Рік тому +7

      Exactly!

  • @murraybeachtel8585
    @murraybeachtel8585 2 роки тому +814

    Nothing makes Dave more angry than elders in the family stealing from the young ones’ future. I’m with him in this as we should all be.

    • @batirtzeurkiaga1716
      @batirtzeurkiaga1716 2 роки тому +12

      It's outrageous. Not that young ones stealing from the elders is better, but it's just inconceivable.

    • @jefflim7020
      @jefflim7020 2 роки тому +3

      I was almost in the same situation with my parents years back. Luckily I stood up to them and never end up giving them $$

    • @sareight
      @sareight 2 роки тому +4

      @@michaelpalumbo4880 Not true

    • @costco_pizza
      @costco_pizza 2 роки тому

      Yes but was the answer to just let her grandfather die???

    • @sareight
      @sareight 2 роки тому +2

      @@costco_pizza So that’s what you took out of the call??

  • @2hrsToChooseThis
    @2hrsToChooseThis 2 роки тому +478

    Poor girl doesn’t sound a day over 13. They definitely took advantage of her kindness.

    • @front331
      @front331 2 роки тому +25

      "like, like, like, like, like.....like like"

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 2 роки тому +5

      Gen Z!

    • @astrea79
      @astrea79 2 роки тому +17

      Exactly. He knew he could play her like a violin.

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 2 роки тому +14

      @@astrea79 And, he knew she had it! She should have told him she spent it on shoes , purses and gambling.

    • @texan903
      @texan903 2 роки тому

      Her uncle would think twice about using her again if she were to take a bat to his head like he deserves.

  • @genxx2724
    @genxx2724 2 роки тому +515

    She should obtain a copy of the hospital account. If $15K was not paid by the uncle, she can report this to the police and district attorney. They may prosecute him for fraud. Depending on how small a town it is, they may take this very seriously. A hardworking college girl is a sympathetic victim.

    • @itrebor
      @itrebor 2 роки тому

      The media would be all over this for sure. Nothing screams patriarchy more than a young girl being taken advantaged of by older men.

    • @davidmuth4571
      @davidmuth4571 2 роки тому +25

      Most excellent! This is one possible way of recovering the money. A criminal court would certainly order restitution.

    • @l-train7876
      @l-train7876 Рік тому

      Of course he didn’t put all the money towards the bill. He’s a scumbag.

    • @theirmom4723
      @theirmom4723 Рік тому +8

      She would have to get that from the uncle. HIPPA will not allow the hospital to release that info to her.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 Рік тому +18

      @@theirmom4723 Prosecutor can subpoena it. If she files in small claims court, she can subpoena it, too.

  • @thomasd5488
    @thomasd5488 Рік тому +65

    The uncle suggested that SHE go into debt with a student loan, to pay for college, instead of HIM going into debt, to pay for the hospital bills.
    I bet the money wasn't even used to pay off the hospital bill. The hospital would accept ANY amount, every month, to not start collection proceedings.

  • @cincinnatislider
    @cincinnatislider 2 роки тому +457

    Don’t forget to send your uncle a link to this video.

    • @SarahR2D2
      @SarahR2D2 2 роки тому +12

      💯🤣💯

    • @adamseidel9780
      @adamseidel9780 2 роки тому +47

      Definitely don’t do that. Text him and email him more to get him to make more admissions in writing. Corroborate it with the grandfather or others. Then sue him. Don’t let him know it’s coming,

    • @amydoran9987
      @amydoran9987 2 роки тому +5

      👍

    • @Tel934
      @Tel934 2 роки тому +7

      😂☠️

    • @Tel934
      @Tel934 2 роки тому +9

      Smh I feel so bad for this young lady

  • @randocrypto1678
    @randocrypto1678 2 роки тому +396

    I know this is a serious situation but when Dave said “they’re not going to repossess your Grandpa” I lost it

    • @wahinepaddler4
      @wahinepaddler4 2 роки тому +14

      💀 🤣😂

    • @sharishines99
      @sharishines99 2 роки тому +22

      Right 🤣🤣🤣 or when he said if you think you don’t have crazy people in your family it’s you ….💀💀😂

    • @thewizkid720
      @thewizkid720 2 роки тому +6

      SAME!

    • @laneesha1000
      @laneesha1000 3 місяці тому +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @thefoodwench4848
    @thefoodwench4848 2 роки тому +338

    They don’t hold people hostage in the hospital if they can’t pay. She was swindled. If she has an email from uncle admitting he owes her she needs to sue him

    • @lcmichaels7215
      @lcmichaels7215 2 роки тому +6

      you said this and it popped in my head that hospitals actually do hold you "hostage" in the Philippines. I doubt it but I wonder if this family is Filipino

    • @sharishines99
      @sharishines99 2 роки тому +2

      Absolutely

    • @costco_pizza
      @costco_pizza 2 роки тому

      True, but was the answer for her to just let her grandfather die???

    • @texan903
      @texan903 2 роки тому +1

      @@costco_pizza no but she still needs her money back.

    • @jmc8076
      @jmc8076 2 роки тому +2

      It costs times and money to sue and she’s a student.

  • @Kelly-oi7ke
    @Kelly-oi7ke 2 роки тому +175

    I find it interesting she loaned him exactly $15k, as this is the IRS gift limit. She totally got scammed by her uncle. I work at a hospital, if someone can't pay their bills hospitals have associated "charities" that will lower the bill to whatever you can pay or waive it altogether.

    • @lucialuciferion6720
      @lucialuciferion6720 2 роки тому +13

      Criminal how the IRS gets to decide the 'gift limit' to my loved ones from me.

    • @crzyruskie86
      @crzyruskie86 2 роки тому +2

      Especially if they are elders

    • @michellerichardson3090
      @michellerichardson3090 2 роки тому +4

      @@lucialuciferion6720 well sadly its needed. Could you imagine if they didn't, they could have gotten her for more

    • @davidmuth4571
      @davidmuth4571 2 роки тому +2

      I don't believe there is a gift limit to family members. I want to give substantially more to my daughter and her family, and my finance guy says there's no limit on family-to-family giving. Perhaps Uncles, Aunts or Cousins aren't included.

    • @NoneYa-pg6dk
      @NoneYa-pg6dk Рік тому +2

      @@davidmuth4571 it may depend on your state. from my understanding, you can give as much as you want, but after a certain amount, you have to report it to the irs and pay tax.

  • @rleonekc07
    @rleonekc07 2 роки тому +84

    That money didn't go towards medical bills. I'd bet my life on that

  • @lynnebucher6537
    @lynnebucher6537 2 роки тому +71

    Uncle got wind that she had savings and waited for the first opportunity to con her out of it.

    • @rokyericksonroks
      @rokyericksonroks 2 роки тому

      Wonderful of him.
      ( s I g h )

    • @JDAfrica
      @JDAfrica 2 роки тому +3

      My wife and I don’t complain about money ever… and because we don’t, family feel it’s because we’re wealthy.
      Narcissists and low life’s don’t need her to advertise how much money she had - they can sense it by you not complaining about how broke you are all the time.

  • @Dee-Gee
    @Dee-Gee 2 роки тому +357

    Perhaps another valuable lesson: Don’t tell anyone how much $ u have. Someone had to have told the Uncle she had a healthy savings account.

    • @Lon1001
      @Lon1001 2 роки тому +27

      Yep, I learned this lesson as a kid instantly, first time I ever had a $20bill for doing a bunch of extra chores. Paid saturday morning, had friends over in the afternoon, was bragging about it, put it back in my sock drawer, found it was gone less than an hour later. Had no way to get the $20 back despite knowing exactly who took it.

    • @Weakeyedominant
      @Weakeyedominant 2 роки тому +32

      @@Lon1001 the lesson learned was well worth $20.

    • @texan903
      @texan903 2 роки тому +10

      Most likely her family complained about the hospital bill to her. She might have offered to lend him the money.

    • @costco_pizza
      @costco_pizza 2 роки тому +2

      @@texan903 I understand this is a difficult situation for her, but was the answer to just let her grandfather die???

    • @texan903
      @texan903 2 роки тому +5

      @@costco_pizza no, letting the grandfather die wasn't a solution but his son should've asked his granddaughter/niece to put repayment terms in writing. Her uncle should've honored that and spoken with his niece for a longer timeline to repay any late monies.

  • @user-gj4ee9xz2u
    @user-gj4ee9xz2u 2 роки тому +364

    My heart breaks for people like this. She was completely taken advantage of and her parents did nothing to protect her!

    • @diplayball
      @diplayball 2 роки тому +13

      @@saulgoodman2018 I was thinking the same thing.

    • @triple_gem_shining
      @triple_gem_shining 2 роки тому +16

      Gotta hate stupid family that holds beautiful people back in life. Gotta get away from that toxicity!!

    • @Sexy40baby1
      @Sexy40baby1 2 роки тому +8

      blaming the parents as if she went and told them what the uncle asked is just horrible.
      kids don't tell parents everything.

    • @melacine34
      @melacine34 2 роки тому +10

      @@saulgoodman2018 I was thinking her parents told the uncle she had money... do you think she was just telling everyone how much money she has? Possibly but usually one who brags about having money isn't the type to have saved it up themselves.

    • @lukerider479
      @lukerider479 2 роки тому +16

      @@Sexy40baby1 you’re misunderstanding the role of a parent. If my brother went to my kid behind my back and stole her money my kid would get their money back. As a “parent” I refuse to allow my brother steal my kids future. If that means I have to sue him I will, if I have to go to our dad and tell him his son is a thief and he needs to pay up I will and if that doesn’t work I’ll just take it from him.

  • @ih8leftistfilth
    @ih8leftistfilth 2 роки тому +243

    She learned a $15000 lesson: NEVER loan money to family or "friends". EVER!

    • @epka831
      @epka831 2 роки тому +2

      Unless you want your money back..

    • @georgewagner7787
      @georgewagner7787 2 роки тому +2

      Don't

    • @user-so1wr2oh1t
      @user-so1wr2oh1t 2 роки тому +7

      Never let your family buy your home either

    • @JDAfrica
      @JDAfrica 2 роки тому +16

      I once lost a good friend over 50 bucks.
      I can tell you, sometimes I’ll sit back with a drink and regret not having that 50 bucks.

    • @b7Hn4eX8yv4m
      @b7Hn4eX8yv4m 2 роки тому +20

      @@JDAfrica It cost you 50 bucks to learn that person wasn't a friend. It costs some folks a lot more.

  • @jayraysdiy852
    @jayraysdiy852 2 роки тому +120

    I would gladly join the Ramsey SWAT team for guys like her uncle.

    • @irocitZ
      @irocitZ 2 роки тому +3

      I'm on board too, I'd love to have a word with him.

  • @FancyRPGCanada
    @FancyRPGCanada 3 місяці тому +6

    I just LOVE that these two men are enlightened enough to understand that sometimes you have to cut off family if they are toxic, so amazing to see from people who consider themselves conservative.

  • @rebeccashields9626
    @rebeccashields9626 2 роки тому +75

    Ok I think we’re taking the hospital story way too seriously……the father of a 40 year old uncle would be on Medicare. There would be a deductible, have to pay for some medications at home, that could be an ongoing struggle but it wouldn’t be a $15k bill immediately. This seems like it was just a story to get money. Grandpa was in the hospital and uncle saw a way to make some cash.

    • @tracym8952
      @tracym8952 2 роки тому +3

      Yep. We know where he's headed

    • @michellerichardson3090
      @michellerichardson3090 2 роки тому +1

      Depends on if they actually applied or if they're eligible. My children's father was unemployed but he wasnt eligible for medicaid.

    • @jshipp6756
      @jshipp6756 Рік тому +9

      The uncle probably has an addiction or gambling problem

    • @mwhe3111
      @mwhe3111 11 місяців тому +1

      @@michellerichardson3090 Medicare, not Medicaid. Medicare kicks in at 65, which is probably Grandpa's age.

    • @michellerichardson3090
      @michellerichardson3090 11 місяців тому +1

      @@mwhe3111 you can be eligible for medicaid if you dont receive medicare. Assuming the ages doesnt help because when my neighbor was 40 his mother was 57. Hes currently 53, his mom is 70 and his grandmother is 90

  • @lindamishalanie5593
    @lindamishalanie5593 11 місяців тому +31

    I love how blunt and honest Dave is.

  • @diann546
    @diann546 2 роки тому +39

    My daughter was is a bad marriage. She would call and ask for money. I ended up telling her, “If you are happy, I am happy for you. I am not paying for your happiness though.

  • @veritatyson6317
    @veritatyson6317 2 роки тому +103

    Sounds as though Cathy is a timid, tenderhearted, young woman and was guilted into "helping" pay for grandpa's medical expenses. Poor, young woman. I have never asked my children for money, no matter the financial circumstances I have encountered. I don't think it's right to do such a thing. I'd have to question my character to even think of asking them for money.
    She wasn't 21 years old when she was asked for the money. She was about 19 1/2 years old, which is worse.

  • @rebeccachambers419
    @rebeccachambers419 11 місяців тому +12

    Why isn’t the grandfather paying for his own hospital bill? This sounds to me like a generational problem.

  • @carena8478
    @carena8478 2 роки тому +167

    It's been a while since a Ramsey video has made me this angry. My heart goes out to Cathy.

  • @chedbeckford8067
    @chedbeckford8067 2 роки тому +91

    When it comes to family, never tell them how much money you have. No matter how great your parents and extended family are, never disclose your wealth. The money you decide to give your family, give it as a gift, do not expect it back.

    • @percivalgooglyeyes6178
      @percivalgooglyeyes6178 2 роки тому +9

      Not just family, anyone. Best to not disclose to anyone how much wealth you have.

    • @Weakeyedominant
      @Weakeyedominant 2 роки тому +9

      100% I dont keep my income a secret from my wife but I have told her in no uncertain terms it's our business and no one else's. If I choose to help out family in tough times it is a gift with no intention of ever receiving it back but I don't want people thinking they can make bad life choices thinking I will bail them out when the debt collectors start calling.

    • @lukerider479
      @lukerider479 2 роки тому +3

      Or just learn to say no.

    • @creature57
      @creature57 2 роки тому +6

      That was a question I would have asked: how did the uncle know she had that amount of money saved? She told him. Mistake. She won't do that again. I hope she sues her uncle over this. She will hopefully get most of it back that way.

    • @gabolujan3109
      @gabolujan3109 2 роки тому +4

      Don’t even tell your best friend or mama

  • @amydoran9987
    @amydoran9987 2 роки тому +39

    She was scammed by her own Uncle. Her family used her for her money. This is sad.The grandfathers bill is not her responsibility.

  • @pgstravels
    @pgstravels 2 роки тому +46

    A lesson for anyone watching this. NEVER tell anyone how much money you make or have. Some people are just waiting to take advantage!

  • @fortnit3g0d
    @fortnit3g0d 2 роки тому +133

    Her parents failed her, she’s too naive. Hopefully she learned her lesson.

    • @K.mit338
      @K.mit338 Рік тому +5

      Yes. They definitely should’ve told her how her uncle was so she wouldn’t make this type of mistake. When children get old enough to understand, I personally believe they should know the family members to stay away from. Parents should tell their children why that family member is a piranha without sugar coating it.

    • @lolwtnick4362
      @lolwtnick4362 9 місяців тому +1

      some people have to learn from experience and any amount of telling them wont help. she failed herself, shes an adult.
      do you need to see how many hate Dave? Making excuses that he's a liar and grifter? you can tell them all day and it won't help.

    • @lolwtnick4362
      @lolwtnick4362 9 місяців тому

      ​@@K.mit338imagine agreeing with a kid who plays fortnite. whos never had a job LOL

  • @whiskeytangofoxtrot1986
    @whiskeytangofoxtrot1986 2 роки тому +61

    The sad fact is he probably didn’t even spend the money on the hospital bill. This uncle sounds like my parents. I had to teach myself about money because my parents are low life’s like this. I remember my dad and mom spending money on drugs and then sending me, a child, into the store to pay with change because they were too embarrassed to pay with change. And I was careless with my money for a while til I realized that I never wanted to be like them.

    • @stephengamber7000
      @stephengamber7000 9 місяців тому +2

      Yes. Bet the Uncle has enough money for cigarettes, beer, alcohol, and gambling.

    • @elaine1743
      @elaine1743 8 місяців тому +2

      Too bad we can't pick our parents.

    • @kkiissssiikk
      @kkiissssiikk 8 місяців тому

      @@elaine1743
      True.
      But statistics shows that kids of an alcoholic are more immune to alcoholism, then fresh exposed newbies.

  • @Gruuvin1
    @Gruuvin1 2 роки тому +22

    It's easier to owe Cathy, because she can't collect. Uncle is a predator.

  • @roadrunner9622
    @roadrunner9622 Місяць тому +3

    You can hear the defeat and helplessness in her voice. "And now they won't pay me back..."

  • @stevenporter863
    @stevenporter863 2 роки тому +21

    2:44
    Dave: they are not going to repossess your Grandpa 🤭

  • @takeitback-financial2808
    @takeitback-financial2808 2 роки тому +106

    She needs a strong role model outside the family.

  • @CruzzzControl1984
    @CruzzzControl1984 2 роки тому +89

    I recall a time when I went to pump gas and was approached by someone asking for some money for food. I gave them a $5 and went about my business. Then went inside to get a snack, I see them in front of me in line using that $5 to buy some cigarettes. And now I no longer give cash, I've learned my lesson.
    Point of the story, is offer to pay for what they need, if they need gas, food, etc... You can tell a lot about the way they react. With gratitude or disappointment about not getting the cash

    • @selfimpovingprophecy5970
      @selfimpovingprophecy5970 2 роки тому +11

      I noticed that too . I was visiting a family friend and he told me about a homeless guy who is always asking for cash but when you offer to buy him food or pay for it he refuses . I don't give cash anymore too .

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius 2 роки тому +6

      Never give to people like that. Give to good charities and church.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 роки тому +7

      If you buy them necessities, you free up whatever cash they do have so they can buy cigarettes.

    • @CruzzzControl1984
      @CruzzzControl1984 2 роки тому +5

      @@genxx2724 Very true. Kidness will get you taken advantage of alright. All in all, everyone should use their best judgement

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 роки тому +6

      @@CruzzzControl1984 I was desperate for a snack before an appointment, and went into 7-11 to quickly grab the least harmful thing. It was a 2-pack of granola bars. I exited, and a panhandler was outside asking for money for food. I offered him the second granola bar. He retorted he wanted money, because he was going to go get a steak later. Well, excuuuse me.

  • @stewbugz5213
    @stewbugz5213 2 роки тому +54

    My family is like this with money. The caller needs to set major boundaries! I'm glad you were so honest Dave! Good advice, I hope she listens. Poor gal I'll be praying for her.

  • @herbiehusker1889
    @herbiehusker1889 2 роки тому +18

    She's too trusting.

  • @liasilva2789
    @liasilva2789 2 роки тому +48

    I am betting the hospital bill was not even paid & the uncle used money for something else

    • @truegrizzlesfan2292
      @truegrizzlesfan2292 2 роки тому +3

      Base on the uncle character, it wouldn't surprise me. I bet the uncle used the some of money to pay off his brother which is the caller dad. Whole entire family are trash. Wouldn't surprise me if the caller parents told uncle to ask to borrow money. How would he know that she have the money.

    • @rebeccashields9626
      @rebeccashields9626 2 роки тому +5

      I’m betting there’s no hospital bill at all…..grandpa would be on Medicare and there wouldn’t be a hospital bill. Maybe a copay or something but not $15k.

    • @deana5277
      @deana5277 2 роки тому +1

      probably had a weekend in vegas

    • @JDAfrica
      @JDAfrica 2 роки тому

      Double or nothing at the track

  • @rdmineer1
    @rdmineer1 2 роки тому +22

    If she wanted to help, should have gone directly to the hospital to pay on the bill.

  • @zeldazoom4415
    @zeldazoom4415 11 місяців тому +18

    I understand her pain. Her story is just like mine. Not uncle, but father & sibs. I worked at distancing myself from all of them. Very sad . If you give them money once they will look at you as "Ms. Money Bags". It was a tough to move away from them because they try harder to pull you into their drama. They think, I am the bad person. I let them think that because I don't care. Always remember they will never give your money back.

  • @imungukalevera8671
    @imungukalevera8671 Рік тому +12

    Watching this the second time. First time was before I lent my guardian money. Now it's been over a year since she promised to pay me back and her latest excuse is she started raising me after I was orphaned and so I owe her. I feel this girl's pain.

  • @mv7374
    @mv7374 2 роки тому +17

    Relatives can be the devil. My aunt tried to get my brother to co-sign a mortgage w her and told him to not tell our parents smh

  • @aliciahunt2608
    @aliciahunt2608 2 роки тому +19

    In my experience, even if you're only paying $100 on your hospital bills...they really don't care, they're just happy you're trying to pay it off!

  • @plants4thewin
    @plants4thewin 2 роки тому +16

    They didnt use that money for Grandpa's bill...they partied with it.

  • @JereJose99
    @JereJose99 2 роки тому +12

    Don't even tell your family you have money! Pretend you're broke! I used to be too nice in my 20's. Now my heart has been replaced with a pump for people in general even if they're family! Don't be nice! Only show people how to help themselves if they're willing. Like the old saying. Teach a man to fish.

  • @deborahd2936
    @deborahd2936 2 роки тому +5

    People don’t understand that you can live and forgive someone, but still have a boundary that says that person is not allowed in your life. Sometimes that’s the best way to love someone cause nobody else ever told them no like they needed to hear.

  • @BrianaBudgets
    @BrianaBudgets Рік тому +11

    The whole family, if they’re SO mad at scummy uncle, needs to get together and give this girl her money back. They’re all mad at the bad uncle (we all are) yet they don’t seem to be helping Cathy at all.

    • @kkiissssiikk
      @kkiissssiikk 8 місяців тому +1

      What a great idea! ❤

    • @dyates6380
      @dyates6380 8 місяців тому +2

      I agree, and the father is as bad as the uncle. It must be a real doozy of a family if the adults can't come up with the money for their own father's hospital bill. Low life family.

  • @vjs4539
    @vjs4539 2 роки тому +22

    The uncle didn't use a penny of it toward the hospital bill.

    • @SarahR2D2
      @SarahR2D2 2 роки тому +3

      Yes he stole it

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 роки тому +3

      @@SarahR2D2 That’s the real term for it. He defrauded her.

  • @reneew9125
    @reneew9125 15 днів тому +1

    “ they’re not gonna repossess your grandpa” has me on the floor 💀 🤣

  • @NicoleC510
    @NicoleC510 2 роки тому +7

    And that's why I tell my daughter NEVER EVER tell anybody how much money you have. That way if you do give you won't feel pressured to give a certain amount!

  • @ThatCho
    @ThatCho 2 роки тому +31

    This is so incredibly sad. This poor girl learned a really tough lesson about family.

  • @archangel1221
    @archangel1221 2 місяці тому +2

    I'd make sure the grandfather knew the uncle was fleecing the grandkids on his behalf.

  • @mirabella2154
    @mirabella2154 2 роки тому +65

    She sounds so cute. She seems to be gullible. I'm sure she will get through this.

    • @KNukzzz
      @KNukzzz 2 роки тому +3

      College doesn’t teach streets smarts unfortunately

    • @jrwntctv8091
      @jrwntctv8091 2 роки тому +2

      @@KNukzzz That would be too late anyway. Street smarts need to be learned young.

    • @astrea79
      @astrea79 2 роки тому +5

      @@KNukzzz anybody at any education level can get scammed. It can be a family member or a professional fraudster.

    • @flyingscotsman32
      @flyingscotsman32 2 роки тому +2

      Young and naive and I’m sure she loved the uncle.

  • @Lifel4444
    @Lifel4444 2 роки тому +18

    This caller was adorable and I wish her nothing but the best. Good people with good deeds get good things.

  • @annetraut8247
    @annetraut8247 2 роки тому +8

    Hospitals ALWAYS offer payment plans for large bills. There is a 0% chance that money went to hospital bills. Your Uncle scammed you.

  • @TheJdog218
    @TheJdog218 2 роки тому +14

    I wanna know where the dad was in all this? Did he really just let his brother con his daughter and not do a thing about it?

  • @elizabethdumas4147
    @elizabethdumas4147 2 роки тому +63

    Makes me wonder if the Uncle kept some (or all) of the money for himself. Judge Judy always tells litigents to NEVER loan money to relatives. She says the chances of it being paid back is slim. Unless an I.O.U is drawn up, they usually say it was gifted. Even a text indicating it's a loan is admissible in court. I hope this young lady goes to court with some kind of evidence. Maybe another family member can vouch for her.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 роки тому +2

      She can send him an e-mail detailing it. If he doesn’t respond denying it, she can try to use that.

    • @elizabethdumas4147
      @elizabethdumas4147 2 роки тому +2

      @@genxx2724 You are right. I actually saw a similar case on Judge Judy.

    • @jcman240
      @jcman240 2 роки тому

      He did

    • @brahtrumpwonbigly7309
      @brahtrumpwonbigly7309 2 роки тому

      Guranteed. I bet none of that money went to the hospital.

    • @JDAfrica
      @JDAfrica 2 роки тому +4

      Anytime someone borrows something from me, I take a photo of them with the item. That photo, on a mobile, is geotagged and time/date stamped.

  • @ThatCho
    @ThatCho 2 роки тому +17

    This girl has terrible parents and a terrible uncle. Wow.

  • @sharalli3112
    @sharalli3112 2 роки тому +20

    Getting a judgment against a broke uncle doesn’t suddenly make him have the money.

    • @MichaelDruck
      @MichaelDruck 8 місяців тому +4

      no but its a legal mark against him and is a paper trail for her sake if it ever escalates.

  • @daddy_doug
    @daddy_doug 2 роки тому +5

    this is so common, family taking advantage of the young children. My mother did this to me and the rest of my siblings. I worked every summer throughout high school and almost saved nearly 10 thousand dollars. by the time I was 18, I had nothing. It hurts, but sometimes you cant even trust your own family.

  • @kennylee4626
    @kennylee4626 2 місяці тому +1

    Sometimes, Family will treat you worse than an Enemy

  • @Bloquita5
    @Bloquita5 2 роки тому +14

    Learning to set boundaries--understanding why and how, is such a game changer. I hate that this happened to this dedicated young lady. It's such a betrayal.

  • @chuckiedavidson719
    @chuckiedavidson719 Рік тому +8

    I’m 💯 percent sure that he did not use the money to pay the hospital bill. Honestly it wouldn’t surprise me if grandpa was never even in the hospital.

  • @nuleafonlyfe04
    @nuleafonlyfe04 2 роки тому +9

    They didn't use that money to pay a hospital bill.

  • @TheRealDealNeal
    @TheRealDealNeal 2 роки тому +51

    There are tons of families out here where the parents and older people use the younger. It’s outrageous. Even “Christian” families don’t realize they are doing this

  • @eatmorecoleslaw
    @eatmorecoleslaw 2 роки тому +7

    Sell the uncle

  • @alisonayeni8954
    @alisonayeni8954 2 роки тому +4

    "Hospital can't repossess grandpa" epic

    • @JakeStewart1343
      @JakeStewart1343 11 місяців тому

      That's probably the threat her uncle put in her head

  • @ThirstyTexan
    @ThirstyTexan 2 роки тому +14

    When it comes to loaning money, whether it’s family or friends, I only loan the amount I’m prepared to lose. She should’ve sent the money directly to the hospital and not to the uncle. He probably just took it for himself. I really hope she is able to recover the money though.

  • @MassiveJetGrind
    @MassiveJetGrind 2 роки тому +4

    Sue for what he stole plus emotional damages, etc. Throw the book at him.

  • @tatjuanatangiia7150
    @tatjuanatangiia7150 2 роки тому +24

    I absolutely love this! I have always said I chose my family members and people have hated that! I grew up being told "you can pick your friends but you can't chose your family" oooH heck no!!! I have never felt the emotional pull to stand by "family" members that only have bad intentions. I don't discourage people who do, but that is not for me.

    • @ValerieMajor
      @ValerieMajor 2 роки тому +3

      Smart lady!

    • @K.mit338
      @K.mit338 Рік тому +1

      This is so funny to me. My best friend says “she doesn’t claim everyone as family” all the time. I will have to take up this notion as well.

    • @HopeAbigailDayan
      @HopeAbigailDayan 10 місяців тому

      Agreed

    • @patriciaalbertson5183
      @patriciaalbertson5183 9 місяців тому

      JUST SAY No! No! NO!!!!

  • @s1234pro
    @s1234pro 2 роки тому +32

    Uncle is NEVER going to pay back this sweet, young lady and he knew it when he conned her out of it. He will use the "so much time has passed" excuse and NEVER pay her back. She should only talk about this loan every time she sees him so that he feels like the POS he is. Also, how does she know that he actually used the money to pay the hospital? Heartbreaking.

    • @costco_pizza
      @costco_pizza 2 роки тому

      So was the answer for her to let her grandfather die???

    • @HermannTheGreat
      @HermannTheGreat 2 роки тому

      @@costco_pizza Hospitals don't let anyone just die hopefully. The person themself and his kids should have taken care of him, not a removed granddaughter.

    • @JDAfrica
      @JDAfrica 2 роки тому +1

      @@costco_pizza sadly, yes. If it was critical, the uncle would have made a plan - taken a loan from the bank, sold a vehicle, taken a loan from his work off his paycheck, or signed as guarantor with the hospital.
      It was never her responsibility. It was never her duty.

    • @jmc8076
      @jmc8076 2 роки тому

      @@HermannTheGreat
      Actually tragically yes some hosp will.

    • @lovethemflowers
      @lovethemflowers 2 роки тому +1

      @Sheri - Maybe this young lady will get an opportunity to get revenge. Uncle will truly desperately need money for himself and she can have the satisfaction of saying she can’t do it since he left her in a financial bind. Let him finally get his payback.

  • @AvatarEnd777
    @AvatarEnd777 2 роки тому +6

    My uncle was a lawyer. Imagine our surprise when my grandmother dies and 90% of my grandfathers million dollar net worth was left to his family after moving close to grandma when she was on her deathbed. I was around 18 and still regret (and don't regret) standing up to my uncle. Moved on but let the Lord sort it out. Money isn't everything.

  • @riceyumyumm
    @riceyumyumm Місяць тому +2

    My nosey deadbeat mom always asks how much I pay for such and such. I always reply, “Why, are you offering to cover the cost?”

  • @godofwarspartan1243
    @godofwarspartan1243 Рік тому +3

    "They're not gonna repossess your grandpa" 😂 I lost it

  • @jwebby85
    @jwebby85 2 роки тому +4

    I love the Chris Traiger answer he gave. "You have several options. They're all terrible, but you have them."

  • @michellewitt2071
    @michellewitt2071 4 місяці тому +1

    I love Dave getting riled on her behalf. It’s heartwarming

  • @LaDa620
    @LaDa620 2 роки тому +8

    Why doesn’t grandpa have Medicare? Worst case adv plan is $6500 out of pocket max. He could have lied and pocketed the rest of the money.

  • @DoctorSmartyPants
    @DoctorSmartyPants 2 роки тому +4

    "If you cant identify where the crazy is in your family, then its you." Lol. Dave Ramsey quote.

  • @randy944
    @randy944 2 роки тому +16

    ADVICE: You pay the debt you want to help a family member with- don't just hand them the money.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 роки тому +2

      And If It’s a medical bill, you negotiate It first.

    • @randy944
      @randy944 2 роки тому +1

      @@genxx2724 Absolutely. And NEVER borrow money to pay a debt. 😬

    • @jstevinik3261
      @jstevinik3261 2 роки тому +1

      @@randy944 For sure. It was dumb to expect re-payments (especially within one year) from a person who was in the hospital. She should just go with the former and never expect re-payment and never loan these people a cent again.

  • @valeriab9735
    @valeriab9735 2 місяці тому +2

    I would say odds are he didn't even use the money for the hospital bill

  • @ithinkigottalent4047
    @ithinkigottalent4047 2 роки тому +8

    Bless her heart ❤️ she's young and gullible and has the voice of a 6 year old. He swindled her 😕

  • @genxx2724
    @genxx2724 2 роки тому +25

    Unfortunately no attorney is going to take this, despite the dramatic emotional and moral aspects. She may be able to go to small claims court, depending on the limits in her state. That would be an excellent learning experience for a 21 year old.

    • @johnSmith-uz8nl
      @johnSmith-uz8nl 2 роки тому +1

      Giving this to an attorney is not the answer... even if an attorney takes this, his fee would be at least 30% - 50%. I think she should take him to small claims court... here in MA the max is $10k. And she can walk away from $5k.

    • @jstevinik3261
      @jstevinik3261 2 роки тому

      @@johnSmith-uz8nl Wouldn't that be a -5k net loss and not really worth it since he is already de-facto gave a $15k. I am glad she learned her lesson to never barrow someone who is in debt (especially when has her own debt).

  • @joeriveracomedy
    @joeriveracomedy 2 роки тому +6

    Older I get the more I realize family is a CRUTCH. Hence I only lean on myself and only allow my disabled mom to lean on me. No one else.

  • @indiaandrews6996
    @indiaandrews6996 Місяць тому +1

    My mother cannot handle her money. When I graduated from college she came to me with her credit card bills because she couldn’t make the minimum payments. She didn’t want to go to dad and ask for the money. I paid her bills even though I was making barely enough to live because my mother taught me to be helpful. I had to stop because she was taking advantage of me and is a spend a holiday to this day. I told my dad. They had a blowout argument and mom never asked me for money again.

  • @annam4313
    @annam4313 2 роки тому +3

    Dave Ramsey you are correct. Integrity and honesty is a minimum what is expected from the people who worth associating with. This low life uncle should be made to pay the money back with interest. He need to be given two choices, either he pays the money back on his own or alternatively he need to be taken to court. He is not worthy to have any kind of further relationship with.

  • @beckyshell4649
    @beckyshell4649 2 роки тому +8

    Keep your financial information private. If you want to give someone money let it be a gift .Don't loan money to relatives and friends because there is a good chance it will be an issue.

  • @fleurelise997
    @fleurelise997 2 роки тому +10

    I am hoping for this young woman's sake that this is resolved soon, but I don't think she's going to go the legal route. Cautionary tale young people: don't EVER lend people money, especially family members. Unless you can legally bind people to proper repayment terms, you will lose it.

  • @tappersuzie
    @tappersuzie 2 роки тому +1

    "Dave the other Uncle " .... love it.

  • @kat-oe7gb
    @kat-oe7gb 2 роки тому +1

    This is NY State, any state hospital will see you regardless of payment. The parents should have never allowed this. 😤

  • @brianmclean7576
    @brianmclean7576 2 роки тому +7

    A lot of families are dealing with similar issues. Disappointing that it has happened to a college student. When it comes to family, assume a loan is a gift as many are not repaid -
    I Dealt with a family member that could repay but wanted to save it for their own use - did finally repay but caused damages to our relationship. Beware!!!

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 роки тому +1

      Exactly. How will you feel when the relative who owes you money goes on vacation or buys a new car?

  • @joycew.6531
    @joycew.6531 2 роки тому +8

    I wonder how the uncle knew how much money she had....

  • @curiouscat3384
    @curiouscat3384 10 місяців тому +1

    I wonder if dear uncle even paid the hospital bill.

  • @rebeccaoprea9917
    @rebeccaoprea9917 4 місяці тому +1

    You don’t pay the bill, you wait till they’re about you send you to collections and then you settle.

  • @vaportrails7943
    @vaportrails7943 2 роки тому +9

    You should never loan money to family, expecting it back. You should either give, or not, depending on what you can afford, and what the need is. And then it’s between the recipient and God as to whether they use it properly. If she doubted it would be used for the intended purpose, she could have gone and paid the bills directly herself. But helping your grandfather with medical bills, when you can probably replace the money, is not necessarily the wrong thing to do. It’s probably the right thing to do. Even if your family is messed up. That’s the proper advice here. Now, should a family with multiple members not be in a position of asking their youngest to bail them out? Absolutely. So it is questionable. But there is no way to know all the details from a five minute call.

  • @PinkInTheDiamonds
    @PinkInTheDiamonds 2 роки тому +5

    Poor girl is extremely naive. Gave her uncle FIFTEEN THOUSAND DOLLARS?! That's a lot of money at 21. Most 21 year olds do not have 20K to their name, ESPECIALLY college students.

  • @BG-nm5xt
    @BG-nm5xt 3 місяці тому +1

    Do not ever give your family money for any reason!! They could have made payments to the hospital and the bill didn't need to be paid off with her money!

  • @netasedlak9454
    @netasedlak9454 3 місяці тому +1

    Medical bills can be reduced, sometimes by half, and the remainder can be set up on payments.
    Don't let anyone guilt you into paying a medical bill.

  • @genxx2724
    @genxx2724 2 роки тому +17

    I wonder if he used the money for the hospital bill. A lot of people, especially a 21-year-old, don’t know hospital bills are based on inflated charges. Insurance companies don’t pay a fraction of the sum, and hospitals don’t expect to receive it. Idk why the costs are inflated. Maybe so hospitals can claim they’re operating at a loss? Isn’t grandpa on Medicare? The family could have negotiated Grandpa’s portion, telling the hospital he’s poor, and made monthly payments.

    • @Kash_Munni
      @Kash_Munni 2 роки тому

      Yep and if he's on Medicare the cost is minimal. It would never cost $15k plus they could've applied for financial aid from the hospital and from the sound of it they would've received the aid.

    • @MikeIsCannonFodder
      @MikeIsCannonFodder 2 роки тому

      From what I've heard there are rules the insurance companies have in their contracts that providers can't charge different amounts for the same service based on insurance. So the common highest, plus probably a bit, is charged and then insurance agreed rates kick in and knock a lot of it down.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 роки тому

      @@Kash_Munni It could very well be in excess of $15K. Doesn’t mean he has to actually pay that amount.

    • @Kash_Munni
      @Kash_Munni 2 роки тому

      @@MikeIsCannonFodder yes under 65 if they have a network then the amount is already negotiated with the provider. If over 65 Medicare already has set the maximum allowable so the bill will be adjusted.

  • @DJgoon12
    @DJgoon12 2 роки тому +4

    21 with $20k saved up while in college full-time? Wth man is this normal?

  • @lindanorton2088
    @lindanorton2088 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for telling. I feel better now. This is so many families.

  • @thousel9325
    @thousel9325 Рік тому +2

    I'm so mad at that uncle!! My heart is broken for that young lady.