The mattress is meant to have a slat base, coconut coir bed rug or traditional Japanese tatami mat under it to ensure it’s ventilated underneath, and doesn’t grow mould. Yes, even Montessori-style. Please don’t put your mattress straight on the floor unless you’re lifting it at least once a week to air it out.
I never comment much on any video. However, my 9-month-old nephew died from rolling in between a mattress and a wall. He was wedged in there, and suffocated. It was so tragic. This happened to amazing parents. Accidents do happen. The outlets need to be childproofed, the mattress needs to be moved away from the wall (in the middle of the room. And the curtains need to be removed- cords brought high on the blinds. I’m all about kiddos soothing themselves. I think the mattress is okay, but that room needs to be pretty much empty to avoid accidents. I bet she is a great mom- she just hasn’t thought completely through how accidents can still happen.
I’m truly sorry for your loss. I had a friend who’s little one found a balloon that had popped and was under the rug. (It was from his own birthday party the day before). He choked to death. I just try my best to think what if… you never know what could happen.
One of the only genuinely compassionate comments I’ve seen so far. I’m so sorry for your loss and I think the tips you give are so valuable. I hope any parents considering this sleeping arrangement for their kid are able to read this!
A montessori bed still has a railing to keep them from rolling off during the night. Also you are suppose to use a firm toddler matress, not a soft adult mattress to reduce the risk of suffocation.
Also making sure any draws have a child lock on so they cant be pulled out. And possibly anchored to the wall, I remember a video of 2 twin boys and one of them literally pulled the dresser on top of himself, luckily the twin helped him out and they were both okay. But that’s something to definitely consider if you have a child with free reign of a room unsupervised. In general anything climbable or pull-able should be removed or put way out of reach
@@truthhearit1471 i mean i was talking specifically about the bedroom, for the most part in the wider parts of the home a baby gate is a good option or a dedicated pen area. Especially in places like a kitchen where its harder to baby certain things I should note this is more for places like the Uk where the kitchen is often a separate room and not in an open concept
Moronic how is that not obvious to this idiot...8 months unsupervised pn the floor! Aids is a thing til a year! You are so right! I am literally dumbfounded by this stupidity...a baby woth toys unsupervised on the floor while the kparents sleep? I literally can't even!
@@mimikuyiawia8809why should they watch her videos to make a comment? I don't even know who this woman is, this video just appeared in my suggestions for no reason and I watched it. I'm not obligated to watch her channel to comment something I noticed in this one suggestion video I watched 🙄 people are so freaking annoying
@@BiaSilva-ri3txright? this is my first time ever seeing this woman because it auto played on my feed. I don't care to go to her channel to find out all the little bits and Bobs of information. I just assumed she covered them with those plastic things just because she said she baby proofed the room.
Please please place blind cords up as high as you can away from baby. Our son wrapped it around his neck and chocked himself…thankfully my husband was there to help! Kids are quick and need to be always supervised ❤
I'm a Montessori parent, but I've not heard of ignoring your child during the night referred to as"fostering independence" in an 8 month old baby who literally is not independent , he is dependant on you. Are we sure this isnt just lazy parenting? Most Montessori parents foster independence through attatchment, reliability , consistency and the trust that creates.
Literally my psychology class, in the child development unit, we learned parents who show up and are there for their kids when needed raise kids with strong trust and better independence. If the parents fail to be there the kid will have poor trust, low self esteem, and other potential issues.
The video says he gets himself out to play at night. I assumed it was a temperament thing and the baby is happy with more movement and doesn’t wake the parents at night. She didn’t mention ignoring cries. Maybe I’m a glass half full kinda gal..
A Montessori bed?! We were just to broke in the 90s to have a crib or a bed frame. Had to call my kid to inform her we utilized the Montessori bed technique. 😂
My grandma got put in a dresser drawer when she was a baby because they were too poor during the depression. Maybe I could market that to yuppies somehow?
Montessori method was developed in the slums of italy. The children needed to learn to be independent because they lived in low-income families with both parents working long hours. So in that sense being too broke to buy a crib is closer to the original philosophy of the montessori method than modern influencers buying expensive wooden toys. 😄
@@pazza4555 if the parents wake up, the kid won't be playing unsupervised. They don't want to deal with a child waking up in the night. It'll be interesting when he's 8 years old entertaining himself on the internet all night...
here in the Philippines, babies sleep with the parents or with any adults in the house. we don't leave babies unsupervised at all times. it is better to lose sleep than lose a baby.
I am American/part-Hispanic and I feel the exact same as you! Babies need to sleep in a crib/bassinet placed directly next to the parents’ bed, and babies should NEVER be left unsupervised. When the baby becomes a toddler then the baby should sleep with the parents in the same bed because that builds emotional connection, and children are a perfect gift from God to be cherished and close to at all times.
DO NOT PUT A BABY UNDER 1 1/2 to 2 YEARS ON AN ADULT MATTRESS TO SLEEP! They have tiny airways that can actually get blocked if the baby lays the wrong way in their sleep
Came here to say exactly this! Like there are other solutions to leaning over a crib (I’ve got back pain too), but having your 8 MONTH OLD on an adult mattress ain’t it
@@vix986 Cribs lessen the risk for babies in many ways, but I'm just going to let some of the main few that people are concerned about 1. Cribs are made with a specific softness level and texture that doesn't allow the fabric of the mattress to rise up around the baby and potentially suffocate it 2. On general mattresses, due to the reasons listed above, surfaces may indent or conform to the shape of the baby’s head and increase the likelihood that the infant will breathe in his/her own exhaled breath (carbon dioxide). That indent from the weight of the baby also makes it easier for the baby to accidentally roll over in their sleep and suffocate 3. Actual beds can cause a baby to become trapped. Be it in headboard or between the mattress and the wall, the lack of bars can make the baby get caught in the side, which can lead to serious injury or suffocation. Even with the chair on the other side of bed, all it takes is a small crack for that baby's arm to fit into the gap and for them to then be stuck in a downward position that drastically limits oxygen levels
If my baby wakes up I absolutely want to know it. Inconvenient or not, no baby of mine is going to spend a single moment without supervision. And that outlet isn't covered and the curtains need to be shortened. The babyproofing isn't finished.
And that's gonna lad to u hekatht and unhappy kids. Parents need sleep and u can't helicopter your kid 24 hours of the day. If there in a safe space it's fine and you'll know there awake if u set up a baby moniter and a camera.
@lalalahihihi a kid means a living being a parent has given birth to under the age of legal maturity. Meaning anyone under 18. This is reccomded for babies or kids over the age of 6 months. Most just don't implement it until a year
I just cannot imagine a scenario where it is ok for an 8 month old to wake up, crawl around the bedroom to play with toys in order to NOT wake up the parents. Where could anything possibly go wrong!
Please keep the matress a tiny bit elevated to prevent mold. I also recommend teaching babies to get down backwards from beds. They learn to do it pretty quickly and it is so mich safer, no matter if its a mattress or a normal bed.
You tilt that mattress & that baby gets stuck under it, it happens. Although, the child was 6 not little like this child. It was devastating. A room full of kids using a matress as a slide & one climbed underneath where they had it propped up & you can figure out the rest of the details. 😢 Her name was Josie.
@@GingerNinja1 Sad as I am for Josie and their family, no one is suggesting they turn the baby bed into a slide. Even just a wood platform thats sealed all the way around would be fine. We just dont want mold, that can cause mental and physical issues near a sleeping baby
We instinctively all taught my nephew to get down from any furniture backwards. They really do pick it up quickly! He knew what "feet first" meant before he knew what feet were.
I've had my bed directly on the floor for years. I also live in a tropical climate. I've been seeing the mold issue brought up a lot, but I've never experienced it. Have you personally had mold in your mattress from being on the floor?
There's a reason you need to keep an eye on baby at all times. Accidents can happen at any time from the most unthinkable items. Unsupervised play time is risky when they're so young. Leaving them with curtains and cords at any age is scary. And leaving them with so many bulky items that can tip or crush them is terrifying. You're baby may be smart, but the world and everything in it doesn't care.
I agree. He could climbe up those items and pull them on top of himself. Babies are brilliant climbers. No matter what safety this mama has he need supervision if he is not in his cot at all times. ❤
Usually, that's why Montessori beds involve a gated area around the bed, not just letting an infant roam around a room. It really should just act like an extra large crib with room to include activities. I agree with you that I don't think they took all the necessary precautions yet to enact this concept, but I am glad they are implementing it.
@@danaodriscoll9261Yeah, except children fall out of these cribs all the time and hurt themselves because they are great climbers. Plus the mom stated he was banging his head on the railing, even with protection that will cause the brain to shake around in the skull, which causes concussions. A crib or cot isn't the only way to keep an eye on your child. A Montessori bed should really act as an extra large, low to the ground, crib with activities surrounding it.
i could see this for a toddler maybe. some of my siblings slept on mattresses once they were old enough to walk because it was just easiest and they didn’t care if they didn’t have a bedframe. however 8 months old seems a lil too young to be doing that in a room by himself. also, at 8 months it’s normal for your baby to be in waking you up, they’re gonna find ways to do that no matter what because all they understand is crying makes mom and dad come when i want/need them. a mattress on the floor won’t change that.
Yea. My mom did the same. I started climbing out of the crib when i was like 1.5yr and just would stand in my parents bedroom and watch them sleep (which, as an adult, would be a completely terrifyingly experience) and she ditched the crib because what's the point if I could leave it whenever i wanted to.
I’m a Registered Nurse and a mother of two.According to what is shown in this video, it seems dangerous, not baby proofed. Uncovered outlets, curtains hanging to the floor, loose blind cords, loose bedding, too much bedding for an infant and talk of playing unsupervised? That baby could potentially, be electrocuted, strangled, suffocate, choke ect. What ? So the parents can have some more shut eye? Seems irresponsible to me. I hope the parents rethink this.
I think the actual Montessori system is supposed to actually be child proofed and the only toys within the child's reach are supposed to be limited and not choking hazards. Also I've mostly seen this for kids around 1 or 2. Eight months seems really young. The proposed benefits of this system are supposed to be encouraging the independence and exploration of the child, not necessarily the parents getting more sleep. I would probably not do this at this age but my culture has babies in the same room as the parents for an extended time, often until 1 or so.
I never knew the fact that we had no money when our kids were babies - we all slept on a mattress on the floor - was a Montessori thing. We’re so fancy.
Yeah they do. How else are they suppose to learn to crawl, walk, or feed themselves? How are they suppose to develop the motor skill to pick up toys if they aren’t independent enough to be allowed to pick up toys. Omfg people treat kids like dolls, and it’s sick. Small levels of independence helps their development and growth. Of course he’s not completely independent. He still needs and gets help with things he’s too little to do. That said, he is a bit young to be awake and without an adult. At that age, it isn’t safe to be unsupervised for who knows how long like that.
Is it! Also its funny how all these parents are screaming about being independent at young ages yet we have people like myself who grew up with "early" independence going to threapy coz we wernt given the bonding or emotional needs met other then the basicas coz you know "independence"
Ummm because they’re growing and developing. Birth to 5 years is a crucial age to teach and help develop independent and well rounded individuals. At the end of the day even though this baby is still a baby at some point they will not be that. People need to realize that you are raising children to BECOME ADULTS. There is always some level of independence being gained during every phase of a child’s life. Child Development is a whole study for a reason 🙄
Some crave the independence, my first child did. Would rather explore than be held, never wanted us to play with him but wanted to figure it out himself. Not all kids are the same, so don't group them all together.
@mynameisjai838 right, and in the course that I took in my undergrad on early childhood development, we learned that the window for forming emotional bonds is very brief. No infant needs independence. Infants and very young children need guidance and support from their primary caregiver. All that results from a child being left alone is the child forming an avoidant attachment to others. Independence can and should be learned gradually as they get older, not suddenly thrust upon them in infancy. Talk about creating a complex.
Yeah. This is why I quit a Montessori preschool. They told me I wasn't allowed to place marbles out of the 8 month old's reach. I was told that he needed to "explore" his environment. I was told I was preventing him from doing that. I asked," So, are you saying I should allow a child to grab trash out of the garbage can, and put it in their mouth, to allow exploration?" The director said yes!! I quit that day. That was a death waiting to happen! I now run my own classroom, with MANY rules and procedures!
What you describe is not aMontessori program. As the name Montessori is in the public domain, anyone can use it. It does not mean that they have any Montessori training. As far as marbles and babies, I'm certain state licensing regulations will trump their opinion.
It would be interesting to read her book. It's not necessarily what media portrays. I honestly think she was a remarkable woman, specially for her time and had a lot of extremely valuable advice for moms. Because it's old, of course things would need to be adapted too.
I agree. That doesn't sound Montessori. I studied on a Montessori school and the principle of a Montessori classroom is the child(student), a trained adult(teacher) and a prepared environment that fosters self learning, but should be safe for everyone.
Well I’ll be a positive note. There’s nothing wrong with a mattress on the floor. You look like you have a clean house and are an attentive parent. I would be a little concerned about the curtains but that’s easily remedied. Have fun little one, independence is taught and should be encouraged ❤❤
an attentive parent? She clearly states in the video that he can now have access to his toys when he wakes up so he won't have to wake up Mom and Dad! Meaning they will be asleep while their 8 month old son hurts himself badly on something that should have been out of his reach and would have been had he been in then proper crib or a bed with guard rails!
This method, I think, is a super cool one that I really believe nurtures independence and the ability for children to entertain themselves without the need of a parent or devise of some kind (which is a fleeting ability) but I agree that it’s not for most people. It takes a very specific kind of parent to be able to make sure that the child is still safe! And of course, do your research before doing this! I would suggest having a camera in the room until they are 2-3 years old and start wanting privacy/ won’t hurt themselves nearly as easily.
@@NativeWarrior88I’ve seen another mother doing this as well and she put pool noodles under the fitted sheet on the sides to prevent the baby from rolling out too so that you can have the benefit of both 🙃
@@kiazoblack.566wow, that’s insane! I work in a preschool and our number 1 rule is direct supervision at ALL times. We would be fired if we stepped into an attached room and left them unattended.
Im just gonna say what the mortician would say, you need an infant/toddler safe mattress so the baby can breathe through it if they get pinned, you need to have a bumper frame to make sure the baby cant fall between the wall and mattress, any blind cords and curtains need to be well out of the baby's reach, and probably most importantly ALL FURNITURE ESPECIALLY THAT HAS DRAWERS NEEDS TO BE WALL MOUNTED. It takes no time at all for a baby to pull out a drawer, climb into it, then flip the whole piece over on top of themselves potentially crushing them. This isnt to be critical of you, its to ensure your baby's safety because it never happens to you until it does, and by then its too late💙
If you get the Montessori bed you also need Montessori furniture and toys because that bookcase or dresser drawers could easily fall on the baby. And the curtains and blind strings are dangerous too. But if the room is truly baby safe then the Montessori bed is good
Yes and speaking about furniture's falling over ,there are some very good items that you drill into the wall and furniture and attach it together and even 30kg of weight on it will not make it fall which is perfect also for climbing babies . I personally have to say that no matter what his bed is there should be side protectors so he doesn't get out because no matter how much you will make it safe that kid can still play and sit and suddenly loose balance and hit the furniture or floor with his head ,and there is no way I would leave my tiny kid unattended with toys. There is too much danger to just let the baby free roam at night ,also if he is let to walk freely then his doors would have to be closed so he doesn't fall of the stairs or find something unsafe on the ground at the same time when having closed doors you risk running into his room and banging the door on him in case he gets behind the door ! 🙄😕
Also the outlet right at the head of the bed, it’s not baby proofed either and it doesn’t even have a cover so the baby could literally shove his hand into the wall and yank wires if he felt like it. I’m all for each family deciding what works for them, crib, co sleeping, mattress on the floor, whatever it is, as long as safety is the first priority. While the room doesn’t look scary at first, one glance and multiple safety issues scream out. She might not have to get all new furniture but there are ways to safely secure shelves/dressers to the walls so they can’t tip. That should be done before the bed was changed in my opinion and should be done in all kids rooms no matter the sleeping situation bc it’s just safe in general. I already mentioned the outlet but the mini blinds and curtains are hanging right there begging to be tugged on, played with, possibly tangling baby in them. We all parent in different ways and if this works for others I’m glad, but I personally couldn’t sleep knowing my baby is able to crawl around his room unsupervised. Independence is important, but not at that young of an age.
There is no such thing as a “Montessori bed.” Montessori is a classroom teaching method, not a sleep method. Second, you say you childproofed but we can all see cord blinds hanging there. Curtains he can and will pull himself up on. That room is not childproofed. If you don’t want him in a crib then he should sleep with you where at least he’s not wandering around a room completely unsupervised. He’s not a toddler. He’s a baby.
@@sianmilne4879 Montessori is a *teaching* method that starts at toddler/preschool age. It is not a sleep training method in any way. Google it. Classrooms of any kind don’t leave INFANTS on mattresses on the floor unsupervised.
The blinds don't have cords. Look closely when she's rolling the little table....there's a rod that you turn to open and close the blinds. They are also the kind that pull down and push up.
And that is perfectly fine. The reason it's fine is because I'm sure that dresser was in the room with you. You didn't put the baby in a dresser drawer in a different room and turn off the light and shut the door for 12 hours till the morning so that the baby didn't bother you. That's what she's doing.
I had a padded basket. It was THE BEST! I could lay it beside my bed, or beside the couch, i could carry him from room to room while i was cleaning without waking him or put him in the shade about 15 feet from my MILs pool when id take a dip during his nap, or put him in the shade nearby when i was working on my flowers outside or sitting in my rocker reading. It was my favorite baby thing by far except for maybe the baby carrier wrap thing i made to carry him around.
My mum kept me in a suitcase for the first couple of months. I was 5lb 11oz and only 17 inches at birth. I would never leave my 8 month old alone in a room while I'm asleep. I don't even care if there are monitors. Also the blinds cord and curtains are dangerously long.
Love how this is now a thing rich people do with their kids. When I did it with my son, I was just too broke to buy a bed frame so on the ground it went 😂
Word. I thinking the same thing: where I come from this isn’t called a “Montessori bed”, it’s called being “po” Interesting how privilege turns things around, isn’t it? 😐
I mean, every country around the world outside of USA typically has mom sleeping WITH baby. It's allows the baby to feel more safe and secure and they wake up less. If the baby wakes up less, mom wakes up less. If both are rested, both are happy. But no, we can't let "women" feel happy in America. We have to tell them "sleep in your bed and the child in theirs. If the child wakes up you need to pick them up. No wait, don't pick them up. Let them cry it out. No, if you let them cry it out they will feel abandoned. Pick them up and carry them, but don't fall asleep while holding them because THAT is dangerous. Sit in a chair to rock them back to sleep. NO! DON'T sit in a chair to rock because YOU might fall asleep before the baby. You might drop them. You need to stand and walk around to keep yourself alert. Then without waking them put them back in their crib. But if they wake up, do it all over again as many times as it takes until they finally fall asleep. They will KNOW 'mom is always there' unless she has a breakdown because she suffers from lack of sleep and she is over stressed. Then the doctors will give her medications to MAKE her sleep and she will be passed out while zombie walking holding a baby that refuses to sleep because 'something is wrong with mom'" Next thing you know mom passes out from medication and husband has her committed for a drug addiction. She loses her child and why? Because we can't let women be happy.
A lot of people don't know that these mattresses on the ground often times breed mold underneath, bc of the body fluids and warmth of the person sleeping on it. You can either get a bedframe that's very close to the ground (montessori or similar) or make sure to lift the mattress up and lean it against the wall during the day, several times a week...
Yes! There are "baby beds" where the baby mattress fits into it with protective railings and they can crawl down onto a folded comforter. There's airflow under the bed-- a wonderful way to transition.
I ordered a grass mat+ traditional futon from japan and it worked great for my babies. It was cheaper, made for the circumstances, very low to the ground, and natural, breathable fibers.
8 month old child doesn’t need independence they need competent parents. I never wanted my 8 month old babies crawling around in a room while I was sleeping.
@@alisonbufarale3406 Where? I see curtains ready to get pulled down and there’s an outlet right behind the pillow that the kid can easily get to. They can also try to climb on things and even if they’re unsuccessful, they could still make things fall onto themselves. A baby-proofed room is not a “good enough” situation, it’s supposed to be a “good” situation, PERIOD.
As someone who has worked with babies/young children, you shouldn't leave them unattended playing with toys, toys can break and they can hurt themselves or choke on pieces if they put them in their mouth.
I think this is a good idea under these conditions: Make sure all furniture is screwed into the wall and can’t tip over if he tries to pull up on it. Especially that bookcase! Also hook up a baby monitor so you can at least hear him when he wakes in the morning. Babies can get wet and soiled overnight and you will have a huge mess if you let him roll around for hours in it. Also put a plate on the outlet and outlet covers. When I was about 2 I really liked seeing what I could fit in the outlet. I’m lucky i didn’t hurt myself! You might also consider putting up a safety rail on the left side of the bed. He could accidentally roll out in the night and hurt himself. Leave the bottom open so he can crawl out.
Pls also baby proof the electrical switches, not just cover them with a pillow. They're very much within range of baby's hands if he's on the floor a lot
As a mom and a daycare provider, this is the best kind of bed: pack and play with crib mattress: only one layer of sheet wrap around the mattress very tightly. Along with inside out sleeping sacks( so they cannot pull down the zipper)(very important: proper size). Put the pack and play in your room. When he wakes up, let him play for 10 minutes before pick up, if you are lucky, they will go back to sleep. Otherwise, they need something else. Never leave them unattended! Being surprised by what they can do is a big part of taken care of babies!😮
Why a pack and play? Isn't it more uncomfortable? And people don't generally suggest long term use out of one, it's more for travelling/at grandparents houses etc. And depending which one you get the zips can be a small risk. And why does the kid need to sleep in the parents room? Usually they transition out at about 6 months old, this baby is 8 months old
I don’t think they make bumper pads anymore. My coworker is a new grandmother and was trying to buy some and couldn’t find them anywhere. Apparently they’re considered a choking hazard and babies can get stuck between them and the crib bars.
@@claiternaiter446they arent and cant be choking hazards. if you cant buy one you can make one. 100 times safer than letting s baby venture all over a mattress and room. they don't even know to get back on the mattress to sleep, and sleeping that close to the floor isnt good either, dust, bugs and it's cold.
My 3 yrs old daughter still sleep with us. I can't imagine not seeing my child beside me, esp when she has nightmares. I still wake up in the middle of the night to check if she is ok, check her breathing etc 😅
Did you guys not hear her say baby proofing the room meaning she most likely screwed the furniture to the wall? I’m sure he wasn’t in there all day talking about shorten the curtain and get a cordless blind
@@loriwilliamson2709 she said it so i sure do believe it.. that outlet looked SO baby proof. 🤦♀️ then hide it behind a pillow so youtube can't see that there is still no outlet cover and a little can put their fingers in and mess with wiring. AND it doesn't take all day for a baby to choke to death on the blind cord. It only takes a few minutes (maybe while mom is getting that much needed sleep in shes talking about). And it would most likely be a silent death so they would just walk in to a dead baby! All because he was waking her in the mornings. Thats a part of parenting. If you can't get up with your babies you shouldn't have them!
The purpose of the guard rails is to keep the baby inside to protect the baby. As they grow they will be more coordinated. That kind of bed they can fall off the edge and hurt their face. However, I hope the baby stays safe. 😊
@@soph7230then you put them in a safe spot (such as a pack n play or in a play gate) that is next to where you are sleeping, making sure there is nothing soft accessible to them if they are under 12mo due to the risk of suffocation. But you never leave an infant unattended.
That's insane. I never wanted to even be in a different room from any of my babies when they were sleeping. You sacrifice sleep, that's how it goes. Good God.
i’m an early childhood educator. i work with infants and toddlers. this is incredibly dangerous, as they need something like a crib to keep them safe. it keeps them from injury, along with keeping them from getting overheated, which can cause SIDS. please bring the crib back.
hi there :) I am also an early childhood educator and lots of the nurseries I've worked at, including my current one, has infants and toddlers sleep on little mattresses like this. Dr. Maria Montessori worked in hospitals, she worked with children with disabilities and in homes and later developed the Montessori pedagogy. Respectfully, SIDS has nothing to do with cribs vs. mattresses, it has much more to do with sleeping position, objects in the bed (toys, blankets, pillows...), room temperature and the child's ability to turn themselves around / lift their head.
My daughter started climbing out of her cot before she could even walk, in the end I just took the side off and placed a second mattress on the floor. She’d do the same, wander around her room and entertain herself, seek out her toddler brother, she’d even put herself to bed when she was tired. Remarkably independent child, very happy and confident.
I used to be an infant/toddler teacher a few years ago and our number one rule for their nap time was very tight fitted sheets and that’s it… any loose materials and pillows increase SIDS be careful
I take care of my sis she’s now 11 months, whenever she moves I wake up terrified. She knows how to get to the ground and she can walk but I would never choose to sleep and leave her by herself even in the safest place
Yes there's a science behind it. You don't normally lean over floor you can squat or simply sit down on the floor to pick up the baby. There's no barrier so it's open space you can pick up the baby from whatever angle is comfortable for u. I hope this settled your curiosity 🎉
The side of my son's crib lowered when you pushed a bar with your foot. I'm only 5'2" and could reach him. Also, had bumper pads that went around the entire crib. My son will be 39 this August, so he lived. I would rather deal with the side of the crib rather than leave an 8-month-old on the floor. I'm not the mother here so I will respect her decision.
This is insane. Completely neglectful behavior. You chose to have a baby and now wanna rush them to grow up and risk them dying because you wanna sleep and don’t want them to wake you up? WTF.
I watched this clip several times and noticed that the room has a radiant floor heater right next to the mattress! The wall outlet also does not have a plate over it so the wiring will be exposed behind the plug in.
With our first, we were kinda broke. We had a one bedroom apt and since I nursed baby all night, the crib we bought was slept in twice. She slept with us but we only had a full size bed and I was afraid she'd fall. So we put our box and mattress on the floor and got a futon mattress with extra sheets and a waterproof mattress protector (very important) on the floor directly next to it. It was only a few inches lower and she was very comfy and safe. When she started to crawl she'd wake up and crawl right to me. The crib got used only when I needed to use the bathroom and needed to put her somewhere safe. I always try to use a crib but out of all my kids, only one has slept in it and only about half the time.
Im so glad you posted this because look at all these kind people giving genuine useful and IMPORTANT advice and I come from her other video so I know she took everything everyone said in consideration and in good heart
I did this with my daughter. She kept kicking out the bars, so I called the doctor and that’s what he told me what to do with her. After that she did fine. She’s now 40 years old. That was the best my doctor had ever told me about what to do.
I finally did the same thing! That was more than 50 years ago. I'm a shorty so the rail was a problem for me as well. Plus, she had already started to climb out of the crib which to me was more dangerous because of the drop. It was so much easier and safer to just put the mattress on the floor and baby-proof the room.
They will sleep when they are tired. The though behind this is that the baby doesn't feel locked up and because of that sleeps better. They can decide they are not tired anymore and play without needing to wake up mom and dad or be stressed because they can't get out and might put themself in danger by trying to get out of the crib themself.
What's wrong with that, what am I missing? Obviously this is a save space where nothing is dangerous to the kid. Furniture anchord to the wall, toys at baby's reach, everything else put of reach. Since baby can't walk or climb yet this is perfectly safe. Whish I would have done that with all of my kids, not just the last. And once the baby gets hungry or bored or wants out of the room he's gonna make himself noticeable. Mom will wake up and be there for him, obviously.
@@SL-gz3dy yes they will sleep when they're tired, but they're small and can get into spaces, like behind tables and pulling on lamp cords... what's on the other end of those cords?? Lamps.
My mom has been working with babies and infants even before I was born (I’m 15) NEVER DO THIS. A 8 MONTH OLD SHOULD NOT BE ALONE. What you needed to do it strap pillows or anything soft to prevent injuries to his head since it was wooden. If your child wakes you up it’s because it needs something, it can put your baby in a harmful environment and stress them out because their not getting their needs. A baby should not be alone until they have a developed enough brain.
This is my fave comment Bc a fifteen year old clearly is more competent in this situation than the adults. I had my first at 17 and definitely didn’t (and wouldn’t have) put my kid in a situation like this either. This whole video just blew my mind.
@@gikichi9462 you sound dumb. People living together before marriage is completely healthy for some. It requires adjustment of selfish tendencies that you wouldn't notice untill you're already stuck together. Its fun to learn about yourself and the 1 you love but that doesn't need to be an added pressure for newlyweds.
@@gikichi9462 @Delicate_Disaster That was rude! Get in with times, people are living together without the piece of paper! A lot of relationships are better without the piece of paper!
Here's to sleeping through the night?!?! What?! I would never be able to sleep again worrying about all the dangers he could get into. Nope. He's too young for that in my opinion.
If you're not meant to have toys where they sleep then this still isn't safe. Your baby will end up face down on that fluffy rug which is super unsafe. I don't know why playing with toys would be encouraged with when it's bedtime, it's rewarding waking up.
Absolutely no correlation between this and attachment issues. He wants to play with toys not parents. The parents arent ignoring him. They will go to him if he wants them. He doesn't want them though.
I did this in the 90’s I had two babies back to back and I just put a mattress on the floor for them when they started crawling. It was a king size one day I went in my daughter was walking around the room like she had been walking for years.
Fr my teachers were so concerned when i wrote about how i slept in a play tent on the floor or on an air matress and would watch movies with my brothers and sleep on the floor. My mom literally had to prove to social services i not only had a bed but also a sofa bed in my room and i was chosing to do that.
I totally baby proofed my kids room so now they both sleep on a full mattress on the floor. It’s very nice that they can roam the room and have each other to keep company. (2 and 3 and a half year olds)
She completely removed the electrical socket that why in the video it goes from having an outlet cover to not because they completely covered it up!! Y’all just love to mom shame and be loud and wrong at the same time !
@@jaadaavila 😂😂😂😂 I had a 3 yr old and a new born and I wasn’t ok.They’re 21 and 24 now but at 19 with 2 kids that age I cried a lot 🤣. My husband and I talk about sometimes and we’re so grateful we didn’t add anymore to the list we’re 40 now and living our best life. Kids are living on there own and thriving !! Only thing is I wish we lived in a better world !
Leaving an 8 month old unattended while ypu sleep is dangerous not to mention rolling over in his sleep and hitting a hard wood floor fracturing his skull.
My crib became garden decor- the wood rails on the outside made beautiful climbing sticks for my creeping vines. Montessori method for sleeping was definitely the answer for my boys
I think as long as the room is 100% baby proof this is a cool method, nice you can lay down with him. I’m also glad my son is almost 3 and still cozy in his crib
Yeah that’s great bc if you only sleep like 4 hours at night studies show that your body turns into a superheroes body and then you can do everything with so much energy and power and fun bc it’s just that easy. So yeah supervising a baby 24/7 is great for your whole health keep it going👍🏽🙃
@@Idliketostayhuman yeah I'm a superhuman. Also there's a reason why children need parents and a support system. Noone can raise a child alone. I mean they can, just not safe and efficient.
My mom did this with all three of my little siblings, twin girls, and then a baby boy after, and it always worked very well. A lot of us found ourselves sleeping on that mattress with them when we slept over.😂❤
Forget that. I'm that mom who had hardwood floors & the nursery was at the top of a 23 ft landing. Being up there felt more like a 3 story building looking down onto those hardwood floors. I was so terrified he'd wake & crawl out of the crib & fall down all those hardwood stairs or thru the bannister so, we removed his bedroom door & purchased a wooden screen door that had all the decorative wooden trim, but reinforced with the tiny little metal squares over the screen & the door lock was on the outside of it. Sounds extreme, but he never fell down those stairs or thru that banister w/a 23 foot drop! I could still hear & see thru the door & the only time it was ever locked was at night when we went to bed or nap time. Camera's aren't enough when you're that tired raising kids. Everyone loved it. It actually was a really cute door that served a great purpose. Plus it kept our cat & dog from going in & out of his nursery too. The only one's who'll attack me will be those without kids bc every mom knows exactly what I'm talking about our fear of our babies falling when we're up that high.
Keep ur baby with you at all times. Especially if ur asleep you won’t be aware if he has gotten into trouble etc. please consider another option where ur baby can be with you.
Why not just put something soft inside of the crib? Like a padding. This feels unsafe. While you're sleeping, you're child is roaming around the room. Who knows what could happen?
Something soft inside a crip is the dangereous thing to do! Don't do that 🙅♀️🤦♀️ This is safe if you make the room safe. I'm not sure if the room in the video is though.
actually they make child safe bumpers. my son is 18months old and never had one issue. This is actually the dangerous way of parenting.. my friends kid was almost killed due to a Montessori life style. she changed her mind and realized fast that it's not safe!
Now, let's hope that he doesn't hurt himself on that bookshelf or get into something while you and your husband are resting comfortably. That is why they made cribs.
@@cynthias6615you know you can baby proof a room right? Your entire house, including the nursery, should be bsby proofed anyway. All furniture that could tip can be mounted.
@kd8663 was it baby proof or mounted? Were the books glued to the shelf? Was the window made of plastic? Is the baby mouth glued so he does not choke on anything? Know it all!!
@@cynthias6615 baby proofing involves making sure glass and chokeables are out of reach, and they said they baby proofed, so what’s your point? These are basic things that parents do with a baby in the house do regardless of a floor bed. Why are we assuming they didn’t in this case?
I am sure that the parents are more worried about their kid than you are. Knowing that the kid can hurt himself with the stuff around the bedroom is not out of the box thinking. They must have thought of it too. They said they baby proofed the room. Chill.
I do it for my TWO YEAR OLD twins currently. Not when they were EIGHT months old......... that's just ridiculous. Why does an 8 month old need to be able to wonder around in the middle of the night......
I was thinking that too. 2 layers of ill-fitting sheets, pillows, and a fluffy rug? Also, I would be terrified that some small object would come off a toy or accidentally get dropped in that rug and the baby would choke.
agreed, if they decide to stick with the mattress on the floor, they should definitely switch to a crib mattress made for young babies and follow all the protocol that comes along with that. The thick fuzzy rug is also concerning. You can get soft yet very short rugs that would be fine, or those interlocking foam pads so it would be soft if he fell out.
That is a confidence builder! Be especially careful of what he might be able to pull over on himself. Ex. Book shelf. He might use the drapes to pull himself up and may bring the rod down. Look after cords and outlets. Remember it is absolutely natural for a child to explore. It is the parent’s responsibility to foresee and protect. Good job!
Hey I got an idea, another person on this platform who I’ve forgotten the name of has their child sleeping on mattress and carpet like that (I don’t know the context) but they put 3 pool noodles stacked up into a triangle formation and taped together and put them under the sheets, not on the side, like on top of the mattress, just to stop the risk of him rolling off the bed onto the wood floor instead of crawling onto the mattress ❤
Baby proofing also includes having curtains and blinds cords out of reach. They present a strangulation risk.
don’t forget to cover all outlets
How about share your uour bed with him?
Luke is going to get 1⁰00000
Take curtains up and baby proof the electric outletts
@@pj3998SIDS is a silent killer 😭
The mattress is meant to have a slat base, coconut coir bed rug or traditional Japanese tatami mat under it to ensure it’s ventilated underneath, and doesn’t grow mould. Yes, even Montessori-style. Please don’t put your mattress straight on the floor unless you’re lifting it at least once a week to air it out.
That’s good to know!
I've done it for years before and no mold
omg tysm
@ravenc4912 maybe depends on the humidity in where you live!!
I learned this one the hard way!
I never comment much on any video. However, my 9-month-old nephew died from rolling in between a mattress and a wall. He was wedged in there, and suffocated. It was so tragic. This happened to amazing parents. Accidents do happen. The outlets need to be childproofed, the mattress needs to be moved away from the wall (in the middle of the room. And the curtains need to be removed- cords brought high on the blinds. I’m all about kiddos soothing themselves. I think the mattress is okay, but that room needs to be pretty much empty to avoid accidents. I bet she is a great mom- she just hasn’t thought completely through how accidents can still happen.
I’m truly sorry for your loss. I had a friend who’s little one found a balloon that had popped and was under the rug. (It was from his own birthday party the day before). He choked to death. I just try my best to think what if… you never know what could happen.
I'm so sorry❤
One of the only genuinely compassionate comments I’ve seen so far. I’m so sorry for your loss and I think the tips you give are so valuable. I hope any parents considering this sleeping arrangement for their kid are able to read this!
I also have experienced tragic results from such a bed. Can't even talk about it. But there are real dangers.
Im so sorry. (I don't know what else to say)
A montessori bed still has a railing to keep them from rolling off during the night. Also you are suppose to use a firm toddler matress, not a soft adult mattress to reduce the risk of suffocation.
Please tie up curtains and blind chords away from his reach. He can pull them down onto himself
Yesssss, kids have died from that!
Also making sure any draws have a child lock on so they cant be pulled out. And possibly anchored to the wall, I remember a video of 2 twin boys and one of them literally pulled the dresser on top of himself, luckily the twin helped him out and they were both okay. But that’s something to definitely consider if you have a child with free reign of a room unsupervised. In general anything climbable or pull-able should be removed or put way out of reach
@_Hollie_ all heavy furniture should be anchored to the wall children or no children. Stoves need to have anti tip features.
@@truthhearit1471 i mean i was talking specifically about the bedroom, for the most part in the wider parts of the home a baby gate is a good option or a dedicated pen area. Especially in places like a kitchen where its harder to baby certain things
I should note this is more for places like the Uk where the kitchen is often a separate room and not in an open concept
Moronic how is that not obvious to this idiot...8 months unsupervised pn the floor! Aids is a thing til a year! You are so right! I am literally dumbfounded by this stupidity...a baby woth toys unsupervised on the floor while the kparents sleep? I literally can't even!
Hope you covered that uncovered electrical outlet.
They said they baby proofed the room
She probably put plastic inlets in them to babyproof, they work great.
She removed the outlets all together !! Tell me u don’t what her videos without telling me you don’t watch her videos 😂😂😂😂
@@mimikuyiawia8809why should they watch her videos to make a comment? I don't even know who this woman is, this video just appeared in my suggestions for no reason and I watched it. I'm not obligated to watch her channel to comment something I noticed in this one suggestion video I watched 🙄 people are so freaking annoying
@@BiaSilva-ri3txright? this is my first time ever seeing this woman because it auto played on my feed. I don't care to go to her channel to find out all the little bits and Bobs of information. I just assumed she covered them with those plastic things just because she said she baby proofed the room.
Please please place blind cords up as high as you can away from baby. Our son wrapped it around his neck and chocked himself…thankfully my husband was there to help! Kids are quick and need to be always supervised ❤
Omg that's so scary!! I'm sorry that happend to you good thing your husband was there just in time!
Same happened to my nephew. His brother was alert enough to go get Mom, thank God.
Most blinds don't come with cords anymore. I went to Walmart for replacement blinds, and they didn't have any with cords!
Sounds like a parent skill issue
@@goober112baby: *has risk of literally dying*
"skill issue"
I'm a Montessori parent, but I've not heard of ignoring your child during the night referred to as"fostering independence" in an 8 month old baby who literally is not independent , he is dependant on you. Are we sure this isnt just lazy parenting? Most Montessori parents foster independence through attatchment, reliability , consistency and the trust that creates.
I've literally been into an Italian Montessori school (I'm Italian) and the key is independence 😊
Literally my psychology class, in the child development unit, we learned parents who show up and are there for their kids when needed raise kids with strong trust and better independence. If the parents fail to be there the kid will have poor trust, low self esteem, and other potential issues.
The video says he gets himself out to play at night. I assumed it was a temperament thing and the baby is happy with more movement and doesn’t wake the parents at night. She didn’t mention ignoring cries. Maybe I’m a glass half full kinda gal..
There is a difference between ignoring a crying child and letting a child play on its own when it wakes up
This is absolutely negligent parenting and I am sick to death of hearing negligence described as montessori. Maria Montessori would never. Never.
A Montessori bed?! We were just to broke in the 90s to have a crib or a bed frame. Had to call my kid to inform her we utilized the Montessori bed technique. 😂
My grandma got put in a dresser drawer when she was a baby because they were too poor during the depression. Maybe I could market that to yuppies somehow?
@@pcbassoon3892 mine too! I’m sure it wasn’t even secured to the wall! Oh the horror 😱
@@pcbassoon3892 hey it’s worth a try they would probably buy it 😂
Montessori method was developed in the slums of italy. The children needed to learn to be independent because they lived in low-income families with both parents working long hours. So in that sense being too broke to buy a crib is closer to the original philosophy of the montessori method than modern influencers buying expensive wooden toys. 😄
Montessori was designed for underprivileged kids, so it makes sense.
They can’t fall off of the floor, but NEVER leave a baby unsupervised.
Not even to sleep? How do you do it, Superwoman ?
@@pazza4555 always on call-always
@pazza4555 put the crib/OR A BIGGER CRIB. In the parents room.
It's pretty obvious Sherlock
@@pazza4555 if the parents wake up, the kid won't be playing unsupervised. They don't want to deal with a child waking up in the night.
It'll be interesting when he's 8 years old entertaining himself on the internet all night...
@@Magick.o but when the parents fall asleep the baby is still unsupervised
here in the Philippines, babies sleep with the parents or with any adults in the house. we don't leave babies unsupervised at all times. it is better to lose sleep than lose a baby.
I am American/part-Hispanic and I feel the exact same as you! Babies need to sleep in a crib/bassinet placed directly next to the parents’ bed, and babies should NEVER be left unsupervised. When the baby becomes a toddler then the baby should sleep with the parents in the same bed because that builds emotional connection, and children are a perfect gift from God to be cherished and close to at all times.
I did this with both my little ones. I got tons of sleep because feeding them was easy.
👏🏼👏🏼 yessss! I wish these parents would think of the kids and not themselves when it comes to things like this!
Yes! My baby sleeps with me. Im Hispanic and my husband is Asian, we never ever EVER leave our baby unsupervised...
Yes I have a baby cousin and she doesn't have her own baby room or nursery room she sleep in my aunt and uncles bed
DO NOT PUT A BABY UNDER 1 1/2 to 2 YEARS ON AN ADULT MATTRESS TO SLEEP! They have tiny airways that can actually get blocked if the baby lays the wrong way in their sleep
If ur desperate for this type of bed sew two crib mattresses together, same result but a lot safer
Came here to say exactly this! Like there are other solutions to leaning over a crib (I’ve got back pain too), but having your 8 MONTH OLD on an adult mattress ain’t it
But how does a crib fix that? What’s is different about a real mattress that could be harmful? The sheets? Honestly… no sarcasm!
@@vix986 Cribs lessen the risk for babies in many ways, but I'm just going to let some of the main few that people are concerned about
1. Cribs are made with a specific softness level and texture that doesn't allow the fabric of the mattress to rise up around the baby and potentially suffocate it
2. On general mattresses, due to the reasons listed above, surfaces may indent or conform to the shape of the baby’s head and increase the likelihood that the infant will breathe in his/her own exhaled breath (carbon dioxide). That indent from the weight of the baby also makes it easier for the baby to accidentally roll over in their sleep and suffocate
3. Actual beds can cause a baby to become trapped. Be it in headboard or between the mattress and the wall, the lack of bars can make the baby get caught in the side, which can lead to serious injury or suffocation. Even with the chair on the other side of bed, all it takes is a small crack for that baby's arm to fit into the gap and for them to then be stuck in a downward position that drastically limits oxygen levels
@vix986 the mattress, it's designed to be breathed through
“after baby proofing” leave the curtains and the electrical outlets easily reachable 😅
😂😂🤣🤣😭😭
Don't forgt the full sized sheets they can get wrapped up in. Not just one sheet, they put the fitted AND the flat on 🤦♀️
the fact that the crib didn't have any kind of cushions or protection says A LOT
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They removed the outlet. Or closed it, it’s literally visible in the video.
If my baby wakes up I absolutely want to know it. Inconvenient or not, no baby of mine is going to spend a single moment without supervision. And that outlet isn't covered and the curtains need to be shortened. The babyproofing isn't finished.
And that's gonna lad to u hekatht and unhappy kids. Parents need sleep and u can't helicopter your kid 24 hours of the day. If there in a safe space it's fine and you'll know there awake if u set up a baby moniter and a camera.
@@Havis_Princessa kid is different to a baby
@lalalahihihi a kid means a living being a parent has given birth to under the age of legal maturity. Meaning anyone under 18. This is reccomded for babies or kids over the age of 6 months. Most just don't implement it until a year
Oof. You’re going to drive yourself crazy
@@supagirl277 “not a single moment without supervision” I thinks they’re already there 😂
I just cannot imagine a scenario where it is ok for an 8 month old to wake up, crawl around the bedroom to play with toys in order to NOT wake up the parents. Where could anything possibly go wrong!
Agree 100%. An 8 month old baby does not need his independence fostered, he needs to be kept SAFE. This just looks like an accident waiting to happen.
People get charged with neglect for sleeping in the daytime whenever a child gets out and wanders away.
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SERIOUSLY!
Right. Lazy parenting at its finest.
Mold can grow under the mattress if you don’t have boards underneath for airflow. Just so you know 😊
Please keep the matress a tiny bit elevated to prevent mold. I also recommend teaching babies to get down backwards from beds. They learn to do it pretty quickly and it is so mich safer, no matter if its a mattress or a normal bed.
Agreed! I suggested a wool rug because of similar ideas
You tilt that mattress & that baby gets stuck under it, it happens. Although, the child was 6 not little like this child. It was devastating. A room full of kids using a matress as a slide & one climbed underneath where they had it propped up & you can figure out the rest of the details. 😢 Her name was Josie.
@@GingerNinja1
Sad as I am for Josie and their family, no one is suggesting they turn the baby bed into a slide.
Even just a wood platform thats sealed all the way around would be fine.
We just dont want mold, that can cause mental and physical issues near a sleeping baby
We instinctively all taught my nephew to get down from any furniture backwards. They really do pick it up quickly! He knew what "feet first" meant before he knew what feet were.
I've had my bed directly on the floor for years. I also live in a tropical climate. I've been seeing the mold issue brought up a lot, but I've never experienced it. Have you personally had mold in your mattress from being on the floor?
There's a reason you need to keep an eye on baby at all times. Accidents can happen at any time from the most unthinkable items. Unsupervised play time is risky when they're so young. Leaving them with curtains and cords at any age is scary. And leaving them with so many bulky items that can tip or crush them is terrifying.
You're baby may be smart, but the world and everything in it doesn't care.
I agree. He could climbe up those items and pull them on top of himself. Babies are brilliant climbers. No matter what safety this mama has he need supervision if he is not in his cot at all times. ❤
Totally agree..
Absolutely!
Usually, that's why Montessori beds involve a gated area around the bed, not just letting an infant roam around a room. It really should just act like an extra large crib with room to include activities. I agree with you that I don't think they took all the necessary precautions yet to enact this concept, but I am glad they are implementing it.
@@danaodriscoll9261Yeah, except children fall out of these cribs all the time and hurt themselves because they are great climbers. Plus the mom stated he was banging his head on the railing, even with protection that will cause the brain to shake around in the skull, which causes concussions. A crib or cot isn't the only way to keep an eye on your child. A Montessori bed should really act as an extra large, low to the ground, crib with activities surrounding it.
i could see this for a toddler maybe. some of my siblings slept on mattresses once they were old enough to walk because it was just easiest and they didn’t care if they didn’t have a bedframe. however 8 months old seems a lil too young to be doing that in a room by himself. also, at 8 months it’s normal for your baby to be in waking you up, they’re gonna find ways to do that no matter what because all they understand is crying makes mom and dad come when i want/need them. a mattress on the floor won’t change that.
Sounds like he's no longer crying at night and can soothe himself
Yea. My mom did the same. I started climbing out of the crib when i was like 1.5yr and just would stand in my parents bedroom and watch them sleep (which, as an adult, would be a completely terrifyingly experience) and she ditched the crib because what's the point if I could leave it whenever i wanted to.
Right, he's not even a year old yet and if something does go wrong or he needs them and they arent there things can go very bad very quickly.
I’m a Registered Nurse and a mother of two.According to what is shown in this video, it seems dangerous, not baby proofed. Uncovered outlets, curtains hanging to the floor, loose blind cords, loose bedding, too much bedding for an infant and talk of playing unsupervised? That baby could potentially, be electrocuted, strangled, suffocate, choke ect. What ? So the parents can have some more shut eye? Seems irresponsible to me. I hope the parents rethink this.
I think the actual Montessori system is supposed to actually be child proofed and the only toys within the child's reach are supposed to be limited and not choking hazards. Also I've mostly seen this for kids around 1 or 2. Eight months seems really young. The proposed benefits of this system are supposed to be encouraging the independence and exploration of the child, not necessarily the parents getting more sleep.
I would probably not do this at this age but my culture has babies in the same room as the parents for an extended time, often until 1 or so.
The outlet is covered it's the covering is whit like the walls
Also the couch in the room is a choking hazard near the bed
@@Apostatecomputerblog😂😂😂 i needed that
@@evilm3274you needed a choking hazard lol?
I never knew the fact that we had no money when our kids were babies - we all slept on a mattress on the floor - was a Montessori thing. We’re so fancy.
It reminds me of that TikTok series "trashy if you're poor, fancy if you're rich" lol
PSA to all parents: an 8 month old does not need independance, they need reliable parents
They also shouldn’t be on an adult mattress. 😢
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 💯!!!
Seems like lazy parenting
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Yeah they do. How else are they suppose to learn to crawl, walk, or feed themselves? How are they suppose to develop the motor skill to pick up toys if they aren’t independent enough to be allowed to pick up toys. Omfg people treat kids like dolls, and it’s sick. Small levels of independence helps their development and growth. Of course he’s not completely independent. He still needs and gets help with things he’s too little to do.
That said, he is a bit young to be awake and without an adult. At that age, it isn’t safe to be unsupervised for who knows how long like that.
Letting an 8th month waking up & playing all over the room …..so mom & dad don’t get wakened. IS ABSOLUTELY LUDICROUS!!!!!
Is it! Also its funny how all these parents are screaming about being independent at young ages yet we have people like myself who grew up with "early" independence going to threapy coz we wernt given the bonding or emotional needs met other then the basicas coz you know "independence"
Yeah this is wild to me too. That baby needs to stay on a proper sleep schedule not wake up anytime they want to play with toys.
@@BloodNote not to mention the number of sheets used that could easly come up wrap around the baby too choaking them
Only see bigger problems coming from this !! 🙈
FOR REAL!!!!
Why does an 8 month old need independence? If my baby is crying there is a reason for it, it's at least worth checking on
Ummm because they’re growing and developing. Birth to 5 years is a crucial age to teach and help develop independent and well rounded individuals. At the end of the day even though this baby is still a baby at some point they will not be that. People need to realize that you are raising children to BECOME ADULTS. There is always some level of independence being gained during every phase of a child’s life. Child Development is a whole study for a reason 🙄
Humans need independence. It’s good for their brain development.
Some crave the independence, my first child did. Would rather explore than be held, never wanted us to play with him but wanted to figure it out himself. Not all kids are the same, so don't group them all together.
Also, when the heck did you see that this child was crying, or that she leaves him to cry? You're filling in lines that don't need to be there
@mynameisjai838 right, and in the course that I took in my undergrad on early childhood development, we learned that the window for forming emotional bonds is very brief. No infant needs independence. Infants and very young children need guidance and support from their primary caregiver. All that results from a child being left alone is the child forming an avoidant attachment to others. Independence can and should be learned gradually as they get older, not suddenly thrust upon them in infancy. Talk about creating a complex.
Yeah. This is why I quit a Montessori preschool. They told me I wasn't allowed to place marbles out of the 8 month old's reach. I was told that he needed to "explore" his environment. I was told I was preventing him from doing that. I asked," So, are you saying I should allow a child to grab trash out of the garbage can, and put it in their mouth, to allow exploration?" The director said yes!! I quit that day. That was a death waiting to happen! I now run my own classroom, with MANY rules and procedures!
What you describe is not aMontessori program. As the name Montessori is in the public domain, anyone can use it. It does not mean that they have any Montessori training.
As far as marbles and babies, I'm certain state licensing regulations will trump their opinion.
It would be interesting to read her book. It's not necessarily what media portrays. I honestly think she was a remarkable woman, specially for her time and had a lot of extremely valuable advice for moms. Because it's old, of course things would need to be adapted too.
@@hometreasuresiii agree. The school described was not like any i taught at. Poor ownership/directorship
That’s not Montessori
I agree. That doesn't sound Montessori. I studied on a Montessori school and the principle of a Montessori classroom is the child(student), a trained adult(teacher) and a prepared environment that fosters self learning, but should be safe for everyone.
Well I’ll be a positive note. There’s nothing wrong with a mattress on the floor. You look like you have a clean house and are an attentive parent. I would be a little concerned about the curtains but that’s easily remedied. Have fun little one, independence is taught and should be encouraged ❤❤
an attentive parent? She clearly states in the video that he can now have access to his toys when he wakes up so he won't have to wake up Mom and Dad! Meaning they will be asleep while their 8 month old son hurts himself badly on something that should have been out of his reach and would have been had he been in then proper crib or a bed with guard rails!
This method, I think, is a super cool one that I really believe nurtures independence and the ability for children to entertain themselves without the need of a parent or devise of some kind (which is a fleeting ability) but I agree that it’s not for most people. It takes a very specific kind of parent to be able to make sure that the child is still safe! And of course, do your research before doing this!
I would suggest having a camera in the room until they are 2-3 years old and start wanting privacy/ won’t hurt themselves nearly as easily.
@@NativeWarrior88I’ve seen another mother doing this as well and she put pool noodles under the fitted sheet on the sides to prevent the baby from rolling out too so that you can have the benefit of both 🙃
This is such a sweet comment. ❤
How is she attentive the comment she can get up at 8 and play without waking us says the opposite
So an unsupervised, mobile, 8 month old...while the adults are asleep.
If a daycare did this we would be livid.
Didn’t think about that!! 😮
The daycare might lose their license even
Daycares do leave them unsupervised though, at least ones I’ve been too, let the kids sleep in one room and would go to the next
Exactly what i was thinking
@@kiazoblack.566wow, that’s insane! I work in a preschool and our number 1 rule is direct supervision at ALL times. We would be fired if we stepped into an attached room and left them unattended.
Im just gonna say what the mortician would say, you need an infant/toddler safe mattress so the baby can breathe through it if they get pinned, you need to have a bumper frame to make sure the baby cant fall between the wall and mattress, any blind cords and curtains need to be well out of the baby's reach, and probably most importantly ALL FURNITURE ESPECIALLY THAT HAS DRAWERS NEEDS TO BE WALL MOUNTED. It takes no time at all for a baby to pull out a drawer, climb into it, then flip the whole piece over on top of themselves potentially crushing them. This isnt to be critical of you, its to ensure your baby's safety because it never happens to you until it does, and by then its too late💙
Eight months my son turned the drawers in my kitchen into stairs to the counter of heaven for him and nightmares for me. I do it all again.
If you get the Montessori bed you also need Montessori furniture and toys because that bookcase or dresser drawers could easily fall on the baby. And the curtains and blind strings are dangerous too. But if the room is truly baby safe then the Montessori bed is good
Uh no, as long as it’s anchored then it isn’t a big deal
Yes and speaking about furniture's falling over ,there are some very good items that you drill into the wall and furniture and attach it together and even 30kg of weight on it will not make it fall which is perfect also for climbing babies . I personally have to say that no matter what his bed is there should be side protectors so he doesn't get out because no matter how much you will make it safe that kid can still play and sit and suddenly loose balance and hit the furniture or floor with his head ,and there is no way I would leave my tiny kid unattended with toys. There is too much danger to just let the baby free roam at night ,also if he is let to walk freely then his doors would have to be closed so he doesn't fall of the stairs or find something unsafe on the ground at the same time when having closed doors you risk running into his room and banging the door on him in case he gets behind the door ! 🙄😕
Also the outlet right at the head of the bed, it’s not baby proofed either and it doesn’t even have a cover so the baby could literally shove his hand into the wall and yank wires if he felt like it. I’m all for each family deciding what works for them, crib, co sleeping, mattress on the floor, whatever it is, as long as safety is the first priority. While the room doesn’t look scary at first, one glance and multiple safety issues scream out. She might not have to get all new furniture but there are ways to safely secure shelves/dressers to the walls so they can’t tip. That should be done before the bed was changed in my opinion and should be done in all kids rooms no matter the sleeping situation bc it’s just safe in general. I already mentioned the outlet but the mini blinds and curtains are hanging right there begging to be tugged on, played with, possibly tangling baby in them. We all parent in different ways and if this works for others I’m glad, but I personally couldn’t sleep knowing my baby is able to crawl around his room unsupervised. Independence is important, but not at that young of an age.
There is no such thing as a Montessori bed within the actual Montessori method of teaching. This is BS with a fancy name slapped on it.
Tip, I would place the mattress on the middle of the room, not up against a wall. If they baby slips between the bed and wall. They will suffocate
There is no such thing as a “Montessori bed.” Montessori is a classroom teaching method, not a sleep method. Second, you say you childproofed but we can all see cord blinds hanging there. Curtains he can and will pull himself up on. That room is not childproofed. If you don’t want him in a crib then he should sleep with you where at least he’s not wandering around a room completely unsupervised. He’s not a toddler. He’s a baby.
Montessori starts very young so it does include sleeping arrangements for nap times which look like this
@@sianmilne4879 Montessori is a *teaching* method that starts at toddler/preschool age. It is not a sleep training method in any way. Google it. Classrooms of any kind don’t leave INFANTS on mattresses on the floor unsupervised.
@@sianmilne4879not at 8 months, and not with an open outlet by their bed when they’re unsupervised.
The blinds don't have cords. Look closely when she's rolling the little table....there's a rod that you turn to open and close the blinds. They are also the kind that pull down and push up.
@@kittyexotica5635but he can still reach and pull it off the wall🙄
Gotta love that exposed outlet that's even missing the cover
My son was 6 weeks early, his first crib was a dresser drawer.
And that is perfectly fine. The reason it's fine is because I'm sure that dresser was in the room with you. You didn't put the baby in a dresser drawer in a different room and turn off the light and shut the door for 12 hours till the morning so that the baby didn't bother you. That's what she's doing.
I had a padded basket. It was THE BEST! I could lay it beside my bed, or beside the couch, i could carry him from room to room while i was cleaning without waking him or put him in the shade about 15 feet from my MILs pool when id take a dip during his nap, or put him in the shade nearby when i was working on my flowers outside or sitting in my rocker reading. It was my favorite baby thing by far except for maybe the baby carrier wrap thing i made to carry him around.
@@jessicahay9305 a Moses basket is a wonderful and often overlooked baby item!
My mum kept me in a suitcase for the first couple of months. I was 5lb 11oz and only 17 inches at birth. I would never leave my 8 month old alone in a room while I'm asleep. I don't even care if there are monitors. Also the blinds cord and curtains are dangerously long.
Yeah but that dresser wasn't in another bedroom with the door closed for hours
Love how this is now a thing rich people do with their kids. When I did it with my son, I was just too broke to buy a bed frame so on the ground it went 😂
Same here one time
Me too. My first three slept on a mattress on the floor or in my bed. Loved it.
Word. I thinking the same thing: where I come from this isn’t called a “Montessori bed”, it’s called being “po” Interesting how privilege turns things around, isn’t it? 😐
i thought the same haha, like wow fancy name.
I mean, every country around the world outside of USA typically has mom sleeping WITH baby. It's allows the baby to feel more safe and secure and they wake up less. If the baby wakes up less, mom wakes up less. If both are rested, both are happy. But no, we can't let "women" feel happy in America. We have to tell them "sleep in your bed and the child in theirs. If the child wakes up you need to pick them up. No wait, don't pick them up. Let them cry it out. No, if you let them cry it out they will feel abandoned. Pick them up and carry them, but don't fall asleep while holding them because THAT is dangerous. Sit in a chair to rock them back to sleep. NO! DON'T sit in a chair to rock because YOU might fall asleep before the baby. You might drop them. You need to stand and walk around to keep yourself alert. Then without waking them put them back in their crib. But if they wake up, do it all over again as many times as it takes until they finally fall asleep. They will KNOW 'mom is always there' unless she has a breakdown because she suffers from lack of sleep and she is over stressed. Then the doctors will give her medications to MAKE her sleep and she will be passed out while zombie walking holding a baby that refuses to sleep because 'something is wrong with mom'"
Next thing you know mom passes out from medication and husband has her committed for a drug addiction. She loses her child and why? Because we can't let women be happy.
A lot of people don't know that these mattresses on the ground often times breed mold underneath, bc of the body fluids and warmth of the person sleeping on it. You can either get a bedframe that's very close to the ground (montessori or similar) or make sure to lift the mattress up and lean it against the wall during the day, several times a week...
Yes! There are "baby beds" where the baby mattress fits into it with protective railings and they can crawl down onto a folded comforter. There's airflow under the bed-- a wonderful way to transition.
I had my mattress on the floor for over 2 years and there was no mold
I ordered a grass mat+ traditional futon from japan and it worked great for my babies. It was cheaper, made for the circumstances, very low to the ground, and natural, breathable fibers.
@@twoscoopz4944 Great! Thank you for sharing!
@@amsisla2195 Good for you but with a baby I wouldn't risk it. Also the mold might be inside of your mattress, where you can't see it...
8 month old child doesn’t need independence they need competent parents. I never wanted my 8 month old babies crawling around in a room while I was sleeping.
I'd much rather have my baby confined in a crib than giving him access to an entire room.
Same like how can you sleep for like 6 hours knowing your baby could be awake and hurt in the next room 😭😭
She stated they baby proofed it first. 🤷♀️
@@alisonbufarale3406not well enough. even from the angle we see there is stuff that is unsafe.
@@alisonbufarale3406 Where? I see curtains ready to get pulled down and there’s an outlet right behind the pillow that the kid can easily get to. They can also try to climb on things and even if they’re unsuccessful, they could still make things fall onto themselves. A baby-proofed room is not a “good enough” situation, it’s supposed to be a “good” situation, PERIOD.
I didn't know being poor was a Montessori thing. I just didn't have a bed, just a mattress on the floor! 😂
montesorri is FOUNDED on being accessible to everyone! there’s no gadgets or items you need, it’s just principles. everything else is extra.
@@lilacheart_ then why are those stupid daycares so expensive lmao
@@wuzittooyaright?!! 😂😂😂
I still have a "Montessori" bed 😂
@@wuzittooyabecause there’s always someone that profits out of the poor 😢 us poor people can’t have nothing
Same here...then he crawled into the kitchen and prepared breakfast for everyone. My little guy is so smart!!
LMAO IM DEAD
Our baby started doing our taxes at 2 years old. ;o)
My 1 year old boy also started to drive himself to college classes too!
😂
@@sc3nes4uce10😂
As someone who has worked with babies/young children, you shouldn't leave them unattended playing with toys, toys can break and they can hurt themselves or choke on pieces if they put them in their mouth.
@pippaj4627 and for God sake, get cordless blinds & shorter curtains…
@@L4luxdefinitely ... Even that big bed sheet they have on the mattress is a worry as baby could get tangled in it.
I'd also be worried about him crawling head first into the wall or door in the night.
@@annfrear-holden2551agreed!!
Exactly 😅
I think this is a good idea under these conditions:
Make sure all furniture is screwed into the wall and can’t tip over if he tries to pull up on it. Especially that bookcase! Also hook up a baby monitor so you can at least hear him when he wakes in the morning. Babies can get wet and soiled overnight and you will have a huge mess if you let him roll around for hours in it. Also put a plate on the outlet and outlet covers. When I was about 2 I really liked seeing what I could fit in the outlet. I’m lucky i didn’t hurt myself! You might also consider putting up a safety rail on the left side of the bed. He could accidentally roll out in the night and hurt himself. Leave the bottom open so he can crawl out.
Pls also baby proof the electrical switches, not just cover them with a pillow. They're very much within range of baby's hands if he's on the floor a lot
As a mom and a daycare provider, this is the best kind of bed: pack and play with crib mattress: only one layer of sheet wrap around the mattress very tightly. Along with inside out sleeping sacks( so they cannot pull down the zipper)(very important: proper size).
Put the pack and play in your room. When he wakes up, let him play for 10 minutes before pick up, if you are lucky, they will go back to sleep. Otherwise, they need something else.
Never leave them unattended! Being surprised by what they can do is a big part of taken care of babies!😮
Why a pack and play? Isn't it more uncomfortable? And people don't generally suggest long term use out of one, it's more for travelling/at grandparents houses etc. And depending which one you get the zips can be a small risk. And why does the kid need to sleep in the parents room? Usually they transition out at about 6 months old, this baby is 8 months old
As parents it’s our responsibility to “break our backs” leaning over crib and keeping our baby safe! Use bumper pads if he hits his head! 🙄
Bumper pads unsafe. Please don't promote them. They can suffocate babies
I don’t think they make bumper pads anymore. My coworker is a new grandmother and was trying to buy some and couldn’t find them anywhere. Apparently they’re considered a choking hazard and babies can get stuck between them and the crib bars.
Bumper pads don't fit a baige clean asthetic
@@claiternaiter446they arent and cant be choking hazards. if you cant buy one you can make one. 100 times safer than letting s baby venture all over a mattress and room. they don't even know to get back on the mattress to sleep, and sleeping that close to the floor isnt good either, dust, bugs and it's cold.
@@deborahdean8867they're considered a SIDS risk. Lots of research behind it. Nothing in the crib but the baby and the mattress with a fitted sheet.
My 3 yrs old daughter still sleep with us. I can't imagine not seeing my child beside me, esp when she has nightmares. I still wake up in the middle of the night to check if she is ok, check her breathing etc 😅
I do the same! You are an amazing parent! Kudos to you,
@@anushaH08 You sound like a great parent too. 😊
I would be scared of unsupervised playtime leading to furniture being pulled down on top of the baby.
Did you guys not hear her say baby proofing the room meaning she most likely screwed the furniture to the wall? I’m sure he wasn’t in there all day talking about shorten the curtain and get a cordless blind
@@loriwilliamson2709 she said it so i sure do believe it.. that outlet looked SO baby proof. 🤦♀️ then hide it behind a pillow so youtube can't see that there is still no outlet cover and a little can put their fingers in and mess with wiring. AND it doesn't take all day for a baby to choke to death on the blind cord. It only takes a few minutes (maybe while mom is getting that much needed sleep in shes talking about). And it would most likely be a silent death so they would just walk in to a dead baby! All because he was waking her in the mornings. Thats a part of parenting. If you can't get up with your babies you shouldn't have them!
@@loriwilliamson2709 What about choking on that shag rug.
DCFS rules require baby to be in his own bedroom with the door closed for fire safety. No baby monitor tells you when baby wakes up
@@loriwilliamson2709yeah she did a brilliant job.. the low hanging curtians and cords prove that
The purpose of the guard rails is to keep the baby inside to protect the baby. As they grow they will be more coordinated. That kind of bed they can fall off the edge and hurt their face. However, I hope the baby stays safe. 😊
She could put pool noodles under the sheets as softer bed railings.
The chair being up near the head area will be helpful to avoid that hopefully... I think its a good idea...
@sire_beandon Great idea! It would stop him from rolling out through the night yet he can still climb over it when he wants to get out of bed.
They know.
They wouldn’t have any significant damage if they did fall though, right?
He isn’t old enough to be left alone 😢
What if the parents need to sleep?
@@soph7230sleep in shifts
@@soph7230then you put them in a safe spot (such as a pack n play or in a play gate) that is next to where you are sleeping, making sure there is nothing soft accessible to them if they are under 12mo due to the risk of suffocation. But you never leave an infant unattended.
@@soph7230take turns in sleeping with the baby.
Part of being a parent is a lot less sleep. You just adapt
That's insane. I never wanted to even be in a different room from any of my babies when they were sleeping. You sacrifice sleep, that's how it goes. Good God.
i’m an early childhood educator. i work with infants and toddlers. this is incredibly dangerous, as they need something like a crib to keep them safe. it keeps them from injury, along with keeping them from getting overheated, which can cause SIDS. please bring the crib back.
hi there :) I am also an early childhood educator and lots of the nurseries I've worked at, including my current one, has infants and toddlers sleep on little mattresses like this. Dr. Maria Montessori worked in hospitals, she worked with children with disabilities and in homes and later developed the Montessori pedagogy. Respectfully, SIDS has nothing to do with cribs vs. mattresses, it has much more to do with sleeping position, objects in the bed (toys, blankets, pillows...), room temperature and the child's ability to turn themselves around / lift their head.
Actually there's research to back this up and that it is just as safe if not safer then a crib once they get past 6 months.
The crib could kill him seeing as he can suffocate it and he was banging his head on it so he could get out
How can sleeping on a mattress cause overheating?
@@laetifico it can't that's the point this type of sleeping as ck firmed safe for babies
My daughter started climbing out of her cot before she could even walk, in the end I just took the side off and placed a second mattress on the floor. She’d do the same, wander around her room and entertain herself, seek out her toddler brother, she’d even put herself to bed when she was tired. Remarkably independent child, very happy and confident.
Same here! My son has grown up very independent and has great coping skills.
I used to be an infant/toddler teacher a few years ago and our number one rule for their nap time was very tight fitted sheets and that’s it… any loose materials and pillows increase SIDS be careful
Yeah I noticed that too.
SIDS is not choking.
@@m.935suffocation
That doesn't cause SIDS as you know the cause its literally in the name Sudden infant death syndrome aka SIDS we don't know what causes SIDS
@@m.935uhm wtf. No. SIDS is def not just not choking. Omfg. Educate yourself please
I take care of my sis she’s now 11 months, whenever she moves I wake up terrified. She knows how to get to the ground and she can walk but I would never choose to sleep and leave her by herself even in the safest place
Instead of waking up mom and dad? Please call CPS 😭😭😭🤣
Exactly!!!
Is leaning down to the floor to pick up a child really less stress on the back than leaning over a crib rail? Just curious
You can squat down instead which is less stress on the back muscles and uses your leg muscles instead
Yes there's a science behind it. You don't normally lean over floor you can squat or simply sit down on the floor to pick up the baby. There's no barrier so it's open space you can pick up the baby from whatever angle is comfortable for u.
I hope this settled your curiosity 🎉
@@mindfulprodigy it helped. Thanks
It's also easier to lie down in the bed with them
The side of my son's crib lowered when you pushed a bar with your foot. I'm only 5'2" and could reach him. Also, had bumper pads that went around the entire crib. My son will be 39 this August, so he lived. I would rather deal with the side of the crib rather than leave an 8-month-old on the floor. I'm not the mother here so I will respect her decision.
All through my childhood I was sleeping on a Montessori bed and not just a dirty mattress on the ground???? Well shit!
The more you know 🌈
Ideally, the Montessori bed should be on a wooden platform so that the mattress can breathe and not be directly on the floor.
Lol
😂😂😂😂Riighhttt. They give anything a title. Lol
Dirty mattress on the floor means poverty. Clean mattress with cover and a sheet is Montessori. Sorry to have to tell ya 😂
The privilege of it all
This is insane. Completely neglectful behavior. You chose to have a baby and now wanna rush them to grow up and risk them dying because you wanna sleep and don’t want them to wake you up? WTF.
I watched this clip several times and noticed that the room has a radiant floor heater right next to the mattress! The wall outlet also does not have a plate over it so the wiring will be exposed behind the plug in.
Now he will only hit his head on the floor 😂
Or get wedged between the mattress and the wall. *SHUDDER*
Let's hope.
😂😂😂😂
Don't forget the bugs crawling on the bed
But its ok once the 8month old doesnt wake her up, seriously what a lazy, pathetic excuse for a mother.
With our first, we were kinda broke. We had a one bedroom apt and since I nursed baby all night, the crib we bought was slept in twice. She slept with us but we only had a full size bed and I was afraid she'd fall. So we put our box and mattress on the floor and got a futon mattress with extra sheets and a waterproof mattress protector (very important) on the floor directly next to it. It was only a few inches lower and she was very comfy and safe. When she started to crawl she'd wake up and crawl right to me. The crib got used only when I needed to use the bathroom and needed to put her somewhere safe. I always try to use a crib but out of all my kids, only one has slept in it and only about half the time.
Im so glad you posted this because look at all these kind people giving genuine useful and IMPORTANT advice and I come from her other video so I know she took everything everyone said in consideration and in good heart
I did this with my daughter. She kept kicking out the bars, so I called the doctor and that’s what he told me what to do with her. After that she did fine. She’s now 40 years old. That was the best my doctor had ever told me about what to do.
I finally did the same thing! That was more than 50 years ago. I'm a shorty so the rail was a problem for me as well. Plus, she had already started to climb out of the crib which to me was more dangerous because of the drop. It was so much easier and safer to just put the mattress on the floor and baby-proof the room.
No wait. So, you’re ok with your baby getting up while you’re asleep and just playing?? Seriously?? What am I missing??
They will sleep when they are tired. The though behind this is that the baby doesn't feel locked up and because of that sleeps better. They can decide they are not tired anymore and play without needing to wake up mom and dad or be stressed because they can't get out and might put themself in danger by trying to get out of the crib themself.
I completely agree!! The thought of the baby being awake and having all that space to possibly really get hurt scares me too😪
What's wrong with that, what am I missing? Obviously this is a save space where nothing is dangerous to the kid. Furniture anchord to the wall, toys at baby's reach, everything else put of reach. Since baby can't walk or climb yet this is perfectly safe. Whish I would have done that with all of my kids, not just the last. And once the baby gets hungry or bored or wants out of the room he's gonna make himself noticeable. Mom will wake up and be there for him, obviously.
@@SL-gz3dy yes they will sleep when they're tired, but they're small and can get into spaces, like behind tables and pulling on lamp cords... what's on the other end of those cords?? Lamps.
@@blahblahblah6965 that's why the room needs to be made baby proof. When done right, this is a really good way to go. Look up montessori.
My mom has been working with babies and infants even before I was born (I’m 15) NEVER DO THIS. A 8 MONTH OLD SHOULD NOT BE ALONE. What you needed to do it strap pillows or anything soft to prevent injuries to his head since it was wooden. If your child wakes you up it’s because it needs something, it can put your baby in a harmful environment and stress them out because their not getting their needs. A baby should not be alone until they have a developed enough brain.
100% correct
Except you absolutely shouldn't put 'pillows or anything soft' in a crib with an infant, it's a suffocation hazard.
This is my fave comment Bc a fifteen year old clearly is more competent in this situation than the adults. I had my first at 17 and definitely didn’t (and wouldn’t have) put my kid in a situation like this either. This whole video just blew my mind.
@@DiZoSoMom that’s what’s scary. I don’t even have a drivers license and yet I can probably take better care of a child than these guys…
@@soapm8119 oh my god you’re right I didn’t even think about that sort of hazard!
I didn't have a bed that size until I was 23 and moved in with my fiance. Lucky kid!
@delicate disaster you don't move with your " fiance before getting married, unless that's your job at night like cheap pros.
@@gikichi9462dude what. Shut up
@@gikichi9462 you sound dumb. People living together before marriage is completely healthy for some. It requires adjustment of selfish tendencies that you wouldn't notice untill you're already stuck together.
Its fun to learn about yourself and the 1 you love but that doesn't need to be an added pressure for newlyweds.
@@gikichi9462 @Delicate_Disaster
That was rude! Get in with times, people are living together without the piece of paper! A lot of relationships are better without the piece of paper!
Lmao
When I saw the last part about him crawling around unsupervised and not waking up his parents, I sighed and went straight to the comments
Having an unsupervised baby crawling around in the night seems like a recipe for disaster. This looks very dangerous to me.
Exactly
Try it you will be surprised and less ignorant and indoctrinated
I also was surprised to hear that she's okay with him leaving the bed to play with toys? Do what? No. I would never sleep sound again.
Here's to sleeping through the night?!?! What?! I would never be able to sleep again worrying about all the dangers he could get into. Nope. He's too young for that in my opinion.
If you're not meant to have toys where they sleep then this still isn't safe. Your baby will end up face down on that fluffy rug which is super unsafe. I don't know why playing with toys would be encouraged with when it's bedtime, it's rewarding waking up.
How to ensure your child has attachment issues as an adult, a tutorial:
how would this give him attachment issues?
Absolutely no correlation between this and attachment issues. He wants to play with toys not parents. The parents arent ignoring him. They will go to him if he wants them. He doesn't want them though.
@@laetificoyou asked him?
@@dreamweaver444 I CACKLED AT THIS OMG
@@dreamweaver444LOL I WHEEZED
Please make sure that the Bookshelf is anchored against the wall in case he tries to climb it. 👍
I did this in the 90’s I had two babies back to back and I just put a mattress on the floor for them when they started crawling. It was a king size one day I went in my daughter was walking around the room like she had been walking for years.
😂😂😂 imagine she was actually like “oh no, I have been caught!!” and she had actually been able to walk all this time 😂
in the UK that would get u a social worker
Too right
Fr my teachers were so concerned when i wrote about how i slept in a play tent on the floor or on an air matress and would watch movies with my brothers and sleep on the floor. My mom literally had to prove to social services i not only had a bed but also a sofa bed in my room and i was chosing to do that.
Oh don't be ridiculous. It's completely normal to have a floor bed
No it wouldn't. This is a fine solution, and let's be honest, the social workers are useless here.
Nope
As someone who sleeps on a floor because I don't have a bed, don't do this to your kids. Especially when you have the money to...
I totally baby proofed my kids room so now they both sleep on a full mattress on the floor. It’s very nice that they can roam the room and have each other to keep company. (2 and 3 and a half year olds)
No it’s a lazy ass irresponsible dangerous decision -omg unfreaking beleiveable I mean why did you even have a kid ??? Totally unfit parent airhead!
She completely removed the electrical socket that why in the video it goes from having an outlet cover to not because they completely covered it up!! Y’all just love to mom shame and be loud and wrong at the same time !
Them ages are you okay
@@jaadaavila 😂😂😂😂 I had a 3 yr old and a new born and I wasn’t ok.They’re 21 and 24 now but at 19 with 2 kids that age I cried a lot 🤣. My husband and I talk about sometimes and we’re so grateful we didn’t add anymore to the list we’re 40 now and living our best life. Kids are living on there own and thriving !! Only thing is I wish we lived in a better world !
Leaving an 8 month old unattended while ypu sleep is dangerous not to mention rolling over in his sleep and hitting a hard wood floor fracturing his skull.
A 5.5 inch fall is not going to fracture a skull.
Add pool noodles will help 🤷♀️
@@mcdougalvalentine5801what about a baby skull
But putting your baby in a crib to bang the big ass heads and die from Sids is the norm huh??
Girl tf. When are the parents supposed to sleep??
My crib became garden decor- the wood rails on the outside made beautiful climbing sticks for my creeping vines. Montessori method for sleeping was definitely the answer for my boys
Bro cares about her health more than her baby 💀
Boy....if F them kids was a person, it would be you😂😂lost me at "8 months old" "instead of waking up mom and dad"🤯
😂😂😂😂
Frightening, to treat him like he is much older.
😂😂😂
SERIOUSLY!!!!!! I thought I was the only one terrified for this baby. 8 months old?! Omg!😮
Right😅😅
I think as long as the room is 100% baby proof this is a cool method, nice you can lay down with him. I’m also glad my son is almost 3 and still cozy in his crib
Bookshelf in corner could be an issue.
@@Guitarbarellaif its not able to tip over it should be fine.
@@Havis_Princess they usually can be anchored to a wall just in case toddlers climb. People do that in earthquake zones too.
The safest way to raise a child is supervising them 24/7. Nothing else can be trusted.
Yeah that’s great bc if you only sleep like 4 hours at night studies show that your body turns into a superheroes body and then you can do everything with so much energy and power and fun bc it’s just that easy. So yeah supervising a baby 24/7 is great for your whole health keep it going👍🏽🙃
@@Idliketostayhuman yeah I'm a superhuman. Also there's a reason why children need parents and a support system. Noone can raise a child alone. I mean they can, just not safe and efficient.
My mom did this with all three of my little siblings, twin girls, and then a baby boy after, and it always worked very well. A lot of us found ourselves sleeping on that mattress with them when we slept over.😂❤
Stop using kids for content.
It’s wild to me that parents are still sharing their kids publicly online.
This is a parenting channel! Ofc theyre gonna use their kid.
Agreed.
@@CookiWolfthey don’t need to show the baby to talk about parenting.
Stop telling people what to do.
@@KM-mw3jp well, whats a person gonna do, babys change a lot :|
Tell me why I thought they were going too say we got rid of our baby😂
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😂😂😂 damn I laughed a little to hard
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Me too. 😂
@@steffers4756I did too. Hahaha
Forget that. I'm that mom who had hardwood floors & the nursery was at the top of a 23 ft landing. Being up there felt more like a 3 story building looking down onto those hardwood floors. I was so terrified he'd wake & crawl out of the crib & fall down all those hardwood stairs or thru the bannister so, we removed his bedroom door & purchased a wooden screen door that had all the decorative wooden trim, but reinforced with the tiny little metal squares over the screen & the door lock was on the outside of it. Sounds extreme, but he never fell down those stairs or thru that banister w/a 23 foot drop! I could still hear & see thru the door & the only time it was ever locked was at night when we went to bed or nap time. Camera's aren't enough when you're that tired raising kids. Everyone loved it. It actually was a really cute door that served a great purpose. Plus it kept our cat & dog from going in & out of his nursery too. The only one's who'll attack me will be those without kids bc every mom knows exactly what I'm talking about our fear of our babies falling when we're up that high.
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It might be an idea to raise it slightly as the mattress can get mouldy. Even a few inches on a slatted base will allow airflow to stop that.
I'm just rolling my eyes and shaking my head, this might be the one video that you shouldn't have made
So I always heard that you needed a box spring or frame to elevate the bed to reduce moisture. Is that an issue?
Depends on the location. I’m in the PNW & our sons bed is ruined after 1yr 😩 it definitely needs elevation
If you live where it’s humid, then it’s a big issue!
It will be
Here in eastern wa it’s so dry that was never a issue but near humid areas I could see that being a issue.
Yes it is
Keep ur baby with you at all times. Especially if ur asleep you won’t be aware if he has gotten into trouble etc. please consider another option where ur baby can be with you.
That's when we started using a floor bed! Sleep was still a struggle but greatly improved our situation
Why not just put something soft inside of the crib? Like a padding. This feels unsafe. While you're sleeping, you're child is roaming around the room. Who knows what could happen?
Something soft inside a crip is the dangereous thing to do! Don't do that 🙅♀️🤦♀️
This is safe if you make the room safe. I'm not sure if the room in the video is though.
No! That’s MORE dangerous
You mean create even more risk of sids death?
No. Just get a pack and play and be done with it or a twin mattress. This is ridiculous
actually they make child safe bumpers. my son is 18months old and never had one issue. This is actually the dangerous way of parenting.. my friends kid was almost killed due to a Montessori life style. she changed her mind and realized fast that it's not safe!
@@angelica.86what happened?
Now, let's hope that he doesn't hurt himself on that bookshelf or get into something while you and your husband are resting comfortably. That is why they made cribs.
@@snowa5558 I don't care why. It is dangerous. Which is why they made cribs.
@@cynthias6615you know you can baby proof a room right? Your entire house, including the nursery, should be bsby proofed anyway. All furniture that could tip can be mounted.
@kd8663 was it baby proof or mounted? Were the books glued to the shelf? Was the window made of plastic? Is the baby mouth glued so he does not choke on anything? Know it all!!
@@cynthias6615 baby proofing involves making sure glass and chokeables are out of reach, and they said they baby proofed, so what’s your point? These are basic things that parents do with a baby in the house do regardless of a floor bed. Why are we assuming they didn’t in this case?
I am sure that the parents are more worried about their kid than you are. Knowing that the kid can hurt himself with the stuff around the bedroom is not out of the box thinking. They must have thought of it too. They said they baby proofed the room. Chill.
I went straight for the comments. Knew they would be lit!😂😂😂
I now love my Indian parents more !
oh yeah i definitely want my baby to wake up during the night and play the whole time instead of coming to me when they need me….👀
The baby doesn't need you during that time though. Like unless he's hungry he doesn't. HE needs stimulation by playing in a safe envuornment
This is ridiculous. "instead of waking up mom and dad?" This is child neglect.
“We got rid of our baby-“ WHAT-
28 years ago I did that for my twins and it worked great. We didn’t have a name for it and ppl thought it was a crazy idea.
I do it for my TWO YEAR OLD twins currently. Not when they were EIGHT months old......... that's just ridiculous. Why does an 8 month old need to be able to wonder around in the middle of the night......
Babies less than 12 months should not sleep on a non breathable mattress or with any pillows of anything on the mattress due to suffocation.
I was thinking that too. 2 layers of ill-fitting sheets, pillows, and a fluffy rug? Also, I would be terrified that some small object would come off a toy or accidentally get dropped in that rug and the baby would choke.
agreed, if they decide to stick with the mattress on the floor, they should definitely switch to a crib mattress made for young babies and follow all the protocol that comes along with that. The thick fuzzy rug is also concerning. You can get soft yet very short rugs that would be fine, or those interlocking foam pads so it would be soft if he fell out.
He wasn’t
@@pcbassoon3892solid toys are all they need like blocks and nesting bowls.
That is a confidence builder!
Be especially careful of what he might be able to pull over on himself. Ex. Book shelf. He might use the drapes to pull himself up and may bring the rod down. Look after cords and outlets. Remember it is absolutely natural for a child to explore. It is the parent’s responsibility to foresee and protect. Good job!
Hey I got an idea, another person on this platform who I’ve forgotten the name of has their child sleeping on mattress and carpet like that (I don’t know the context) but they put 3 pool noodles stacked up into a triangle formation and taped together and put them under the sheets, not on the side, like on top of the mattress, just to stop the risk of him rolling off the bed onto the wood floor instead of crawling onto the mattress ❤
Mold can grow under a mattress because of lack of airflow, you might want to do monthly checks to make sure there isn’t any mold 😅
Even with a rug beneath the mattress?
This is horse manure:) youve never been a poor person I guess
@@HolySectaQueer I’m not 100% sure on that, but I would assume so since their isn’t airflow it would lead to mold growing.
she won't have to do it that long with those curtains and cords dangling and that uncovered outlet