Chelsie, I used to babysit Cameron when he was young. His mother and I were best friends in kindergarten and his grandmother a close family friend. I’ve seen stories like this but never about someone I knew. For those who didn’t know him, he was a great kid/young man. I had heard how great he was doing and that you two had gotten engaged to be married. I am so sorry this happened. Everyone that knew him and loved him has been absolutely devastated by this. Cameron, you beautiful sweet funny artistic smart boy … you will be forever loved and forever missed. Thank you for loving him Chelsie 💜💛💙
@Kimberly, Cam was the best ♥️ not a day goes by I don’t love and miss him, he was so special. It was a privledge to love Cameron and to be loved by him💞
@@chelsie512 I have dealt addiction, over dosing, and losing loved ones to fentanyl as I just lost one of my best friends 2 weeks ago to this drug.... Being the one left behind to literally have to pick up the pieces as this horrific drug sweeps through a home leaving only heart ache and despair behind ... first I'm so sorry for ur loss as I realize it had to be devasting and traumatizing for you and to be treated like a suspect makes me so angry for you ... I don't know u however after watching ur piece I wanted to reach out and say ur not alone and I will be praying for u and ur healing process also know he is always with u ...
She said it was normal in high school for people to be on xanax, I'm 8yrs older than her and xanax was not normal in high school for us just weed. Something changed in the early 2000s to make it normal. My ex husband became an opioid addict in 2007, these videos have been very eye opening about what was going on back then.
In 1998,I went to Carl Hayden hs and weed,coke,crystal, lsd, and the original oxycontin (OC 80S) before they became oxycodone were popular.. also rolling on ecstacy was very popular.. I think it depends on where you are because my hs was in the hood..
I graduated in the early 2000's and I just know of kids doing weed and cigarettes. But my friend group was the artsy outcast group. I have no clue what the "cool"kids were doing.
I was a teen in 80s and like you I had no idea kids were doing what they were in the 2000s. Smoking weed, drinking and occasional mind alternating trip but that's about it.
So sorry for your loos 😢I’ve lost my son to fentanyl on June 24,2022 forever 29 ❤ I miss him every minute of every day. He was so thoughtful & kind , I know he didn’t want to die. There are so many , too many people dying this way it breaks my heart. This is our family’s first Christmas without him 😢His sisters,nephew & niece will be thinking of him .
I am an EMT, currently in paramedic school moving up the ranks. On behalf of all EMS, I apologize for how those medics treated you. My heart truly goes out to you, addiction is a terrible disease and it's robs not only those affected but also the people around that person who cherished and loved them. After I incident like that, you still have the kindness in your soul to even say you know all responders aren't like that. I myself work with and know some people who probably shouldn't be in the field because they don't know how to express compassion and empathy. Also, I know this won't change anything or make you feel much better but I would like to share some insight on why the medics came downstairs so quick. sometimes understanding helps. The medics could have very well wrapped it up after 30 seconds. Most of the time it's not for lack of trying or care. The reason is after a heart has been in asystole for so long (not beating) with no rhythm or electricity ,there is no drug in the world that will restart it or fix it. Hypoxia has set in, brain death is done and cellular death has begun and is irreversable. In cardiac arrests, CPR is to keep oxygen perfusing the brain because we all still have some left over in our blood that somtimes is JUST enough to keep the brain going until we can restore a rhythm. If the medics arrived and knew cpr was already initiated x amount of time ago and signs of rigor and obvious death are present, there's just nothing we can do and the best thing to do is stop. If its been too long, theres no point and its a lot traumaon the patients body and wasted effort. A lot of the times we check the heart rhythm and if it's gone it's gone. We run a code (hook up lines, push drugs, intubate and breath, transport) if the person just went down or is in a cardiac rhythm that can possibly be fixed. This is unfortently is a classic circumstance where we would stop resuciation efforts or not even start them) due to the signs of death (long down time, body cold, other signs of clinical death like unreactive pupils, livor mortis, rigidty, temperature, asystole, etc). Sometimes people see us and they go "they didn't even try!" But it's like, we check for certain things and if they don't meet the criteria it isn't worth trying. It's like trying to start a engine without gas, you can turn the key all you want but the engine won't ever start without the gas. And I can assure you, it is the most frustrating and hardest part of our job...to know there is nothing we can do and we have to stop. It haunts a lot of us, especially when the patient is young, loved, and had so much to still give the world. We pride ourselves in trying and "getting back " the toughest calls. But sometimes, the most compassionate thing we can do is simply stop or not start. It's a tough decision to make and sometimes egos get in the way. But when it's like that, I'd rather not break ribs, make holes and tubes everywhere, and keep the family wondering for half n hour giving them hope. Sometimes it's best to stop, let the person stay peaceful and tell the family as soon as possible so they can go be with their loved one a few moments longer before they're taken away. I always ask myself "where can I best help and be of most use". Sometimes it's "I can get them to have a few more last moments together to help them grieve". I just wanted to explain on all this so everyone knows what they could expect when they dial the dreaded 9-1-1 numbers. And also, if you ever call 911 and some one is egregiously rude to you...don't ever be afraid to call the company or fire dept and let the supervisor or captain know. Sometimes people in this field need to be checked and reminded that their everyday is someone else's worst day. This is a tough field, burn out is so real and morale is super low (esp after covid) but ppl shouldn't forget why they went into the field, to help... Not to HURT. Sometimes all it takes, a phone call to a supervisor for them to get back into the right frame of mind. Also, if you get an exceptional responder who really went above and beyond for you, call too. We need positive reinforcement and the supervisors need to know who's doing well. I will say a prayer for Cameron and keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Stigma is such a horrible thing, it kills. He did not die in vane, please know this. And your decision to do this clip is very brave and amazing. It will help others and unite us all on this issue.
Best wishes on your future endeavors JS🤗‼️ Started my medical career 1972 and I appreciate the checked remark. Honestly, our current burn out label is Covid burn out, it's real and it exhausts us to the point of losing our kind compassionate layer which as you said so well is never acceptable. Fortunately for upcoming personnel there are better mechanisms for debriefing although the lengthy shifts in ED continue to baffle me. Especially in those fields of medicine I say sharpest is best, bet you agree. Blessings, former Colorado EMT, life long lab clinician.
@ServingDogfood 414 yes, it is, its a very hard thing, but know it CAN be done! If you are struggling or you know someone who is, please know there is a way out of it. It's not easy but it can be done. And these days there are plenty of treatment options like methadone and suboxone to help people get to stable place, and when they're ready do a SLOW taper. Some people stay on these meds for life and that's alright too if it's WORKING. Detox is hell, but staying in the life of active addiction is hell too!
@Dawn Renee I appreciate you so much! You helped pave the way and the build the foundation we have today in the field! Thank you for your life time of service, it doesn't go unnoticed ❤ When I first started a few years ago in my late 20s, I was initially shocked by the hours and expectations. Labor laws LEGALLY don't apply to us, no breaks, 18 hours ON the road max...I was like wtf?! I later realized that the hours in a lot of healthcare and ems were initially based on Fire Dept models, 24 or 48 hrs on. But as healthcare and ems privatized, companies kept the models and long hours even though it doesn't equate to a institute operating for profit and where you punch in and out and go home...not return to a "base" after each call. It's not right for for-profit institutions like most hospitals and private ems companies because they only adopt the portions that work for them, not for the employees well being. There's a lot of work to be done but the culture today around mental health is better, covid helped bring a lot of things to light to the masses like you said, debreifing culturee and policy is better! We must change the culture from inside out and with mental health not as stigmatized today and the evidence, we are heading in a positive direction! Cheers from CT Dawn! Much love ❤️ Again, thank you to all your contributions to the medical field!
@R Voit While I think this is meant in jest, or troll response, I'm going to respond to it as I would otherwise because its important for others to see. I am sorry to inform you, your feelings don't change facts or reality. Just because you feel something or you don't like it doesn't mean it isn't fact or real. I reccomend you should probably read a few books or go to the local university and take a psychology or addiction studys course. And if you still don't understand it, talk to a doctor, they're kind busy though and there are tons of resources around. Diabetics then made a choice to have diabetes. The cancer from the crap you prob eat or breathe in, ultimately that's a choice too. Not excerisizng every day is a choice. And what else is a choice, taking medications prescribed by a doctor whether you read that entire risks and side effects pamphlet or not. You know what isn't a choice? What you were born into. The values instilled in you as a child, how your world was shaped, how your brain developed risk and decision making, being raped and traumatized or molested or neglected as a kid. I could go on but I'll stop there. Just because you disagree and have a bone to pick, and are close minded enough to form your opinions on "feelings", doesn't make them accurate. And also, you must have lived a very safe life not having taken a drink, been curious, or taken a risk. Good for you. You also must have had the absolute PERFECT upbringing and every person ever around was a great influence because you've made excellent moral decisions and can police it!
I'm really sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story. My husband and I just passed 5 years clean in November. It's not easy! I work in recovery now and I hope I make a difference in someone's life. 🙏 💜
Damn, this has to be so hard to do. I hope you can slowly get your life back. I hope that this doesn't crush your spirit and that you find some strength in telling Cameron's story to the world. We all hear it and see it. He is not forgotten.
The way the whole situation was handled is so upsetting. It would have been so easy to treat her as a human being experiencing something traumatic. Those first moments can make such a difference.
Heather - one of my duties in the military was making death notifications. I was formally trained in what to say and what not to say, etc. What she experienced was not good. Yes, the first moments last a lifetime. Her memories and how she processes this started the moment she found him and built upon that 911 call. It could've been handled so much better. Your comment really hit home with me. I wish you the best.
@@bluewillow9127 I'm so sorry for your loss 💔 Addiction doesn't just affect the addict...family and friends are hurt as well. It burns me up when people think being an addict is a choice. By the time you become an opioid addict, the drug is no longer a choice, it is a necessity to function...without it, you are deathly sick. As a country, we need to educate the public about the withdrawal aspect of addiction, because that's why people can't just stop taking opiates.
@Blue Willow 🔮🪬 I'm so sorry you're having to deal w that. Grieving a loss is one thing but there's something about the person doing it to themselves that's just so awful. So senseless. Like it didnt have to happen, you know? I hope you can heal❤
While I have my DEEPEST condolences... She clearly loved him for over 15 years... But she lived in an endless circle of his addiction. She saved his life a year prior. That's no way to live constantly on edge wondering when the next time you'll have to save their life or even see them dead... Which ultimately, she did.
It's definitely a hard life. But at the same time, abandoning addicts doesn't get them anywhere either. Living with a partner who has bipolar disorder, diabetes, schizophrenia, anxiety, paraplegia, etc are also very hard. The truth is every time any of your loved ones walk out the door there's a chance they may not come back, and it may very well be due to a decision they themselves made. We didn't hear enough about these two's relationship to know whether it was healthy or unhealthy. Being an addict, esp in recovery, doesn't automatically make your relationships unhealthy or atleast more unhealthy than an average one. Yea, there are things that come with addiction for sure but like the purposes of these videos show, addiction isn't stereotyped into a box, it affects ppl from all walks of life and creed. There are some people that do very predictable things in active addiction and others that don't. I know in my own personal experience, if my husband walked away when I was going through a tough period of my life with my own demons, I prob wouldn't be here today. He stuck it out and here we are healthier and happier than ever. 100% more fulfilled than we ever have been and more understanding of one another. His support HELPED me become the person I wanted and was meant to be. While he did relapse after a year and this poor woman had to find him, it sounds like she didn't define him by his addiction and had a great 15 years with him that she doesn't regret. Each one of us knows what we ourselves can and cannot handle, can and cannot go through for someone else, and have our own perspectives and balances to weigh things on, it's our own responsibility to make decisions on those things. We shouldn't expect others though to make the same ones we do. I mean all of this very kindly btw with ZERO negativity or malice. Just sharing another way of looking at things is all.
@@js3617 I'm not really saying that she should've left him... Without sounding heartless... I'm more so saying her life can begin again outside of this cycle... But, she has not only heartbreak but trauma too. So therefore there's no happy ending near.
@@js3617 I have a severe chronic disease that I have dealt with for years, hospitalizations, surgeries, daily pain. I only wish I had had the choice to start the disease and the choice to be able to stop it. Equating drug addiction with the other things you mention is wrong.
Much respect to the people making these short films and those who are telling their difficult personal stories. Alas, many people have become so cold, self-righteous and one dimensional. Not only on 911 calls but here in the comments section and on social media more broadly. Newsflash: addicts don’t have great insight - they don’t look at their addiction from a neutral, objective baseline. A few of you need to learn a little compassion before looking down your nose at those who have died and trolling those who are left to pick up the pieces.
So true. It’s ironic that these individuals who have addictive characteristics….usually also possess such a brilliant mind and personality than your average Joe or Josephine !
I appreciate her sharing so that others might learn. My mind is blown. In the 80's, at most in my high school was a little tobacco use and someone sneaking a drink. Life is really different today for those in high school.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've lost 5 friends in 1 yr. This isn't a crisis anymore it's an epidemic and America is slowly dying behind this drug. We need divine intervention at this point 👉
Don’t show me the finger. It’s the one thing that makes me go ballistic. If someone gives me the finger in traffic, I follow them. It triggers me like nothing else, perhaps because my dad told my sister and I when we were kids that it is about the worst thing a person can do. That stayed with me. I never give anyone the finger unless it is a bad ass situation, Never ever as a joke in pictures like many do.
'The struggles of loving a person with substance abuse disorder." Thank you for sharing the most awful tragic reality of this crisis. Im sending your story to people i love who also struggle with opioid abuse.
Yes… I agree EMT’s and medics are cold and not empathetic. I’m a nurse and deal with them often and it’s my constant fight to work together. But I 100% get how they feel. I feel like it’s what happens over time …. One becomes numb. They kinda have to… they have seen a lot of shit dealt with a lot of shit like most medical personnel. I’m sorry this happened to you. You definitely deserve better.
the sound of her voice at 14:47 literally made my chest sink. i feel for this woman and everyone involved. hopefully she can eventually find peace within herself and move on with life. you can never get over loss of a loved one, you just learn to live with it in time. You find comfort in loss and know that the person will forever be with you in the memories you shared. That is something that can never be taken away.
I'm so sorry for your loss and that this happened to you. You did not deserve to lose your partner that way. Fentanyl is almost worse than heroin because it masquerades as seeming innocuous drugs. These videos are so important. Thank you for sharing your story.
I still cannot believe he's gone, he was such a treasure of a human being and is so greatly missed. My heart goes out to you and all of us who knew and loved him. Sending my love to you ❤
Wow...the way you told the store I could feel the Love you both shared made me cry...I don't cry for much..sorry this happened..the way you explained everything...definitely will help other's...what a fantastic woman you are...Dammit i cried writing this!!...
The emts really get me. I’ve heard so many stories of people being guilted into cpr in the phone even though the person is clearly dead. It’s an understandable protocol but if there is no pulse and they are icy can’t they call it off?! How traumatic and awful.
This story haunt’s me. I am so sorry for your loss and what you had and have to go through. I almost lost my brother to fentanyl. He was saved by paramedics with narcan only to lose him a few years later to liver failure from alcoholism. 🌹Prayers for you and family.
I am so so sorry. My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. I have been clean for 17 years, but my husband has relapsed multiple times over the years. It is not an easy life. We've had the best times and the worst times. I cannot imagine what you've gone thru. I am so sorry.
Thank you for doing these. I for one appreciate it very much, I would hope this takes off and grows to where hundreds of thousands of people see these!
She doesn't know it yet but her life will be better. That dude put her through hell it sounds like. A very understanding partner she was. Sad situation. She seems really sweet i hope she finds peace
I'm sorry for your loss. Keep on helping others with your story and maybe those who aren't affected with addiction or any other real problem can understand it can happen to anyone. 🎆
I’m so sorry you had such a horrible experience. It’s already traumatic enough, you didn’t need that on top of it. I’d file a complaint asap. And lots of them. Sending you lots of love, hugs and healing vibes
I have contacted the DEA so many times, actually met some after recording this story…I get an Austin contact… and it’s the same message every time “oh we thought so and so got back to you. We will get back to you asap..” and never getting back to me. Put that on repeat, coming up on 3 years now. The DEA is a joke.
How horrible....this story was so gut wrenching. RIP Cameron and may God bring comfort and wisdom and peace to this young lady and his family in this difficult time 🙏🕊️💜. Working in a hospital pharmacy I work with Fentanyl but never in my wildest dreams could I imagine folks getting it from the streets 🥺.
As a first responder for close to 22 years and a recovering addict myself this hits on so many levels. First off, I’m so sorry for your loss, and I’m sickened for how you were treated by the EMS personnel who responded to look at your loved one. Nowhere NOWHERE is there ANY excuse to belittle, be rude, disrespectful, and act cold hearted towards someone who just lost their loved one. Clearly they are burnt out and need to move along to another career. You don’t EVER say that EVER! It’s so against every moral I have. When I took an oath to protect and preserve life, nowhere in there did it say “be a bitch and preach anything police matter related to a family member”. You should of been treated far better than that. I would of made a complaint to that agency wether it be fire, a private ambulance company, whoever but that was 100% inappropriate, unnecessary, unprofessional and just plain heartless. Some people have this stigma in society that people who have substance abuse problems are the filth of the earth, when in fact they are the most broken, lonely, people who are ashamed of their addiction. At least I can speak for myself when I say that. I got clean in 2007 but have relapsed 2 times since, but I know the inner demons I fought to live, not give up, and get back to trying to do life sober, and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. It’s an ongoing battle. My heart goes out to you. That day he passed another angel got their wings, and I’m sure he’s watching over you. I hope that one day you will find peace and start healing from your profound grief. I’m sorry your heart was broken, and you were treated so shitty by people who go into these fields to help others from a caring place not a cold, bitter one. God Bless you sweetheart. My deepest condolences.💐❤
That was so sweet....teared me up....super proud of you on your sobriety....lost my sister and brother in law....it's no time to be mean .....we don't see death everyday like Drs and EMT and for some people like myself it's very hard to process...we just don't understand the medical side.....just our human side that is looking at our loved one gone....
Dear Katie Elizabeth my name is Cynthia I teared up when I read your sharing I'm still proud of you I've been sober for 7 years and in that seven years time know I had that to little relapse as but I have never felt better in my life the proof's in the pudding God bless you dear I don't want to put my my sharing out on text. But I love to speak with you and I wish it was possible but anyways you take care of yourself and and kiss keep keep spreading in love and continue loving yourself good job
Thank you for Telling your story! It takes courage and the fight inside your soul is never going to let him die!!! Strength I pray for all that. ..find a quirk in the motivation that it takes to STAY STRONG 💪 🙏
I am deeply saddened by your loss and the trauma that you have been faced with. I can not imagine how horrific this has been. NOBODY, unless they have suffered a tragedy such as this knows your devastation. Surround yourself with people who have compassion for your pain and that will love you on your journey through grief. Grief is the price we pay for love. You will find a place for your grief. You will find your joy again. It takes time. Be a stand for his untimely demise, tell your story; educate our children. To the parents of this amazing young man, there are no words, I understand the heartache you feel. I have also lost my son. He was 27. ❤️God Bless all of you.
Thank you for being kind, and my condolences for the loss of your son. Some people have commented such awful, cold, inhumane words… and I am so appreciative of the people who understand this is a crisis, and people who died this way were not all a certain type of person, but rather all diff walks of life but all lives that deserved to walk. ♥️ my mission in life is to educate children and others, lift the stigma, and hopefully save a life. Knowledge is power!
YES, educate! Chelsie, addiction doesn’t discriminate and the people who judge and say awful, inhumane things is because society often views addicts and alcoholics with disdain, blaming them for not having the strength or the willpower to quit. You are so right, addiction plagues people from all walks of life: rich, poor, and middle-class, across every ethnic group.There is an assumption that addictive behavior is a decision, when in fact, nothing could be further from the truth. They no more choose to be an addict or an alcoholic than they would choose to have cancer. It is lack of knowledge. Every family has an addict in their family, period! Your pain makes me cry, you just started on this journey through grief, it’s freaking hard, there is no escape from the pain nor the events leading up to his demise. You must always remember, he loved you, he will always love you, it wasn’t personal and nobody is to blame. Your story has impact and you will never know how many lives were saved by sharing your story. Shout it out to the world, become an influencer!
Im soo sorry to hear about this story, you seem like a very strong girl with a big heart ❤ and truly cared a lot for him. My condolences to you and the family 👪.
I’m so sorry. I feel your pain, I’m IN that pain. I lost my husband to a Fentanyl overdose. Worst day of my life. All you can do is just keep going. People say, “It gets easier with time & time heal heals all wounds.” That’s a load a bullshit. Our hearts learn to adjust to the pain somehow, it doesn’t get better we just learn to live with the loss somehow. By heart aches for you, and tonight I’m thinking of you and praying you can find a bit of hope n healing. Reach out anytime.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am also appalled by the way you were treated by the EMTs and everyone else involved. You didn't deserve that. I wish you happiness and peace.
My God. I am so sorry! And especially what with the way they treated you on top of how traumatic the situation was already! How awful. Too many people are dying so needlessly! 🙏😥
I was an emergency call handler, and I'm sorry the EMT spoke to her in that way. Most other countries that use MPDS stick to a script for this reason. If someone says it's too late, we are trained to say 'tell me why you think so', and then we need to hear specific indicators like stiff, rigor mortis, etc and I believe we needed to hear 2 or 3 signs otherwise we had to give CPR instructions. There have been times a caller thought a patient was dead then they turned out to be alive. My heart hurts for anyone who has had their trauma confounded by a lack of compassion from front line services. I have experienced it also, and it's awful. Furthermore, you never forget it.
I’m so sorry for what happened to you. It’s not your fault. Please find a way to forgive yourself for any guilt you may be feeling and move forward with your life. You are a beautiful and strong woman.
I'm so sorry you had to go thru this hell. I am afraid that I'm going to find my son like this. It sucks and I can't even imagine what you have gone thru. You are a strong woman and I believe you will make it thru all this hell.
I had fentanyl prescribed to me in a patch form. The first patch made me throw up so the does was lowered. I finally had the surgery and was told I had to continue the patch and be taken off gradually. I went home took the patch off and didn’t fill the prescription. I never felt a “high” from the patch, I never thought I was chemically addicted. The withdrawal was horrible and took many many of the worse of my life to get to the other side. It would have been so much easier to put a patch on hell is not a good place. Thank God I had 3 children that were my responsibility that I love more than anything .
I’m so sorry for your loss. I use to believe that while living on this planet we have one soul mate. Many can be a soul mate and that depends on when/if your ready to find one again. If I can find more than one then so can you. God bless and keep marching forward sister. The man you lost would want you to keep striving forward to live your best life here and fulfill you purpose.
I miss him so so much too, every minute of every day. He was and still is my favorite human I have ever met. And every day I dream of the day our souls will reunite 😭 before we were engaged, he had given me a ring with a note that said “our love will survive infinite lifetimes…” which brings me some peace bc, if the after life is real, which I believe…I know when it’s my time, he will be waiting for me. 💜🤍🖤
my condolences. I saved my best friends life with cpr a few yrs ago ,we were friends since we were 12yrs old we were 42 at the time. I knew and was friends with her husband for 20yrs then became very close after her death for last 3 years of his life, he died in his bed from suboxone and alcohol two years ago. I've lost so many loved ones over the years ,too many to think about most of the time. I'm doing well though those not good days come still just getting a lil further apart and not lasting entire day anymore so that helps. Your story hit home.
Damn, yeah there are definitely similarities. I lost my best girl friend 5 months after Cam passed..and so many more friends through my life due to drugs/alcohol. My condolences to you, too. ❤️🩹 the stigma has to be lifted and treatment has to be more accessible and affordable. Of course there are some state funded centers, but typically are gross and don’t have beds available all the time, and timing is everything.
@@chelsie512 thank you. timing is very important, addicts need treatment when they need it not go back and maintain on what they've been doing till a bed opens or till they don't feel like receiving help anymore. I was an addict myself for decades starting in jr high school, my last overdose was back in 99 I had 3 of em that required medical intervention to save my life. But I just learned now to use longterm and I'm those days there wasn't any treatment at all for opiates just meth and alcohol unless u were in a major city area which i wasnt. I have chronic pain so it's been a long difficult road. That is until a clinic came to town finally so I was able to finally stop with Dr offices for my meds, they don't have time for us unless that is all they treat is addicts which is still not so great. So I'm on med assisted recovery, its a fine a fineline between that and still using its a state of mind also but personal responsibility comes into it big-time. Another issue is pause or longterm detox for those on opiates for decades, lastime I went off I was sick for a year. It just wasn't gonna end at my whits and endurances end the local methadone/suboxone opened. I do what I'm supposed to do and after all the treatment, therapy and experiences I've had its not hard anymore to take meds correctly and stuff. Alot of hard work and experience has brought me here and for first time in my adult life i know happiness and excitement for tomorrow etc.
I wish the 911 operator and rescue had had been more empathetic and comforting. Obviously he had passed hours before you found him. So sorry for this loss.
I cannot even imagine an emergency call operator telling me to perform chest compressions on a cold blue person. Oh my. That’s what they HAVE to say and ask. “So, you’re refusing to try and resuscitate the victim ma’am? That’d be a non conformity to protocols ma’am. We may take legal action if you refuse to revive a deceased person. Do you understand what I’m telling you!?” I’d be mortified. Trying to talk with an emergency operator and do CPR on a loved one that isn’t supposed to be gone!! Truly gut wrenching.
@@ryanblanchard2508 If their protocol is to give narcan and perform cpr on dead people then their protocol needs to be changed. Trying to save someone who's already dead by traumatically abusing and hurting another is not ok
My best friend, Kimeran, died of a fentanyl overdose on Christmas eve 2007. God bless you. I walked around for at least a year reeling as if I had been punched in the gut. God bless you! We were arguing, too.
@@ImUrZaddy Thank you. It is always nice to receive kudos. It means a lot to me that you took the time to read what I wrote. That was undoubtedly the most profound shock that stuns me to this day.
Finally, someone gets how I feel. I lost my husband a year ago to fentanyl- he is my soul mate, & half of me is missing. I will never ever get over losing him. Our kids & I are devastated. I hate when ppl say “you’re young, you’ll meet someone else”, no, you don’t get it, we literally would finish each other’s sentences. I’m broken without him.
why is that free in the usa ? i am muslim but we have no rght this kinda stuf i am so sorry for u but sometimes governmenst should have been careful and awareful
This. I cannot stand when people tell me to get over the death of my childhood best friend, who was essentially my platonic soulmate. At first I shrugged it off, but now I have to snap back at them that they wouldn’t understand because they’ve never had a friendship like that and they need to just stop talking about something they’ve never known.
Oh My Sweetgirl...your story has broken my heart. I am so glad you found a counselor right away for yourself. I wish I could just hug you in person to let you know it wasn't your fault, seriously chances are he had no idea it was Fenytnol. This war with this drug is just getting worse and is claiming its victim by the heartbreak. So very sorry for your Your loss Babygirl. 🌹🙏💞luv from Ohio....a Grandma & Fenytnol survivor Xs and Os
thank you for sharing your story, and i hope you can fully heal someday. i'm happy that you are able to say that he was your soulmate, and that you were such good friends. so many people will never have that
It's strange to me how people think everyone else around them is doing the same thing but they are usually very wrong. Thinking "everyone" in school is doing drugs, is just wrong.
I am so sorry for your loss. As a former 911 dispatcher I don’t believe there was any protocol that required me to ask a person who called in a reported “death” if they were refusing to perform a certain act. I had been EMD certified since 1995. If a person said that they felt that the person was beyond help, that was documented in the notes. Not only am I sorry for your loss, but for the way that you were treated throughout your entire ordeal. I don’t know if you will ever truly heal, but the days may get better as time goes by. I wish you peace going forward in life…
Im so sorry you had such an insensitive 911 operator, and detectives. Its harder for those of us left behind, with the guilt and anger mixed in with the heartache. Please find a grief support group. Sending healing prayers
Lost my 36 year old daughter March 20 2020 from fentanyl poisoning. I didn't know her problems were this bad. Don't believe you can fix this mom . I couldn't I tried she left behind 3 children . She was very secretive. I am beaten to the ground
having learned the hard way......the one thing i know for sure is.....no matter how much "we" love, no matter how much "we" care.....trying this, trying that, in the end..... "we" can't save "them" from themselves.
What is most tragic is the people that are left behind. This young lady and all those people who love addicts, stop being so hard on yourselves. You can't control anyone's behavior. Be at peace please, all you could do is love them and you did that.
He did not die in vain. These drug dealers on any level need to be prosecuted. One life gone to fentanyl poisoning is one life too many. Keep pushing the DEA and the DA’s office to go after this dealer. If it’s a snail mail letter a day to them everyday, I’d do it until they open their minds and their eyes to this fentanyl crisis. If it were their child l, I’d guarantee that dealer would be in prison. I’m so sorry. #Stopthestigma 💜
Going after the drug dealers doesn't solve this. We've seen it for the past 50 years with the war on drugs. If it worked then we wouldn't have had an all time high of record breaking deaths from overdoses last year (108k people) Other countries who are a bit ahead of us have realized that if you allow addicts to get a clean supply of drugs (canada does this with dilaudid and heroin) they tend not to overdose and die. Cartels/gangs lose out on money and dissolve. Crimes related to drug use and robbery go way down as people don't need to rob and steal to get their fix. On top of that the addicts are surrounded by loving/caring doctors and nurses who will make sure they are OK and offer other recovery services if/when they are ready.
@@Hallo81398 drug dealers are purposely pushing fentanyl on unsuspecting buyers who assume they aren’t going to be poisoned. The day I shut up is the day I am dead. What are you doing to help save lives? 🤔
Chelsie, I used to babysit Cameron when he was young. His mother and I were best friends in kindergarten and his grandmother a close family friend. I’ve seen stories like this but never about someone I knew. For those who didn’t know him, he was a great kid/young man. I had heard how great he was doing and that you two had gotten engaged to be married. I am so sorry this happened. Everyone that knew him and loved him has been absolutely devastated by this. Cameron, you beautiful sweet funny artistic smart boy … you will be forever loved and forever missed. Thank you for loving him Chelsie 💜💛💙
too bad this wasnt brian white
@@JackhammerPossessor Do not wish harm upon your greatest enemies. Instead, pray for their them
@@JackhammerPossessor who is Brian White? If you are referring to Cam’s uncle Brian..his last name isn’t even White.
@Kimberly, Cam was the best ♥️ not a day goes by I don’t love and miss him, he was so special. It was a privledge to love Cameron and to be loved by him💞
@@chelsie512 I have dealt addiction, over dosing, and losing loved ones to fentanyl as I just lost one of my best friends 2 weeks ago to this drug.... Being the one left behind to literally have to pick up the pieces as this horrific drug sweeps through a home leaving only heart ache and despair behind ... first I'm so sorry for ur loss as I realize it had to be devasting and traumatizing for you and to be treated like a suspect makes me so angry for you ... I don't know u however after watching ur piece I wanted to reach out and say ur not alone and I will be praying for u and ur healing process also know he is always with u ...
She said it was normal in high school for people to be on xanax, I'm 8yrs older than her and xanax was not normal in high school for us just weed. Something changed in the early 2000s to make it normal. My ex husband became an opioid addict in 2007, these videos have been very eye opening about what was going on back then.
In 1998,I went to Carl Hayden hs and weed,coke,crystal, lsd, and the original oxycontin (OC 80S) before they became oxycodone were popular.. also rolling on ecstacy was very popular.. I think it depends on where you are because my hs was in the hood..
I graduated in the early 2000's and I just know of kids doing weed and cigarettes. But my friend group was the artsy outcast group. I have no clue what the "cool"kids were doing.
So you just gave up on your husband because he was an addict ?
I was a teen in 80s and like you I had no idea kids were doing what they were in the 2000s. Smoking weed, drinking and occasional mind alternating trip but that's about it.
I grew up on the Texas border near Mexico, pills have always been a staple of drug use here. It depends on where u live
So sorry for your loos 😢I’ve lost my son to fentanyl on June 24,2022 forever 29 ❤ I miss him every minute of every day. He was so thoughtful & kind , I know he didn’t want to die. There are so many , too many people dying this way it breaks my heart. This is our family’s first Christmas without him 😢His sisters,nephew & niece will be thinking of him .
Trudy, may God be with you and your loved ones this holiday season!
I’m so sorry for your loss.🌹🌹
May God bring you healing.....so sorry for your loss 🙏❤️
@@babajaga158 I pray that you receive the truth and don't perish for a lack of knowledge...🙏 God bless you!
@@babajaga158 🙏🙏❤️🥰
I am an EMT, currently in paramedic school moving up the ranks. On behalf of all EMS, I apologize for how those medics treated you. My heart truly goes out to you, addiction is a terrible disease and it's robs not only those affected but also the people around that person who cherished and loved them. After I incident like that, you still have the kindness in your soul to even say you know all responders aren't like that. I myself work with and know some people who probably shouldn't be in the field because they don't know how to express compassion and empathy.
Also, I know this won't change anything or make you feel much better but I would like to share some insight on why the medics came downstairs so quick. sometimes understanding helps.
The medics could have very well wrapped it up after 30 seconds. Most of the time it's not for lack of trying or care. The reason is after a heart has been in asystole for so long (not beating) with no rhythm or electricity ,there is no drug in the world that will restart it or fix it. Hypoxia has set in, brain death is done and cellular death has begun and is irreversable.
In cardiac arrests, CPR is to keep oxygen perfusing the brain because we all still have some left over in our blood that somtimes is JUST enough to keep the brain going until we can restore a rhythm. If the medics arrived and knew cpr was already initiated x amount of time ago and signs of rigor and obvious death are present, there's just nothing we can do and the best thing to do is stop. If its been too long, theres no point and its a lot traumaon the patients body and wasted effort. A lot of the times we check the heart rhythm and if it's gone it's gone. We run a code (hook up lines, push drugs, intubate and breath, transport) if the person just went down or is in a cardiac rhythm that can possibly be fixed.
This is unfortently is a classic circumstance where we would stop resuciation efforts or not even start them) due to the signs of death (long down time, body cold, other signs of clinical death like unreactive pupils, livor mortis, rigidty, temperature, asystole, etc).
Sometimes people see us and they go "they didn't even try!" But it's like, we check for certain things and if they don't meet the criteria it isn't worth trying. It's like trying to start a engine without gas, you can turn the key all you want but the engine won't ever start without the gas. And I can assure you, it is the most frustrating and hardest part of our job...to know there is nothing we can do and we have to stop. It haunts a lot of us, especially when the patient is young, loved, and had so much to still give the world. We pride ourselves in trying and "getting back " the toughest calls. But sometimes, the most compassionate thing we can do is simply stop or not start. It's a tough decision to make and sometimes egos get in the way. But when it's like that, I'd rather not break ribs, make holes and tubes everywhere, and keep the family wondering for half n hour giving them hope. Sometimes it's best to stop, let the person stay peaceful and tell the family as soon as possible so they can go be with their loved one a few moments longer before they're taken away. I always ask myself "where can I best help and be of most use". Sometimes it's "I can get them to have a few more last moments together to help them grieve". I just wanted to explain on all this so everyone knows what they could expect when they dial the dreaded 9-1-1 numbers.
And also, if you ever call 911 and some one is egregiously rude to you...don't ever be afraid to call the company or fire dept and let the supervisor or captain know. Sometimes people in this field need to be checked and reminded that their everyday is someone else's worst day. This is a tough field, burn out is so real and morale is super low (esp after covid) but ppl shouldn't forget why they went into the field, to help... Not to HURT. Sometimes all it takes, a phone call to a supervisor for them to get back into the right frame of mind. Also, if you get an exceptional responder who really went above and beyond for you, call too. We need positive reinforcement and the supervisors need to know who's doing well.
I will say a prayer for Cameron and keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Stigma is such a horrible thing, it kills. He did not die in vane, please know this. And your decision to do this clip is very brave and amazing. It will help others and unite us all on this issue.
Physical hell opioids quitting
Best wishes on your future endeavors JS🤗‼️ Started my medical career 1972 and I appreciate the checked remark. Honestly, our current burn out label is Covid burn out, it's real and it exhausts us to the point of losing our kind compassionate layer which as you said so well is never acceptable. Fortunately for upcoming personnel there are better mechanisms for debriefing although the lengthy shifts in ED continue to baffle me. Especially in those fields of medicine I say sharpest is best, bet you agree. Blessings, former Colorado EMT, life long lab clinician.
@ServingDogfood 414 yes, it is, its a very hard thing, but know it CAN be done!
If you are struggling or you know someone who is, please know there is a way out of it. It's not easy but it can be done. And these days there are plenty of treatment options like methadone and suboxone to help people get to stable place, and when they're ready do a SLOW taper. Some people stay on these meds for life and that's alright too if it's WORKING. Detox is hell, but staying in the life of active addiction is hell too!
@Dawn Renee I appreciate you so much! You helped pave the way and the build the foundation we have today in the field! Thank you for your life time of service, it doesn't go unnoticed ❤
When I first started a few years ago in my late 20s, I was initially shocked by the hours and expectations. Labor laws LEGALLY don't apply to us, no breaks, 18 hours ON the road max...I was like wtf?! I later realized that the hours in a lot of healthcare and ems were initially based on Fire Dept models, 24 or 48 hrs on. But as healthcare and ems privatized, companies kept the models and long hours even though it doesn't equate to a institute operating for profit and where you punch in and out and go home...not return to a "base" after each call.
It's not right for for-profit institutions like most hospitals and private ems companies because they only adopt the portions that work for them, not for the employees well being.
There's a lot of work to be done but the culture today around mental health is better, covid helped bring a lot of things to light to the masses like you said, debreifing culturee and policy is better! We must change the culture from inside out and with mental health not as stigmatized today and the evidence, we are heading in a positive direction!
Cheers from CT Dawn! Much love ❤️ Again, thank you to all your contributions to the medical field!
@R Voit While I think this is meant in jest, or troll response, I'm going to respond to it as I would otherwise because its important for others to see.
I am sorry to inform you, your feelings don't change facts or reality. Just because you feel something or you don't like it doesn't mean it isn't fact or real. I reccomend you should probably read a few books or go to the local university and take a psychology or addiction studys course. And if you still don't understand it, talk to a doctor, they're kind busy though and there are tons of resources around.
Diabetics then made a choice to have diabetes. The cancer from the crap you prob eat or breathe in, ultimately that's a choice too. Not excerisizng every day is a choice. And what else is a choice, taking medications prescribed by a doctor whether you read that entire risks and side effects pamphlet or not.
You know what isn't a choice? What you were born into. The values instilled in you as a child, how your world was shaped, how your brain developed risk and decision making, being raped and traumatized or molested or neglected as a kid. I could go on but I'll stop there.
Just because you disagree and have a bone to pick, and are close minded enough to form your opinions on "feelings", doesn't make them accurate. And also, you must have lived a very safe life not having taken a drink, been curious, or taken a risk. Good for you. You also must have had the absolute PERFECT upbringing and every person ever around was a great influence because you've made excellent moral decisions and can police it!
I want to give her a big hug. She has been through so much trauma.
I'm really sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story. My husband and I just passed 5 years clean in November. It's not easy! I work in recovery now and I hope I make a difference in someone's life. 🙏 💜
Stay with it - you've got this!
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It is scary because this does not discriminate. It can happen to any one of us. Take care everyone.
@@robinwagner3293Thank you,Happy New Year!🥳🎉
Congrats you both are warriors 6yrs clean for me✌
Damn, this has to be so hard to do. I hope you can slowly get your life back. I hope that this doesn't crush your spirit and that you find some strength in telling Cameron's story to the world. We all hear it and see it. He is not forgotten.
@@anon681 I use Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Where did we get our choices from?
The way the whole situation was handled is so upsetting. It would have been so easy to treat her as a human being experiencing something traumatic. Those first moments can make such a difference.
Heather - one of my duties in the military was making death notifications. I was formally trained in what to say and what not to say, etc. What she experienced was not good. Yes, the first moments last a lifetime. Her memories and how she processes this started the moment she found him and built upon that 911 call. It could've been handled so much better. Your comment really hit home with me. I wish you the best.
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@@bluewillow9127 I'm so sorry for your loss 💔 Addiction doesn't just affect the addict...family and friends are hurt as well. It burns me up when people think being an addict is a choice. By the time you become an opioid addict, the drug is no longer a choice, it is a necessity to function...without it, you are deathly sick. As a country, we need to educate the public about the withdrawal aspect of addiction, because that's why people can't just stop taking opiates.
@Blue Willow 🔮🪬 I'm so sorry you're having to deal w that. Grieving a loss is one thing but there's something about the person doing it to themselves that's just so awful. So senseless. Like it didnt have to happen, you know? I hope you can heal❤
Lol white culture⚪️🗑🤡💊💉😂🥴😵💫😵
While I have my DEEPEST condolences... She clearly loved him for over 15 years... But she lived in an endless circle of his addiction. She saved his life a year prior. That's no way to live constantly on edge wondering when the next time you'll have to save their life or even see them dead... Which ultimately, she did.
It's definitely a hard life. But at the same time, abandoning addicts doesn't get them anywhere either. Living with a partner who has bipolar disorder, diabetes, schizophrenia, anxiety, paraplegia, etc are also very hard.
The truth is every time any of your loved ones walk out the door there's a chance they may not come back, and it may very well be due to a decision they themselves made.
We didn't hear enough about these two's relationship to know whether it was healthy or unhealthy. Being an addict, esp in recovery, doesn't automatically make your relationships unhealthy or atleast more unhealthy than an average one. Yea, there are things that come with addiction for sure but like the purposes of these videos show, addiction isn't stereotyped into a box, it affects ppl from all walks of life and creed. There are some people that do very predictable things in active addiction and others that don't.
I know in my own personal experience, if my husband walked away when I was going through a tough period of my life with my own demons, I prob wouldn't be here today. He stuck it out and here we are healthier and happier than ever. 100% more fulfilled than we ever have been and more understanding of one another. His support HELPED me become the person I wanted and was meant to be.
While he did relapse after a year and this poor woman had to find him, it sounds like she didn't define him by his addiction and had a great 15 years with him that she doesn't regret.
Each one of us knows what we ourselves can and cannot handle, can and cannot go through for someone else, and have our own perspectives and balances to weigh things on, it's our own responsibility to make decisions on those things. We shouldn't expect others though to make the same ones we do.
I mean all of this very kindly btw with ZERO negativity or malice. Just sharing another way of looking at things is all.
@@js3617 I'm not really saying that she should've left him... Without sounding heartless... I'm more so saying her life can begin again outside of this cycle... But, she has not only heartbreak but trauma too. So therefore there's no happy ending near.
@@js3617 I appreciate your comment
@@js3617 I have a severe chronic disease that I have dealt with for years, hospitalizations, surgeries, daily pain. I only wish I had had the choice to start the disease and the choice to be able to stop it. Equating drug addiction with the other things you mention is wrong.
@@_Y.Not_ I agree. Treating addiction as a disease is a mistake. A big one. Hope your health improves. All the best.
Much respect to the people making these short films and those who are telling their difficult personal stories. Alas, many people have become so cold, self-righteous and one dimensional. Not only on 911 calls but here in the comments section and on social media more broadly. Newsflash: addicts don’t have great insight - they don’t look at their addiction from a neutral, objective baseline. A few of you need to learn a little compassion before looking down your nose at those who have died and trolling those who are left to pick up the pieces.
So true. It’s ironic that these individuals who have addictive characteristics….usually also possess such a brilliant mind and personality than your average Joe or Josephine !
I appreciate her sharing so that others might learn. My mind is blown. In the 80's, at most in my high school was a little tobacco use and someone sneaking a drink. Life is really different today for those in high school.
It’s so sad to hear all these stories about ppl dying over fentanyl sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've lost 5 friends in 1 yr. This isn't a crisis anymore it's an epidemic and America is slowly dying behind this drug. We need divine intervention at this point 👉
Ummm it's a plan. Keep voting Democrat to keep the drugs coming.
Don't count on it.
Don’t show me the finger. It’s the one thing that makes me go ballistic. If someone gives me the finger in traffic, I follow them. It triggers me like nothing else, perhaps because my dad told my sister and I when we were kids that it is about the worst thing a person can do. That stayed with me. I never give anyone the finger unless it is a bad ass situation, Never ever as a joke in pictures like many do.
'The struggles of loving a person with substance abuse disorder." Thank you for sharing the most awful tragic reality of this crisis. Im sending your story to people i love who also struggle with opioid abuse.
Yes… I agree EMT’s and medics are cold and not empathetic. I’m a nurse and deal with them often and it’s my constant fight to work together. But I 100% get how they feel. I feel like it’s what happens over time …. One becomes numb. They kinda have to… they have seen a lot of shit dealt with a lot of shit like most medical personnel. I’m sorry this happened to you. You definitely deserve better.
the sound of her voice at 14:47 literally made my chest sink. i feel for this woman and everyone involved. hopefully she can eventually find peace within herself and move on with life. you can never get over loss of a loved one, you just learn to live with it in time. You find comfort in loss and know that the person will forever be with you in the memories you shared. That is something that can never be taken away.
I'm so sorry for your loss and that this happened to you. You did not deserve to lose your partner that way. Fentanyl is almost worse than heroin because it masquerades as seeming innocuous drugs. These videos are so important. Thank you for sharing your story.
I still cannot believe he's gone, he was such a treasure of a human being and is so greatly missed. My heart goes out to you and all of us who knew and loved him. Sending my love to you ❤
Your a true lifer… camron knows how lucky he was to have you. He’s truly happy and at peace. Please keep moving forward, godless…
Wow...the way you told the store I could feel the Love you both shared made me cry...I don't cry for much..sorry this happened..the way you explained everything...definitely will help other's...what a fantastic woman you are...Dammit i cried writing this!!...
I did, too.
agree,she's been through alot of trauma,quite brave telling the story..
The emts really get me. I’ve heard so many stories of people being guilted into cpr in the phone even though the person is clearly dead. It’s an understandable protocol but if there is no pulse and they are icy can’t they call it off?! How traumatic and awful.
Wow..☹ I'm so sorry you were treated that way. So sorry for your loss. 🙏
Don’t worry, you’re NOT alone, thank you for talking about it.
Thank you for sharing your story!! So sorry for your loss.
Rest easy Cameron. So sorry for your loss sweet lady. 💕💔
This story haunt’s me. I am so sorry for your loss and what you had and have to go through. I almost lost my brother to fentanyl. He was saved by paramedics with narcan only to lose him a few years later to liver failure from alcoholism. 🌹Prayers for you and family.
I feel for her. No one you love should put you through anything like this. Sending her love
But he didn't mean to do that, that's exactly what WE do to Jesus who died for us.
I'm truly sorry for your loss. So many families are affected by this drug. I hope that things are going good for you now.
I’m so sorry, just from what you’re saying it’s obviously was a beautiful person. May God bless you with peace hope and love.
I am so so sorry. My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. I have been clean for 17 years, but my husband has relapsed multiple times over the years. It is not an easy life. We've had the best times and the worst times. I cannot imagine what you've gone thru. I am so sorry.
Thank you for doing these. I for one appreciate it very much, I would hope this takes off and grows to where hundreds of thousands of people see these!
She doesn't know it yet but her life will be better. That dude put her through hell it sounds like. A very understanding partner she was. Sad situation. She seems really sweet i hope she finds peace
So sorry for your loss. I wish you all the best. You deserve it!
This is so sad... They don't know the sadness they will leave behind when they leave their love ones..
This is heartbreaking 💔 I’m sorry for your loss and I’m so sorry the police treated you so bad.
Thank you for sharing. The unnecessary stress and disregard the professionals showed you is unacceptable.
TPD this was really sad.
I can only pray these murders will stop.
My condolences to this young woman and Cameron’ family and friends 💔
I'm sorry for your loss. Keep on helping others with your story and maybe those who aren't affected with addiction or any other real problem can understand it can happen to anyone. 🎆
I’m so sorry you had such a horrible experience. It’s already traumatic enough, you didn’t need that on top of it. I’d file a complaint asap. And lots of them. Sending you lots of love, hugs and healing vibes
I have contacted the DEA so many times, actually met some after recording this story…I get an Austin contact… and it’s the same message every time “oh we thought so and so got back to you. We will get back to you asap..” and never getting back to me. Put that on repeat, coming up on 3 years now. The DEA is a joke.
❤THANKS FOR SHARING. 🙏 Cameron IS ALIVE IN SPRIT.
How horrible....this story was so gut wrenching. RIP Cameron and may God bring comfort and wisdom and peace to this young lady and his family in this difficult time 🙏🕊️💜. Working in a hospital pharmacy I work with Fentanyl but never in my wildest dreams could I imagine folks getting it from the streets 🥺.
As a first responder for close to 22 years and a recovering addict myself this hits on so many levels.
First off, I’m so sorry for your loss, and I’m sickened for how you were treated by the EMS personnel who responded to look at your loved one. Nowhere NOWHERE is there ANY excuse to belittle, be rude, disrespectful, and act cold hearted towards someone who just lost their loved one. Clearly they are burnt out and need to move along to another career. You don’t EVER say that EVER! It’s so against every moral I have. When I took an oath to protect and preserve life, nowhere in there did it say “be a bitch and preach anything police matter related to a family member”.
You should of been treated far better than that. I would of made a complaint to that agency wether it be fire, a private ambulance company, whoever but that was 100% inappropriate, unnecessary, unprofessional and just plain heartless. Some people have this stigma in society that people who have substance abuse problems are the filth of the earth, when in fact they are the most broken, lonely, people who are ashamed of their addiction. At least I can speak for myself when I say that. I got clean in 2007 but have relapsed 2 times since, but I know the inner demons I fought to live, not give up, and get back to trying to do life sober, and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. It’s an ongoing battle.
My heart goes out to you. That day he passed another angel got their wings, and I’m sure he’s watching over you. I hope that one day you will find peace and start healing from your profound grief. I’m sorry your heart was broken, and you were treated so shitty by people who go into these fields to help others from a caring place not a cold, bitter one.
God Bless you sweetheart. My deepest condolences.💐❤
Wow Katie what a strong and lovely message all on 1. You’re amazing. Thank you
That was so sweet....teared me up....super proud of you on your sobriety....lost my sister and brother in law....it's no time to be mean .....we don't see death everyday like Drs and EMT and for some people like myself it's very hard to process...we just don't understand the medical side.....just our human side that is looking at our loved one gone....
Dear Katie Elizabeth my name is Cynthia I teared up when I read your sharing I'm still proud of you I've been sober for 7 years and in that seven years time know I had that to little relapse as but I have never felt better in my life the proof's in the pudding God bless you dear I don't want to put my my sharing out on text. But I love to speak with you and I wish it was possible but anyways you take care of yourself and and kiss keep keep spreading in love and continue loving yourself good job
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😢I'm so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you and your family
Thank you for Telling your story! It takes courage and the fight inside your soul is never going to let him die!!! Strength I pray for all that. ..find a quirk in the motivation that it takes to STAY STRONG 💪 🙏
I am deeply saddened by your loss and the trauma that you have been faced with. I can not imagine how horrific this has been. NOBODY, unless they have suffered a tragedy such as this knows your devastation. Surround yourself with people who have compassion for your pain and that will love you on your journey through grief. Grief is the price we pay for love. You will find a place for your grief. You will find your joy again. It takes time. Be a stand for his untimely demise, tell your story; educate our children. To the parents of this amazing young man, there are no words, I understand the heartache you feel. I have also lost my son. He was 27. ❤️God Bless all of you.
Thank you for being kind, and my condolences for the loss of your son. Some people have commented such awful, cold, inhumane words… and I am so appreciative of the people who understand this is a crisis, and people who died this way were not all a certain type of person, but rather all diff walks of life but all lives that deserved to walk. ♥️ my mission in life is to educate children and others, lift the stigma, and hopefully save a life. Knowledge is power!
YES, educate! Chelsie, addiction doesn’t discriminate and the people who judge and say awful, inhumane things is because society often views addicts and alcoholics with disdain, blaming them for not having the strength or the willpower to quit. You are so right, addiction plagues people from all walks of life: rich, poor, and middle-class, across every ethnic group.There is an assumption that addictive behavior is a decision, when in fact, nothing could be further from the truth. They no more choose to be an addict or an alcoholic than they would choose to have cancer. It is lack of knowledge. Every family has an addict in their family, period! Your pain makes me cry, you just started on this journey through grief, it’s freaking hard, there is no escape from the pain nor the events leading up to his demise. You must always remember, he loved you, he will always love you, it wasn’t personal and nobody is to blame. Your story has impact and you will never know how many lives were saved by sharing your story. Shout it out to the world, become an influencer!
So sorry for your loss is the love of your life and thank you for telling Cameron’s story and the awareness you making for others❤
A most beautiful tribute.
Thank you for sharing your story. I know it was very hard for you. I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers. Rest in peace Cameron 🙏
I’m sorry that you had to go through that. May god help you to cope. Condolences to the family.
Im soo sorry to hear about this story, you seem like a very strong girl with a big heart ❤ and truly cared a lot for him. My condolences to you and the family 👪.
Sorry for your loss. Keep going to counseling.
I’m so sorry. I feel your pain, I’m IN that pain.
I lost my husband to a Fentanyl overdose. Worst day of my life. All you can do is just keep going. People say, “It gets easier with time & time heal heals all wounds.” That’s a load a bullshit. Our hearts learn to adjust to the pain somehow, it doesn’t get better we just learn to live with the loss somehow.
By heart aches for you, and tonight I’m thinking of you and praying you can find a bit of hope n healing. Reach out anytime.
Sorry for your loss 😔
Thank you operator for traumatizing this young lady. 🤬🤬🤬
I am so sorry for your loss. I am also appalled by the way you were treated by the EMTs and everyone else involved. You didn't deserve that. I wish you happiness and peace.
My God. I am so sorry! And especially what with the way they treated you on top of how traumatic the situation was already! How awful. Too many people are dying so needlessly! 🙏😥
This is a great series.. it can stop so many of these situations
So sorry for your loss, I hope you find peace. Cameron did look like an amazing person, take care.
I was an emergency call handler, and I'm sorry the EMT spoke to her in that way. Most other countries that use MPDS stick to a script for this reason. If someone says it's too late, we are trained to say 'tell me why you think so', and then we need to hear specific indicators like stiff, rigor mortis, etc and I believe we needed to hear 2 or 3 signs otherwise we had to give CPR instructions. There have been times a caller thought a patient was dead then they turned out to be alive. My heart hurts for anyone who has had their trauma confounded by a lack of compassion from front line services. I have experienced it also, and it's awful. Furthermore, you never forget it.
I’m so sorry for what happened to you. It’s not your fault. Please find a way to forgive yourself for any guilt you may be feeling and move forward with your life. You are a beautiful and strong woman.
I'm so sorry you had to go thru this hell. I am afraid that I'm going to find my son like this. It sucks and I can't even imagine what you have gone thru. You are a strong woman and I believe you will make it thru all this hell.
I had fentanyl prescribed to me in a patch form. The first patch made me throw up so the does was lowered. I finally had the surgery and was told I had to continue the patch and be taken off gradually. I went home took the patch off and didn’t fill the prescription. I never felt a “high” from the patch, I never thought I was chemically addicted. The withdrawal was horrible and took many many of the worse of my life to get to the other side. It would have been so much easier to put a patch on hell is not a good place. Thank God I had 3 children that were my responsibility that I love more than anything .
You are so honest and brave. Shame on the responders and the police for not having any empathy for you .
I’m so sorry for your loss. I use to believe that while living on this planet we have one soul mate. Many can be a soul mate and that depends on when/if your ready to find one again. If I can find more than one then so can you. God bless and keep marching forward sister. The man you lost would want you to keep striving forward to live your best life here and fulfill you purpose.
Cameron was one of my favorite people I had ever met. I miss him so much 🖤
I miss him so so much too, every minute of every day. He was and still is my favorite human I have ever met. And every day I dream of the day our souls will reunite 😭 before we were engaged, he had given me a ring with a note that said “our love will survive infinite lifetimes…” which brings me some peace bc, if the after life is real, which I believe…I know when it’s my time, he will be waiting for me. 💜🤍🖤
I'm so sorry. That is all I know to say. I'm really sorry for your loss.
I can tell how beautiful he must have been by how beautiful you are. I hope you use your loss as strength when it is possible.
my condolences. I saved my best friends life with cpr a few yrs ago ,we were friends since we were 12yrs old we were 42 at the time. I knew and was friends with her husband for 20yrs then became very close after her death for last 3 years of his life, he died in his bed from suboxone and alcohol two years ago. I've lost so many loved ones over the years ,too many to think about most of the time. I'm doing well though those not good days come still just getting a lil further apart and not lasting entire day anymore so that helps. Your story hit home.
Damn, yeah there are definitely similarities. I lost my best girl friend 5 months after Cam passed..and so many more friends through my life due to drugs/alcohol. My condolences to you, too. ❤️🩹 the stigma has to be lifted and treatment has to be more accessible and affordable. Of course there are some state funded centers, but typically are gross and don’t have beds available all the time, and timing is everything.
@@chelsie512 thank you. timing is very important, addicts need treatment when they need it not go back and maintain on what they've been doing till a bed opens or till they don't feel like receiving help anymore. I was an addict myself for decades starting in jr high school, my last overdose was back in 99 I had 3 of em that required medical intervention to save my life. But I just learned now to use longterm and I'm those days there wasn't any treatment at all for opiates just meth and alcohol unless u were in a major city area which i wasnt. I have chronic pain so it's been a long difficult road. That is until a clinic came to town finally so I was able to finally stop with Dr offices for my meds, they don't have time for us unless that is all they treat is addicts which is still not so great. So I'm on med assisted recovery, its a fine a fineline between that and still using its a state of mind also but personal responsibility comes into it big-time. Another issue is pause or longterm detox for those on opiates for decades, lastime I went off I was sick for a year. It just wasn't gonna end at my whits and endurances end the local methadone/suboxone opened. I do what I'm supposed to do and after all the treatment, therapy and experiences I've had its not hard anymore to take meds correctly and stuff. Alot of hard work and experience has brought me here and for first time in my adult life i know happiness and excitement for tomorrow etc.
So sorry for the way you were treated and your loss.
I wish the 911 operator and rescue had had been more empathetic and comforting. Obviously he had passed hours before you found him. So sorry for this loss.
This was very disturbing to watch.
I cannot even imagine an emergency call operator telling me to perform chest compressions on a cold blue person. Oh my. That’s what they HAVE to say and ask. “So, you’re refusing to try and resuscitate the victim ma’am? That’d be a non conformity to protocols ma’am. We may take legal action if you refuse to revive a deceased person. Do you understand what I’m telling you!?”
I’d be mortified. Trying to talk with an emergency operator and do CPR on a loved one that isn’t supposed to be gone!! Truly gut wrenching.
@@hoosierbaddy3052 exactly
@@ryanblanchard2508 If their protocol is to give narcan and perform cpr on dead people then their protocol needs to be changed. Trying to save someone who's already dead by traumatically abusing and hurting another is not ok
@@ryanblanchard2508 really they were trying to save him she was assuming he was dead
This hurt so bad to watch. I feel it. Sweet lady, I really hope nothing but good happens to you from now on.
What a sad story. Seemed to have such a promising future, but those drugs are a monster. RIP
My best friend, Kimeran, died of a fentanyl overdose on Christmas eve 2007.
God bless you. I walked around for at least a year reeling as if I had been punched in the gut.
God bless you! We were arguing, too.
I'm so sorry for your loss!
Kudos for calling it an overdose instead of “poisoning”, downplaying this isn’t helping anybody
@@ImUrZaddy Thank you. It is always nice to receive kudos.
It means a lot to me that you took the time to read what I wrote. That was undoubtedly the most profound shock that stuns me to this day.
Your a strong woman, so proud of you. I can't believe how cold 911 was to you. My deepest condolences to you & to his family. 🇨🇦🙏🙏❤
I’m so sorry for your loss. He seemed like a shining light. It’s so unfair. Young life lost that shouldn’t be happening in our country.
Finally, someone gets how I feel. I lost my husband a year ago to fentanyl- he is my soul mate, & half of me is missing. I will never ever get over losing him. Our kids & I are devastated. I hate when ppl say “you’re young, you’ll meet someone else”, no, you don’t get it, we literally would finish each other’s sentences. I’m broken without him.
why is that free in the usa ? i am muslim but we have no rght this kinda stuf i am so sorry for u but sometimes governmenst should have been careful and awareful
@@sabina6579 what is free? What are you talking about
@@JennaLeeEquals3 drugs on a pharmacy, my friends from the usa also say the same thng with me
@@rachelrach1153 why do you choose to go onto the internet and be human garbage?
This. I cannot stand when people tell me to get over the death of my childhood best friend, who was essentially my platonic soulmate. At first I shrugged it off, but now I have to snap back at them that they wouldn’t understand because they’ve never had a friendship like that and they need to just stop talking about something they’ve never known.
Oh My Sweetgirl...your story has broken my heart. I am so glad you found a counselor right away for yourself. I wish I could just hug you in person to let you know it wasn't your fault, seriously chances are he had no idea it was Fenytnol. This war with this drug is just getting worse and is claiming its victim by the heartbreak. So very sorry for your
Your loss Babygirl. 🌹🙏💞luv from Ohio....a Grandma & Fenytnol survivor Xs and Os
Man this choked me up.
These videos need to be shown in all schools grade 6-12. Let’s educate our children! Their lives depend on it!
I’m so sorry for your loss and the treatment of professionals that you received
These testimonies are heart breaking 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss. I will pray for him.
There’s always that person apologizing for someone’s actions…
thank you for sharing your story, and i hope you can fully heal someday. i'm happy that you are able to say that he was your soulmate, and that you were such good friends. so many people will never have that
It's strange to me how people think everyone else around them is doing the same thing but they are usually very wrong. Thinking "everyone" in school is doing drugs, is just wrong.
I am so sorry for your loss. As a former 911 dispatcher I don’t believe there was any protocol that required me to ask a person who called in a reported “death” if they were refusing to perform a certain act. I had been EMD certified since 1995.
If a person said that they felt that the person was beyond help, that was documented in the notes. Not only am I sorry for your loss, but for the way that you were treated throughout your entire ordeal.
I don’t know if you will ever truly heal, but the days may get better as time goes by. I wish you peace going forward in life…
Im so sorry you had such an insensitive 911 operator, and detectives. Its harder for those of us left behind, with the guilt and anger mixed in with the heartache. Please find a grief support group. Sending healing prayers
Lost my 36 year old daughter March 20 2020 from fentanyl poisoning. I didn't know her problems were this bad. Don't believe you can fix this mom . I couldn't I tried she left behind 3 children . She was very secretive. I am beaten to the ground
Wow what a great player he was. Tender Surrender is a very difficult song.
This was so gut-wrenching
Wow this is so F-d up, my heart breaks for her. Sending love and prayers her way 😢🙏🙏
This poor lady. She is so young and has gone through so much pain.
having learned the hard way......the one thing i know for sure is.....no matter how much "we" love, no matter how much "we" care.....trying this, trying that, in the end..... "we" can't save "them" from themselves.
Sorry you went through that.
Wow,this is eye opening wow
This NOW IS YOUR MISSION , AMEN 🙏
This is so sad and so real
It’s a generation that can’t cope. The world is hard and scary.
What is most tragic is the people that are left behind. This young lady and all those people who love addicts, stop being so hard on yourselves. You can't control anyone's behavior. Be at peace please, all you could do is love them and you did that.
He did not die in vain. These drug dealers on any level need to be prosecuted. One life gone to fentanyl poisoning is one life too many. Keep pushing the DEA and the DA’s office to go after this dealer. If it’s a snail mail letter a day to them everyday, I’d do it until they open their minds and their eyes to this fentanyl crisis. If it were their child l, I’d guarantee that dealer would be in prison. I’m so sorry. #Stopthestigma 💜
that drug dealer didn't force him to buy off him so shut up?
Going after the drug dealers doesn't solve this. We've seen it for the past 50 years with the war on drugs. If it worked then we wouldn't have had an all time high of record breaking deaths from overdoses last year (108k people) Other countries who are a bit ahead of us have realized that if you allow addicts to get a clean supply of drugs (canada does this with dilaudid and heroin) they tend not to overdose and die. Cartels/gangs lose out on money and dissolve. Crimes related to drug use and robbery go way down as people don't need to rob and steal to get their fix. On top of that the addicts are surrounded by loving/caring doctors and nurses who will make sure they are OK and offer other recovery services if/when they are ready.
Yes, the war on drugs should actually be fought.
@@Hallo81398 drug dealers are purposely pushing fentanyl on unsuspecting buyers who assume they aren’t going to be poisoned. The day I shut up is the day I am dead. What are you doing to help save lives? 🤔