If you really want to know….single mothers who are actually focused on their kids really don’t give a damn if a dude doesn’t want them. They focused on keeping a peaceful home for their children. Parents should date other parents. Period.
I'm so glad somebody else said that because for some reason men think it's a double standard. We don't want you if you got a bunch of baby mamas either. That goes both ways boo
@@miyangtangwan7046 I understand what you're saying same for a single mom all I'm saying men can say almost anything and it's alright but if a woman says it it's wrong
As a mom, I’m just not dating . lol like… a lot of men really think like this . I’ve been used by so many losers . I can no longer associate myself with men, people , bugs , anyone who doesn’t have me in their best interest . Whole time , you be doin better than them , how is that lucky ?
🙌. Like why do they think that you want them anyway? It's definitely a double standard because they lose their minds if you say that you want a man with no kids.
Dating today is a challenge for both single moms and singles alike, with unrealistic expectations, selfish mindsets, and emotional games making it harder to find genuine, lasting connections
I'll be 40 next year and I'm still child free by choice...me and the hubby been together for 14 years and he dont have kids or want kids either..I got blessed to marry a man with no children and im thankful for that because why should a child free woman have to settle for a man with kids?
When I was child free I didn’t have this mentality. I dated men with children and didn’t judge them for it. I understand that people have preferences but just keep that to yourself, it’s weird to hear so many men bash single mothers publicly. Just don’t date them, you don’t have to be rude about it and as a single mother myself I would never date anyone because I rather give all my time to my child.
It appears to me that single moms get all the men. I'm single no kids but my friends with kids get the men. Not only that my man left me for a woman with three kids. 😊
Girl my husband left me for a two time baby mother with to dads who wants nothing to do with her. I know exactly why he chose to go there. He gone use her till he can’t use her any more because no man in his right mind would leave a child free woman to go invest in a woman with kids that aren’t his.
Who would elect by choice to come last in their own relationship???? That’s absurd . People with kids need to stop expecting childless folks to just drop their wants and needs for their situation. It’s doesn’t work like that. Once upon a time they were Childress and wanted it all too so miss me with the selfish that doesn’t even exist because Childless people owe no one nothing. Very few single parents know how to actually balance a relationship and be a mother to other men’s children without anyone feeling neglected . I can’t imagine my entire life never being an actual priority to my spouse .. wtf ?? 🤷🏽♀️ I’ll pass
I was a single mom of 4 children for decades. I did date, but it was just for fun. I didn't bring too many guys around my kids (1 or 2). I also was going to university so I didn't have a lot of time. And, as one lady on this compilation said, I was very aware that there were pedos out there that will date you to get to your kids. I got remarried in my 50s and it's been the best.
Exactly. They are complaining about single childless women being selfish when they turn around and say they wouldn’t date a single mother. Women can’t win either way.
My kids are a natural repellent for selfish people. Sometimes you’ll get in a relationship with another person who wants to be your everything and they are jealous of your children.
I don’t date people with kids so, that’s their choice. I don’t understand what they gain by trying to SHAME THEMMMM. If you don’t want to date women with kids then JUST DONT. Why do you have to get online telling women how they’re so unwanted. When we all know there’s a single dad created everytime a single mom is created so clearly there’s someone that’s their “equal”. Irritating.
Single mother dv survivor. I was engaged and I didn’t want kids, he did, I wasn’t allowed to be on bc and got pregnant and he never married me after 8 years, the abuse got so bad I wasn’t even allowed to leave my own home or own a key or phone. I was trapped literally. Thankfully I’m free nd NO MAN IS ON MY RADAR!!!!! But trust and believe I get offers on a regular basis regardless of my motherhood status, and the Gag is that it’s usually the white men who are the most endearing to me
That’s for sharing and I’m happy you’re in a good place. It’s all about perspective and knowing people’s true intentions. That vetting process is so important especially if you’re planning to have a man around your kids
@khadijammhmm6673 I travel internationally frequently, mostly meet and find men of other ethnicities interested in me, also. Being over 45 and knowing the history of whites towards black Americans, I can't bring myself to ever be intimate with a white or even anyone whose skin shade is more than a shade lighter than my own. One thing for sure, don't care how liberal a white man is at some point, he will say or do something to let you know that he feels superior. Many times, these white men and men of other ethnicities don't have any intentions of having a long-term relationship with the black woman these men are just feeding a sick fetish. Unlike our black American brothers who don't feel they have arrived unless they have a white, Asian or a woman of a color who will give them children so light that these children look nothing like them.
My younger brother got married to a single mom of 3 several years ago. He was concerned about the responsibility at first but he saw what a good woman and good mom she was. Her kids loved him so much. The father has not been in the picture because of past abuse issues. My sister in law is a wonderful woman and I admire my brother for taking that big step. I am proud of him.
I have a stalker 😂😂 I am a single mum, he is a stalker 😂 caught us at the supermarket......i put my sons first over stray men chasing single mums it's the other way around for me!!!!! Not accurate this 💯💯💯
FACTS!! The internet is FOOLING PEOPLE BIG TIME! I get approached by men all the time and they know I have kids. The truth is it was the single mothers who wouldn't allow men into their homes and do many men were upset that women will put their children before a man
It’s all about character. I’ve never had a problem dating as a single mother when I was unmarried. If a guy didn’t want to date me, which has never happened to my knowledge, they weeded themselves out. I also never introduced men to my kids unless I was in a relationship with the man like 6-10 months later. You have to have standards and self esteem. I’ve dated a lot of single men with no kids over the years. It depends on the woman. My husband married me with no kids of his own and I have 4 kids. It depends on the woman.
There are so many stories of single men with custody of their kids, more than likely as a result of a divorce due to his cheating, deciding that being a single parent is too hard, rush to find and marry a single mom with kids to get her to parent his kids so he can cheat again. I know first hand because my dad did it. After divorcing my mom for cheating, he married a single woman to parent us, he got caught cheating, divorced her married a single mom with 4 kids. Eventually, cheated and divorced her, my brother and I went back to our mom. Now that my brother and I are grown he's ppbroing with a single woman again.
You know what is funny about these, there are a lot of men out there that are with single mothers for the main reason that they see them as a woman 1st. There are a whole lot of stories about great men who stepped up to the plate and have successful relationships with a woman who already have children. I know of many. Now, with everything in life, this relationship dynamic comes with choices. I don't understand the dwelling on something that is not for you🤔 If I don't desire to be with a man with children I simply don't look in that direction. What's to be gained from trying to make it known or try to even degrade someone who have given life to another person. What's even funnier, most of y'all parents were "single parents"🤫 Sad reality of the world.
Well said…and sometimes these are the men who are turning these women into single mothers and move on with their lives like nothing happened. The same ones who will tell you that they are ‘babysitting’ their own kids lol
Either they got played by a girl with kids or they just have a hard time with women so they want to make themselves feel more valuable than they actually are…I’m a single mom of 2 and the last thing I’m worried about is being desirable to a dusty male who wouldn’t mean me well either way. They really act like they even treat women with no kids any better.
I commend u sis, but I have to be honest for most women it's not the ideal situation 😕... as a young, single, childless woman I don't feel sorry for myself 🤷🏾♀️
idk, i'm lucky to have found a beautiful, loving blk woman, who matches my energy, i knew shes was a single mother of a toddler, i knew they were a package deal, but i fell in love witht the woman, and her child is awesome, love the childs laughter, smile, and watching him grow into his own personality... but seems like the blk men, and conservative men seem to be the ones who have the biggest issues with single moms, because most men who believe this are insecure with themselves, and they can't love themselves, can't love the woman, and can't see themselves loving a child...
I’m a single mom and haven’t dated in seven years. It doesn’t feel that long actually but raising kids is a 24/7 job. The hardest thing for me is holding everything down financially on my own. Everything is sooo freaking expensive now a days! It would be nice to have someone to help with that oh and taking out the trash and washing the car lol My car hasn’t been washed in a longgg time 😂😂😂 As long as my kids are safe and happy and alive, then I’m happy and I’m sure a lot of single moms feel the same way. Dedicating all your time and Nurturing and molding a human being is honorable and commendable and hard. Eventually God will put a good man in my life when it’s time and I have faith in that.
The girl at 13:37 stating single mother have what they have because the government is always helping us and get child support. Every single mother does not in anyway get government assistance and that’s insane people always want to speak on things they know nothing about
A true, real man , who obviously is born from a woman will realize the value of a single mother. Through expereince he will notice which mom is doing her best to keep it together. Balanced mom, balanced houshold, you can have an equal. mature relationship. If you can keep it between you and him and not introduce him to your kids cause you're not looking for a daddy, you are loking for your companin.
GOD 1ST ❤ALWAYS BECAUSE HE THE ONLY REAL MAN THATS FAITHFUL & LOVE UNCONDITIONAL BETTER THAN WE LOVE OURSELVES🎉PUT GOD 1ST & HE WILL SEND YOU A ( REAL) MAN...AINT NO OPTIONS TO THE ONLY MAN THAT GOD HAS 4YOU..FCK THE REST
Why does everyone feel so entitled to advise single mother like they weren’t being single mothers beforehand and know already. I’m not even a single mother and this shit is getting tiring. Instead of worrying about other single parents and what they do with their life mind ya own. It’s like the blind leading the blind.
Honestly this explains why I was being questioned so hard about not wanting to date a man with kids when I made a dating profile. Personally having never had a single child and being an only child I didn’t feel comfortable possibly having to be a step mom. It just wasn’t for me. Nothing wrong with them having kids but I was not ready for that kind of relationship. I put it in my profile and suddenly these guys would be in my inbox questioning me about why I wouldn’t date them as if I offended them 💀 I didn’t say it rudely.
@@JodiTheIslandGirl Yep definitely and possibly weird I was like just turning 27 and they were 40-46 at that time 💀. Woo was definitely not in the same range of life experience. I thankfully found someone I been with almost 5 years and we have these talks , transparency is definitely helpful in the end. I hope better for single mothers out there it looking rough.
@@SoranovaArt truly ppl should date who they like and not be put in a box. Y should I only date single fathers because I'm a single mom. Date who you like and who likes you. It's that simple
Good! Protect your children at all costs! Most of those strays want unfettered access to your children and an easy way to do that is take advantage of a desperate or horrible parent.
As a single mom, the hypocrisy of this conversation always makes me cackle. These men, want to get rid of no fault divorce, they want to get rid of birth control let alone get rid of what’s left of abortion rights. They also think women don’t like to take accountability of their actions. So if a woman keeps her child now all of sudden she’s less valuable 😂. It’s literally hilarious. I thank God everyday for my children and my personal self confidence.
Lol my gma and gpa told me.be careful when i found myself.single with kids. There are men ( when u dont have nothing with kids) there are men who will still see how your kids clean healthy happy and roof over their heads, loved ,Fed and want to get in and want that same treatment. They born In 1911 loves 90 plus years . They told me warch out. My value never decreased with kids and single. Real single parents dgaf who dont want us . Ladies with kids Watch Out!
Everybody has got an opinion on someone elses life. The third woman who spoke was a little dense. Yes everything about the enotional investment etc is real but im not going to date a man with kids im going to date someone i like and someone who likes me. As a mom i get it but sometimes stop focusing on finding someone but take care of you and yours when you handle your business you attract someone who doesnt feel like they will be burdened by you. Have your own. Simple. Plus watch out for men who date you to get to your kids.
I agree. It shows that she has not come to the conclusion that men will impregnate you and let you down. The thing is when she finally realizes that men are more trouble than they are worth these days. She’ll stop dating you all completely.
If you’re dating me you’re dating me … I’m not looking for a father , they have a wonderful father . You won’t even know my kids . Don’t flatter yourself.
Im a single mum to one, i do not give a toss about dating or being “chosen” by a man. Puh leaseeeew 😂😭 I’m 24, everyone discussing this in these clips are grown sitting here dropping think pieces man I don’t care. Being in a relationship is not the be all and end all 😂
That’s the thing, they assume that all single mothers are looking for a father figure. Some women are coparenting with the child’s father and she only needs a companion.
I’m a lesbian and experience a lot of the same things odd enough. I’d rather be single, free, and pop out when I want. Get yall some toys if you need a lil extra. If you close off access to you altogether, they will become the incels that they are pushing to become
I never had no problems dating when I was a single mother. I even had a long term relationship. My son and my ex got along just fine. There are men that will date, and even marry single mothers, but the pickings are slim. Single mothers have to be careful there are a lot of predators out there, and men looking to take advantage of you. Its extremely important that single mothers not be desperate and put your children first. God will help you to endure without a mate until you find a suitable one..😉
Bachelor's and Bachelorettes ( single people with no kid and not married) give ur energy to who you want versus single people who have kids that live with or not . Focus on u and what you can do than what you cant nor wont do. A real single parent with kids arent checkIng for a man or woman who.do fk with them. Move around becuse single parents dgaf. Fr fr .
@@JodiTheIslandGirl yes one child. She has three from two fathers. My sister also has the kids and. Has had no problem finding men who want to be with her and take care of her.
IF YOU HAD A CHILD OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE YOU DO NOT HAVE STANDARDS YOU COULDN’T EVEN HOLD A STANDARD FOR WHO YOU HAD A CHILD WITH SO NO YOU DON’T HAVE STANDARDS!
Is that fair to say that if the children's father passed away? What if she married or had a long term relationship and the man changed. They do change. Just because she is a single mother doesn't mean she didn't have standards..🙄
@ Never get pregnant till your married like 🤷♀️ be smart with your womb and clearly you can not read I said if you had a child outside of marriage which means a child born to two mates who are not married which means you were not married when the child was born an you shouldn’t even aspire let lone allow yourself to get pregnant until you are What?! MARRIED!!!!!!!! Y’all think y’all smart but if you were really smart you would’ve protected your own womb an if she is a single mother due to the fact that she had an out of wedlock child then yeah she has absolutely no standards because if you cannot hold yourself to a standard of decency, especially when it comes to your own flesh and blood, then you do not have any standards regardless of what you women wanna believe. That’s called delusion. That’s a mental health issue. Go get a psychological evaluation because it sounds like you definitely need one along with English comprehension classes.
Same for single dads. Stay far away from them ladies. The good men don’t lose their family. A woman keeps a man if he’s worth of damn. Stop dating single dads if you don’t have children
Just because she has kids doesn’t mean the days are not involved. It just means that they decided to go their separate ways and maybe coparent all single women are not single MOMS. Let’s get that straight.
Aint no such thing as having standards with multiple baby fathers. If you didnt have the standards for them dont put them on the next man. Too many of these single mothers are out of they minds with this warped sense of entitlement.
@sjtalksandlife thats my whole point you cant make any demands talking about standards after fathering another mans child who you no longer with. You already proved yourself to be non marriage material. Then you expect the next man to pick up the pieces and invest in a product that he didnt create. Thats insane. What would be the return on his investment?
@@postmastersgt1670 I said what I said!..single mothers have no business settling not with her kids, heart, and wellbeing at stake! You dont speak for all men. My sister married a blessed husband as a single mother..been married over 30 years. You seem bitter..🤔🙄
Well he's not a man I would choose anyway... People can have preferences without being hateful. If he wouldn't, that's fine, but don't tell mothers they should take scraps just for a relation
As a single mom, the hypocrisy of this conversation always makes me cackle. These men, want to get rid of no fault divorce, they want to get rid of birth control let alone get rid of what’s left of abortion rights. They also think women don’t like to take accountability of their actions. So if a woman keeps her child now all of sudden she’s less valuable 😂. It’s literally hilarious. I thank God everyday for my children and my personal self confidence.
If you really want to know….single mothers who are actually focused on their kids really don’t give a damn if a dude doesn’t want them. They focused on keeping a peaceful home for their children. Parents should date other parents. Period.
These are the same people sliding down a wall when childfree women only date childfree men!
Yes!
I'm so glad somebody else said that because for some reason men think it's a double standard. We don't want you if you got a bunch of baby mamas either. That goes both ways boo
😂😂😂
TikTok has become a hub for rage bait videos.
I swear🤦🏿♀️
Exactly why I stayed away from TikTok! I saw what it was before this all came about. TikTok is toxic I hope it gets shut down 🤷🏾♀️
Its crazy how men can say things like this about single moms but if a woman says the same about single dad it's wrong
Because the single dad and his kids deserve motherly love from another woman.😂😂😂😂
@@miyangtangwan7046 I understand what you're saying same for a single mom all I'm saying men can say almost anything and it's alright but if a woman says it it's wrong
@@miyangtangwan7046 and a single mothers kids should get fatherly love from another man
As a mom, I’m just not dating . lol like… a lot of men really think like this . I’ve been used by so many losers . I can no longer associate myself with men, people , bugs , anyone who doesn’t have me in their best interest . Whole time , you be doin better than them , how is that lucky ?
🙌. Like why do they think that you want them anyway? It's definitely a double standard because they lose their minds if you say that you want a man with no kids.
Exactly!
"Doing better than them" that part 💯😅
Dating today is a challenge for both single moms and singles alike, with unrealistic expectations, selfish mindsets, and emotional games making it harder to find genuine, lasting connections
Say it again!!
So true, it’s a general thing
But it’s different challenges. Nowhere near the same can’t cannot the conflated. This is something that single mothers say to soothe their ego
Beautifully stated.
I'll be 40 next year and I'm still child free by choice...me and the hubby been together for 14 years and he dont have kids or want kids either..I got blessed to marry a man with no children and im thankful for that because why should a child free woman have to settle for a man with kids?
He’s your soulmate! Wishing you continued happiness in your union
A guy once told me that he won't date single mom's because he doesn't want to break the kids heart...😮
That's a real considerate man.
Oh wow, I’m happy he was honest
Wow, does he have any brothers?
He knew he wasn’t gonna stick around. He did yall a favor.
@@truestkiss3699 Well nobody will pee on you and say it's raining. Respect.
When I was child free I didn’t have this mentality. I dated men with children and didn’t judge them for it. I understand that people have preferences but just keep that to yourself, it’s weird to hear so many men bash single mothers publicly. Just don’t date them, you don’t have to be rude about it and as a single mother myself I would never date anyone because I rather give all my time to my child.
Yep
It appears to me that single moms get all the men. I'm single no kids but my friends with kids get the men. Not only that my man left me for a woman with three kids. 😊
Don’t feel bad because some of them don’t have good intentions. He probably left because she treats him like one of her sons instead of being a MAN!
It's all about the quality of the men.
You dodged a bullet with your ex. Don't worry
Girl my husband left me for a two time baby mother with to dads who wants nothing to do with her. I know exactly why he chose to go there. He gone use her till he can’t use her any more because no man in his right mind would leave a child free woman to go invest in a woman with kids that aren’t his.
@PranaChi369 right! Because childless women NEVER attract (or choose) low quality men..
Ummm you have single Dad's too. Some single women don't want men who have children.
I wonder why tho…logically I think they’d be able to relate to each other the most.
@@JodiTheIslandGirl The man is eager and tired of dealing with his kids. Any woman would look like a free daycare for him.
@@JodiTheIslandGirl I'm single and childless and I dated a guy w/kids before and it's something I'd never do again 😒
Never again! I’m not taking over his portion of childcare! The ex wife tried to warn me to his game and I still learned the hard way.
@@cjdiva6440 I have children & I wouldn't unless the children are older.
Who would elect by choice to come last in their own relationship???? That’s absurd . People with kids need to stop expecting childless folks to just drop their wants and needs for their situation. It’s doesn’t work like that. Once upon a time they were Childress and wanted it all too so miss me with the selfish that doesn’t even exist because Childless people owe no one nothing. Very few single parents know how to actually balance a relationship and be a mother to other men’s children without anyone feeling neglected . I can’t imagine my entire life never being an actual priority to my spouse .. wtf ?? 🤷🏽♀️ I’ll pass
☝️☝️This is why I date men with no baggage.
I was a single mom of 4 children for decades. I did date, but it was just for fun. I didn't bring too many guys around my kids (1 or 2). I also was going to university so I didn't have a lot of time. And, as one lady on this compilation said, I was very aware that there were pedos out there that will date you to get to your kids. I got remarried in my 50s and it's been the best.
Awesomeness‼️ So true because you just never know
So they want to be the one to leave you as a single mother…. Marriage is not on these guys minds either way 9/10.
This ‼️
Riiiight.
Facts ,they just want a body to use
Exactly. They are complaining about single childless women being selfish when they turn around and say they wouldn’t date a single mother. Women can’t win either way.
Basically
My kids are a natural repellent for selfish people. Sometimes you’ll get in a relationship with another person who wants to be your everything and they are jealous of your children.
Exactly…and for me personally, I would never put a man before my child so there’s no competition there.
This
I don’t date people with kids so, that’s their choice. I don’t understand what they gain by trying to SHAME THEMMMM. If you don’t want to date women with kids then JUST DONT. Why do you have to get online telling women how they’re so unwanted. When we all know there’s a single dad created everytime a single mom is created so clearly there’s someone that’s their “equal”. Irritating.
Thank you ‼️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Single mother dv survivor. I was engaged and I didn’t want kids, he did, I wasn’t allowed to be on bc and got pregnant and he never married me after 8 years, the abuse got so bad I wasn’t even allowed to leave my own home or own a key or phone. I was trapped literally. Thankfully I’m free nd NO MAN IS ON MY RADAR!!!!! But trust and believe I get offers on a regular basis regardless of my motherhood status, and the Gag is that it’s usually the white men who are the most endearing to me
That’s for sharing and I’m happy you’re in a good place. It’s all about perspective and knowing people’s true intentions. That vetting process is so important especially if you’re planning to have a man around your kids
@khadijammhmm6673 I travel internationally frequently, mostly meet and find men of other ethnicities interested in me, also. Being over 45 and knowing the history of whites towards black Americans, I can't bring myself to ever be intimate with a white or even anyone whose skin shade is more than a shade lighter than my own. One thing for sure, don't care how liberal a white man is at some point, he will say or do something to let you know that he feels superior. Many times, these white men and men of other ethnicities don't have any intentions of having a long-term relationship with the black woman these men are just feeding a sick fetish. Unlike our black American brothers who don't feel they have arrived unless they have a white, Asian or a woman of a color who will give them children so light that these children look nothing like them.
My younger brother got married to a single mom of 3 several years ago. He was concerned about the responsibility at first but he saw what a good woman and good mom she was. Her kids loved him so much. The father has not been in the picture because of past abuse issues. My sister in law is a wonderful woman and I admire my brother for taking that big step. I am proud of him.
I have a stalker 😂😂
I am a single mum, he is a stalker 😂 caught us at the supermarket......i put my sons first over stray men chasing single mums it's the other way around for me!!!!!
Not accurate this 💯💯💯
I don't take the internet seriously because in reality it's the opposite for me 😂
💯😂 me too
FACTS!! The internet is FOOLING PEOPLE BIG TIME! I get approached by men all the time and they know I have kids. The truth is it was the single mothers who wouldn't allow men into their homes and do many men were upset that women will put their children before a man
Thanks for sharing
I can imagine. These gu¥s tend to be hypcriTes so I’m not surprised. 😅😴
It’s all about character. I’ve never had a problem dating as a single mother when I was unmarried. If a guy didn’t want to date me, which has never happened to my knowledge, they weeded themselves out. I also never introduced men to my kids unless I was in a relationship with the man like 6-10 months later.
You have to have standards and self esteem. I’ve dated a lot of single men with no kids over the years. It depends on the woman. My husband married me with no kids of his own and I have 4 kids. It depends on the woman.
Well said 👏🏾👏🏾
Exactly! There is no shortage of good men for single mothers. This is very true!
Notice who is bashing the single moms the most 👀
Who has the most single moms?…
Men we don't want anyway .. Men that make women single mothers. Men that are raised by single mothers. LOL
There are so many stories of single men with custody of their kids, more than likely as a result of a divorce due to his cheating, deciding that being a single parent is too hard, rush to find and marry a single mom with kids to get her to parent his kids so he can cheat again. I know first hand because my dad did it. After divorcing my mom for cheating, he married a single woman to parent us, he got caught cheating, divorced her married a single mom with 4 kids. Eventually, cheated and divorced her, my brother and I went back to our mom. Now that my brother and I are grown he's ppbroing with a single woman again.
Ooh wow 😳
Whew chile so true!
You know what is funny about these, there are a lot of men out there that are with single mothers for the main reason that they see them as a woman 1st. There are a whole lot of stories about great men who stepped up to the plate and have successful relationships with a woman who already have children. I know of many. Now, with everything in life, this relationship dynamic comes with choices. I don't understand the dwelling on something that is not for you🤔 If I don't desire to be with a man with children I simply don't look in that direction. What's to be gained from trying to make it known or try to even degrade someone who have given life to another person. What's even funnier, most of y'all parents were "single parents"🤫 Sad reality of the world.
Well said…and sometimes these are the men who are turning these women into single mothers and move on with their lives like nothing happened. The same ones who will tell you that they are ‘babysitting’ their own kids lol
Facts!!!
Yet the SAME men create single mothers. 😂
I agree! Leaving so many homes broken..
Y’all getting pregnant by the same men, there’s over 50 percent of men are single and childless…so yo bd got other bm’s…
Either they got played by a girl with kids or they just have a hard time with women so they want to make themselves feel more valuable than they actually are…I’m a single mom of 2 and the last thing I’m worried about is being desirable to a dusty male who wouldn’t mean me well either way.
They really act like they even treat women with no kids any better.
Exactly
I’m glad I’m a single mother. Don’t feel sorry for me, feel sorry yourself.
Say it louder for the people in the back!
We get a chance to turn our children into better adults
I commend u sis, but I have to be honest for most women it's not the ideal situation 😕... as a young, single, childless woman I don't feel sorry for myself 🤷🏾♀️
@@cjdiva6440 uhm…I think she was talking about the men, not childless women
@@goddessenergyhealing8445 I responded based on my own perception 😇
idk, i'm lucky to have found a beautiful, loving blk woman, who matches my energy, i knew shes was a single mother of a toddler, i knew they were a package deal, but i fell in love witht the woman, and her child is awesome, love the childs laughter, smile, and watching him grow into his own personality... but seems like the blk men, and conservative men seem to be the ones who have the biggest issues with single moms, because most men who believe this are insecure with themselves, and they can't love themselves, can't love the woman, and can't see themselves loving a child...
Its probably easier if the child is a toddler..that's great!
I’m a single mom and haven’t dated in seven years. It doesn’t feel that long actually but raising kids is a 24/7 job. The hardest thing for me is holding everything down financially on my own. Everything is sooo freaking expensive now a days! It would be nice to have someone to help with that oh and taking out the trash and washing the car lol My car hasn’t been washed in a longgg time 😂😂😂 As long as my kids are safe and happy and alive, then I’m happy and I’m sure a lot of single moms feel the same way. Dedicating all your time and Nurturing and molding a human being is honorable and commendable and hard. Eventually God will put a good man in my life when it’s time and I have faith in that.
The girl at 13:37 stating single mother have what they have because the government is always helping us and get child support. Every single mother does not in anyway get government assistance and that’s insane people always want to speak on things they know nothing about
A true, real man , who obviously is born from a woman will realize the value of a single mother. Through expereince he will notice which mom is doing her best to keep it together. Balanced mom, balanced houshold, you can have an equal. mature relationship. If you can keep it between you and him and not introduce him to your kids cause you're not looking for a daddy, you are loking for your companin.
Why do all these men think the children of single mums dont have fathers? They just live in a different house
GOD 1ST ❤ALWAYS BECAUSE HE THE ONLY REAL MAN THATS FAITHFUL & LOVE UNCONDITIONAL BETTER THAN WE LOVE OURSELVES🎉PUT GOD 1ST & HE WILL SEND YOU A ( REAL) MAN...AINT NO OPTIONS TO THE ONLY MAN THAT GOD HAS 4YOU..FCK THE REST
DAM A ZERO❤ GOD WILL GIVE YOU A HERO🎉 ITS ABOUT QUALITY NOT QUANITY🎉
Amen 🙏🏾
Why does everyone feel so entitled to advise single mother like they weren’t being single mothers beforehand and know already. I’m not even a single mother and this shit is getting tiring. Instead of worrying about other single parents and what they do with their life mind ya own. It’s like the blind leading the blind.
They hateing on the kids n wanna be 1st..but is yal gone put us 1st OVER EVERYTHING YAL LOVE N MAKE US 1ST???
No they won’t!
Jodi girl we should collab :) Love to see another Jamaican in this space 🤗
Awesomeness! Hit me up Sis 🖤💚💛
Ooh 🙌🏾
Honestly this explains why I was being questioned so hard about not wanting to date a man with kids when I made a dating profile. Personally having never had a single child and being an only child I didn’t feel comfortable possibly having to be a step mom. It just wasn’t for me. Nothing wrong with them having kids but I was not ready for that kind of relationship.
I put it in my profile and suddenly these guys would be in my inbox questioning me about why I wouldn’t date them as if I offended them 💀 I didn’t say it rudely.
Clearly they are offended but I applaud you for your transparency
Not offensive but smart
@@JodiTheIslandGirl Yep definitely and possibly weird I was like just turning 27 and they were 40-46 at that time 💀. Woo was definitely not in the same range of life experience. I thankfully found someone I been with almost 5 years and we have these talks , transparency is definitely helpful in the end. I hope better for single mothers out there it looking rough.
@@mellh6102 Truly 💖😩
@@SoranovaArt truly ppl should date who they like and not be put in a box. Y should I only date single fathers because I'm a single mom. Date who you like and who likes you. It's that simple
Myn just want women to be free to be used by them… it’s really sad
Not all have good intentions for us 🥲
No one wants to date a single mom who is amazing at it. Because she has no time for drama. Only fun and peaceful times.
Good! Protect your children at all costs! Most of those strays want unfettered access to your children and an easy way to do that is take advantage of a desperate or horrible parent.
We agree!
As a single mom, the hypocrisy of this conversation always makes me cackle. These men, want to get rid of no fault divorce, they want to get rid of birth control let alone get rid of what’s left of abortion rights. They also think women don’t like to take accountability of their actions. So if a woman keeps her child now all of sudden she’s less valuable 😂. It’s literally hilarious. I thank God everyday for my children and my personal self confidence.
Prov 18:12 befor distruction the heart of man is haughty, and befor honor is humility.
That's MY GUY @3:46 minutes dropping facts!!!
Lol my gma and gpa told me.be careful when i found myself.single with kids. There are men ( when u dont have nothing with kids) there are men who will still see how your kids clean healthy happy and roof over their heads, loved ,Fed and want to get in and want that same treatment. They born In 1911 loves 90 plus years . They told me warch out. My value never decreased with kids and single. Real single parents dgaf who dont want us . Ladies with kids Watch Out!
They are so right…some men are looking for a mother and a home
Everybody has got an opinion on someone elses life. The third woman who spoke was a little dense. Yes everything about the enotional investment etc is real but im not going to date a man with kids im going to date someone i like and someone who likes me. As a mom i get it but sometimes stop focusing on finding someone but take care of you and yours when you handle your business you attract someone who doesnt feel like they will be burdened by you. Have your own. Simple. Plus watch out for men who date you to get to your kids.
If shes child free why can't things be about her? When you are child-free, that's why you are because you want things to be about you. 🤷🏾♀️
Do they not make birth control anymore? Just saying.
I don’t have kids but guys thinks it’s weird like their is something wrong w me, and it blows my mind how so many girls w kids do find new partners
Tbh i wouldn't want a woman if they have kids by multiple men that's a red flag to me so this is particularly true but not in all cases
@MrKavonne As a child-free woman, I 🏃🏾♀️➡️ from men who have children. You see, the feeling is mutual, BRUH!!!😂
Definitely depends on the circumstances but I see your point
@@liesdamnliesandstatsweird1934 As you should I don't condone that on either side
I agree. It shows that she has not come to the conclusion that men will impregnate you and let you down. The thing is when she finally realizes that men are more trouble than they are worth these days. She’ll stop dating you all completely.
This is what they tell women because they really want Men. I was a single mother and got married a few times … please
Look parents date parents and singles date singles done or be like the lions they just kill the kids😂😂😂😂😂😂
I wonder how many of them have single moms and they got dates? Also how many of them got remarried?
If you’re dating me you’re dating me … I’m not looking for a father , they have a wonderful father . You won’t even know my kids . Don’t flatter yourself.
When having kids, you need a good CHARACTER man, if you only chase money but no morals, you will set your kids up to be victims.
This‼️ move with intentions
Oh man.....let's go😅
Yasss 😆👏🏾
I know a man who married a woman with 4 kids..
Rare but I hope they’re happy
Low value man
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Bih I'ma stay single and be lonely, it's ok, they're not worth it.
Chile, its women physically laying right next to bums every night thats lonely.
They right one will find you. Until continue to protect your peace 😉
2:35… ‘MULTIPLE children’ but then he said >1< …2, 3.… huh? 🤔 😂😴
lol 😂
Im a single mum to one, i do not give a toss about dating or being “chosen” by a man. Puh leaseeeew 😂😭 I’m 24, everyone discussing this in these clips are grown sitting here dropping think pieces man I don’t care. Being in a relationship is not the be all and end all 😂
They don't want no responsibility 🙄 if not there kids
That’s the thing, they assume that all single mothers are looking for a father figure. Some women are coparenting with the child’s father and she only needs a companion.
@@JodiTheIslandGirlsounds good…😂😂
Shit they don’t want the responsibility with their own children lol
I’m a lesbian and experience a lot of the same things odd enough. I’d rather be single, free, and pop out when I want. Get yall some toys if you need a lil extra. If you close off access to you altogether, they will become the incels that they are pushing to become
Protect your peace until the right one comes along 👏🏾👏🏾
I wish people would stop generalizing single mothers. There are a multitude of reasons that single moms are single.
I never had no problems dating when I was a single mother. I even had a long term relationship. My son and my ex got along just fine. There are men that will date, and even marry single mothers, but the pickings are slim. Single mothers have to be careful there are a lot of predators out there, and men looking to take advantage of you. Its extremely important that single mothers not be desperate and put your children first. God will help you to endure without a mate until you find a suitable one..😉
Bachelor's and Bachelorettes ( single people with no kid and not married) give ur energy to who you want versus single people who have kids that live with or not . Focus on u and what you can do than what you cant nor wont do. A real single parent with kids arent checkIng for a man or woman who.do fk with them. Move around becuse single parents dgaf. Fr fr .
I endorse this message 👏🏾
That’s funny because my husband’s ex has THREE kids and met someone who stole her from her husband and married her.
Oh wow…does the new husband have kids of his own?
@@JodiTheIslandGirl yes one child. She has three from two fathers. My sister also has the kids and. Has had no problem finding men who want to be with her and take care of her.
IF YOU HAD A CHILD OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE
YOU DO NOT HAVE STANDARDS
YOU COULDN’T EVEN HOLD A STANDARD FOR WHO YOU HAD A CHILD WITH SO NO YOU DON’T HAVE STANDARDS!
Is that fair to say that if the children's father passed away? What if she married or had a long term relationship and the man changed. They do change. Just because she is a single mother doesn't mean she didn't have standards..🙄
@ Never get pregnant till your married like 🤷♀️ be smart with your womb and clearly you can not read
I said if you had a child outside of marriage which means a child born to two mates who are not married which means you were not married when the child was born an you shouldn’t even aspire let lone allow yourself to get pregnant until you are What?! MARRIED!!!!!!!! Y’all think y’all smart but if you were really smart you would’ve protected your own womb an if she is a single mother due to the fact that she had an out of wedlock child then yeah she has absolutely no standards because if you cannot hold yourself to a standard of decency, especially when it comes to your own flesh and blood, then you do not have any standards regardless of what you women wanna believe. That’s called delusion. That’s a mental health issue. Go get a psychological evaluation because it sounds like you definitely need one along with English comprehension classes.
Get you a country backwoods man you’ll be ok ❤😊
Let me write this down 😅
Same for single dads. Stay far away from them ladies. The good men don’t lose their family. A woman keeps a man if he’s worth of damn. Stop dating single dads if you don’t have children
The blond hair lady sounds drunk
Is that Tyrese ex wife!? Chile 🙄
Really?!
@@JodiTheIslandGirl yup that’s her. I knew that face. She’s a mess.
Everyone has kids
Just because she has kids doesn’t mean the days are not involved. It just means that they decided to go their separate ways and maybe coparent all single women are not single MOMS. Let’s get that straight.
Great perspective 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Wow, she was only thinking about herself and couldn’t had it at the end lol those true colors spilled out. Wouldn’t hire her
Aint no such thing as having standards with multiple baby fathers. If you didnt have the standards for them dont put them on the next man. Too many of these single mothers are out of they minds with this warped sense of entitlement.
Single mothers should have standards especially if she is desiring a marriage mate. This man will be around her children..🙄
@sjtalksandlife thats my whole point you cant make any demands talking about standards after fathering another mans child who you no longer with. You already proved yourself to be non marriage material. Then you expect the next man to pick up the pieces and invest in a product that he didnt create. Thats insane. What would be the return on his investment?
@@postmastersgt1670 I said what I said!..single mothers have no business settling not with her kids, heart, and wellbeing at stake! You dont speak for all men. My sister married a blessed husband as a single mother..been married over 30 years. You seem bitter..🤔🙄
Do women act like this towards single fathers🤔
What about single dads who ex wife bm is so terrible
18:12 character development or virtue signaling?
Well he's not a man I would choose anyway... People can have preferences without being hateful. If he wouldn't, that's fine, but don't tell mothers they should take scraps just for a relation
As long as I can tell a man that he doesn't quaify as a role model for my sons and can't teach them anything I consider of value.
As a single mom, the hypocrisy of this conversation always makes me cackle. These men, want to get rid of no fault divorce, they want to get rid of birth control let alone get rid of what’s left of abortion rights. They also think women don’t like to take accountability of their actions. So if a woman keeps her child now all of sudden she’s less valuable 😂. It’s literally hilarious. I thank God everyday for my children and my personal self confidence.
Myn just want women to be free to be used by them… it’s really sad