THIS EMOTIONAL LIFE | Asperger's Syndrome / Loneliness | PBS - Understanding Aspergers in Adults
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Original Video Coping With Aspergers In Adults - Mirrored - Originally uploaded by PBS On Nov 4, 2009
The best advice I've ever heard is to see people as actors in a movie. In that way you see a bigger picture of the social scene and engage in at arms length with others.
There is a few people on here don't exactly know why one of the big reasons people with Asperger could like to gravitate towards video games. I believe one of the reasons are as follows.
1. Like everyone else (fun)
2. It could be an escape. A lot of people treat people with asperger like crap (even as an adult).
3. You can predict what people want. (People in the real world are cryptic)
4. "Friends". While just about everyone knows games can't replace real people. It's better than no one, and some games are better suited to simulate something. (Sims, Animal Crossing, ETC.)
I'm 26 years old with a NASA background. I have asperger, ADD, SDPD, and several other things. I recently been tested by the state (to get their help in getting a job), and they even said I clearly have somethings that they don't even have a word for. I had limited friends in high school, and I might had 1 or 2 at times in college. Now since everyone has been "fired" since they cancel the man space flight side of NASA, I've been out of work for 3 years now. I have 0 friends since I moved in with my family. I noticed I would try to dream or play games more when I am lonely.
If you see your family member, friend, etc playing games and they have asperger's. Then ask to play with them. I think most people would love to let a select trusted few in their world.
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so right you are so intelligent bro. And maybe for you and me its not to hard, or a weak people have aspergers like so lonely. just trying meet all people many possible. God never make anyone haven't a friend, im asperger and many people hate me but i don"t care just always being your self and always being honest. yeah i know not all asperger can"t easily do this but its world many people are kind and so friendly. just maybe they can't reading our mind its not mean they rude too us. asperger must trying to explain what asperger syndrome is. i love playing game a lot but now i am so be grateful born in this world, i just want you all have asperger to not being evil and so paranoid. life is easy and don't make it hard. :)
I just wanta say hang in there man, I too struggling. Just hang in. Time isn't fixed to a post. All things come to pass.
started watching this, forgot that it was only 4min long, thought it was a full documentary, became sad when it ended abrutly.
Our parents and family absolutely do not have to love us. Some families shun or disown those with Asperger's and consider them an embarrassment or burden. My family often scolded and punished me for being "different". The pressure to be "normal" by my family often left me feeling hopeless and wishing I never existed. This in combination with being exiled from society has definitely made it difficult to cope.
+Not A Sheep Well. You're not alone. My coping was to stop giving a shit, but unfortunately, not everyone is able to do that.
Blanca Lobo You are a beautiful, unique person. Why would you not want to exist, just because of some low-functioning neurotypicals who obviously lack the ability to love anyone? They're the ones with the real problem, not you. There's nothing wrong with being your own unique individual self!
I was born when my mother was 15. 1st thing they did was drive away my father, so I'd make up stories. At 3 she got married. I wasn't the flower girl and I was spanked for trying to be in the pictures. She got me registered for kindergarten and had my 1st brother. Then abandoned me at my grandparents house. They adopted me. She didn't even bother coming to court. My bio-father I found a few years ago said he did but I wouldn't have known what he looked like. Apparently they called me klutzy so much I began to introduce myself as Klutzy. So they had to stop. I grew up in bars. Mostly the VFW, where I would play the jukebox and spin forever on the dancefloor. My mom had one of those spring loaded wooden spoons attached to her arm and they weren't above a good public shaming. They tell me I had leg braces at one time but I don't remember and I've found no pictures. My ankles still don't line up so they didn't work. They also say I wasn't shy. I don't remember that either. Too loud yes. Talk too fast, yup. Mispronounce some words but I knew others no one else did because I was being raised by The Greatest Generation even though I was Gen-X and proud of it. Horribly teased and no idea why. Still don't get some of the things my mom would say. I mean what's the point of having cake if you can't eat it? Throwing the baby out with the bathbathwate I think I've finally got a handle on. Whoever invented Rockabye baby was insane. I loved raising my kids and was heart broken when they grew up because they had been my life for 25 years. Love my granddaughter but I don't get to see her as much as I'd like. My parents babysat. They may have been alcoholics when I was growing up but by then they were too old and on too much medication. The kids loved it! They actually got my mom to believe I wasn't feeding them at one point! Smh.... My dad was always wonderful. I was a tomboy and I think he loved that about me. We were quite close. I have more useless information in my brain than I know what to do with but I also have a jack of all trades thing going on. The daughter I'm with now became a grown up in the worst possible sense. Her planning works! Mine falls to pieces and becomes a complete disaster. Funny, no one had a problem with what I did when it benefited them. My other daughter gets mad at my language. I sometimes need a translator to understand her! I can't do PC and I talk the way I did growing up. PC causes more problems every day. We are ALL American if you were born here!!!! You ever try describing someone without using color? I did one day just to see what would happen. No one knew who I was talking about and she was a very sweet and popular girl at work. I never see that I see your actions. Those tell me everything I need to know. Sometimes I get truly uncomfortable. I cold be in my own home and I just have to get out. Anywhere but where I am. I hate the way I look and I hate getting complements. Not that I want to be told there's something wrong with me exactly. Weird, odd, unusual, different, interesting, bizarre those are good. I know physically I'm a bit broken. It's not my fault my body went into open rebellion! I certainly don't appreciate it. I do expect some understanding though. Especially from my family which I don't get. They're supposed to be my support system after I got out of the hospital for attempted suicide but they're not. They're angry. Everyone around me is so very angry. Now everyone older than me is dead. That was crushing to me and no one understood. I just couldn't handle it all. Nothing ever changes. I wasted my money helping out my friends that have all disappeared. I got scammed selling my home. My kid put my walker in my storage unit along with most of my clothes. Now I am a nomad. I have no address and no home to call my own. At the beginning of this century I had a Mercedes. Now I have a walker. Lol!!!! I have degrees, certificates, been certified but none of that matters when you haven't worked in 10 years I tell my kid. Too many people are looking for jobs right now. They don't need me. Why would they? Yes, I ramble. I collect books, and Doctor Who stuff. There used to be other things by my kids found them growing up and thought they were cool and so they are no more. I'd get so mad because it was always my things they ruined and never my husbands. Then my son, my eldest tells me recently that it was because I has cool stuff and he didn't. So now you're being complemented for having the things that were destroyed. How do you react to that? They definitely keep you guessing. I took a couple of tests and tested high. They also said I was cold as a person though. I never thought that. I did quit responding to my name in high school but there were so many Jennifer's in the 80's! I had 11 in one class alone. I mean fuck it! I never gave my kids popular names because of that.
i know when i heard them say that i was like wtf clearly somebody grew up in a good household
I am an Aspie (50 years old and recently diagnosed). I do not share the observation that Aspies cannot read emotions in other people. At least I can. The problem is that Aspies are thoroughly egocentric (not egiostic!). I don't think about other people very often. They sort of automatically come way, way in the back of my mind. That is the problem with Aspergers and friendships or relations, not that we cannot read emotions. I want to get people in the forefront of my attention and that is unique to Aspergers. I desperately want it, but I can't. It just will not sink into my mind do actually do it. This may sound strange to "normal" people, but it is the way it works.
+captain_ahab An introvert is a "normal" person not liking contacts. An Asperger has many more "deficiencies" (and traits too!) to deal with. It can be different for every Aspie, but it has some pattern in it, otherwise it would not be a syndrome. Examples may be; high sensitivity to drugs/alcohol, high susceptibility for addiction of any kind (also computer), sensitory problems, allergies, emotional outbursts, very high ability to focus, high IQ, low EQ, thinking black and white, forgetting the grey zones, interest in physics in contrast to social studies, etc.The difference between an introvert and an aspie cannot be seen in one person. It is the group Aspergers that have some things in common, hence a syndrome. Introverts have between themselves nothing else in common than that they are introvert, hence, no syndrome, no Asperger.
Egocentric and not egoistic, I like that Ronald. One of my traits is possessing a high, very high threshold for physical discomfort and probably emotional pain as well. I agree we can read varied emotions probably better than most, but emotions are a vast complex thing de Rooji, maybe the most intricate of all human/cosmic aspects. So what then do we pick up from others besides their chatty ego wrapped personas? Possibly the lonely wonder world that lies between the rising fog lifting a cool quiet river morning and ~~ the poet's ink ~~
The premise is wrong... Alexathymia is the condition which makes reading emotions hard, but it's a common comorbid disorder for aspergers. Guess what many aspies are hyper-empathetic!
I can relate to the part of wanting to go off and do your own thing. And the reading of emotions.
Aspergers didn't become well known until 1994, i was diagnosed ADD circa 1992 and was taught to mask symptoms. It all makes sense now.
The speaker guy said that family has to love us but other people don't. That partially explains why I have a feeling or desire for others at my work place and people who I know to like me just as intimately as family or close friends do. I forget that neural typical people have to "warm up" to a relationship, even if it's just a friendly one. How to get them to warm up .. I have no idea.
Wow, can't believe it, I just cannot believe it. I was diagnosed with Asperger's in the past couple years, and I'm only 40. But what really floors me the most is that I DO practically look, sound, act, and talk just like the kid in the videoclip here. (Could very well easily pass off as my twin brother, although he's 10 years younger than me--seriously, NOT A JOKE HERE.) I cannot help but feel sorry for him, even though his experience echoes that of my own. (Again, NOT A JOKE HERE).
My brother too has Aspergers. Doesn't socialize, has 2 friends, doesnt go out, bad hygeine and doesnt care what anybody thinks. Always negative or in bad mood. His psychologist told him to get a full time job! My brother is 19 & smart. I think she should have told him to go to school. He's always on the computer 24/7. His life is that computer&game consoles! What can we do to get him out of the room/house!?? Please Help.
Sounds jus like my bro!! Wow. He has aspergers too. My whole family has it!! But we re all a bit different. With me, i dont know anything until u tell me!! Then i will make effort to make things better. My bro, u described him to a T. Poor hygiene, doesnt care about anyone but himself. Got bullied in school and crazy smart especially with computers
Reading lots of fiction n literature about classic novels helped me understand relationships of all kinda and emotions includibg my own .
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s at 17 and I also have cerebral palsy
I cried the whole video...
I have a question for Internationalgamer1, Are you still in the gaming only phase? OR you've gone out and tried to socialize? My brother scared me with a comment he made one time, and since ive been trying to get him out of the room! What do you recommend we do to get him out of the house and spend time with family or friends?
I feal to many of people's emotions before they talk but I don't no what pressure I put on myself
Thank God I haven't got aspergers syndrome.
I feel really really sorry for people which they have aspergers syndrome. It's not much fun of people with asperger's syndrome making relationships extremely difficult which it makes life a living hell for them. Jason is finding it extremly hard to make friends and girlfriends that's why it made his life living hell which is a worry. Jason got targeted by bullies he was at school which it doesn't sound good. I definitely pray the lord.
I thought I was watching a Prudential commercial for a second there, lol
"Chronic loneliness" will make you crazy and psychotic, not the Aspergers. Look at all those teen mass murderers. I get it.
how can an undiagnosed young adult get help?
god the way that family is talking kills me!
My 14 year old brother has aspergers and he just sits in his room all day, playing video games and constantly talking to himself. For some strange reason he decided to change his accent to an Australian one about a year ago and he sounds like a retarded British weirdo. I've tried everything thing I can being the "cooler" older brother and all, but his stubborness is impenetrable. I just hope he grows out of it
I wonder if that guy that studies loneliness, ever studied people in the prison population in the USA? 🤔
He'd definitely be appalled. 😳
ya, not an unusual case
help me
Jason......most of this is your family. OMG......talk about lack of support!!
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My husband has this, and I'm about to divorce him.
Jazeraca gr8 b8 m8
+Matthew Slater OMG I had completely forgotten about this comment. I'm a bit ashamed that I posted this, here of all places. I was suffering from severe post-partum depression and wasn't thinking clearly, so I apologize, because I can see how this comment would have come across as very insensitive.
For the record, we're still married. We have difficulties, but we still love each other.
+Jazeraca Thank you for the apology Jazerace. I personally accept it. And I hope you were able to get the care you needed for the depression? BTW... how is your marriage now? (If you don't mind me asking.)
Poetri Duyoeng still a bit rocky, but we love each other. The biggest problem is miscommunication and seeing things through each other's eyes.
ever hear of an introvert? 30% of the world is labeled as such. They "recharge our batteries" by being alone. Extroverts recharge by being with other people. I find that healthier being an introvert than having to depend on other people. Just live and let live. If one is lonely they should do something about it but there are many people who live isolated happy lives. i.e. Albert Einstein. gtfo.
***** you serious? lol. introvert: A term introduced by the psychologist Carl Jung to describe a person whose motives and actions are directed inward. Introverts tend to be preoccupied with their own thoughts and feelings and minimize their contact with other people. (Compare extrovert.)
imagine we all have battery packs. introverts power their battery by being alone and extraverts power it by being with people. *both introverts and extraverts can have aspergers/autism.*
+captain_ahab Dude do You even know what asperges is?
Yeah some social symptoms, but asperger syndrome also defines other symptoms. Some examples: their way of thinking, obsessions, understanding emotions and imagination, etc..
Well they don't fully understand sarcasm, they live in their own world (isolating themselfs), seeking for patterns in their daily lifes and the need for structure. Also they have problems with showing empathy and their facial expressions.
They also experience emotions in a different way compared to neurotypical people.
Maybe it would be a good idea then to take a real test with real doctors. It is possible that you have aspergers, but only proffesionals can diagnose you.
People who have asperger syndrome or high-functioning-autisme or mild autism can adapt their way of thinking to fit their enviromment.
Maybe it would be a good idea to read some articles about autism and ask your parents how you were when you were really young. Because most doctors focus on the early childhood yearsof someone to diagnose somebody.